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dc-probate-attorney · 11 months
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Do I Have Standing to Contest a Will?
In this article, we’re talking about contesting a will. This is a type of estate litigation, and we’ve written an entire series on this subject. If you missed any of our posts in this series, please see our Index to the series to catch up on what you’ve missed, or to skip ahead to the topic that interests you. The Gormley Law Office is pleased to present this information. We are a full service…
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soolegal · 1 year
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charmac · 11 months
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The prop used for Barbara Reynolds' Will in "Dennis and Dee's Mom is Dead"
It's mostly the script repeated and then standard legal clauses. It's interesting it does name Frank as the Executor because we know he isn't later on, as the Lawyer is in Season 8. And there's randomly a Codicil, with the same script language but adding and naming a son, "Frank Miller"... probably means nothing. (Weird, though, cos there's seemingly no sense in having a Codicil with the exact terms retyped, but handwritten language added...lol)
"County of Los Angeles, Pennsylvania" is taking me out.
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wonder-worker · 3 months
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"Hannes Kleineke cites Dean and Canons of Windsor MS XI.B.6, rot. 2, for evidence of a deathbed codicil by Edward IV concerning a dispute between the knights and canons of Windsor"
remember when I said that we don't know what Edward IV's deathbed codicils were as they haven't survived? that there is no reason to automatically assume they were relevant to his son's minority? that it's entirely possible that they weren't very important at all considering how dismissively Croyland spoke of them ("some codicils thereto", with no emphasis or elaboration whatsoever)? I LOVE being proven right <3
#edward iv#my post#to be clear it didn't actually matter what Edward wrote in his will as there were no legal or social requirements for it to be followed#this is mostly for the sake of the argument and also because it's a new piece of information I didn't know about before !#and also because that makes it all the more suspicious that Mancini claimed Richard was supposedly#'entitled [to the position of Protector] by law and his brother’s ordinance' when that is...absolutely not true#We don't know what Edward wanted in his will but even if he appointed Richard protector neither his queen nor his council were#in any obligation to give Richard the position. And there was certainly no law in England that stated that there HAD to be a protector#during a minority. The position was literally invented a mere generation earlier as a consolation price for Humphrey Duke of Gloucester.#Richard was not 'entitled' to anything#So it's incredibly suspect that Mancini - a foreigner who was mostly ignorant of English affairs - would claim such a thing#Combined with the fact that Croyland makes no mention of Edward appointing Richard Protector when talking about his death;#his last will or the council meeting afterwards#And the fact that John Russell's speech to Parliament aiming to reinforce Richard's Protectorship never once claims that the former King#wanted him to have the position despite giving a variety of other fanciful justifications for the same#I do tend to agree more-so with Rosemary Horrox who believes that Edward IV wanted his son to succeed him and be crowned immediately#(which is what *everyone* present in the council wanted as well)#and that the story of a thwarted protectorate was Ricardian propaganda aimed at vilifying Elizabeth Woodville#painting himself as the victim and her as the ambitious duplicitous aggressor#even if Edward HAD appointed Richard to the position the story of a denied protectorate would still be propagandic#because again: he was not entitled to the position.#even IF the council & EW decided against Edward IV's wishes and wanted to crown Edward V immediately they weren't doing anything wrong#The fact that the Woodvilles were framed as opportunistic and aggressive and out for themselves can only have been a Ricardian vilification#also Edward V himself wanted to be crowned immediately: we have a letter written by him where he specified he would have a coronation soon#but anyway (I have spent too long talking about this in the linked post I'm not going to repeat the same things here)#I do love that we have new evidence!!!! and that we know what one of Edward's codicils were!#I wish we knew the remaining :(
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fauvester · 1 year
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iskra's job in starfleet (she's not IN starfleet she's a quasi-independent governmental agent) is to represent the interests of the Alliance of Non-Federated Powers (Klingons, Romulans, Cardassians, grab bag of other alpha quadrant planets that want to counterbalance the federation [betazoid seperatists???]) since after the dominion war the Federation and the non-Federation planets had a lot more bureaucratic involvement with each other, and someone has to be an expert in negotiating between them. And if the Federation is going to use non-Federation tech, resources and manpower, then they at least want some representation in the crew outside of the occasional defector who joins the fleet!
Iskra's role is to know Klingon, Romulan, Cardassian and Federation law backward and forward, to promote and promulgate their cultures, language and values, and jump off the starship and yell DIBS! every time they land on a new, uncontacted planet.
mostly this means that she lounges around, gathering gossip, reading enigma tales and causing minor drama, and then occasionally whipping out the Ultra Magnus 'actually you can't colonize this sector if subsection 7 codicil A.II criteria of your people's constitution from 400 years ago isn't fulfilledddd sowwyyyy'
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arellebee43 · 2 years
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It's broadly understood that the nation's asylums are only able to operate as efficiently as they do because Parliament is there to take the most acute cases off their hands. And it's commonly known that a reliable measure of the depth of a man's psychosis is the duration of his career in the House of Commons. 
(PJ Fitzsimmons, "The Case of the Canterfell Codicil")
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uesp · 7 months
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Are you a Daedra looking for employment? Keep in mind that if you sign up with Molag Bal, you will have to go through 97 onboarding presentations referred to as "Kynbriefings", memorize 701 edicts, learn the Mandatory Codicils, and meet your torment and toil quotas. Failure to do so will be punished with the scathe-rings and discorporation. But if you manage all of that, you will be rewarded by earning time in the bliss-cells.
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Rumor #5 - Per the terms of Diana's will, William inherited her things that were being stored at Althorp when he turned 30. According to Karen Spencer (Earl Spencer's wife), all of Dians's things were taken down from the Althorp displays at William's 30th birthday and given to William. Harry didn't know that and when he approached Charles about having some of Diana's things for Meghan and the new baby, Charles told him William had them and Harry flipped out.
Can you do a deep dive into this, I don't think William inherited it all, I think he took it first because ge turned 30 first and Harry joined him 2 years later, there's a thing about Diana's gowns and both her sons having to approve their display.
What William might've inherited,according to helenaurelia (it's not the same here without her) is Diana's official gifts jewelry (The Saudi Suite, Qatari Suite, The Sapphire chocker, etc) it has been a rumor since the C&D divorce, Kate wore pieces from the personal and official collection while Meghan only wore personal pieces
Old ask from May 9th
First, there's not a whole lot publicly known or published about Diana's will and/or the boys' inheritances. 95% of what's out there is largely speculation and gossip.
So let's get into what we do know first, and then talk some rumors.
Diana wrote her last will on June 1, 1993. In that will, she:
Named her mother, Frances Kydd, and Patrick Jephson named as executors and trustees.
Named Frances Kydd and Earl Spencer as guardians for any children who were underaged at the time of her death.
Requested her husband Charles to consult with Frances on the boys’ education, upbringing, and welfare.
Left the bulk of her estate in a trust for William and Harry, with instructions that they should split it equally on their 25th birthdays. She also had instructions that if the boys predeceased Diana (or died within three months of her death) but they had children and those children survived three months past Diana’s death, they should inherit their father’s share at age 21 and it should be split equally amongst them. Grandchildren of a surviving son do not inherit anything.
Diana’s estate was estimated at $35.6 million pre-tax; $21.3 million after tax. The lion’s share of Diana’s estate (about $28 million pre-tax) came from her divorce settlement.
Diana updated her will on February 1, 1996. In her codicil, she replaced Patrick Jephson as executor and trustee with her sister, Sarah McCorquodale. Everything else remained the same.
After Diana died, Frances and Sarah challenged the will and Diana’s estate in probate court using a variance that changed William’s and Harry’s age of inheritance from 25 to 30; however, William and Harry were allowed to access the income (aka interest) generated by their inheritance beginning at age 25. The full details of Frances and Sarah’s challenge, including why they challenged, and the variance aren’t known.
Frances and Sarah later gave one memento of Diana to each of her 17 godchildren - this becomes important later - and also in accordance with Diana’s wishes, gave Paul Burrell approximately $70,000.
In her will, Diana created a trust or a fund (it’s not clear) to keep and maintain all of Diana’s clothes, including her wedding dress. The clothes, especially the wedding dress, were often lent out to exhibitions all over the world; however, upon Harry’s 30th birthday, everything returned to William and Harry as per the terms of their inheritance. The clothing fund/trust supported William, William’s family, Harry, and several special charities. The charities were also allowed to receive royalties from the commercial use of Diana’s likeness.
Here’s where it gets messy. A few years after Diana’s death and probate was completed, there were unrelated court proceedings in which a previously undisclosed  “Letter of Wishes” from Diana regarding her estate was revealed. The “Letter of Wishes” declared more of Diana’s intent on how to divide her estate:
75% of her personal belongings and all of her jewelry should go to William and Harry.
The remaining 25% of her personal belongings (including portraits, paintings, clothing, and china) should go to an additional 17 named beneficiaries - her godchildren.
The discovery of the letter and Diana’s final wishes for her estate really pissed off a lot of people, family members and godchildren, especially. It’s not clear if people were angry with how Frances and Sarah decided to distribute Diana’s estate, if they were angry at the probate court for not exhausting all efforts to uncover or find all of Diana’s last documents, or if they were angry at whomever held the letter for not coming forward years earlier.
(My theory is that the Letter of Wishes was found in the evidence discovery for the Paul Burrell trial. If you’re not familiar: after Diana died, many of her belongings went missing. There was an investigation, in which it was discovered that Paul Burrell had these items, which ended up being around 310 items, including clothing, shoes, and letters. Burrell was charged with theft, it went to trial in 2002, and The Queen intervened at the last moments by all of a sudden remembering that she had given Burrell permission to remove these items.)
Remember those 17 godchildren? The ones who received just one memento of Diana, which some of them called “tacky”? Had Diana’s Letter of Wishes been declared at the time of her death and followed, the godchildren would have been given about $100,000 each.
As for exactly how Diana’s assets, properties, and belongings were split up, we don’t know. Not a lot has been published or publicly discussed. For instance, the speculation is that William took his half when he turned 30, but it’s also possible that William waited until Harry turned 30 so it was an even split of the assets. (The former is probably most likely; William doesn’t strike me as someone who’d nickel-and-dime in his inheritance and since the brothers were on good terms back in those days, William even may have been happy for Harry to get “more” of DIana’s inheritance knowing that he’s the sole beneficiary for Charles when the time comes.)
We do know that William and Harry have the wedding dress. It’s very likely that whatever this fund is that has Diana’s clothes, they probably serve on the board of directors or are somehow closely involved in the administration of it. It’s said that this fund is the one that maintains and holds Diana clothes for display at Kensington Palace. We also know that the brothers got to take a personal item of Diana’s for their own keeping, and William took the engagement ring and Harry took the watch. 
But other than those very few specifics, we only have rumors about how the estate was split. Most of the rumors are about the jewelry:
William inherited the big official jewelry and Harry got the smaller personal jewelry. (Helenaaurellia’s theory)
The jewelry Diana received in official capacity as Princess of Wales was left to a trust benefiting only future Princesses of Wales (aka William’s wife, George’s future wife, George’s son’s future wife, etc.) and the brothers split Diana’s personal jewelry.
All of the Princess of Wales jewelry Diana received (aka the official gifts) actually belongs to The Queen and was given back to Her Majesty on Diana’s death. The Queen then loaned them, or gifted them, to Kate. 
Diana put most of her personal jewelry into a trust for future granddaughters, so Charlotte and Lili are the true beneficiaries, with William and Harry the trustees who sometimes choose to let Kate and Meghan wear the pieces.
I lean towards Rumor #2 - it just makes the most sense to me when you remember that Diana was actually a pretty hardcore monarchist and royalist. She just didn’t like Charles and much of what she did, she believed she was doing to protect the monarchy from Charles for William’s sake. So putting her official Princess of Wales jewelry in a trust specifically for The Princess of Wales makes sense to me…except doing so would have created a loophole for Camilla to take possession of the jewelry if/when she married Charles and we know Diana wouldn’t have allowed that in any capacity.
Which makes Rumor #1/Helenaaurellia’s theory the most optimal one. William gets the official pieces as his future wife would be the future Princess of Wales, Harry gets the sentimental, personal pieces.
I think Rumor #3 is plausible, but I find it unlikely. While it is true that royal protocol states any gift received by the royal during the course of official duties belongs to The Crown, any gifts given in celebration of a personal event even if official (like a wedding or a baby’s birth or a christening) remains the property of the royal. Much of Diana’s “big” jewelry was given as wedding gifts on her marriage to Charles, so they would’ve been hers to do with as she saw fit.
Rumor #4 strikes me as very tinhatty. 98% of me thinks it’s complete bunk, but there’s that final 2% niggling at me. And that 2% is Meghan’s 2019 NYC baby shower, when all the decor was pink and she was hinting to everyone that they were having a girl. We know that a girl is easier to merch than a boy and that may be why Meghan was hoping for a daughter, but I can’t let go of an extremely farfetched possibility that having a daughter meant Meghan would’ve gotten something of Diana’s.
Personally, I think we have to wait and see what happens under a King William. Does Queen Catherine continue wearing Princess of Wales's jewelry or does she use the vault? If Kate stops wearing Princess of Wales jewelry, does George's wife wear them or will Charlotte wear them? And if Charlotte wears it, does she wear them while she's Princess Charlotte of Wales or does she wear them (or continue to wear them) when she's The Princess Charlotte?
We only have about 20-30 years to wait.
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angelasscribbles · 4 months
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All That She Wants Chapter 6: Unvarnished Truths
Series: All That She Wants
Fandom: The Royal Romance
Pairings for this chapter: Riley x Liam, Riley x Drake
Word Count: 1,305
Rating: M
Warnings for this chapter: plenty of cursing.
A/N: Special shout out to @onmarswesail for correctly guessing not one, but two plot points for this chapter! 😆
My other stuff: Master List.
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Drake looked up from the guard schedule he was working on in surprise as the door to his office opened. He had no appointments scheduled and there were only a handful of people that could get through without one.
His eyes widened, and he stood quickly as he registered who it was. “Riley! What are you doing here?” He made his way around the desk to greet her. “Not that I’m complaining!”
She allowed herself a small smile as he engulfed her in his arms. “Sorry to just pop in like this. Is it a bad time?”
“No. It’s never a bad time for you. But…” He pulled away from her so he could look into her face. “What is it? Is everything okay? Have you told—”
“I’m fine. Liam’s fine. No, I haven’t told him anything. I mean, he knows I’m sleeping with someone, he just doesn’t know who.”
“Okay…” he responded carefully. He didn’t want to push her into anything she wasn’t ready for. They had discussed it, and he was a proponent of the truth. After all, the Cordonian Arrangement codicil that Liam has insisted be added to their marriage contract worked both ways.
Besides, Liam had never stopped sleeping with Olivia, so he couldn’t get too upset about his wife finding a distraction of her own. She had fulfilled the clause of the marriage contract that stated the first two children produced after marriage must be blood heirs to the throne. Routine paternity testing confirmed that she had held up her end of the bargain. She was legally and morally free to do what she wanted with whomever she wanted. 
If it were any other woman, he wouldn’t care what she did or didn’t tell her husband, but it seemed wrong not to tell his best friend something of this magnitude.
“I have something I want to talk to you about.”
Once again, he responded carefully. “Okay.”
“We never use a condom….”
“Oh!” He was startled but recovered quickly, stifling the thought of her with another man that wasn’t him or Liam. “I’m not sleeping with anyone but you, and I assumed you weren’t sleeping with anyone but me. However, we can start using them if you like.”
Her mouth made an o shape as she shook her head. “No! It’s not that… it’s just…. I’m not on birth control and I’m a few days late, so I took a pregnancy test. It was negative. But Liam caught me, so he knows.”
Relief surged through him that she was simply worried about getting pregnant. He gave her a reassuring smile as he drew her back into his arms. “Oh, you don’t have to worry about that either.”
Her brows furrowed. “What do you mean?”
“I mean—”
He was interrupted by the door to his office opening unexpectedly for the second time that day. “What the fuck?” He muttered under his breath as he turned toward the interloper.
The king of Cordonia stood in the doorway, gaping at them. “Are you fucking kidding me? It’s Drake? You’re sleeping with my best friend?”
Riley spun on him in fury. “Why do you care, Liam? You have Olivia!”
Liam’s gaze shifted to Drake. “Did you tell her that? Is that how she knows?”
Drake scoffed. “I didn’t have to tell her shit, Liam. She already knew. And no, I would not betray your confidence like that.”
“But you would sleep with my wife, right?”
Drake’s mouth fell open in incredulity. “She is in possession of a Cordonian Arrangement and you haven’t slept with her in a year and a half. How are you going to be upset by this?”
Liam’s eyes darted from one to the other and then a grin spread across his face. “Oh my God, this is fucking hilarious!” He threw his head back and chortled.
Riley’s ire spiked even higher. “What’s so goddamn funny, Liam?”
Face turning red as tears started streaming down it, Liam choked out between bellows, “Does he know why you’re sleeping with him?”
Some of the queen’s anger slipped away as confusion replaced it. “What do you mean?”
“Yeah, what do you mean?” Drake echoed her.
Liam took several heaving breaths before he could get his laughter under control. He directed his first remark to Drake. “She wants another baby.” Turning to Riley, he barely managed to get the words out before the gales of laughter were back. “He had a vasectomy six years ago.”
Both faces drained of color as they responded in unison, “What?”
Riley turned to Drake, anguish clear on her features. “Why didn’t you tell me you’d had a vasectomy?”
He shook his head in disbelief. “I would have if you’d told me that’s what this was all about! Having a baby is a massive thing, Riley! That’s something you should discuss with your partner!”
She blinked, completely taken aback. “I guess. But since we weren’t using any protection, I just assumed you were okay with the consequences…. shit!” She dropped her head into her hands, fighting the tears that threatened to spill down her cheeks.
Liam’s laughter spilled through the room again as he felt a weight lift from his chest. He’d spent the last hour worrying about a nonexistent problem. She wasn’t getting pregnant by anyone else.
At the sound of his laughter, all the anger flooded back in and Riley yelled at him. “I don’t know what’s so funny. It’s not like I can’t just find someone else!”
This time it was Liam and Drake that responded in unison. “What? No!”
With all of his laughter gone, Liam became serious as he reached an arm out toward her. “Riley. Be reasonable. Let’s discuss—”
Drake’s voice cut through the discussion, quiet and calm but resolute. “I’ll have a reversal.”
“What?” Riley felt the bottom drop out of her stomach.
Liam’s jaw clenched. “What the fuck, Drake?”
“I’m not talking to you, Your Majesty.” Drake pushed past Liam and pulled Riley back to him. He gently touched her chin and tipped her head back so he could look directly into her eyes as he told her, “I said that I’ll have the vasectomy reversed if that’s something you need. There’s no need to find anyone else. I’ll give you what you want.”
Joy surged through her as she reached up to caress his cheek, “Drake….”
“Just fucking great,” Liam muttered under his breath. Out loud, he said, “You said I had two days to decide.”
Drake glanced over her head at his best friend. “To decide what?”
“If I’m willing to give her a baby, allow someone else to, or grant her a divorce.”
Drake’s eyes flicked down to Riley’s face, then back again. “And you need two days to figure that out?”
“Spare me your judgments, Drake. Especially considering that you’re sleeping with my wife!”
“You don’t get to be outraged. You married her under false pretenses, and you’ve abandoned her emotionally. You do not have the high ground here. Especially after you promised me you’d make her happy. Remember that?”
Riley’s head swiveled between the two men. “What are you talking about?”
Drake sighed as he stepped away from her, rubbing his eyes. “After you two announced your engagement, I went to Liam and told him what happened between us and admitted I had feelings for you. But you were clearly in love with him. He promised me that you’d never regret marrying him, yet here we are.”
“You had feelings for me?”
He nodded.
“What didn’t you tell me?”
He scoffed. “What would have been the point, Riley? We all know you would have still accepted Liam’s proposal.”
“This is all very touching.” Liam cut in. “But you said two days, Riley. So no one schedules any medical procedures until this all gets sorted out.”
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inkedhigh · 4 months
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@jakeandsadieadler this can be farfetch, but i came across this letter coming from an elderly rich man from Blackwater. Its a letter written to his son named Jacob. When i read it I can't help to think this is connected to Jake. It's about the father being upset with his son, who wants to marry a woman who is far lesser than him. Clearly whoever this 'Jacob' is, he was born with money and his family disapproves to associate anyone poorer than them. He explains how love was never in the picture when it came to marriage. It can make sense seeing how Jake isn't used to the mountain life, he is more laid back, enjoys reading a lot more than working. He could've also changed his name, throwing away Jacob to not be associated with where he came from. Plus in RDO, he talks about having trouble with money and the letter explains how he was disinherited and taken out of the will, receiving not even a penny. There is no Last name written in here unfortunately, but i can't help to feel the connection.
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Dear Jacob, Our conversation Thursday last was deeply disturbing. I cannot believe You would see fit to disobey me. To disobey the family. We did not achieve our stature in life by following our hearts. By giving into every silly whim and childish fancy that takes hold of us. I thought you understood this. Do you think I married for love?
Do you think that your grandfather did? My mother was a fine woman and a good mother, but no man could love her. We have our position in society because of these sacrifices. Now you wish to throw it all away because of a dalliance with someone who you described as an actress. But I have reason to pursue is little more than a streetwalker. How could you?
I hope you were left entirely aware of my displeasure. I do not care if she is with child. I do not care if she is a nice young woman. She is beneath you. You must cast her adrift at once, Be kind of course, but firm. No son and heir of yours can be born to such a woman. I have made an appointment with the lawyer, I am preparing a codicil to the will. I shall disinherit you if you disobey me.
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soolegal · 1 year
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kielianleague · 1 year
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“I have made a codicil in my will that my ashes shall be transported to the Northern Kingdoms, preferably near the Bay of Fangs, for private reasons that I do not wish to disclose.”
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wonder-worker · 7 months
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so did edward iv and elizabeth wydeville want to be buried together or not?
Hi!
Edward IV wished to be buried in his St. George chapel as early as 1475 and requested for a single tomb, which was the norm at the time and was iirc used by both Henry V and Henry VI. As queen and mother of the heir, Elizabeth may have been expected to be buried at St. George as well; however, she seems to have initially wished to be eventually buried in her own St. Erasmus chapel in Westminster Abbey which she had recently built, and which she seems to have regarded as a royal burial site in its own right. We have a draft of a charter that Edward granted to Westminster Abbey, which states that placebos and diriges were to be sung on the anniversaries of his and Elizabeth's deaths "around the tomb of our consort if she is buried there". So it seems that Elizabeth considered being buried on her own at Westminster at this time.
However, while instructions for Elizabeth's potential solo reburial at Westminster appear in the draft, they don’t appear in the final charter, issued on 13 January 1479. It seems that Elizabeth may have changed her mind by then.
Moreover, Elizabeth’s own will in 1492 explicitly states that:
"I bequeith my body to be buried with the bodie of my Lord at Windessore, according to the will of my saide Lorde and myne."
So it seems as though both Edward and Elizabeth wished and decided to be buried together, which is what eventually happened after she died. Considering the difference between the draft and final version in 1479, I speculate they may have discussed and decided it together during that time, or perhaps during the few years after.
Hope this helps!
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Spoilery thoughts about Galadriel and Elrond's feud this season
So neither of them are acting 100% great, but I do feel that Galadriel has the lion's share of the blame:
She used Elrond's promise to her to get him to make the rings even though she knew he likely wouldn't do it had he known who Halbrand was. Maybe this was justified since we know how things turn out, but it was still a betrayal to him.
Yet she keeps bringing his promise up like some kind of gotcha. And I guess you could say Elrond should have worded his promise differently, but can you imagine if we all thought of every eventuality? For example, when we promise our loved ones we'll always love them, we never add the codicil, "Unless you betray my trust to help a tyrant rise to power." It goes without saying that there are some things promises like that just don't cover.
She's completely oblivious to why he's so against the rings, and quite frankly, it borders on hubris. I mean, I feel she needs to believe they work because in her eyes they are her best way of atoning for her role in Sauron's return. But when he brings up her betrayal of him and blames her for being blinded by Sauron, she says he failed with the dwarves. She's unwilling to consider that she might still be getting tricked.
Unintentional or not, her actions have already contributed to Sauron killing people. The consequences are enormous. And while she obviously regrets them and wants to make things right, she seems completely out of touch with why people might not trust her.
Now, Elrond is a dick sometimes. It's obvious how traumatized she is by being deceived, and he doesn't offer a word of comfort. He acts like it's entirely her fault, even though we know Sauron is a master manipulator. But at the same time, look at it from his pov: She wss tricked into helping Sauron. When she discovered the truth, she didn't come clean for quite a while. Instead, she tricked him into helping make incredibly powerful objects. The plan was only slightly modified from what Sauron wanted to do. So, yeah, Sauron didn't touch the rings, but how does Elrond know she's not still being manipulated? Galadriel just isn't acting trustworthy toward him.
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dunno if you remember the post (idk how old it is) going like "your partner is allowed to have meaningful relationships with other people". it was about polyamory awareness. you added that it goes to monogamy as well and the last sentence was: if your partner what's to be just with you, something is terribly wrong
what is the something that may be terribly wrong? i let go of my friendships after i've got into a relationship (i've noticed my mistake and i restored them) and i just wanted to spend time with him alone, also he made me feel bad about wanting to make friends. at some point i felt like i need no body but him. i do have an abandonment trauma and it made me really clingy, but oh well
I'm so sorry for how long it took me to respond. I'm assuming this is about this post (to which, I should add, I posted this codicil a while ago, but it doesn't seem applicable to your situation).
The thing is, there are probably a lot of people better equipped than I am to talk about this, but ... yeah, it's really really not good if your relationship partner makes you feel bad about wanting to make friends.
Wanting to spend time alone with your relationship partner is fine! It's wonderful and good! But wanting to spend all your time alone with them isn't good for you, and it isn't good for them either.
At the very least, sometimes each of you is going to want to talk about the other one -- what makes you happy about them, or sad, or annoyed, or worried -- and you will need somebody with whom to have those conversations. Think especially about that last one: everybody, literally everybody in the world, will inevitably at some point (probably multiple points) get sick or injured or troubled, and if you are their closest person in the world then you are likely to be helping them through those times. That help is going to put stress on you, no matter how willingly you give it, and if you need to talk about that stress, you need someone other than your partner whose sickness/injury/trouble is the source of it.
There are a lot of other good reasons, but that's the most practical and undeniable one I've ever come across. If anyone's got some experience in explaining this one, I'd appreciate any succinct advice you can add.
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