#I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

[excellencehasnosex]

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'If you don't like graffiti look away like you do for genocide"

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[quotefeeling]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[resqectable]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[perfectfeelings]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[thoughtkick]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[thehopefulquotes]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[perfectquote]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[stay-close]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[surqrised]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[perfeqt]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[nightlyquotes]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[blakbonnet]

✍️👀

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance

Jon Stewart

[quotefeeling]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[resqectable]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[perfectfeelings]

I’m not going to censor myself to comfort your ignorance.

Jon Stewart

[thewhumpcaretaker]

Not sure if I’m genuinely aroace because I was ab*sed but I DEFINITELY use h/c and whump as substitutes for sex. I always feel guilty when everyone wants to ban inappropriate sex in stories but no one cares about banning my jam because to me, it is what sex is to normal people. And guilty about how I use to preach to my friends for wanting premarital sex when what I fantasize about (even if I don’t really want it irl) is so so much worse. Aaaand guilty about how my response to childhood ab*se, ie becoming virtually sexless and substituting violence is more accepted than the victims who process it by writing similar things. Just grateful for posts that let me know I’m not the only weirdo in the world

I'm glad the whump community is making you feel like you're not the only one!! This is a ramble but I really want to say a couple things:

CW: brief mention of CSA, discussion of links between whump and sexual desire

Quick thing: you don't have to censor the word abuse - obviously carry on if you're doing that for your own peace and not wanting to type it but I say it openly on this account. I don't think it affects whether posts are shown and even if it did, I wouldn't mind. You never have to feel ashamed of talking openly about your abuse history in any way, including using direct words.

It's really cool that people explore their desire for intimacy through hurt/comfort instead of sex. I am not aroace myself (for me, it's more tied to sex like a kink rather than a direct substitute) but I think it's amazing that the human mind can do that. People will truly adapt and find ways to connect with each other if the typical pathways aren't working for them. This is not a bad thing or something to feel guilty for, it's beautiful.

I am not aroace, but I WAS asexual, or thought I was, for a long time. And I'm almost certain it was because of childhood abuse. Becoming "virtually sexless" is an okay response - sex can get associated with trauma, and it is absolutely okay to not want to touch it again for a while or ever. It's also valid to just not want sex to begin with and to be more interested in other ways of exploring intimacy. Being sexless is not anything to be guilty for.

Going more in-depth about not feeling guilty: I don't know that fantasizing about hurt/comfort is "worse" than sex. The desire to make someone happy, to bring someone from their lowest point to their highest...I truly don't think there's anything wrong with that. If anything, it is more productive than sex. It can have a lasting positive impact on people's lives. Yes, it involves one person being hurt initially, but people in this world ARE hurt. They're so hurt, and often have no one to comfort and heal them. Both in dramatic ways and in everyday life. Every day people get sick, people have long days, people have trauma. And we are all supposed to move on and ignore that - to be tough, to be independent, to keep working, to not touch topics that are "dangerously" sad. Whump presents a vision of a kinder path. It seems very wholesome to me, to want to witness others' pain and sit with its emotional importance, and comfort someone out of it. Or to want that done for you, to want to be open-hearted and vulnerable with people, if you're taking the perspective of the whumpee. I don't think there's anything wrong with dwelling on that and taking pleasure from it.

Overall I wish you lots of luck and happiness and pride in whump! There are indeed lots of people like you and I hope you feel accepted.