#It's been so long!

[thebramblewood]

A day in the life of a brat.

[tblsomedoodles]

The Preferable Alternative - Part 17

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[thespoonlord]

Taking it easy on a snowy day 💙🩵👑

[saradiation]

crab shirt 🦀

[secretobsessionstuff]

Guess What!

Guys I'm so excited! I'm getting top surgery in November!! I can't believe it's actually happening, I'm gonna cry!

[ultrakdramamama]

240403 dlstmxkakwldrl @griffinenter @dlstmxkakwldrl #griffin #onew 오래 기다렸지? 고마워!

[eng tran] @griffinenter @dlstmxkakwldrl #griffin #onew You waited a long time, right? Thanks!

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그리핀 엔터테인먼트는 보석을 지키는 환상의 동물 그리핀처럼 각자의 색으로 빛나는 아티스트들을 엔터테인먼트라는 하나의 둥지에서 지키고 보호하며, 그들이 가진 재능과 역량을 꽃피울 수 있는 둥지가 되는 것을 목표로 하고 있습니다.

아티스트들의 안식처가 되는 곳, 그리핀 엔터테인먼트입니다. 그리핀의 1호 아티스트, 온유를 소개합니다.

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GRIFFIN Entertainment, drawing its name from the legendary guardian of priceless relics, is dedicated to safeguarding and nurturing our artists. We strive to provide a sanctuary where artists can thrive and let their distinct gifts and talents illuminate the world.

We would like to introduce Griffin's first artist - ONEW.

[selcouthangel]

Update

Hi! I haven't been here in almost a year!! so many things happened/are happening... Where do I start!? Last time I was babbling about this cute guy I liked, the one I met while working at school (link for context https://www.tumblr.com/selcouthangel/738504660728561664/ahhhh-you-dont-go-around-deducing-the?source=share) ... anyway I learned how to cuddle and kiss...that's a huge thing for me! turns out I also learned how to hug and hold hands haha so fastforward!! He proposed in June and we are getting married in December...

[kazimakuwabara]

The spirit of Kuwama finally possessed me and gave me a lil idea to doodle out.

[ask-thebrothers-kaiba]

“This is fucking bullshit.”

"I'm going to ask you to repeat that. Make your next choice of words wise."

What was this woman's problem?

[britishchick09]

yesterday night was a week since my kitty got laryngitis... and she finally said one of her words last night! 'meh-eer'! :D

[teamxdark]

I got some writing done last night!

[grievedifferent]

❝ oh, hey. where have you been?? ❞ // * @xyumeni liked for a starter from fujita akira !!

[pajorko]

I've just came back home, tuned in to Wob game and saw Kasia in the goal ahhh evening made 🥹

[michameinmicha]

Stumbled upon this random ship (in a fandom im not active in myself) that has like 150 works on ao3 which are all from just two people gifting each other fics about this pairing back and forth and theyve been doing it for 3 years... i think thats true love probably

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Expertise can't help you here.

[powdermelonkeg]

Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess