#DominanceAndSubmission

[ang1331]

[hungryeyephoto]

We know who is in charge. - Samantha and Talyn

[beautifulchaos-his]

Getting in Step

So, where to begin? It’s been almost a year since I met my life partner, and meeting her has been a challenge from day one. At the time, I was a man that had all but given up on “true love.” I still believed in love, I just thought it was for other people. I was almost hostile to the idea of monogamy and had decided Bdsm was the only lifestyle that would work for me. I had turned off my heart and decided to run off pure logic. Relationships were a business deal to be negotiated and adhered to. I do x,y,z and you do a,b,c.

Then I met my sweetness. I was actually having dinner with a friend and then this woman that I had seen at the gym earlier in the day strolls by, makes eye contact, and recognizes me. The room stopped. I cut my conversation and dinner short and had a guy that turned out to be mutual friends run interference. We spoke for a while, and she excused herself to the bathroom. I turned to her friend that she was having drinks with, and I said in a very matter of fact manner “I want her.”

She played hard to get, later I would come to find that my manners and directness that had been crafted in the Kink lifestyle were hard for her to process. I proceeded nonetheless, and eventually I got her to dinner and asked for her full attention. While she was kinky, she had no real experience with power exchange relationships, but she jumped in full force. I will never forget how she blushed when I had her fill out questionnaires on her sexual history. She repeatedly would stop and say “You want to know everything?” To which I would reply directly “everything.”

We entered into a D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship, and while fun and enlightening it was a roller coaster. We never quite found our balance. She was the first vanilla person I had every tried to “turn” and I was told it wouldn’t work. But I had to have her. I was constantly adjusting and having to battle with the notions and standards of a vanilla relationship.

In addition to these problems, she is truly an alpha female, and submission was hard for her. I began to realize that the D/s dynamic I had in place would not work for us. So, I began searching. In public we always carried ourselves as just a very traditional couple, so I began reading and studying the dynamic of the 1950’s style relationships I had come across from time to time in the kink world.

And through this, Domestic Discipline was found. It looked perfect on paper. The theory of this dynamic looked like it should work well for us, but right around the time of finding this something weird happened. God came knocking.

Now I had been very religious in my past, I had even gone to seminary, but inconsistencies in what I was studying and the incompatibility of my personal life lead me to walk away from Christianity. I continued to study religion and spirituality but had sworn off practicing any particular religion. In fact I felt more comfortable with the occult than I did in a Church. And ironically while in the middle of an occult study, I found God again, or He/She/It found me I should say. And in one swoop I saw past religion and found God behind the scene of everything. Every religion, and every spiritual philosophy became a playground to search this God out.

I felt reconnected to nature, and all of a sudden strict monogamy looked different. I could see the gift of pouring yourself into one person and having them pour themselves into you. I understood the responsibility of leading a household and more particularly a woman. I had a carnal desire to be, not just in control, but fully a man that is in harmony with nature. As I began to act on it, I saw a shift in my sweetness. She began to submit a bit more easily, and the submission was organic. Not because there was a rule that we had agreed on in a contact, but because she genuinely wanted to. Her femininity was easier to see every day. And I realized I thirsted for it.

This brings us up to the present. Just a few days ago, we decided to take the plunge officially into DD relationship dynamic. And ironically the paddle I had ordered arrived just a few hours later. It felt like confirmation.

So this is our journey. We have agreed to use these posts as a journal of sorts, and we welcome comments, advice, or questions openly. Beautifulchaos-hers is where you can read her perspective, thoughts, and musings. We thought it would be interesting to be able to compare both sides during this journey. This is mainly for us and our growth, but we hope you enjoy.

[crotram]

[linda-en-mark]

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