#I will not say I’m not guilty of this but I’m genuinely suprised I haven’t seen anything summarising this

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

Anyway, while people are discoursing about men and not sharing Shubble points, here’s the actual advice I got from watching the stream bc I think that probably needs to be spread more. Shubble elaborates it much better but if you can’t watch it’s better than nothing.

Physical abuse is not just hitting or kicking, anyone causing physical pain intentionally to you without consent is physically abusive, regardless of how that manifests or if it seems silly.

Pressuring someone into using a safeword on something that’s not, like, a mutually agreed thing and is just something one partner wants is controlling and creepy.

Partners who push at the edge of your boundaries and avoid safewords are abusive.

A partner insisting you’re remembering things wrong and making you seem crazy is abusive (specifically, it’s gaslighting)

Grand romantic gestures from the beginning can very easily be a sign of abuse, as abusers use it to endear themselves to their victims.

Controlling behaviour and refusing to break up while also refusing to make changes is possessive and unhealthy at best.

Abusers will manipulate things to make it seem normal to those outside of their victims- by being kind and helpful even as they neglect their victim, by pressuring their victim to treat their abusive behaviour as a joke, ect. It’s often very hard for an outside observer to know if something is abusive, and making assumptions off of what you know in front of closed doors isn’t helpful.

It’s very hard to tell that you’re being abused, and you'll often still retain affection for your abuser for a long time- this is normal, and this isn’t your fault if you wanted to stay friends.

Even if an abuser is struggling with their own problems, taking it out on you is not acceptable. People can be bottling up their emotions and struggle with depression and past trauma and that gives them no excuse to hurt you.

If your partner relies entirely on you to take care of them, and support them financially, that’s financial abuse one way or another.

Abusers tend to hurt more than one person, and their actions escalate without outside influence (be it intervention if possible or something that keeps them away from victims if not.)

Listen to your gut, if you think a relationship is bad. Even if you’ve been through this before, sometimes you can’t realise in it, but you’ll feel it subconciously.

Also, Shubble is being supported by friends who helped her cope and went through different but similar things. She's specifically mentioned right now keeping the stories anonymised, but she might change her mind, if I interpreted the last bit correctly. She's doing alright, she's healing, and it sounds like she's being believed by her friends, at least most of them. I wish nothing but growth and healing for them, and wish them the best moving forward.

[renohasbigtits]

I love your Ignis mpreg headcanons, especially the ones involving his uncle. I see headcanons of Iggy having two moms, but they have lines of work that are frowned upon, so despite them caring very much about him, they have very little contact, to not ruin his chances. Can you do some headcanons of Ignis going to see them and shows up already showing and surprises them?

Sure! But I’m gonna experiment with this one. If you guys like this or want me to stick to my normal writing style, let me know!

Suprise!

Growing up, Ignis has had to raise himself. Especially when your “taking care” of a prince. though honestly, he’s basically his Mother. Not that Ignis minds. That’s what he’s taught to do.

Take care of Noctis.

Ignis genuinely loves Noct. He feels like a Mom to Him. Not that he’s been able to forget that.

He’s still called Mama Ignis, even after leaving the Academy.

Truthfully, Ignis and Noct have a lot in common. Noct’s mom was killed, Ignis, well that ones tricky.

Ignis has Two Mom’s. No there not dead, it’s just that....

He has a very rocky relationship with them. He doesn’t see them much. they work at a job that’s frowned upon (I literally couldn’t come up with anything, so I’ll leave it your imagination on what they do.)

Plus they want to give him a chance. A chance to do better than they can. It’s worked but with consequences.

Ignis almost never sees them. They try not to see him too much, in his youth, He spends time alone. He, kinda understands why but it hurts.

He sees so many kids have great relationships with their parents, meanwhile he’s lucky he gets a hi from one of them.

But fortunately, He has a wonderful relationship with Noct. Their like Mom and Son. 

Truthfully, Noct is his main priority. He couldn’t imagine anything being first than Noct. Or was, until he find out he’s pregnant. 

Suprise!

He was surprised to say the least. He was barely an adult and he was already expecting a baby. Excited but scared to say the least.

He tries to get the support from his parents but to no avail. He has to turn to His Uncle and Noct. There’ll supportive. He’s had to raise himself, now he has raise a baby.

As he’s continued to get bigger, he’s still haven’t been able to tell his Mom’s that there expecting a grandchild. 

Already 6 Months, He’s tried to call his first Mum, since she’s more likely to answer. Finally! It worked!

“Hello?” She asked.

“Mum!” Ignis replied. “Can we meet? I have to tell you guys something.”

“Oh! Hi sweetie! Well... I don’t know. We’re very busy. How about tell us over the phone?”

“No. It’s important.” He said as he rubbed his belly. “Please.”

They sighed. They don’t wanna let him down... again. But they very busy.

His Second Mom sighed. “We have to see him honey, We can’t let him down again. He sounds like he’s needs us.”

She agreed. “Cafe?”

“5.pm?”

“Sharp.”

Cafe 18. 4:57 p.m.

They got there early. There not going to fuck up this time. They don’t know what he needs to tell them but call it motherly instinct, they know it’s serious.

Hopefully he’s ok.

4:59 p.m.

Ignis walks down the street to Cafe 18 with a weak stomach. He’s so nervous. “How well they react to the news?”

Will they be happy? Excited? Disappointed? Mad?

Normally Iggy is good at figuring people out but his parents are a whole can of worms. He really doesn’t know what they’ll th ink. That scares him. When his Uncle asked if he was nervous, He tried to put up a front but He saw right through him.

His Uncle said that they’ll be shocked but that’s normal. All in all, They’ll be Shocked but they’ll be supportive. They love there only Son. There not gonna turn him away. He knows his sister.

5:00 p.m.

Ignis walks in Cafe 18 and looks around. He feels sick to his stomach. He feels like he’s gonna throw up on the spot.

Poor baby.

Then he sees his parents. Here he goes.

He walks very slowly towards them. Almost like a movie. His whole body is telling him to leave but it’s already too late to back out now.

His first Mum saw him and got excited. She hadn’t realized til now that it’s been a long time since she saw him.

She was so excited to see him again that she hadn’t noticed the clear baby bump. Her wife got up and smiled. Ignis had changed so much.

“It’s been so long!” She exclaimed happily. Iggy couldn’t help but smile. It’s the affection he hadn’t had in so long.

His mum stepped back and looked at him. She looked up and down til she saw the bump in his stomach.

She was confused til she realized.

“Are you pregnant?!” She exclaimed. His mom looked to and saw the bump.

Ignis got nervous. Than His Mum hugged him. Than his other Mom got in on the hug.

She whispered. “I’m gonna be a grandma!”

“I’ll have to buy a onesie!” Her wife exclaimed.

Ignis chuckled while tears ran down his face near there seats. “Suprise!”

Bonus!

After leaving Cafe 18, They entered the park and sat down at the bench.

His Mum couldn’t help but put her hands on his belly. She had to feel her grandchild. Ignis was shocked but didn’t stop her.

Kick!

The baby moved under her left hand. It was the best thing she felt in a long time.

She and her wife knew right then and there that they have to try be there for him more. It’ll be hard but they feel so guilty that it took six months to figurer out that they were having a grandchild!

They don’t know if it’ll work but they have to!

For there Son and there unborn grandchild 💙

A/n: I changed the writing style because I wanted to shake things up. I hope it’s ok!

If y’all want me to change it or go back to the old one, please please let me know!

I really enjoyed making this!

[akl1]

A Knight in bruised armour - Part 1

Summary : Roman returned from question to find none of the sides home, except a certain slimy boi.

TW : Wounds/blood, sympathetic Deceit, swearing

Pairings : Platonic/Romantic Roceit (it can work either way)

Word count : 1,439

Author’s note :

After writing a mountain of angst, I just wanted to write some fluffy snek stuff.

“Hellooooo? Anyone home?” Roman had just returned from beating the pulp out of the dragon witch and many more villains, and he is quite hurt. He had a gash on his left leg, for which he tore down his sleeve so the bleeding would lessen. He was filled with bruises left and right, and some burn marks on top of his shoulders. He hauled himself on the couch, wincing due to his sore muscles and wounds. He decided to try again “Guys? Your brave Prince has returned and is in need of some assistance!”

He waited a few seconds for any response,  then let out a disappointed sigh. He didn't think he had the energy to drag himself upstairs to get to the bathroom for medicine, so he stayed and hoped the others would return soon. His eyelids felt heavy, and he soon dozed off.

After about an hour passed, he was awoken (but still half asleep). He thought he heard some shuffling near him but didn't have to energy to care. Since the topmost staircase creaks quite loudly, he figured out that the person went away from the couch, upstairs, then went down again. By this time he called out the side, suspecting it being Patton.

“Patton? Is that you?” He said, stretching his arms, but then promptly regretting it because it made them more sore.

“Yes, I am Patton.” The voice said. Roman opened his eyes to see- Deceit?

“Wh- You're not Patton! Deceit?! What are you doing here?! Do you want to hurt me?! Get away you danger noodle!” Roman called out, abruptly sitting up.

“Do not calm down. I am here to hurt you.” Deceit calmly said, contracting his words.

“What do you mean you want to hurt me?! I shall valiantly fight you!”

Deceit let out an annoyed sigh, rolling his eyes.

“I do not speak in lies. It is not easier for me to speak that way.” Deceit slowly explained to Roman.

“So, you say the opposite of what you mean?"

“No.” Deceit nodded.

“Okay… But- why are you here in the first place?” Roman asked, taking on the situation.

“You are not hurt, and I don't wish to help you heal.”

Roman paused. “Why do you want to help me?”

Deceit thought in silence for a moment He couldn't just simply admit that he had a soft spot for the Prince. “The others will be back soon. They haven’t gone… somewhere. I know where. Anyway, you're not hurt and that's good. Not every person deserves help.

Roman, surprised at Deceit’s words, looked at him meaningfully. “O-oh. Thank you.” He reluctantly, but genuinely said.

Deceit looked at him with a confused expression, as he had never heard the flamboyant prince say “thank you” but dismissed it and focused on his wounds. He lifted the first aid kit which he brought down from the bathroom, and took out a long bandage from it. Getting a towel, he ran over to the kitchen sink, and dabbed a bit of water onto it. He ran back to Roman, and took his bloodied sleeve off of his leg, revealing his wound. It had started to heal a little, but it was still in need of care. Deceit softly patted the wound, getting small bloodstains on the towel. He didn’t mind, he could wash it out later.

As Deceit was cleaning Roman’s wounds, the creative side pondered. After all, he has been pretty mean with Deceit. But can he be trusted? He does speak in lies after all. But here he is now, disinfecting his gash, and wrapping it up in a soft white bandage.

“Where else do you not have wounds?” Deceit asked, interrupting his train of thought.

“The others aren't too bad, though the dragon witch did blaze my shoulders a bit. If you could find some cream that would soothe the burn, it would help a lot.” Roman’s face showed an awkward, but hopeful smile.

“I won't find something here.” The deceptive side said while rummaging through the first aid kit. He pulled out a small grey tube, and quickly opening it.

“I'm uh… not going to need you to remove your-” Deceit cleared his throat. “-your shirt.”

Roman thought he said saw a ghost of a blush on Deceit’s face, but it soon disappeared. “Of course.” He said, pulling his shirt off, revealing some more scars and some amazing chiselled abs. Deceit caught himself staring and quickly reminded himself of what this stupid Prince had done to him, and that he needed to help him, not fall for him. That would be stupid. Deceit distracted himself by reiterating the conversation he had with Roman, his surprised he was to see him, how he said sorry. He giggled.

“What?”

“Oh, I just didn't remember how you called me a danger noodle” Deceit continued giggling.

Roman let out an awkward chuckle. “Well, I mean, your surprise attack caught me off guard. I didn't have time to come up a good nickname.”

“Suprise attack? I just walked over to you.” Deceit objected.

The Prince cleared his throat, realising his poor wording. “Shut up, Jack the Fibber.” He replied with annoyance. Deceit laughed at the nickname, and continued to apply the cream to Roman’s shoulder. They sat in a contended silence, Deceit just thinking and Roman feeling a little guilty. He thought how badly he treated Deceit in the past, and how now he was on his own accord helping him recover. Could this be another trick? Probably not. He doubted Deceit would go to this extent to mess with him. A few minutes have passed when Roman broken the silence with “I'm sorry” The deceptive side looked up at him in curiosity.

“What didn't you say?” He slowly asked.

“I'm sorry for… for treating you badly in the past. It was unfair of me to judge you. You are after all only doing your job.” Roman admitted. He stared with a hopeful expression at Deceit, maybe he would forgive him. Roman found it strange that the forgiveness of a past foe meant that much to him. He started again. “I know you probably deem me dumb or this whole situation stupid, but I promise-”

“It isn't okay. I didn't get used to it. It doesn't happen all the time. You did it the most, not after Patton. Logan and Virgil don't despise me. You aren't fine.”

Roman found himself looking at Deceit with a sense of admiration, but with uncomfortable guilt. Was he truly an enemy? They have hated him since he first appeared but he really doesn't seem that bad. Princey remembers what Patton had said, that his goal is self-preservation, which is good,but his methods are less than ideal. Deceit snorted.

“Huh? What is it?” Roman inquired, his train of thought broken.

“It- It isn't nothing.” Deceit dismissed, waving his arm.

“Well people don't just laugh at nothing.” Roman huffed.

“Don't mind your own business, flamboyant fuck!” Deceit said, giggling at the absurdity of what he had just said. Roman’s chuckles at Deceit’s insult had turned into boisterous, loud laughter, and the kept on laughing even when it hurt. Unfortunately, they didn't hear the door being unlocked, and three sides entering.

“Roman, we're home!” Patton called, before taking in the scene. Roman and Deceit abruptly stopped laughing, snapping their heads over to meet their sudden visitors.

“Ro? Who's that?” Virgil suspiciously asked. He narrowed his eyes, but before he could say who it was, he was interrupted by Logan.

“Deceit! What the hell are you doing here? What have you done with Roman?” Logan barked, running over to Deceit and grabbing him by the shoulder. Twisting him around, he eyes the deceptive side, searching for some angry emotion, other than… fear? Deceit flinched at the sudden contact.

“I-I was just-”

“What sort of fuckery were you trying to manipulate Roman into?” Virgil hissed.

“Virgil!” Patton gasped, “Don't you dare use that language here.” He started scolding Anxiety.

“Guys…” Roman warned, trying to explain the situation. “He wasn't doing anything wrong-”

“-That's just what you think! He probably made you do something reckless and irresponsible, didn't he?” Logan thundered. “Tell me what you did you good-for-nothing dimwit.”

“Listen, I didn't do nothing. Roman wasn't hurt and I didn't help him.”

“What do you mean Roman wasn't hurt?! He clearly is.” Virgil persisted.

“Guys, will you just listen?!” Roman shouted. “He didn't do any harm to me. He helped me heal my wounds I had gotten from fighting the dreaded dragon witch.”

A chorus of “what?!” followed Roman’s statement.

“Now please, let me explain in detail.”

To be continued-

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[parkminijiminie]

I actually want Jungkook to see how shitty the fandom is. To see what the TKers say. I know Jimin sees it, but I honestly want JK to see what happens. I know JK doesn't give af what ppl think of him but I wonder what he'll do when he sees what they say about Jimin in regards to him. lol I'm sorry but I actually hate how they love the fandom so much when it treats them and their friendship like shit.

Hey, Anon. 

I know your  ask was in regards to the “Jimin not being GCF main model” situation and the storm it brought with it, so I’m sorry for being late.

I think you got your wish a few days later when Jimin forgot to write Tae’s name and all hell broke loose. Hate tweets, hate hashtags, death threats.. you name it, Jimin got it all. Mostly from solo Tae stans but sadly from OT6 “ARMY’s” too, many of who t/k shippers. A quick disclaimer here: I know many many many Tae and t/k stans are respectful and love Jimin and would never harm Jimin but let’s be honest - all ships have some nasty bad apples and in this particular case we really got to see exactly how nasty some of the t/k and Tae biased ones can get. 

I politely disagree with you, Anon. I never ever want Jungkook or anyone from BTS to see hateful messages, especially because of something as dumb as ships (don’t attack me, I’m a shipper/supporter too). With Kookie and Jimin I’m even more sensitive considering the amount of insults that these two had gotten through the years from “ARMYs”. When I said that JK might have had a little too much faith in the fandom saying that “not main model” thing, I didn’t mean that he is naive or oblivious but that maybe he thought he had already made it perfectly clear how special JM is to him and believed people woudn’t actually turn this into another “I don’t like Jimin” charade. Unfortunately he was wrong.

Nevertheless, Jungkook is (hasn’t been for a time now) blind to the way twitter can be. In fact, I would say he is the one who has suffered the most from it (well, with the recent hate for Jimin they might be tied now). Maybe some of you don’t know but it is not without a reason that JK left twitter and now posts only once in a blue moon if it’s a major event and even then it’s not a given. For those of you who don’t know, we may say Jungkook was basically scared off Twitter with the way how ARMYs acted towards him. Let me give you some infro on one (of at least two) particularly gruesome instance: the hell that happened after BTS “Rainism” special stage.  Bangtan bomb behind the scenes here. Jimin’s tweet about it here.  

Kookie was very excited that he got the chance to be center the entire perfomance and he did a tremendous job, yet lets just say what he received from the fandom was far from nice. People started calling him “selfish”, “arrogant”, they tweeted how he should leave the band, OT6 tweets were everywhere. There were mean hashtags trending how BTS will be better without JK.. a complete mess. And all because he was happy to be at the spotlight the entire time once.Just once. How would this people support him in his solo projects if this was their reaction to one performance. It’s no suprise he left twitter after that and was radio silent for half an year. He rightfully decided he didn’t need that type of negativity in his life and I can’t say I don’t understand him. Everyone should be thankful to Jimin for feeding us pictures and videos of him otherwise we would have died from starvation. 

So you see, Anon, he is far from oblivious to the hate.

When it comes to ships and ship wars it’s a little different:

Do the members know about ships? Absolutely. Most likely from the get go. This is common in kpop and it’s something that is used and promoted to gain popularity so of course they know. Also, they see comments saying “Jikook” or “T*ekook” everywhere - in the youtube comments, under their tweets, in the vlive comments, so they know. In fact how could they not know when people keep bringing ships up to them at fansigns for example? 

Do they know about the ship wars? Yes for all, maybe to a different extent. At the very least when they scroll through the comments under vlives they see people saying “Where’s ta*kook”, “I don’t like Jikook”, “Bring t**kook” and etc. Such comments Jimin and Jungkook for sure saw in their last vlive together when they were scrolling though them at the beginning of the video. We can safely conclude that they know there’s separation in the fandom between the the main Min and Kook ships (you know which ones). 

To what extent do they know? Debatable. We know Jimin monitors twitter and fan cafe a lot, he has said so himself. He must have seen the many many comments there about the ships even if a lot of them are in English. Jimin has also notoriously shut people up a few times when it comes to ships with his tweets so he must know. 

Does JK monitor twitter? Probably yes to a lot smaller extent. Even if not, we can guess he knows from Jimin with which he is very close and apparently has no secrets from. Also, I assume he read at least people’s reactions to GCFo which sparked some shipping controversery on it’s own. 

Do they care about ship wars?  I would guess they care more about the state of the fandom than the hype every little thing gets but I believe from time to time they care if people are being particularly mean (as with the recent Jimin hate). 

Do they act in certain ways because of ships? Well, they as well as the company know we like certain pairing more than others which influences photoshoots arrangements and such. Also fan service is still a thing even though BTS fan service is largely very genuine. If needs be (like at musters) they amp up the skinship but they care a lot about each othe rand are very close so nothing is “fake” just amplified. 

What I mean with this long ass answer is that the boys know probably about everything - the ships, the reactions to them, the hate. They know. Even if they didn’t know about the “problematic side”, after the recent Jimin and Jin hate incident they must know for sure now. So there’s no need to wish for JK to see the hate as he is probably well aware of it currently. Once upon a time, when he was younger, he genuinely didn’t know people thought he hated Jimin, hence why he was so offended when asked if he really liked him. After that I believe he made sure to inform himself what that “hate JM” issue is and haven’t been that oblivious ever since.

There’s also no wondering how Jungkook will react to the hate towards Jimin. JK can’t stand seeing any of his hyungs getting hurt, let alone Jimin, let alone because of himself. He is always silent when people are teasing his “Jimin-ssi”, he’s the first to defend him even from his own bandmates, he made a whole ass video about him to the song “There for you”. It’s no news: Kookie would be pretty distraught to see Jimin’s name through the mud especially because of something he did. He would probably feel very bad and guilty.

I really don’t want that. In fact I don’t get why anyone would want that. Is it because you’re wondering about JK’s reaction? Becase there’s no need, we can safely guess he would be very unhappy. If you kind of want him to see the hate as a sort of “punishment” for his wrongdoing (I doubt that’s the case) then I think that’s going overboard as there’s no need for a “punishment” to begin with. JK didn’t do anything wrong. Even if he seriously meant it that Jimin’s not the main model, it’s his right and it’s not that big of a deal. No-one even claimed that Jimin should be the main one in the first place, I for one would understand and find it completely normal if Jungkook’s work doesn’t include Jimin every time. So, basically JK did nothing  to be punished for. Sure, if he was teasing maybe he could have worded himself better and Jimin didn’t seem very happy but it’s not like Jungkook can monitor every single little thing he says or does all the time.

It’s not his fault that the fandom can take even the littlest things and turn them into a sh*t storm nor is it his responsibiltiy to always predict and prevent everything. 

Even if we assume JK did or potentially one day does something downright unjistice or hurtful to Jimin, it is still not our place to meddle or want him punished. By now they for sure know how to settle conflicts so even if JK hurts Jimin’s feeling (or vice versa) it is between them to deal with it in whatever way they find fitting. We are merely observers, we don’t have the right to dictate their behaviour. 

Which leads me to my last point: if perhaps you wished JK to see the hate in order for him to change his behaviour, I find that a little problematic. Firstly, because as I said he didn’t do anything wrong and basically never does anything to hurt Jimin in pulic let alone intentionally. Secondly, because it is not our place to wish how they should be towards each other. We get what we can, we don’t make demands. Third and most important: I don’t want Jungkook to think he can’t be himself because of what people might say. Sure, he should be respectful but that he already is. Once upon a time he was confused people thought he hated Jimin and since then he made sure to change how he acted in front of the cameras: he no longer pushes Jimin away or puts him in last place in looks. Jungkook did his homework and corrected himself, even though even back than anyone with eyes could see he cared a lot for his hyung. Now he is so gentle and thoughtful. One can say he even tries to prevent problems by always choosing Jimin for everything when he has the chance, always staying near his side, sitting next to him. He is careful both in words and actions and I believe he is that away not just in front of the cameras but privately as well. 

He doesn’t need “corrections” because the problem is not with him. It’s with the fandom.

I’d hate for him to think he can’t tease Jimin (or his other hyungs), be honest about something with us or have interactions/take pictures/hug/laugh with Tae (or another member) because of what people might say. Having to monitor every single little thing JK (or any of the other members) does or says takes away from the relationship the group has with the fans. It also puts extra stress on them to be careful, further disconnects them from ARMY and contributes to them feeling like wearing a mask. 

I don’t want Jungkook or Jimin or any of Bangtan to have to feel the neccesity to change how they act and how they present themselves in front of us, especially because of hateful comments and toxic shipping. They are already concerned with their image enough as it is, they don’t need to worry about it any more. It’s us that should change. The fandom should stop overreacting over every little thing, shippers should stop hating on a member because he “comes between their ship”, people should stop being hateful and mean to the members in general. 

It’s the people who write rude and hurtful comments that should feel bad and not Jungkook reading them because he is plenty considerate, nice and genuine as it is.