#Christian Marriage

[thatgentlewife]

2025 Vision Board

My Goals:

Read 24 books (2 books a month

To finish the Bible

To start a women’s ministry

To have a more organized home

To start our family

To pay off all of our debt

Eat out only once a month if that, cooking mostly from home

Learn more about the Lord and form a deeper connection with Him

Make new friends in and out of the church

To become a full time homemaker

[blushcoloreddreams]

The routine of a virtuous woman to inspire your own

She wakes up earlier than all others at home - (Proverbs 31:15)

Dedicates her first moments in the morning to God (Proverbs 31:30)

Prepares the family meal with calm and organize her daily tasks (Proverbs 31:15)

Takes care of her appearance - not be complimented by people outside, but by her own family (Proverbs 31:25)

Takes care of her family needs and do the daily maintenance of her home (Proverbs 31:27)

Works with effort and dedication. Wherever she goes she’s a testimony of her family’s good reputation (Proverbs 31:13)

Tries to be creative and bring new investments and opportunities to her family (Proverbs 31:16)

Even at night she’ll save some energy and liveliness to use with her husband (Proverbs 31:18)

[allegraforchrist]

Mark 10:9.

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate!”

[christian-femininity]

Treat your wife better than you treat anything or anyone. That’s your covenant with God. That’s your first ministry. To love her the way Christ loves the church is a high calling. If you fail at that, you’ve failed at everything.

― Paul Washer

[godslove]

Proverbs 5 discusses about fidelity, loyalty and faithfulness to one woman. Read the entire chapter for a better understanding of avoiding adultery and its effects. God gives us the proper standards to follow when choosing the right person. Seek God first and all that is good will be added into your life.

[i-used-to-be-an-anti-feminist]

Christian men, if you think you can read the verses directed at wives and opt out of the rest or just sweep the commandments given to you under the superficial covering of the "love" you bring to a relationship by default, you are heaping SO MUCH judgment upon yourself.

Do you know what it means to really love someone? Do you know what it means to be one with them? It means that you should approach your role selflessly. You should not be putting any burden upon your wife you would not bear yourself. When you belittle, ignore, dismiss, neglect, hurt, or make selfish demands of her, you are in fact abusing yourself in all of these ways, and God will hold you to account.

You aren't owed a wife. Marriage isn't some cute little arrangement where you get sex and and a maidservant in return for sporadic contributions of affection whenever you happen to be feeling generous. Marriage is a weighty commitment in which you are giving your life to someone you respect and admire enough to serve until you're dead. Anything you ask of her is supposed to be for her benefit (and the rest of your family as it grows). It isn't about you, and if you think for one second that it is, go read the entirety of the passage you're so quick to rely on, and then go read the Gospels to learn what "love like Jesus loved the Church" actually looks like.

Your entire job as a husband is to ensure your wife's spiritual, emotional, and physical wellbeing, and so many of you are failing at that before you even try because you're looking at what you can get out of her instead of what you can give.

[callmemrscarter]

1. wake up 🌞

2. thank God 🙏🏽

3. thank your husband 💍

[apilgrimpassingby]

I'm Deleting My Blog

My reasons are as follows:

It's not healthy for me; the site's been a constant source of temptation to various sins. Also I've noticed a shift in my mental state that I don't like that I think was caused by this site.

It's a hopeless struggle to rehabilitate traditional masculinity - and, seeing how many tradwives are, well, wives, I don't think it's necessary.

Finally, I've had a breakup with my girlfriend. By a combination of a depressive episode and a spiritual attack, she had an identity crisis and felt that she could no longer be in a relationship with me. And that removes a huge amount of the fun of Tumblr.

There's been good that came out of it certainly. I've inspired some people to better things, had a lot of fun, met some great people I'm making arrangements to stay in contact with (if you're one of them, you'll find the message in your DMs) and took crucial steps to the Orthodox Church. As always, the Lord kills and brings to life; He brings down to Sheol and raises up (1 Samuel 2:6). But on the whole, I'm leaving.

So, to all my followers:

Goodbye, thank you and joy to you all!

[prehistoricpatristics]

Christian Iconography relating to marriage

Icon as Christ as a Bridegroom

Christ the Bridgegroom is symbolic of marriage within the Orthodox Church. The ropes that bind his hand are a universal symbol of marriage within the Orthodox Church, symbolising the unification of the souls under the marriage. The reed, a symbol of humility in relationships, and his crown a symbol of Christ as the head of families and relationships.

Christ as Pantokrator

Christ as Pantokrator is a common wedding gift, symbolising the rule of Christ over relationships

St. Argyre

St. Argyre the New Martyr is the patron saint of marriage, one who was killed in order to respect her marriage vows. She if often called upon to find a spouse, and to strengthen the current relationship.

Priscilla and Aquila

St. Priscilla and St. Aquilla are two married Saints themselves named in the New Testament. St. Aquilla is traditionally listed among the 70 disciples of Christ who lived with St. Paul the Apostle. The two saints are referred to as the patron Saints of Love and Marriage and the strength they gave to the early churches was based on their love for eachother.

Saint Basil the Elder and his wife Saint Emmelia 

St. Basil and St. Emmelia are two Orthodox Christians who greatly influenced Christian history. Of their 9 children, 5 are remembered as Saints, many of them being influential in theology and patristic writings. They are the perfect example of a godly marriage and family.

St. Xenia of St. Petersburg

St. Xenia of St. Petersburg was a Saint who wrote widely on the impacts and theology surrounding marriage, specifically she wrote about equality in marriage. In every marriage the love between spouses is manifested by the mutual offering of emotional and material support of each other. St. Xenia's believes on love are incredibly influential.

SS. Anne and Joachim

Ss. Joachim and Anna serve as a model for marriage, Mary the Mother of God is the fruit of their marriage. They also serve as a great example of a model relationship, with them coping with and dealing with the trials and struggles of infertility.

The Theotokos

In the context of a wedding, the Prescence of the Theotokos serves as a reminder of the importance of marriage union, and the sacred bond between spouses.

Wedding Feast at Cana

The Wedding Feast at Cana is a clear example of a happy wedding, one of praise and celebration that Christ himself was present at. The depth of celebration, praise for the couple but Christ himself too is a perfect example of what a wedding should be.

Iconography of the song of songs

It is much harder to find, and not widespread, but iconography of the Song of Songs is perfect for a wedding, not only symbolising the love between spouses, but the love between mortal and divine.

[thatgentlewife]

[blushcoloreddreams]

Why do men value female sweetness?

He already deals with testosterone all the time, with stress and tension... they are biologically prepared for conflict... The masculine man is dominant, strong and a provider...

He takes the lead because that's how he feels useful. He likes to provide and protect because it makes him feel needed. But no man feels like doing that for someone equal or stronger... Therefore, men look for something in women that they lack.

He is looking for a woman capable of bringing order, beauty and peace to his life. And when a man finds a woman like that... he goes to great lengths to win her over. And to live this there is no other way than to become more feminine...

The woman's sweetness nourishes the man. It is cultivated on a daily basis, it is not a technique that you use for convenience. People can tell when you're pretending, especially because it becomes that thing that's forced and not at all natural... no one can keep that mask on for long.

A sweet way only enchants when accompanied by loving gestures, a warm look and kind attitudes, what you do for others... That's why sweetness must come from within... it's the outside that reflects the inside - never the other way around.

If a woman only feeds on negative thoughts, it becomes much more difficult to be sweet, because that's not what she has within herself... there's no way to give someone else something that she doesn't even have within herself... you know? It's a natural process...

A woman can only be feminine and sweet when she dedicates herself to seeking the truth in her life, when she makes an effort to cultivate the virtues she needs and is able to authentically express all the beauty she has cultivated within herself.

[templevirgin]

[eternal-echoes]

“Young women may wonder, "Why does God give us such powerful hormones now if we aren't supposed to get married for ten more years? What am I supposed do with all my desires in the meantime?" Perhaps the first thing to remember is that it's normal and healthy to have sexual desires. This is the way God made you, and you should be more concerned if these desires aren't present.

One reason God allows us to experience such desires before marriage is because we first must learn to control them. By learning to control their passions, couples acquire two important skills.

First, the couple becomes free to love. Unless a person learns sexual self-control before marriage, he or she will be incapable of loving a spouse properly inside of marriage. The world often claims that men and women need sexual experience prior to marriage in order to be sexually competent. But as one husband pointed out, "If you can't say no to sex, what does your 'yes' mean?"1 The chaste person who knows how to love will have an easier time learning to express sexual love than the person who has become engrained in the habit of lust. Second, the couple train themselves in faithfulness. If a dating couple can't resist the allure of forbidden fruit now, what will they do when temptations arise within marriage? How assuring it will be for the bride who marries a man who has self-control! Prior to marriage, if he is able to resist temptations with the woman he loves more than life itself, then he should have no trouble staying true to her in marriage. Because he has developed self-mastery, he is able to bless his wife with the peaceful assurance of his fidelity. Such a gift is certainly worth more to her than any sexual "experience" he could have acquired prior to marriage. Because their vows are more likely to endure, they can enjoy a lifetime of learning how to express intimacy within marriage.”

-Jason and Crystalina Evert, How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul

1 Christopher West, Theology of the Body for Beginners

[christian-femininity]

Until Jesus Christ is the obsession of your heart, you'll always be looking to mere men to meet your needs that only Him can fill. Only when you make Jesus Christ your first love, will you be ready for a love story that reflects His glory.

― Leslie Ludy

[fightinglikeaman]

Tell me about it, honey

[justanorthodoxgirl]

Sometimes it hurts when you receive God's answer, but that's when you should trust in him and not in your own head.

I met a man some time ago. We call him T here. We started to talk a lot with each other and met a few times. Shortly after I met him, I realized that God had led him to me so that I could learn different things and, above all, to test my limits. He was the first man I really liked a lot, but no matter how much I like someone... I will always love God more.

I love God more than myself, more than my family and even more than my child.

It's clear to me that God has given me my boundaries to protect me, which means that I know I don't want to sleep with a man I'm not married to and I go even further: I don't want to be close to a man I'm not sure I want to marry in the future.

First and foremost because God knows best what is good for me and secondly because I somehow have the feeling that I can already sense my future husband. He is here in this world, has emotions, can be hurt, lives his life and I already have so much respect for him without knowing him that I don't want to be close to any unimportant men.

I only want to be close to him in the future.

The moment when I was sure that T was sent to me to learn something about me, but not to become my future husband, came very quickly. It was the moment when he (after I clearly communicated my boundaries) tried to find loopholes. Asking me if I could do this or that before marriage. Don't get me wrong... I'm human, I have sexual desires or fantasies as well, I don't judge anyone for that, but the reason I realized he couldn't be the man for me was because I realised he could never lead me. He has pushed me into the position of leading and setting hard boundaries and unfortunately that tells me a lot about how much he respects me, how much he is in control of himself and most importantly how much he respects God.

I don't want to be hard...I don't want to lead (and that doesn't mean I don't have my opinion and my own head) and I especially don't want to carry a man.

God has already chosen my man for me... I don't try to get dates because I don't have to look for him because he will cross my path as soon as it is God‘s will.

And above all, I have to let go of the people God has not meant for me.