#CONTENT I PROBABLY WEIRDED SO MANY PEOPLE OUT I'M SO SORRY TO EVERYONE I BOTHERED

[moonydulac]

anon here, excited to read the essay! i asked you because i really like your takes and i see people in the more canon-adjacent parts of the marauders fanbase to complain about the extremes of the fanon one, though personally ive never really seen anything Too extreme, tho thats probably just tantamount to how well i curate my spaces i suppose (ive seen people say that fanon makes remus really “alpha” or makes sirius “bimbofied” and while ive seen hints of those extremes here and there, mostly it looks like it varies from person to person. ive just seen remus be more assertive than he probably is in canon, or sirius being more dramatic and “fem” than he probably is in canon). from what i know people like exaggerating events (the prank, etc.) or shifting some personality traits, but i dont really think thats a bad thing - i personally enjoy it. as long as they dont completely turn characters into stereotypes (though its a pitfall of every fandom, i fear), then whatever its just camp.

people are allowed to criticize stuff like that though, not taking that away from anyone, i personally just dont really care enough to be totally accurate esp since this hyperfix is kind of the bottom of the barrel for me LMAO. but i ask mostly bc im just curious to see what other peoples opinions are, and bc i think - especially in a fanbase like this - that its incredibly important to be at least a little critical with your media experience and reflect on it. saying “oh fuck canon we’re just having fun” is fine and all, i dont think anyone is stopping you, i think the personalities people have made up for characters that have zero screen time are super fun and the little ships are not everyones tea but like its fine. but even still, people should be way more aware of what characters theyre dealing with and from what franchise, and like reflect on any biases you may have. if youre making shit up for a random DE character, or retconning some sutff, okay, whatever, but be sure to not defend or like suddenly turn to really weird rhetoric. idk i think its the bare minimum in a fanbase like this

i definitely rambled way too much here, super sorry op! i hope this doesnt bother you, feel free to reply or feel free to not. i just really like hearing peoples thoughts on things, and i like your takes and your blog so i hope i didnt catch you by surprise. i really am just an outsider trying to look in LOL

hello anon, I'm sorry I lost your ask. I was writing on my laptop and saved the draft (but apparently had to press on alt, and didn't do it) so I basically lost your question and half of my initial response. Ty for sending in another ask!! Not a bother at all, i find this very lovely :D 

I was mortified to find that someone who isn't really a part of the fandom was perceiving me while I was complaining about fictional characters ahahaha. still, thank you for validating me and asking my thoughts on the mischaracterization of marauders!! I do talk about it daily, unfortunately, and without any prompt too. I'll try to gather all my thoughts here. I don't necessarily come across fanon as much as I did when I reentered the fandom and honestly, I can not be more with you about curating your space !! at the end of the day, I am just here to have fun, and really, pointing out these issues is not a good time at all! But I do post a lot about these, I can't be bothered to bottle up any thoughts lol.

I think the major issue I have with current interpretations is the underlying bigotry that comes along with it. There is a lot of unchecked problematic content that doesn't sit right with me.

Flanderizing characters in fandom interpretations is not limited to marauders fandom obviously. any popular media will face this because so many of us want to interact with one character so their traits are simplified for easier consumption and to find a common ground. this is also not limited to new marauders fandom. even in the older era, leather jacket-wearing, motorbike-driving quintessential bad boy siruis was a thing. so I won't nitpick on silly simplifications.

I just want to say that this isn't about me wanting everyone to have the same interpretations as I do about the canon. I follow so many lovely people and I don't agree with all of their posts. But, we all just simply share the love for these characters in the text and form an imaginary community. So, if we were to remove all the issues I will mention, it is still very well possible to have different personal takes.

Here are some of my issues:

Queerness, Gender roles, and misogyny:

My biggest problem is the representations of queer relationships. the fandom packages these couples in a strange and obvious heteronormative mold where the individuals fit into male and female gender roles. mlm and wlw are now an “f/m”* stereotype and characterization gets affected by the ships. Heterosexual relationships shouldn't have these limitations either, anyway. There is no one way to be a woman or a man. With queer relationships in particular, we have reclaimed the word queer now but it was used to describe the unconventional weirdness in the relationship. We didn't fit into the normal portrayal of a loving relationship. So, it really bothers me, even in fiction, that queer ships are popularly consumed in a way that represents a traditional template. (*this is not about gender itself but the gender roles! f/m can very well be queer!). 

Let's take the biggest victim in this fandom: sirius.

Sirius’ portrayal concerning his gender and sexuality has heavily changed his characterization in the fanon. We have a character who is popularly headcanonned as trans and is it a coincidence that all their traits have changed from the og material? Sirius is suddenly vain, whiny, and dumb. Canon doesn't suggest this interpretation, it has to have stemmed from somewhere. It's the implicit bias. Sirius becomes a caricature of what a woman “should be”. When we focus on sexuality, there is the suddenly short twink sirius who has the same new traits- proving the point of fulfilling gender roles. These characteristics are a stand-in for the “female” role of the traditional relationship and it becomes more clear in the example of new age wolfstar. Remus is now the big alpha stoic manly man- the obvious stand-in for the “male” role. I could go on, it is apparent in the way you can see remus becomes a caretaker and sirius is taken care of.

The point I am trying to make is not to discourage gender/sexuality hc. I love them, keep them coming. But, why is female sirius not tall suddenly? It is not inherently bad at all to have a feminine and masculine pairing! But why do we need to change the constitutions of these characters to consume their relationship?

I'll keep dropping disclaimers because I hate being misinterpreted: I don't obviously mean every single person is doing this or that doing one of the things means doing the other too. 

Race:

It is related to the point above. I was personally so excited to see the popular desi james hc. Even in fanon, I have never seen such a prevalent and encouraged brown rep, it was quite sweet to come back to that. But the problem is the change of characteristics that comes with race hc. Desi james is also a manly dude who is big and buff as opposed to the white petite and delicate regulus within jegulus ship. The melanin is directly proportional to the manliness here. 

This is a propagation of race stereotypes. Maybe jegulus was a bad example because usually there are seen as blank templates. I will raise the argument that this can't be all we can come up with for blank canvases then. Either way, my point about race still stands when you repeatedly design interracial queer relationships so they fall into heteronormative roles. Anyway, same issue with wolfstar when there is a brown remus.

Canon, JKR, and hypocrisy:

Refusing to engage with source material is funny when we are picking characters out of it. the interpretations of the characters will be from their book. otherwise, they are just original characters with the same name. you can add onto the traits and a lot of the time fandom comes to a consensus regarding a few things! This is common in every fandom but I don't think I have seen such reluctance to not only critically engage with media but also shame others who do. We are surely in special circumstances with this fandom but I really do think jkr and how we navigate the fanon should be two different things.

Most of us don't condone jkr or even remotely agree with any nonsense she spews on the daily. Most of us can see the problematic nature of even consuming this media and staying in this fandom. It is one of the reasons I even left the fandom. Most of us are simply doing our best to engage carefully while distancing ourselves from her. So, it is quite laughable when some love to take the moral high ground for rejecting canon while still engaging with the same characters. (the rejection of canon in question being sirius’ height, lol)

(Sirius' height is quite a polarising fact apparently. Unfortunately, the point about height is also discussed so disingenuously. When I talk about sirius’ height, it is not really about him being 6 or 7 feet. It will not really impact my life. It is about what it represents. He is bimbofied as he becomes short. It's an issue of "WHY" again.)

Of course, this isn't an accusation of intentional bigotry from everyone here. The problem with this fandom is that the people in it tell themselves that it is progressive and to run away from the problematic creator as much as possible. We are not progressive if all we do is co-opt queer and racially diverse identities on such a superficial level. The bias manifests in subtle forms. I just wish we check ourselves from time to time, that's all. 

There is a lot of hostility when we try to discuss issues in the fanon. Things are interpreted in the most misguided way to just win the argument. Like I said in the beginning, we all just want to have a good time. That also means creating a welcoming space for vulnerable groups (especially when the same identities are used to pat yourselves on the backs for inclusivity points). I didn't even cover everything btw, I just wrote about the issues that concern me. queer and poc also partake in biased representations, I also probably have some biases that I didn't identify yet. I just think it would be super neat if everyone tried to make an effort to unlearn and engage with media without hurting anyone. 

I have other issues but they are all just super subjective opinions and smth I can ignore when others do. ex: I really don't like giving tragic backstories to bigots in the story. Not every supremacist loser has a trauma that forced them into oppressing people! There is also "tropeyfication" of all major ships. Just an overall issue in the reading world I think, though.

Anon, I didn't mean to make it preachy in any way btw. You probably asked for a silly little rant and I went full lecture mode, so I apologize for the tone shift!! I mentioned these because every other issue can be brought down to these imo. Like you said, I also don't have any fixation on everything being canon-compliant. I only complain by asking about the thought process behind certain kinds of changes, if that makes sense! I hope this wasn't a drag really and you can see where I am coming from. If I misspoke anywhere, pls lmk. Thanks for sharing your opinions too!!

This is a long long rant, anyone who read everything, you are wonderful and patient. Thank you for taking the time. This huge post and the content can make you think, “who cares this much?” or “it's not that serious” and yaa it really isn't that serious. The characters aren't real but we all are. the identities projected are real. so, it does matter to talk about this.

Everything said this is a fun place to be once you find your own corner in the playground.

[ryhmus]

It just doesn't click for me...

In light of the new Omori Mod demo that came out, the next thing I'll say may be VERY controversial:

I'm not an Otomerson fan, their content just doesn't do it for me and it probably never will.

I tried, I really did try to like it, But I can't.

-I tried reading Endless Dreaming once, didn't even finish, just got to chapter 3. Then stopped and forgot about it entirely.

-Read Overwatered Garden, actually made it to the end...no feels, no tears, nothing It was just a sad story, that was it.

-I attempted to read Pursuit just because I wanted to understand what it was about. I ended up skipping over...just about everything until the three endings...

Need I say more? Never Again It ruined Hero for me in general.

-There was another one, but I forgot what it was called, just something about Sunny walking into the road.

-Well Kel kicking Sunny's door down was funny, it's just unfinished and that one was alright.

-At this rate, I'm not even bothering with Omorionette, I don't like marionettes. Hard pass.

-I saw a couple other ones, didn't look at them.

-Something about the art style feels...really off-putting. And don't get me wrong! It's very good art. Fanart is basically a god-given gift to the hard working writers and artists.

-And finally, all the stuff is really really REALLY long.

Again, so sorry if you came across this post. So many people throw well-deserved praise their way, a paragon of the Omori community. But I just don't see myself being able reading another of Otomerson's stories without just outright disliking it. It may be peak for everyone else, but it's not for me.

(I don't know a single person who doesn't like those stories aside from Pursuit.)

Please be civil about this. I can already hear the angry crowd outside going on about how I muted and block-

[angorataurry]

vvvery well then ill come off anon, feel free to block me as you see fit

i said it because even if we dont interact anymore, i hate seeing people get kicked when theyre down. i cant stand bullying and i cant stand condescending bullshit directed at people who dont deserve it. it wasnt a waste of time because any time a person is getting hurt and they dont deserve it, i step in. i dont care if it was my business or not. it wasnt a waste of time because you still deserve to be treated with respect.

ill say it as many times as i have to but you really dont deserve the hatred you receive. everyone in that server kept telling you that we never hated you but you kept believing we did to the point where it felt like you were making us out to be the bad guys. it was incredibly unhealthy on both sides. we hoped that if we just stayed moots with you on tumblr that itd be okay and that you could distance yourself as much as you needed to so that it wouldnt be so overwhelming.

i see that that probably wasnt really issue but possibly several other things. if you want to stop posting content related to alnst then so be it. thats your decision. we will dwell on you because youre an amazing person and there are many fond memories with you and your characters. if you dont want to participate in any of the fan seasons, including sona season, then we will make adjustments for you. whatever you want to do with your characters is completely up to you.

thank you for being a beautiful and wonderful being, and i hope that whatever you choose to do, you do it in good conscience. we dont want to push or annoy you any further than we might be doing (sorry, genuinely. i really do care about you tbf.) but we also just want you to be happy.

/gen, /lh, and /withlove.

- zen (papa, if youre still willing to call me that /nf)

It was you -!!! (Geno sans, CPAU comic dub voice) ((I knew itt.. you do stand up for others and are more vocal about being ..indunno but I guess yk inna way, just the way you typed it (sorry if that's ..weird/creepy), the way that you confront others and such .much braver ig, since you take action a lot))

Sorry for making it seem like I was making y'all the bad guys. Didn't mean to, and honestly shouldn't have done that- that was wrong of me from the start. Though, now I don't think I can remember- well. Given how it was like. Two months ago now? And I do forget a lot so- ...sorry for unfollowing as well (tho I know that no matter the amount of me saying sorry will ever fix things up since I avoid what happened/etc..)

I don't really think I can stop posting alnst/alnst oc content. I'm in too deep, in three gc (AREPH, Setup and Takedown, and then Toxic ysosu)— I have an Au (you probably know or maybe not; Sonic.exe like au, I'm mainly focusing on the hypothetical 3d game in the universe that happens in 2035, called Mor. I remember asking you for permission, but then again.. gah. Fucking sorry for putting onna invisible time limit to the question, as said- for almost everything I've done since I was in the series(what I call servers now) and out of it.... Though you did say we don't talk anymore, and so like. Yeah- haven't answered my question- tho ITS TOTALLY NORMAL! FINE! Just slightly weird?? That like. Just recently you came here to like. Ig cheer me up? When I was "kicked down even more". Tho it is .you. You did say that you can't stand what they have said to me and what/who they were referring to, which is interesting but I won't bother you with anything i have to say) — I still have a lot more to show (so many hidden characters and hidden lore) and post,, and I've been going back to writing like. Flor's lore, and getting some basic ideas down. Besides, I still can't stop thinking of the ocs and such.. as ..said..... I'm in too deep (was basically here from the start.. before s39 was even s39.....ah..kills the wall). And it's not leaving me anytime soon, since I always have thoughts- ideas and such. <- this is what 50+ OCS does to a person

I still have OCS, in the seasons. I still have OCS I want to work on and expand on.

Besides, Eddy and Sebastian have a very close bond. Flor, Oli, Dian, Faisal, and their other siblings are well. Siblings. Four of them don't belong to me. I have OCS in romantic relationships with others, and all of that. I can't just .. abandon it all honestly.

For the Sona Season, I think I'm like. Basically disqualified though? Before I did whatever I did, I kinda did ask to be in round1 so things can end faster for my sona. But then again. <- is a whiny person. <- impatience, which is wrong. <- generally a ""ugly"" one. So I just decided to do what I did in the server basically— and just leave the Garden & Stage thing. ..tbh I did do a song-comic, but I doubt you want to see anything I do now (NOT trying to make you see what I do. Waste of time. And again in the previous ask you sent you used past tance and so that practically means that we are thru, huh? Along with us not talking to each other besides those two asks you sent to this blog..along with the Seb song. But I don't think that you and the others don't want to touch anything made by me or are related to me! Which I totally get)

You all have NEVER annoyed me or pushed me, at all (only ever asked me for some small things, or actually nothing at all). IM the one who's annoyed and pushed you all (too many ideas, too many posts I've tagged as ocs- I've tagged y'all in, etc etc. basically at those times and still now, it's just me talking to a wall). It's.. stupid to apologize for what I've been doing the most.

Also don't .. apologize for caring actually. I don't know what to say, or have anything to say besides that.. still can't fucking believe that you are still. That you still allow me the chance to call you papa...stupid of me to have mentally clocked the community as a family(ish?only a few) to me. since it ended up with me being .not continuing that sentence. but yeah, really stupid of me to have you all as family when we ended up like this.which is unhealthy as you said! What type of friendship is like person A: your my friend! / Person B: (you are like a sibling to me. You are family.) ???? Certainly not a working healthy one. Because I became so very impulsive when .not finishing that either.

[polyamorousmood]

Hi! I kind of don't know where else to go about this, but I've seen other people come to you with their.. idk, problems? concerns. i don't know. I was hoping you could lend an ear and offer some advice as well, but no worries if you want to ignore/delete this and move on.

So, my QPP consists of me, my best friend who is I think the closest thing to a soulmate I'll ever have, their partner who is a very close friend of mine, and someone I have been in love with for literal years despite the fact they've turned me down three times already. I am genuinely happy to have all of them in my life like this, and the four of us are practically inseparable at this point. I mean, as long as the two actual romantic parts of the square don't break up, knock on wood, the four of us have all started planning our futures around each other we're that level of close.

But, my issue is I am still incredibly unfathomably in love with person c, and he's recently realized something about himself that he's probably aroace, and he's not comfortable being in a real relationship with me (despite calling each other husband and wife for 5+ years) I think because he doesn't want to hurt me. And I realized something about myself recently as well, that no matter how happy I am in this platonic quad, I still want to be romantically loved. I want to go on dates, someday I want to get married, and I know I'm happy where I am but I would be lying if I said I was content. I don't want to give up on these dreams, or pretend it doesn't bother me anymore, but I don't know how to go about seeking out a romance partner in a qpp, especially while I have whatever weird situationship I have going with my "husband".

And I don't know how to bring it up to them without sounding selfish? I don't want to force any of them into pretending they have to love me, or try to reassure me or anything. Genuinely, I am happy for C and I am glad he's happy how he is. And I am happy being his friend and platonic life partner. I just want to find a person who will love me the way I want to be loved without coming off as horrible.

Sorry this is all just rambling, and doesn't even really make sense. I'm really bad with emotions and it's something I've been trying to work on now that I'm out of an abusive situation, but I don't really know how to describe my problem other than word vomit and pray you get what I mean.

Hi friend. I'm sorry your stressing. This is definitively one of those things that can feel intimidating and pressing. But its also one of those things that can only be addressed by the de facto slogan of polyamory:

🗣️You just gotta fucking talk about it!🗣️

The exact best wording will depend on your polycule's situation. There's not any sort of golden bullet for ensuring the conversation goes the way you want, but I did an extensive write up of general communication advice as part of this post.

I think you're well within your rights to pose the question "so how would y'all feel about me dating someone else?" and go from there. Having said that, I'd come prepared to talk about how that would affect your relationship with the 'cule. What immediately comes to mind for me is"

Would you even consider "leaving them" for a romantic relationship? 💔

Would you stay close with them, but move out to live with your romantic partner if that's what your romantic partner wanted? 🏘️

Would you expect your romantic partner to be able to move in with your current QPR polycule when all that gets worked out? 🏠

Would you want a significant amount of alone time with the romantic partner that would cut into the QPPs' 🛋️ time?

How would you manage it if your romantic partner wanted a lot of alone time? 🍝💐💑 How would you balance it?

What do you do if your romantic partner and (one of) your QPPs don't really get along? 😤

No, seriously. How much time is everyone spending all together? What happens if I new person doesn't vibe with the group? (there are many answers to this question. I don't care what your answer is, but you should let new people know they play a big role in your life and what sorts of concessions you'd be willing to consider)

A lot of these are impossible to fully answer right now. But you should at minimum be able to reassure your QPPs of your level of commitment, if they need it (and they may not!)

That's it though. All of this boils down to just talk to them about it

I know its scary. But they love you. Don't make it into a Big Huge Problem in your head.

[mellometal]

Hi, everyone.

I have something extremely important to talk about that is NOT fandom related. I really do hope this can reach everyone on here, especially since it's still Autism Acceptance Month.

A few quick questions for anyone who happens to see this before I dive right into this: Have you ever heard of Dhar Mann? If so, have you ever seen his videos? What do you think about them?

If you don't know who Dhar Mann is, he's a content creator whose main platforms are Instagram and YouTube. He makes these videos about various scenarios from a couple on the brink of divorce, to kids bullying one of their peers, even about Autism Spectrum Disorder. All of his videos have some kind of message at the end that really drives the point home. One of his most recent videos is about ASD, which is what I'm going to discuss today.

Personally, I think some of his videos are interesting, despite the concepts being reused and recycled over and over; however, how I feel about the video he made about ASD is the complete opposite. I'll summarize the video he made so you don't have to watch it. (If you really want to watch it to see exactly what I'm talking about, I'm not gonna stop you. Do what you need to do in order to form your own opinion.)

The video Dhar Mann made about ASD is about this boy who excludes his autistic brother from participating in activities with his friends at school. The boy bullies his autistic brother and does pretty much everything to make his brother's life Hell, even going as far as to pretend that he doesn't know his own brother. The boy "instantly regrets his decision" when their mom is called into the school to discipline her son for bullying his autistic brother. What his mother says is what REALLY upsets me. The message of this video in particular is this, WORD FOR FUCKING WORD. I wish I was kidding. But here's the message below:

How the video concludes is the boy reluctantly includes his autistic brother in every single activity, the boy sees his brother's potential, and they live happily ever after. Whoop-dee-fucking-doo.

As an autistic woman who works with disabled people for a living, that message Dhar Mann put in this video specifically is not only extremely ableist, but is also spreading misinformation about ASD.

News flash to all the people who still spread misinformation about ASD: Not every single autistic person is a little white boy in elementary school, nor is every single autistic person a young white man who's a Super Genius™️. (I could go on all day long about how the media stereotypes autistic characters and autistic people in general, but that's a whole other topic.) No autistic person is the same, meaning we all fall on the spectrum in different places and all that jazz. There's no "look" to autistic people either because no autistic person looks the same.

Autistic women exist.

Autistic girls exist.

Autistic nonbinary people exist.

Autistic BIPOC and AAPI exist.

Autistic people who are completely nonverbal exist.

Autistic people who are completely verbal exist.

Autistic people who are in the middle of being nonverbal and verbal exist.

Autistic people who require minimal to no support exist.

Autistic people who require moderate support exist.

Autistic people who require full support exist.

Autistic LGBT people exist. (Reason why I bring this one up is because the media almost always shows cishet autistic men and I don't see autistic LGBT representation very often, if ever.)

Autism isn't something you can "catch". People have this same mentality about ADHD and Tourette's Syndrome too, which, by the way, you can't "catch" either.

Autism doesn't "go away" when you reach adolescence or adulthood. Why? BECAUSE AUTISTIC TEENAGERS AND AUTISTIC ADULTS EXIST. Autistic kids grow into autistic teenagers, then into autistic adults.

You can't "cure" it either. Unless you can build a time machine and a device to go back in time to change how a person's brain develops, there is no cure. ABA therapy is a fucking shit show in itself that does more harm than good.

The title of the video is a real squick for me too. It's mostly because I don't particularly enjoy people using person first language (the "boy with autism" part). I've seen many other autistic people on multiple other platforms sharing that same sentiment and preferring identity first language (autistic person). There are also others who prefer using person first language and those who don't have a preference. That's all perfectly valid. Whatever you prefer people using when referring to you, or whatever you refer to yourself as, in this case, is totally valid and I love you. This goes for disabilities in general, not just Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Regarding the message in this video, here's my response to it! A quick heads-up, my response is VERY long and VERY passionate. I was VERY close to making a response video where I tear that video apart AND tear Dhar Mann a new asshole. Unfortunately, it worked me up so much that I was really struggling with what I wanted to say and I had to stop multiple times because I kept stumbling on my words. That's how angry this message made me. I'll try my best to explain whatever parts you have questions about. I put my response in the nicest way I possibly could, despite me seething with rage, wanting to go OFF on him.

(The first part of my response are the first three screenshots, and the second part are the last three screenshots.)

The first part of my response, I did forget to add that the message is offensive and disrespectful to autistic people as a whole. I apologize. My initial comment got way too long. I pretty much covered that when I told him the message is ableist. I wanted to clear that up before anyone asks about it.

The second part of my response is me opening up about my experience with being diagnosed with ASD, formerly known as As//per//ger's Syn//dro//me, at sixteen years old. I also went into how not calling ASD what it truly is (which is a disability) and calling it a "different ability" instead is extremely harmful and is treating being disabled like it's a bad thing.

By the way, saying that a disabled person is disabled isn't a bad thing. I'm disabled. It is what it is. Does it have its challenges? You bet. Does it help me with certain things? Hell yeah. I can really absorb information about my favorite bands, characters, shows, books, etc., and tell you a lot about those things. For example, I can tell you that Su can't ride a bike or read manga and she's okay with that. I can also tell you she can't tie her shoes very well, which is why her boots don't have laces and are slip-on and/or zip-up. But that doesn't mean my struggles are nonexistent or that I never struggle. I do, and it makes my life Hell at times.

The narrative that autism is a bad thing to have, every autistic person is somehow broken and they all need to be "fixed" is also super fucked up and not true. That's the narrative that I received when I was diagnosed by a therapist I had. I'm gonna be real here, I cried when I was first told that I was diagnosed with ASD. I felt like I was broken. I already felt like a total outcast. Being told about my diagnosis made me feel even more broken than I already felt. I was so ashamed of myself, despite me not doing anything wrong whatsoever, that I masked for SEVEN YEARS of my life. I masked for so long that I forgot I was even diagnosed with ASD in the first place. I wasn't taught how to really put my special interests into good use. I kinda had to figure that out on my own. I was pretty much under the assumption that me being interested in anime, cartoons, music, comics, theatre, writing, etc., to the point of obsession, was somehow weird and hurting people around me. You know, despite those things being harmless. Despite me being able to separate those things from other things that are important (like work, for example). Despite my only surviving parent, other family members, and the woman he was dating at the time completely overreacting and not bothering to see exactly what makes these things so special to me.

(By the way, having a disability does not completely make who a person is. There are a lot more things that make who a person is than that.)

It's kinda shocking that I wasn't able to come to terms with my diagnosis until this year. Considering that I masked for so long due to being ashamed of myself, plus being treated like a burden for being disabled, it's probably not very surprising. I initially thought at the time that it was the worst thing to have, as I was already struggling with enough shit back then, but came to realize it's not a bad thing. It doesn't change who I am. But I'm glad I came to terms with it finally nonetheless.

This is getting way too long, so I'm gonna wrap things up here. If you've read this far, thank you so much. I'm sorry this got so long!

If you watched the video, what are your thoughts on it? If this is your first time hearing about Dhar Mann, how do you feel about him? If you're a Dhar Mann fan, did this change your opinion on him in any way? Feel free to sound off in the comments!

Have a great day, everyone!

[hamoncola]

Everyone talk about lawer Dio, but no one talk about how barista Dio who try to pay the university is superior.

I'm just joking, but may can i have a request please of barista Dio Brando (PB)?

Reader go to the cafe for work in she's projects from the university and talk with him sometimes and Dio try to get more close to her, but i think in Dio PB like someone so dumb in the beinning of a love relationship, like try brag but he does it with his worse qualities like his ego and be a play boy

ABSOLUTELY YESS YES YES

For future reference: [d/o/c] = drink of choice

PB Barista!Dio x Reader (Modern AU) 

Another day full of hour-long classes accompanied by at least six new assignments that are due in three days. To say the least; you were exhausted. You were assigned a big project, two essays, and three other pieces of homework to do. Sure, the homework was easy, but the essays were time-consuming and the project was probably the most menacing thing you’ve had to deal with all semester. 

“Maybe I can go to this cafe that opened up recently... What was it called again...? East End Cafe? Yeah, that was right...” you murmured to yourself while pulling your phone out of your bookbag. You got the directions to the cafe, the walk talking about ten minutes.

The exterior looked quaint and welcoming, decorated with tons of plants and bricks. You walked inside, the smell of coffee filled the air. You let out a sigh of content, finding a seat by the window away from everyone else. Although there aren’t many people in here, you wanted to be alone as much as you could so you could solely focus on your project. There were other young adults here as well, most of them were alone or on a date, talking quietly amongst themselves. The atmosphere of this cafe was phenomenal, you decided it was one of your favorites. 

You set down your laptop and bag, looking around to make sure no one shady was around. You couldn’t afford to lose your work, after all.

I could really use a drink right now, I wonder what they serve here...

Making your way up to the counter, you read over the list of orders on the chalkboard. There were many options, but you settled on a cup of [d/o/c]. 

“Oh? [d/o/c]? Hoho... Good choice.” the barista commented, writing down your order before giving you a wink.

“Anything else I can get for you today?” He asked. You shook your head.

“Can I get your name, dear?” He asked. His gaze made you a bit nervous.

“[y/n].” You stated, watching as he wrote it down and leaving to make your drink. You went back to your seat to sit down and start on your project. A couple of minutes later you heard your name being called. Standing up, you walked back over to the counter. The barista was tall, blonde, and... intimidating. By all means, he was gorgeous, but you couldn’t help but feel a bit afraid. He gave you a smile, handing you your drink.

“Thank you, please enjoy.” He said. You read his nametag. Dio. That was a name you hadn’t heard before. You quietly thanked him and walked back to your table after you paid for your order. 

Time to get to work...

~~~

After hours of working and researching, you were only half done with your project. It was frustrating, but you decided that this would be your stopping point for today. The cafe was oddly silent. You looked around the room only to see that everyone else was gone, and the barista was a few tables behind you, cleaning the area up.

“You know, it’s closing time.” He commented. He didn’t bother looking up at you, as he was able to sense your eyes on him.

“It... is? Oh, I’m sorry! I’ll get going right away!” You exclaimed, it was mildly embarrassing to think that this handsome man was waiting on you to leave.

“No, no. It’s quite alright...” he smirked, “it’s cute how focused you were.”

Cute?

You started packing up, feeling your face grow warm. 

“Thank you for not kicking me out... Hah... I’m sorry if I caused you any trouble.” You apologized again. Dio only smirked, waving goodbye to you as you left. He was amused by your behavior, he doesn’t meet people like this often.

[y/n], huh. Cute.

~~~

A couple days later you returned to the cafe, assuming that Dio was not working again. You sat down at the same table you did the other day, getting to work. You were determined to get this done today, so you also decided to order a drink to help keep you going. Walking up to the counter and reading through the menu. You didn’t notice a familiar blonde was staring from afar.

“Good afternoon miss, what can I get you today?” An all too familiar voice asked. You looked at who was speaking to you, realizing it was Dio.

“[d/o/c], please,” you answered, growing a bit more nervous. Dio grinned and left to make your drink. You found it odd how he kept smiling at you like that but decided to brush it off as him just doing his job. After all, he is a barista. Dio comes back with your drink quicker this time, handing it to you with a smirk. It almost made you uneasy.

“Oh, by the way... [y/n], can I get your number?” he asked before you left.

“Oh, what for? It’s not like I know you,” you taunted him.

“We can get to know each other, darling. After all, many girls want me... I’m a popular man. I’m surprised you don’t know who I am by now...” Dio bragged. You made a weird face at him and went back to your seat.

~~~ Every time you went to this cafe, Dio would talk to you and get you to open up to him. He bragged about how good he was at doing things, and how many girls want him. Besides that, he was rather charming. Your conversations became regular once you eventually gave in to his begging and gave him your number. You knew that this would be the beginning of an interesting relationship...

[notthatiwilleverwriteit]

Your posts are always interesting, this could sound weird but, what do you think about the sexual orientations in 19 days? I know it is shonen ai but in this kind of comic is usually characters are just in love with someone but no anyone else. But with zhanyi it has being shown at least that Zhan had problems thinking about it, what do you think about tianshan's as well? I am not into Lgbt knowledge, so i'm lost about it

Good afternoon, dear anon-san! <(_ _)>

I’m sorry it took me a couple of days to get to your question. Thank you for your patience!

I’ve talked about my takes on the sexual orientations a couple of times by now:

Why didn’t HT want MGS to like him more and more?

Homophobia in 19 Days

Could HT be bisexual?

Could ZZX be quoiromantic?

Was ZZX a heterosexual prior to JY’s confession?

Zhanyi and emotional manipulation?

Was MGS HT’s first kiss?

My Tianshan “timeline”

I suggest you check out those previous answers to get a better sense of where I’m coming from. I’m probably going to repeat some of the things in this answer but not as comprehensively.

Also, before I get further into this, I realize this is a rather controversial topic in the fandom. However, I want people reading this to know that I am most certainly not against discussing how readers interpret the characters from this perspective. I know some people just genuinely don’t care one way or another - which is perfectly fine - but to me, it sometimes feels like “who cares” is used to shut people up. I don’t see why the aspect of sexual orientations can’t be discussed just like any other part of the story. Especially since I feel like it’s one of the major themes of 19 Days. And sexual orientations in fiction can be important peaks of representation and connection to many readers, so I do understand why people might want to talk about them.

In all fairness, though, I also understand why people might be annoyed by this discussion. Other’s interpretations can feel forceful to us, especially if they greatly differ from ours. Or it might irritate us if we feel like people are focusing on trivial things. I get it. I’m sometimes “guilty” of those feelings, too - I’m not trying to make it sound like I’m somehow above that. However, I don’t think the solution should be to make others feel shitty but rather to try and give room for all kinds of points of view.

Anyway. End of my usual rant when it comes to these things. (^_^ ‘‘)

“what do you think about the sexual orientations in 19 days?”

When it comes to sexual orientations in 19 Days, I feel like the most accurate answer I can give is “I don’t know”. I don’t think it’s possible to tell one way or another for sure, and anyone’s interpretation is as good as mine. The things I’ve said in previous answers - and what I will continue to say in this one, too - are merely based on the vibes I’ve personally gotten. I am not trying to make it sound like I have some kind of solid, concrete “evidence”. I want everyone to keep all of that in mind when reading this.

He Tian and Mo Guan Shan

I’m going to be fairly brief with HT because I’ve already talked about him in this sense a few times. In short, I tend to read HT as a budding bisexual. Partly because of the vibes I’ve gotten and partly because of my own bias as a bisexual. It’s a pet interpretation of sorts that I like to toy with.

There aren’t any solid extracts of the comic for me to base this on, either. Merely little details that had caught my eye and made me wonder (ch. 160, 190, 226. 307):

If someone says that none of those panels make HT a bisexual, I would wholeheartedly agree. But to me, as a reader, those little details muddy the waters. Reading magazines with half-naked women in suggestive poses on the cover doesn’t make anyone straight, bi, or anything, but it seems HT doesn’t at least mind that kind of content - perhaps he’s even interested in it since he’s supposedly spent money on them. Of course, it’s too hasty to judge a book by its cover so to speak but I’ve always been interested in that detail.

However, what has made me think HT might be bisexual more than that is the whole “I don’t want you to like me more and more” thing. I have somewhat mixed feelings about the note but regardless of that, HT felt the need to lie to MGS. Again, there could be many reasons for it - but I think one possible reason could be that he was conflicted. Initially, HT didn’t get interested in MGS for romantic reasons, but somewhere along the way his feelings shifted and developed. Was HT confused about his own feelings and that’s why he lied to MGS? Was it his first time discovering such feelings for another guy? Again, it’s impossible to tell for sure but I don’t see why that couldn’t be a possible way to interpret it.

In addition to all of that, we don’t really know enough about HT’s past relationships to tell one way or another. He’s only 15, so I doubt he’s had much experience whether it’s with girls or guys. How being a part of his family has affected him as a person is also something that should be taken into consideration when wondering about HT’s potential romantic past.

I haven’t really talked about how I see MGS’s orientation before. I think that MGS’s character was set out as straight, but it’s always been more like a like “default setting” rather than what he might actually be. I would say he sees himself as a heterosexual but I think that’s more about him just going with what’s considered “normal” without bothering to give it much thought (ch. 222):

That little conversation has always reminded me of the movie 40 Year Old Virgin. Like, if Buzzcut had asked MGS “what kind of boobs do you like?” and MGS had been like “yes” or “as long as she has them”. He doesn’t really seem to have preferences or a type when it comes to girls, and I think one reason for that is because he’s never really been that concerned about the matter. If someone asks, he’s into girls but that kind of conversation is over rather quickly with him.

One reason for MGS’s seeming indifference is probably how he’s been rejected by his peers, ultimately leading him to isolate himself and push others away by becoming even harder to approach. Girls wouldn’t be interested in someone like him, so why should he waste time thinking about them? I might be projecting too much but it seems to be like he’s basically rejecting that part of being a teenager. It’s easier to ignore it until you’ve become indifferent than feeling like you’re missing out on something. 

In addition to that, it seems MGS is easily irritated and disgusted by the idea of another guy making a pass at him and aggressively guards both his body and image in that sense (ch. 160, 170, 249, 250, 285):

I’m sure a lot of that has to do with his history of being involved in gangs and being a delinquent. To survive in that world you need to exhibit rather aggressive and masculine behavior. In other words, to be the top dog. In those circles, being gay is easily associated with being the bottom as in submissive and easily overpowered. So, in addition to MGS not being keen on talking about girls and romance, he’s also had to keep up a certain image.

Do I think HT has discovered MGS’s “true” sexuality? I wouldn’t really put it like that. I would rather say HT’s persistent influence has “unlocked” the world of love and affection for MGS. He can experience that part of life with HT instead of rejecting it. I suppose the million-dollar question is does that make MGS straight or homosexual. And to be honest, I don’t have an answer. Personally, I read him more as a heterosexual than homosexual. I can’t really him being in a relationship with other guys than HT.

Jian Yi and Zhan Zheng Xi

I’ve also talked about these two quite a lot, so I don’t know how much I have left to say. Generally speaking, I think JY is someone who might actually identify as a homosexual in the future. It doesn’t look like he’s ever been interested in girls. More importantly, though, it seems that as he’s fallen in love with ZZX he’s also discovered himself in a broader sense (ch. 143, 158, 164, 187):

I think the theme of coming of age when it comes to sexuality is the strongest in JY’s character. ZZX might be the only guy he has a crush on, but JY seems to be thinking about being in love with a guy also as something that might defy him. He feels confused about being different and scared of how others could react to him being in a relationship with ZZX despite how open he also is about his feelings. He might happily want to hold hands with ZZX or kiss him in public but he’s not always that confident. JY is surprisingly good at hiding behind a happy-go-lucky smile and carry the hurt and insecurity caused by prejudice in his heart. Those deeper feelings occasionally burst out when his guard lowers.

Again, this is just an overall vibe I’ve gotten from JY’s character. But I’ve always felt like he’s processing the whole thing of being in love with someone of the same sex on a deeper level than the others. I feel like his feelings for ZZX are connected to his identity more explicitly and him coming to discover himself sexually in the same way that real-life people would.

Compared to the three other boys, I think ZZX has always been a solid straight to me. I think before JY’s confession he identified as a heterosexual. He just was the kind of teenage boy who found girls and crushes too troublesome and annoying (ch. 51, 52, 102):

I doubt the idea of being in a relationship with another guy had really popped into his mind as an option. JY’s confession and feelings for him as a guy came as a big shock to him. Their first kiss seemed to tumble everything down in ZZX’s head and force him to figure everything - JY, himself, and his relationship with JY - from the beginning (ch. 151, 152, 165):

I believe a lot of it was rebuilt the same way but there were definitely changes and also room for future changes. A lot of the feelings ZZX already had for JY - protectiveness, affection, deep sense of bond - could also be applied to a romantic relationship. I believe they’re also the building blocks that ZZX as a character would want to cherish in his romantic relationship. All ZZX needed to do was to shift his point of view a little when it came to JY and see how he felt about it.

As big of a mental turmoil as I’m sure ZZX went through, I think it’s safe for us to assume what his resolve was. I might be too generous with my interpretation but this moment made Zhanyi canon in my head (ch. 209):

ZZX didn’t exactly return JY’s feelings in the same sense but he accepted them. He might not be ready to give all the things JY wants yet but he made a promise that JY will have a future with him. JY won’t have to feel insecure because ZZX will always be beside him. He just needs more time, and JY has to be patient.

But I suppose that once again the question of ZZX’s current orientation remains. And I don’t have a solid answer this time, either. I still read him mostly as a heterosexual, though. Just like MGS, I can’t really see ZZX in a relationship with another guy besides JY. However, I think that ZZX is also the type of character who puts more emphasis on the bond of the relationship rather than his partner’s gender. But...still, I imagine it would be quite a hump for him to discover that he could have feelings for guys in general, too.

“in this kind of comic is usually characters are just in love with someone but no anyone else”

This is very true and also partly why saying anything one way or another is quite difficult. In the story, the characters are in love with one other person, but you can’t make assumptions or conclusions based on just that. Just because you’re in a same-sex relationship doesn’t mean you’re a homosexual. Whenever I wonder about the orientations in 19 Days, I try to keep this in mind but I also feel like the vagueness allows readers to make multiple interpretations. I get certain vibes that point me in certain directions but I completely understand if others end up with other kinds of readings.

However, this kind of “he’s only gay for him” is also something I’ve seen BL been criticized for. It makes it look like men being attracted to other men isn’t a real thing but rather something that happens under special circumstances. Personally, I don’t have a major problem with that - it is what it is, I suppose - but I can see why that would bother people in BL. Do I wish some characters (for example, JY) would come out as LGBT at some point in the story (if you don’t think he already has)? Sure, I’d be interested in seeing that. And I think it would be a natural development for his character. Do I think that’s going to happen? I’m somehow doubtful, not at least in so many words. But that doesn’t really mean the comic can’t tell a story about discovering oneself, as we’ve already come to see.

Thank you for your question, dear anon-san! <(_ _)>

[asexualalienn]

There are so many labels and definitions out there, but all I know is that I don't fit any of the most known labels. I tend to feel very different and wrong about who I am, especially when friends talk about boy/girlfriends/sex, and movies, music etc are always on repeat about the same sex/romance stuff. I feel frustrated and sad as I'm often reminded that I'm different, weird and people don't get me. How do I deal with this kind of situation? What can I possibly do to not feel this way? Thanks!

I can't give you all the answers, I would if I could, but what I can do you give you advice and tell you what worked for me! For a while, I felt the same way that you do, and it took me a long time to figure out how to make myself feel ok about all the romance and sexual content that seems to be everywhere you look. What helped me is deciding to just say screw it, I'm different, and it hurts sometimes and the world isn't always kind to people like me, and favors others over me but who cares? I definitely don't, I'm different and that's what makes me, me! My struggles, my pain, everything I've gone through has shaped me to be what I am, for better or for worse. I see stuff on a daily basis that reminds me that I'm strange to others, that my experience isn't what most people go through, and there's nothing I can do about that except put myself out there, and support the people that do have the same experience. If I hear a love song, why not give it my own meaning? The love song that talks about a partner to everyone else, could talk to me about the feelings I get when I watch something special to me. The show that has what is probably way too many sex scenes in it is now funny because, oh look, the writers are at it again! Making things awkward and embarrassing for so many people watching it together. (I mean, really, are people actually able to write a sex scene and go “Yes, this is good. I'm not embarrassed or uncomfortable in the least!” it doesn't make sense in my mind)

Your different, and that's ok. If you weren't, you wouldn't be you! You're special in your own way, and that's how its meant to be. Would life be as fun if we were weren't asexual? I really don't think so. I have so much extra time because I'm not focused on sexual or romantic stuff, what's important to me is different because I don't have the same thoughts as others when it comes to sex and romance (which is more important to a lot of people than you would think! It takes up a decent amount of time from what I've noticed from friends and family) 

I have walked with my cousin to a girls house, 7 miles in the dark because he didn't want to walk there alone, just so he could go and have some “fun” with her. 4 hours of walking. Aren't you glad you don't feel the need to do something like that? I sure am! So many people with sexual attraction and romantic attraction talk about how important and nice it is and that it's sad that we don't feel those things, but it's not important or nice to all of us. Sometimes we feel like we're missing out because of what we’re told, but in all honestly, we really aren't missing out. Yes, we have a different experience but that doesn't mean we're missing something. I spend my time with my cats, or watching entertaining shows or reading or playing games, and all those things fill me with more happiness than any sexual attraction or romantic attraction ever has (i experienced both a long time ago, even though I no longer do, I promise it's not as great as everyone says, at least to me)

And on the topic of your friends, if its really bothering you, you have the right to ask them to not talk what bothers you when they're around you, at least for a little while so you can figure out how to handle your feelings. What helps me with stuff like that is that when my friends ask for advice, I can give them something other people cant. My view on boyfriends and girlfriends and sex is different from what most people think. Were different and in certain situations that can make what we have to offer more important. Our judgment seems to be a little bit less clouded when it comes to stuff like that, as long as we don't feel strongly about it positively or negatively, were more neutral, and can offer opinions and thoughts that others can't. It's a good thing that your asexual, your unique and can give your friends something special, and can have a completely different life than what's expected. Being able to help my friends makes me feel better, even if I don't like what they're talking about, maybe it'll help you too!

Try to remember that even though a lot of what we see in our day to day life can make us feel like we're wrong and that we're missing out on something huge, we’re just like any other person when it comes down to it. We love different things, we care about different things. There's no hole in your heart that needs to be filled by having romantic or sexual attraction, that spot in your heart is just meant for something else!

Most people won't understand you, and that's not their fault (unless they just won't listen to what you're trying to tell them) they dont deal with your feelings and your thoughts, they deal with their own. You won't understand everyone else, it's a two way street. But, you can always find people that understand you, or are willing to listen and try. It can seem so impossible, and after all this time I'm still have trouble finding people that can understand me or are willing to listen, but it's possible. You can do it, you're not alone, there will always be people that understand you, even if they're hard to find.

If none of what I've said helps you at all, then try to think of stuff like this. Would you hurt another person that feels like you do? Would you find them weird, or gross, or wrong because of who they are? If the answer is no, then why would you treat yourself like that? Your just as important as others, you deserve the same respect and kindness, especially from yourself. 

I'm not sure if this is the kind of response you wanted, or if I even answered everything you wanted answered in the right way and I kind of feel like I just repeated myself over and over again?? But, I hope this helps you, I'm sorry if I didn't respond how you wanted!! Please take care of yourself, your special, your important, your not gross or weird and its ok to feel differently than others!!

- Mod Raven

[ill-be-istj-if-no-one-else-is]

I did my best to put it in some kind of order but it got messy and I'm helpless about what I should write even after having read the FAQ and more than 20 pages of your posts so bear with me, please. The more I studied the functions, the less I know. So I'm really annoyed when people do things in a certain way because that's how it was done - there's nothing wrong with sticking to tried ways but everyone should think why they do it instead of mindlessly following a set path. (1/???)

A note to readers: if I may ask, please hold back your own sarcasm and such.

I don’t explicitly set a length limit anywhere for asks as most people stop at a fairly reasonable 5 or 6 - I’ve gotten extremely long asks only a few other times and those were mostly overnight for me so I didn’t get to weigh in in medias res, so while this person definitely needs to work on editing there’s some good content. Had there been anything egregiously offensive, ignorant, or annoying I’d have been much more brusque or I’d just have blocked them; this was a genuine misread of the situation. It’s really hard for me to define what’s good to send for typing; it’s very much a case of knowing it when I see it and I know that can be difficult for some people to interpret. Answer is below the jump.

Hi anon,

I may have had some mild fun at your expense; when I see someone is 10 messages deep and talking about Mamma Mia I have to say I have concerns about their ability to decide what is relevant information.

Anyway I’m going to answer this piece by piece. This will not be my, uh, least snarky answer; the cost of doing business of mbti typing with me for no money is that I like to enjoy myself. But I will attempt to also provide a good faith answer as you have some solid examples within all this.

I did my best to put it in some kind of order but it got messy and I'm helpless about what I should write even after having read the FAQ and more than 20 pages of your posts so bear with me, please.

As you can see I will not really bear with you but I do appreciate you doing some research

The more I studied the functions, the less I know. So I'm really annoyed when people do things in a certain way because that's how it was done - there's nothing wrong with sticking to tried ways but everyone should think why they do it instead of mindlessly following a set path. (1/???)

I feel like people use this sort of language to be like “please don’t type me as a high Si user” when in fact this is EXTREMELY high healthy Si user. Thought it could be a lower Si user as well. Anyway, moving on

For example, it's sad how many people believe in God just because thats how they were raised without actually reading the Bible (no hard feelings to believers, I also believe)

I’m...not going to unpack that

I like to speak out loud some ideas with no thoughts of acting on them but some people tend to believe I'm dead set on the idea and it causes some misunderstandings. Also, I have at least 6 back up plans for my future in case some of them won't fly. (2/???)

Here’s the deal when people say they’ve studied EVERYTHING and then ramble on for a long time and can’t type themselves I often suspect the issue isn’t that they don’t know MBTI but that they need to learn themselves. Contingency plans tend to be Ne-Si; speaking out loud with no plans to act is pretty normal.

I plan on going to a country abroad in 2 years from now and I've already made plans what I want to see there. I have a list of places I need to visit arranged in order so I could visit as many places in the most effective way because I don't want to waste my precious time spend there. I also enjoy telling people about my plans of going there as it makes me really excited. The unknown excites me and I enjoy wandering around a city I visit for the first time because I don't know it.

I can’t type off of this specifically yet but it’s interesting because you have extremely detailed plans (more of a sensing thing) but for a trip that I can’t imagine you’ve finalized if it’s that far off.

Wandering around cities is great though, I agree with you there.

I'm also really good at remembering routes and getting to the destination. I like figuring out how to get there.

Maybe immature Si user actually? Getting really indignant about poor use of Si, plus that bit about the bible I said I wouldn’t unpack sounds like it could be as well especially if paired with Fe and/or Christian views of religion.

I'm a bit reserved at first as I need to test the waters before I decide I like someone. It takes me sometime to warm up but I actually enjoy small talk and feel tempted to speak to a cashier at shop or a fellow passenger at bus which isn't as socially acceptable at my country so I don't really do this - I don't want to come across as a weird person but at the same time, (4/???)

I'm not really bothered to play a social game and I often seem to be rude (resting bitch face, actually I'm not judgmental and I'm quite chill about most of things). I know in mbti e vs i isn't perceived in a traditional way but I identify as ambivert as most of people, heh. My introverted friends say I'm an extravert but extraverts find me a quiet girl. I'm also 9w1 if that helps.

Yeah I’m thinking ISFJ now honestly, not wanting to violate social norms, introverted but enjoys small talk, and 9w1 goes with ISFJ a lot.

I've been also always thought to be a smart one who knows a lot of stuff about many things (5/???)

I could say I'm a walking contradiction as I mentioned in my previous post btw I'm sorry I asked you to type me with a vague info, this time I put a lot of effort ♡ Oh god please don’t say you’re a walking contradiction, I truly believe your intentions are good here and I do not hold this against you but that phrase is what guys who think they’re going to make it in a band despite having no talent say in their tinder bios.

At first I was sure I'm Ne/Si but now I see a possibility of being Ni/Se.I often forget what I'm supposed to do as I've just done because I had this super relevant thing to write but I forgot, damn it.

You seem very nice and perhaps just sort of young so I would suggest...writing this in advance instead of stream of consciousness which might help you organize your thoughts and edit yourself a little? I’m writing this response in advance. Like 90% of my answers I write in a Google Doc and then paste it into the Tumblr askbox later. It’s great.

(6/???) I'm getting lost in the numbers

Hard same.

I'm also quite stubborn and I'll study a thing as long as it's needed for me to fully understand it - it drives me crazy when I study for an exam, I ask my friend for help because I don't understand the concept and she tells me I don't need to understand it, I just need to memorize it.

Sounds very much like Ti here, which fits the earlier typing of Fe-user.

I do things for 101% or I don't do it at all.

I’m guilty of saying this too; I think many people see this quality in themselves unfortunately and I’m not sure it ultimately means much.

I also have a friend who helps me to stay grounded as she remembers some stuff for me and I'm pretty sure I'll be lost without her (7/???) I didn't think I wrotesomuch

yeah...about that.

I'm quite oblivious on daily basis, I went through school hallway and didn't notice a big ballot box. I only notice things when i want to and it's not a natural thing for me. But when I do pay attention, I'm sometimes mischievous on purpose and enjoy pushing buttons of others. I work on not doing it, I promiseI have a great talent to focusing on irrelevant things and I struggle to do well in my infp teacher classes - even though I know I need a shitload of details from readings (8/???)

So here’s the thing: I really don’t think you use Ni. First of all, the stream of consciousness thing tends to be something Ni users don’t like to do in my experience: they like to edit. They also just...don’t sound the way you do? Like this is rambly but it’s coherent in a way an INFJ ramble of this nature wouldn’t be. You could be an INTP actually with rigid low Si and Fe instead of immature higher Si though. But I’m pretty confident at this point you use the Fe-Ti and Ne-Si axes.

One thing I do find funny, even though I suppose I set people up for it, is when I get asks that are like “here is the detailed description of when I didn’t notice a detail and here is what I didn’t notice”. Like, we do all miss things and while it’s more common in intuitives, my legally-blind-without-glasses Si-dom mother does this too because she can’t see for shit, so.

to do well in exam, I always choose things that aren't relevant to her. She's an excellent teacher and I enjoy her insights. As for Ni/Se, I'm amazed how many things my peers do without thinking about consequences. For example, I wouldn't drink till I'm unconscious because I know I would upset my parents. I perceived it as ni, might be wrong though.

You are wrong in that this isn’t Ni, it’s called basic self-preservation. I’ve gotten extremely drunk from time to time in my life but I have never gotten drunk to the point of involuntary passing out because that is when you fucking die. Your instincts are correct here, your reasoning about your parents is probably Fe, but your decision itself is not Ni.

(9/???) Now, I'm geniually sorry I wrote so much even though I'm not usually but this case is special

I appreciate the apology but this is something I often observe with people who use Fe: they’ll apologize several timesfor long asks or asks that ignore the FAQ or whatever, but like, they still do it. I’ve had to have this conversation IRL with Fe users actually, of “I’m really not looking for an apology, I’m looking for the thing you’ve apologized for to stop.” That is a whole other post about communication though that I may make tomorrow.

I'm also really into helping others[(what contradicts with my mischief, here we go again (I didn't like the 2nd part of mamma Mia as much as the first - it was too sad, I cried in the cinema and the holiday-happy-vibe was missing, it's off topic, isnt it, the second part is called mamma mia: here we go again and I liked the first part so much I watched it like 20 times and know all the songs by heart)] (10/???)

This was the point where I decided to start fucking with you and to turn off anon, not going to lie, because I hadn’t read the rest but I saw 10/??? after an off-topic post about Mamma Mia and was like “okay we’re going to finish it now”

Anyway from this whole thing I cannot decide if you are an ISFJ or INTP, but I’m going to guess INTP as the 9w1 might be what was making me think high Fe before.

[allsassnoclass]

hi again too many thoughts i don't want to hide in the tags: 1. "maybe the person you identify with isn't always the easiest to write" yes 100%, i write michael the most because i identify with him most However he's also the hardest to write. which is very strange to me, but yes.

2. that dating to fake dating idea caught my attention. that sounds very oof in the best way

3. i love that you love writing their friendships!!! it makes me so happy to see/read and it's why fics like puzzle pieces are so good i think (i'm all in favour of not putting romantic relationship above friendships. i think that's so important)

4. i just wanna say please rant all you want about being mad at people making fun of ashton. i will be mad with you. superbloom era also scarred me for that lmao i remember that we were both thinking the same thing last year. so!! yes all the way!!! let's not make fun of ashton just because we don't understand what eh's trying to say yeah :') i say that as someone who doesn't particularly identify with or relate to him. i still love hearing everything he has to say. sorry to bring your rant out of the tags lmao but i also feel VERY passionately about this :') -taylor<3

hello hello welcome back

1. it's so interesting how that works out! because you'd think that would make them easier to write, but it doesn't

2. i'm pretty excited about it right now. it's got some interesting stuff happening in it and as someone who doesn't do a lot of angst it's been fun to come up with ideas and be like "ooo. that will hurt the readers."

3. they make it so easy!!!! it's so easy to write 5sos fic because they have so much platonic love for each other that we get to see. if you're writing slash the love is there, you just need to switch it to romantic! and if you're doing some nice friendship stuff you have So Much to work with. and yes I am a very very firm believer that romantic relationships are not more important than friendships, which is also probably why the vast majority of my fics are friends to lovers, as you need to actually be friends with your partner for a romantic relationship to work out. anyway. i feel like having puzzle pieces be my third fic i wrote really set the tone in that regard

4. yeah i know that at this point the period of time i'm ranting about was over a year ago but the fact that i still get worked up really shows how much it got under my skin lol. my least favorite thing was that Every Single Time He Posted everyone would be like "what is he even saying he's so pretentious and incomprehensible" and like. i understood what he was saying every time. it made me feel really weird, like because i was on the same wavelength as him everything that they were saying about him also applied to me. it also was just frustrating because genuinely nothing he said was that hard to get. like it got to the point where he could've posted "i like apples" and people would've still said that he's pretentious and makes no sense. it genuinely made it a lot harder to enjoy his content, which was super unfortunate given that he was the only person posting and it was promotion for his solo album. in the circles i run in, ashton is always the one who people talk down about the most. and yeah, he's weird! he says some strange things! but that's his right because it's his social media. he can post what he wants. he also says some really beautiful things and he has really interesting ideas about human connectivity and our place in the universe. like, i'm sorry that you don't have enough empathy to take a second to leave your own ideas behind enough to see what he's saying? but don't ruin it for the rest of us.

it also really bothers me when, more recently, people call him privileged or pretentious for his mental health advice. he definitely is privileged (he's in a job that he loves, surrounded by people he loves, and he doesn't have to worry about financial struggles, which are things that negatively affect the mental health of a lot of people i know), but on twitter a few months ago someone asked him what helps him and he said something about gratefulness and i think he said something about how he finds yoga helpful because it helps center him. and i get why people would be like "yoga doesn't cure depression you idiot" but that's not what he was saying!!!! someone asked him what helps HIM and he answered. PLUS, little things like that CAN HELP if they work for you! changing your mindset from a more negative one to a positive one (making note of things you're grateful for, for example) can help you enjoy the little things more and lead to an overall more positive experience. and the physicality of something like yoga can also help with the release of different hormones in the brain that can help you, plus if it's part of a routine then those can help as well. (when i was in my Nightmare Internship we all were having breakdowns left and right. one girl started getting up early to do yoga every day because it was something that she used to do at home and it helped her start her day on a positive note, plus she really enjoys the physical feeling of muscles stretching.) he didn't claim that that's what cured him (we know the guy has gone to therapy. he has sought professional help for his mental health) but when someone asks him what helps him and he gives an honest answer it really bothers me when people call him pretentious or privileged for it. like, was he supposed to lie????? what do you want from him??????? it felt a little like that tumblr mentality of "this little thing isn't going to make me neurotypical so i'm going to hate you for suggesting it even if it could help make things a little more bearable." like. he never claimed that it would. he's not saying that you don't need to actually seek professional help. but if someone asks him about his own strategies for managing his mental health and he answers honestly i don't think he should get called privileged for it, especially when something like acknowledging things that you're grateful for is something that everyone can do regardless of how busy you are or how much money you have.

anyway. the way that people interact with ashton's content as opposed to everyone else's really bothers me sometimes. that rant did get away from me this time but apparently i have thoughts lol

[awed-frog]

Hey, I was just wondering do you have any thoughts on Barthes, death of the author? And I guess in extension the return of the author? Also slightly related, have you ever read any of Chris Krause's work? I read I love dick and I'm rather conflicted, I don't like the character but then I identify with her? Anyhow all the best x

Okay, so - as a disclaimer, I never had tons of classes in any of this stuff, so I’m hoping what follows makes some sense? If it doesn’t, it’s 100% my fault.

Anyway: the tl;dr is, I hate it with a vengeance and I never use it. On the contrary, it is very central to my life, and as close a certainty as I have on anything, that whatever we consume we should always ask ourselves: who is saying this? And why? And most of all, cui bono?

Oh, and a second disclaimer is that what I’ll allow *waves a generous hand* is that, like many other extreme, rebellious or wacky theories of the 1960s, it was probably Good and About Bloody Time that someone pushed back against the status quo, because some things back then needed to be broken down - but that doesn’t make those movements rational or right in themselves, you know what I mean? What matters is not the wrecking ball, but the new thing you’re planning to build on the ruins.  

So - imo there are two big problems with the concept of ‘death of the author’ - one is the theory itself, and the other is how this theory is understood on tumblr and fandoms (from what I see on my dash, that is).

First of all, Barthes basically says that to understand a text, we shouldn’t go and explore its author (their life and other works, the historical context, what they’ve read and talked about with friends and stuff like that) because the author is born with the text, and the text already contains all that it’s necessary to its full understanding; also, the reader will supply the rest, because, in a way, the reader creates the text - and gives it meaning - just as much as the author.

To be perfectly honest, to me that’s downright bullshit. Knowing who the author was and what was happening around them is paramount to understanding what the hell the text is trying to say, you know? For instance, knowing Orwell took part in the Spanish Civil War makes Homage to Catalonia much more poignant, and the fact Burgess went through the exact same ordeal he describes in A Clockwork Orange (his wife was attacked and brutalized by a group of American soldiers in 1944) will change the way you read the book, as it bloody should, and the same is true of literally everything else, in my opinion. For instance, last week we went to see The Greatest Showman, a biopic of P. T. Barnum that’s horribly inaccurate and almost a parody of itself; but knowing full well what the polical climate is like today means I actually sort of liked the movie despite its many faults, because I recognized it as what it wanted to be: a ‘hymn to freakishness’, an exploration of what it means to be different, and that’s exactly what we’re in dire need of.

Now - what is true is that we’ll never be able to pin down exactly ‘what the author intended’, because authors may not know themselves and that’s just the world we live in and the kind of creatures we are. I met writers who’re extremely smart, attentive people completely dedicated to their craft, and all of them said there’s always this moment when some reader goes, I liked how that detail with the dead bird was a direct reference to Clara’s illness or something and it’s a light-bulb moment for them, and I mean - they wrote the damn thing, but still didn’t notice that detail was there and why it was important. It probably just sounded right, because that’s what happens when you’re good at something and do it daily: sometimes things just click and work and you don’t even stop to consider the whys and wherefores. But the fact that we don’t have a complete insight into our own minds doesn’t mean we should give up completely on interpreting art and literature, right? What would be the point of that? Because I always perceived Barthes’ theory as a kind of giving up, myself, a kind of Fuck, Le Grand Robert lists 100K words and I’ll never be able to learn all of them, I might as well stop my French classes, you know? And, like, no? You can speak and understand a language with 500 words - and whatever, your glimpse into that world won’t be perfect (and there’s no such thing as perfect, btw), but still better than nothing, right? So, anyway, I don’t much like this theory in itself. 

As to its application to fandom life, well, here is where things get even worse. From what I see on tumblr, people generally think that ‘death of the author’ means their interpretation of what they see is always valid, and also that there is no right or wrong way to understand a story. And this bothers me a lot, because I see it as a direct consequence of a) capitalism doing its best to tailor its products to everyone by leaving out as many details as possible so that, Sure, Luke Skywalker can totally be gay, why not, and here is your Funko pop toy and your stickers and thanks for shopping with us and b) the age-old myth that science, now, that’s a hard and unforgiving discipline where there’s truths and untruths, but in the liberal arts, everyone’s opinion just counts the same (because you don’t need a degree to watch a movie and also the author is dead, so there). But, well - as the people who actually produce the content we enjoy know perfectly well, the author is not dead. There is a message in stories, and there is a right and a wrong way of reading them - if not on all the details, then on the main point of them; and, frankly, it’s weird how on the one hand we celebrate the triumph of this ‘everyone’s opinion is valid’ society we’re building (thus not simply killing the author, but bludgeoning the dead body with a blunt axe) and then on the other we loudly demand a world where artists are ‘unproblematic’ in their private lives (one example: the recent furore over Balthus’ painting in the Met). It looks like truly, this may be the era of the Schrödinger’s Author.

(And let me be clear: of course you’re allowed to like or dislike whatever you want based on your personal experiences and bias, but that’s your opinion, not any kind of truth. Like, a thing I found quite interesting in my personal life was a discussion I had with a woman from New Zealand about Thor: Ragnarok, a movie I mostly hated. One of the reasons for my disappointment in it was how Valkyrie had been represented: to me, her laddish drunkenness represented yet another attempt to insert women in a story while making them behave like men, a trend I profoundly despise. But, as that woman was kind enough to explain to me, from her perspective (and probably Waititi’s, since he’s from New Zealand and has explored the same subject in other movies) Valkyrie’s loss of focus and alcohol problems were there to evoke the plight of the Māori people, who, like other aboriginal communities, were forced into alcoholism and excised from their traditions when the ‘civilizing’ might of the the White Man showed up on their shores. This to say that I still don’t like the movie, but since Waititi was talking to a different audience, and they got the message, I’m wrong and he’s right, because I’m free to have an opinion on anything, but at the end of the day, he’s the goddamn author, alive and kicking.)

As for Chris Kraus, I don’t know her at all. I heard good things about the TV adapation of I love Dick? And as for what you say - fiction often reveals deeper truths about ourselves. I’d say that if you feel close to a character you don’t like, well, that’s a good starting point to understand (and change, or maybe learn to love) what it is that you don’t like about yourself? Anyway - sorry for the novel - I wish you a good afternoon/evening/whatever it is where you are! 

[desertgourd]

you say you're picky about who you follow, can you explain more? sorry if I'm bothering you!

  You aren’t bothering me. I started answering by explaining what makes me decide not to follow, but it came out pretty negative. Instead, this is what makes me want to follow, or to take emphasis off of what is honestly just a number, what makes me want to write with you. Under a readmore for length and unpopular opinions and a healthy amount of venting, probably.

  Quick disclaimer - not everyone’s blog is for everyone. It’s okay for people to have different preferences and styles, and my preferring ‘x’ doesn’t make ‘x’ any better than ‘y’ or vice versa. I’m not plenty of people’s cup of tea either. Please keep in mind that we’re all just here to have fun.

  I follow people who write genuinely. Any sort of purple prose, even constantly saying “the female” instead of a muse’s name, or “(gemstone) (synonym for eyes)”, is a turn-off. I like people whose posts aren’t composed by playing pin-the-tail-on-the-thesaurus, and who don’t bold/italicize/underline every other word, use weird spacing, or use strange glow fonts or scripts. This detracts from the emotional punch that a reply should be because now I have to decipher whatever the heck it is you are trying to say. I like people with themes that are easy to navigate and easy to read. Links that are easy to find and colors that contrast (light text on dark background or vice versa) are wonderful. I love when people focus on the content of their writing rather than trying to shoehorn in headache-inducing effects or “fancy” words that only serve to make their writing stiff and robotic.

  I write a lot of dark content, but I’m aware of a subset of roleplay culture that believes writing about a subject automatically equates to condoning that subject in real life. I appreciate people who recognize that exploring a subject in a fictional, harmless avenue with consensual partners in properly tagged and read-more’d posts is a perfectly normal and appropriate way to process feelings or past experiences with these dark subjects in a safe and controlled manner. Otherwise, all of us Naruto fandom folks would be advocates for child soldiers, child abuse, torture, murder, and so on. If I see anything in someone’s rules along the lines of “I won’t talk to you/interact with you if you roleplay x subject”, I’m not interested.

  I like roleplay blogs that write! I like seeing a person’s writing on the first page or two without having to click through dozens upon dozens of pictures, gifsets, or other ooc posts. I don’t like seeing whitewashing (a white faceclaim for an obviously non-white muse), or lots of negativity/drama. There are a couple other red flags for muns but they are quite specific and I won’t get into them here.

  I like characters that are fleshed-out and well-developed. Some ooc-ness is not a big deal to me, it’s more about the effort you put into your portrayal. An in-depth about and/or verses page is very appealing. OCs with consistent, plausible histories are very appealing. I often see histories with huge gaps or information that doesn’t make sense. If your OC shinobi absconded from their home village, they are a missing-nin - a criminal - and cannot simply immigrate to another hidden village and be accepted with open arms. Stacking a plethora of disorders onto your muse then being unable to adequately explain how these issues affect them shows me you don’t really understand your character or the seriousness of psychological disorders (one example - fears =/= phobias). I love OCs with muns who genuinely think about all the ins and outs of their characters and develop a valid and credible background for them. If you’re an OC who follows me and suddenly gets a couple of anons asking nitpicky questions about their history, that’s probably me!

  I tend to prefer blogs with a single character over a multi-muse. I usually only follow multi-muses if I know the mun personally beforehand or if your muses are particularly intriguing.

  I prefer writing with characters I know! I love AUs so I am one hundred percent happy to roleplay with an unfamiliar character provided they have verses I can latch on to. It can be a struggle if you’re an anime blog without much of an about page. Or you might also be an awesome Naruto blog, but if Gaara has no chance of interacting with you except in an AU (which is the case for many characters from the Founders Era, or various minor non-Suna characters), I’m hesitant to approach unless you have some kind of verses page or approach me with an idea.

  Here are some things that don’t matter to me - whether or not you use icons, whether you use regular vs. small text, who else you roleplay with, what genres you like to write, how long you’ve been writing, what pairings you like, and most details about you as a mun, in general. I’m here to write with other people who are here to write, and want to do that in the most enjoyable, fulfilling way possible.

  This all might paint me as an unfriendly dick, but when it comes down to it, it’s a nice feeling being able to recognize every single person on your dash and have an idea in mind for how to roleplay with them. At the end of the day, it’s all just numbers. I’m still happy to roleplay with folks I’m not mutuals with in a more casual manner, and sometimes those small interactions can lead to long-lasting relationships. As always, folks are free to message me for whatever reason, either through asks or IMs.

[letshavepunsoffun]

Tick 1-Is it alright to ask for a matchup? I'm a bisexual girl, about 5'8, short smooth brown hair, green/black/yellow/grey eyes (I have long bangs to hide them, don't like comments about them). Very pale. Freckles. Average weight, though I'm extremely selfconsious about my body, so I only wear baggy shirts and hoodies. Random stuff on my legs, bleh. I twitch and scratch/bite myself when I get nervous or deep in thought. I'm very shy and awkward to start off with, apologise a lot, rarely talk.

| Tick 2- I'm diagnosed with social anxiety and paranoid schizophrenia. When you get to know me, I am very obviously a person with a horrible sense of humor. Dark, morbid, sexual jokes. Puns for days. I like anime, horror movies, superheroes and (dank memes) videogames. I'm creative, I draw, sew and play guitar a little bit. I put myself down a lot, even though I know there's no reason to do so. Never really believe in the compliments I get, so I just answer 'okay' awkwardly.|| Tick 3- I'm very lazy, very impatient, very stubborn, extremely curious and very hard to anger. I'm a pretty open minded person. Brutally honest. I've never had a partner, hell, I've never held hands with anyone before, let alone kissed anyone, so I get flustered easily. I love christmas. Just sayin'. Ihavenomannersatall. I'm weird, random, and I have a lot of fears that I won't bother getting into 'cuz there's so many of them and they're all small n' pathetic, so I guess that's it! Thank you X3

Oh, sweetheart! You’re precious! Also, your fears aren’t small and pathetic. Everyone has something they’re afraid of. Don’t take shame in it. All you can do is work to overcome them. <3I pair you with Underfell Sans!Sans thinks you’re gorgeous. You’re taller than him, but that’s alright. You get to see him frustratedly struggle to reach your face when he gives you a kiss. ;) If you’re laying down together, he’ll often go for your hair. He’ll start braiding it and curling it around his fingers. It’s just so silky, he can’t resist the temptation of touching it. He stares at your eyes when you’re focused on something. He loves them. If you catch him staring, he’ll look surprised, then he’ll smirk and make some pun involving eyes.If he sees you hiding your eyes with your bangs, he’ll move your hair out of your face and tell you to stop doing that. One, because it’s dangerous to not see properly in the Underground. And two, because you’re too beautiful to hide behind your hair.He likes your pale complexion. Being bone, and very close to the color white, it just puts him in awe. Makes him feel “at home” and at the same time, it’s something new. Your skin is soft and it squishes when he pinches it. He thinks that’s amazing. Your freckles only add to his wonder. They’re like little specks of magic darting your body. Sometimes he’ll compare you to the night sky. The only difference being, he likes you a whole lot more. <3He’s not exactly the most well built skeleton in the Underground. So your weight doesn’t both him in the slightest. He’s actually surprised to find out that you’re self conscious. He didn’t think it was possible for someone so beautiful to doubt their body image. You can expect a lot of compliments while you two are at home. And while he doesn’t verbally give you compliments in public, he does shoot you a look that you’ve come to learn means, “You’re hot, babe.”He’s glad you two share a similar “fashion” sense. Comfy is great. Despite the reason why you wear those clothes, he’ll provide you with more. Mostly because he’s best at shopping for casual clothes. Though, he will encourage you to try on some other clothing types. Like dresses, or suits, or whatever kind of less-casual outfits you’re into. He won’t subject you to it, but he doesn’t consider enlisting the Boss’s help to find you a fancy outfit. He decided against that thought rather quickly, realizing you’d have to deal with someone who doesn’t understand low self esteem. He knows from personal experience that it can be taxing. So he’ll just let you build up confidence at your own speed.The moment he sees you biting yourself he’ll intervene. He doesn’t want you doing that. Nervous habits are fine, and some are cute, but he doesn’t think biting yourself is the best way to relieve anxiety. Even though he does it. So he’ll sit you down with him and make you relax. Then he’ll tease you about biting yourself. Kinda counter productive, but hey, he’s trying.When you apologize to him for no reason, he’s confused at first. Then he tells you to just stop, after you do it again. He says you don’t need to apologize so much. And if you keep doing it, he’ll tell you that it’s annoying and to knock it off. Really though, he just doesn’t want you to feel like you need to be sorry all the time. It kind of makes him sad to think you feel like you’ve done something wrong so often. He apologizes a lot too, so don’t feel too bad. You two can help each other out on this front.Sans has anxiety as well. Not social anxiety, and not paranoid schizophrenia. So he doesn’t understand what you’re going through completely, but he tries to. He’ll do his research and try his best to learn how to care for you and help you. When you start panicking over one of these things, he’ll be at your side immediately. If you’re in public, he shortcuts you both home. He just lets you breathe and cry, and do whatever you need to do in order to feel better. He doesn’t expect you to just get over these things. He knows that’s not how they work. So he’ll just have you stay home for the rest of the day, and the day after he’ll question if you’re okay or still on edge.He absolutely LOVES your sense of humor. It’s perfect for him. His humor is very similar. You two will make the Boss go into several rants about many different things. But hey. All in good fun, right?He likes horror movies, though superheros and video games are something the Boss is more interested in. He’ll probably sit and watch you and his brother go at it in some game, while he munches on a snack.Your creativity blows him away. He makes jokes about it, and sometimes they’re mean, but he’s not trying to hurt you. He just wants you to know that he acknowledges your creative mind. Anything you make, he loves. Drawings, sewing projects, songs... He can listen to you play the guitar for hours. And he’ll probably fall asleep while listening too.He gets frustrated when you don’t seem to take his compliments. He’ll stop giving them for a little bit, feeling discouraged. If you tell him why you don’t accept them very well, he’ll understand and go back to giving you compliments. To both tease you, and because he wants you to learn how to accept them. He’s a hypocrite. He can’t accept compliments either. He hardly ever gets them, so he has no idea what to do when people say something nice to him. So he does get your pain. He just doesn’t realize he gets it.He’s lazy and impatient too! Though he’s probably got you beat on the lazy thing. He’s too lazy to be stubborn. He can get curious too, though if he does, you’ll never find him snooping for information. Not that he doesn’t.... You just don’t find him doing it. If you’re hard to anger, maybe you can calm him down. He’s easily frustrated and can go into an angry fit quite easily. While he’s not as bad as Papyrus, he does have his moments. Your open mindedness will probably do you both well. He’s not close minded, however, he doesn’t often consider other possibilities or scenarios when he’s in a rage. You'll need to do that for him.He’s glad you’re honest. Brutal even. Because he is too-- unless he’s lying. He just thinks it’s easier that you two share this trait so you both can understand and expect similar responses to each other in a situation that needs honesty.He thinks it’s adorable when you get flustered, so he’ll tease you and try to make you get flustered as often as he can. It becomes a game to him. Don’t worry, you’ll get desensitized eventually.He doesn’t really care about holidays. So as long as you’re having fun with Christmas, he’s content. He might get a little annoyed by it all, and his anxiety might start acting up... But he’ll get through it. He likes seeing you happy during the holiday. Even if it means he has to participate.He has no manners either.He’ll probably make fun of all your fears. That’s what he did to Papyrus when they were kids. Papyrus pretty much grew out of all of those fears. Sans wasn’t sure if it had anything to do with him making fun of his brother, or if Papyrus was just awesome enough to overcome them on his own. He likes to think he helped. So even though he makes fun of you, he’ll try to help you get over your fears. He’ll also make sure Papyrus doesn’t get word about them. Because if Papyrus knew, he’d probably lock you in a room filled with what ever it is you’re afraid of until you claimed you weren’t afraid anymore. Sans would rather that not happen. Both for your sanity, and his conscious.Awww! I ship it!