Some intersex people genuinely don't want to be included but the majority of us want to be. It's actually really difficult to be in queer spaces that consistently enforce sex binaries, never use the updated progress flag with us, and never have intersex flags.
Often the idea that we don't want to be included comes from intersexists who want us to remain as "disorders of sexual development" (outdated offensive term). It's unfortunate that this idea permeates the queer community so much.
You can see photos from this intersex organization using the pride flag, if you need more than an anon's word. https://interactadvocates.org/#
Thanks for the information!
I didn't know "disorders of sex development" was considered outdated and offensive, I thought it was actually a modern (more formal?) alternative to "intersex". Unless that was "differences of sex development"? (I almost tagged it on the original post but I wasn't sure what the term was.) Ah, I found more information on the link (x). Thanks for the website, very helpful!
This subpage is a great source on intersex people wanting to be included! It's a bit more ambivalent than I expected - combined with this anon's word and my previous impressions it seems like there are still a significant amount of intersex people who don't want to be a part of the queer community, but the ones who do want to be included would much prefer the queer community open its arms. So it seems to me the best course is to do so and the intersex people who want to can individually distance themselves (my impression is most people of that group more want to be personally distanced than think 'I' should never be a part of 'LGBTQA') and only partake in intersex communities.
We recommend adding intersex to your organization’s LGBTQIA+ acronym only once you have intersex leadership, consultation and/or resources. Intersex people have very specific needs, just like each letter of the acronym.
This line in particular stood out to me because they only provide guidance for what organizations should do... I feel like most times when the decision is being made whether or not to use the intersex progress flag, it's individuals and small groups like my GSA making posts, selling merch, decorating a space, etc. that aren't serving any needs besides community for anyone... I guess I already came to the conclusion to include by default though? (Honestly this page feels just barely strong enough for me to send to anyone if this question comes up in the future, so if anyone has any more sources do send in more anons!)
Honestly I was hoping for something like "our survey of as many intersex forums/organizations/people as possible found that 80% of intersex people want to be included in 'LGBTQIA', pride events/orgs, and the progress pride flag" --that this had been "laid to rest" and I could just tell my friend straight "no, intersex people want to be included now"-- , but of course I shouldn't expect things to be too simple haha, people & groups are nuanced and nuance comes in the form of caveats. At least I feel much more informed now!
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ChenfordWeek23 - Day 2: TV Tropes Day
option 1: spin the wheel and pick a random trope + fic type
-> trapped in an elevator + song fic
when you're by my side
TW: mentions of trauma, TW: panic attack, TW: enclosed and dark space, TW: DOD mention
starts below the cut because of TWs
One moment she’s fine, talking about the case and even smiling with Tim and Aaron, and then suddenly she can’t breathe. Suddenly, she’s back in that barrel, buried somewhere in the ground in the middle of nowhere, no way of escaping unless someone finds her in time. Suddenly, the feeling of running out of air, of suffocating, consumes her entire body, clogging her throat, and has her lungs constricting painfully in her chest as she tries to just breathe.
She just needs to breathe and force the images of that awful day from her mind, but it doesn’t work. Her eyes snap closed, trying to will the images away but still.. nothing. Nothing but all-consuming pain.
Everything around her fades away, so she doesn’t notice as Tim turns his attention away from grumbling about why the elevator stopped, toward her when he notices her labored breathing. Doesn’t see how his face goes from as relaxed as can be while on the job to absolutely terrified and concerned for her.
“Lucy? Hey, what’s- hey, breathe,” he says as he’s reaching for her in the semi-darkness of the elevator.
She doesn’t pull away from him, which is a good sign, but the physical contact and his encouraging words don’t help. She’s already in too deep to be pulled out quickly. She whimpers, subconsciously reaching for the collar of her shirt with a shaky hand, trying to get it out of the way but it won’t budge, while the other wanders to her side where the tattoo is.
Tim doesn’t even think about what he’s doing when he reaches for her body cam, turns it off, and then takes it off, letting it disappear in one of his pockets. Nobody should ever be allowed to see such a private, vulnerable moment. It really doesn’t need to be broadcast to the world.
He doesn’t care about any protocol, or rules, or whatever, or that Aaron is right there next to them; his only concern is Lucy.
keep reading on ao3.
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an interesting thing abt jgy antis is like. where is the source of their, shall we say, negative opinion of jgy? like, 1. jgy is a villain, he does horrible things with no remorse, he’s willing to do everything to achieve his selfish, egotistical goals. --> 2. the source of this claim: this, this and this scene. --> 3. alright, but to me -- says someone who’s not an anti -- this reads differently. that he did all those things, and did them on purpose and without remorse, is not that obvious to me. why do you think that? --> 4. well, obviously because he’s a villain and does horrible things with no remorse.
like... he’s evil because he does bad things, and he does bad things because he’s evil. i’m interested in how antis came by those opinions, but a, unfortunately i have them all blocked, and b, even if i or someone else made a poll, it wouldn’t be authentic because no sane anti is going to say “well, people hated him and wrote all those things about him on twt, so i started hating him as well”, or “i only care about wgxn, you could sell me anything about other characters if your arguments were convincing enough because i zoned out during the parts when wgxn weren’t on screen/pages of the book”. it’s all “written in the book/shown in the show” and “logical arguments you’d agree with if only you could read”.
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My Patreon and Ko-fi subscriptions are on hiatus!
Just wanna announce about it, you know, in case you might wonder why the lack of stuff related to those.
I am planning to get it back up on January, it could be later than that. But I'm also thinking about closing em altogether.
The monetary support was such a massive help and I can't really be thankful enough; and I do believe the sketch/doodle request had helped me improve on stuff. However I underestimated how actually unpredictable my speed on drawing is. Sometimes I have a pace. But when my drawing speed gets slow, it gets real slow. The owed drawings catch up on each other, and the general schedule becomes an ugly mess. 😅 Seems like I'm not cut out for this much responsibility for consistency that comes with a subscription-based page; and seems the practical thing to do is just get rid of it, and get back to owning moneh just through commissions.
Bad ending but Hey at least aside from the financial help I personally experience what it's like to have a Patreon too.
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Not all who wander are lost - Gridania
Old Gridania │ Stillglade Fane │ Leatherworkers' Guild │ Westshore Pier
"First time in a big city was rather shocking for a boy who grew beneath the Shroud's trees. Hyurs, elezen, and even fellow miqo'te, just going on about their day. Living so close together. With a little push from Miounne, I made it through the first few days and got accepted to study conjury.
Stillglade Fane became another home, countless hours spent on it's calm silence, trying to hear even the faintest whisper of the elementals like our mentors had taught us. Or just reading book upon book, scroll upon scroll of past knowledge of herbs and aether.
It all seems like a lifetime away. I've since seen lands I couldn't have even imagined while still an apprentice. Seen sights only mentioned in books, made everlasting friendships. Learnt to draw upon the power in myself and others.
Offering my help to all who need it."
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