#Is Senshi being his kindest most understanding self in this scene?

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Please say sike right now.

Izutsumi in this scene is not familiar with spoons. She's not holding it in a backhand grip because that's easier for her, but because she doesn't know how else to use it. And while ordinarily I'd agree that someone shouldn't be made to eat something they don't want to, there very much isn't an unlimited amount or variety of food available to the party and they all need a balanced, varied diet. This is a recurring theme throughout the series.

It is not abuse, not "parents forcing manners on kids", it's Senshi doing his best to ensure Izutsumi is fed with the limited tools available to him.

Also, while there are ways that parents making children behave a certain way can be abusive, it is also the job of a parent to make sure the kid knows how they are expected to behave in public.

Senshi finally has a real youngling to father around (to Chilchuck's relief)

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#Is Senshi being his kindest most understanding self in this scene?#no he's not#But given understanding of his history I don't think we can really blame him for that#*THIS* is what you're calling abuse over???#From the episode where the gang frees her from what is essentially a slave collar

I'd like to add on that this scene is intentionally framed this way at first to Lind of demonstrate their contrasting traumas clashing, but in the immediate aftermath the way Senshi handles it is VERY different from how she's used to: before, she was scolded and punished for doing things her way because of a flimsy "its just not the right way" excuse. Senshi, meanwhile, apologizes for scaring her, sympathizes with the fact that her way is more familiar to her, and gives a demonstration of why using utensils differently from the way they're made to be used can be a problem.

it's not about "manners" or appearances, it's about using a tool correctly. Which is objectively the right way to teach a child something like this, all the way down to "I want you to think about why you're supposed to use things a certain way." Senshi is always more concerned with using things to their fullest capacity and not being wasteful as much as he can, rather than the propriety that wealthy household from Shuro's country would be.

Senshi finally has a real youngling to father around (to Chilchuck's relief)