#I don't even have twt but instagram has been unbearable

[mint-ty]

just me ranting about some repeating fandom behaviour but nothing specific 🙃 (there's a lot of "you" but I don't mean you🫵 you're a good person and ily💕)

can fans just stop posting their idols private relationships and info on public OMFG ‼️‼️‼️ I Do Not Want to know who is dating who !!! It's not me being parasocial, I know everyone has private life and private relationships and I am super happy for them that they have the support system at home. I DO NOT NEED TO KNOW 😬 In fact, none of us need to know unless the person himself publicly introduces their partner 🗣 Just because you google to the bottom of the internet and dig something out - doesn't make it okay to blast it everywhere omfg. And none of us will know anyway what's happening in their privacy so can we just collectively stop this borderline stalking???

It's been happening more frequent, and just now on tiktok I came accross another account I needed to block because of this very reason. Why can't people just enjoy the content that's been handed out by the artist, why y'all need to dig in their trash like some rabid racoons and drag everything out on a street jfc

I just want to scroll social media to disassociate, stop yeeting me into someone's private business pleaseee 😭

Tumblr has been the best one so far at respecting boundaries but not completely immune. Please everyone let's remember we are consuming artist's content, not the artist himself, okay?? 🙏

[ugh-yoongi]

hi! hello! i’ve just read fall apart & redefine and my goddd. i loved it so much! it’s so beautifully written and introspective. i never wanted it to end. what made it hit was the fact that it’s canon compliant...

i’ll never explicitly know what joonie, or any of the other boys have to go through. though, the feelings of fear, grief, and hope are universal. you’ve conveyed that so well here. i just want to hug the boys and tell them that it’s okay. but in many ways aren’t we, as fans, an enabler of that pain? it’s complex. sorry, i’m rambling now. when i find gems like these it reminds me why i love to read.

when it comes to writing i think this is a prime example of quality over quantity. no matter how long it took you to write this, the product is immaculate and speaks volume.

i hope you’ve found a way out of your slump and if not, that you’re on your way there. sending love 🤍

— sana ♡︎

ah, hello! thank you so much for your message *sob emoji* this is so lovely. pls don't apologize for rambling because i'm about to do the same. :')

fully agree with your second paragraph. one of the things that struck me most about the festa dinner was namjoon saying some sort of variation of "i'm almost 30 and i have no idea who i am." like, how do you even start figuring out who you are as a person outside of your job and your celebrity at that point? where do you start? their entire lives, as bts, have been so controlled.

it's fun to have the little delulu moments every now and then, but i usually steer clear of canon compliant because, if i'm being realistic, almost every idol is probably not emotionally-equipped to be a great partner. they didn't have the ability to date around, fuck up, learn, fuck up some more, etc., that most people get. it doesn't make them any less worthy of having that experience, but i imagine it's a lot of self-sabotage because they're so controlled and can't have normal experiences. so... what do you do with that, ya know?

i thought about this a lot when hobi had his release party/joon went to switzerland/tae went to paris. like i would imagine some/most of them do have partners and they just... can't attend or do any of these things with them. at least in an "official partner" capacity but most likely not at all. a member of bts looks at you for 0.5 seconds too long and the entire internet has you doxxed in under a minute. so, what, i just gotta sit around in my bougie penthouse and watch it on instagram? that's gotta be brutal. it sounds awful for both sides.

and the enabling. god. it's really a double-edged sword, because you love these groups and they bring you so much happiness and joy, but rationality often gets dogpiled. not to mention that fans dictate their lives just as much, i.e. that tattoo artist jk was seeing, when bobby from ikon had to "apologize" for having a girlfriend and having a baby even though both are perfectly normal things, etc. even if you, specifically, are not engaging or going on a twt rampage about them, your fandom is sort of just... lumped in with it. and that sucks!

i'm 30 years old. i've dated and gotten married and am well beyond the age where i have any delusions about men PERIOD but especially celebrity/idol men. i want them to just be happy and live normal lives! i want them to have the experiences i've had! i don't care if they're dating or getting fucked and sucked on the regular, but the catch-22 of k-pop is that they're selling you the delusion and it's sometimes hard to fault people, especially those who are younger and therefore more susceptible to it, for falling for it.

yikes. anyway :')

thank you again for your kind message. i really appreciate that you took the time to share your thoughts. i am crossing my fingers that i'm out of my slump bc i have a collab fic due for seokjin's birthday. nothing like the unbearable weight of peer pressure to make me productive.......

sending you love in return! <3