#Perhaps obvs the problem is being reactionary

[maipareshaan]

I used to be like oh ya they should have just done D*stiel, but after seeing their behaviour its pretty clear to me they don't deserve jackshit, infact everything was just apt.

[0ystercatcher]

Sometimes I feel like I dont belong into the lgbt community due to being in a hetero relationship, at least online, because someone will crawl out of the woodwork to be weird about it. Even though bisexual literally means any of the two genders

i mean look. the b in lgbt is there bc we share the common ground of same sex attraction, not bc of shared heterosexuality. the "lgbt community" is ideally there to put up resistance to homophobia, so it sorta makes sense for us lil bihets to not feel that close to it while being in het relationships...we (generally speaking) are not dealing with quite the same things people in gay relationships deal with. this doesnt mean homophobia or biphobia dont affect us bc often a lot of the problems bi people face in het relationships stem from having a homophobic/sexist partner...and obv some of us Are in gay relationships and do have experiences much closer to the ones exclusive homosexuals have. but again that brings us back to ssa and its repression being the common ground we share w the rest of the letters in lgb(t ? sorta but its a slightly looser connection)...so yes our place in the "lgbt community" is conditional on our COLLECTIVE ability to be attracted to our own sex. not on our personal experiences or individual circumstances.

this is connected to why i also...kind of hate talking abt the "lgbt community" as a community we Belong to bc thats very...basic and not very useful to me. like ok yeah we ssa but what else?? if the base requirement to be in it is being ssa then like. we cant not be in it no matter what we do, so why bother worrying about it? imho there is no point in grouping with people who are affected by homophobia if we arent doing anything abt homophobia. so to me...its also v political. we have to be specific abt our goals to actually find people we belong with...perhaps consider gay liberation from a deeply homophobic patriarchal capitalist society as a hopefully clearer political stance to help us all deal w homophobia effectively. whatever stance you take, thats how youll get a feeling of belonging imho. not on an lgbt discord server.

n anon dont let internet vitriol get to you, a lot of it is silly coping borne out of weird reactionary shit. best cure for this is to block annnoying shitheads and befriend more bisexuals :-). theres no point in getting too mad abt it even tho it is admittedly very fun to admonish idiots online. were bisexual no matter what lmao, which can both be cool or kinda shit depending on whats happening in our lives atm. best of luck to u tho <3