#Judith Martin

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If you can't be kind, at least be vague.

Judith Martin (Miss Manners)

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Some time back, when Miss Manners wasn’t paying careful attention, Not Caring What Other People Think became an American social virtue.

“I don’t care what the invitation says. I’m going to wear what I want. I dress to be comfortable, not because I care what other people think.”

“I eat the way I please; what do I care what other people think?”

“I’m the one who’s getting married, so it doesn’t matter if they don’t like rock music or think the food is weird. I don’t care what other people think.”

“I never go to funerals. It doesn’t do any good for the person who counts, and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.”

These are callous statements of the me-first and me-only variety. They broadcast defiance of the feelings of the speaker’s hosts, fellow diners, guests, family, and friends. One would suppose that the reaction to be anticipated after such a stand is, “Oh, good for you, but then stay away from me.” Those who elect to disregard the standards of others or of society itself should, at the very least, find that people refuse to invite them, eat with the them, or attend their weddings or funerals. Persistent cases should even be prepared for attempts to hasten the last.

How is it then, that such pronouncements are made with anticipation of being admired, rather than ostracized? Why are they meekly accepted more often than condemned?

That declarations of selfishness are unchallenged is, Miss Manners believes, a result of their being confused with the heroic defiance of a private conscience faced with evil or foolish social pressure. “I don’t care what anyone else thinks!” can be a moral cry if hurled at the warning that one will be considered a prude for refusing to shoplift, a bad parent for not letting a child stay out half the night, or a failure for not having a new car. Using higher standards than one’s peers or refusing to make private decisions by group consensus is indeed something that should be performed with pride.

What about when society is right? That does happen occasionally. Any civilized settlement of human beings develops nonprovocative ways of performing common tasks. Patterns are set for such simple matters as eating and dressing, so that people do not run the risk of upsetting or disgusting others over trivial matters. Complying serves as a demonstration that one respects the community.

Where important emotions are concerned, such as in the major milestones of life, traditions and conventions give order to erratic feelings. By following the time-honored routines of weddings or funerals, one smooths over the chaotic mix of emotion to make a dignified event. Individual nerves become encased in communal ritual.

The beauty of convention is that it is readable. If your looks and actions are within the accepted bounds of the society, you are conveying a basic agreement with the prevailing order. That is why rebels seldom confine their symbolism to questions of ideals, but seek to outrage through dress and behavior as well.

A great many people now behave as if they believe that such acts do not contain symbolism. Challenged that others will be offended if they go barefoot to church or spit back in their plates what they don’t like, they claim that it is the reaction, not the action, that is inappropriate.

That is when the I Don’t Care What People Think defense appears. Disguised as idealistic defiance of obtrusive and petty standards, it attacks the doctrine of Consideration for Others, which is the basic premise of civilization. If the society truly subscribed to the notion that pursuing individual natural impulses is a higher form of behavior than tempering them to show consideration for others, those other would not be offended by such behavior. A standard that offends a majority cannot work.

Not Caring What Other People Think is, at best, ignorance of the necessity for people to be able to read one another’s behavior for signs of friendliness or hostility. At worst, it is a declaration of Not Caring How I Make Other People Feel.

— Miss Manners’ Guide for the Turn-of-the-Millennium, pgs. 14-15

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This Was Tomorrow or C₃S, C₂S, C₃A, C₄AF A book on cement & social housing in London. Words by architectural conservationist and historian, Judith Martin

Inspired by the seminal 1956 exhibition 'This is Tomorrow' at the Whitechapel Gallery, this publication aims to explore the evolution of urban housing and architecture. The exhibition, curated by notable figures such as Alison and Peter Smithson, photographer Nigel Henderson, and sculptor Eduardo Paolozzi, with a layout by Erno Goldfinger and a catalogue cover designed by Edward Wright, encapsulated a forward-thinking vision of modernism and urban living. The design for Keeling House, an early example of this vision, was already taking shape in 1956.

This work seeks to offer a fresh lens on the ongoing dialogue between historical architectural innovation and contemporary challenges, underscoring the enduring relevance of visionary design in addressing today's urban needs. In homage to the legacy of Le Corbusier, born in La Chaux-de-Fonds, Switzerland, in 1887, this publication employs Helvetica for its typeface. The front cover uses an ultra-compressed version of the font, echoing Edward Wright's minimalist design for the Whitechapel Gallery's 1956 'This is Tomorrow' catalogue. The book is printed by Sarsen Press, an independent printing company, operating from 22 Hyde Street, Winchester. It has been providing a traditional, supportive and bespoke service since 1979.

About the Contributors

Photography -  Enrico Policardo Born in Gorizia, northeastern Italy, Enrico Policardo's journey in photography began with studies in Udine and at the University of the Arts London (UAL). Now based in London.

Architectural Historian and Conservationist - Judith Martin Judith Martin, who studied at University College London (UCL) and Oxford Brookes, brings her expertise in 19th-century industrial architecture to this project. Her interest in modernist housing is sparked by pressing issues of housing need and the climate crisis.

Details  

28 pages, 20x20 cm Printed by Sarsen Press, Winchester in 2024 ISBN: 978-1-916722-14-9 for more and to get a copy please click here, you'l be redirected to my store on www.cardopoli.com my other website

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Judith Martin: Civilized

“We are all born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.” —Judith Martin, “Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behaviour”.

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An episode for the old school romance readers in the audience, we're talking about kidnapping this week! A trope that either absolutely works for readers (aka us) or absolutely doesn't, we talk about why that is, how the original romances of the 80s and 90s installed these buttons and how we still see the bones of old school kidnapping in delicious romances of today. That, and Jen reminds Sarah of books she wrote one time.

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And the Tony Award Goes to...

Six-Time Tony Winner Audra McDonald, reigning Queen of Broadway

In honor of the Tony nomination announcement today, it's about time I published this post I've had waiting for almost two months now. With 64 Divas in our tournament, they're practically drowning in Tonys. Collectively, 53 Divas have received one or more nominations across four eligible acting categories, and 31 have taken home the prize. And you'll never believe what tumblr's image limit is. 30.

As luck would have it, two Divas won Tonys in the same year and despite what might be the most dramatic height difference possible, Bebe Neuwirth and Janet McTeer were photographed together specifically so I could make this post work 27 years later. (Bebe in heels and Janet in flats, and still...)

Pictured (L to R): Andrea Martin (2013), Anika Noni Rose (2004), Bebe Neuwirth and Janet McTeer (1997)

Pictured (L to R): Bernadette Peters (2012), Beth Leavel (2006), Betty Buckley (1983)

Nominations: (excluding wins)

Nominations Overall: 125 Best Leading Actress in a Musical: 56 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 36 Best Leading Actress in a Play: 13 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 19 Producer: 1

Pictured (L to R): Cherry Jones (2004), Christine Baranski (1989), Debra Monk (1993)

Pictured (L to R): Donna Murphy (1996), Harriet Sansom Harris (2002), Heather Headley (2000)

Nominations: (including wins)

Nominations Overall: 175 Best Leading Actress in a Musical: 75 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 50 Best Leading Actress in a Play: 18 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 29 Producer: 3

Pictured (L to R): Jayne Houdyshell (2016), Joanna Gleason (1988), Judith Light (2012)

Pictured (L to R): Julie White (2007), Karen Ziemba (2000), Katie Finneran (2002)

Wins: (2024 pending)

Wins Overall: 50 Best Leading Actress in a Musical: 19 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 14 Best Leading Actress in a Play: 5 Best Featured Actress in a Musical: 10 Producer: 2

Pictured (L to R): Katrina Lenk (2018), Kelli O'Hara (2015), LaChanze (2023)

Pictured (L to R): Laurie Metcalf (2018), Lea Salonga (1991), Lillias White (1997)

Special Tony Awards (non-competitive):

Special Tony Award (posthumous): Marin Mazzie (my beloved) Isabelle Stevenson Award: Bernadette Peters, Judith Light

Pictured (L to R): Patti LuPone (2008), Stephanie J. Block (2019), Tonya Pinkins (1992)

Pictured (L to R): Tyne Daly (1990), Victoria Clark (2023)

Most Frequent Nominee: (including wins)

Leading Actress in a Musical: Kelli O'Hara (7) Featured Actress in a Musical: Andrea Martin (5) Leading Actress in a Play: Cherry Jones/Laura Linney (5) Featured Actress in a Play: Jayne Houdyshell/Judith Light/Julie White (3)

No Diva has won more than twice in any performance category. This will not change with the current nominees this year.

Oldest Winners:

Leading Actress in a Musical: Victoria Clark (63) Featured Actress in a Musical: Patti LuPone (72) Leading Actress in a Play: Laurie Metcalf (62) Featured Actress in a Play: Judith Light (64)

Oldest Nominee: Mary Beth Peil (76)

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Judith Anderson, Martin Landau, and Diane Baker in the pilot episode of “The Haunted” (The Ghost of Sierra de Cobre aka The Black Telephone) in 1965.

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Silver Screen magazine

Mary Martin's first movie!

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Martin Ebon - The Devil's Bride - Exorcism: Past and Present - Harper & Row - 1974 (jacket illustration by Judith Seifer)

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Goncharov 1973: Alexei and Volkov Queer/ Reading Analysis,  PART 1 

I’m going to talk a little bit about the characters Alexei Baranov and Volkov because the directors cut of Goncharov 1973 just came out and I’ve wanted to do a queer reading of this gay ass storyline so let’s goooooooo 

Volkov’s character engages with themes of fatherhood, toxic masculinity, and violence. We first meet Volkov when he vouches for a teenage Goncharov to join the Russian mob and work for him in their club. Something that’s actually very important is how stoic and blasé Volkov is about whether or not Goncharov is accepted into the mob since it later becomes apparent that Volkov was putting his own reputation with the mob on the line to invite Goncharov into it. We also discover that Volkov vouched for Goncharov in so the boy wouldn’t have to fend for himself in the streets during the harsh Russian winter. I interpret Volkov's display of apathy as a mask for his empathy and paternal affection towards Goncharov in order protect both Goncharov and himself from being discredited as “weak” and “unmasculine”. He even coached Goncharov to have “a stone’s face” during the interview with the mob boss. Not allowing yourself to display emotion for fear of being discredited, ridiculed, and ultimately emasculated is definitely giving toxic masculinity. However, Volkov’s relationship to toxic masculinity culture complicates Volkov’s role as a father figure to Goncharov. Volkov doesn’t seem to actually enjoy the culture of toxic masculinity at all. Rather, it appears that he views it as a performance one must give in order to survive and a performance he deems to be an essential to teach to Goncharov as a means of survival (giving very Judith Butler here). He believes that if he does not succeed in this task, it is a matter of life or death. Later in the movie (and especially Alexei's character) the tragic repercussions of that cultural mindset become apparent...

TLDR: Goncharov learns toxic masculinity from his mafioso father figure who's trying to protect his ass from getting killed by the Russian winter

Getting to Alexei in my next post!

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I read through Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior . I was about 11-12 and was thrilled to learn that there were -written- rules for social interactions. Plus she’s funny.

congratulations to people who are good at performing conversations and social interactions. did you take a class or is it just like genetics or whatever

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Sheila Hicks, Bumps and Whispers, ca. 1987

Agnes Martin, With My Back to the World, 1997

Judith Scott, Untitled, ca. 2003

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Griekse MAMMA MIA! persborrel

In het Griekse restaurant Dimitri’s Amsterdam kreeg de aanwezige pers een update over de nieuwe versie van de musical Mamma Mia van De Graaf en Cornelissen entertainment. Zo is de tekst geheel aangepast naar een wat moderne versie. Ook al heb je de musical al gezien, toch moet je deze versie gaan zien, volgens Hana Cornelissen. Momenteel wordt er nog hard gewerkt aan deze gloednieuwe versie, met…

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in honor of that anon who said jews have done nothing for the world, here’s a non exhaustive list of things we’ve done for the world:

arts, fashion, and lifestyle:

jeans - levi strauss

modern bras - ida rosenthal

sewing machines - isaac merritt singer

modern film industry - carl laemmle (universal pictures), adolph zukor (paramount pictures), william fox (fox film forporation), louis b. mayer (mgm - metro-goldwyn-mayer), harry, sam, albert, and jack warners (warner bros.), steven spielberg, mel brooks, marx brothers

operetta - jacques offenbach

comic books - stan lee

graphic novels - will eisner

teddy bears - morris and rose michtom

influential musicians - irving berlin, stephen sondheim, benny goodman, george gershwin, paul simon, itzhak perlman, leonard bernstein, bob dylan, leonard cohen

artists - mark rothko

actors - elizabeth taylor, jerry lewis, barbara streisand

comedians - lenny bruce, joan rivers, jerry seinfeld

authors - judy blume, tony kushner, allen ginsberg, walter mosley

culture:

esperanto - ludwik lazar zamenhof

feminism - betty friedan, gloria steinem, ruth bader ginsberg

queer and trans rights - larry kramer, harvey milk, leslie feinberg, abby stein, kate bornstein, frank kameny, judith butler

international women's day - clara zetkin

principles of journalizm, statue of liberty, and pulitzer prize - joseph pulitzer

"the new colossus" - emma lazarus

universal declaration of human rights - rene samuel cassin

holocaust remembrance and human rights activism - elie wiesel

workers rights - louis brandeis, rose schneiderman

public health care, women's rights, and children's rights - lillian wald

racial equity - rabbi abraham joshua heschel, julius rosenwald, andrew goodman, michael schwerner

political theory - hannah arendt

disability rights - judith heumann

black lives matter slogan and movement - alicia garza

#metoo movement - jodi kantor

institute of sexology - magnus hirschfeld

technology:

word processing computers - evelyn berezin

facebook - mark zuckerberg

console video game system - ralph henry baer

cell phones - amos edward joel jr., martin cooper

3d - leonard lipton

telephone - philipp reis

fax machines - arthur korn

microphone - emile berliner

gramophone - emile berliner

television - boris rosing

barcodes - norman joseph woodland and bernard silver

secret communication system, which is the foundation of the technology used for wifi - hedy lamarr

three laws of robotics - isaac asimov

cybernetics - norbert wiener

helicopters - emile berliner

BASIC (programming language) - john george kemeny

google - sergey mikhaylovich brin and larry page

VCR - jerome lemelson

fax machine - jerome lemelson

telegraph - samuel finley breese morse

morse code - samuel finley breese morse

bulletproof glass - edouard benedictus

electric motor and electroplating - boris semyonovich jacobi

nuclear powered submarine - hyman george rickover

the internet - paul baran

icq instant messenger - arik vardi, yair goldfinger,, sefi vigiser, amnon amir

color photography - leopold godowsky and leopold mannes

world's first computer - herman goldstine

modern computer architecture - john von neumann

bittorrent - bram cohen

voip internet telephony - alon cohen

data archiving - phil katz, eugene roshal, abraham lempel, jacob ziv

nemeth code - abraham nemeth

holography - dennis gabor

laser - theodor maiman

instant photo sharing online - philippe kahn

first automobile - siegfried samuel marcus

electrical maglev road - boris petrovich weinberg

drip irrigation - simcha blass

ballpoint pen and automatic gearbox - laszlo biro

photo booth - anatol marco josepho

medicine:

pacemakers and defibrillators - louise robinovitch

defibrillators - bernard lown

anti-plague and anti-cholera vaccines - vladimir aronovich khavkin

polio vaccine - jonas salk

test for diagnosis of syphilis - august paul von wasserman

test for typhoid fever - ferdinand widal

penicillin - ernst boris chain

pregnancy test - barnhard zondek

antiretroviral drug to treat aids and fight rejection in organ transplants - gertrude elion

discovery of hepatitis c virus - harvey alter

chemotherapy - paul ehrlich

discovery of prions - stanley prusiner

psychoanalysis - sigmund freud

rubber condoms - julius fromm

birth control pill - gregory goodwin pincus

asorbic acid (vitamin c) - tadeusz reichstein

blood groups and rh blood factor - karl landsteiner

acyclovir (treatment for infections caused by herpes virus) - gertrude elion

vitamins - caismir funk

technique for measuring blood insulin levils - rosalyn sussman yalow

antigen for hepatitus - baruch samuel blumberg

a bone fusion technique - gavriil abramovich ilizarov

homeopathy - christian friedrich samuel hahnemann

aspirin - arthur ernst eichengrun

science:

theory of relativity - albert einstein

theory of the electromagnetic field - james maxwell

quantum mechanics - max born, gustav ludwig hertz

quantum theory of gravity - matvei bronstein

microbiology - ferdinand julius cohn

neuropsychology - alexander romanovich luria

counters for x-rays and gamma rays - robert hofstadter

genetic engineering - paul berg

discovery of the antiproton - emilio gino segre

discovery of cosmic microwave background radiation - arno allan penzias

discovery of the accelerating expansion of the universe - adam riess and saul merlmutter

discovery that black hole formation is a robust prediction of the general theory of relativity - roger penrose

discovery of a supermassive compact object at the center of the milky way - andrea ghez

modern cosmology and the big bang theory - alexander alexandrovich friedmann

stainless steel - hans goldschmidt

gas powered vehicles

interferometer - albert abraham michelson

discovery of the source of energy production in stars - hans albrecht bethe

proved poincare conjecture - grigori yakovlevich perelman

biochemistry - otto fritz meyerhof

electron-positron collider - bruno touschek