#I opened reddit today and saw four posts like this it’s nuts

[girlvinland]

Ughhhhh I hate any groups for “late bloomer” lesbians so much bc it always feels like every other post is like “I’m so miserable would it really be THAT bad if I cheated on my husband so I can sleep with a woman?”

Fuck you bc yes, yes it would. Your husband doesn’t deserve that, the woman you’d be seeing doesn’t deserve that. Just get your shit together and get a divorce and don’t drag people into a mess of your own creation 😭. Or at least discuss this with him and see what other possibilities he might be okay with, idfk. Even then, no woman really deserves to be brought in on the side to endure the chaos and hurt feelings that will inevitably come with that but I digress.

Also maybe this is just a me thing but I don’t get why people need to experiment with another person to know, especially if they’re just going to be keeping their current partner in the background “just in case”. I feel like you either know or you don’t but idk. Even if you don’t, wouldn’t it be better to end things first and not string someone along? It seems fucked up to cheat on your partner and then just expect them to stay if you end up asking for forgiveness later. Also, why do people even get married if they’re not 100% certain on things. I don’t understand.

Edit: One of the ones I was reading explained that the husband is homophobic so she thought the only way she could figure things out was by cheating but then it’s like. Okay…so you’re going to put yourself and another person in danger bc of this? In that case please just find a way to safely end the marriage before putting yourself and other people at risk 😭