#I'm a VERY due date oriented person but this has just made me not believe your due dates or urgency lol

[itstimetodrew]

Boss: Hey sorry can you get this done ASAP⁉ it's super important high priority and we need it today EOD IMMEDIATELY!!!!

Me: Yeah sure, here you go, only took a couple hours.

Boss: [offline, no response]

Boss: [2 days later] Thank you 👍

[transmascpetewentz]

A Short Guide To Writing Gay Trans Men

So a few disclaimers before I start:

I'm not going to talk about anything sex-related here because 1) people have made other guides and google is your friend & 2) I'm not very comfortable with it.

I am just one person, and due to the fact that I am white and thin and perisex, I will definitely have blind spots. If you want more information about intersections that don't apply to me, ask someone who it does apply to!

I did get lots of messages from trans guys giving me advice on this, but nonetheless I do not speak for absolutely everyone.

There will be very little info here on how to accurately write medical transitions because that's not something I've experienced. Google is your best friend on this one.

This is not a complete post. I will keep adding to it as time goes on. If you're seeing this post reblogged by someone else, click on the original to see if I've made any additions or corrections before you send me that anon hate and/or comment telling me to kill myself.

What Not To Do

When there is a trans male character written by a cis person, especially a cis man, there's a very solid chance that he is going to check off at least 9 of the following boxes:

Thin

White

Able-bodied

Neurotypical or LSN neurodivergent

Binary

No nuance given to his identity and expression

Sexuality not specified or elaborated on

A cis person's love interest

2 dimensional transmasc stereotype

Usually small and feminine, but not actually femme

Gay transmasc characters written by cis people are very difficult to find because cis authors will often not specify the sexuality of the trans man dating a cis man or elaborate on his connection to the MLM community. This is because many cis authors believe that writing a gay trans man is just writing a woman but switching one of the genders. This is, of course, not true, and there must be more care taken to provide nuance and create a more accurate (and non-dysphoria-inducing) representation.

Moving Past The White Twink Stereotype

This is one of the most basic bars to clear for a cis person writing a gay trans man, and yet so many continue to fail at this very simple task. Ask yourself: is your gay transmasc character a white, hairless, thin person? If the answer is yes, that's not inherently a bad thing, though it may be good to reflect on why you want to create a character like this if this is the only type of transmasc representation you write.

The biggest thing you need to do here is to give him a set of defining traits. Not physical traits, not even gender expression traits. Just personality. What kind of person is he? How does he cope with the transphobia in this world (unless you're writing a fantasy universe without transphobia)? How does he act towards strangers? How does he approach people of different genders? What is his outlook on cis people? Once you have the basics, it's time to think about his physical appearance & expression and how that has impacted his life and his personality.

You also want to avoid the trope where a gay trans man's personality is undeveloped and he is treated as an object for cis men to help them advance their character arcs. It's fine for trans men to serve a purpose like that in the story, but they need to be their own individual humans.

Writing Sexuality

If your trans male characters date men, and I cannot reiterate this enough, make them be open about their homosexuality or bisexuality. Give them a sexual orientation and make them be proud of it. Of course, not every gay trans man is going to identify heavily with a masc/fem role in gay male relationships, but you should seriously consider whether or not your character would.

Additionally, don't follow the flawed line of logic of "trans man -> vagina -> bottom -> fem/femme." It's fine to make your gay trans male characters fem but please, I swear to god please give them a good reason for being so. If you do make your character femme, be very cautious to use language that doesn't trigger actual trans men's dysphoria. Don't constantly point out the character's physical features that may be associated with femininity unless you're making a point either about his dysphoria or about how society treats him or maybe about how he comes to accept his body. However, please be extremely careful with the last one as this trope has been used in so many transphobic portrayals.

Have your gay trans male character exist in gay spaces with other gay men (both cis and trans). Have him be open about being a gay man specifically. Give him cis gay male friends. Give him trans gay male friends. Don't allow your reader to ignore the fact that he is very much a gay man.

Dysphoria

For the love of all things good, please do not write your gay trans male character's dysphoria as "from the day I was born, I knew I was born in the wrong body. I have had no internalized shame or guilting into making me doubt my transness, and it was obvious that I was not a woman." That's not how anyone's dysphoria works, even if they did know from a young age that they were born in the wrong body.

For gay trans men specifically, most of us end up realizing we're trans around either age 12 or age 20. This doesn't mean he has to be exactly that age, but that's generally the safest age to have your character's egg crack. Of course, you can sprinkle in signs that he's trans since he was a young child, but I know a lot of gay trans men and I have yet to meet one who has known since birth and has had no doubt in his mind about it. However you can and should write older gay trans men, even some who find out they're trans in their 40s or older. Representation of older trans people is seriously lacking compared to how many there are.

Don't make your character the stereotype of a straight trans man who doesn't face the specific intersection of being trans and gay. Facing this intersection does affect something even as personal as dysphoria. Many of us will have self-doubt, believe that we're disgusting fetishists of gay men, or simply exist as women in gay spaces for a time. You also have to take into account gay beauty standards & your character's upbringing to figure out what they're likely to be most dysphoric about.

hi :3

That's it for now. I'll keep adding to this post as I get feedback and suggestions. If you want more advice, feel free to send me an ask. When I get enough asks about things, I'll make an FAQ post answering some of them.

[idontwanttospoiltheparty]

"It kind of feels freudian"

"It's heteronomative"

Well that's because of the time and society they lived in. Also it's no secret that both of them projected their parental issues on each other. Especially Paul. But again I want to hear your thoughts about this situation.

In response to this post + my tags.

DISCLAIMER: A lot of these thoughts I have are a result of my own wrestling and coming to terms with my sexuality. Just want to explicitly acknowledge that (and I can perhaps elaborate on my personal experience if someone wants more clarification).

I don't quite get what something being "freudian" has to do with the time and society, however, I'll grant that, yes, probably, to someone growing up in 60s England, sex was inherently culturally linked to power, which has its origins in sexist ideas about a woman and a man's role while engaging in sexual acts, and that regardless of one's own sexual orientation, those ideas would influence one.

That being said, I don't think sex is inherent to power, or vice versa. You bring up parental issues, which is a classic example of power dynamics. The "freudian" part of such discussions is to see the two (parental issues and sex) as intrinsically linked. I believe these things can intermingle in confusing ways within someone (like they did specifically for John due to his childhood circumstances) but the statement "Paul replaced John with his dad and then sought to both impress and undermine him in similar ways he did with Jim" is for me something that can stand, decoupled from whether or not he was sexually attracted to John. At the same time, I acknowledge that Paul somewhat viewed Linda as a mother replacement, while obviously being attracted to her and same with John and Yoko. What I question is the implication that these two things must be linked. And I wonder what exactly such an analysis implies for a sexual relationship that is "calm" in its nature and doesn't primarily involve that push-and-pull talked about in the original post.

Which brings me to my main thoughts, which is that sexuality is, in my opinion, a purely physical experience (Foucault can COME at me. This is [partially] why I dropped out of the humanities). Everything else attached to it is cultural, which, to my uber-rational brain, means it's made-up. That's not to say I'm cold and don't value "feelings", I think anyone taking a more than passing glance at my blog would see it's quite the opposite, but I hesitate to label behaviour that doesn't directly refer to sexual feelings as being sexual/romantic (I use the word romantic sometimes because it's practical, but to me personally, the concept of "romance" encompasses all that which is cultural, that is to say made-up which, is associated with sexual relationships) as such. Paul liked touching John a lot during the First US Visit? That's very sweet! But I don't see much point in questioning the why exactly he did that beyond that he liked John and was seeking comfort through touching him (or perhaps seeking to comfort him). I don't see why wanting physical comfort means one Actually wants sex with someone, or to kiss them or go on dates with them or anything. Yes, the idea of romance we as a society have developed will be utilized to signal sexual desires, but there have and always will be exceptions, represented by people who, for whatever reason, don't interract with the complex language of relationships as society dictates.

I said basically on my first day on Bug Tumblr, when asked about my views on John and Paul, that these two resist our culture's ideas of what a typical friendship entails.* I specifically brought up them using terms like “marriage” when making reference to their relationship. It may be because of underlying sexual feelings but it may also be because the frameworks we use to define friendship are limited and the two were somewhat aware of this. (I also note that people seem to ignore or put less weight on the times they've referred to each other as brothers.)

*You can also see in this post why I approach John and Paul's respective sexualities differently.

The post I was responding to with those tags made reference to how fandom spaces idealize Bromances and Platonic Soulmates (which I 100% agree happened and is happening), however, real life (in our current western society) very rarely values concepts like these over romantic/sexual relationships. Marriage and kids, living in your own home with your partner, valuing them above everyone else in your life, is still the endgoal (and you can see this in how often that is the happy ending envisioned for John and Paul when you search the McLennon tag on ao3). John and Paul themselves were clearly influenced by this culture as well, as I talked about once, and I believe that was a major factor in their falling-out, but it doesn’t mean that I have to use those frameworks when analysing them.

I prefer trying to take things for what they are and not trying too hard to make them fit into some preconceived idea I have of what romance or friendship should or shouldn’t entail.

I hope this makes sense to you, and as always, feel free to ask me for an elaboration.

[moons-and-stars-and-shit]

Oh I've been waiting for this moment hihihi. so may a request a 🍰

Appearance:

Not really too much to brag about but... i’m 5’2, toned skin, medium brown hair( still have some green remnants)slim body thin waist + pretty marked hip (one of the parts of my body that i really like ) but oddly thick thighs. Dark brown eyes and small but still full lips.

Style / Aesthetic :Don't know exactly how to describe this, but most of the time I work with grunge,dark academia and vintage, but often you can see me in cotagecore and glam chic outfits. or a big mix of this

Personality:

I’m a taurus, Libra rising and Sag moon , ESFP,Love to make new friends and i can be pretty talkative...principally if we talking about art, music , cooking , animes or sports .I’m a ravenclaw ,I can be really stubborn but I'm trying to work on this, people also say i have short temper, but i can't believe this.Teasing sarcastic and flirty are some adjectives I can add to my personality description, it is actually so natural that i probably do without notice. I can be a really crackhead sometimes, especially when I'm with my friends, but mostly I try to use the reason . I can be pretty clingy to my close friends and family. Also I can be pretty random, being my friend means that you will receive some messages/ videos at 3 AM or even get a new playlist in full Tuesday :)

Hobbies and random stuff :

I love cooking / baking i actually have a “brand ” of homemade biscuits (family’s recipe), I can play volleyball and badminton and i normally do this with my friends(in the end of High school i played almost everyday ) and now i’m planing play for my university’s team. I really like to listen to music , and I'm doing this 24/7( I kind of have a server on discord just for the music bot ). I actually can speak 3 languages and I'm working on the 4th one but i’m never trust my skills before sending a text in another language !!. I can actually be both or too energetic or a totally lazy bitch. but i’m probably always up to talking/ listening. I really like flowers ( I love learning about their meaning), and poetry , also writing and reading even though I've not been doing this lately.

Fun fact my favorite color is white but 85% of my wardrobe is black .

I really like make up and i love do it , but i have so me block with eyeliners i just can't do it right

About Relationships :

My love language is Quality time, so just being able to relax next each other (friends / s/o) with no words being necessary for meIt's already enough, oh i can get a little too touchy sometimes since I really like to cuddle. I love adventures, visiting new places, shopping, nature dates, stargazing, board games/ cards nights. I really like to innovate, as long as i have a good company I think I can do almost everything.

Ahhhh Lecxi, yours matchups are the best, i just love the way you write so much ,it's a muah *chef kiss*

@lilshortcakess

A/N- This took SO long and I am SO sorry 🥲 but I hope you still enjoy it my dear!

Romantic Matchup

𝐎𝐢𝐤𝐚𝐰𝐚 𝐓𝐨𝐨𝐫𝐮

𝐇𝐨𝐰 𝐘𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐌𝐞𝐭

So you were on Seijous girls volleyball team

And you met Oikawa because well...

Ya’ll kept practicing overtime 😅

Now we’ll just say that you wanted to practice your spikes

and for that, you would need a setter

And Oikawa wanted to practice his sets

For him to do that he would need a spiker

So ya’ll were just like “hey let's just practice together

Now every time there was practice

When everyone left

You would meet up with Oikawa so that you two could practice

This went on for a while before Oikawa decided on getting to know you on a more personal level

I mean if he was going to be practicing with you he might as well get to know you right?

So he started taking you out to eat after you two finished practicing

Sometimes he would take you to a diner

Sometimes it would just be a gas station

But either way, you two would end up just sitting and talking to each other

This is how Oikawa found out how much he actually liked you

We’ll get into why later 👀

Anyways after falling into this little routine he started to hang out with you during school hours

Damn, he was really just weaseling his way into your life, isn't he?

He would only realize he had a crush on you when Iwa pointed it out

So at this point, he was just like fuck it

YOLO am I right?

So he just casually asked you out when he took you to a gas station after practice

Romantic I know

But he was over the moon when you said yes!

And ya’ll have been dating ever since

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐘𝐨𝐮

He loves that you just listen to him

Like you GENUINELY listen to him

He's found that not a lot of people care what he's saying outside of volleyball

But you listen to anything and everything he talks about

And you show interest too!

This was the thing that made him realize that he liked you

Ok he REALLY loves your flirty nature

Just the fact that instead of getting flustered at his flirty comments

You just pop off with your own comment

He loves someone who can match his energy

He really likes that your clingy 👀

Whenever you hold him or ask him for cuddles

it just makes him feel wanted and loved

𝐅𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐓𝐨 𝐃𝐨 𝐓𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫

Ok so just addressing the elephant in the room

He loves to play volleyball with you

He calls it a good “bonding” activity

Now that THAT'S out of the way

He likes to bake with you

He has even made recipes personalized to him

For example

“Oikawa's Milk Bread Biscuits”

Yup

He took your biscuit recipe

And turned it into a milk bread

He likes to listen to music with you

I feel like he hates awkward or uncomfortable silence

So he always has SOME kind of music playing 

And finally

He loves to talk to you

Granted it's a lot of him talking and you listening

But if you're feeling down and need someone to talk to 

He's all ears

𝐑𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐨𝐦 𝐇𝐜

One time you and Oikawa were practicing overtime

And Iwa came into the gym and yelled at you both for “overworking yourselves”

You and Oikawa actually sell his milk bread biscuits at school

Get that coin sis 🤑

You and Oikawa just throw random pick up lines at each other

and i cant get the image of him doing finger guns at you every single time 444

He gets really mad when you start speaking a different language

Cause he cant understand you!

So sometimes you just switch languages to piss him off :)

Causing him to learn the basic phrases of the languages you can speak

𝐀𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐥𝐨𝐠𝐲

When Taurus and Cancer come together in a love affair, it’s usually a very good combination.

They are two positions apart within the Zodiac, and such Signs tend to share karmic ties and a deep mutual understanding.

These particular two Signs have much in common

Both prize security in a love relationship above almost all else

both tend to be nurturers

Cancer is emotionally nurturing

while Taurus loves to spoil their lover with sensual delights, gifts and good, rich meals

They’re both quite domestic and love a quiet night spent at home with their sweetie.

The Taurus-Cancer partnership tends to be a happy one due to this mutual enjoyment of the security and comfort of home.

They love a solid home base

a strong relationship

nice possessions

good food

all the comforts of domestic life.

Theirs is often the ideal family that people of other Signs strive for, with strong ties between them and a relationship that is family-oriented rather than toward the outside world.

Their only major problems arise when Taurus insists on having its own way and Cancer responds by sulking.

Taurus must understand Cancer’s emotional sensitivity, and Cancer needs rely on open, honest communication than on emotional blackmail.

The steady, reliable team they make.

Both Signs are dependable and nurturing, strongly oriented toward domestic life together.

A mutual love of home and security makes theirs an ideal long-term, family relationship.

𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐀𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐭𝐢𝐜

𝐁𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐢𝐞𝐬 💋

[nightswithkookmin]

Hi I just want to ask something. Do you think Jungkook has been always like/love Jimin the way he is before or just when he started to glow up. I'm just asking this bc you know Jungkook has been always rank Jimin last on looks or said he look different without makeup before. I know he didn't meant harm to Jimin but do you think Jimin has been trying to look good and go on extreme diet to be loved by Jungkook or Jungkook has been always trying to hide his feelings for him but act tough

Huh?...

What an interesting question....

For a moment there I thought I had already discussed this in my blog posts? Chileee.

Now you'd have to specify which period in time you consider a glow up point for Jimin. Do you mean the period of 2014/15 when he was starving himself, passing out on stage and bleeding through his nose to stay anorexic? *Side eyeing you.

To me, Jimin's 'glow up' coincided with their debut in 2013. Those fine abs, sculpted muscles yet soft toned feminized features- sorry Jimin, you weren't fooling no one.

This was also the period I noticed JK showing overt signs of sexual and emotional attraction towards Jimin. Jimin just seemed oblivious to it. And he would begin his own whipped journey around 2015/16 in my opinion.

Personally, I believe JK fell first for Jimin and 'turned' him- turned for lack of a better word. I don't buy into this whole Jimin fell first JK fell harder rhetoric.

But I think JK's interest in Jimin began long before this period. I don't think Jk had fully grasped the concept of his own sexuality much less to have come to terms with it in any time before 2012- before Jimin arrived in Bangtan- ok maybe he had a vague idea of it, but I do believe Jimin was his sexual and romantic awakening.

Jk and Jimin have two very distinct and opposite idol personas. I keep saying this.

Since we don't know them in person, I think it's safe to assume every aspect of them we experience on screen is a persona.

That persona is a facade, a curated wall on which they project bits and pieces of their true self and often put up a performance of this identity for our consumption.

In Jk's persona, he likes to retract and conceal aspects of his true personality and censor himself a lot while JM likes to amplify and exaggerate his true personality and put up a performance of it.

As I've said, it's mainly due to their backgrounds. JK was given a lot of leeway in his upbringing which he feels puts him at a disadvantage because he ends up exposing himself too much. Thus he likes to retract and hold himself back.

Jimin coming from a conservative background with many rules and what not revels in the new found freedom Idol life gives him so often he doesn't hold back as much as JK does. But that doesn't mean that who they really are in real life.

So often you'd hear people say Jimin looks more serious in person than he does on camera while JK is said to be more expressive than he usually is on camera.

But here is the thing, concealing his feelings is not JK's nature it's his choice. And this is very important to note. He chooses not to do certain things on camera while Jimin chooses to do certain things on camera.

So when JK is not showing his feelings for Jimin it's not because he can't show those feelings, it's more like he doesn't want to show those feelings.

Thus when people say he wasn't showing his feelings for Jimin because he was shy I raise my brows- Shy my ass. Lol

Was he acting tough then? Hmmmm. He likes to act tough no two ways about that. I've said he has a good poker face between him and Jimin. If you are not careful you might think he doesn't like Jimin. But trust me, that man is whipped on god.

But I don't think that's what he was doing in those early dynamics.

I think he was hesitant in pursuing Jimin openly at the time because he wasn't sure about Jimin's sexual orientation much less whether or not Jimin reciprocated the feelings he had for him.

And you could tell not knowing these about Jimin terrified JK a lot, hence his hesitation.

But later when he was certain of both he became more confident in the way he expressed himself and his feelings for Jimin.

Prior to this you could see him fishing and testing the waters with Jimin, slowly pushing Jimin's boundaries- a gentle touch here, a lingering stare there.

He would often pay attention to the things Jimin would say but especially about his romantic and sexual preferences. Like when Tae said he felt Jimin liked men and when Jimin was asked about why he liked JK and JK seemed like he wanted to know.

Then he went through that phase where he seemed obsessed with Jimin's reaction to when other guys sexualised him and expressed interest in him. He seemed very attentive to these little details in a way that seemed to me as if he was fishing for confirmation that Jimin actually liked men and liked him- in a nonplatonic manner.

I feel Jimin noticed these things too in JK but was mostly fascinated by it. So often he would go out of his way to express his sexuality, exaggerate it and perform it as if to let JK know he was ok with JK liking him in that kind of way. Often, you'd see him egging JK on to touch him where JK seemed hesitant, reassuring JK- I think y'all know the bit I'm talking about. I feel JM wanted JK to feel comfortable expressing his interest in him- he ain't slick.

I've said Jimin's persona is a performance. I can see how to JK that could be very confusing. Hell, half of the fandom still read Jimin wrong to this day. Is he gay, bi, straight, a woman, a man, bigender- it's a lot of questions. Legitimate questions.

And I think for JK, seeing Jimin behave like the rest of BTS with the skinship towards him was equally confusing. So often he would shy away from it. Jk was going through puberty, everything was heightened for him.

It's also important to consider the possibility that, if JK was LGBTQ plus that he was going to hide it and not come out to his bandmates for as long as he worked with them- because it's none of their business first and foremost but also because it would have affected their attitudes towards him.

I mean look at the fear and panic with which they greet Jikook when Jikook breath anywhere near eachother in public spaces- not to call them out or anything but I don't think if they were straight that they were going to treat them same. I mean Taejin is as wild as Jikook but.... sigh.

So then going on to catch feelings for one of such said band mates who gives off queer vibes, he had better be sure about him before coming out to him and confessing to him lest he risked his career and friendship with him.

If Jimin wasn't LGBTQ plus it would have been cruel of him to act the way he does with JK honestly. For instance Joking about marriage knowing full well the fight LGBTG plus couple have to put up to have this basic human right- of course JK would yeet himself out of that conversation. I'm talking about that Jikook Vlive and all the time JK has squeezed his face disgruntledly when Jimin has asked him to have his kids- like why Jimin!

Jimin I feel because he is Bi whatever doesn't take this gay business seriously at all. If you've ever dated a bisexual you'd know the feeling. He is my bias and I love him but God he frustrates me for Jk honestly.

What annoys me most is I know how deep he is into JK. Like I've never seen a man so in love with another man in my entire queer life! Like shut up whippidy whipped ass we saw your face at Manila. You like that man. You like him.

Let JK put up a front and you'll see this tactless homegirl descending into that space we all hate so much and embarrassing himself left right left clinging on to JK seeking validation and reassurance- like can you be serious in your life for once Park Jimin. 😒

Anywho, I went off on a tangent there. Sorry.

But yes, this is another aspect of their dynamic I feel most people get twisted. Jimin enjoys JK's expressions of interest in him- however way he does it. Jk enjoys it too when Jimin shows him he wants him. Remember magic shop? Show me, I'll show you? And that line JK sang to Jimin that made Jimin nervous on Live with VMin? Yea...

They love each other and they love when the other is showing and expressing their love. Hell, isn't that why they are constantly trying to find creative ways to communicate their love? 5/8, love letters punctuated with sorries? Chileee.

Could Jimin's look be a contributing factor to JK liking him? Let me put it this way. People are attracted to people for a plethora of reasons, physical appearance being one of them.

Looks attract people, emotional connection binds them and make them stay. I have said this time and again JK is attracted to all of Jimin-looks, everything. When asked which part of of Jimin he liked most he put all of Jimin as the answer.

With regards to JM's weight, I think the tears he shed on stage during the performance of I Need You says it all. Jimin was killing himself and it was killing JK. Jimin wasn't doing all that out of self love much less for the love of JK.

He was doing all that because he wanted to be an Idol in every sense of the word. He was killing himself for his career. A career JK was once willing to walk away from and JM advised him to stay.

Jk defies the dictates of his career with the piercings and tattoos and gay pubs- the emphasis is mine. Y'all think he is about to be demanding of his life partner to look like what now? Chileee.

And when JK was starving himself and losing weight who was it that brought him down that ledge? Jimin. If it was a positive thing I thing he would have encouraged him.

Jk allegedly called Jimin his Mochi in that infamous graduation night track video. Did you see his reaction to when James Corden called Jimin Mochi? Baby fat cheeked Jimin was cute not ugly. And even if you think he was, JK still found that attractive. Jimin could be looking like my Aunt Becky and Jk would still fuck him.

Have you seen JK freeze frame to take snapshot photos of Jimin? It's almost always pictures of Jimin looking like the wicked witch of the west. He loves him some park Jimin memes. Loves that man to death.

How many times have he said Jimin looks beautiful without makeup? Remember the Vlive Jimin didn't want to be on camera because he didn't have makeup on? What did JK say?

Jk isn't a shallow person you know. He really isn't. He doesn't strike me as the kind at all. Questions like these presupposes that JK is a vain shallow person who only likes people for their looks. Don't get me wrong, it's a valid question, one that I'm happy to discuss but it also exposes the biases against JK and indirectly, Jimin.

Do you feel JK is shallow? I find a lot of people do and it breaks my heart.

Have you heard any of his songs? His GCFs?

He barely idolizes his subject matter's looks and appearances. You gave me the best of you, so I'll give you the best of me. What I found in you is real. That's doesn't sound shallow to me.

They work in a highly competitive and highly vainglorious environment. I think they know more than anything the dangers of vanity- it's fleeting. They put themselves through so much to appease the vanity matrics, to subject people they love through the same.

I've talked about how because JM comes from a demanding home and work environment that acceptance is one key aspect of his love language. He wants a person who loves him for who he is and accepts him without placing expectations on him.

If JK was this shallow JM wouldn't honestly have found him attractive much less love him to begin with. He wouldn't have found fulfillment and nourishment from JK. He loves JK because JK's values and upbringing makes him the perfect person for him to trust himself fully to.

Besides, for JK to be only attracted to JM because he glowed up, he himself must have been a ten from the onset which he wasn't let's be honest- no shade to him but he wasn't exactly packing now was he?

BTS are pretty but they've all undergone hefty transformations throughout the years, magic foreheads and all. So if you wonder if Jimin's glow up contributes to JK liking him, then you'd have to wonder if Jk glowing up also contributed to Jimin finding him attractive- it's a vicious cycle.

As for JK ranking Jimin last... did he ever rank himself first? No. He ranked Jimin last and himself second to last consistently. If he found Jimin unattractive he certainly found himself as equally unattractive only one step above Jimin.

I honestly think he was just teasing Jimin. He loves teasing Jimin because it's how he flirts with him. It's just the masculine energy in him I guess. V does this too when he flirts with Jimin. He teases him about his pinky, his Mochi cheeks and his glow up- Iland anyone?

Why y'all think JK looked away sharp when JM dropped to the floor?? He recognized what V was doing- don't mind me. I'm trolling. Lol. But deadass.

Jimin teases JK too by acting like he is available most times. It's the feminine energy in him. Girls like to tease their crush by amplifying their sex appeal. What better way to amp up your sex appeal than by having other people show interest in you? Jimin is a tease. Bless him.

Besides, when JK ranked Jimin first in looks he ranked himself last. I hope y'all don't think it's because he has low self esteem?

He ranked himself and Jimin last because he wanted to humble himself and by extension Jimin because he sees himself as Jimin's equal and as such recognizes their place as the youngest within the group. As he has explained, as the youngest, he places everyone else above him.

I honestly don't think Jungkook had always been interested in Jimin. But somewhere along the line while he came to terms with his own sexuality he began developing feelings for Jimin. His glow up had nothing to do with it. In my opinion.

I think Jimin caught him off guard? It's that red string serendipity destiny voodoo working its magic that orchestrating their love. In my opinion.

I don't think either of Jikook went searching for this love thingy either as I keep saying. It wasn't planned, it wasn't foreseen, it just happened to both of them but at a different pace.

I hope this helps?

Signed,

GOLDY

[pumpkins-s]

12 and 20 for each McClain sister (including Mavis and Slaos Lance cuz I'm thirsty)

OC Ask Meme: Describe Your OC

You are thirsty damn.

I got into some weird speculative-canon territory with some of these so just bear with me tbh.

Marcie:

12:  their romantic life

Marcie is probably the only sister who had an extensive/well-rounded love life at any point in her history, to be honest. She’s a romantic at heart, and very people-oriented, so on some level she definitely values at least the concept of a partner (though in reality she’s probably not prioritized the finding of one extensively, she’s a very passive “if it happens it happens” person).

Especially when she was figuring out her sexuality, Marcie probs had several girlfriends during/after high school. Nothing too serious or long term. Eventually, as she got older and felt she had more responsibilities in life both to her work and her family, she dated less. It’s definitely still a fantasy for her, but Marcie would need someone who’s capable of respecting the duties she sees herself having to her family, and someone who can ingratiate themself too and integrate well with her siblings/cousins. Otherwise it’s a no go.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

Oh she’d be over the moon. Marcie is the exact kind of romantic who’d see this as the height of affection, especially if it was lengthy in prose and done on fancy paper or something. Handwritten would appeal to her over a typed letter.

Marcie was definitely an (accidental) heart breaker in high school, so she probably got a few to be honest. Karen probably helped her suss out which ones were men so that they could go in the trash so that she could offer them a polite refusal (while Karen made a murder face at them over her shoulder). 

Karen: 

12:  their romantic life

If I remember correctly, Karen is the only McClain sister I didn’t expressly label as queer on some level or another (mostly because I never put significant thought into her sexuality tbh), but in truth...? She’s such a goal-focused person she doesn’t really have the time to date. Her first love is her sport of choice and doing things. She’s such an active and energetic person that unless she found someone willing to balance their schedule with hers in that regard, it probably wouldn’t work out. 

She probably went on a few dates here and there in high school and college before eventually just...forgetting dating was a thing she was “supposed” to do. She’d rather be bettering herself than wasting time making small talk at coffee shops.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

She’d be somewhat touched, but if she found it too florid/poetic it’d probably make her uncomfortable, and if the letter-writer never approached her she’d probably throw it away. She believes if you want something you need to go and get it, and that extends to people. She wouldn’t have much admiration for someone who pines at a distance. 

Igraine:

12:  their romantic life

I actually straight up had an outline for Igraine to have a love interest in SLAOS -- a translator she met in the military -- and ended up pulling it for time due to a whole host of other shit I needed to cover in Lance’s early teenage years. So there you go I guess.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

Extreme disbelief, a period of conviction that this must be for one of her sisters and got left for her by mistake, followed by an extensive manhunt for the letter-writer with a reluctant Lucas roped in to assist. 

If she couldn’t find the letter-writer, she’d probably be disappointed to be honest. What good is an admirer if you can’t chase after them?

Evie:

12:  their romantic life

You mean Evie? The aro/ace queen lol? I don’t think she’s ever had much of one. She probably went on one date to a school dance or something, recognized how distinctly uncomfortable it made her, did some research, and came to her “ah. am aro” conclusion pretty quickly. 

I doubt she experienced much disappointment in that conclusion, honestly. Their mother hardly put pressure on them to find romantic partners, and between the fact that (most of) her sisters didn’t date much, and she mostly hung around Mavis in her early high school years, who considered sexuality and relationships one part a joke and one part a manipulation tactic, she was hardly in a situation where she was the Odd One Out.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

She’d be flattered, even if she clearly didn’t/couldn’t reciprocate. She’d probably seek the person out or write them a note in return expressing her appreciation of their compliments, but that she wasn’t interested in a romantic partner, period.

Loraine:

12:  their romantic life

Loraine has elements of Marcie’s romantic personality, but given she’s demiromantic and mostly hung around Lance & Hunk, Mavis, or her sisters, she didn’t really have extensive opportunities to meet anyone she might develop an attraction to. I don’t think she ever sought the opportunity out, either. She appreciated the idea but she ultimately was significantly career/goal focused, as well as family-oriented. Romantic partners just weren’t a priority.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

A weird mix of flattery and discomfort. Someone saying nice things about her is always Good, but she’d feel awkward and bad about turning them down, while also more uncomfortable about the idea of trying to reciprocate. She’d have probably panicked in the face of one until Mavis contacted the person in question and told them to fuck off.

Lance:

12:  their romantic life

Uhhh I can straight up answer this in terms of canon, tbh -- 1. a fleeting affection that couldn’t work out. 2. a relationship with the capability to be incredibly healthy but complicated by the situation surrounding it (namely...Lance’s dealing w/a lot of external shit). And 3. the thing I’ve committed to endgame the story with, for better or for worse. 

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

Much like Loraine, he’d probably be both flattered and slightly uncomfortable, most especially because of his weird situation. As “a boy” he’d probably feel much more obligated to return the sentiment, even if he didn’t necessarily feel the same way and just told himself he should. Lance likes people, he likes the idea of a relationship, and he wouldn’t want to hurt someone else’s feelings if he can help it. Which can make something...awkward, for him.

Mavis:

12:  their romantic life

Fucking terrible. Mavis’s natural reaction to romantic interest in her is suspicion/an expectation someone has ulterior motives, which makes things harder for her. It doesn’t help she also doesn’t have a good understanding of what’s healthy for her, or comfortably asserting her boundaries if she feels she owes/needs someone. Hence: Jeff.

20:  their reaction to a mystery love letter

Laughter, and then unceremoniously throwing it away. She’d feel a little bit bad about it afterward, but she’d never admit to it.

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Hey so im just like a little confused on where you stand on the matter. It was a lot and I'm not sure I understand. Do you think you can sum it up for me? (Abt the whole trans/genital fetish thing)

Where I stand:A gay person is a homosexual person. This is same sex attraction. It is exclusive of those not of the same sex. Trans ideology states that sex (the state of having XX or XY chromosomes, and the primary (genitals) and secondary sex characteristics thereof [facial hair, breasts, wider hips, voice level, general shape of the body]) is a concept different than gender. I agree with this ideology.The definition of gender is now vague and confusing but it seems to me, at the very, very simplest level, the way a person presents themselves according to the unspoken, unlisted rules of femininity, masculinity, or androgyny. This includes pronouns, fashion choices, hair style, etc.Essentially, I agree that sex and gender are two different things. I also believe they are very interconnected due to the way society assigned gender stereotypes to males and females based on their biological sex. That also distinguishes the difference between body dysmorphia transgenderism (feelings that one's body is not correct, that it is not the right sex, leading to great discomfort, depression, anxiety, and suicidality) and gender dysphoria transgenderism (feeling as if the gender you present as is wrong, forced upon you, uncomfortable, etc) which are like 99% of the time comorbid due to how intertwined sex and gender identity are. Again, all these statements are very brushed upon and generalized, but if you want more detail I would be happy to make an actual, long post about it, backed with sources and everything.Now. Homosexuality and transgenderism are at odds with each other currently. Trans people wishing to quell dysphoria/dysmorphia and pass as their gender identity call themselves gay or lesbian if they are attracted to people of the same *gender identity.* In the past, gender = sex so I believe this is where that stems from. Calling themselves gays like this can quell dysphoria by asserting them as same sex, which is what they want, which is something I understand so deeply and personally you don't even know.However, by the very definition of a trans person- someone whose biological sex does not match their gender- and the definition of a homosexual person- someone exclusively attracted to same-sex people- you cannot call yourself gay if you are a trans woman exclusively attracted to cis women. You cannot call yourself gay if you are a trans man exclusively attracted to cis men.That's where I personally stand, as a lesbian. I have a semi-unique perspective on this matter because for a long part of my teenage years I identified as either nonbinary, and then even longer, as a trans man. I have detransitioned because transitioning did not relieve my dysphoria, and my body dysmorphia has been linked to past sexual abuse and trauma through extensive work with my therapist, who also specialised with LGBT youth for several years.As for "genital fetishes." I think calling gay people "genital obsessed" is recycled, masked homophobia disguised as progressivism. I believe sexual orientation, once figured out, is not changeable, regardless of hormone replacement and clothing and presentation. I believe calling us transphobic for not considering trans people as viable dating options homophobic. I believe that being a woman is necessary for me to be attracted to someone, but it is not sufficient for me to date her. After all no one just dates everyone of the class they're attracted to, there are certainly other prerequisites, such as if we share similar interests. I believe "hearts not parts" being forced as a mantra to gay people is homophobic because it implies we should not consider our sexuality when searching for a partner that, you know, we want to be sexual with. It implies our sexuality is fluid, rather than innate and fixed. I believe calling everything gay when it is not is homophobic.I believe that when I was a trans man I didn't "become straight" because my sexuality still leaned towards women. I was still attracted to same sex people. I did not "transition back into being a lesbian" when I shed my binder and grew my hair out and used she/her pronouns once more. I used to be on the side of the majority opinion on this site that being a trans man attracted to women made me heterosexual because it "is transphobic because it implies trans men are not real men." No. Acknowledging biological sex is not inherently transphobic. Now, would I go up to anyone and say "are you REALLY gay?" Because that is fucked up. But there needs to be critical discussion on how trans ideology intersects with, and opposes homosexuality, and I believe calling each other names and insulting and blocking each other is not the way this conversation should happen at all. Critical, objective debate is almost nonexistant on this site, which is to be expected considering how hot the topic is and how most of us are reactive, hotheaded, tunnel-visioned young adults and kids, but it needs to start happening. If you consider me transphobic for these beliefs I hold, fine. I'm sorry you feel that way and I'm sorry if you feel as if your identity has been vilified or attacked by my opinions. But just remember my statements here have not harmed anyone.I have not contributed to the discrimination, condemnation, or oppression of trans people with this post. I am open to rational debate. I am not expecting it. I am expecting a plethora of "pee your pants, terf" and "you're a transphobic c**t!" instead. Call me "the identity police." Whatever. I just felt very strongly about this topic, having been vilified and condemned myself by my parents and family for being gay, and being asked by people like trans woman Riley Dennis to "reconsider my penis repulsion because it's an effect of societal influences" rather than an absolute unchanged internal personal thing.

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I'm laughing so hard. I made a goddamn typo. Queer! I didn't think this possible, but I feel even more stupid now XD

I apologize for the delay inresponding to this, but I really wanted to give the question the considerationit deserves. It’s a complicated issue, and I’ll try my best to do it justice. For those of you who missed the previous ask, this anon is wondering what the word “queer” means.

WARNING: If you are triggered by slursthat are commonly used against members of the LGBTQ+ community, proceed withcaution. I have done my best to use these terms in an informative way, but Iknow they may be triggering to some, even in this context. If you’re interestedin my perspective on slurs and labels within the LGBTQ+ community, read on!

I should start by pointing out that I am by nomeans an expert historian when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community. I identify asa member, have done some basic research, and have degrees in linguistics andphilosophy that afford me a basic working knowledge of language, logic, andliterature in a historical context. I am not an authority on gender identity orsexual orientation, just a community member doing my best to be helpful andsupportive.

I personally love the word ‘queer,’though I respect and understand that it is triggering to many. The wordoriginally meant “strange, peculiar, or eccentric.” (http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=queer)I came across this word often in classic literature. “She was feeling ratherqueer” would have been a common phrase to describe someone who was slightlyill, or emotionally unsettled. But in the late 1800’s / early 1900’s, peoplestarted using it as an offensive term for people in same-sex relationships, or forpeople who deviated from accepted gender conventions of the time (for example,men who were perceived as “effeminate”). Then, around the 1980’s, members ofthe LGBTQ+ community “began todeliberately use the word queer in place of gay or homosexual, in an attempt,by using the word positively, to deprive it of its negative power.” (https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/queer)

Despite this, the word “queer” absolutelycontinues to be used as a homophobic slur that many LGBTQ+ people have had toendure, which is why the term remains so controversial. I personally haven’thad a lot of exposure to the term as an offensive slur, which may be why I don’texperience it as particularly triggering, the way “fag” and “faggot” mostcertainly are to me. I heard those words so often in such a vicious, damagingcontext growing up, that they became dealbreakers for me: I wouldn’t date men orwomen who used them, or keep up friendships with people who found themacceptable. I won’t play online video games with a group of people if I hearthose terms floating around. I still have an immediate anxiety reaction when Ihear those words used, even by someone who identifies as LGBTQ+. So I do understand that slurs can beincredibly triggering to people, even if the community has made an effort toretake them and give them new meaning.

The reason I personally view the word “queer”differently from “fag” or “faggot” is because I think that “queer” performs asemantic and linguistic function that I find pleasing and necessary. In itscurrent definition, as reclaimed by the LGBTQ+ community, it means, “Denoting orrelating to a sexual or gender identity that does not correspond to establishedideas of sexuality and gender, especially heterosexual norms.” (https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/queer)

If you’veread any of my writing or seen previous posts from me, you may have deducedthat I find labels to be problematic. Sexual orientation and gender identitycan be fluid and difficult to define. While some people feel a sense of reliefand community when they finally find a label that suits them, others feelstressed or even further isolated and frustrated, faced with another set of “norms”they still can’t quite conform to. And then there’s the pressure to defineevery aspect of your sexuality and gender identity to the world – again, somethingthat is comforting and community-affirming to some, but can be stressful,invasive, or downright unsafe for others. I see discourse daily on Tumblr aboutwho should and shouldn’t be “allowed” within the LGBTQ+ community, with manypeople claiming that certain identities simply aren’t “gay enough” to belong.

I don’tsubscribe to this attitude. I don’t think I should have to thoroughly define orexplain my gender identity or sexual orientation in order to feel accepted andsupported by other LGBTQ+ individuals, and I don’t think people who are difinitively gay or lesbian deserve to be accepted moreso than people who are bixesual, pansexual, questioning, etc. I don’t conform to stereotypical normsand standards, and identifying as “queer” is a way for many people tocommunicate a similar, vague sense of identity without getting into specifics thatmake them feel uncomfortable, or confused, or frustrated, or downright unsafe.We don’t owe each other that level of intimacy.

As ateen in the early 2000’s that identified as bisexual only with my closestfriends, I had faith that things would progress. I imagined that I would enteradulthood and find that times had changed- that I would feel more free toexperience and express my identity, and that I would feel support from acommunity of people that understand how confusing, and isolating, and painfulit can be to be LGBTQ+. And while I have seen glimmers of this, I’ve also seen thehorde of the self-righteous, many of them painfully young, immature, andinexperienced, who find it necessary to police the borders of the LGBTQ+community, as well as the language we use to describe and define ourselves.

As anadult, this is not the kind of community I want to belong to. Yes, I understandthat the word “queer” is triggering for some people, and I’ve done my best tobe respectful of that in this post. But I amqueer, for lack of a better word that encompasses the nebulousnonconformity many of us experience along our journey. And we should allow eachother to be nebulous. We should allow each other the use of vague language, andthe leeway to evolve, and to change our minds, and to change our looks and our beliefsand our preferences. It was easiest for me to identify as bisexual as a scaredfourteen-year-old, because I felt pressure to identify as something.

So canwe try to take that pressure off? Can we make it okay to not be sure? Can we bea community that embraces uncertainty and privacy as much as we encourageconfidence and conviction? Can we support people in their twenties or thirties or fifties who areexploring their queerness for the first time, just as much as we support ourgay and lesbian friends who’ve been certain since they were twelve?

If you followthis blog, these are things I believe, that I want you to know:

It’s okayto not be sure about your gender identity.

It’sokay to not be sure about your sexual orientation.

Embracethe uncertainty. You don’t need a label to be whole. You don’t need to name andcategorize everything you think and feel. Give yourself room to breathe andgrow. Give others the same room.

It’s okayto change your mind.

It’sokay to express yourself as vaguely or as specifically as you like. You don’towe anyone any kind of information about your identity or preferences that you’renot comfortable sharing. You shouldn’t have to prove anything to anyone inorder to belong to this community.

You canuse labels, if you think they fit. You can also change them. You can alsoreject them. You still belong here, regardless. I still care about and supportyou, regardless.

You canuse the word “queer” to help identify yourself.

You canbe respectful of people who use the word “queer,” even if it offends you. Have a conversation before you judge or attack.

As afinal note, I’ve seen a term floating around that I would love to see gain moretraction: SAGA, which stands for Sexuality and Gender Acceptance. It occurs tome that it could also stand for Sexuality and Gender Alternative, which couldbe used as an actual identity term (“I’m SAGA”). Regardless, I can see how thiscould be a nonspecific umbrella term, much like the word “queer,” but withoutall the controversial connotations. I’m all for this- as I stated before, Ithink a lot of people use the word “queer” because it’s useful and meaningfulto them, and because they lack a synonymous alternative. If a term like SAGAstarted to catch on, I would be happy to make the switch. However, I’ve foundvery little literature on it, and have very rarely seen it used in LGBTQ+ spaces.If you have more information, or have seen it being used more widely, pleasecomment with your perspective! I would love to give credit where credit is due.And if this term resonates with you, use it! Spread the word!

I can’temphasize this enough- I’m not anauthority here, but I see plenty of people speaking on this subject with muchmore conviction than they ought to have, so I decided to give it a go. Ifanything, I hope some of you might read this and feel validated in your uncertainty,and encouraged to reach out, and maybe to be more flexible and accepting of thediversity in this community.

Diversity. Isn’t thatsupposed to be the point?

[fictional-scenarios]

Hello! I would like a matchup for HQ and Naruto if possible :) I'm 5'2,long black curly hair,mixed. A virgo. Im very strong minded. If I believe in something, I like to stick to it and prove why I think so but I'm also open minded, don't mind listening to others problems. Open to always lending a helping hand if needed by friends and family. Has social anxiety so meeting new people is a job in itself. I hate to be alone in public places but love being alone in my own home relaxing. 1/3 S.H.

I love soft and cute plushies. My favorite foods tends to be sweets of all kinds. I’m blunt and straightforward when needed. I’m also chubby,forgot to add in the beginning! Loves all different types of art like singing,acting,art. I’m very emotional, I cry easily over seeing something cute to friends saying their last goodbye. I love being around family. I can talk all day about anything and everything I’m passionate in. Tends to be annoyed easily. 2/3 S.H.

I love children! I want to be a teacher or a child therapist. Anything that involves children makes me super passionate about working in that field. Also, I’d rather dress comfortable than fashionable any day. I also don’t wear makeup. Sorry if everything was all over the place. Thank you so much! 3/3 S.H.

Naruto

I pair you with Rock Lee

The first thing Lee would come to love you for would be your fiery passion, something he definitely looks for in people. When he sees the lightning in your eyes and your will to prove yourself, he automatically relates. He loves that you’re not someone who gives up easily.

As you boyfriend, you always come first to him. He loves you with his whole heart, his entire being, and his entire soul. So, one thing he does subconsciously is spoil the hell out of you. Even if you don’t ask for something or need it, you’re going to get it since Lee feels you deserve everything in the world. When he goes out shopping and see’s something he think you might like, even if it’s only a little bit, he buys it without a second thought and brings it home to give you.

It’s a slow process but eventually you get an entire room worth of stuffed animals and trinkets, and it’s growing since you don’t have the heart to deny anything from him. He’s just so excited pulling out a tiny stuffed cat from his shopping bag and exclaiming how he thought you might like it.

Social anxiety is something very new to Lee, so at first he really doesn’t understand panic attacks or getting anxious due to crowds. The first time your anxiety acts up in front of him, poor Lee freaks out since he has no idea what's going on. He actually panics worse than you since he’s thinking about all the possible thing that could be going on with you, you could die!

You end up having to comfort him since he suddenly can’t calm down either.

Eventually he comes to understand Anxiety since you tell him about it and how it affects you, and once he comes to grasp it he’s much more calm and soothing. The next time your anxiety affects you he gently guides you anywhere where you two can be alone, and he tries his next not to smother you with “are you alright?”s and worrying. 

Lee thinks you’re one of the most talented people he knows, and you being into arts and music actually inspires him to try out an instrument or canvas drawing. Of course he’s not that great, but it’s the thought that counts. 

Despite being an easy crier himself, when you cry in front of Lee his nerves once again set him off. He worries you're upset or hurt and accidentally mother-ducks you with constantly making sure you’re feeling alright. After learning that you’re just an easy crier, he understands, and more often than not when you cry it sets him off two and it’s just you two sitting there crying over multiple things. 

Bless his soul, he always finds a way to make you happy when you’re actually crying due to being upset. He’ll say something ridiculous to be funny and lift the mood, and when he see’s that familiar smile he’s come to grow and love he feels so happy and warm. No amount of training or successful spars can compare to the accomplishment he feels when he see’s he made you feel better.

It’s a great thing your into family gatherings since, of course, Rock Lee is too. He’d be nervous meeting your family and relatives for the first time but hey, it’s Lee, you can’t not love him. Once he’s ‘accepted’ into the family his just adores being around them and spending holidays with them and you. It makes him feel very domestic and family oriented, since one day he dreams of having kids with you (if you want them too, of course) and having a nice family of his own.

Haikyuu

I pair you with Hinata Shouyo!

Being the volleyball fanatic he is, his love for the sport breaches his relationship as well. He’ll talk about it, plan dates around it, even try to get you involved if you’re down to play some! He’d die honestly.

Since you’re a helpful person who doesn’t mind assisting others, Hinata would often request that you toss to him so he can practice. It also allows him to spend more time with you, which he’s always looking forward to. 

He often texts you during class when he gets bored, updating you about what he’s doing and supposed to be learning. Of course you scold him a bit for this, telling him he should be paying attention. 

Being an excited person at his core, Hinata adores your passion when you’re talking about your favorite things and activities. He will even purposely bring up your interests so that a casual conversation can turn into you two excitedly yelling about the things that you love. 

Hinata is someone who loves being around family too, he incredibly values time spent with his little sister and his relatives, so of course he wants you to meet them too. He’s a bit nervous, really, afraid that you won’t like this family or vise versa. However all of his worried drift away when he see’s you talking and playing sweetly with Natsu, seeing you interacting with his sibling so kindly warms his heart and he knows that you’ll fit in just fine.

He really loves that you're into art and musical things, since he barely knows anything about fine arts other than a few of his favorite bands and artists. He’ll ask questions that he thinks you can answer, and secretly wants to learn how to play an instrument so he can serenade you in some way.

When you cry around him, automatically Hinata assumes somethings wrong. Even if nothing had happened he suddenly thinks you're upset and will rile himself up, scared that you had somehow gotten hurt or something. When you assure him that you’re fine, just an easy crier, he’s a bit confused but incredibly relieved that you’re alright. He might even think it’s cute to be honest, thinking it's adorable that you get so emotional over something being sweet or cute. 

Anxiety is not something that’s new to him, and while your anxiety isn’t pre-game or due to stress, he still understands the effects it can have. His is mostly trips to the bathroom, though, so the first time you start getting anxious in front of him he starts asking you if you need a bathroom, and he tries to frantically lead you to one, asking around if there’s any restrooms near-by. It’s a little embarrassing but he’s just trying to help

When he learns you just need to get away from the crowds and all the noise, he’ll understand and the next time is happens he’ll almost act as though he’s a guard dog. He’ll make sure you get somewhere calmer so you can breathe, and he’ll make sure that you have space away. He’ll stay close by and try to help you relax.

If it turns out just getting away isn’t enough, Hinata will take you home so you have a chance to unwind with him in the safety and comfort of your own homes. It doesn’t matter to him what you two do, as long as you're together, so even spending time in his room wrapped around blankets and sheets and mumbling to one another about your day is perfect to him.

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ADELAIDE FABRAY ➝ FOURTH SIBLING

I'M YOUR BIGGEST FAN

❖ FULL NAME: Adelaide Maria Fabray. ❖ PRONOUNS: She/Her. ❖ AGE: 21. (June 21st). ❖ BIRTH ORDER: Fourth. Quad to Second, Third & Fifth Fabray. ❖ GRADE: Junior. ❖ MAJOR: Web Design. ❖ SEXUAL ORIENTATION: Heterosexual. ❖ ROMANTIC ORIENTATION: Heteromantic. ❖ FACECLAIM: Dianna Agron.

I'LL FOLLOW YOU UNTIL YOU LOVE ME

(TW/CW: religion, slut shaming)

Adelaide Maria Fabray had always been one to follow in the shadows of her parents, that was just her way. Since birth, you would see Ada floating around, watching and analysing the ways of the generations of Fabrays before her and learning their morals in hope of becoming a future replica of them. She was fascinated by the almost royal like galas and events that her and her family were dragged to at least once a month and while she was told to be “seen and not heard” she was more than happy to, just as long as she was apart of the event nonetheless.

Never had you seen a child so favored, so loved by her parents, there were even rumors going round that Ada had been given special treatment by her father, you see - Ada was quite obviously a Daddy’s girl and could do no wrong in his eyes, she used this to her advantage, blaming all the other girls for her mistakes, hoping that Russell Fabray wouldn’t notice her higher attitude towards any of the children, for in his eyes, Ada was nothing but perfect and she aimed to maintain that standard for the rest of her life. Perhaps if Ada had known what Russell was really like she may would have been less inclined to please him and see him as an idol, but she wasn’t made aware to the situation, living in peaceful ignorance, being the apple of her Daddy’s eye.

As the Fabrays were brought up Christian, it was no surprise that Ada, from a young age, was used to the church life. Attending church every Sunday seemed almost natural to her. Although it was almost second nature to her, and sort of a habit that her parents had forced upon her by christening her, Ada felt like she belonged within the Church community, and one might dare to say that she enjoyed attending church. It was no secret that Ada had felt the presence of the Holy Trinity in her life, she had made that clear throughout her middle and high school. People had just assumed that she was just following in the footsteps of her parents, and there was a rumour going around school that Ada was going to stay in Portland her whole life and become a Pastor’s wife, and although that would be the ideal life for Ada, she knew that the Lord had other plans for her and that she needed an exciting, wild influence on her life in order to balance her pure attitude out.

It had been approaching the end of high school, and while others picked colleges based on whether they were Ivy League or not, Ada knew that she would receive high results wherever she had went, and so stayed in LA in hope of experiencing the wild college life before returning back home to continue her prim and perfect life. Ada had picked her major based on practicality, for she was only looking for a degree and easy going job before finding the one and settling down to and becoming the perfect housewife. So she went on to pick a Web Design major, knowing that the industry was booming in the 21st Century and based on figures, there was going to be more jobs than ever due to the fact more and more people were living their life through the net. While she had hoped of getting rid of her morals just for a little while, it was just not possible for young Ada, she was still a very strong believer in Jesus Christ and keeping herself pure for her wedding night, as well as many other things. It would be hard for someone to make Ada change her mind about the Lord, and she wasn’t willing to risk of her father’s keenness for her vanishing and so perfect was still the word Ada would use to describe herself, although she was far from it.

Although failing to branch out in college, Ada did manage to gain one thing she’d always hoped for. Meeting Andrew Winston at the church that she found herself in the heart of Los Angeles was a moment she’d never forget. She was halfway through her Freshman year when she saw him for the first time, kneeling on a pew praying; not the most romantic place to meet someone, Ada admitted but after getting to speaking the two realised they both shared similar morals and standpoints in life. There were sparks, and Ada could feel them. Was it love? Most likely not, but she was willing to compromise in order to be in the ideal relationship that her parents would be proud of. It was only a year into dating Andrew it was announced that the pair were engaged to be married.

Andrew, who had graduated from Columbia the May before they met, was an up and coming accountant and was offered a full time position at a highly respected accountancy firm in Boston. Although originally hesitant to move, going back home to Seattle had always been part of her plan, Ada knew this was her duty as a fiancee.. It didn’t take her long to get herself set up as a Web Designer for a company and she finally felt happy. In reality, Andrew had begun to stay hours long after he was required in the firm and Ada had started to feel alone but she was too content in that bubble of hers to even admit that something could be wrong. In her eyes, the couple were ready to start a family and life was only going to get better from then on. She had become a well-established member of her church that the couple had picked out together in Boston, and were beginning to get settled in. That was the most important thing, right? She was no longer a singular person but a unit - she couldn’t just think of herself.

She’d only managed to spend 2 months in Boston during the Summer before returning back home to Los Angeles, she felt safest at Pacific State and knew she would have to stay there in order to finish college; after all, an uneducated woman was useless, and no man would find her attractive without a brain. After discussing it with her fiance and her priest, they came to the conclusion they’d simply have to make long distance work until Ada finished her degree, and could return home to get married to her beloved at the ripe old age of 22.

Judging was Ada’s main flaw, she refused to acknowledge anyone else’s viewpoint that didn’t match up directly with hers. While Vatican II taught good Christians to accept and not try to convert those of different (or no) religions at all, Ada still had hope for those non-believers in the hope of converting them. Ignorant? Of course, but Ada didn’t see it that way. She just saw it as spreading the message of God, and doing the right thing. Because of her lack of education in the world outside of the Christian community, she seems to have been left behind in the modern day world, still naive and unaware of the problems that sexual harassment has caused, and dare I say it, Ada goes as far as judging those who have been sexually assaulted or harassed, blaming it on the way they dressed or what they were implying. Although, others had hoped college might open her eyes as to what is going on and who she should be judging in the crimes taken place. This didn’t happen.

BABY, THERE'S NO OTHER SUPERSTAR

Ada has soft, well nourished golden blonde hair that flows to the top of her breasts. Her hair is always in soft waves, and never covering her face. Although never wishing to appear tacky, Ada sports a classic, elegant makeup look every day which includes natural eyeshadow and a soft pink lip, wanting to appear well put together but not too alluring for the other sex. Ada always dresses modestly, most typically in skater dresses that touch the top of her knee respectively and a pair of heels. Although having no tattoos and minimal piercings, Ada always wears her beloved Tiffany’s earrings, her engagement ring and her prized cross pendant on her neck proudly, feeling safe with Jesus constantly with her.

YOU KNOW THAT I'LL BE YOUR PAPARAZZI

Russell is a famous entrepreneur, who owns most of Hollywood’s big brand businesses. Judy is an Oscar winning movie actress, and the children had small roles in movies as children.