#I guess I'll have to get used to the screwed-up way it makes posts render on my blog page

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SOMEONE ELSE - Betty Who

[prorevenge]

Hello again, I'm the girl/artist who's aunt tried the old "I'm giving you experience and exposure" instead of paying me for some art I did for her real estate business. Just a quick update and then I'll try to let this fade away...

Hello everyone again. I feel bad about posting again because I'm totally not a karma whore but people seemed to be really invested in it and there were actually some people from the company in question who contacted me via this throwaway account so I figure I needed to give some closure (though the story is going to play out for a long time because it's my uncle/aunt's divorce is going to be ugly).

At this point I have no idea what's removed and why, what's still out there, what's been crossposted, etc... so for those who are just checking in I'll try to reset as succinctly as possible:

At the beginning of the year my Aunt Jay (by marriage) asked me to do some artwork for her new real estate business. We had a verbal agreement that she would pay me. She was demanding, insulting and shitty from the get go and I was out a ton of time, quite a bit of material costs very quickly. She wanted me to fly out on my own dime to finish up and paint a mural I designed. I asked for payment on everything I'd already done and she freaked out and screamed at me.

Tuesday, I went to my schools licensing/legal aid office, they helped me draft a letter to cease using my work and an invoice. Aunt Jay called my mom calling me an "ungrateful brat." Mom called Aunt Jay's supposed real estate company to say that one of their agents was not paying for services rendered. Company had no idea who Aunt Jay was. This caused my Uncle to look into things and it turned out Aunt Jay had taken out a few credit cards in his name only and maxed them out. Probably for her Escalade, new "real estate agent" wardrobe and office.

My update was Wednesday so in the following 2/3 days quite a bit more information has come to light about what Aunt Jay was actually up to. She's actually not in as big of trouble as I and everyone on the last post assumed but she's still pretty much screwed in several ways.

So first of all we learned that she probably never told anyone other than my uncle that she was working for the nation wide real estate company in question going to call it ProRealty (my last fake name may have been a little to obvious). It doesn't look like she had any clients, never brokered a single deal, she may have taken a few people around to look at houses but we aren't even sure about that. It looks like the "soon to be ProRealty franchisee" thing was just a lie to get my uncle off her tracks about where this huge influx of cheaply financed money was coming from. She had told him that ProRealty had financed her new Escalade and that they had helped her rent her office.

Since she never actually claimed to be a certified ProRealty agent in order to defraud people, it doesn't look like the company itself has any legal recourse against her. However my mom (extreme extrovert, opposite of me) who has become fast friends with the most senior agent in my hometown and he is (or has, not sure) going to report my aunt to the state board of real estate to have her new (as of last fall) license reviewed and probably suspended. Even if this doesn't happen, she is essentially blackballed from ever doing a deal with ProRealty and according this senior agent, something like 45% of home sales in my town happen with a ProRealty agent one either side of the sale. So even if Aunt Jay doesn't lose her license, she's effectively chopped half of her business potential right from the get go.

One thing that absolutely came out of my last r/prorevenge post was that two actual "ProRealty" agents commented and it was because of them that I was able to figure out a huge chunk of the puzzle. So the real life version of this company uses a very identifiable form of transportation on their logo but to keep this anonymous let's say that ProRealty uses a boat. When Aunt Jay was first talking to me about doing work for her she was oddly adamant that I don't use any "boats" in any of the work I was going to do for her. I mean actually forcefully direct instruction was "no boats!" In my head at the time I was like, I'm not one to paint boats anyways but point taken. Well as me and my family now surmise, while she knew she was already fraudulent, she was still trying to walk a line of not getting on ProRealty's radar in any way shape or form because she knew they could really screw up her plans if she were to be seen driving an $80000 Escalade around town with anything resembling ProRealty's "boat" plastered all over it. But to me it shows she absolutely knew she was up to no good and I hope this can be used in the divorce.

So onto my uncle, I don't know all the ins and outs of how separations and divorces work but as I understand he contacted a lawyer Wednesday afternoon and they were working to file some sort of emergency separation motion with the courts as soon as they possibly could in order to make sure she couldn't do any more financial damages to him. One thing that I thought was really cool of my uncle to do was that his lawyer did (or is in the process) of filing paperwork so she has to turn over all financial records and declare all assets related to her "business" and my uncle specifically asked the lawyer to include the oil painting and logos I'd already shipped to her. So while I'll never get paid, at least I may get my work back. The lawyer is also figuring out what to do about the identity theft.

One thing that is totally screwed up and I totally don't understand is that my uncle has pretty much paid for everything since they've been married (about 5 years) and Aunt Jay literally committed identity theft against him, he is still the one who has to leave the house so at least until he can get a place on his own, he's staying with my parents. My dad says my uncle is basically broken over this, that he didn't see it coming and actually bought into the bullcrap about ProRealty financing a car for someone who didn't even work for them. This makes me feel bad because I brought it all to light but my dad says my uncle appreciates it because Aunt Jay could have gotten in much deeper and she didn't really have a chance to try to and cover up fraud with more fraud.

So still a lot I don't know but this is where we are today. My uncles lawyer doesn't have a timeline for the divorce, I guess it will just depend if stupid Aunt Jay actually finds a lawyer who will put up a fight or if she just tries to fade away.

We'll see, thank you for reading, thank you for all the comments the other day and thank you to the posters who provided a lot of clarity with their knowledge of relationships and the real estate business.

(source) (story by KindredCocaCola)

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my laconic summary of my guess at the details of the performance impact of opening peepr is basically:

a lot of the metadata used to render a tumblr page is (quite reasonably) stored in a single appContext container, and bits that are when considered in total and duplicated across many onscreen posts (much of which are in the footer component) are very expensive to render all at once (~half a second) are generally pretty tightly integrated with data they get from appContext, like "what language is the website currently in" and "is peepr open."

this means that any changes to the metadata ("peepr is now open") trigger a rerender of way too much of the page, compared to what strictly speaking would need to be rerendered to see if anything should change (peepr being on top of the main page area doesn't materially change it at all - actually there is what I would consider a bug here in which a css classname does change, but that's beside the point).

you could solve this particular instance of a performance hit by splitting things up: make a separate context container for toggling peepr and be really careful that nothing in the main appContext changes depending on that toggle. but that seems complicated to guarantee; these things tend to all be intertwined. and you can't keep applying this forever and have every component subscribe to 15 different context containers, trying to keep track of which one is which in order to rerender the bare minimum amount of react in any scanario.

alternately, you can keep the context big and prone to rerender, but instead split up the expensive component and react.memo its subcomponents, so they will only rerender if the individual pieces of data that affect them change. this is generally a good idea, but it requires you to separate out subcomponents in such a way that all of their data is passed through props, such that those props can be checked for not-having-changed, and ideally you want the format of those props to be easy to check quickly. if you design things up front knowing they'll need to be compartmentalized, this isn't too bad, but again, you generally don't want to compartmentalize every little thing to optimize for rerender performance from every possible small change in props!

(if you're a tumblr dev reading this: I think you can probably react.memo renderControls() in the footer component fairly easily, though, btw. could be wrong!)

the difficult thing with performance in general, imo, is that you can't predict in advance which things are expensive, and thus you should not prematurely optimize - often it makes things worse. but on the flip side, if the structure of the code that your "I'm not prematurely optimizing, I'll do that later" brain mode outputs is difficult to refactor later once you do know what is expensive because you tested it, then you're screwed. so I think the ideal mindset is trying to hit a code style that's as simple and - crucially - manipulatable as possible. "if I have to upend this later, how much of this can I ensure I will still be able to keep."

alternately, I guess, you can pick a paradigm that solves these kinds of things for you. my other project uses redux, in which you specify what data your component depends on explicitly with a selector function. still prone to huge rerenders if you don't think much about it, but you can manipulate the data flow by just moving the useSelector hooks around pretty easily. or I guess you can just go to svelte; I hear they don't have rerenders at all and just explicitly hook DOM manipulation up to data manipulation at compile time. that works too.

I have no idea what the point of this post was.

[prorevenge]

Hello again, I'm the girl/artist who's aunt tried the old "I'm giving you experience and exposure" instead of paying me for some art I did for her real estate business. Just a quick update and then I'll try to let this fade away...

Hello everyone again. This is an update of my previous story so if you haven't read it yet, read it first before reading this one.

I feel bad about posting again but people seemed to be really invested in it and there were actually some people from the company in question who contacted me via this throwaway account so I figure I needed to give some closure (though the story is going to play out for a long time because it's my uncle/aunt's divorce is going to be ugly).

At this point I have no idea what's removed and why, what's still out there, what's been crossposted, etc... so for those who are just checking in I'll try to reset as succinctly as possible:

At the beginning of the year my Aunt Jay (by marriage) asked me to do some artwork for her new real estate business. We had a verbal agreement that she would pay me. She was demanding, insulting and shitty from the get go and I was out a ton of time, quite a bit of material costs very quickly. She wanted me to fly out on my own dime to finish up and paint a mural I designed. I asked for payment on everything I'd already done and she freaked out and screamed at me.

Tuesday, I went to my schools licensing/legal aid office, they helped me draft a letter to cease using my work and an invoice. Aunt Jay called my mom calling me an "ungrateful brat." Mom called Aunt Jay's supposed real estate company to say that one of their agents was not paying for services rendered. Company had no idea who Aunt Jay was. This caused my Uncle to look into things and it turned out Aunt Jay had taken out a few credit cards in his name only and maxed them out. Probably for her Escalade, new "real estate agent" wardrobe and office.

My update was Wednesday so in the following 2/3 days quite a bit more information has come to light about what Aunt Jay was actually up to. She's actually not in as big of trouble as I and everyone on the last post assumed but she's still pretty much screwed in several ways.

So first of all we learned that she probably never told anyone other than my uncle that she was working for the nation wide real estate company in question going to call it ProRealty (my last fake name may have been a little to obvious). It doesn't look like she had any clients, never brokered a single deal, she may have taken a few people around to look at houses but we aren't even sure about that. It looks like the "soon to be ProRealty franchisee" thing was just a lie to get my uncle off her tracks about where this huge influx of cheaply financed money was coming from. She had told him that ProRealty had financed her new Escalade and that they had helped her rent her office.

Since she never actually claimed to be a certified ProRealty agent in order to defraud people, it doesn't look like the company itself has any legal recourse against her. However my mom (extreme extrovert, opposite of me) who has become fast friends with the most senior agent in my hometown and he is (or has, not sure) going to report my aunt to the state board of real estate to have her new (as of last fall) license reviewed and probably suspended. Even if this doesn't happen, she is essentially blackballed from ever doing a deal with ProRealty  and according this senior agent, something like 45% of home sales in my town happen with a ProRealty agent one either side of the sale. So even if Aunt Jay doesn't lose her license, she's effectively chopped half of her business potential right from the get go.

One thing that absolutely came out of my last @prorevenge post was that two actual "ProRealty" agents commented and it was because of them that I was able to figure out a huge chunk of the puzzle. So the real life version of this company uses a very identifiable form of transportation on their logo but to keep this anonymous let's say that ProRealty uses a boat. When Aunt Jay was first talking to me about doing work for her she was oddly adamant that I don't use any "boats" in any of the work I was going to do for her. I mean actually forcefully direct instruction was "no boats!" In my head at the time I was like, I'm not one to paint boats anyways but point taken. Well as me and my family now surmise, while she knew she was already fraudulent, she was still trying to walk a line of not getting on ProRealty's radar in any way shape or form because she knew they could really screw up her plans if she were to be seen driving an $80000 Escalade around town with anything resembling ProRealty's "boat" plastered all over it. But to me it shows she absolutely knew she was up to no good and I hope this can be used in the divorce.

So onto my uncle, I don't know all the ins and outs of how separations and divorces work but as I understand he contacted a lawyer Wednesday afternoon and they were working to file some sort of emergency separation motion with the courts as soon as they possibly could in order to make sure she couldn't do any more financial damages to him. One thing that I thought was really cool of my uncle to do was that his lawyer did (or is in the process) of filing paperwork so she has to turn over all financial records and declare all assets related to her "business" and my uncle specifically asked the lawyer to include the oil painting and logos I'd already shipped to her. So while I'll never get paid, at least I may get my work back. The lawyer is also figuring out what to do about the identity theft.

One thing that is totally screwed up and I totally don't understand is that my uncle has pretty much paid for everything since they've been married (about 5 years) and Aunt Jay literally committed identity theft against him,  he is still the one who has to leave the house so at least until he can get a place on his own, he's staying with my parents. My dad says my uncle is basically broken over this, that he didn't see it coming and actually bought into the bullcrap about ProRealty financing a car for someone who didn't even work for them. This makes me feel bad because I brought it all to light but my dad says my uncle appreciates it because Aunt Jay could have gotten in much deeper and she didn't really have a chance to try to and cover up fraud with more fraud.

So still a lot I don't know but this is where we are today. My uncles lawyer doesn't have a timeline for the divorce, I guess it will just depend if stupid Aunt Jay actually finds a lawyer who will put up a fight or if she just tries to fade away.

We'll see, thank you for reading, thank you for all the comments the other day and thank you to the posters who provided a lot of clarity with their knowledge of relationships and the real estate business.

Edit: eeeekkkk...pms are getting a little dodgy.

I'm not hot at all.

Aunt Jay looks like she is trying very hard to be in "step-mom" porn and coming up just short (my ex was really into it, that's how I know about it).

Edit 2: just talked with my mom again, my uncle wasn't forced to leave the house, I guess his lawyer advised him that if he felt he was any danger, or if he felt that there was even a slight chance that Aunt Jay would accuse him of harming her, it's best he just leave and they'd work out possession of the house later. It's very hard to reconcile that he was either scared of her or scared of her accusing him with the huge 6'3" dads little brother who used to throw me around in our pool. Growing up sucks

(source) (story by KindredCocaCola)