#DivorcedParent

[boarderlineballistics]

Days without my son.

I'm limited on what I want to share on here but I will share that I am a father.

I had my son when I was very young and married his mother when I was young.

We didn't have a good relationship. I was struggling with Mental Health and refused to get help and in that relationship I felt very abused and taken advantage of.

A few years later we divorced and ever since then my relationship with my son has been very difficult to maintain.

His mother and I had a lot of anger and pain towards each other and we were not above letting the other know about it.

In this it caused me to avoid her and my son all together. I fell into deep depressions on this issue and developed an addiction to alcohol because of this and many other things in my life.

In my addiction I failed my son in many ways and thus it caused my ex and I to suspend visitation until I got my life back together. That was 2 years ago.

I haven't spoken to my son in two years and I've been struggling with it. He has developed and grown so much and I don't even know who he is.

I don't know how much he asked about me or even if he does.

and honestly I don't trust my ex's word for it. In my life she has lied to me time and time again.

She's lied to me about my son and about our custody just to have me stay away that I don't know what to do.

My heart is broken.

[librarycomic]

Grace Needs Space by Benjamin A. Wilgus and Rii Abrego (illustrations). RH Graphic, 2023. 9780593182390. http://www.powells.com/book/-9780593182390?partnerid=34778&p_bt

Grace lives on Genova Station with her mom, Evelyn, an engineer who seems to get how to keep Grace involved and interested in making their house a home. Grace is excited because she's soon going to Titan with her Ba, Kendra, on a two-week trip in her cargo ship Sadie Goat. But her Ba is late. And when the trip is finally underway her Ba doesn't want her touching anything on the ship (she's particular, and it's all delicate). On Titan when Grace wants to see the sights (trees, plants, the largest lake in the solar system that's not on Earth) her Ba has no time because she's dealing with work. Grace meets some local kids and stows away on their field trip to Kraken Mare, where she touches the surface of Titan, but the trip nearly ends in disaster and then she's grounded. (There's more drama between the two and when the Sadie Goat is on its way back to Genova.)

I've never seen a graphic novel, much less a science fiction graphic novel, show how hard it can be for a kid to make sense of the way things work when they're with each of their separated parents. This reminds me of when I was a kid and went to my dad's place every other weekend, both the good and the bad of it. (I wish hanging out with him had involved a spacecraft.)

[arid4nte]

maybe you're cursed.

you did something bad, and life granted you with me.

a daughter that's your complete opposite.

everyday you party while i rot in my room. the light in your eyes goes away when i talk with you.

i wish i had a mother like theirs. they talk, and go shopping like its normal for them. you, on the other hand, pretend im never here. you go on your own like its better then being with me.

maybe im the problem... i worry, i take up space i lie to your face, i dont want you to see me.

i wish i belonged somewhere

everyone does something here and there. i am here, in the vast loneliness of my messy old life. daydreaming about friends and the end of my teenage years.

i listen to music and pretend im not here.

please dont perceive me, im trying to disappear.

[dailyhealthcareblog]

What can be used against you in a divorce?

If you have been wondering what can be used against you in a divorce as a mom, dad, or newly wedded couple it is important to be conscious of whatever you are doing whenever you feel that the marriage is not habitable again.

As one who wants a divorce from his/her partner, keep reading this article to see for your self.

Things

What is divorce

Divorce simply means when a marriage is dissolved. It can also be said that when two mature married couple comes to agreement that they are know longer compatible together so they file for a divoce for them to separate from each other.

In some cases, one can see a divorce a choice when the marriage he/she is into is no longer inhabitable, very toxic and can’t cope with it. It is advisable to leave the marriage if you have been trying to fit in for long but it seems it wasn’t working, you Bett leave before you are out of the picture (world).

What are the Reasons for Divorce

You have to get this at the back of your mind, before a divorce happen their must be a disagreement somewhere.

Here are the possible main reasons for divorce, they include

Domestic violence

Infidelity

Psychological stress

Psychological Abuse

Physical abuse

Lack of commitment

Family

Adultry

Finance

Sustance Abuse

Irriconcilable difference

ADULTERY

The word adultery have done more harm than good in marriage. Research has it that couples who have divorced for the past 5 years are because of adultery. This applicable to both gender, because male cheat and women also cheat. The High rate of adultery in the society is alarming and we (you and I) have been wondering what could be done to cutdown the rate of adultery in the society.

Here are most of the things that can help to reduce the rate of adultery…

TRUTHFULNESS: Being truthful to both parties can play a great effect in this journey. If you have a truthful partner I assure you that this can aswell reduce.

COMMUNICATION: This is the key for a good marriage. If you really wants your marriage (union) to last longer communication will be one of the keys to use to get what you really wants.

FINANCE

Finance also has it’s own effect on divorce, because one can’t eat truelove. Yes truelove matters alot but without money or hoping that money will be coming from this investment, you will see that the love will shatter and they will be misunderstanding here and there. It is advisable to have something doing before being in a union with some else child.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

As a man you don’t have any right to beat up your wife no matter what. Being able to handle or to treat each other according will really help you both in your union. Understanding is key and being able to solve the issue amicably is the real goal there.

As a partner being able to hear each other out is very important because it will reduce somany act of domestic violence.

LACK OF COMMITMENT

Being committed to each other will really you out as one that is in union with someone. What is a happy union? This when you and your pattern are happily living together. You both can easily sort out your difference and can be able to resolve any issue at a giving point in time.

FAMILY

Family is also anoth factor that increases the rate of divorce in our society nowadays. Taking issues that suppose to be resolved amicably indoors, and without nobody knowing about it. Then when family comes in they start judging and siding for their own child, you see that problem has just started as at that point. Being able to resolve issues without involving family members, friends is very important. Resolving issues without involving family members shows that you both are good together and should be called worthy partners.

IRRICONSILABLE DIFFERENCES

This is also one of the challenge factors in marriage. When one can not be able to reconcile with his/her partner, it becomes a problem.

This why it is important to attain marriage classes so that you both will be prepared for what you are entering into.

Who causes divorce more?

According to research, divorce has become a food to most women. Most women derive joy in it reasons best known to them. This doesn’t mean that men don’t file for divorce but research has it that 70% comes women.

Effects of divorce

There are alot of effects that comes after you might have divorced your partner.

Most often times the negative side effects of your divorce may not affect you but your children.

It is important to consider the children you have before filing for a divorce, this is because it may affect them mentally and otherwise. Keep reading

[tyummyz]

They sigh I let out whenever my dad finally makes it to drop off place #divorcedparents #ihatemymom

awh i’m sorry sweetheart 💞 and i’m sorry i saw this so late (i need tumblr to fix their app or im gonna LOSE IT.)

[haylor-mom]

Harry and Taylor singing “Hopelessly Devoted to You”

[kids-worldfun]

Child Support in the USA (Tips and Advice). If you are newly divorced and you have children, then chances are you are getting acquainted with term child support. Here are some tips that can help you. Read more

[coachrichiepryor]

The world needs more originals. So why as parents are we always trying to push our children into off the shelf boxes? Doctor. Lawyer. Engineer, executive. When we push all of our expectations into our children we rob them of one thing that we should all experience as human beings. The right to be whoever we want to be. The right to give the world the gift that we are the only ones that have. The power to serve our fellow citizens of this great world with our personal excellence and talent that only we posses. When you were a child did you parents allow you to be whoever you wanted to be? Or were you expected to follow in their footsteps or take the reigns of the family business? What did you miss out on? What did you really want to do? Artists, sculpture. Dancer, musician, actor, actress football player, beauty queen, hairdresser.. Do you lay awake in bed at night wondering what if? Who would I be now? How happy would I be? Because your parents pressured you to get a job that you could support a family With. . Are you the parent that said ���you want to be a painter?” Great so what are you going to do to make money? What you are doing is robbing them of an opportunity of a lifetime to explore themselves and find out why they are here to do and who they are supposed to become. Don’t try to push them into the same corner you were pushed into. Let them be originals. Let them find their talent. Their superhero. While they are doing that you can rethink your life and maybe do something that you should have done years ago. Do something that you regret not doing. Do something that will give you fulfillment and serve the world. Do something that makes you original. Because wouldn’t life be so much nicer if we all were originals. So give your children this gift and give it to yourself. Go blow up your life make some mistakes because being original is a lot of freakin fun. All the imitators out there are bores and who wants to hang out with a bore. Carpe the day and be OG. You can love them or control them but you can’t do both. 🤘#parentinghacks #parentingteenagers #divorcedmoms #divorceddads #divorcedmom #divorcedparentsproblems #divorcedparent #coachrichiepryor #hope (at Starbucks) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3Z6v7bF2br/?igshid=1o50sho4pyb6t

[perscinnamon]

[myannagabrielleworld]

First Blog Ever!

Hi! My name is Anna! I am currently going to school at Principia High School. In my Project-Based Writing class, we are doing a project where you could do a blog, audiobook, podcast, short story, a couple of chapters to a book, and more. I chose to do a blog and do it about my life. I have gone through a lot in my life and faced many challenges in school. I feel like people in similar situations as I don’t talk much about it because I know at least for I have been judged for it. I am hoping that my blog posts can reach these people in similar situations as me and they can know that they aren’t the only ones out there struggling.

So my life story is that I grew up with my grandparents, mom, and brother. My dad left when I was ½ a year old. You’d think that being only half a year old when he left would make it easy for me to live without him and not have trouble at all. And to be perfectly honest, it was… until about 5 years ago. With my dad not there I had the best life and my grandpa was my father figure and I loved him so much and still do. 5 years ago it all change though, my dad came back. When he came back I was excited at first because I had never met him before. After getting to spend a bit of time with him I wasn’t too happy because he was trying to ruin everything I had at the time and he didn’t even care about us. I will be posting stories that have happened during my life in hopes that maybe my readers can give me some advice, and I can give them some advice.

[1yearofsingle]

The very first thing I thought when I made that final decision to stop talking to my intensely toxic family was “What dream can I now live because I’m free from them?” It came on like a flash and made me realize I had been imprisoned my entire life. I had no idea what a hold they had. . Free at last. Free at last. Thank God, I’m free at last. . #truth #truestory #verytrue #meme #memes #quote #quotes #free #freedom #divorce #divorcequotes #divorcedmom #divorcedparents #divorced #breakups #new #breakupquotes #quotes #quote #life #self #heal #toxic #toxicparents #toxicpeople (at New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/B4e2GzkHyNM/?igshid=ie56yh1d04cy

[justashortgaymess]

Random reoccurring thought

If there was a zombie apocalypse and you have divorced parents how would you know who to go with, what if you were with one parent when shit went down and you never saw the other again. I’m eighteen and I know I’m probably way too old to be thinking like this but it makes me so sad.

[mylovelifehasnicknames]

Meet Me

I just told a friend the other day my current love life dilemma, which involves 4 different people, some from my past, but who have all contributed to why I consider my love life all fucked up. To keep them all straight, I had decided to give them all nicknames to help my friends associate who they are to me. Throughout this blog, I hope to detail each one and name their defining characteristics and actions that led to me being who I am today. Maybe Ill find some common traits that I can flag. I also hope to relate to many of you, as the events of my love life are certainly no strangers to the rest of the world. I should tell you about me first though because I’m pretty cool.

I’m not from around here and I know you don’t know where around here is but it’s not important. What’s important to note is that my family and friends are my everything, leading to loyalty being my greatest asset and weakness, all in the same. My parents got divorced when I was 12. Shitty thing #1 to happen to me. But I must preface...my parents are two of the most amazing people I have met. My dad is the hardest working man I know with a heart of gold and that takes pride in telling people that I am “my father’s daughter”. My mom is the strongest woman I know, never needing anything or anyone and who taught me to be independent, but also gentle and forgiving. My older brother was away at college when this went down and my younger sister was too young to really understand the dynamics. Yes, I am the middle child and I’m not sure we’re as fucked up because of that as people like to blame, but it can present problems some don’t have to deal with. In hindsight, my parents should have sat us (at least my sister and I) down together, all 4 of us, and explained that “Mom and Dad wouldn’t be together anymore, but we we’re still a family”. Not at all how it went for me. I was laying on my couch in our basement watching TV and my mom came downstairs and sat on the edge of the couch. Didn’t ask me to sit up, mute the TV, etc...I can’t remember her exact words, but the message was that her and my dad didn’t love each other anymore and they were getting a divorce. In classic Younger Me fashion, I just said okay without making any eye contact and went back to watching TV and my mom went back upstairs. Knowing myself now, that’s how I deal with conflict until I can fully process it. It was sometime after that that my dad came downstairs and sat in the same spot as my mom and asked how I was doing. I shrugged my shoulders (I wasn’t one for words at this age, I often shrugged my shoulders when asked a question like I couldn’t be bothered) and my dad started crying. He’s always been an emotional guy, so I wasn’t surprised. I started crying too because I was starting to process what is happening and my dad reached down and hugged me. Again, I couldn’t be bothered to sit up and hug him, but I just laid there and cried. They seemed like happy, normal parents, but I’ve certainly learned as I’ve gotten older that things are not what they seem on the outside. So I trudge through junior high with this event lingering, while also dealing with being a young teen, being overweight, having mental health issues that my parents tried every answer in the book to heal, being made fun of consistently by people I still have not forgiven to this day (remember how loyal I am? That means I have a hard time forgiving) and not facing this event head on. Next thing I knew, my dad’s stuff was all gone and I found the divorce papers on the stove one day after school when no one was home. I’m nosy, so I obviously flipped through them and seeing my name accompanied by all those legal terms made me very uncomfortable. Balance that with having to be the middle man between your two parents because you’re the only child that can and God forbid they actually speak to each other, bouncing between apartments with my dad, and simply growing up. But life goes on...

I enter high school in the fall of 2003, still overweight, still struggling with mental health and my overall image, but learning to go my own way. I’m an above-average basketball player, but am not accepted as a “friend” to the older girls on the team. They made fun of me a lot which was shitty. I recognize that now as someone who worked in a high school for 4 years and who is now in Higher Education. I don’t know if they were jealous or didn’t think I belonged there or thought I was weird....but they were not accepting of me on their team. I learned to be reserved and quiet, but still grind and get the work done, but I didn’t want to cause any ruckus among anyone, ever.

I grew close with a young man I high school who I spent a lot of time with. I’ll introduce him in a later post (Thong Guy), but we made great memories and he eventually was my first kiss. Oh did I mention he had a girlfriend all throughout high school, but told me he wanted to be with me? Yes, I was a sucker.

I went to a local community college to play basketball and had a great experience there. I partied a lot, but met forever friends and won a shit ton of basketball games. That is also where I met the guy who will be referred to as Mush.

I then decide to go to a four year college to continue my basketball career and that’s where my love life spikes. I met who I thought was my forever. Her name will be The Ex. Yes, her name. We were head over heels, having the best time. Little did I realize that she was gong to grind me down to become my least-favorite version of Me I’ve ever been.

Fast forward about 3-4 years and The Ex is gone, but her remnants are not. I begin graduate school and become an assistant coach for the basketball team I played for. I eventually get a job and continue coaching, but want to live my life in a very different way. See, at this point, I was still a virgin at 25 years old and I was sick of it. I felt like I was missing out on such a fun part of my life waiting for “the one” that I couldn’t fully feel like I was thriving. So onto Tinder I go, I meet “The Condition” and I bang him after knowing and hooking up with him for 6 months. He became my “first”, which I swear he cares more about to this day than I do.

Then comes The Druggie, 5AM Tinder, lots more of “The Condition”, Micropenis, Bumble Dad, and Marshall Buttstuff III. My “number” isn’t large, but man, do I have good stories. Those posts will be forthcoming when I feel like diving into the depths of my soul again.