#God forbid a man draw yuri

[ruumirmir]

Lord give me time to finish my yuriful wip

Arlefuri collecting dust for a good 4 months bc Uni assignments are plaguing me help.

Sesbian lex so good when one of them is Really Fucking Scared

based off this img from Pinterest :]

[brookiidookiii]

this is all so true

Misogyny is so incredibly normalized its actually insane. Theres batshit levels of casual misogyny thrown around in td, and im fine with it for plot and stuff, but that tweet of terry mcgurrin saying there's no homphobic characters or whatever. Like okayyyy i see your priorities.

The misogyny that is just casually in the show can get genuinely upsetting to watch sometimes. Women are constantly disrespected and paraded around as objects. Duncan saying to courtney whats for dinner woman. The double gold at the babe Olympics shit. The men are allowed to pull two girls but as soon as a girl pulls two guys shes the devil and should kill herself (gwen, bridgette, even courtney in the case of scott) And characters are reprimanded for being sexist in the show, but it doesnt feel like it happens enough

And again, im ok with it for the plot and stuff. (Also its a show from 2007. Its gonna be far from unproblematic) but it reflects HARD in the fandom. The people that blame Gwen and Courtney for the love triangle stuff? Insane. Actually genuinely insane. They either actually believe it can be someones (that just SO HAPPENS to be a woman) fault for being cheated on, or they just say that to piss people off who sympathize with courtney (or even gwen in the case of duncan fucking Breaking Into The Bathroom to kiss her. She was coerced into that kiss)

The list could actually go on and on and on.

The way people say bridgette is a bad person for getting coerced into a kiss even after apologizing while they completely forget geoff making eyes at other girls and calling them hot

The way people fawn all over noah and cody despite being in a minimal amount of episodes and/or never having that large of a role, while hating female characters in similar alleyways of screentime or usage

The mass popularity of mlm ships compared to wlw ships. Total drama has a pretty wide array of female characters that are just as developed or even more than the most popular male characters/ships. The usual excuse of female characters just being underdeveloped/bad characters and therefore unfun to ship doesnt apply.

I saw someone called homophobic for saying a lot of mlm ships feel like mlw ships but for people that dont want to write a woman

And its not like thinking one of these things automatically makes someone a misogynist, but it feels like everyone harbors some kind of misogynistic thinking. Its exhausting. Like you have to fight back so hard only for no one to care and for people to tell you youre exaggerating. the moment theres any SEMBLAMCE of homophobia, people dogpile them, but the rampent misogyny gets nothing done about it. Im tired

[redribbons09]

What's your opinion on people constantly headcanon that all characters are gay or some excuse, because they don't want a heterosexual ship to happen? Like the make the characters ooc in their gay OTP to fit their fantasies, instead of exploring their sexuality. Or just make them gay to get their OTP work. Or people excluding straight trans gender people from their headcanons. The last one bothers me more.

People are free to headcanon what they want as long as they’re not being assholes about it, but admittedly, this is pretty annoying in more ways than one.

First of all - this happens a lot on here because of Tumblr’s very strong “other” mindset.  The “other” mindset is basically “me vs. them”.  If the person is not like you, they’re “them” hence they are “others” and thus deserve to be shunned and not dealt with as well as mocked.  This mindset is highly toxic and not only is it prevalent in both the homophobic and “het is ew” crowds but also in many racial and gender crowds.  E.g. Islamophobia runs rampant on this mindset.  In the end, it really puts a huge crushing downer on people in more ways than one and just needs to seriously stop.

Second, people who usually do that tend to blissfully ignore there are other sexualities besides homosexuality and heterosexuality.  For some reason, bisexuality, pansexuality, asexuality and demisexuality don’t exist to them.  It’s pretty stupid and hypocritical.  Then again, most do that because they’re really fujoshi/fudanshi and simply want their gay porn: they don’t give a rat’s ass about the characters and just want smut.  

That saying so, there’s nothing wrong with smut and drawing, writing or wanting smut (look at Gengoroh Tagame - he’s a gay mangaka who does fetish works in the bara community, but he also made the serious and heart-tugging LGBTAQ+ manga, My Brother’s Husband), but there is a time and place, and as long as you can differentiate fantasy from reality and not put up a fuss over fictional characters just because others don’t interpret them how you interpret them, you there shouldn’t be a problem there.

Third, as you mentioned with fantasies, if it’s not the “other” mindset, then they’re most likely fujoshi or fudanshi, or whatever is the equivalent of that for yuri.  And yes, I’m purposely using those terms because most of those people just want their porn - they don’t give a fuck about the characters and development.  They just want banging.  Again, nothing wrong with wanting smut, but again - there is a time and place, and if you throw a fit at people who do not have the same opinion as you, or shove your interpretation down people’s throats, good luck living in the real world, bucko.  The real world where there are millions of mindsets and hence interpretations and perspectives.

With the final part of the lack of acknowledgment of straight transgender people is because of two things that I’ve observed.  One: most people seem to think that trans immediately equals gay.  It does not.  There are straight trans people, there are gay trans people, there are bi and ace trans people as well. A trans woman dating a cis man is not gay since she’s dating a man.  You’re a fool to say she is a he and gay just because she’s dating a man since she’s clearly a woman and identifies as a woman.  

Finally: this second point is disgusting, but sadly I’ve seen it.  People may, at the surface, acknowledge someone is a straight trans man or woman, but they still inwardly do not believe it and still assume the first point of how trans immediately equals gay.  Only this point is more disgusting because they are aware of that and just don’t care as long as it fits their little m|m or w|w fetishising bullshit fantasy.  These people are truly toxic, so avoid them at all costs.

You know something else that does piss me off? When people automatically assume a person’s gender or sexuality because of their hobbies, likes, dislikes, behaviour and mannerisms.  God forbid a straight boy wanting to dress up as a princess and love fashion and designing and want to become a fashion designer and marry his cis girlfriend, or a straight woman dress up preferring to dress up in a suit and love wrestling and mechanics and want to be a bodybuilder who’s in a relationship with that cis man over there.  Nope! They have to be gay, bi or trans! 

Psst - that mindset reminds me of the idiots who tell my lesbian friend that she simply “hasn’t found the right guy yet” when you tell me “you’re just in denial - it’s okay” when I do something “manly” or “boyish”: it’s fucking annoying, so quit that stupidity and just let people be people (unless they’re being assholes).