#Let me otherthink about it

[lau-ry]

Two things about Baldurs gate :

1) it's a great game

2) i expect too much of it apparently and it is so frustrating argh

Half of the time i'm not sure what i'm supposed to do at all. Other half there are too many ways to solve a problem but somehow all of them either not easy to guess (aside from "kill them all" and "find a secret passage") or not the things my character would do.

I hate to break immersion to rewind again and again because things go straight opposite from where i expected. It's realistic may be but so SO frustrating.

(Someone tell me, is there a way to save the gnoms from Nere that is not killing off the whole fortress. I spent two days on it and feel very stupid)

Also, with so many moving parts of the plot, they often don't come together that great.

Like why Laezel starts a fight with Shadowheart over the artifact when Tav has it and Tav decide what to do with it. She should have tried to steal it or better yet just go report to a first somewhat reasonable gith and then help them chop down our party. (yes, it looks like there are no reasonable giths around, but she does not seem to realise that)

Actually the whole artifact thing is strange, Shadowheart is way too chill about it transferring to Tav. This mission is currently her whole meaning in life and she is just "woops, that happens, i guess it's yours now".

Also how the people who "wait in the camp" still has artifact's protection ?

Also that magical subspace camp on itself, how does it even work (i bet companions hate to be left there because they then have to pack and carry and unpack again all that unnecessary stuff, lol)

[valyrra]

Ok. I have the need to explain myself due to the recent ask because I like to over-analyze and kinda am just an otherthinker.

TW: rape/suicide/hate/trauma/mental disorders/vent/selfharm/LONG post

TLDR: Morally bad things in fiction should and always will be existing. And you shouldn't tell people to kill themselves - you never know what consequences will be. If you think taking one's REAL life is good who's the villain then? ;)

Why I think fictional(!) rape is better (as a concept) than sending someone words like "you should kill yourself" in REAL life.

To anon: You don't actually can change my mind about this one. I think I've already gotten messages like this and still to anon - godbless you or whatever you believe in. I hope you won't ever be experiencing any of the trauma or just bad things in general. have a good day, sweetheart.

I didn't get to what character you referred to but I'm gonna take my guesses: Micah Bell, Thragg or Homelander perhaps? (with Micah I don't actually think it was stated in-game that he raped someone? if I'm wrong you are free to send me sources, but I think he just said that he threatened girls from the gang with a gun into fucking them but they still didn't/he let them go?)

Rape is bad :) That's it. There's no in-between. Killing is bad. There a lot of things that are bad and morally wrong. What's IMO justifying these things in fiction:

It's fiction. It isn't real

If it's written well - it can be a great story-moving point.

If you are closing your eyes to these problems you are delusional? This is a MORALLY WRONG concept - you SHOULD think about this. You SHOULD think it's morally wrong. Villains should get you icks. They give me icks. Most do.

Not writing morally wrong doings of a villain is your opinion. But idk who can you write that way.

I'm gonna talk about the Invincible comic book for a bit. Here's Thragg. Here's Anissa. I'm sorry but do you often see female r*pists in fiction? I don't think so. Does it make you hate her? Yes. Does it makes you think bad about female r*pists? Yes. Is this problem in society is talked about less in general? Yes. Is this raising the opinions? Yes. Is it going to make ME hate the character from the writing point of view? No. You do you. I like Anissa as a character, not based on her doings, but based on her writing. Same goes to A LOT of characters I like.

LOL remembered this vid about fictional violence:

Opinion about writing/Micah Bell:

I love him honestly. The first time I played the game I didn't put much thought into his character, but second playthrough is what made me appreciate the whole storytelling of the game from the writing position. Micah is an exceptionally amazing antagonist from his Man VS God conflict to the Fathers and Sons narrative that haunts him until his death.

People who write "WELL I THINK MICAH SHOULDNT HAVE EXISTED" I am afraid, didn't get his character. What the fuck did you expect? A wild west story without good written villains? Flowers? Happy endings? Dude, please drop your rose-colored spectacles. You got the amazing storytelling, great DEEP characters and yet you are complaining. You know probably you should hate Micah. Your choice. Probably I'm digging too deep, but I have analyzed this character too much to hate him now.

He's traumatized from childhood and isn't sympathetic to anyone, even himself. Dude's too deep in shit and I feel pity for him. I wouldn't be able to fix him, no one would. And I feel sympathy for most people in this position.

I love Micah Bell's philosophy in life. It's very much twisted but there are a lot of things that my overthinking mind is channeling fucking strength from.

"Listen. What will be - will be. Ain't nothing a feller can do about it. Ain't no one changing nothing. I've got all kinds of crazy in me - ain't nothing I can do about it. Ain't my fault - ain't no one's fault. Just live your goddamn life and when its time - go out shooting!"

Dude isn't making himself a victim. I love that. He gets that the world isn't a happy place, yet he's not going down without a fight :) Very good anti-suicide quote in my opinion ngl.

Man I don't even write bad things here I think...? I mean like about Micah for sure. Yeah, I ship him with my RDR OC just because like... I like his writing, I support women's wrongs IN FICTION. In my own story that won't ever elaborate on Lyra will get even pregnant from him because I think I'd like a certainly strong female character that fucks with a bad bad guy out of spite/he didn't rape her and she like kills and shoots and stabs people while being a woman and pregnant in that historic moment because that for sure would be fun. (plus I want also to integrate another OC Eva in the story which will kinda struggle to live a morally right life despite her both parents are crazy)

You aren't bad for liking bad characters:

Mental health // Here goes the thing that contradicts my own opinion internally // my psyche:

I'm pretty open about my mental health. I'm open about a very stigmatized disorders like for example BPD. There's this thing I never got properly diagnosed with and its OCD. Kinda a self-diagnosed thing is like I "get stuck" on some intrusive things. And this shit is what I struggle with daily. Usually yeah, they are violent but only towards myself (sometimes not violent at all). I have cut myself because I liked Bi-Han (Sub-Zero). You don't know how much time I spent hating myself for getting fixated on morally bad characters. I NEVER blame or shame or would threaten or bully a person for liking a bad character, I do this to myself only. Maybe it's more of a sexual thing? You know how my sweet mutual (@ l3vi4than)'s banner says: "My taste in men is a form of selfharm". With some characters - it's pretty much the case. Like with Thragg mostly I think or whatever idk. Homelander or Adam Smasher. Man, I am a certified monster fucker from like 13 years old when my brain went like: "Hello, Alex Mercer is sexy af with and without his armor ability".

Unfortunately - my brain is very bad and makes me thing I'm the worst human on Earth. But still kinda there are worse kinks than this? I think I've read somewhere that like a very big percentage of women like CNC even if they are feminists / against rape and etc. Well I'm not sure where I was going with that but like even having a kink doesn't make you a bad person? Who tf am I harming except for my own mind?

A lot of reassurance from my mutuals in tumblr helped honestly. I am grateful for people reassuring me that like all human beings I am still deserving of love even if I FIXATE ON certain characters.

fyi:

Research has shown approximately 70 percent of people with borderline personality disorder will attempt suicide at least once in their lifetimes. About 10 percent complete the act. This suicide rate is higher than any other psychiatric disorder and the general population. You never know what people are going through. Don't push people. Suicide isn't a joke. Right now I'm in a right place of mind where I can even write long posts like these but things change quickly. Yesterday while playing DBD I encountered a very cute and friendly Wraith player who is suicidal. In gaming it's kinda cool to be immoral like wishing people to kill themselves especially in session games like idk Dota2,CS,LoL,Valorant,Overwatch etc (these are the games I've played which were kinda toxic). And I was a toxic gamer myself when I was younger. Wrote nasty things, but kinda grew up and realised that this shit is harmful af.

Sorry for this long post just kinda had to get some things out of my mind.

Have a good day and don't be like anon. Feel free if you want to contradict any shit I wrote I'm open for opinions.

[xocubonee]

Advice for bpd?

take ur meds if you feel they work, go to therapy if you can afford it, ask your gp/ward about talking to bpd specialists. avoid triggers. if you have a “favourite person” connection, break it if they’re genuinely toxic but if they’re kind, remember not everything they do or say that might cos your splits is intentional or purposely trying to hurt you. always remember hallucinations are not real, they can’t hurt you, and the same for the voices.

all those “silly” mindfulness technique do work!! breathing techniques, showers, baths (with a distraction so ur not otherthinking), holding ice cubes til they melt etc etc trust me they work to help calm you down, they’re short term solutions so that you can think through your situation clearly. research the disorder, just be careful not to give into stigmas or stigmatic articles. let people you’re close to and trust know and ask them to research too so they can help. try not isolate yourself but remember occasional alone time to recharge is necessary

if i think of more i’ll let u know, hope you’re okay 💚💜

[baenxietydad]

@davidhatter

Mu-yeol’s cheeks warmed at that. It’d been a very long time since someone cared about him that much, or really at all. It struck him that David wasn’t just killing time entertaining himself with him. He would’ve let him, he was lonely enough.

He did not see himself as worth this amount of care and consideration. Not that he didn’t think he deserved any, but David — Mu-yeol would have and regularly accepted less.

“Right. That makes sense.” Except now he wasn’t sure what to do or say. Should he reach for his hand or not touch him at all? Did he want him here or not?

“When’s the last time you…well, anything. It’s been a while for you then, right?” Mu-yeol asked. “Me too. Kind of. I mean, there’s not been anyone serious since So-yeon until now. But it’s not like — well, you know what they say about fairies.” About how willing they are to…how easily a fairy might get in bed with someone. It had been good for him, having low stakes dates and physical connections for the past couple years. It made actually liking someone less daunting than it might have had there been nothing between So-yeon and David.

“If it helps. Weirdly enough I feel incredibly chill right now. I don’t know, I just feel like I don’t have to otherthink everything I say or do anymore around you.” He shrugged a shoulder. “You really don’t have to either.”

Square One || Hatfish

[castiel-barnes]

The Wedding.

Frankie 'Catfish' Morales. Drawing AU. Part 4.

Pairing: Frankie 'catfish' Morales x Reader

Summary: After a few months they finally get married.

Wordcount: 1.4k

Warnings: mentions of like an anxiety attack. Don't @ me I'm not great with this stuff.

Tags: @scribbledghost @phoenixhalliwell

A/n: I know it has been months since I last updated this series. But I've been struggling for inspiration with this one.

It had been a few months since Frankie had proposed. The two of you had never been more happier. All of the boys had been a huge helping hand with everything in the wedding planning. You and Frankie had decided that you wouldn't have too many at your wedding.

"Carl said that we could use his barn he uses for parties, for the wedding." You said to Frankie when the two of you were sat at the table planning.

Carl was your next door neighbour who was as sweet as pie, he'd help Frankie fix a few things that need a pair of extra hands and complimented your art work. In the years of living in your current house, Carl had become a good friend of yours.

"That's good, I really like that barn anyways." Frankie replied smiling up at you from his laptop.

The two of you discussed everything, you had even discussed who would be walking you down the aisle. None of your family would be coming, so you came up with someone who knew you just as well. Santiago. You were close to all the boys, like big brothers to you. But with Santi, it was like he was your favourite brother.

"Okay mi amor, who do you want to walk you down the aisle?" Frankie asked, you sat there for a moment and thought.

"Um... Santiago. I'm going to ask Santi to walk me down the aisle." You replied smiling a bit.

"Okay." Frankie said smiling back at you. After agreeing on who would walk you down the aisle, you texted Santi.

'Hey Santi, can you come round quickly? I need to ask you something in person.'

You texted,

'Of course I can doodle, I'll be round in a bit.'

Santi replied within a few minutes. About 20 minutes later Santi showed up at the door. Walking through the through the door, he smiled at the two of you.

"Hey doodles, hey Fish how have you been?" Santi asked,

"Not too bad, Y/N has a serious question for you Pope." Frankie responded. Your anxiety picked up ever so slightly, but you had your boys next to you so you knew you'd be alright.

"Santi, would you do me the honour of walking me down the aisle at our wedding?" You asked smiling slightly,

"Really?!" He replied suprised. You smiled fully and nodded.

"Of course I will! I would be honoured too." Santi said smiling and hugging the two of you.

You both trusted Santi with your lives, being big brother to the two of you. All of the boys were your brothers, and each of them had their nicknames for you. Frankie had all the basic relationship nicknames for you like: mi amor, babe, honey and your favourite, Future Mrs Morales. Santiago names for you were: care bear, doodles and peaches. And then the boys shared the other nicknames: short cake is a main one, star and kiddo. All of the boys cared deeply for you, since you were part of the group.

Santi stayed for a little while longer before he headed back home.

"I love you Mr Morales." You stated quietly as you watched the sun go down from the crook of Frankies arm.

"I love you too Future Mrs Morales." Frankie replied kissing your temple and letting it linger.

***************************

Timeskip: Wedding Day.

Since asking Santiago to walk you down the aisle, you and Frankie had planned everything of your small wedding. Your next door neighbour helped the boys to set up his barn for your wedding.

About an hour out from the actual ceremony, you started to otherthink and panic. Causing your anxiety to heighten. One of your bridesmaids called Santiago to come help you calm down.

"Hey doodles, are you okay?" Santi asked kneeling infront of you. You shook your head.

"Okay Y/N, look at me and breath." He continued. You tried to calm down, but nothing was working.

"Do you want me to get Frankie?" He asked, and again you shook your head,

"B-bad luck to see bride." You stuttered.

"I know honey, but we've gotta calm you down." He replied, eyes begging you.

"Okay." Yoh stated quietly. Santi kissed the top of your head, then ran off. After a few minutes, he returned back.

"Okay doodles, here's the plan. Frankie is here but he is around the corner. He won't see you, but you can still talk." Santiago explained. You nodded and followed him to a corner where a chair was set up.

"Hey cariño." You heard Frankie say from around the corner,

"F-frankie." You replied searching for his hand and finally finding it.

"What's wrong baby?" He asked,

"S-scared of it." You stuttered out closing your eyes.

"Scared of what sweetheart? You need to tell me okay?" Frankie replied stroking his thumb over your knuckles,

"The amount of people, in the barn." You finally stated. Frankie sighed and squeezed your hand finally realising that your fear of crowds won't be helpful.

"Okay honey, it's alright. Santi and I will be right there with you. You know that don't you?" Frankie said reassuring you,

"Yeah." You responded quietly finally calming a bit.

"Okay, when you walk down the aisle Santi will be right next to you. Just focus on me and no one else." Frankie explained. The two of you talked for a little bit more until it was time for the ceremony.

"I'll be waiting for you alright honey?" Frankie said quietly,

"Yeah baby, I'll be there." You replied smiling finally, your anxiety now less than it was. You left to go back to your room and Santiago came with you. Your makeup was a little messed up, but the bridesmaids helped resolve that problem fairly quickly.

Santiago offered you his arm, as the two of you walked across to the barn.

"You ready?" He asked smiling at you,

"Yeah, i-i think I am. Thank you Santi." You replied giving him a little smile.

"Its alright, you look beautiful by the way." He stated making you blush a little. You heard the music start playing, and Santi squeezed your arm to reassure you. The doors opened and all you focused on was Frankie at the end of the aisle. His jaw dropped and his eyes glazed over a little. You noticed that he had shaven but left his mustache and combed his hair. You smiled at him and blushed a little.

"Hi baby." He whispered,

"Hi handsome." You replied smiling. The ceremony was nice and small. The two of you tearing up when you said "I do." Even the boys started tearing up at some point.

The wedding reception had the boys, some of your friends and some of Frankies family. Your dance was soft and slow, you felt like you were on top of the world right now.

"You look so beautiful Mrs Morales." Frankie whispered as your head laid on his chest,

"Thank you Mr Morales, you look just as handsome." You replied smiling. Your dress was beautiful, a sweetheart neckline and it hugged your body. Your hair was done up in a soft bun and you had a small flower crown with a small flower crown. When the first dance finished Frankie gave you a soft kiss and smiled at you.

Now though it was for the father daughter dance. But yours weren't here, and you could feel the sadness hit you slightly. However, just as you were about to sit down Santiago held your hand gently and led you to the dance floor.

"You'd think I'd leave you hanging doodles?" He asked smiling as the two of you danced,

"No." You replied smiling as you giggled when he pulled some ridiculous dance moves. The two of you danced for a bit and laughed, then one of the brothers tapped on Santi shoulder.

"May I have this dance?" Benny asked,

"Yes you may Ben." Santi smiled kissing your cheek. You started to dance with Benny and in the end you had danced with all of the boys.

The rest of evening went smoothly and it was a nice summers evening. You and Frankie stood outside, looking up at the stars.

"Thank you for today Frankie." You said quietly still looking up,

"It's alright baby, you know that." Frankie replied pulling you in for a deep kiss. You kissed back passionately and giggled. The two of you stayed there for a little longer and then went back in for the end of the reception.

[lakesandquarries]

After the Storm (Chapter Five)

hey i’m taking prompts and suggestions for a bit!! feel free to message me here or comment on AO3!  i can't promise i'll get to all of them but i can at least draw inspiration from them!

also if i made a discord server for this fic would anyone join?

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It’s a much nicer walk to get home than it was to find Sonic. The kid’s fast asleep in Tom’s arms, mumbling in his sleep periodically. Tom’s glad for the reminder that he’s there, that he’s safe.

Maddie’s waiting on the porch when Tom arrives, pacing back and forth. Even from a distance he can see her shoulders slump in relief, and he practically runs the last few feet, careful not to disturb the hedgehog in his arms.

“He’s okay?” Maddie asks.

“Physically, yeah. Emotionally...mostly? We’re gonna need to talk to him.”

Maddie nods. “Well, that can wait ‘til everyone gets some sleep.”

Tom doesn’t bother bringing Sonic up to the attic, not when the master bedroom is right there and perfectly fine. And...well, honestly, he doesn’t really wanna let the kid - his kid - out of his sight yet.

The bed is big enough for three, and Sonic seems content to just curl in a ball in the middle of the bed, anyway. Maddie grabs an extra blanket from the closet and gently lays it over him, smiling as he pulls it tighter in his sleep.

Tom takes a moment to change - he’d like a full shower, honestly, but he’s too exhausted for that. At the very least he can minimize how much dirt he tracks into the bed.

“We’re gonna need to do laundry,” he says as he pulls the blanket over him.

“That’s a problem for later,” Maddie says. “How are you doing?”

Good question. “Tired, mostly.”

“I can call the station, let them know you can’t come in.”

Normally, he hates missing work. He gets a little restless on days off, bored without something to do. But he has a feeling the day’s gonna be busy regardless. And he really doesn’t wanna leave Sonic alone right now.

“I think that’s a good idea. What about you?”

“They’ll survive without me for a day. Family’s more important.” She reaches over, squeezing his shoulder. Tom lets out a slow exhale, pushing the blanket aside to make sure Sonic’s asleep.

“I’m worried about him,” he says, once he’s certain. “I went to check on him and he just - he flipped out. Accidentally zapped my hand and he just took off. I...I think we might be a little out of our depth, here.”

Tom’s good at fixing things. There’s a reason people come to him for repairs. He’s handy with a hammer, and more than that, he’s a pretty good listener. Just a couple days ago, he’d gotten a call about a teenager with a broken car. They’d only needed a tire change, but Tom had ended up sticking around for an extra hour, listening to the kid talk about how his boyfriend dumped him and his life was over. By the time Tom had left, the kid seemed at least a little happier, so Tom figured he had to be doing something right.

But Tom’s pretty sure being completely alone for...however long Sonic has been on Earth isn’t something that can be fixed in a single conversation.

“Stop otherthinking,” Maddie says, gently smacking his arm. “We just need to take the first step. Make sure he knows we want him to talk to us, that it’s an option. It’ll be okay.”

“Yeah,” Tom says, “you’re right.”

“I always am.” Maddie leans over to kiss him. “Get some sleep.”

Tom doesn’t need to be told twice.

—

It’s mid afternoon by the time everyone’s awake. Sonic is the last one up, surprisingly enough, but he did have a pretty rough night, so it’s understandable.

Still. Tom doesn’t feel comfortable getting out of bed until the kid’s awake, blinking up at him blearily, face scrunched up.

“Still here,” Sonic mumbles, leaning his face into Tom’s arm.

“Still here,” Tom repeats.

Maddie stretches loudly, nearly smacking Tom in the face. “C’mon! Time to get up!” Sonic whines, trying to burrow back under the covers, until Maddie adds, “I’ll let you have some ice cream with your breakfast.”

“And there he goes.” Tom figures he ought to drag himself out of bed too, trailing just behind Maddie as she heads into the kitchen. Sonic is already zipping around the kitchen, apparently deciding to add ice cream to his cereal. Weird, but honestly not the weirdest thing Tom’s seen him eat.

Breakfast is quiet. Maddie makes eggs (plain for herself, cheese for Tom, and a little hot sauce for Sonic) while Tom throws out a few bad puns just to try and get a laugh. Sonic doesn’t quite seem in the mood, though, so he gives up pretty fast.

Tom’s original plan had been to wait, let the kid settle a little before springing another emotional conversation on him. But with the way Sonic is acting, Tom’s not sure he can wait.

---

Tom drops his fork with a clang, starling Sonic.

“So,” Tom says. “I wanna start off by saying you’re not in trouble.

Sonic’s seen enough movies to know where this is going. You’re not in trouble is always followed by a yet .

“But,” Tom continues. “I think we need to talk about what happened last night.”

“It won’t happen again,” he says quickly, and he’s about to add more but Tom is shaking his head.

“That’s not what I mean. We’re not mad, kiddo. We’re just worried.”

“You’ve been through a lot, the last few weeks.” Maddie lays her hand on the table, reaching towards Sonic. “We just wanna make sure you’re okay.”

“What if -“ Sonic stares at Maddie’s hand. Swallows, hard. Thinks about last night, Tom reaching out only to recoil with burnt fingers. “What if I’m not?”

“Then we can work together until you are,” Maddie says. She doesn’t recoil - not yet, at least. But Maddie wasn’t there last night, and Sonic doesn’t know if Tom even told her.

“You’re not alone,” Tom says, and for a second Sonic can’t breathe. His breath catches in his throat, choking him.

“I know,” he manages, “I know , but I - I’m - I keep having nightmares, and I keep thinking, maybe it’d be better if I was? Because when I was alone, people were safe. And I know the people from the government are still looking for me, and what if they find me? You’ll get in trouble too! Or what if I hurt someone? I don’t know how to control my powers, I keep waking up all static-y and I don’t know how to make it stop - and I hurt Tom! And in my dream I -” he thinks back to his dream, seeing every person he cared about motionless, Robotnik’s excitement . “I hurt everyone and what if it comes true?”

Stop talking! he thinks, but the words spill out anyways. “I don’t think I know how to not be alone,” he says, and then covers his mouth with his hands.

“Sonic,” Maddie starts.

“I mean, uh - I’m fine! It’s fine, I just - adjustment period! That’s the thing, right? I’m just - settling in. It’s fine! You don’t need to worry, I’m just - I need to go upstairs -”

“ Sonic ,” Maddie says again, firmer this time. “Sweetie, please don’t run off.”

He pulls his legs up. He’s worried if they touch the floor he might not be able to stop himself.

“Thank you,” Maddie says. Sonic tilts his head.

“For what?”

“For sharing,” she says. “Letting us know what’s going on means we can actually help.”

“And we want to help,” Tom adds. “You’re part of the family, and that’s what family is. ”

Sonic taps out a nervous rhythm on his knee, scared of what he’ll say if he opens his mouth again. Tom and Maddie exchange a few Looks, apparently having an entire silent conversation, before Maddie speaks up again.

“You mentioned you’ve been having nightmares,” she says. “Do you think you could talk more about that?”

A shudder runs through him. But if Maddie thinks it might help….well. He can at least try.

“Last night I had a dream that I was fighting Robotnik again and I tried using the lightning thing but it - backfired? And instead of hurting him, it hurt….everyone else. And everyone was just lying there, and no one was moving, and then I woke up and there was all this static and I didn’t know what to do so I just...ran. That’s always been the solution! But...I guess not this time?”

“I used to have nightmares a lot as a kid,” Tom says. “And whenever I did, I’d go to my mom, and wake her up, and I’d tell her about my dream and we’d talk about how it wasn’t real, and she’d let me sleep in her bed if I needed. Next time, when you have a nightmare, do you think you could try that?”

“I don’t wanna bother you,” Sonic mumbles, fidgeting with his hands.

“It’s not bothering us. If something’s upsetting you, we wanna know, so we can help,” Tom says.

“Do you really think it’ll help?”

“Well, it helped me. I can’t make any promises, but do you think you could try?”

“I can try,” he says.

“And maybe, if you’d be okay with it, you could tell us more about stuff before you moved in with us?” Tom asks. “No pressure, but it can be good to get stuff off your chest.”

Sonic looks down at himself. “Like my fur?”

Maddie laughs. “It’s a metaphor. It means to get your feelings and thoughts out, basically.”

“Oh. Uh….maybe? What do you wanna know?”

Tom and Maddie exchange another Look.

“It’s not about what we wanna know,” Maddie says. “It’s about helping you feel better. Talking about traumatic things that happened can help, but only if you’re okay with talking about it.”

“We don’t wanna push you,” Tom adds.

There’s so much he could share. Tom and Maddie were there for the whole Robotnik stuff, but they barely know anything about Before. And he doesn’t really want to change that. He doesn’t want to talk about how it’s his fault he’s on Earth in the first place, or how he’s been basically stalking everyone for years, or how he’s been alone for so long he barely knows how to exist around other people.

“Can’t we just….erase all that stuff? Pretend it never happened?”

“I wish, kiddo. But that’s not how it works. If you don’t talk about stuff, it just sits in your head and gets worse.”

Sonic huffs, looking away from Tom and Maddie. “...maybe later,” he says, quietly.

“You don’t have to do it today,” Maddie says. “Just let us know when you’re ready.”

He nods. “Could we maybe….do something else, now?”

Tom nods. “You wanna watch a movie? Your choice.”

Sonic grins, already knowing what he wants to watch.

Later, he’ll have to talk to them. And maybe it actually will help - he certainly hopes it will. But right now...Right now, just the knowledge that he has a family and that they won’t give up on him is help enough. Being sandwiched in between Tom and Maddie - in between his parents - it occurs to him that maybe, just maybe, he’ll actually be okay after all.

[andruwu---minyard]

It's like a movie night at the girls dorm

And kevin makes some dumbass history pun

The foxes groan but Aaron bursts out laughing

Aaron is my son therefore he inherits my insufferable possessed demon laugh

Like his real laugh is Straight up horrible

Kevin malfunctions

Nicky goes through all 5 stages of grief in like half a millisecond bc first of all what the fuck is that noise and second of all thats the first time he's ever heard Aaron truly laugh

Andrew has unlocked the Forbidden Emotions you can only truly experience in a moment of pure clarity

Neils just fuckin fallen asleep bc that bitch does Not care for movies

But the rest of the foxes just start fucking cooing over Aaron bc bicth thats Soft

Aaron does not hate it but he hates that he dossnt hate it

Matt, fucking hammered, crying: aar,,on,,,,, I'd d i e for you

But the upperclassmen are all just mentally "thats fuckin adorable" and make sure aaron knows that

And Aarons lowkey highkey self conscious about his laugh so he thinks theyre saying it as a joke or smth

But then suddenly the others are going out of their way to make him laugh

And he is

Confused

Anyway the first one to succeed is Nicky

Idk how

But nicky does smth and it's just him and Matt and he's tired enought to not otherthink it

And he laughs

And Nicky lets himself take 5 seconds to feel so fucking proud for this kid he found drugged off his ass and grieving

And Matt's just downing 'i love my friends' juice by the gallon and is living for this

The next time he laughs he's been kidnapped by the girls for Shopping With Allison

And he

Doesnt Hate It

This is Allison offering a olive branch

And the girls trying to Not leave him out now he's being less of an asshole

So renee says smth

And aaron cant stop himself

And renee gives him this soft little smile

The time he finally stops actively trying not to laugh is after he's gotten w kevin

Nicky's out somewhere and Matt's staying with Dan

They're alone in the dorm watching some history documentary

Kevins ranting about sm vague historical figure and he keeps stumbling over some pronunciation and the look on his face is pure frustration and aaron just starts pissing himself

And kevin looks at him like he hung the stars and Aaron cant deal with that

So he looks away and stops laughing and in true minyard fashion "stop fucking looking at me like that"

And kevin says some emotional shit about loving Aaron's laugh idk what

And Aaron says nothing and turns bright red and just curls up into kevins side

He stops muffling his laughter after that

All of the foxes are Blessed

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(1/3) hi! as i mentioned before, matchup for fma & bnha, pls? i'm a straight ambiverted (more introverted) infj female! i'm quite tall for my age, and i'm a slytherin. i also have a younger twin sister! i'm very secretive, smart, competitive, ambitious, insecure, observant, and mature. i'm also really shy in certain situations, and sometimes i get too arrogant/confident. i'm also a fast learner, hopeless romantic, daydreamer, & overachiever! i help others a lot (but i find accepting help hard).

(2/3) i love receiving praise, attention, affection (but i usually disagree), along with cleaning and organizing things (but i'm quite messy myself). i love a bunch of stuff, but esp. GAMES! i always want the truth, even if it hurts, but i'm also really good at lying. i have a great memory, but i sometimes forget stuff so easily. i also really like messing w/ others and i have a rbf. some people are intimidated by me, it's funny. i'm quite distant and i easily get jealous and annoyed.

(3/3) i also love reading/writing, astronomy, mythology, nature, learning new things, deep convos, & testing myself. i coop up my emotions a lot, along with otherthinking. i also hate a lot of stuff, such as being weak in front of others (esp. crying), others being better, and blind faith. i get lazy and bored easily too. i usually love being alone, but sometimes it gets too lonely. it takes a while for me to open up to others, as i'm quite distrusting. i'm quite complex tbh, sorry about that 🤧

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Ahhhhh, sorry tumblr has decided to keep eating your asks!! It’s really nice to see you come back though!! As for your matchup i match you with....

One sweet Boi Alphonse Elric and....

Mirio Togata! A few reasons why:

Alphonse:

Al is a sweetheart and absolutely doesn’t mind you taking your time with getting to know him

Honestly, you and his brother are a lot alike, so he’s more than prepared with enough patience for the both of you

Will literally praise you for just about anything??? But knows not to take it too far. ONLY GENUINE COMPLIMENTS FROM HIM!!

He honestly just wants to hug you all the time??? Please hug this boi

Mirio:

Mirio is a lot like Al when it comes to compliments. He gives them often but not blindly.

He will not tolerate any self deprecating talk. He won’t.

This boy will straight up let you borrow any piece of his clothing no questions asked (please steal his hoodies they are so soft and comfy and he thinks you look adorable while wearing them)

All for testing yourself, and knowing your limits.

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IntroIt seems really obvious, but sometimes it feels like we have too much to think about and a clear presentation really helps. Here's my checklist of things to think about before moving on. Obviously not all of it applies to everyone, discern what is useful to you and use it as you want. Let me know if I should add anything in an editThink about what you did wrong in their eyes The instinct is to think about what they did wrong eg. She was too lazy about housework and shifted all the responsibility on me or he cared more about gaming with his friends then spending the evening together. But relationships are a two way street, think of reasonable complaints they may have made about you. Yes, it's painful, the whole business of breaking up is generally painful, but you need to lean into it if you want to move on healthily.Think about why you acted in that way Is it just your nature? Or was it a response to the dynamic of the relationship? Did being ignored make you bitter? Or being constantly harassed make you reclusive? Did you feel paralyzed by judgement? Or like you were talking to a brick wall? Where did these feelings come from? Your past experiences? Or expectations you had which were false? Broken promises? Broken delusions? Guilt?Think about that they did wrong It is, after all a two way street. Some of us have a tendency to put our partners on a pedestal, but no one is perfect or beyond scrutiny. So, you need to think about what they did that made you feel bad or react negatively. make a list if you need to about the actions or attitudes and how that made you feelAgain, think about why Why would someone act like that? Was it something in their past, or something they grew to do eg. drinking to cope with stress and become violent? What lead them to be stressed? Think about how the life you designed together caused them to become an unsuitable partner. And what made you think they were suitable in the first place?Think about blame, and it's role in the relationship Sometimes we try to push the blame of particular issues one way or another. The truth is, issues arise as a result of the "environment" you create, and that's something you create together. As soon as you assign blame to one party or another you've failed. There is a difference between taking blame and taking responsibility. Taking blame leads to resentment and failure of the relationship (if you resent them, they will grow to resent you, and vice versa). Taking responsibility or asking your partner to take responsibility leads to a feeling of mutual trust, empathy and respect. Those are the qualities you want to be encouraging in your next relationshipWhat vicious cycles were at play Every relationship has them. Here's an example from my current relationship I feel a need for affection and approach him. In that moment he wants space so rejects me. This hurts my self esteem so I want more affection to feel better. I know if I approach him he will push me away again. I feel lonely and he feels guilty. It's a lose lose situation, and a product of our personalities and how we react to stress individually. Of course this can be lived with, I find other ways to boost my self esteem without involving him and he can continue his work/hobby without needing to worry. But this coping mechanism takes a bit of self awareness and understanding of that cycle and how it effects both of us. Sometimes I need a gentle reminder that I am loved but he needs space in the moment and will spend time with me later, which he does. You can learn a lot retrospectively about how you can adapt your behaviour to a new person, or ask them to adapt a bit to you, but it takes being brutally honest with yourself and how you behave/what you want and why. It also takes clear communication with the otherThink more about the type of relationship than the person you're in a relationship with Did you find yourself longing for an external partner? Or find yourself constantly riddled with jealousy, justified or unjustified? Monogamy-Polyamory is a sliding scale, and you can decide together where you want to be on that scale. Treating either as a default is a mistake, it's important to negotiate your terms and conditions from the moment it gets serious, and keep that discussion open and on the table the whole way through the relationship. Don't approach it from "I think sleeping with others is wrong" approach it from "I wouldn't feel comfortable if you did that and I don't want that type of relationship. I respect your right to leave and find someone who does, if it's that much of a need for you." Security is overrated, and the tighter you bind these things the more likely they are to snap.Think about time How much time do you have, and how much of that are you willing to give? Base this on how you felt with your last partner, with a new partner you always want to spend more time than when you're settled in, so take that into account. Look for someone who matches that.Think about sex How frequently do you want to have sex. It is important, very important, for a good relationship to have a mutual feeling about sex. ((This doesn't mean you need to have a lot of sex, it just means you need to have the same amount of interest in sex as your partner. For some people, sex is just an activity and it can get old after a while, for others it's a need akin to hunger. Both are natural and neither is wrong, but you need to find someone who feels the same as you do about it, or else it leads to some very awkward and emotionally devastating relationship dynamics)) How do you work out the strength of your libido? Look at your last relationship and see how you felt after a couple of months, years whichever, where you still just as interested in sex as in the beginning, or did it change?Think about roles and responsibilities Which roles did you enjoy in your last relationship and which were a burden? Did you find yourself constantly being made to put in all the effort, or being pushed into doing things purely for the other's benefit? Did you love doing nice things together, buying nice underwear and making it special or did you really like looking after your shared space and making your partner comfortable? Bring that knowledge into the dating world, and look for someone to balance it with you fairly.​How "good communication" is keyAll of this is useless if you can't be open about it with new partners. Knowing what you want and what you can give is amazing, but you need to be upfront with it. You also need to make sure that they are capable of open communication and upfront about what they want and can give. You want to politely grill them, or subtly elicit from them the way you did with yourself. This is why a partner who cannot communicate in the same way as you do will be problematic.What do I mean communicate in the same way? Well, I know a couple, mostly long distance with visits twice a month, but she constantly wants to address issues in the moment, and he wants to take time to think about it alone and then come back with a solution. What ends up happening is she gets annoyed that he isn't listening to her and just responds with "okay" when something comes up and has no input (this is usually over text), and he gets annoyed at her because when he brings something up she dismisses it and says they should have fun together not spend their time arguing (this is usually face to face). So neither feel listened to, but both are trying to communicate without much compassion towards the other. A partner that doesn't try to communicate in any way, is the worst case scenario.OutroI think that's all I have to say, it's a lot but I tried to make it concise and comprehensive. Let me know if there are edits you want or questions you have. Good luck out there people :) via /r/dating_advice