#It was actually in our drafts since last friday- sorry i forget to upload it kid TvT - Digi

[the-masked-society]

I remember a while ago that we came across a video of a system on tiktok. They said something along the lines of "how dangerous it can be to tell someone what your roles are", "and especially if you are a trauma holder," and more along those lines.

Now I don't know this system, I don't even remember their account name, and I don't plan to go looking for it since it doesn't matter, but the fact people think that is pretty dumb :/

Like yeah I can stand behind that statement if you go around sharing your triggers or your trauma, but mostly that doesn't happen until you like trust the person a lot and believe they won't go around and play gossip girl with it.

They specifically said "telling people you are a trauma holder", and that's baffling, cause that's only a statement that can make people know that this specific alter is more sensitive and need more caution and care than most others. It is literally only a label, nothing more. Saying that can be dangerous to the alter is the same as saying that protectors shouldn't say that they are ones, because people will take advantage of that. How?

Having a protector or two who doesn't make it known to outsiders that they are ones until needed is a pretty good idea, and we have experience with those too, but the purpose of a protector is to be like 'nah uh here's the boundary of how much of your shit I can tolerate before I'll do something about it', and then do it. How can that be harmful to them? They enforce boundaries for the sake of everyone and make sure no one do something they don't need to do

Some trauma holders tend to hold a lot of mixed things to not burden others with remembering or dealing with the emotional baggage of them, and cause of this some are meek in nature and wouldn't speak up if they go through a situation they don't like. Even if that's a online deal and they get talked over. The fact they're making others aware can be good for them because this way they'll be treated with the patience they deserve.

Like telling someone in real life of any physical problems you got or disabilities you struggle with. You can get the accommodations you deserve to have. It doesn't really make you that vulnerable unless you speak more about it and tell how does it trouble you, which can make it a bit more troubling.

Like yeah, If you plan to go share about every single thing about yourself in great details online,, you probably shouldn't do it, especially if you are a trauma holder. But if you're just here to chill and dissociate from life like me, than it gets pretty stupidly annoying to see people tell you what you can and should or shouldn't do.

Like thank you I'm a big kid If I can survive on the internet I can handle myself pretty good :/

- Sincerely, a trauma holder