#RigidThinking

[lostconsultants]

Breaking Free from Rigidity: How Insecurity Leads to Rigid Thinking and Limits Progress

Is your team stuck following rules, or are you actually delivering value? Confidence in your skills is the difference between real progress and just checking boxes. It's time to break free from rigid thinking—are you ready to challenge the status quo?

From my experience, I’ve seen how frameworks can be both a blessing and a curse. They provide valuable structure but can easily become crutches. When I’ve worked with people who lacked the confidence or skills to adapt these systems to real-world challenges, I noticed they often clung to them rigidly. In my work across product management, UX, engineering, and agile software development—including…

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[thisbrownteacher]

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[astramthetaprime]

No One Here But Us Chickens

This week on “OMG that’s a Thing?!”

I learned about rigid thinking this week.   

I’ve been going to science-fiction conventions since I was 16 years old.  My first convention was ChattaCon 11, a small town con of excellent repute in those days.  The first time I walked into the consuite I saw a guy dressed as Nightcrawler from the X-Men, leaping across the room.  I’d been reading the X-Men for five years at that point, and to see Nightcrawler come to life right there in front of me almost broke my brain with joy.  I realized in that moment I wasn’t alone, that here were my people, my culture.  And it’s been that way ever since.

Over the years, though, I developed a definite irrational rage about what went on after the dealers had shut down for the night and everyone migrated to the consuite.  Where everyone would be drinking.  A lot of people came to the con only for that aspect.  But I got (and to this day still do get) absolutely enraged at the whole thing.  Irrationally so.  Even at my own dearest friends, people who were all but family to me at the time.  It wasn’t just at cons either.  I cannot stand being around drunk people.  

But I never knew where this came from.  There’s nothing in my past to produce this.  No alcoholism in my family.  Literally no reason I should be this way.  

I don’t and have never drunk alcohol myself because of this.  Nor done any other recreational substances.  I love my Diet Coke with a passion surpassing a thousand suns, but the thought of drinking alcohol just ... no.  To the extent that when I took my jukai vows as a Buddhist, the easiest thing in the world to promise was that I would refrain from intoxicants.  Because I already do.  The thought repels me.  

Now I know why.  

It’s against the rules.  Watching other people breaking rules and the mere suggestion that I myself break them infuriates me.  Because suddenly everything changes around me, people I love become untrustworthy and dangerous, and I can’t handle it.  The distress, the anxiety, are very very real.  

(Mind you, I’m well aware there are no “rules” and no one has made any.  But I never said this was rational.  The human mind is not rational, anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you a philosophy doctorate cheap.)

If I ever needed any more proof that what I already have that I’m Autistic, this is it.  I can’t change this, I’ve tried, I’ve tried so many times to convince myself intellectually that this reaction isn’t valid or based on any real reason.  But it’s never worked.  Usually I just leave at that point, go up to my room if I’m staying at the con, get a pizza or some food, and read whatever I bought that day in the dealer’s room.  Alone.  

I’m the same way about other relatively harmless recreational substances.  

I also have trouble switching tasks, dealing with interruptions, and black-and-white thinking.  So yeah.  We’ll just put a big fat green checkmark on that one, shall we?  

Now I’m just... all these years I spent furious at people I had no business being furious at.  All these years not being “normal”.  Never knowing what was “wrong” with me.  Now I know I’m just wired this way.  I’m not “wrong” or “broken” or what have you.  This is just... the way I am.  

I don’t feel any better, knowing what it is.  I just feel more alone.  

[mentalheal-th]

We can get so rigid in our thinking. We use words like "always," "never," "everything," "nothing," and "forever"...⠀ ⠀ "It never works out!"⠀ "This always happens to me."⠀ "I'm always going to feel this way."⠀ ⠀ Sound familiar? It's called black and white thinking, and it's a really common trick our brain plays. At All Mental Health, we're working on challenging those negative thoughts so we can start feeling better and more in control. ☝️link in bio⠀ ⠀ posted on Instagram - https://ift.tt/2OK0gQW

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perfectionist vs high achiever (grateful for letting go) - Day 82

Are you a perfectionist or a high achiever. Are you driven by rules that you won't break or do you put rules in place and then bend when you see that they are not working for you? today I am grateful for high achiever (vs perfectionist) When I started Gratitude Bridge, my life was so destroyed, that I needed to put a change in place, that was quite rigid, and I had a bunch of rules around Gratitude Bridge. Every thumbnail that I did for the first two weeks was done from the same location. I made sure that I was up before every sunrise so that I could capture the sunrise. I made sure that every day I wrote a story and I did a video on it. I had all these different rules and perfectionism in place that by the end of the first month of this project. I was in a better place in some respects, but a lot worse of because I couldn't maintain the perfectionist attitude I'd put in place. Today I have been able to let go of a lot of the rules that I've put in place around Gratitude Bridge. I don't always do a sunrise. I definitely don't take photos from the same location every day. I don't always do a story. Last night was another example of something I had to let go, one of the rules I had in place was that a video would get released on the day, every day for 365 days. Last night the video didn't get published until about 16 minutes after midnight. I had had some issues with the internet, but to be honest, I also left the video to the last minute. So today, I keep doing Gratitude Bridge because I learn every day in doing this project. I am a high achiever, I let go of the perfectionist in me and just be grateful for the project that I'm doing. today, I'm grateful being a high achiever What are you grateful for? Please share in the comments and click the subscribe button to hear daily gratitude. Be grateful and share this with your friends. ------------------------------------------------------------ ツ  CONNECT WITH ME  ツ Leave a comment on this video and it'll get a response. Or you can connect with me on different social platforms too: • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCY_sGXuXqYuoNOUBkArugAA?sub_confirmation=1 • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gratitudebridge/ • Twitter: https://twitter.com/liifetourist • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gratitudebridge • Website: http://gratitudebridge.com • Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com.au/wholoves/gratitude ------------------------------------------------------------ Thank you for watching - I really appreciate it :) Cheers, David #gratitudejournal #perfectionist #highachiever #perfectionismanddepression #rigidthinking #healingemotionalpain #helpsomeonewithdepression #selflove #selfimprovement #howtobuildselflove #selflovetips #selflovehabits #mentalhealthstigma #mensmentalhealth #mendepression #talkingaboutmentalhealth #gratitude #gratitudebridge