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[bright-and-burning]

seeing all of these worst mutuals tags and wow . either my memory is a lot worse than i thought or i’ve been having a pretty solid internet experience

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[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

up until recently i ran a pretty popular radfem blog (stay with me, this ask is in good faith) but after i took a social media detox, i realized i don’t share those beliefs anymore and in fact i might be trans myself. i just kind of abandoned the blog, but i’d feel bad if i didn’t tell my followers what happened. i’m scared of telling anyone because i feel like i’d be a bad feminist if i transitioned. (i know, you can be trans and a feminist just fine, but that’s just the kind of thing radfems tell you.) even worse, i’m scared of posting about it on my main or radfem blog because radfems and trans people by and large hate each other (obv), and i’m scared to mention i’ve been in both groups because of the hate i’ll get

Lee says:

When I first started as a mod, I would have told you that you need to immediately post on all your blogs to disown the transphobic beliefs you had previously expressed to try to make up for the harm that you may have perpetrated as a radfem.

Now that I'm a little older, my feelings on the topic have shifted a bit. Before anything else, I think you need to slow down and make sure that you ensure your own safety and mental health.

If you believe that revealing this change to your followers could result in backlash online that would affect you emotionally, it's crucial to prepare by turning off anonymous asks and muting notifications from social media apps.

You should also make sure you have a non-online place to turn for support. If they used to be your community, you may feel like you've lost online friends, so make sure you don't become too isolated. Instead, lean on your IRL connections and seek support from trans-friendly people in your community.

You may even want to consider looking for a therapist-- questioning being trans can be difficult for anyone, and adding a layer of internalized transphobia doesn't help.

When you're ready to share your feelings on your blog, you should write a thoughtful post explaining your journey. You don't have to justify your identity; rather, focus on your personal growth, how your views have evolved, and how you came to understand yourself better. Acknowledge the complexity of the situation and that you're still learning.

These people were once your buddies and there's a chance you may be able to make some of them question their beliefs too if you don't lash out at them and trigger that instinctual defensive us-versus-them mindset, so I would try to keep a friendly tone even while noting that you no longer support them.

So thank your followers for their support and engagement over the years, but tell them you aren't comfortable staying part of their community now that you've realized that the beliefs underpinning the group are doing damage and you are trying to unlearn that type of thinking.

Gently challenge any misconceptions you once held or promoted. Clarify that being trans and feminist are not mutually exclusive and that everyone deserves respect and equality, regardless of their gender identity.

If you're comfortable, share resources that helped you on your journey. This could be educational materials, support groups, books you found helpful, or contact information for trans-supportive LGBTQ+ organizations. If there's anything you'd recommend to others who were once in the same place as you were on getting out, this is the time to share your advice.

Understand that reactions will likely be mixed. Some followers may feel confused, betrayed, or angry, while others might be supportive or even share their similar experiences. Remember, you're not responsible for their reactions and you don't need to respond to them if you don't want to argue and they aren't willing to have a respectful conversation.

Be clear about your boundaries. Let your followers know what kind of comments you're willing to engage with and that hate or harassment won't be tolerated. You can even stop engaging with the account altogether if you don't think you can deal with the hate that you may receive.

You don't have to post about this immediately. Again, it's okay to take as much time as you need to feel ready. It's okay to wait until you're in a safe and stable position before making any announcements.

If you do post about it and get hate, remind yourself that you're doing the right thing by letting go of that community, and that you're not only making the right choice for your own life in allowing yourself the freedom to explore your gender identity but you're also doing the right thing overall since you're now standing up for the trans community (late is better than never!) and no longer encouraging transphobic narratives.

If you feel that your current blog is no longer a space where you can express yourself authentically, consider starting a new blog or platform where you can write freely about your experiences and beliefs. Or just get offline altogether-- your digital detox is what started this, so maybe it's healthy for you to continue it for a while!

If you tell someone "I support trans folks" and they send you hate, that person is not your friend anyway. This is an opportunity to meet nice people who you can be yourself with. I would really encourage you to connect with IRL activists who are actually regularly volunteering and doing something concrete for their community if you have the opportunity.

When I was in high school, I volunteered at my local library's teen advisory board, and when I was in college I volunteered at a local hospital and through my college. This weekend I'm starting training for volunteering in-person for my town's emergency preparedness group which also does things like help to unload trucks for the food pantry, and I also volunteer remotely for two organizations online.

I'm really pushing for you to get out and volunteer (online or IRL) because I know one draw of the radfem community is feeling like you're an activist and that you're supporting women's rights and protecting and defending women. And it is important to support women's rights and protect and defend women! But there are other ways to do that beyond running a hateful blog attacking trans women.

I have a friend who works at an organization for survivors of domestic violence, for example, and she works with volunteers who help staff events, answer the hotline, etc. You can look around and see what local initiatives there are in your community and if you can't find the thing you're looking for you can start a group yourself or look online and join a national or state-wide cause that you care about, like pushing the legislature to support access to abortions.

Giving up the radfem community doesn't mean giving up feminism, and this is a good opportunity for you to take a look at your own time, your values, and think about how you can take this chance to start working to be a more effective feminist. Not everyone has to be an activist, but if you want to be one, think about how you can start doing good in a way that will actually affect people in a positive way.

I've also often been involved in doing events like conferences and workshops and panels IRL from my time in high school to the present day to try and educate folks on the community, but I also know that sometimes you need to take a step back and prioritize yourself. If you think you're not ready to jump into making change that's also okay. Just join something. A soccer team, a book club, anything hobby-related, to have something else to do and talk about and think about and stay tethered to feeling part of something.

Remember, it's okay to grow and change. You're not betraying anyone by being true to yourself. It's a courageous step to admit when your views have changed, and it's an integral part of personal growth. Be kind to yourself during this process.

Whether or not you end up identify as trans, you still will be doing the right thing by separating yourself from that community. I know it may be difficult because they were a place where you felt supported and part of a movement, but I really believe that you're taking steps in the right direction by letting go of that ideology and just living your life!

Followers, if you have any experiences unlearning toxic beliefs please reply with your advice for anon!

[maddiviner]

Another BetterHelp horror story, this one a thousand times worse than mine. I’ve been saying for years that conversion “therapists” are using online therapy to skirt oversight and traumatize LGBTQ adults and possibly even kids too. Do you believe me now?

[writing-for-life]

I’m running a Sandman blog. As such, I feel I can’t not say anything, but I’ll make this short (for me):

I believe victims. I’m a psychotherapist and work with them almost every day. My trust in the legal system on these matters is therefore also limited and a complicated affair. Having said this, I will withhold further commentary as the situation unfolds, because it’s too complex.

I also believe that stories have meaning to us that goes beyond their creators, and that meaning doesn’t suddenly fall away because of their creators’ actions, although it can, and that’s also okay.

Our feelings are allowed to be complicated, and no one deserves any type of harassment because they still love a story while simultaneously grappling with feelings of anger, disgust or simply sadness towards or about its creator. Neither does anyone deserve any hard feelings because they decide they don’t want to engage anymore.

Our feelings are our own, and we don’t have to justify them to anyone.

Fandoms exist because of story and community. And those stories and communities don’t suddenly stop existing, so I hope we can remember to treat each other with respect and empathy moving on from here.

Edit:

On a more constructive note, and also speaking as a therapist with both personal and continuous secondhand experience of SA who already sees the damage caused by unreflective knee-jerk posting on here:

You don’t have to make repeated public statements to disassociate yourself from works. Once is enough if you feel you have something to communicate to your followers. Not at all is enough, too. Simply do what you need to do. It’s enough if you know what you stand for, and to act accordingly.

Get your information from original sources, not “summaries” and hearsay on Tumblr. The amount of misinformation, both accidental and malicious, I have seen on here is shocking. All podcasts are freely available with transcripts. Stop believing the people who tell you otherwise, because they either don’t know what they’re talking about, or they aim to control the discussion for their own agenda. If you want to partake in discussion, get info from the source, because that’s truly something you owe to the victims. Otherwise, consider to withhold your opinions. We don’t have to add to the noise, there’s enough of it already, and it somewhat disqualifies itself if it adds its own agenda: This is not about LGBTQ+ issues or whether you deem an outlet trustworthy (it’s about the victims). It is not about your own opinions about kink (it’s about the victims). It is not about your disabilities or struggles that render you “unable to listen or read”. It is about the victims, not about you. So consider to stop centering yourself.

You are not a bad person for enjoying the work of a person who did wrong, neither does condemning them automatically make you a good person. How you behave towards your fellow human beings does. So if you feel tempted to judge, or even harass, other people for their love of a piece of media, take a breath first. Because in that moment, it has stopped being about the victims—it has become about centering yourself as righteous.

Don’t read into works, but don’t pretend they exist in a vacuum either. We can’t truly separate the art from the artist, but we can (re)assign meaning unique to us. The moment you interpret a piece of art, it reflects you. It will mirror back your feelings and worldview. If all you feel while engaging is negative, it is time to disengage. There is enough art in the world you can enjoy. But don’t judge those who still find meaning even if you don’t.

Take action in the real world, and step back from online discourse. Put your money where your mouth is, donate to women’s shelters or volunteer, organise fundraisers. In short: Make a difference where you can. Online opinion pieces are not that place, neither is keeping yourself in a state of constant aggravation by obsessively checking the tags. All it does it make you unwell.

Don’t support the creator financially if it feels icky. I know I won’t from here onwards, especially where there is a clear divide between his work and that of others. Secondhand books are an option, so are libraries. They’re everywhere, and eBay is your friend in that case. You can also still read and enjoy the works you own, it doesn’t harm anyone. You don’t have to bin, burn or sell them. If that feels right though, go for it. It’s your choice, but don’t expect others to make the same choices.

Most importantly: You have nothing to prove to anyone. You know who you are, that’s all that matters. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

[thecandlesticksfromlesmis]

From a younger trans person, does it ever get better? do I cut out the people that make it hard? everything just feels really impossible rn

Yes, it does. It gets so much better. I won’t make it any more complicated than that. I know how insurmountable these hopeless feelings can seem, but there is light! Always, there is light!

The biggest things to chase after are mental health resources and community. Those two things will save you. Therapy is life changing, don’t shy away from it. Meds can be life changing if they’re recommended. A community, big or small, of people who know /you/, is priceless. Find that community through school, through clubs, through your local LGBTQ centers, or (very carefully) online.

If you live somewhere dangerous, my best advice is to lay low until you can get out. Those years of living in hiding will hurt, but it’s not worth risking your safety. There are many undercover gender affirming things you can do in the meantime! I’ve done them, they help. It is possible to live in the closet and wait until you can be in a safer place to come out.

Cutting people out of your life is hard. I think each person is a case by case basis. Sometimes it’s not worth the fallout, sometimes it very much is. I think mental health care is important here. A therapist can give you the tools to deal with folks that make your life harder. The set of rules that I use to guide who I let into my life and who I don’t was built by me with the help of a therapist, and it’s saved me from so much grief.

I promise, it gets better. It took around ten years for me to do everything I listed above, but those ten years were absolutely worthwhile . To be truly happy is a completely attainable feeling, I swear. The moment you feel it, and you will feel it, it makes everything that came before it feel worth the struggle.

Your life is worth fighting for.

I love you very much, my sibling 🏳️‍⚧️💙

[guqqie]

You may not answer which is completely fine! But i have a question, how do you deal with hate? Ive been getting constantly harassed and hated on for being apart of the LGBTQ+ IA community. And it just really hurts, it makes me wang to just disappear from every platform..

i am really sorry to hear that, i hope you are okay. make sure to surround yourself with people who understand you and are not hateful. please stay safe.

as for dealing with hate sadly i don’t know how to help. i’ve just grown numb to it the last few months which is not healthy way of coping, but being able to have access to people hating on you so easily is a unique thing to deal with. honestly deleting twitter has helped me a lot, it’s a horrible place on there right now so if twitter is one of the reasons i’d advise deleting it. tumblr and instagram are a lot less hateful if it’s online hate you are talking about.

with in person though, don’t engage if someone is deliberately harassing you. a lot of the time people are hateful because they are insecure, jealous or just bored with their lives. find someone you can trust to tell who can help your situation. sadly i can’t do anything. but you’ve got this! keep your head up because it’ll get better :)

also i am not a therapist so take this with a grain of salt. if you need to see a professional please do because i am not one!!

[henrysglock]

Honestly these anons seem like chronically online Gen Z queer people to me. I say this as a Gen Z queer person who is ALSO very online, just THAT online. Bigotry, biphobia, etc. obviously exist, but when their core argument is essentially that a tumblr blogger saying a character is gay = biphobia, and not only that, but is somehow "one of the most wildly bigoted things" they've ever heard, that's... wow.

Tell me your entire sense of identity is shaped by TikTok discourse, Twitter battles, and fictional ships without telling me. Tell me you don't experience rl bigotry without telling me. I'm GLAD this is the post HS-world and things are better for lots of LGBTQ+ teens, but it also often just creates whatever... this is. It reminds me of this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/facepalm/comments/15nabrt/how_do_you_add_this_clouds_background/

It also seems like they expect ST to follow modern 2024 zoomer ideals instead of being a show set in an 80s context with specific narrative intentions. They wanna make the show into their own image instead of actually looking at the show and accepting what it says.

How are they not exhausted? Also, why do they care if you believe Henry is gay? No one's stopping them from believing otherwise.

Ate and left no crumbs.

Also, why do they care if you believe Henry is gay? No one's stopping them from believing otherwise.

Half of them seem to think that me saying Henry is gay takes away from Patty and her narrative importance, and that I'm doing so because I'm racist and misogynistic/I hate black women/etc.

What they don't seem to realize is that my actual point is: Patty is so much more than her relationship to Henry, and that her relationship to him is far more complex than "boy loves girl", just like Henry's relationship to Patty is more complex than "boy loves girl".

It's a whole thing that like...I don't think they understand that in their arguments against Henry as a gay man, they're tokenizing Patty as a black woman and she's the token "interracial rep" to them, just like Henry would be the token "bi rep" to them. Or if they do understand all that, they're being intentionally obtuse about it.

By using her relationship with Henry as a talking point they're reducing her down to her relationship with the white boy. In doing that, they argue in favor of Patty being nothing more than Henry's girlfriend/"I can fix him" therapist-y role. I'm not sure they realize exactly how destructive a narrative like that is, especially for a woman of color in relation to a white man. In reducing Patty to Henry's girlfriend, they're also erasing Patty's own queer coding, specifically her lesbian coding, as well as her struggle to use her "normal" relationship with Henry to find a place where she fits in/is accepted and where she can also gain autonomy from her controlling white father in a racist, heteronormative, patriarchal society that wants her to be as white-assimilated, "normal", and wife-ly as possible. She's seeking safety, rebellion, and emotional connection in a boy who "matches her freak", so to speak.

Henry, as a sweet, lonely, nerdy, gay white boy, is a golden goose. Patty, as a pretty, nerdy, ostracized weirdogirl, is Henry's golden goose. Supernatural aspects aside, they're each other's life rafts in a society that would condemn the "real" them.

But sure! Let's ignore all that for "he was a boy, she was a girl...Can I make it any more obvious?"

On top of that: I would still feel the same way about hentty and gay Henry if Patty was a white girl, which is evident in my feelings on Mike, El, and miIeven.

The other half re: bisexuality...well. We've been over that.

[eraofevermore]

[Black] LGBT Resources

National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC): The NBJC is a civil rights organization dedicated to empowering and advocating for the rights of Black LGBTQ+ individuals. They provide resources, support, and engage in policy advocacy to address the unique challenges faced by this community. Website: https://www.nbjc.org/

Black AIDS Institute: The Black AIDS Institute focuses on addressing HIV/AIDS-related health disparities within the Black community, including the LGBTQ+ population. They offer resources, education, and advocacy to promote HIV prevention, treatment, and care. Website: https://www.blackaids.org

The Audre Lorde Project: The Audre Lorde Project is a community organizing center for LGBTQ+ people of color. They work towards social and economic justice, offering programs, support groups, and resources to uplift and empower Black queer and trans individuals. Website: https://www.alp.org

The Marsha P. Johnson Institute: Named after the influential LGBTQ+ activist Marsha P. Johnson, this organization advocates for the rights and wellbeing of Black transgender people. They provide resources, educational initiatives, and support programs to address the unique challenges faced by this community. Website: https://www.marshap.org

National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN): NQTTCN is a network of mental health practitioners dedicated to providing culturally responsive and affirming therapy to LGBTQ+ people of color, including Black individuals. They offer a directory of therapists and resources for finding supportive mental health services. Website: https://www.nqttcn.com

Black Transmen Inc.: Black Transmen Inc. is an organization focused on empowering and supporting transgender men of color. They provide resources, mentorship, and programming to address the specific needs and challenges faced by Black trans men. Website: https://www.blacktransmen.org

Black Transwomen Inc.: Black Transwomen Inc. is a national nonprofit organization dedicated to uplifting and empowering Black transgender women. They offer resources, support groups, and advocacy initiatives to address the unique struggles faced by this community. Website: https://www.blacktranswomen.org

The Transgender District: Located in San Francisco, the Transgender District is the first legally recognized district in the world dedicated to celebrating and supporting transgender and gender nonconforming communities. They offer resources, community programming, and support for Black transgender individuals. Website: https://www.transgenderdistrictsf.com

The Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund (TLDEF): TLDEF is a nonprofit organization that advocates for transgender rights through impact litigation, public policy work, and education. While their focus is on transgender rights in general, they work to ensure that the unique needs and challenges faced by Black transgender individuals are addressed. Website: https://www.transgenderlegal.org

The Black Lesbian Archives: The Black Lesbian Archives is an online platform that documents and preserves the history and experiences of Black lesbian communities. They aim to celebrate and uplift Black lesbian voices and provide a space for sharing stories, resources, and cultural contributions. Website: https://www.blacklesbianarchives.com

The Black Trans Advocacy Coalition (BTAC): BTAC is a national organization dedicated to empowering and uplifting Black transgender and gender nonconforming individuals. They provide resources, education, and support programs to address the social, economic, and health disparities faced by Black trans communities. Website: https://www.blacktrans.org

[ts1989fanatic]

Taylor Swift's fans are renowned for their loyalty and dedication.

Known colloquially as "Swifties," they sell out stadiums in minutes; spend weeks creating intricate outfits that pay tribute to her albums; comb through her lyrics to find Easter eggs and secret messages.

Back in November, the fandom received national attention for taking action after Ticketmaster bungled the Eras Tour presale.

The backlash was so loud and so fervent that the Department of Justice launched an antitrust investigation into Ticketmaster's parent company. The power of Swifties became clearer than ever.

Indeed, the sheer passion of Swift's fans has helped make her the biggest pop star in the world — but that doesn't grant them absolute access to her life and personal space.

Recently, Swift obsessives have been exhibiting overzealous — and frankly concerning — behavior. Videos have circulated online that show swarms of people camping outside her home in New York City and Electric Lady Studios, where she's been spotted working in between tour dates. Other clips show fans chasing her car down the street.

It's one thing to wait for hours in the pouring rain to watch Swift deliver a spectacular concert. That's her job. It's another, more sinister thing to wait for hours on the sidewalk, just to film her car entering her home garage. That's her life.

Swift has been candid about fending off stalkers throughout her career, making this behavior particularly egregious for anyone who claims to care about her well-being.

"My fear of violence has continued into my personal life," she wrote for Elle in 2019. "I carry QuikClot army-grade bandage dressing, which is for gunshot or stab wounds. Websites and tabloids have taken it upon themselves to post every home address I've ever had online. You get enough stalkers trying to break into your house and you kind of start prepping for bad things."

This is not to say that Swift's most fervent fans are all stalkers, but it's easy to see how this behavior could be triggering for someone who's been stalked. And as Swift said in her "Miss Americana" documentary in 2020, "There's a difference between 'I really connect with your lyrics' and 'I'm going to break in.'" Some Swifties clearly need to be reminded of where that line is.

This is also not the first time Swifties have overstepped. Some fans have been known to harass members of the LGBTQ community for analyzing Swift's songs through a queer lens. Others have sent insults and death threats to music critics for less-than-glowing reviews of Swift's music.

Of course, this behavior isn't unique to Swifties. But Swift's lack of admonition is uniquely strange. She has marketed herself as someone who's not afraid to speak up to defend her values, someone who has explicitly condemned homophobes and bullies in her music.

Swift has also said she's proud of her affectionate relationship with fans. She has invited Swifties to her Nashville home for album listening parties; sent personalized notes to celebrate milestones; donated money for college tuitions; protected concertgoers from aggressive security guards.

Unfortunately, a healthy relationship cannot be sustained with affection alone, be it interpersonal or parasocial.

At the risk of sounding like a wannabe therapist, constructive feedback is essential for growth — and when someone you love disrespects your boundaries, it's not constructive to say silent.

This is something that Phoebe Bridgers, Swift's friend and collaborator, knows all too well.

Although Bridgers experiences fame on a vastly different level than Swift, she has also been subjected to abuse and entitlement at the hands of "people with my picture as their Twitter picture."

In a March interview with Them, Bridgers said she was "bullied" in the midst of a speculative frenzy about her dating life — while she was on the way to her father's funeral.

"I've had people take more than I'm giving, and I'm giving a lot," Bridgers recently told the Wall Street Journal. "I'm pretty fucking transparent, because I would value that in someone whose music I liked when I was a kid. Seeing any representation of any feeling and anything true was awesome to me. To be punished for that is so dark."

"There's a higher chance that you'll meet a fan that you hate than a fan that you love," she added. "You're way more likely to be confronted with someone who just violated your privacy."

If these quotes rub you the wrong way, you may be the problem.

Connecting to a person's music does not give you the right to violate her privacy, and Bridgers isn't afraid to draw that line. I wish more musicians would follow suit.

Ahead of Bridgers' final performance at the Eras Tour on Sunday, I hope Swift is able to absorb some of her bravery and wisdom. It's OK to criticize people for bad behavior — and the fans who stick around are the ones worth keeping.

ts1989fanatic

Even the media can get it right on occasion, the recent behaviour by some so called swifties is bordering on STALKING and needs to stop.

Unless we all want to go back to why she disappeared again.

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[queer-muslim-culture-is]

does anyone relate to me as a queer muslim?

Just wanted to put a disclaimer that I personally am not acting on it but I did find a way to reconcile my queer identity and religion <3

I grew up mostly thinking I was straight but in my teens I didn't label with heterosexuality anymore. I was never really passionate about queer activism but I recall being uncomfortable with homophobia at masjid and gatherings but I never thought about it too much until may 2022

That is May 27 2022 to be specific, the stranger things release date. Im not going off topic lol I promise. So basically I converted from being a mileven shipper to a byler shipper after watching. This was when my queer religious crisis started. I loved Mike and Wills relationship and I thought it was so beautiful from the way they treat each other. I was reading fanfics, watching edits, reading analysis 24/7. How could it be wrong

I knew that the logic with ''Sinful'' actions is that even though you desire benefits coming from it, and you intend good things to come out of it, the reason why its a sin is because unseen harmful effects come out of it even though that's not what we intend. ''But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.'' I could deal with the fact that queer actions were forbidden cause that meant you don't hate the sinner or the ''Sin'' but only the fact that your action has ''harmful unseen/unknown affect'' that you just have to trust in God that its there and that he would only make harmful things forbidden. For example: Promiscuity is a sinful behavior in islam, and God considers it disgusting because it is harmful, but in Jannah all the harmful effects of your desires are removed, this explains why alcohol and hoor al ayn, music etc exist in Jannah. So can I act on my queer desires in Jannah? I made the horrible mistake of going to cishet people with this question and obviously they said NO. I was so fucking pissed and mad and I felt guilty for being mad because it felt like I was questioning Allah. But mostly I was hurt because God is not who I thought he was and I felt ignored, betrayed, neglected, and I took the queerphobia as my image of God. It just made me even more pissed off when people said '' you will get something better'' why can't I get what i asked for and be treated normally like everyone else with their forbidden desires? After suffering an entire lifetime of homophobia and abstinence, God wants to brush this issue under the rug and ignore it even though it becomes a part of who a person is, where is the justice?? At that point I felt like if I couldn't get queer liberation in the next life for myself I would want it for someone else and I would fight for it. I had��mercy in my heart for queer people. So this does not make sense cuz GOD IS THE MOST MERCIFUL, more merciful that any lgbtq+ activist on this earth, so God surely must out mercy me

I went through a religious crisis period for 6 months just constantly soaking up all the queerphobic media online from muslims. I felt sick reading all of it and I felt my heart drop. Why do muslims deny that queerness is not a choice. Why do these scholars have rights to speak on issues they've never experienced. How can a person tell another person how they feel. How can you deny centuries of queer people and why do some muslims make fun of queer people, hate us, think were disgusting etc. I really never felt any righteousness or respect from these people yet they say ''respect not support'' tf? I started getting depressed, failing in school because I took these people and modeled my image of Allah based on them. Why wont I get what I want in this life or the next? So my love was considered ''disgusting'' for no reason.

Then months later, everything changed. I started talking to God everyday and treated him like my therapist and I vented out all the pain of queerphobia. I did scientific research on queerness and found out that is generally innate/unchangeable and internalized homophobia turned into anger towards queerphobic people. I was just crying out to Allah wishing that Queer Love could be honored and respected one day and that slowly, naturally it turned into me making dua to Allah that queer people could act on it in Jannah. I for some reason thought it would be more acceptable to ask for queer relations without the sexual aspect lmfao my puritarian era. So anyways I slowly started making Dua to Allah often and asked all the time for queer liberation in the next life and for people I knew in real life, online, my moots, queer muslims who passed away etc. I turned the anger of queerphobia into calling out to Allah to ask for liberation for the queer ummah. I eventually also asked for the sexual aspects as well lmfao. I remember one day I prayed tahajjud and asked Allah for queer people to be with their lovers in the next life and to be themselves (gender identity) and I asked for a sign. I even talked to Allah about my love for byler lmfao dont judge me ok I was crying my ass off at the van scene where Will confessed to Mike. So anyways the ''Sign'' as I saw one day I was cleaning my room and read a book that said that Allah would never guide a person to make a dua if he didn't want to answer it. I was shook and long story short I learned that God is what you make of him and you must trust God when you make dua to him. Another Sign I saw was that I was a video literally explaining this concept in a tik tok another time after I made tahajjud and asked for the same thing again.

My perception of God has fundamentally changed and I am so grateful. Byler endgame 2024 <3

im just gonna quickly note that this blog *does* support acting on your queer attraction and i, as the mod, have multiple partners. i choose to interpret the stories that supposedly ban queerness otherwise (some of these interpretations are or will be shared in #resources) and that any harm that comes from it can either be mitigated (safe sex practices) or is the result of bigotry

but thank you for sharing your experience anon. genuinely happy that you managed to reconcile both with yourself and Allah :]

and hey, i get what you mean abt the fanfiction part skdfjh ! some of my earliest experiences w queerness were reading queer fics on ao3 and feeling,,, something. something i couldnt quite identify till years later. fics exposed me to queer romance, helped me come to terms with my allosexuality, and even helped me experiment with my gender in a way. i owe a lot to fic writers

[that-one-dark-smiley]

Hey let's make an actual introduction post

Hey guys

My name is Alex, I'm 19, my pronouns are he/him and they/them, feel free to use either

I am transgender and not quite sure if I am male or rather a demiboy but I do call myself a transguy since it does fit either way. I am also gay and demisexual.

I have ADHD and am autistic, have social anxiety, agoraphobia and depression (I'm seeing a therapist though and I don't vent in detail about this stuff online)

My interests include

Anime (kinda every genre, faves are Bungou Stray Dogs, Jujutsu Kaisen and Soul Eater)

Music (I'm currently learning how to play the electric guitar and I love singing)

Psychology

Biology (specifically Genetics, it's my special interest)

Gaming (fave is pokemon)

Sewing (I make my own clothes or upcycle them)

I like

Cats

Frogs

Snakes

Alt/rock/metal (taste in music)

Potatoes

Chocolate

I mostly post about being lgbtq+, my struggles with being trans and the joys in my life related to it, I also post about ADHD and autism from time to time, and I will try not to talk too much in detail about my anxiety and depression or other mental health issues since I don't want to end up triggering anyone. I want to create a nice little safe space here ya feel me?

DNI if you're

Transphobic or homophobic

A terf

Racist, sexist, classist, just a bigot

Attracted to minors

Just want to put hatred into the world

Fascist

Did I forget any?

Just don't be a jerk

Anyway I think that sums it up! Asks are open as well even though I don't know if anyone really uses that feature anymore

Have a great day!

[scrambleseggy]

If you’re LGBTQ+, I think you should read this.

My therapist sent this to me after I complained about the state of online tags being able to provide comfort and stability in a time I’m thinking about transition, and how I’m finding I need to pull myself away from social media more and more despite my hobbies to only talk with my IRL trans friends on my feelings.

If you’re feeling like social media hasn’t been kind to you as far as your identity and mental health goes, it’s not just you I promise. There has been a severe lack of protection for LGBTQ+ people online lately and it’s gotten worse for everyone.

I’m here for ya’ll and understand. Please don’t get wrapped up in online discourse and please think about the bigger picture. I’m scared for the future and we really need to be sticking together right now. I had felt my mental health decline after looking to social media for extra support and I think theres a reason why my experience with social media and wanting to potentially transition has been overwhelmingly negative. It was one of the big reasons I finally quit twitter based on the algorithm being shown to me.

I suggest avoiding a lot of tags, and if you don’t, blocking liberally and only sharing content from trusted sources that don’t speak from divisive extremism and niche online discourse.

Anyway, you deserve to love and be loved. Fuck all the online losers trying to make you feel bad in a time where it’s so hard to be LGBTQ+ online in general. We all deserve so much more than this.

[sissy-mommy]

Found Online. Can't Find the Sources.

A recent trend is emerging among fathers and sons – they're wearing lingerie together. While it may seem strange to some, experts believe it can be beneficial for the father-son relationship.

The idea of fathers and sons wearing lingerie together has been gaining traction in recent years, with more and more people taking part in the practice. According to Samantha Riedel, a lingerie designer, “People are starting to realize that lingerie and intimate apparel can be a way to express yourself and share something special with someone close to you.”

Dr. Sarah Lister, a family therapist, believes that this trend can be beneficial for father-son relationships. She says, “Wearing lingerie together can create an opportunity for fathers and sons to bond in a way that is different from the traditional male-oriented activities. It forces them to be vulnerable and open up emotionally.”

Dr. Lister also believes that it can help sons feel more comfortable expressing themselves. She adds, “When sons wear lingerie with their fathers, it gives them a chance to explore their femininity and express themselves in a safe and supportive environment.”

The trend has also been embraced by many in the LGBTQ+ community. According to Peter Smith, a spokesperson for the National LGBT Foundation, “It’s great to see fathers and sons connecting in a way that celebrates their differences and encourages open dialogue.”

The trend of fathers and sons wearing lingerie together is still in its infancy, but it’s clear that it’s growing in popularity. As more and more people embrace this practice, we may see more fathers and sons wearing lingerie together in the future.