#I do find it very strange for anyone to outright damn polyamory or monogamy.

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can I ask why you prefer the term ethical non monogamy over polyamory? I've considered myself polyamorous 4 a long time n im curious if there's a nuance I'm missing

I am not polyamorous. If I had to assign a word towards it, I am aromantic. No amorous involved. There is no resonance with polyamory in me as I don't persue romantic relationships to begin with anyone—monogamous or otherwise.

I prefer ethical non-monogamy. Anyone who I've spoken to who is poly has scoffed at this and just further tried to put me into a poly box I did not consent to. Despite the fact I don't oppose poly individuals and readily accept them for their chosen beliefs for themselves and their partners. Most poly individuals have decided to label me as a relationship anarchist either way. Which is fine. Most who I have described it to who are monogamous have deemed my relationships "casual" or lacking any deeper connection. Neither of which are true.

I resonate with ethical non-monogamy as it entails all of the openness, informed consent and transparency. While retaining the freedom and freedom from romantic confines, expectations and doesn't involve overlapping relationships with the other.

Every relationship I have is defined by its own terms and whatever me and the other person decides it to be.

This is just a model of my own experience and what works for me and my partners. Everyone is different.

Hope this helps, doll.