#Queer community

[genderqueerdykes]

calling butches "chivalrous knights" and saying that we're literally just here to "protect our femmes" is reinforcing the "masculine partner must be strong and feminine partner must be weak" dichotomy.

implying that butch is synonymous with strap ons regardless of how an individual butch feels is reinforcing the idea that masc people need to have penises in order to be seen as masc.

saying that butches "take control in the bedroom" and are "dominant" partners is reinforcing that masc people can't ever be submissive, and that fem people can't ever be dominant.

associating butchhood with ONLY sexual traits is reinforcing the notion that masc people are only here to be sexual beings, and that there's nothing to us outside of our sexuality.

implying that all butches are attracted to femmes and all femmes are attracted to butches is reinforcing that relationships, regardless of orientation, have to fit into a feminine + masculine partner dichotomy.

you can't invent a Cishet 2 binary and slap a rainbow coat of paint on it and call it progressive. this behavior isn't progressive or subversive because it's being applied to a community that's perceived to be mostly women. this shit is NOT flattering to butches AT ALL. this is literally how we force cishet people to think about cishet men. some of us are disabled. some of us enjoy femininity. some of us are asexual. some of us are submissive. some of us aren't attracted to femmes at all. stop fucking calling us "chivalrous knights" it's so fucking dehumanizing- what about the butches who need protecting?

if you seriously believe that "masc partner is inherently the strong protector and fem partner is inherently defenseless and weak and needs saving" is somehow magically progressive just because it's being applied to lesbians:

it ain't.

[floralgraveyard]

the connections the Oz universe has to the queer community will never be matched. "are they a friend of dorothy?" has always been a discreet way to ask if someone's queer. and now Wicked has come out and everyone's shipping gelphie and loving it. I love Oz. it's the gayest fictional world ever.

[abearinthewoods]

One transmasc to another, please reflect on how your actions may cause actual harm to transfems.

A joke made in anger that is entirely unactionable does not warrant tattling to the organizations that are currently trying to strip all of us of our rights, and are looking for any reason to villainize our transfem comrades.

What’s been done cannot be undone, but please for all of our sakes remember that we’re all under the same boot, and licking said boot won’t make it any less likely to crush you too.

It’s our responsibility to take care of each other, learn from each other, and to look long and hard in the mirror when someone says your words and actions are harmful.

Solidarity. Solidarity. Solidarity.

(Most of this is answered here: https://www.tumblr.com/abearinthewoods/770794163004407808/okay-i-dont-know-a-lot-about-the-situation-but-i?source=share)

I need everybody to understand one uncomfortable but super important truth.

Class solidarity means an end to the oppression olympics.

You should never be looking in your neighbor's bowl to see if they have more than you, only to see if they have enough.

Like lets take a step back for a quick moment and recap whats going on here. She made jokes about killing one of the most unsupported and invisible members of the LGBTQ community, because why?

Like no, lets actually address that.

Trans men want to use terms like trans misandry and trans androphobia to talk about their oppression, not terms like trans misogyny and trans emasculation. and for this they got bomb and death threats from other people in the trans community?!?!?!?!?!?

Because trans men want to use words centered around their their hatchling gender, not their egg gender, to describe their oppression, because they don't want to center their discussions about their issues around some axis of women as the most oppressed, they got hit with a massively outsized amount of hate from (a tiny collection of, lets be very fucking clear here.) mostly trans fems who drunk a little too much of radfem's cis-male hate that they decided to transpose onto trans men. All escalating to bomb threats which my inbox is now also full of.

This is your brain on oppression olympics.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is the threat to class solidarity.

This is exactly what they want. For us to be fighting over who has it worse. I don't give a fuck who has it better or who has it worse, and i sure as fuck don't care about any narratives that center this question around one's identity or demographics as some kind of universal truths that overrides individually.

Even when I do bring up ways in which cis or trans men have it worse, or ways in which women commit crimes more than men, I try to focus it on purely countering the opposite narrative, to make sure I am only pushing the pendulum back towards the center, nothing more.

No experience is universal and arguments about stats and oppression and privilege tend to paper over peoples individuality.

Solitary means respecting how we are different. How that changes how we all experience the world. You can't tell a trans man you have it worse than him without disrespecting this because you can not know his life, what he went thru, how his brain's chemistry makes minor changes to how he sees or deals with adversity that build up over time, or how the same difficulties may be harder or easier for somebody to handle or overcome based how they were raised or what other experiences they went thru.

There is a reason why countries who are not at war with each other fly their flags all at the same height; never flying their flag above their ally's flag. They stand as one. United. Because that is what solitary actually means.

We stand at a fork. Down one path is trans men using words like trans misandry to talk about their oppression and trans rad fems on tumblr not interjecting with some bullshit, and down the other path is trans men still using words like trans misandry, but also the hostility comes out and you'll get shit like them telling the same trans radfems to stop calling their oppression trans misogyny, and start calling it trans misandry, and the whole world goes blind. Because i've seen how understandably upset trans women have gotten at me when they've mistakenly thought i was actually suggesting that, its not a blow in the gender war we'll come back from if it enters the discourse.

(as an aside thought experiment, its actually kinda hard to truly only be sexist in one direction. like one could argue that slutshaming is implying there is something dirty or unclean about men/manliness that they 'taint' women with by having sex with them. but you'd rightly call me dick if MRAs started showing up to the local feminism meet and interjecting that every time the topic comes up. And as an MRA, So would I. So please lets stop trying to argue over the "true" direction of acts of sexism and let people be individuals who experience and talk about it in their own way.)

((Final aside, it would make things easier for our intersex and enby brothers, sisters, and gender nonspecific siblings to cast aside this gendered concept of oppression))

[zenlikestoread]

Reblogging this so it reaches more people!! :P

I feel so... down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators' content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.

I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.

And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I've tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It's emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.

[genderqueerdykes]

please note that this isn't the only way to be bisexual and a lesbian. you do not have to be a woman to be a lesbian, and you do not have to be attracted exclusively to women. but i feel like this might help some people to understand why bisexual lesbianism is a real experience that genuinely happens and why it's not a threat to anyone:

bisexuality is about having multiple modes of attraction. that's it. sexualities don't cancel each other out. these are not mathematical concepts like positive and negative numbers. this is just one example of many bisexual experiences. but truly think to yourself: would it make sense to a tell a bisexual woman that they can't hang out in lesbian spaces and date lesbians even though they're experiencing the same kind of attraction?

let go go your fear of bisexuality. let go of your biphobia. let bisexuals define our attraction. the bisexual experience can and does included lesbianism and gayness. bisexual experience two or more modes of attraction. why wouldn't that be able to include lesbianism? stop blocking us from interacting with other parts of the queer community. stop trying to quarantine us like we're an infectious disease.

[trannynanomagic]

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[nyxxx696backup]

Do people even like girls built like this anymore?😩

[lananiscorner]

And if you really, absolutely cannot bring yourself to be kind and respectful to straight people who have done nothing to you or other queer people, simply because being kind and respectful to other people is the thing we should all strive for (which should be enough!), then at least consider the following:

You are almost definitely also bashing people in the crossfire who are actually part of the queer community themselves, such as questioning/repressed/not-ready-to-come-out-to-everyone-yet queers, bisexuals in heterosexual relationships who may appear straight at first glance, asexuals and demisexuals who appear straight at first glance, etc.

You are also making things harder for people who are somewhere in between (e.g. straight people in relationships with bisexuals, but if we extend this post to other types of oppression as well, an even easier example would be people of mixed ethnicity).

Where do you think people who did nothing to you, but who you continually make fun off or put down for things they have literally no control over, will go, once you have made them feel entirely unwelcome? I tell you where they'll likely go: to the bigoted people who already hate you, and who will welcome them back with open arms and a "I warned you they were all crazy and two-faced snakes, have a beer, brother, sit down, ain't nobody gonna make jokes about you here". This is literally one of the main ways people are kept in cults and alt right pipelines, y'all realize that, right? If you're alienating potential allies, you are not helping the community. You are helping bigots.

Humans are social animals. We have survived against great odds, and in spite of our, in video game terms, average stats compared to other wildlife on this planet, for two reasons: 1) we figured out how to make and use tools, and 2) we supported each other, we worked together in teams and communities and societies. That is when we can achieve the most--when we work together.

So by all means, do call out bigoted behavior when it's happening, but stop assuming everyone who is straight is a bigot and out to hurt you, just because they are straight.

The goal should be to make the world as a whole a better, more just and welcoming place, not to pass the hate torch from one team to the next like some kind of bigotry olympics.

Hot take but I really do think that some of y’all need to consider how/why/when/how often you’re making fun of straight people for being straight

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

So, I dunno, I think maybe some of y’all should think about that too

[lgbtqtext]

Requested by harrykissedsanta

[joyousjoyfuljoyness]

My proudest accomplishment to date:

Creating 18 portraits of LGBTQ+ Icons for the SF LGBT Center in 2023!

The Story

In April 2023, Montana Republicans barred transgender lawmaker Zooey Zephyr from the House floor wielding "decorum" rules, after she rebuked colleagues supporting a ban on gender affirming care for children and protested their efforts to silence her.

Orinda Artist, Joy Chew, the founder and owner of JoyousJoyfulJoyness, was shocked by these events. She had planned on traveling to San Francisco to pass out samples of work to local businesses. In the hours before leaving for this errand, Joy felt compelled to use her artistic skills of making fine art foiled prints to show up for the LGBTQ+ community as an ally and amplify the voice and message of Rep. Zooey Zephyr. With this act of allyship, Joy spontaneously created a foiled print of Rep. Zooey Zephyr entitled Let Her Speak.

A few hours later while Joy was in San Francisco, she donated the artwork Let Her Speak to the SF LGBT Center, passing on the voice that she wanted to amplify with the artwork she created. 

After accepting the foiled print of Rep. Zooey Zephyr, the Center decided to meet with Joy. During the meeting, Joy expressed that she wanted to donate more foiled prints of past and present Queer ICONS from San Francisco, as well as from around the world. In collaboration with the SF LGBT Center, Joy drew 17 Queer ICONS and hand foiled each portrait to celebrate these amazing people.

Artist Statement

My work seeks to capture the core essence of the subject, breathing life into them.

Each portrait is drawn by hand digitally, usually starting with the eyes to capture the subject's presence. The style of the line work rides between realism and artifice, and pragmatically maximizes the ability of the foil to release cleanly.

Using foil as a medium gives the portrait a dimensional effect that is subject to the influence of ambient lighting, the surrounding space, and the viewer. It also brings the subject to life in a way a two dimensional drawing alone could not.

It is a living and breathing representation.

Art is an important tool of expression, but also can be a profound instrument of change. Zooey Zephyr's powerful message inspired me to show through my art that we stand with her and the entire community as allies. With this series of portraits of LGBTQ Icons, I hope to continue amplifying and shining a spotlight on this wonderful community, and spark more positive actions from allies worldwide.

[trulynamelessworld]

Thanks for the tag Riv!! Just pretend I'm wearing goth makeup and holding a buñuelo haha. Irl I would totally just be wearing black but the sweater was too cute to pass up.

I celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah, as well as Los Reyes in early January! It's not snowing here, just raining aggressively so I put some snow in for manifestation.

I don't know who to tag! Anyone can try! You'll enjoy this @musicallyanonymous ❤️

I want to start a Christmas/Winter/Holidays picrew chain

[billiegloss]

Goodmorning ☀️

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@billie_gloss89

[lavcum]

Don’t go out today, call me to CUM over😋🙃😘

[whereserpentswalk]

A world where children can dream of becoming sex workers is a world without that type of abuse and exploitation. It's a world where sex workers are treated well and loved by their families and communities.

It's not pedophilic. If an adult grooms a child to be that way its pedophilic, but a world where sex workers are honored and thought of as something to aspire to, isn't a world where anyone is going to be grooming children into being sex workers.

And I as an agender person agree that gender is a performance. But some people who are raised as girls want to live as males. The problem isn't that it's socially constructed, it's that it's forced through violence.

Hope that cleared things up!

I don't dream of a future where little girls grow up wanting to be ceos, or lockheed martin scientists, or soldiers, or whatever a human recourses developer is. I dream of a world where girls grow up wanting to be occultist practitioners, and sex workers, and unhinged artists, and boys.

[misspenny07]

Hey lovelies ❤️