#I don't usually talk about the polyam stuff

[nochiquinn]

this post is probably gonna end up in drafts for a while, bc I'm about to dump a lot of stuff and I'm not putting it behind a cut.

I've talked about the stuff with our property tax, but I don't think I've really laid out what it means. If we cannot pay our property tax, they will evict us from our home. We will be homeless. I've said that part. here's what I haven't laid out.

I have someplace to go. My parents will take me back in. My depression will skyrocket and I'll lose my only means of making a living due to their substandard rural internet, but I'll have a roof over my head. But my partner can't come with me. While they'd probably gladly also take in my kid, I am not her legal guardian in any sense. Her parents would have to sign over custody so I could make necessary decisions wrt her medical care, school stuff, etc etc. All the parent stuff I can't do.

I am in a polyamorous relationship. My partner is married to someone else. "My kid" is legally and biologically their kid, I am a legally "unofficial" third parent. (We usually introduce me as her godparent.) For this reason, my lack of any legal ties to any of them and their status as a legal nuclear family, any temporary housing they find will not allow me to come with them. I would have to apply on my own, and my employment status doesn't give me great odds. The one place they can possibly go doesn't have room for me, just the three of them.

In extremely plain language, if we lose our house, I lose my partner. If we lose our house, I lose my kid.

My partner is currently not working. We can survive on his wife's income, but just barely. Our plan was to take a little off the top of each of her paychecks, so 4-5 times a month, and use that to pay. We can't do that now. As it stands now we would need around $800 a month to make the payment in time.

I don't know. I just needed to lay out the actual stakes I'm facing, I guess. We have tried so, so hard - my partner has tried so, so hard and we just keep getting knocked down. Not to sound petulant, but it's not fucking fair. and I don't know what to do anymore.

[euniexenoblade]

I've tried to talk to him about it before but it just, never changed anything really, he just, he's good for a day, maybe, before it slides back to normal and he forgets about it. It's like that with a lot of stuff. And when I've tried withholding sex from him in the past like, just not being in the mood, he'd get so, upset and cry and be just, miserable, cause he was unmedicated and extremely depressed so I'd just, stopped saying no, I just don't say no anymore cause even if It's miserable I can usually make myself enjoy it when we get started so I just, I don't know what to do, I just needed to talk about it I guess. And it was fine for awhile cause I am polyam but my fwb parnter is real sick so, we can't do anything together and I guess it's starting to get with me again

Oh babygirl that's not good you have to be able to say no, if he can't stand not having sex *once* cuz you don't want to top then that's bad news and honestly feels like a step away from rape (if not already there).

Genuinely I would get out of there now.

[fatass-adam]

Also I'M INSPIRED so-

Name: Jamesin (pronounced like the whiskey) Dionysus Kult but you can call me Jimmy (usually stylized as J!MMY because I'm an edge lord lol)

Age: 34, about to be 35 in Feb lol

Sex: AFAB

Gender: Male (I don't like specifying trans male because I shouldn't have to...I'm just a guy lol)

Pronouns: He/him/his! Please only use "they/them/theirs" if you get confused and can't remember, but never use "she/her/hers" or anything else! I've worked very hard to "earn" my masculine pronouns and I take them very seriously!

Sexual Orientation: Pansexual! I'm mostly attracted to cis dudes by sight (unfortunately tbh lol...no offense to cis dude followers because you all seem amazing!) but I can fall in love with a personality for the most part (that and I'm kinda scared to date a cis dude because I'm afraid he'll treat me like a girlfriend...but that's another story for a different post XD)

Romantic Orientation: Aro! Though I guess I show "romance" in my own twisted little ways?? I'm kinda demi at this point (and mostly just for @dreamerlucifer and @fel-rush lol) tbh but I like identifying as aro better XD It feels more fitting since traditional romance actually kinda grosses me out-

Mental Disabilities: ADHD, OCD, bipolar II disorder, anxiety, and depression! A few other things have been thrown around like paranoia and I'm 90% sure I have discalculia but those aren't fully diagnosed yet!

Physical Disabilities: Scoliosis, arthritis in several areas, and carpal tunnel syndrome...basically everything hurts lol. I'm somewhere between "too disabled to work" and "not disabled enough for disability checks" so I'm currently kind of a burden (though I make up for it by being a househusband XD) and I feel bad about that but that's a story for another post too I think lmao

Special Interests Include: Theme parks (mainly Disney parks and Universal parks...yes this includes the overseas ones and the cruise ships and such), rides (especially cheesy dark rides), and well...pretty much anything in the touristy type area and in the entertainment industry like animatronics, gaming, technology, and shit like that lol. I have a LOT of YouTube channels about this stuff saved and will gladly share them with you!!

Hyper Fixations: Mostly the band Ghost tbh lol, I can (and I cannot stress this word enough) literally infodump on them for HOURS-

Anything else: My hobbies include drawing, writing, cosplaying, and role playing. My fav things are sex, drinking, cats, and food! I'M SUPER SELF INDULGENT and believe firmly on living life to the fullest and having a good time! I'm actually in the works for starting a religion based on it and will be ordained once my name is legally changed BUT ANYWAY...I'm also a very social person and love going out, especially to our local gay club! I'm an amateur sex worker on the side but don't get to talk about that much due to social medias censoring me. My dream is to finally finish my original comic and get it out there into the world! YES YOU CAN ASK ABOUT IT AND MY OCS BECAUSE I WILL LOSE MY SHIT AND TALK TO YOU ABOUT IT FOR HOURS XD I don't get to just casually talk about my boys much lmao

AND...it's 12:12 AM and officially Munday so feel free to ask about anything else ya wanna know about me XD Adam can take back seat for just a day right?? Wrong tbh but I'll go back and forth between me and him to make it fair lol

Anyways, I think @dreamerlucifer should do this too! >:} Would tell @fel-rush to do it but he's more private lol...though he's obviously welcome to if he wants! ANYONE IS!

EDIT: I dunno where to put this so I'll just note that I'm also polyam! Well...for lack of a better word. XD I'm engaged to @dreamerlucifer and in a polycule with him and @fel-rush! I'm also open and allowed to have casual sex as long as I inform my partners and get the okay so there's that XD Which is cool because sex is my love language and I do it very casually on an almost platonic level lmao...but we'll talk about that some other time!

[polyamorousmood]

My gf (mtf) is fairly monogamous but I'm not necessarily, especially with sex. I have an offer from our mutual male friend (cis) to try penetration since I (afab nb) am terrified but curious about it and he's one of the only cis guys I'd feel comfortable trying that with. I have hooked up with him once before, prior to meeting my gf, and it was really good. My gf is fairly supportive about it, one of the things that really works for us sex-wise is that neither of us want penetration in our relationship. I'm just absolutely terrified of making her insecure and ruining her friendship with our friend. I know I can function fine with blurring the lines between sex, friends, and partners, but she's got the trauma of an ultra-Christian childhood and has so much constant dysphoria that I'm scared something like this could ruin our relationship. We talked so much when he first offered and I know she's not opposed, but I just keep thinking about all the horror stories I've read about couples opening up their relationship or trying poly after being mono and it ruining them. Especially if I end up wanting it more than just once with our friend. I don't particularly need advice, I'm just laying in bed next to her in the dark scrolling horrifying stories on Reddit while talking with our friend over text getting all up in my head about our dynamics and I don't have anyone to vent to about this right now. I figure a polyam blog on tumblr will at least understand that nuances that come with figuring this stuff out. Thanks for listening

It's really fair that you'd be worried about this, and it's a really good sign for everything that you want to do this consciously and carefully - if at all. Sincerely the worst thing about polyamory (and related things) is how isolating it can be. 😣Oftentimes, the only person you can even discuss problems with is the partner who is also all up in the problem. Which I clearly don't need to explain to you how that sucks.

You said you didn't need anything but listening. But like, it's me. So.... 🤷‍♀️

Reddit and the forums are the mother of all selection biases: happy people generally don't feel the need to post about their lives online, and people who have found something sustainable but not completely perfect don't feel like their input is valuable because they "still have problems" even though how things can work really well or well enough is probably some of the most valuable information to you!

It's not your fault if your partner lies about or grossly mis-estimates her okayness level on this. And if she is the type of person to usually lies about or grossly mis-estimates her okayness level with things, its bound to be a problem at some point, even if you can successfully avoid it being a problem on this one issue by being really anxious.

🗣📢EXPLICITLY UNSOLICITED ADVICE WARNING🚨🚨 Everything up to this point could be construed as "just thoughts" but the following is unambiguously advice. Stop reading now if you want to continue in your unadvized state. She cannot assure you with 100% certainty she will not have a problem with it. If she tries, all she'll do is lock herself into not being able to tell you if she does. The only helpful thing in these situations I have found is to establish a procedure for what to do if there is a problem. Give her the tools to find something that's comfortable for her. Give her the certainty that you will listen to her, talk things through (which is sometimes a solution on its own!), and not hold it against her if you need to make changes. Then you can rest assured if there are problems, they won't last.

When you're doing "but I don't want to hurt herrrrrr😖" anxiety calculus, remember your non monogamous tendencies probably aren't going to stop! So also evaluate if you'd be okay with never ever doing anything with someone besides your gf. And if you're not. It will probably hurt her worse if you say you're fine with staying monogamous forever now, and then feel like you're about to snap two years later. So just like. Factor that into your calculations, too, haha!😅

And as a close

I'm with you. I feel you. This blog has DMs open if you want to talk more organically or about details you don't want to be public. No matter how this shakes out, you will get through to the other side.💙💖🖤

[kleefkruid]

Hello, I hope this isn't an awkward or rude ask, feel free to ignore tho, but I've been tentatively interested in polyam, but more specifically being in a relationship with two partners I love and cherish. I've seen a lot of posts say that this isnt how polyam stuff works tho and I have no touch stone other than my own lovey dovey fantasies, but I know you're polyam and I figured I'd ask what I should think of and or expect out of a polyam relationship? How does it all work? I hope I explained what I mean well enough. Thank you for your time!

Hi! I'm assuming by the way you worded this you're talking about a triad, a relationship where you are dating two people and they're also dating each other.

I'm gonna go into a few points here 1. triads and their prevalence 2. unicorn hunting, what is it and why is everyone yelling 3. how to 'look for a 3rd' in a not-terrible way 4. a little something else about polyam relationship dynamics

Triads exist! But it's true that outsiders assume it's the standard, as you'll notice in pop culture most poly people are triads, and also here on tumblr as a fanfic trope it's also very prevalent.

But in reality triads are not too common simply for the sheer statistic probability. You have to find someone you like, they have to like you. You also have to find someone else you like who also likes you. Then that first person must also like your second person, and your second person must also like your first person! And then after all this, you have 3 relationships (you+b, you+c, b+c) and you still have to find a way to make the 4th relationship dynamic work (you+b+c). Personally, none of my partners or other people I was connected with, have dated other people I'd wanna date. It's usually people I think are cool, good looking and I want them in my life, but they're not people I wish to date. All triads I have spoken or read their stories have kind off stumbled into it. Usually someone was already dating person b, starts dating person c, and by happenstance person b and c do find this connection. So, it happens, it's great when it happens, but it's just not likely purely bc of chance.

2. When talking about this, I have to quickly get into unicorn hunters, because you will run into this term, and you have some overzealous polyam people who will throw this at any person walking into the scene (looking at you, certain message boards) You might think allright, I'll start with finding my person B, and together we'll look around until we find someone we both like! And this is a fine idea, truly (*I am pushing a yelling crowd away at this point*) but there is a certain type of couple that have made this method veeeeery unpopular (and are responsible for like, 90% of the shit polyam people get online), and you have to make sure you're not those people, and then you'll be fine. This specific kind of couple is what people mean when they use the term unicorn hunters. Scenario: You have a mono couple. Usually a straight man and a bisexual/curious woman. They decide they want to dip their toes into polyamory. No problems at this point, although going from mono to poly is a whole post on it's own. But the man doesn't want another man in the relationship, he like the idea of having two girlfriends though, and his girlfriend is interested in girls anyway, so let's look for a girlfriend for us both! This girl they are looking for is what is jokingly refered to as a unicorn. Because they're looking for a bisexual woman (already a specific subgroup) who is poly (again, upping the rarity) who likes them both, equially, and who likes to be barraged by two complete strangers who are like "hey do you want to date us both or maybe have a threesome and see where is goes" A lot of these couples can be to forward (hence the 'hunting' part), because they don't know the dynamics of the poly scene they walked in, but they're usually also not knowlegable about the basics of the queer scene. They're the couples that message lesbians, not seeing how that's fucked up. Often the girl will match with someone on lesbian tinder, who's often not even poly, mind you, and then go "by the way, this is my boyfriend, wanna have a threesome?" If someone enters a relationship with those two, they're often treated as an assesory, lower on the ladder, and they're not allowed to date other people. It's pretty much universally a bad experience for the so called unicorn. It's a stereotype sure, but it's a really fucking prevalent one and any poly person has run into them, every wlw, whether they're poly or not, will have to slap they away when they enter any online dating or even when just existing. So that's why just being a couple looking for a 3rd, even if you're being perfectly respectful (which again, possible) will get an aggressive response in poly cirlces, because we all get the flak that's meant for those people. Lot's of people, especially again mono lesbians, don't even want to associate with me when they hear I'm poly bc of these people, while we get ecually harassed, but in their eyes, that's what poly people are, even though they're misbehaving tourists at best.

3. Now, I have talked about probability, what you shouldn't do, but this leaves the question, what should you do?

Firstly, take it easy, what needs to happen will happen. If you're interested in being polyam, just start with that. Dip your toes into the water without having a route or destination mapped out. If you get a better feel about how it is to be polyam and what the dynamics are like, it will be easier to figure out if being poly is something you want to really get into, and what you want from it. It's a learning process like anything is. Mono peoples first dating will differ wildly to the long term relationship they're in years later. It's just like that, again.

Practical, finding people. I recommend looking on poly specific dating websites. I met my current partner on feeld. The fun thing about feeld is that you can connect your current partners profile to yours. So you're matching people on your own, but you can be like: this is my other partner btw. Feeld is open for both people looking on their own, or couples. And people communicate in their bio what kind of thing they're after. You can also connect your partner for funsies without looking for a 3rd, the connected profiles I see are about 50/50. There are other poly or poly-friendly apps but I have not tried them so you'll have to ask around about those!

tinder: If you make a profile for yourselves just start with saying you're poly in your bio. If people give you shit after you were clear from the start, that's they're problem and they're just being an ass. If you're dating on your own, I would also mention this so people don't think some 2nd person will jump in after you match. I have succesfully dated on tinder as a poly person. I mentioned that I was poly, that I was dating one other person and that we were not looking for people together. I didn't have any mishaps with that. If you're dating and looking together: making a couple profile on tinder, I don't recommend, because again, people will take you for unicorn hunters even if you are not. If you're different genders you'll also get into the space of people who don't want to see you, like an m/f couple getting into a women only space. If you're a w/w couple or a m/m couple you can get into those spaces genreally, especially the mlm community is pretty open to open relationships (hehe) but be clear about what you're doing (start your bio with this) and leave people alone who aren't looking for poly/threesomes/whatever. People who are open to this will usually communicate this clearly. (I'm just talking about men and women here and not going into any kind of gender fluidity bc let's be real there's no dating website that has an ideal system in place when you're non-binary, so that's a bit of a case by case situation) If you're dating and looking together nr. 2: Don't walk up to strangers in bars. Just don't do it. Plain. Simple. You can meet irl people, but don't do it with this intent.

4. about polyam dynamics.

When you get into poly dating, you'll discover more relation dynamics (I get into solo-poly and relationship anarchy here, look into that). You'll figure out that a hinge relationship, like this:

is also a relationship between 3 people. You're not all romantically involved, but all relationships (family/friends/romance) are equially worthwile, and sometimes the lines will blur. I have friends I love a bit, I have friends I have sex with, I have friends I'll never have sex with. I'll love a metamour (partner of my partner) for the love they give my partner, but I don't want to date them. Maybe someday I'll have a metamour I do want to date. You can also have 3 people who all are dating each other, but do it sperately and don't want to turn it into a relationship between all 3 of them together. You have people who form a family and live together, but not all of them date each other. You have people who'll always live alone regardless of the people they're dating; Everything is possible, if you just communicate clearly and have the maximum respect for everyone involved.

I hope this little 1.0.1 thing was a bit helpful to you, if you have any more questions feel free to ask. It's a wide subject that can (and has) filled entire books but I'll try to give an intro as good as I can

[sheydim]

NOTICE as of 2/22/24: i have been posting a lot of Palestine stuff. it's not consistently tagged as Palestine. there is occasional graphic content, and i DO reliably tag that as "graphic tw" / "graphic cw", "graphic description of violence" or in some cases "child death". such content may include body bags and, very rarely, the deceased themselves if not particularly graphic. i reblog this kind of thing to keep some accountability in circulation -- and because we cannot look away. we must be ruffled from our complacency. HOWEVER. please take care of yourself. use a blacklist if you will find this triggering. there are other ways to bear witness. there are abundant resources on my blog and all over tumblr. much love to you, my friends.

uhhh i've been putting this off for like years but. pinned post?

you can call me any of the things people on the internet have through the years. sheyd, tepsul, corv, any of my actual names if we're in the DMs, whatever you like.

about me...?

i don't always tag things consistently. and i talk to myself a LOT in the tags.

i have been on tumblr since 2012ish? i took a hiatus from posting for a few years, but still lurked and managed my archives on my sideblogs. now i'm back! i can't tell who anyone is now, but if we interacted, i still miss you and think of you. (srry tho, i kind of sucked then.)

i work in Book World in various ways. which is to say: the creation of texts, the various stages of production of what will become books, and their distribution. i have to interface with trad pub a lot, but my heart is more oriented towards indie and DIY and small press. working on it! <3

i have multiple sideblogs that may reblog from you. i'm not usually willing to confirm those usernames to you tho because this is my personal anonymous-ish corner of the web! in all honesty, this blog feels less like my main than the others. if i could change it, i would.

i suspect no one who would fit my DNI would even linger here for very long. so i don't really need one. just don't suck, okay? i think we can handle that!! :P and if i follow you or interact and you don't want me there, feel free to block me; you have a right to your space!

about me?? but personal this time

my pronouns are they/them. i'm bi but also... it's complicated. i'm polyam and very sex positive. y'know, ethical slut stuff. i'm seeing a few folks right now. do people care about anything else?...

if you're trans, i love you. thank you. i hope you are pleasantly surprised by something today.

some tags i use a lot:

writing

life stuff

jew tag

trans tag

feelgood

book world

some other tags i'm slowly building:

taking action

the world to come

[kittypilledtransbian]

Introducing me :3

My name is Melody but you might call me Midi, Meli or Aura. I'm an agender, polyam, aromantic lesbian from Chile, that spends a lot of time online

I use she or he pronouns, feel free to call me soft gendered terms too (girl, boy, dude, lady, etc).

Things you should know about me:

I'm a medically diagnosed AuDD and self-diagnosed BPD haver, I'm mostly fine nowadays but I still have to deal with being obsessive over people and splittings over small things, have that in mind when interacting with me

You might ask, DM, or interact with me, though I'm not accepting of sexual advances so please don't be a weirdo. I usually follow back if you're queer

I might infodump and over talk a lot, not as a warning but a threat. I try to keep conversations going, ask back and stuff, but I still have a social disability so sorry in advance if I fail to answer to vague messages or take my time to respond

I reblog lewd or nsft stuff sometimes, you might want to block the next tag #midi nsft

Also have a sideblog where I mostly reblog lewd stuff, I might post some things myself unfrequently @forbiddenmidi

I like:

Special interests: Time travel, minecraft, mushrooms, computer stuff, coffee making

Cats and other felines

Cooking, food, pastas, asian food

Night time, cloudy or rainy days

Being kissed dumb

Girls, women, femmes, butches, transfems, gnc trans people, nonbinary nerds, fat people, visibly queer people

Did I mention coffee?? Like seriously I could rant about my setup all da—

Do not interact:

You know who you are

Daleks, cybermen and other kinds of fascists

Idk, might add some more later

[2singedthoughts]

the gods cry because they cannot strike me down / and the rain washes away / ashes of the ghost of me

Hello hello and Welcome to my page!

I've been lingering on tumblr for a while and just never got around to really posting or reblogging anything, as most of the time I'm alright to just lurk and enjoy things quietly.

That said, I've been getting more into posting fanart and whatnot recently, so I thought I'd make a blog! Not just to post art but to yap about my favorite fandoms and find people with similar interests, too. I'll hunt down that content - and if there is none, I'll make it myself!

Feel free to leave asks or anything, and enjoy your stay here. <3

Get To Know Me!

An individual of many nicknames! My name is Phoenix, aka SingedHazards. Phoenix, Singed, Hazard, or any variation of the sorts is fine by me!

I am 18! My birthday is May 4th. :<) (Despite the birthday, I am actually not a star wars fan.)

My favorite number is 2! hence the user. 2singedthoughts.

I don't care much about pronouns either way, but I prefer it/its or they/them.

I am LGBTQ+! Polyam and Ace <3

I like talking about my interests, and hearing about others'! My favorite color is brown. I'm an animal lover and an artist. You can probably tell from the whole aesthetic so far that I like fire. I like space, too, and storms, and flowers and birds and nature. I enjoy seeing the magic in things.

I have no idea what I'm doing most of the time! There's nothing I particularly dislike, other than math. I never have any idea what I'm doing when it comes to math.

Where to find me?

You can shoot me a message if you're interested in talking on discord! It's really the only social media I'm super active on.

Other than that I have a Twitter where sometimes, once in a blue moon, I post some art. https://x.com/2DesignHazards

Fandoms?

Yessir, I have my share of those! I'll try to keep the list small lmfao.

-Hazbin Hotel and Helluva Boss

-MCRP or other such Minecraft content. (FavreMySabre is my most notable fixation; TSSO, TSS, SL, RQ, TR and AR) (Calvin's From The Fog S1 and S2) (I do enjoy some good MC Horror. I've been into the ARGs lately.) (UHC Generations!) (HermitCraft! Grian and Mumbo on HC mostly, but I've been following Gem, Scar, Doc and Tango as well.) (I watch Hardcore YTers every now and again, whatever video happens to catch my attention on the recommended page)

-Dead By Daylight, Phasmo, Project Zomboid and Lethal Company are some of my more commonly played games. (I don't have specific content creators for these, if I watch anything I just click on whatever looks the most entertaining.)

-Roblox player! Flee The Facility, Abyss World and Spray Paint are my go-tos. (I don't watch Roblox content a lot, but when I do it's usually Flamingo or Remainings. Sometimes Rogurt and ratskewer)

-Some miscellaneous creators I enjoy as well; IGP, Insym, Matt Rose, AstralSpiff, LetsGameItOut, ManlyBadassHero and Fooster!

You may notice I'm a horror enjoyer lmaoo. Anything with some good chaos in it will immediately pique my interest. There's more than that too, so really just hit me up. If I don't know the creator or game, I love discovering new things anyway! :<)

Miscellaneous Information

I'm not like, a professional at making intro pages or anything so for now this is all I have to say. I'll probably come back and edit and add more or remove some stuff later as I see fit, but this is a good start!

Like I said in the beginning, feel free to send asks,

and I hope you've enjoyed the stay. :<)

[setoronini]

PLEASE READ IN FULL!!

Before making assumptions or stuff about me or what i like /gen

Would be appreciated!! ^.^

My name is Setoroni! He/Him + Neos that can be found in my Pronouns Page above

Actually all my info is in my Pronouns page. Well most of it

PLEASE TELL ME IF I DO SOMETHING WRONG I AM PROBABLY MISINFORMED OR STUPID

I talk too much. Or tyepe whateve

> TAGS

- Main Tags

#★ = Fav Posts, usually used for reblogs

#seto art = My art tag!

#seto translations = Mainly for @.expungedagalungagoo 's @.ask-unpleasant blog when I feel like being helpful

#backstage textposts = Explanatory. I talk.

#seto shitpost = similar to textpost but this is me doing whatever and acting like I'm talking to a close friend

#seto status = I update random people on the Internet on my wellbeing

- Misc Tags

#artfight creatives = Anything AF related

↓extra info under cut↓

My ssona..

His name is my name (seto) be nice

Why do i use chat and type in blue and white?

Because ican (scratches an itch in my brain and nice to look at)

Socials

Yah...

Only posting art on Artfight N Tumblr

↑ Yah if u see like 15 stars Thats Me Im Very Specific About It Being 15 Stars

I recommend good music trust. I have 1500 song playlist and their all vocaloid or old rock

Im mainly reposting on this becayse i post my art rarely.kinda. because im a BABY. But eh. usually repost infected art n stuff...

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RAT LIST

(friend list on tumblr in order of chaos or something)

(go follow them)

@.kinoko-draws

My rat child that i hate so much i have known them too long

@.expungedagalungagoo

I found them and now we are friends its called telekinesis i think or something like that its magic.

@.fymo-blogs

Translation stealer

Do not test me

/playful

TBA as i get to run around with free access to the world

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some things to note ≈∞≈

I'm not diagnosed with anything but Anxiety due to my current situation, but I don't care if you make jokes toward me about (an)other disorder(s) (trust me I am way too used to it to gaf and find it a bit funny)

I will usually be online most of the time, and if I'm not I'm probably asleep or doing chores

I have a Disabled uncle with Epilepsy and Intellectual Disability (plus other issues) that I take care of, please take that into account

I take behaviors from people around me/i interact with

I cannot pay attention to multiple fandoms at once and stay heavily focused at one at a time (currently that'd be Regretevator)

I'm a Minor, mid-late teens

I have writing issues so I might use tonetags and misspell often!!

My brain physically starts crashing sometimes be patient with my dumbass

Ill make a card one day with Patience....be patient...

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In reference to Ships :

I ship everything as long as it's legal and not weird as shit. If something exists i like it, if it doesn't i like it, most if not all ships will always be above "no opinion but i like it" or will be "never seen or havent thought much about it to have an opinion."

Plus im a really big polyam ship lover ← polyamorous person

WHERE THE HELL IS MY JEREMY X INFECTED X UNPLEASANT X LAMPERT X POOB X PEST ART. WHERE IT AT. WHERES MY TRASHED PARTY (™ (not really its fun to say)) AT.

I do enjoy ships with Infected more, but that's just because infected is my favorite and I project onto him too much.

^ any ship with the guys above this message is a win 4 me

In reference to my own Headcanons :

I dont push my hcs onto anyone, especially not with things like dynamics, sexualities, gender, etc. I'm the one who steals headcanons and projects onto my favs, and honestly a lot of people are super creative with their own headcanons.

Also I'm very fluid with my headcanons so I can't really state them? I do have genders and sexualities for some characters settled.

In reference to being Mutuals/Friends :

I literally classify anyone as a friend until proven otherwise*, If I am actually all friendly and comfy with you you are friend status. Which is everyone. Their mini-specifics in that but those aren't important everyone is a friend or higher if I interact/interacted with you

* proven otherwise in this situation meaning like basic dni criteria (?) (illegal stuff, in general being a weirdo /neg, not respecting other peoples boundaries). I am not good in agruments

[thereareeyesinsidethetrees]

ask game here

we just removed any we didn't want to answer

Which labels do you use?

we listed them in categories to be more organized (not including alterhuman/disablity labels)

transmasc, transneutral, agender, ageab

aromantic, romance-repulsed, possibly quoiromantic and/or nebularomantic

asexual, sex-repulsed, aegosexual

polyam, queerplatonic, bi, enbian4enbian, t4t, monster4monster, weirdo4weirdo/freak4freak, nonhuman4nonhuman. i will never achieve my ideal qpr :[

Do you like to use the term queer for yourself? Or just LGBT, etc?

i use both! queer and lgbtqia+

Which pronouns do you use?

it/its

Describe your gender without using any words traditionally related to gender:

nothing. nonexistent. zero, nada, zilch.

When did you realize you weren't cishet?

stan voice: kid i've always known

Favorite (or just one you love) piece of LGBT media?

if it counts, undertale/deltarune, if it doesn't, the girl by the sea by...i don't remember...it's a graphic novel about a girl falling in love with a selkie

Name some queer artists/bands or songs you like most:

BLACK DRESSES

in terms of songs, i really really really really like transgender by crystal castles and build-a-bear by maggie brewer

oh, and noahfinnce is a trans music artist that makes a lot of really good songs!

Do you choose to reclaim slurs, why or why not?

yes! there's just something about it that makes me feel >:D y'know?

How has your identity changed over time?

used to identify as lesbian (as in. romantically). that could not be further from the truth nowadays, so yeah, we've changed a bit. also according to some notes i found from when i was still figuring out my gender, i used to be multigender??? i don't. remember that but i figured i'd throw it in anyway

Do you attend Pride in person every year?

i've never been to pride. i want to so bad

Do you feel safe and accepted in your local community?

no

Do you feel like you "fit in" with the queer/Pride community overall?

depends which side of the community we're talking about. for the most part, no, not really

How do you usually celebrate Pride month?

i'm just significantly louder about being queer for the month. i make characters with the colors of pride flags, i add even more queer identities to my knowledge hoard than usual, i talk about/make references to queer character headcanons more than usual, i reblog queer based posts more often, stuff like that

Do you prefer loud parties or quiet?

quiet. loud noises are hhhhhHHHHHHH

How do you feel about the term partner rather than husband/girlfriend/etc?

mwah mwah love it

What gender-neutral terms for yourself or others do you use (i.e. joyfriend)?

enbyfriend, mx, folks (this one bonuses as being more inclusive towards alterhuman folks), i still think 'my liege' is a really fun alternative to 'mister' or 'ma'am' or 'king' or 'queen', beloved, dearest, darling, etc.

Are you currently partnered, or if not are you interested in having partner(s)?

no partners. would be interested in having queerplatonic partners

Are you monogamous or polyamorous?

polyam!

What about your LGBT identity do you feel proud of/ want to recognize/celebrate?

can i say all of it?? sure, the gears don't grind quite right in our mind, but a broken machine can still be profound and beautiful, can't it?

What are you needing most right now (what would make your life easier or more fulfilling in regards to existing as queer)?

top surgery. please. PLEASE

[adventuringblind]

Dear gods you and 🏍️ are braver than I am with the energy drinks… I even refuse to try more than the original flavor of redbull because I’m that fucking scared… also redbull scares me the least ingredients wise

It’s not that I hate monster, I’m just scared to add more variety to the energy drinks in case i end up addicted more. The possibilities scare me.

And no, I haven’t tried other flavors yet because I’m indecisive af and probs wouldn’t like them anyway… I’m extremely flavor picky (I drink like a sum total of 5 things in life: COLD(!!!!!!!!) water, apple juice, FLORIDIAN(!!!!(don’t ask me why specifically Florida I don’t like anything else)) orange juice, yellow gatorade (don’t come at me plz I’m sorry) and now Red Bull).

And now for a small confession: I’m really bad at thinking about dynamics between people. Which means the times you hear thoughts about pairings for fics from me is little…. I would love to write but as soon as I start thinking about stuff like this (especially as an ace/aro spec individual) I struggle big time. So sadly I’m struggling to provide Max/Osc/Lando thoughts. Sorry :(

Anyways I’m going to bed now and sorry about the constant yapping and long asks from me.

- 🦒

Yeahhhhh the ingredients are kinda trash garbage. But like... they are in a lot of things, so I've based it on a pick your poison kind of thing.

To each their own for drinks of choice! Not judgment here! ... except for the cold water because HOW?! Ice hurts my teeth. They are sensitive okay T_T

Also, apple juice for me. But specifically the kind from Washington because the local stuff is really good, and I get it from farmers markets and the stall is a cute little decorated thing and the people who sell it are so nice.

Anyway...

I, myself, am not on the aro/ace spectrum. But! Understandable. I think I'm more demi leaning? It's like if I had to describe it. Like me and my fiance have known each other for so long, it's kinda like kissing your best friend? But I'm also too logical for most relationships, which is why Para social and imagination all me a little wiggle room.

My partner isn't polyam, but I have been for a long time. But just in the way that I like having other people close in the 'we're more then friends' way but not in the 'we have sex way'. Idk, am weird like that.

THE POINT IS! I see you and empathize. Specifically in the amut department because AHHHHHHHHHHHHH??? How do people write smut with no plot? How do they write these words? Because I can't figure it out T_T

It's so much easier to allude to it and just do the build-up and emotions and whatnot. Sometimes, I can make it work, but those fics take me months to write, and I refuse to go back and read them.

Tis why I usually end up writing angst.... and ya know, gore. But that's fine because to each their own!

ALSO DON'T APOLOGIZE FOR TALKING TO ME!! litterally say whatever in my inbox because FRIEND! INTERACTION!

Weird to think people actually wanna talk to me even if it's like this 🥺

[a-homestuck-but-give-me-a-chance]

Should probably make a pinned post so:

Hey, we're the Bone System.

I'm the host, Lex. I use He/They pronouns.

I and the body are 24yrs old going on 25 in March.

I'm kinda over DNI lists but please don't follow if you're a minor or if you harass people over fiction. I'm just. So tired of the Disc Horse at this point.

We reblog a mixture of stuff here, usually shitposts/humorous posts, fandom stuff, PSA's that sorta thing. We do occasionally reblog nsfw text and images.

We're a polyam queer system. I'm usually the one posting, and any original posts (or reblogs with commentary) from me will have the tag #lex rambles. If other alters make posts and stuff they usually tag it as #not lex.

I am ASS at not ghosting people. It doesn't mean I didn't want to chat or whatever it just means my anxiety has decided I'd rather die than talk to anyone new. It's NOT on you it's 100% on me.

We sometimes take art requests, mainly furry stuff. You can shoot us an ask if you want one and we might get around to it. No NSFW as I have no practice with that, sorry.

Other than that, that's all you really need to know I think. Anything else you can shoot an ask about. Have a good one!

[queersekai]

yeah!! (anon who sent kanaena/mizumafu stuff) im not the biggest ena fan either, and I don’t usually prefer ships with her, but kanaena is so special to me and just they seem so soft 😭 ena really cares about kanade and it’s so sweet

and polyniigo is SO real honestly. poly ships are my jam and ngl I love the idea of all of the groups being polyam relationships just for the heck of it. I was recently dragged into the nightcordxshowtime rabbit hole however 😞 I really enjoy them

(also?? bringing back spojoy I lowkey dig kanade x ena x minori too, or at least kanade dating both of them)

KanaEna is like... the best Ena ship IMO. That or AiriEna because I'm a sucker for childhood friends to lovers (same reason I really like MizuRui despite never talking about it lol)

Honestly each group is in a polyam relationship I'm gonna say it. Polyneed is real. Polyjump is real. Polysquad is real. Polyshow is real. Polyniigo is real

Also yes MinoKana and MinoKanaEna are really cute. Minori herself is just a sweet ray of sunshine but she's also so pathetic at the same time and I love her for that. Haruka may be my favorite MMJ member but Minori isn't far behind (and really Haruka is my fave for her voice). She and Kanade would be disasters together but in a cute way, and Ena would be there to make sure they don't get hurt

Give Minori all the girlfriends! Especially since it's basically canon she's into girls (she literally called Rin sexy in Rin's 1* card and while I get that it has a different connotation in Japanese, that combined with her more or less obsession with Haruka gives off major "I LIKE GIRLS" vibes)

[auggator]

I'm pretty open about identifying as aromantic, straight man, and lesbian. And I have an acquaintance group I talk about this a lot it, and I usually don't get a lot of questions or push back. Which would be fine if the group actually understood? But one of the acquaintances in the group has taken it as their thing to question my labels behind my back. They will bring up "How is [aryonnet] aromantic and a lesbian?" to other people in the group when I'm not in the room. And, despite an hour-long explanation to them how I'm not asexual, they spread that I was aroace to the rest of the group. And their partner is arospec. And I'm just getting more and more frustrated with this behavior. If they actually asked me questions rather than questioning me to other people. Or if they were coming at this from a more willing place. I'd be willing to discuss. But I'm getting to the point where it feels more malicious than anything. And it double sucks because I'm not the only aro lesbian in the group. There are three other aro lesbians. But I'm the one they question.

They act this way with a lot of polyamorous stuff too, because some others in the group (including me) are polyam. And it's just really frustrating because they treat being arospec or acespec or polyam like they're not queer identities. That they shouldn't be open-minded about them. That they don't matter enough to learn about. And it's getting to me.

On top of all of this, despite them not being a lesbian, they have a lot of strict opinions on lesbians and what being a lesbian means. Which is also annoying when I'm a lesboy and two of the other aro lesbians are mspec lesbians. It makes the group feel more unsafe, like I'm queer in a bad way. Which is especially frustrating when the rest of the group doesn't understand but is at the very least not malicious about it, just ignorant.

[blackbird-brewster]

it’s like UR IN MY BRAINNNN!! and know my brain worms. and want to make me lose my marbles. jara. tebecca. i am screaming and crying and dying? my god. and that’s just one chap. pls tell me smut is coming 🙏🏻 amazing fic as always from u ugh so good

-tjj

There is DEFINITELY more coming (and if all goes well... All three of them will be coming 🥵)

I actually started this after the first two episodes dropped, but I also had covid and all that so I sort of forgot!! But found it today and suddenly was like I gotta finish this one-shot then Rebecca got involved and suddenly it's the old thing of: 'THIS IS MORE THAN A ONE-SHOT NOW!!'

Bc it's so very hard for me (a polyam queer) to write jealousy/ultimatums in fic. Too much of that already in the world. Let's just have some threesomes instead!

Also please imagine JJ and Rebecca getting on famously and then ganging up on Tara in terms of like making sure Tara is taking care of herself and stuff and she's like 'I fuckin made a mistake letting the two of you get close' 😤 Not that you asked but, I have done Tara's entire birth chart based on my own headcanons and she's a Taurus Sun/Capricorn Moon/Capricorn rising. A triple earth queen (like Lizzo and subsequently like me too, but that wasn't actually on purpose!) Very stubborn, logical, methodical to fault sometimes. She values working hard and is very detail oriented (perfect for the BAU). Taurus' are very much into comfort and taking care of people they care about, very much a sign that is usually a Care Top (they will always make sure people are fed, hydrated, looked after). JJ is a Cancer Sun/ Capricorn Moon/ Cancer Rising (again, this just came from inputting my HC about her birthday and honestly it makes sense even though it's fairly uncommon to have 2 of your big 3 in the same zodiac sign. So it's very fitting she and Tara both have some overlap). She's the caring, loyal, emotionally mature (sometimes to a fault, in terms of not actually talking about her emotions until suddenly they're overwhelming her). Homely, family focused (not necessarily just bio fam, but anyone she feels is family-- the BAU for instance). Cancer is basically the water sign version of a Taurus so the two of them are FUCKING perfect together. JJ's watery emotions help soften Tara's stoic logic and Tara helps ground JJ when JJ feels overwhelmed. Very lovely signs to be in a relationship together. Now here comes Rebecca. I fucking know we have had approximately two minutes (if that) of Rebecca and we know absolutely NOTHING about her. But I've done a lot of thinking. I'm going off Nicole's age and saying Rebecca is late 30s (way younger than Tara and I adore this), she's obviously a successful lawyer bc she's working for the DOJ and has enough pull to get inside information for the team. So that makes me think she's very career driven, very smart, probably was one of those kids who graduated top of her high school class and already knew she wanted to go to law school. Lawyers need a certain amount of charisma and people skills and all of this leads me to strongly HC her as a Sagittarius. (We won't hold it against her lol) I'd for SURE lean more towards a Sag/Capricorn cusp birthday. So I see her as a Sagittarius Sun/Cancer Moon/Gemini Rising. She gets shit done no matter who might get hurt in the process (I mean we kinda saw that play out already with her being like 'welp! I got found out for getting you private info!' Cancer Moon is 100% the type of person who's like 'We've been dating 2 months, let's live together!' as well. So I feel this is really fitting for her. That cancer moon really connects back to JJ's big water energy and really helps soften Tara's serious Capricorn moon energy. And I just think that's neat. Did you come here asking for my deep astrology lore of my Blorbos? No. But you know what, now you know!!! Don't even get me started on Emily's disaster birth chart. That woman is....A Mess. Even though their random choice of birth details in canon make literally zero sense for Emily's actual personality imo. But that's what happen when writers are forced to assign a character a birthdate because they realise it has to be displayed on her fucking tombstone.

[eriexplosion]

ATHELSTAN, with bonus round of that one traumatized star wars clone you wrote a story about

OKAY so Athelstan will go first, then my traumatized star wars son Crosshair. Putting it under a cut because it got long:

Athelstan

My NOTP for them  - Hmmm, I've seen a few Ecbert/Athelstan's played straight which doesn't vibe well with me, like I can SEE where it comes from but my Ecbert interpretation is extremely unflattering and I have a hard time getting past that lol.

My BROTP for them - HELGA IS SWEETEST GIRL AND BFF, when we see them cuddle in the season 2 premier it warms my ENTIRE SOUL.

My OTP for them - Unsurprisingly, Floki/Athelstan/Ragnar, which is my most special of special pairings that I adore. Any variation on it fascinates me, I usually go for a more season one vibe in my fic but honestly I think a rivals to lovers plot (between Floki and Athelstan) would also be fantastic, especially since we know that Ragnar has utilized the MAYBE HAVE A THREESOME? to try and resolve spats between love interests before LOL. Their dynamics just blend VERY well and both Athelstan and Floki are wonderful foils that bounce very well off of Ragnar and so they work best when both are in play. Really, anything that lets the three of them be TOGETHER will be exciting for me.

My second choice pairing for them - Okay so after seeing how cutely they interacted, I have a soft spot for Athelstan/Torstein, they don't get MUCH screentime together but when they are together they're so CUTE.

My fluffy pairing for them - Every pairing is a fluffy pairing with Athelstan involved. Is this a cop out answer? Yes, absolutely, but if I am writing a pairing with this boy my instinct is to FLUFF! IT! UP!

My angsty pairing for them - Okay so when he finds out about Arne's death he said "Arne?" in the most DEVASTATED TONE and anyway, Athelstan/Arne developing a small Thing that they don't get time to pursue before Rollo fucking. Eviscerates the poor boy. That's the right angst stuff.

My favorite poly ship for them - Same as the OTP, lol, this will be a theme because my OTPs usually are polycules, it's like this in every fandom lol.

My weirdest pairing for them - Honestly, Floki/Athelstan/Ragnar is by far the weirdest ship lol, making this the third time it has appeared on this list, it is simply my Life and Love

Crosshair

My NOTP for them - I have few complete NOTPs with him, so gonna have to go with the obvious of Rampart. Haven't seen MANY fics play this as a straight up pairing, but it's one that I genuinely can't see.

My BROTP for them - I read a really good longfic that included some Howzer & Crosshair bonding and now I crave it. Howzer is interesting because he really was the 'if you're so evil eat this kitten' of post-chip Crosshair, he could have shot him, chipped Crosshair WOULD have shot him, but he didn't. I hope Crosshair actively helps to get him out of jail and they can vibe together.

My OTP for them - POLYBATCH. Listen the five of them vibe so well together and each and every dynamic within it is something fascinating to me. I want nothing more than for them to be happy, I crave and demand it. Let them be happy (and kiss)

My second choice pairing for them - osijfoidsjf I'm going to cheat because my second choice is honestly any single ship with one of the other batchers. Polyam is my preference but I will also happily read about any one dynamic within the group.

My fluffy pairing for them - Actually pulling out a subset of the OTP here, but Crosshair/Wrecker specifically is fascinating to me because in the initial four parter they really do seem to be the closest. They compete yeah, but Wrecker will intervene IMMEDIATELY to protect Crosshair (he even forgot his fear of heights for him!) and Crosshair seems very proud of Wrecker (he's going to get the gunship out of there, not Cody) and they have a cute quiet moment around the fire before things turn into a Fight and I WISH we got to hear what they were talking about.

My angsty pairing for them - EVERY pairing is an angsty pairing when you're a dramatic emo bitch like Crosshair is. Truly there is not a single pairing that can't be completely played for angst. Does the angsty Cad Bane/Crosshair smut fic I'm poking at count if they're not really together and it's just an unwise one night stand? It probably counts.

My favorite poly ship for them - same as the OTP, polyships are my bread and butter.

My weirdest pairing for them - Probably the Rex/Crosshair (platonic or not) considering their primary interaction was Rex punching him in the face for talking shit about Echo. But that also makes him one of the few people that has completely noped out of dealing with Crosshair's shit and he needs that. There's value in dating the person that won't let you do your typical nonsense!