#Funerals

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[mecha-frankenstein]

Funeral Barbie diorama by Paolo Schmidlin. From his collection of vintage Barbies, part ofthe "Barbie Around the World" exhibit at the Barbara Frigerio in Italy

[veggiesforpresident]

"I remembered the funeral. I had sobbed in spite of myself; Soda had broken down and bawled like a baby; but Darry had only stood there, his fists in his pockets and that look on his face, the same helpless, pleading look that he was wearing now." - The Outsiders, chapter 6

[thebibliosphere]

It's a surreal experience, watching a funeral from four thousand miles away, and not having anywhere to put your grief.

[daisyswift3]

🧩🍂🍁

Ok I could be completely wrong and seeing patterns that aren’t there (it wouldn’t be the first time) but I think Ed Sheeran and Sabrina Carpenter might come out tomorrow. I think they’re the next dominoes to cascade or FALL after Shawn Mendes. Let me explain

The 10th and 11th 🎃 messages -> Oct (10) and Nov (11) -> “the turn of the decade beFALLs the facade” -> “it was the end of a decade (the end of Oct or 10th month) but the start of an age” -> Change -> revolution/The Hunger Games ⚡️🏹😈🎯🔥 -> HALLOWEEN COSTUMES in the 11th 🎃 message -> Ed's gay little monkey meme costume and Elton John esque pfp (Goodbye Yellow Brick Road) and Sabrina's Tinkerbell costume 🧚 (Tinkerbell connects to the Peter Pan metaphor, growing up = coming out of the closet 🚪) (Sabrina is the one on the rollercoaster 🎢) -> Enchanted Forest and fairy wings 🧚 in 10th 🎃 message (OUT Of The Woods, “screaming color 🌈,” “somber woodland fairies”) -> “I hope your Halloween is enchanted” in 14th 🎃 message -> passing the torch/relay race/Paris Olympics/Nothing New, “she’ll know the way and then she’ll say she got the map from me” // “my bare hands paved their paths,” (x) -> Death with Dignity in Gracie’s playlists // Die With A Smile by Lady Gaga and Bruno Mars // funerals 🖤 // my tears ricochet eras tour performance and visuals // Billie’s Hit Me Hard and Soft album cover which is her free falling out of a closet door and drowning in the deep end (the deep end in Gracie’s Risk and Under/Over, Lizzy’s Pushing It Down and Praying, “softer, harder, in between”, Gregory’s Mistakes, Guilty as Sin?, “you’ve made your bed now lie in it”) -> Castles Crumbling (PLURAL bc multiple artists’ castles are crumbling in this mass coming out, there’s an intentional ‘s typo which connects it to the “i’s” in the 14th 🎃 message and to all the other intentional glitches/errors) -> Lizzy’s All Falls Down -> Jump Then Fall -> Birds of a Feather/The Albatross -> 2nd 🎃 message -> Gregory’s The Fall and Before the Sun (55 mile signs and Gaga’s Smile being changed to sMILE on Spotify) (x) -> All Too Well (Sad Girl Autumn Version) bc autumn is FALL 🍂🍁 -> “autumn leaves FALLING DOWN like PIECES INTO PLACE” 🧩 -> “and all the pieces fall right into place” -> “and just like clockwork the dominoes cascaded in a line” -> Gracie’s Cool, “I'm actin' bored, it's my right, after all the love that you bombed” -> “tick tick tick of love bombs” -> tick tick tick BOOM 🧨🌋🕰️ (TNT, the reticent volcano) -> going back to the Halloween costumes, Taylor was dressed as a squirrel and there was Project Acorn bc the mass coming out movement (The Story of Us/The Manuscript/the film) is “nuts” lol (x) -> Ed Sheeran’s insta having an acorn and 🍂 for his Autumn Variations album -> Run ft Ed Sheeran (the relay race metaphor) -> Red being a FALL 🍂🍁 album

I think this all ties into the election too hence all the red, white, and blue and 4th of July easter eggs lately 🇺🇸 (Gregory’s Before the Sun mentions the 4th of July). And I think that’s why Karlie (Miss Americana, KARma) wore the Kill Bill costume 👀 -> Better Than Revenge Spotify canvas and TSMWEL eras tour visuals -> shattering glass ceilings -> “The Mountain: ‘You can say I like girls or boys; So call it what you want, call it what you want’” in the anon message -> Coldplay’s iAAM (i Am A Mountain): “I got this feeling that the ceiling is for bursting through…I got this feeling I can summon up lightning…Everyone taking aim, Let it rain, let it rain, let it rain” -> “Dear reader when you aim at the devil make sure you don’t miss” ⚡️🏹😈🎯🔥 -> The Archer/Katniss

[coffinup]

I know I’m a bit late, but I wanted to say HAPPY PRIDE!

The deathcare profession is becoming a lot more diverse as more and more young people come into it, and it’a great to see. I personally work with several fellow lgbtqia+ people at my funeral home and it’s such a nice feeling of solidarity in an industry that is historically white, male and cisgendered.

Along with the progress though, I also think it’s very important to talk about what everyone can do to help protect themselves and their identities when their time comes.

I think of a case years back of a trans woman whose hair was cut and who was put in a suit by her family’s request for her visitation, because she’d passed away in an accident, and her parents were her next of kin, they completely disregarded and disrespected her identity after she died.

If you are a queer person, especially someone who identifies with a different gender than you were assigned at birth, and don’t feel comfortable with the idea of your family being in charge of your end of life care or funeral arrangements, there are a couple of things you can do:

-Fill out an Advance Directive. This is sometimes called a Durable Power of Attorney or a Living Will. This dictates that, should you be incapable of making your own medical decisions due to coma, illness, injury, etc, the person you ASSIGN is in charge of those decisions.

-Sign a Designee form. This is crucial if you want to designate a specific person to make decisions about your body disposition and funeral care. POWER OF ATTORNEY ENDS AT DEATH. Your power of attorney will NOT be able to make post-death decisions on your behalf. You need a Designee form for that!

Both of these forms can assign any willing person that you chose to be in charge of these decisions. This person does not have to be related to you, they could be a friend, roommate, non-married partner, metamore, in-law, whoever you feel the most comfortable with, and who is willing to sign the form.

You are NEVER too young to have these forms. If you are a young person, re-visit them every couple years and make sure the other person on them is still willing to be your POA/Designee. You can re-do these forms as many times as you need. In most states they should also be FREE and require only a notary public and witnesses!

Forms should be available on your state’s .gov websites!

I wish all of you a peaceful and happy pride season, and as always,

Memento Mori

[theshoesofatiredman]

I kinda want to start planning my funeral not because I think I'm going to die or want to die but because I don't want a god damn church service. The thought of a Christian funeral, which is undoubtedly what would be planned for me by my family, is nauseating. I know I won't be there to be mad about it but fuck! If someone shares the gospel at my funeral I'm gonna resurrect so I can punch them in the face.

[curiouscatalog]

For Halloween, let's have a look at funeral traditions around the world, with a bonus friend drawn by a former owner on the title page.

Greenhill, Thomas. NECHROCHEDEIA: Or, The Art of Embalming; : Wherein Is Shown the Right of Burial, the Funeral Ceremonies, and the Several Ways of Preserving Dead Bodies in Most Nations of the World. London: Printed for the author, 1705.

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[mysharona1987]

[victusinveritas]

How to guarantee you will never be forgotten. (St. Louis Globe Democrat 1897)

[incognitopolls]

Include variations on these events, such as memorial services, celebrations of life, etc.

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[quadrantadvisor]

I thought embalming was standard practice for burials, but it turns out that even in the US, where embalming is unusually common, only about 50% of corpses are embalmed. It's primarily to preserve corpses that won't have their viewing for a while, or who need to be transported, or who died violently and need to be "patched up". There's no benefit to embalming for the burial or community health benefits during decomposition underground, natural burials are fine.

Anyways, seeing as Jason Todd's funeral only had four people at it, I'm positive there wasn't a viewing and he wouldn't have been embalmed. Which is probably good. idk if you can come back to life if all your blood is formaldehyde

[alpojones]

Michael Merlo, Chicago gangsters and florist, elaborate funeral procession of over 100 cars. The first car carrying an effigy of Merlo made of wax and flowers. November 13, 1924.

[pratchettquotes]

She wished, oh, how she wished, to be like Nanny Ogg, who understood things and knew how to hammer silence into laughter.

Terry Pratchett, I Shall Wear Midnight

[quasi-normalcy]

My firt concept of funerals came from that episode of TNG where they think that Ro and Geordi died in a transporter accident so Data decides to commemorate them with a wild party, and I feel like this gave me some unrealistic expectations of how much fun funerals would be. Kind of wish they were like that, though.

[daisyswift3]

Ummm so I'm pretty sure this anon is one of the tortured poets and I have evidence to back it up. I've been tracking Gracie's spotify playlists (which I think are full of easter eggs) and she put the song Death with Dignity on her Carsick playlist and on her insta stories exactly 14 hrs ago and that anon message was also posted exactly 14 hrs ago. I just took these screenshots a few minutes ago