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Murat Göğebakan: Kalbim Yaralı

Murat Göğebakan: Kalbim Yaralı (2023) #AliAyyıldız #BurakSevinç #TuvanaTürkay #HandeSoral #FerideÇetin #NecmiYapıcı Mehr auf:

Jahr: 2023 (Dezember) Genre: Biografie / Drama Regie: Ali Ayyıldız Hauptrollen: Burak Sevinç, Tuvana Türkay, Hande Soral, Feride Çetin, Necmi Yapıcı, Faruk Pakiş, Güney Kılınç … Filmbeschreibung: Nach jahrelangem Kampf stirbt der türkische Rockmusiker Murat Gögebakan (Burak Sevinç) an Krebs. Sein Leben lang sang er sich mit Liedern über die Liebe in die Herzen seiner zahlreichen Fans. Doch am…

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this week is going to be really busy but i'll finally get some more time on my hands starting next wednesday so i’m now back to looking for future besties 1x1/mumu writing partners because i’m brimming with muse and have a lot of ideas and fcs i wanna play, so if you wanna be annoyed with lots of headcanons, muse posts, songs that i think would work for our pairing(s) and manips by someone who really delves into ships and practically lives on pinterest starting next week, hit that like and i’ll come to you ♡ i write both on tumblr and discord (preferred), can play/play against mostly anyone, am more than willing to double up (preferred), have no triggers and am very smut-friendly! can be kinky too lbr because i have no triggers as long as there’s still an actual plot. however, if you only play white fcs or only play female muses, let’s not waste each other’s time. i’m not interested.  for plots: i’m mostly into slice of life plots (angsty exes, good girl x bad boy, fake dating, older brother's best friend, enemies to lovers), but lately, i’ve also been really wanting crime plots, reality tv plots especially love island (!!!), celebrity plots & anything that’s super angsty! i'm literally gonna be like tell me who you want to play, tell me who you want me to play against them, and tell me what plot you want to play them in and let's do it because i'm literally up for mostly anything! additional note: i do want to be friends with the people i write with, and i’m online everyday but currently do have low activity because of school but i'll be on a four month break soon so as long as i'm not at work, i’ll pretty much always around if you want to talk! ♡  for a sneak peek of fcs i've been REALLY wanting to play/play against lately, check under the cut!

FACES I WANT TO PLAY

priscilla quintana, ok taecyeon, mason gooding, dilraba dilmurat, mint ranchrawee, danny ramirez, ozge yagiz, clayton cardenas, henry zaga, reina hardesty, alba baptista, miguel gomez, bensu soral, maris racal, melisa pamuk, danny griffin, go minsi, da'vinchi, chay suede, mookda narinrak

FACES I WANT TO PLAY AGAINST

peter gadiot (!!!!!!), casey deidrick, greta onieogou, hannah dodd, kim mingyu, jessica henwick, madelyn cline, drew starkey, adria arjona, melissa barrera, kim jiwon, prang kannarun, camille hyde, emilio sakraya, alycia debnam-carey, karina

[gvzel]

heeellooo, it's your girl dee again asking for plots hehe. i would really love to have new longtime writing partners! definitely in for any kind of slice of life mumu. i really love brainstorming and sharing muse posts / make pinterest boards for my muses. so expect me to bother you a lot. i write f/m & f/f and write both females or males. i really have muse for both.

some fc’s i really have muse for (to write & write against, bolded up names mean i have highly muse for): bensu soral, demet özdemir, diane guerrero, janhvi kapoor, pelin uluksar, melisa asli pamuk, aslihan malbora, kriti sanon, pooja hegde, hazal filiz küçükköşe, ahsen eroğlu, cemre baysel, ayça ayşin turan, naz sayıner, meltem akçöl, alperen duymaz, michael evans behling, kivanç tatlituğ, yusuf çim, theo james, burak çelik, kerem bursin, engin özturk

some plots i would love to do can be found under this cut!

PLOT IDEA 1: (based on NO 309): muse a is getting pressured by their parents to get married because if they get married before their cousin it means they will get the family business like their grandparents promised. whoever gets married first will own the company. muse a eventually gives in and agrees to go on a date with the other that their parents picked. muse b on the other hand is getting pressured by their mom because they just want to see them being happy and have their own little family.

muse a & muse b were supposed to meet someone else that night but muse a has the same name as the person muse b was going to meet, so they accidentally end up spending the night together & the next morning they agree to never meet again.

3 months… later muse b finds out she’s pregnant and muse a just got engaged to someone else, THE ANGST

PLOT IDEA 2: friends to LOVers, maybe one of the muses has feelings for the other and has always been so clumsy around them and is like trying not to show off but … fails

PLOT IDEA 3: a “my dad is a retired mafia and i’ve met you during my most vulnerable time and we became best friends and i’m slowly starting to have feelings for you. wait, what are you doing at my house? what did my dad just announce? is he getting back into the underground business that brought so much damage to our family in the past? did you just became my dad’s right hand man?!?!” kind of plot.

PLOT IDEA 4: this plot !!!!!!!!!

PLOT IDEA 5: always in for some forbidden love, as for example, maybe their families are rivals

PLOT IDEA 6: a non famous muse x a famous soccer player, we could make this a mumu. as for example the soccer players x their significant others. ideas can be discussed!

PLOT IDEA 7: nepo baby x non famous muse

PLOT IDEA 8: any kind of celeb plot, whether it's fake pr dating to real dating and having to separate or any other kind of other celeb plot

PLOT IDEA 9: a wealthy family and their partners mumu (such maybe like modern family idea)

i’m literally up for anything really, as i mentioned before i’d love to brainstorm and come up with more ideas as well! if you’re interested in plotting with me then lms and i will come & bother you! 😇

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*   ayça   ayşin   turan    .    cis   woman    .    she/her    .    /    that’s    dila   öztekin    walking    into    cup   o'   joes     -    you    know    ,    the     32    year    old   divorce   attorney    known    for     getting   an   award    in 2022 for best lawyer  in   town   ?     having    lived    here    for    seventeen   years    ,    their    neighbors    know    them    to    be   hardworking     &   motivated     ,    but    their stubborn    &   very   outspoken     tendencies    shine    through    when    there    are    no    buses    in    the    city    .   － penned by dee. she/her. 26. gmt+1.

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hello   hello-iessss,   dee   here   !   &   i’m   super   excited   to   write   and   plot   with   you   all !   i   reaaally   love   brainstorming   and   coming   up   with   new   ideas.   probably   will   annoy   you   a   loooot   with   musing   posts   24/7   lmao   so   please   never   hesitate   to   message   me   for   plotting.   ( also   never   hesitate   to   ask   me   for   plotting   on   discord   too ! )   ♡   i   should   probably   also   mention   that   english   isn’t   my   first   language   so   please   forgive   me   if   i   make   any   grammar/spelling   mistakes !

⚠️   trigger   warning!   this   bio   contains   subjects   such   as:   cheating,   mention   of   bullies,   pregnancy,   fear   of   commitment

*   =   means   wanted   connection   !

BIOGRAPHY :

NAME  :  dila  öztekin

MEANING  OF  NAME  :  dila  means  ‘heartfelt',  öztekin  means  ‘someone  unique’

NICKNAME(S)  :  di,  didi

DATE  OF  BIRTH  :  january  25  1991  (32)

PLACE  OF  BIRTH  :  istanbul  ,  turkey

PARENTS  :  bingül  güçlü  (  mother  ),  latif  öztekin  (  father  )

SIBLINGS  :  2  younger  siblings ˒  ﹏  öztekin  (30)  *  open ˒  ﹏  öztekin  (30)  *  open ˒  ﹏  öztekin  (30-32)  half  sibling  *  open  -  her  younger  siblings  don’t  know  about  their  half  sibling  just  yet,  dila  nor  their  mom  ever  told  them. (  siblings  fc  suggestions:  ilayda  alişan,  idris  nebi  taşkan,  cemre  baysel,  gülderen  güler,  half  sibling  fc  suggestions:  ipek  filiz  yazıcı,  afra  saraçoğlu,  neslihan  atagül,  deniz  can  aktaş,  emre  bey,  melisa  asli  pamuk,  özge  ozacar,  melisa  döngel,  hande  erçel,  bensu  soral,  rami  narin  /  any  fitting  fc  for  her  siblings  wc  is  fine !  )

LANGUAGES  :  turkish  &  english

OCCUPATION  :  divorce  attorney  @  güçlü  law  firm.  (güçlü  means  ‘strong’)

RELATIONSHIP  STATUS  :  complicated* (  +  )  positive  traits  :  hardworking,  motivated,  empathetic (  -  )  negative  traits  :  stubborn,  moody,  impatient,  very  outspoken

AGE 2 － 10 :

dila   was   2   when   her   twin-siblings   were   born.   she   had   a   hard   time   sharing   her   parents.

as   dila   got   older,   she   took   on   more   responsibility   for   her   siblings,   especially   during   her   parents'   arguments,   often   comforting   and   distracting   them   during   difficult   moments.

she   turned   eight   and   her   father   didn’t   show   up   to   her   birthday   party.   she   had   waited   and   refused   to   blow   the   candles   on   her   birthday   cake   until   he’d   show   up.   but   he   didn’t.   later   that   night,   when   her   mother   had   tucked   her   three   kids   in   bed,   she   overheard   her   father’s   voice   from   downstairs.   she   made   her   way   out   her   room   and   sat   on   the   stairs   as   she   listened   to   their   argument.   she   heard   it   all.   her   father   had   cheated   on   her   mother   and   he   had   another   child   with   another   woman.   happy   birthday,   dila.

after   overhearing   her   parents'   conversation,   di   assumed   an   even   more   significant   role   in   caring   for   her   siblings,   as   her   mother   distanced   herself   to   not   show   her   kids   how   upset   or   heartbroken   she   was.

AGE   11   －   20  :

her   mother's   law   firm   (which   was   a   law   firm   that   established   by   her   grandfather)   is   one   of   turkey's   best   law   firms,   but   her   mother   had   gotten   an   amazing   offer   to   grow   her   law   firm   even   more   and   she   took   the   opportunity.   so   the   four   of   them   moved   to   lakeview   when   dila   had   turned   just   15   and   the   twins   were   12   by   then.

dila's   high   school   experience   was   more   positive   than   she   had   expected,   with   amazing   grades   and   a   bunch   of   friends.

she   had   a   few   boyfriends   through   the   years   but   as   soon   as   the   subject   of   ‘future’   popped   up,   or   ‘meeting   parents’   she   usually   always   had   an   excuse   to   excuse   herself.   or   she’d   just   immediately   change   the   subject.   or   was   just   straight   up   honest   with   them   and   mention   that   she   didn’t   saw   a   future   with   them   just   yet   or   maybe   never   would.   it   was   painful,   but   the   cold   hard   truth,   right?

however,   at   the   age   of   twenty,   she   met   a   guy,   and   they   started   dating.   they   seemed   to   share   similar   interests,   which   made   dila   feel   more   comfortable   around   him.   they   went   out   at   night,   laughed   at   each   other's   jokes,   even   if   they   were   really   bad.   the   topic   of   'their   future'   didn't   really   come   up   in   their   conversations   until   she   turned   twenty-two,   and   he   asked   her   to   move   in   with   him.   she   was   a   bit   hesitant   about   the   idea.   but   on   the   other   hand,   she   liked   the   thought   of   gaining   a   bit   more   independence   without   her   mother   constantly   telling   her   what   to   do.   so,   she   agreed   to   move   in,   and   a   year   later,   she   graduated.

AGE   21   －   32  :

after   graduating   she   had   a   few   different   jobs;   tba.   until   she   started   working   at   her   mother's   law   firm.

at   the   age   of   twenty-four,   dila   began   working   at   her   mother's   law   firm.   however,   she   started   in   a   non-lawyer   role   because   she   lacked   experience.   she   just   did   some   paperwork   and   administrative   tasks   for   her   mother   until   she   gained   enough   experience   to   work   as   a   divorce   attorney.

everything   appeared   to   be   going   well   until   a   month   or   two   ago   when   dila   and   her   boyfriend   decided   to   part   ways.   things   weren't   really   working   out   as   they   did   before;   they   were   arguing   a   lot.   plus,   the   fact   that   dila   is   way   too   scared   of   'official'   commitment,   like,   getting   married,   added   to   the   strain.   dila   was   just   overwhelmed   with   her   emotions,   especially   because   she   had   many   cases   involving   divorces,   which   naturally   made   her   reflect   a   lot.   his   proposal   in   that   very   moment   to   her   didn't   make   the   situation   any   easier   for   her.   but   what   will   make   this   separation   between   the   two   even   more   difficult   is   the   fact   that   she   recently   found   out   she's   pregnant.

RANDOM FACTS  :

she’s   very   outspoken   and   always   stands   with   her   own   argument   (never   get   into   an   argument   with   her   ksdjhfks)

when   she   was   in   high   school,   one   of   her   classmates   got   bullied   and   she   was   the   one   to   always   stand   up   for   her   classmate   and   they   have   been   best   friends   ever   since.*   most   people   from   their   school   would   be   scared   to   be   on   bad   terms   with   her   because   she   usually   always   had   something   to   say

she’s   really   hardworking,   she   probably   also   has   a   home   office.   if   she   isn’t   at   her   office   @   the   law   firm   she’s   probably   working   at   her   home   office.   even   if   it’s   2am

she   has   never   mentioned   to   her   siblings   that   they   have   another   sibling   out   there

LIKES / DISLIKES  :

likes:   taking   long   walks   in   the   park   /   wine   /   milkshakes   /   coffee   /   crime   tv   shows   or   movies   /   reading   books   /   sitting   on   her   balcony   and   watching   the   stars   for   hours   /   satin   dresses   /   fresh   flowers   on   her   desk   /   large   windows   /   big   cities   /   photography   /   being   creative   (usually   goes   to   random   workshops   in   her   free   time   to   take   her   mind   off)   /   organising   her   pantry   or   her   files

dislikes:   people   who   usually   lie,   even   if   it’s   white   lies   /   loud   and   noisy   people   /   snoring   /   chocolate   /   neon   colours   /   someone   speaking   for   her   /   weddings   /   romcoms   /   tea   /   when   someone   tells   her   what   to   do   /   when   someone   tries   to   convince   her   /   when   someone   tries   to   confront   her

if   you’re   interested   in   plotting   with   me,   hit   the   ♡   button   and   i’ll   come   and   bother   you!   or   you   can   always   send   me   a   message,   too.   i   also   am on   discord   so   if   you   feel   like   plotting   on   there   we   totally   can!

[ask-doctor-med-ler]

*kicks down door* oh my goodness! A doctor!! *holds up bleeding arm.* can you help…please? Sorry about your door- SoraLer

I would complain about my door, but it seems like you're in need of some rather urgent medical care.

[Rips off her standard green gloves to replace them with a non-latex alternative after hand sanitizing]

[Takes bleeding arm with both hands, turning it over carefully to study the deep gashes]

How did you manage to mangle your arm that badly? No wait, I probably don't want to know.

[Clucks tongue after some gentle prodding]

It'll need cleaning and stitches. Quite a few stitches. And if you haven't had a recent tetanus shot you'll need that, too.

[selfsabotaqe]

throwing out a bit of a  plotting call out here, because i’ve been having a lot of muse  &  i would love to meet new writing partners to write with on  tumblr. i am willing to both use my ocs  &  create new muses for you privately. something i am really looking for is something  long term but slow paced.  sometimes it takes me a long time to get to replies, not because i am not interested but because i don’t have as much mental space to write. i’ll be around plenty in tumblr dms  &  on discord, where we can always chat, headcanon and plot our ships further. as for plots and ships, i am particularly looking for  slice of life  and  mlm and wlw  but i am open to a wide variety of plot types  &  also am open to playing or playing against any gender, with any mix of pairings. beneath the cut i’ll list some basic info from my main ocs and some faceclaims i would like to use  &  my rules can be found in my pinned post. if you’re interested, simply like this post  &  i’ll come message you!  🤭💗

♡     ◞        main ocs.

nadiye güzelcan   —   aslihan malbora, 24 to 28, phd student in astrophysics. max lockhart   —   lorenzo zurzolo, 19 to 23, college student or professional soccer player. adela “addie” ortega   —   lizeth selene, 22 to 25, bassist in a feminist punk band. luca calderón   —   froy gutierrez, 22 to 25, college student. aera sun   —   im jinah, 28 to 33, pediatric nurse. ** lale sayar   —   ozge yagiz, 23 to 27, college student  &  aspiring romance author. ** devrim yildiz   —   emre bey, 23 to 27, twitch streamer. leonora “leo” langford   —   maia cotton, 20 to 25, college student or classical musician. ** kiran desai   —   dev patel, 30 to 35, high school history teacher. emre kilic   —   serkan cayoglu, 35 to 38, pr manager. teresa hazen   —   dakota johnson, 30 to 35, mechanical engineer. **

** indicates there’s alternative faceclaims for this muse, you can ask for them. in general i’ll often be very down for adding new faceclaims for my muses, but these already have options. sometimes that includes older verses as well !

♡     ◞        fcs i want to play.

greta onieogou, katie douglas, davika hoorne, chase sui wonders, madelyn cline, julia dalavia, melisa pamuk, im nayeon, camila morrone, adam dimarco, michael evans behling, felix mallard, sila turkoglu, hazal filiz küçükköse, simay barlas, samantha logan, berk cankat, renee rapp, gong yoo, priscilla quintana, anya chalotra, mookda narinrak, ni ni, oktay cubuk, danny ramirez, freddy carter, janhvi kapoor, parveen kaur, ayca aysin turan, simone ashley, melissa barrera, apo nattawin, bruna marquezine, calahan skogman, hande ercel, rudy pankow, maia reficco, win metawin, cody christian, drew starkey, wolfgang novogratz, logan lerman, chay suede, lucas bravo, grace van patten, yang hyeji, kim doyeon, zoey deutch, jessica alba, khadijha red thunder, bensu soral, elias kacavas, ryan destiny, savannah lee smith, giuseppe maggio, zethphan smith gneist, giancarlo commare, melis sezen, maya hawke, casey deidrick, alex landi, raymond ablack, daisy edgar jones, adria arjona, maris racal, maude apatow, hafsanur sancaktutan, manny jacinto, banita sandhu, park sooyoung, gemma chan, neslihan atagul, bright vachirawit, zendaya, brittany o’grady, antonia gentry, nathalie emmanuel, zorzo natharuetai, carmela zumbado, cierra ramirez, megan suri, auli’i cravalho, brianne tju, nailea devora, song kang, geraldine viswanathan, wawwa nicha, bahar sahin, rafael silva, bensu soral, park chaeyoung, charithra chandran, lily james, michael cimino, thomas weatherall, josh heuston, alex fitzalan, jessica lucas, nam joohyuk, wi ha joon, janella salvador, emilio sakraya, dylan minnette, oliver jackson cohen, kennedy walsh, ashley moore, alicia vikander, nathasha liu bordizzo, camila queiroz, daniel sharman, alisha boe, yasemin yazici, jennie kim, nychaa nuttanicha, aslihan malbora, halle bailey, baifern pimchanok, lee hojung, kiana madeira, courtney eaton, cemre baysel, sean teale, evan mock, sarah gustafsson, stephanie hsu, adeline rudolph, jacob elordi, adam brody, lorenzo zurzolo, diane guerrero, aly michalka, evan roderick, madison bailey  &  jessica alexander.

[nicolemaiines]

hi! i love ur fc alts and was hoping u could help with some alts for gigi and bella hadid? im trying to help a friend switch fcs since theyre both gross people but shes really attached and having trouble with finding options she likes. thank u!

🥺 tysm! these suggestions are based on looks/vibes, so please make sure to be respectful of the fc's ethnicities if you're casting siblings! that being said, I would take a look at sophia ali, mishti raman, brianne tju, lulu antariksa, christina nadin, melisa dongel, myra molloy, natacha karam, hande ercel, melisa pamuk, ella balinska, madison bailey, eva noblezada, kate valdez, louriza tronco, alara turan, ayca aysin turan, bensu soral, karrueche tran, burcu ozberk, khadijha red thunder, ipek filiz yazıcı, amber midthunder, melis sezen, pelin uluksar, aj clementine (trans woman), josie totah (trans woman), zion moreno (trans woman), sivan alyra rose (genderfluid)!

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Ateş Kuşları (Serie 2023) #IlaydaAlisan #GorkemSevindik #HandeSoral #BurakTozkoparan #SerkanErcan #NizamNamidar Mehr auf:

Serie / FirebirdJahr: 2023- Genre: Drama Hauptrollen: İlayda Alişan, Görkem Sevindik, Hande Soral, Burak Tozkoparan, Serkan Ercan, Nizam Namidar, Ahmet Saraçoğlu, Gonca Cilasun, Erdem Şanlı, Emir Çubukçu, Onat Bulut, Lilya İrem Salman, Sedef Akalın, Hilal Uysun, Ozan Ağaç, Boncuk Yılmaz, Yeşim Dalgıçer, Kaan Sevi, Çınar Yükçeker, Almira Abay, Fatih Fuat Odabaşı, Berke Obuz, Görkem Doğan, Umut…

[aliferousdreamer]

🌷💗🌷 dizi leading ladies 🌷💗🌷

characters/actresses/shows used:

devin akın (aile) played by serenay sarıkaya + rüya yıldırımlar (alev alev) played by dilan çiçek deniz

eda yıldız (sen çal kapımı) played by hande erçel + efnan payidar (aziz) played by simay barlas

leyla çaka (üç kuruş) played by aslıhan malbora + bahar yöndel (üç kuruş) played by nesrin cavadzade

yağmur kara (son yaz) played by hafsanur sancaktutan + ceylin erguvan (yargı) played by pınar deniz

sena koçovalı (çukur) played by dilan çiçek deniz + eylem aydın (içerde) played by damla colbay

mahur türel (maraşlı) played by alina boz + nihan sezin (kara sevda) played by neslihan atagül

dila bilgin (kuzgun) played by burcu biricik + esra erten (aşk mantık intikam) played by burcu özberk

selin sever (her yerde sen) played by aybüke pusat + melek yıldız duman (içerde) played by bensu soral

sibel yıldırım (ramo) played by esra bilgiç + mona ünkap (kusursuz kiracı) played by dilan çiçek deniz

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WELCOME TO HALF MOON BAY

—please review our welcome list here.

AJ with Michael Trevino as Antonio Lopez, 35, Doctor

Bri with Pedro Pascal as Joaquinn Ignacio, 43, Owner of The Full Moon Gentlemen’s Club

Bru with Charles Michael Davis as Samuel ‘Sam’ Adlawan, 36,  Financial Trader / Investor

Bru with Hazal Filiz Küçükköse as Reyhan Hale Sayar, 35, CEO of SayCo & Socialite

Jem with Oscar Issac as Eduardo Estrada, 45, Board member and former CFO of Estrada Security

M with Deepika Padukone as Rhea Gujral, 34, CEO of Blissful Elixir, a skincare brand

Mack with Madelyn Cline as Paige Brody, 27, Olympic Swimmer & Founder of Half Moon Bay Aquatic Club 

Manes with Boyd Holbrook as Clayton ‘Clay’ Calhoun, 39, Ranch Hand @ Shooting Star Ranch

Vee with Bensu Soral as Cemre Rüya Sunar, 34, Private Investigator

Winn with Phoebe Dynevor as Andrea “Annie” Evelyn Hayes, 29, Lawyer 

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#this is giving me soo much nostalgia and reminding me of the pictures in the books i used to read as a cild

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#5

to parents

My parents were almost as kind and accepting as any lgbtq-kid could wish for. When I came out as non-binary, my mom gave me a hug and my dad a pat on the back. That however did not mean they started using the right pronouns, or later when I told them about a new name that I wanted to try out, then did not call me that. There was never really rejection/unacceptability, but rather a lack of awareness and the actions that came with it, sometimes felt like rejection.

For my generation, when you tell someone about a new name, the next obviously logical step is for them to start calling you by that name, it’s like a built in habit. But not with my parents, like i said, there was just a lack of awareness and knowledge and so they just continued referring to me by my old name. Only when I explicitly told them that I wanted to be called by this new name, they actually started using it. Though my father didn’t at first, his reasoning being ‘but she also listens to her old name, so why should I?’ Now that feels like rejection. But that was just from the lack of awareness, he didn’t not realise how important it was for trans people so see the new name get accepted (and with that, eventually being used as well) 

So to parents, regardless of the fact if your child is out, or part of the lgbtq-community, please educate yourself. Get some basic knowledge groundwork so to speak and know the meaning of ‘standard’ lgbtq words like homosexual/heterosexual/bisexual and cisgender/transgender.’ My parents didn’t even know what transgender meant precisely, let alone the meaning of a more specific term such as non-binary, that alone adds a whole new layer of difficulty, that combined with that everyone expresses their label(s) in a different way, like I’m a very masculine non-binary person whilst others are more feminine or more androgynous. 

My parents didn’t understand me, they still don’t understand and I don’t think they ever fully will because cause this is such a unique, personal experience

(Even as fellow non-binary/trans person, you will probably understand out of everyone but still it’s slightly different from person to person) but they understood even less because of that lack of awareness and knowledge. So to parents, please educate yourself on themes like these as they are becoming more prevalent in todays society, keep up with those things, like one would keep up the news. 

There will I think always be this gap of understanding between generations, later in life I might find myself in a similar position like my parents now, but I hope at least that with every generation, the previous one will be outfitted with more tools to gain understanding and knowledge and have the knowledge lead to acceptance. Because giving a hug or a pat on the back isn’t enough, with acceptance must come action. 

11 notes - Posted November 12, 2022

#4

Gally: youre very annoying

Thomas: what can I say, its a lifestyle

13 notes - Posted May 29, 2022

#3

Gally: *begrudgingly hands Thomas his jacket, as his complaining about being cold annoys him (or so he tells himself)

Minho: why'd you do that? Thought you hated him *eyebrow wiggling ensues*

Gally: there's a fine line between hate and-

Minho: *crows* LOVE

Gally: *deadpan* vague feelings of affection

@its-tea-time-darling in light of the thomally week, of which I only see snatches, here's my humble contribution

51 notes - Posted April 30, 2022

#2

Minho: *eyeing Thomas*

Newt: Oh, for bloody god's sake, Minho, at least make sure he can still walk once you're done with him.

Minho: What do you mean, still walk?! They can always walk

Newt: *tsking* they hobble, Minho! They ho-

Minho: *loudly speaking* they can get from point A to point B!!

86 notes - Posted February 28, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

Thomas: *presenting some wild, dangerous plan*

Gally: what's he on?

Newt: some highly addictive drug called idiocy

95 notes - Posted August 13, 2022

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