#For someone who isnt mentally prepared nor is it necessary for them to have a cbag it could also be incredibly disgusting to feel the warmt

[swagging-back-to]

tw lots of bad stuff, torture, violation, etc

one thing people allllways seem to overlook when it comes to someone being tortured by kept tied to a bed or in a tube or whatever is the use of catheters--both urethral and intrarectal-- colostomy bags, and any other waste collection device i dont know about.

it's already INCREDIBLY violating to have catheters put in with consent by someone you trust, let lone by your captor/abuser/torturer against your will. Not to mention the pain that comes with not being able to move and have control over your body, the possibility of severe infection if the device isnt changed or cleaned. colostomy bags are less violating surface level, but depending on the amount of colon an/or intestines removed, as well as if barbie bum surgery was conducted, it can be a drastically life altering and emotionally damaging experience knowing you'll never be able to shit on your own or actually feel your bowel movements (a slightly less life threatening con to this, specifically for gay males, is that they cant have have anal sex if they have barbie bum surgery). Depending on how much of the intestines were removed, malnutrition could also be a major risk. Colostomy bags also require much more upkeep and cleaning, because it's literally a gaping hole in your stomach leading directly to your organs.

[mspbandj]

I think its time for a lesson in political engagement grammar!

just here me out

There is one particular sentence that is commonly used to highlight and explain the importance of ✨emphasis✨, how it can affect a body of text, and how the effect of emphasis can change the base fundamental understanding of said text. This sentence, as some of you will have guessed by now, is this:

"She never said she loved him."

This particular sentence is used because its easily possible to change the entire meaning of it by simply moving the emphasis from word to word (I'm not going to type out all of them, but feel free to have fun with it!) I'm going to be using two possible interpretations for this essay in the hopes of explaining why sometimes, two people with fundamentally different understandings of political theory the text, simply cannot have a constructive or worthwhile discussion.

As mentioned above, by moving the emphasis around, we can create six distinct meanings that we can then go on to explore and extrapolate on. Heres two that I prepared earlier:

"She never said she loved him."

and

"She never said she loved him."

As we can see, the emphasis has changed the focus of the sentence, and provides two distinctly different meanings, and two distinctly different understandings of what the sentence is actually trying to tell us.

So, what happens when Person A, who emphasises the word "love", and Person B, who emphasises the word "him" try to have a discussion about the subtext and possible extensions of the subject?

It most likely goes something like this:

Person A: "Hey, so if its not love that shes feeling for him, what do you think it could be? She obviously has some kind of feeling for him, so the question is, if not love, then what?"

Person B: "Hey, what do you mean? She said she does feel love, but its just not directed at him. The real question is, if she doesnt love him, then who does she love?"

Person A: "Come again? Her feelings are directed at him, it says so right there, but she's saying she doesn't feel love for him. I'm asking what it is that she does feel for him, not whether or not she feels for him at all!"

Person B: "What are you talking about? It says quite clearly that she does feel love, but she just doesnt feel it for him! So I'm asking, for whom does she actually feel that love?!"

And the conversation goes around and around and around until everyone gets dizzy and frustrated and at least mentally throws up.

The point here is that Person A and Person B show a clear disparity in their fundamental interpretations of the text; they simply have very different understandings of the exact same string of words. And its because of these different understandings that they are completely unable to hold a constructive discussion. In order to move the conversation forward, both people need to go back to the actual text and explain their interpretations.

Now, this can, and sometimes does, lead to mutual understanding, which then reopens the path to potential conversations around the subtext (hooray!) However, if and when it becomes clear that neither Person A nor Person B are willing to show this understanding or, god forbid, compromise, then theres absolutely no way that they can try to engage in further discussion.

And at that stage, its best if both people just walk away from it. Neither person is going to convince the other to change their mind, so any further engagement becomes a waste of time and energy.

This same theory can be applied to politics and the fundamental understandings we have of political and socioeconomic theory and practise.

When two or more people have fundamentally different understandings on what and how politics and society should be, then it will be impossible to hold a constructive or meaningful discussion for them. They end up in the same back and forth round and round carousel of clownery as Person A and Person B above did.

So, how do they avoid this situation?

✨ By not engaging in the conversation. ✨

It is perfectly okay and necessary and important to discuss politics and political theory, especially in the modern shitfuckery of whatever the hell is happening these days, but please remember that sometimes, we just have to walk away. By all means, post your twitter threads, write your articles, film your video essays, have confidence in your understanding of the text if thats genuinely how you want to read it. At the same time, remember that sometimes, theres just no talking to people, no matter how hard you try.

If and when you find yourself in a circular conversation with someone who just doesnt even want to try and understand you, or who keeps trying to convince you to believe something you reject, then ✨ just walk away ✨

Yes, it is important to stay open minded and receptive to new ideas, and it is important to pass on knowledge and education, but when we're talking about the very, very, basics of the issue (like recognising and respecting Trans people, and even just acknowledging systemic racism) sometimes, there really isnt anything you can say. These are fundamental (mis)nderstandings that sometimes just... cant be reasoned with. They just cant.

It may seem irresponsible and/or dangerous in modern times, and it can be really hard to reconcile, but please work on it. Put your energy into things that will make a difference. Go to rallies, get involved, talk loudly and proudly about your beliefs, and work on remembering that ✨ you do not have to engage everyone who answers ✨

Look after yourselves out there!

✨✨✨✨✨

Also fuck TERFs lol

and also Nazis

and Capitalists

and just... general right wing fuckos.

You can all choke and die painfully ♥️

[shimadagans]

im furious w my coworker bs under the cut

so i have this one coworker that. i dunno whats goin on but. she’s worked at my work for about 5 months? 6 maybe? and like. I’ve only been here for a year or so but. 

when I first started, someone told me that I was doing something wrong? I’d listen. If i was unsure of something? id ask for clarification. so much, until i was afraid i was annoying all my more senior coworkers.

but this coworker of mine. she just. doesn’t. she fucks up menial tasks and then either leaves without explaining whats going on or says “oh i didnt know” to which usually someone replies “ok, just ask next time youre unsure” (she doesnt. ever)

the one thing shes good at is talking to ppl. not even like. helping ppl find things. literally just chatting. BUT not all of our job is just. talking to ppl. on the rare occasion she actually tries to help someone find something (something like 30% of the time if i had to guess) she either a) shows them something that has nothing to do with what theyre looking for or b) lies about what the thing does. 

and beyond that she doesnt do....nearly any other part of her job, at least not correctly or well. we’re supposed to like. watch “zones” of the place to watch out for stuff going on and she always....leaves hers....without telling anyone so it always a game of “where’s whatshername??” “I dunno”

she doesnt ever like. clean the place when we’re slow, which is...in our description...all she does is find the nearest coworker and start chatting. even if theyre doing something, even if theyre helping someone find something. shes so infamous for just. standing around n chatting that sometimes, when she clocks out, she just. follows another one of my coworkers around and tries to talk to her. she did this for 30 min after her shift ended one time, while Other Coworker was....yknow. working.

the back room at work is rly narrow with a countertop for a table n i always get to work before my shift starts n hang out in the back room so i can like. mentally prepare myself for being a fake social butterfly all day. n when we get shipment it goes in the back door and into the same back room. this wonderful coworker of mine happens to be receiving shipment, so i scoot my chair as close to the table thing as it can go and say “some of these boxes are real big, be careful” n not 5 minutes later she hits my back (right above my discolated disc, mind you) with a 25 pound box n goes in the most fake sounding voice ive ever fuckin heard “ohhhhh my goooood im soooooo sorry” to which i go “nah, its cool, its time for me to go clock in, im heading up”

a few days later she starts insisting she should spot me for lunch to apologize (i find out later this isnt her idea, but the idea of another (very sweet) coworker) and when i say “no thank you, not necessary” she keeps. insisting. following me around the store.

TODAY. today. she fucks me up big time.

i clock out n go to the bathroom at work which is notorious for lookin locked and not being locked and is NOT PUBLIC and only for employees/children/pregnant ppl which is A Known Rule by everyone who works here. while im in there a CUSTOMER who is neither pregnant nor a child opens the door. hey guess what, im trans and already have awfl terrible bad bad bathroom anxiety and i kinda say “whoa whoa whoa” n the guy goes “sorry!” and leaves n closes the door. I finish up n come out and guess who’s standing right outside the door n didnt do anything to stop Customer from trying to open the door? Wonderful coworker!!! she says not a word to me, just keeps chatting to whoever shes talking to. I turn to Customer and say, “Haha, sorry, yeah, it’s not a public bathroom” and he goes “oh sorry i was just trying to get some paper towels, I spilled something on the floor” which makes me LOOK at Coworker.....who knows if something spills shes supposed to clean it up and she goes “oh, right, dont worry about it” which makes me think she TOLD Customer to go into the bathroom which HE CANT DO BECAUSE RULES and didnt want to!!! clean it up herself!!! just wanted to keep talking!!! meanwhile my ass mightve been outed in the WORST WAY to a fuckin STRANGER for no good fuckin reason. thanks coworker.

I cant tell if shes purposefully fucking with me now or if shes like. THAT fuckin oblivious.