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88 Forgiveness Quotes on Life, Love, and Friendship

These forgiveness quotes will help you let go of the past and not allow anger to poison your heart.

Forgiveness is a difficult emotion for so many of us. Due to too much hate and anger inside us, we find it almost impossible in some situations to let go of the past, or move on from the wrongs that others have done to us.

However, it is through forgiving and letting go of those perceived injustices that truly allows us to be free.

Below is our collection of inspirational, wise, and powerful forgiveness quotes, forgiveness sayings, and forgiveness proverbs on how we can start that process.

Forgiveness Quotes About Life

1.) “Forgiveness is the sweetest revenge.” ― Isaac Friedmann

2.) “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ― Mahatma Gandhi, All Men are Brothers: Autobiographical Reflections

3.) “It is important that we forgive ourselves for making mistakes. We need to learn from our errors and move on.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

4.) “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ― Katherine Ponder

5.) “Dumbledore says people find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

6.) “Forgiving does not erase the bitter past. A healed memory is not a deleted memory. Instead, forgiving what we cannot forget creates a new way to remember. We change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.” ― Louis B. Smedes

7.) “Love may forgive all infirmities and love still in spite of them: but Love cannot cease to will their removal.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain

Forgive Yourself Quotes

8.) “Forgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.” ― Harriet Nelson

9.) “Forgiveness has nothing to do with absolving a criminal of his crime. It has everything to do with relieving oneself of the burden of being a victim–letting go of the pain and transforming oneself from victim to survivor.” ― C.R. Strahan

10.) “I think that if God forgives us we must forgive ourselves. Otherwise, it is almost like setting up ourselves as a higher tribunal than Him.” ― C.S. Lewis

11.) “Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back.” ― Anne Lamott

12.) “Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” ― Criss Jami, Salomé: In Every Inch In Every Mile

13.) “There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” ― Bryant H. McGill

14.) “Forgiveness in no way requires that you trust the one you forgive.” ― Wm. Paul Young, The Shack

15.) “Life is an adventure in forgiveness.” ― Norman Cousins

16.) “Always forgive, but never forget, else you will be a prisoner of your own hatred, and doomed to repeat your mistakes forever.” ― Wil Zeus, Sun Beyond the Clouds

17.) “I have learned, that the person I have to ask for forgiveness from the most is: myself. You must love yourself. You have to forgive yourself, every day, whenever you remember a shortcoming, a flaw, you have to tell yourself “That��s just fine”. You have to forgive yourself so much, until you don’t even see those things anymore. Because that’s what love is like.” ― C. JoyBell C.

Forgiveness Quotes on Friendship

18.) “Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” ― Roberto Assagioli

19.) “Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are.” ― Cherie Carter-Scott

20.) “Can I be forgiven for all I’ve done to get here? I want to be. I can. I believe it.” ― Veronica Roth, Allegiant

21.) “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” ― Robert Quillen

22.) “Any fool knows men and women think differently at times, but the biggest difference is this. Men forget, but never forgive; women forgive, but never forget.” ― Robert Jordan

23.) “I want to be the kind of person who can do that. Move on and forgive people and be healthy and happy. It seems like an easy thing to do in my head. But it’s not so easy when you try it in real life.” ― Susane Colasanti, Waiting for You

24.) “Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” ― Hannah Arendt

25.) “Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.” ― Kent M. Keith, The Silent Revolution: Dynamic Leadership in the Student Council

Forgiveness Quotes on Love

26.) “He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.” ― George Herbert

27.) “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” ― Nelson Mandela

28.) “Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.” ― Emma Goldman

29.) “What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.”

30.) “Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the door of resentment and the handcuffs of hatred. It is a power that breaks the chains of bitterness and the shackles of selfishness.” ― Corrie ten Boom, Clippings from My Notebook

31.) “Forgiveness is me giving up my right to hurt you for hurting me.” – Anonymous

32.) “I could easily forgive his pride, if he had not mortified mine.” ― Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

33.) “Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave.” ― Indira Gandhi

34.) “As long as I am breathing, in my eyes, I am just beginning.” ― Criss Jami, Killosophy

35.) “Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, because hate in your heart will consume you too.” ― Will Smith

More Forgiveness Quotes on Life

36.) “If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one.” ― Robert Brault

37.) “A life lived without forgiveness is a prison.” ― William Arthur Ward

38.) “People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.”

39.) “Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

40.) “Sincere forgiveness isn’t colored with expectations that the other person apologize or change. Don’t worry whether or not they finally understand you. Love them and release them. Life feeds back truth to people in its own way and time-just like it does for you and me.” ― Sara Paddison

41.) “To err is human, to forgive, divine.” ― Alexander Pope, An Essay on Criticism

42.) “Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.” ― Alice Duer Miller

43.) “The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.” ― Marianne Williamson

44.) “We are all mistaken sometimes; sometimes we do wrong things, things that have bad consequences. But it does not mean we are evil, or that we cannot be trusted ever afterward.” ― Alison Croggon

Quotes on Forgiving Others

45.) “It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” ― William Blake

46.) “I guess forgiveness, like happiness, isn’t a final destination. You don’t one day get there and get to stay.” ― Deb Caletti

47.) “The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.

48.) “To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.” ― G.K. Chesterton

49.) “Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast.” ― Marlene Dietrich

50.) “One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.” ― Rita Mae Brown

51.) “As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy a rent-free space in your mind.” ― Isabelle Holland

52.) “I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.” ― Abraham Lincoln

53.) “These are the few ways we can practice humility: To speak as little as possible of one’s self. To mind one’s own business. Not to want to manage other people’s affairs. To avoid curiosity. To accept contradictions and correction cheerfully. To pass over the mistakes of others. To accept insults and injuries. To accept being slighted, forgotten and disliked. To be kind and gentle even under provocation. Never to stand on one’s dignity. To choose always the hardest.” ― Mother Teresa, The Joy in Loving: A Guide to Daily Living

54.) “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.” ― Paul Boese

Forgiveness Quotes for Lovers

55.) “I’m sorry about yesterday,” she said. He hung on to his straps and shrugged. “Yesterday happens.” ― Rainbow Rowell, Eleanor & Park

56.) “Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.”

57.) “Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly. We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family.” ― Henri J.M. Nouwen

58.) “Forgiveness is the giving, and so the receiving, of life.” ― George MacDonald

59.) “Forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless of the temperature of the heart.” ― Corrie ten Boom

60.) “Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.” ― Gautama Buddha, The Dhammapada: The Sayings of the Buddha

61.) “Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.” ― Cherie Carter-Scott

62.) “People have to forgive. We don’t have to like them, we don’t have to be friends with them, we don’t have to send them hearts in text messages, but we have to forgive them, to overlook, to forget. Because if we don’t we are tying rocks to our feet, too much for our wings to carry!” ― C. JoyBell C.

63.) “If he can’t handle you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best. Real love means seeing beyond the words spoken out of pain, and instead seeing a person’s soul.” ― Shannon L. Alder, 300 Questions LDS Couples Should Ask Before Marriage

Quotes about Forgiveness in Life

64.) “Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.” ― William Arthur Ward

65.) “The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.”

66.) “The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.” ― Thomas Szasz

67.) “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ― Louis B. Smedes

68.) “We are told that people stay in love because of chemistry, or because they remain intrigued with each other, because of many kindnesses, because of luck. But part of it has got to be forgiveness and gratefulness. ” ― Ellen Goodman

69.) “Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means for correcting our misperceptions.” ― Gerald G. Jampolsky, Love Is Letting Go of Fear

70.) “Forgiveness is like faith. You have to keep reviving it.” ― Mason Cooley

71.) “Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not a person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time. Trust requires a track record.” ― Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here for?

Quotes about Forgiveness in Friendship

72.) “If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.”

73.) “Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.” ― Marvin J. Ashton

74.) “We are all on a life long journey and the core of its meaning, the terrible demand of its centrality is forgiving and being forgiven.” ― Martha Kilpatrick

75.) “This is one of my favorites: “True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience.” ― Oprah Winfrey

76.) “Life is grace. Sleep is forgiveness. The night absolves. Darkness wipes the slate clean, not spotless to be sure, but clean enough for another day’s chalking.” ― Frederick Buechner, The Alphabet of Grace

77.) “Only the brave know how to forgive. … A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature.” – Laurence Sterne

78.) “What I cannot love, I overlook.” ― Anaïs Nin

79.) “Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” ― Oscar Wilde

Quotes about Forgiveness with Love

80.) “Sometimes you just have to regret things and move on.” ― Charlaine Harris

81.) “If you do well, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do well anyway.”

82.) “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.” ― Nelson Mandela

83.) “To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” ― Robert Muller

84.) “Sigh no more, ladies, sigh no more, Men were deceivers ever,- One foot in sea and one on shore, To one thing constant never.” ― William Shakespeare, Much Ado about Nothing

85.) “A broken friendship that is mended through forgiveness can be even stronger than it once was.” ― Stephen Richards, Forgiveness and Love Conquers All: Healing the Emotional Self

86.) “People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.”

87.) “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” ― Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith

88.) “Last night I lost the world, and gained the universe.” ― C. JoyBell C.

Did you enjoy these forgiveness quotes

Now that you know how to go about feeling and showing true forgiveness, the weight can be lifted off of you, and the life you had imagined for yourself lies in front of you…grudge free.

Which quotes about forgiveness were your favorite? What other forgiveness quotes would you add to the list? Let us know in the comment section below.

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Every Sunday morning my Mother would wake me up at approximately nine am to get ready for church. The Pentecostal church we attended every week was a small one with a small congregation. It was a nice enough church, painted with pretty colours and with warm, welcoming faces. I had a few friends at the church, and I really enjoyed their company. This did not stop me from dreading Sunday mornings, however. I hated waking up early and getting dressed in ugly dresses that always ended up being too tight for my chubby little body. Most severely, I hated the boring sermons. Don’t get me wrong, the Pastor was a lovely woman who always preached with great passion. It was fun to be able to watch someone talk about something they love with such devotion. What I loathed were the messages being preached.

They were always of different stories from the Bible with various messages that always came back to the one of the same three things; appreciate God and all that He does for us, Do not stray away from God’s light and become too worldly, and be weary for we do not know the day nor the hour. I already knew of the first two messages. They were ingrained in me from a young age. It was the last message that really got to me. 

“We do not know the day nor the hour.”

What does that even mean?  Whenever I asked my Mom what that meant, she would just say something along the lines of “We will never know when the Lord will decide to brings us home.” I’ve always thought that she meant we will never know when the rapture will happen. No one knows when Jesus will return for his people. After all, that is what the quotes is supposed to mean taken in context. It wasn't until I was older that I realised that the quote could have more than one meaning. Specifically, I realised this on September 11th, 2010.

Both of my parents were raised in very religious families. My mother’s parents were devoted Catholics. They weren't harsh when it came to raising her with catholic views, but they did instill the essential catholic beliefs in her. My father, however, came from a strict Jamaican background and was raised in the Pentecostal church. My grandfather was a pastor and used to preach at his own church. My father didn’t have a great childhood. He grew up in a somewhat tyrannical household. Children were to be seen not heard. If any of the children stepped out of line, they were cruelly punished. That's the way his parents were raised, therefore, that’s the way he was raised.

I didn’t find this out until recently, actually. Within the last couple of years. It kind of changed the way I saw my grandparents. My grandma was always a cantankerous woman, but my grandpa was different. I remember my grandpa being a happy and warm person. Whenever I saw him, he always had a smile on his face. He always gave me the tightest hugs, and I used to always sit on his lap. He was one of the nicest people I knew. Years later when I finally heard about all the awful things he did to my father and his siblings, I didn’t know what to think. It really messed with my head. I started thinking of revenge. Was what happened to him God’s revenge for how he treated his family? Does anyone deserve that? How could he say he was a man of God when he treated his own family like that? To this day I still don’t know what to think. I do, however, choose to remember my grandpa as the happy old man who gave the greatest hugs. I don’t know if I can believe anyone deserves what happened to him.

Every other weekend I would visit my grandparents. I would give a quick hug to my grandpa and grandma, maybe eat something that my grandma would put down in front of me, and watch TV. My grandma lost the remote to her TV years ago.  I never felt like getting up off of the couch to change the dials,  therefore, the TV volume was always left low. I never minded it, though. I never paid much attention to it anyways. Whenever I watched the TV I was really just listening to my dad’s conversations with his parents. They were always in the other room, but they always argued loud enough for me to hear them. It seemed that they argued every time we came over. It was always about different things. However, at some point, it became about the same thing. My grandpa apparently became really sick, yet I never noticed. He had something called “Alzheimer's” and was in the advanced stages of it. My 10 year old self had no idea what that meant. I knew if I asked about it, they would get mad about me eavesdropping. I figured that if it was anything really important, they would tell me. Little did I know.

I didn’t realise that the big smiles he would give me whenever I came over were fake ones. More often than not, he didn’t remember who I was. I guess he thought he should know who I was, therefore, he gave the warmest welcomes. His big hugs were silent pleas for help in a way. I can’t even imagine what it’s like to live like that. Waking up to strangers everyday, not remembering who you are. It sounds like a living hell. I guess my grandpa was good at  facades. I did always think  he was a kind man of God, after all. Even with a brain disease, he was still good at fooling people. He had me fooled for years. Did he still deserve it though?

Now and then I think about that day. September 11, 2010. It was a Saturday. I remember I woke up that morning with a hollow feeling in the pit in my stomach. I had no clue why, but I woke up dreading the day.  I told myself it was because I had church the next morning. Time to hear yet another monotonous sermon.

However, it really was because we had to go to my grandparents’ house that afternoon. My grandfather had gone missing a few days before. He went on one of his routine morning walks, and never returned home. It had been nearly four days, and my parents were out of their minds with worry. My entire family was. The day after he went missing, we printed out a bunch of flyers and posted them around the neighbourhood, and around the town. “MISSING: HERBERT MALCOLM. 79. IF FOUND, PLEASE CONTACT US HERE.” I handed this out to everyone I could. I prayed every night for his safe return. During the time he was missing, our mother would bring us to church daily so we could pray. I found myself yearning for the sermons, if only to provide me hope. For once in my life, the incessant preaching soothed me. I had never been so terrified in my life. Those four days were unbearable, and praying was all I had. Oh boy, did I pray. No matter how much I prayed, we never found him. Until we did.

When I woke up on September 11th, 2010, I had another awful feeling in my stomach. I never expected it to be one of the worst days of my life, though. On that fateful Saturday morning, I woke up to an empty house. I assumed my mom went back to the church or went to hand out more flyers. I got dressed, expecting her to be back soon to take us to my grandparent’s house.

        She didn’t show up until 2 hours later. When she picked me up, she looked like she had been crying.

“What’s wrong, mom?” She had a far away look in her eyes.

“Nothing, get in. We have to go pick up your brother.”

I got in the car, and we went to go pick up my little brother from his weekly Spanish class. I never questioned her red, swollen eyes. She cried a lot during those days.

That far away look she had stayed the entire time we were gone.

I had my fiercely devoted pastor in my mind at the time we found him. We had picked up my brother, and ran a few errands before we  headed to my grandparent’s house. In the car, we  were listening to a preacher who was preaching about the end of days. “We know not the day nor the hour!” He kept insisting. He said it with such passion that it reminded me of her,  I didn’t want to think about the end of the world. I never wanted to think about that.

Now that I think about it, that day could’ve been it. Jesus could have opened up the heavens and descended in his fiery chariot, and I would’ve been okay with it. Just so that I’d have some other memory rooted in my mind that wasn’t what I witnessed that day.

`As I listened to the preacher, and thought about how he and my Pastor would be good friends, I noticed my mom started speeding. She was speeding and heading in a different direction, away from my grandparents’ house, “Mom? Where are we going?”Silence. “Mom, what’s going on?”

She only shushed me. My heart started racing when she pulled into a plaza next to a small river. There were two fire trucks, an ambulance, and what looked like five cop cars. I swear my heart stopped right there. As my mom rushed out of the car, I closed my eyes and ears. I didn’t know what was going on, and I was too scared to find out. I will never forget the bloodcurdling scream that came from my mom. I will never forget the sound of her sobs.  I sat there, unmoving. It wasn’t until I heard the car door close that I realised my little brother had left the car to go see what's wrong. He was only five. He was five years old and he witnessed my grandfather’s dead body be removed from a river with a crane. As I sat there in the car, with my hands going numb with how hard I was squeezing my ears trying to drown out the sound of my mother’s sobs, I had one thought stuck in my head. “You do not know the day nor the hour.” God, I wished Jesus came and took me right then and there.

  It took me years, but I finally healed. I never actually witnessed it like my mother and brother had, but just being there when it happened scarred me enough. It turns out, when my mom was driving home, she saw the fire trucks and ambulance. Something told her to follow them, and so she did. That’s how we found him. Apparently, my grandpa had forgotten everything again while on his morning walk and had wandered away. We still don’t know how he ended up in the water, but a store owner had found him floating. My grandma to this day still believes someone pushed him in.

   I try not to think about this day. It was traumatic for everyone. We stopped going to church as much as we did, and we eventually moved back to Canada a couple of years later. I still think about that boring old church with the boring yet lively Pastor. In a way, our prayers were answered. We did find him. Just not in the way we wanted to find him. I learned something that day. Some things in life are completely out of our control, such as life and death. For the most part, we cannot control our fate or the fates of others. Most importantly, though, I learned that we truly will never know the day nor the hour.