#But his gender identity is quite flexible

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[h1biscusgal]

Between spiderverses

(ATSV DR)

“Go back home Miles, go home, and say hi to Spidey will ya?” - Coco.

★ Full name: Chloe Lynn Jackson (Arabic name is actually Lakisha)

★ Name meaning: blooming

★ Nickname: Coco or Lola or Kisha

★ Gender: Female

★ Age: 17 going on 18

★ Sexuality: straight

★ Pronouns: She/her/hers

★ Blood type: AB+

★ Ethnicity: American Egyptian

★ Nationality: American

★ Birthday: 6th April 1982

★ Birthplace: California, Los Angles, USA

★ Zodiac: Aries

★ Current residence: Los Angles

★ Spoken language: English with an Arabic thick accent + Arabic with Egyptian dialect

★ Occupation: highschool senior student, in an undergound band

★ Mbti: ENFP

★ Good traits:

Energetic

Creative

Optimistic

Loyal

Playful spirit

Kind

Quick learner

Responsible

★ Bad traits:

Impulsiveness

Impatience

Inability to focus

Zoning out/bored easily

Overthinking

Sensitive

Clumsy

Messy (yet clean, she is just disorganized)

★ Hobbies:

Painting street art

Sketching and sticking anything to the sketchbook that she has on top of buildings

Listening to rap and rock

Feeding stray cats

Eating

★ Pet peeves:

Insulting someone else for no reason

Overly strict rules

Being told she is “too messy for a girl”

Pressuring

Being unkind towards animals

★ Soft spots:

Close friends and family, or anyone

Animals

Random act of giving her food, food in general

Affection

Hobie and Mayday

★ Phobias:

Trypanophobia (only needles on her body, not to see them randomly, just syringes)

✶ Favorite color: pink

★ Love Language: Affection + words of affirmation

★ Favorite food: brownies and traditional Egyptian warm foods

★ Favorite drink: chocolate milk

★ Admired person: Peter Parker, Tupac Shakur and her mom.

★ Favorite singer/band: Kate Bush, Tupac, Biggie, Rihanna, Eminem, Radiohead and Nirvana, Metallica and also Aaliyah, MJ, Shakira, and some Egyptian singers, Fayrouz, Shalom Harlow.

★ Intelligence level: above average, and yet somewhat dumb in common sense as a joke.

★ Father:

Name = Alvie Aaron Jackson

Ethnicity and nationality = Californian American

★ Mother:

Name = Maleeha (Mabel) Al-Sultan (Mabel Jackson)

Ethnicity and nationality = Egyptian African

★ Siblings: none

★ Relatives (only in Cali):

first of all, on my mother’s side, only mom remained in Cali and others all went home, except for my grandmother who’s still alive

Grandma Karima Al-Sultan

Uncle Charles Jackson + Aunt Olivia Jackson (nee Williams)

★ Cousins:

Name = Sasha Sky Jackson (knows about my identity)

Name = Chase Ken Jackson (knows about my identity)

★ Pets:

Name = Brutus

Species = dog

Breed = purebreed naturally pinned eared big doberman

Color = pure black with a spikey collar

Behavior = so sweet and gentle, loves new people, but is also protective and quite helps me.

Gender: male

★ S/O: Hobie Brown (EWHEFRW-)

★ World: Spiderman - Across the Spiderverse

★ Earth: earth - 8002

★ Year: 1999

★ Origin story:

just a Californian girl in early 00s, skateboards and the rise of internet, quite a time.

sweet age of 16 a couple of years ago, one eventful night where it all began, being 10 PM outside under the breezy night of L.A, sodas by the vending machine while her group talks about the latest singer on the magazine.

to idly sit there and watching the starry night by the sidewalk, unaware a creepy crawler destinated to climb up her shoulder, and thus, taking it's bite, our hero was born.

★ Spider name: Webby

★ Canon event:

the Betrayal arc, where she found out one of her closest childhood friend was directly link to the cause of such a disaster she managed to almost save herself from being killed, it was quite something seeing someone you love and protect work against you when you thought no one will.

★ Special spider abilities:

despite the normal web slingshots and whatnot, being extremely flexible is actually something she's known for, and, her silked strings of webs are durable more than a normal one, it has some strands of red in them, making it agile and sharp whenever needed, the red strands acts as a venomous paralyzing agent when activated.

★ Spider suit + appearance:

actually just an everyday clothing, low rise jeans and hibiscus tattoos on your back and neck, maybe some other places, hoop earrings and long slightly curly thick brown hair, white mask and to tribute her Egyptian heritage, the spidermask has a blue and black eyeliner around the eye part, along with a gold gem on the forehead.

for a mummified look, to wrap her arms in bandages (diy lol), a necklace and wired headphones to go, usually to wear kohl around her green eyes, moles to adorn the body and face.

★ Earth theme song: California Love - Tupac (instrumental)

"And you don't seem the lying kind

A shame that I can read your mind

And all the things that I read there

Candlelit smile that we both share

And you know I don't mean to hurt you

But you know that it means so much

And you don't even feel a thing." - Duvet, Boa

@cyb3rl0v

[mllemaenad]

Well, everything about this confuses me.

For a start, all the way through I would have thought Taash and Shathann should have had better (and less clunky for the setting) words to describe their situation than pretty much anyone else.

Obviously transgender people are going to exist in every culture, but we've spent a lot of time establishing that Tevinter is quite regressive on social issues.

I mean, they've got fucking slavery for a start.

But beyond that ... Yes, Krem is ultimately a transgender man. But his problem began because as a (presumed) woman, his military career would have been seriously limited, because Tevinter has a sexism issue. Women suffer discrimination. He dressed "as a man" to get better pay and promotions, because his dad was a slave by this point. He nearly died over this! And part of his bond with the Iron Bull comes from the fact that Bull's attitude to all of this is "Whatever. Now get your shield up."

Dorian's personal quest is very much about his people's attitudes to homosexuality. In his case, his father, who had always been an ethical man who refused to go around cutting people's throats for power, broke with all his principles precisely because he wanted to conduct a mind control ritual to stop his son from preferring men. This is quite horrifying.

And Maevaris Tilani is an undeniably brave woman. But her family also has an obscene amount of money and she had a loving and politically well connected father, so her transition did not immediately destroy them. They got her dad in the end, though. And now she's been thrown out. The fact that she's still alive and fighting is a fucking miracle.

But Tevinter now sounds like a place where they run university courses on gender studies. They get to define all the language around this.

But the Qun ... the Qun is flexible on gender, but inflexible on roles. I actually think a more likely scenario in Taash's childhood is that Shathann would have switched over to referring to them as a "son" once it became clear they had a head for combat. And that might have been frustrating for someone who was already struggling with the question. Their mum got that they weren't a good Qunari girl ... but just made the decision on what that meant for them.

Even in Taash's particular situation, I feel like there's probably an out. The Arishok is always male; soldiering is a man's job. The Arigena is always female; crafting is a woman's job. The Ariqun's role is not tied to gender; men and women serve among their priests. Box number three sounds like a solid place for the Qun to put someone like them.

Might that mean Taash's mother pushed them toward a career that they didn't want? Yes! Of course! And that's a solid reason to leave the Qun. "I hate this box, but the Qun can't cope without its boxes" is a thing that comes up. But that's a different argument to the one we're having.

... Probably not? I still don't know why, if this is a Qun problem, Shathann isn't insisting on male pronouns. Her kid fights dragons. Ergo, her kid is a son. Again – clearly a problem for Taash! But not the problem we are discussing.

People in Tevinter were threatened with death over not complying with gender norms. Taash's problem should be "If you're gonna use a sword, we're gonna call you 'he'".

And Rivain ... isn't the whole point of Rivain that it's multi-cultural? There are practising Qunari in Rivain, although Par Vollen might take issue with the idea. It's also got Andrastians, particularly among the wealthy and the nobility, and practitioners of the traditional religion involving seers and the communion with spirits. And all of it gets mixed together into a culture you find nowhere else in Thedas.

Picking Rivaini culture over Qunari culture is a bizarre idea, because the Qun is embedded in Rivaini culture.

I don't know. Maybe I'm missing something. But this whole conversation left me flailing.

Taash is more than welcome to define their identity in a way that works for them. But I don't feel like Veilguard framed any of this in a coherent way.

[animeomegas]

Um I hope you don't mind me asking questions like this, but do do you think any of the naruto omegas play around with their primary genders at all? Like in bed or just in general? Like wearing womens clothes or using more female coded terms?

I don't mind you asking! But I do think there's kind of two questions here. The first being about kink, and the second being about genuine identity. Some characters fit in one, or both, or neither, but they're different.

For example, I think Shikamaru would wear women's clothing in bed, for sure. But it has nothing to do with genuine identity, in fact it's the opposite for him. I think he gets off on the fact that he's being 'forced' into becoming someone he isn't for his alpha. There's a bit of humiliation there, and that's what he likes. Someone like Lee is more than happy to dress in very feminine clothes if his alpha likes it because he enjoys feeling pretty. But I don't think it's something that affects his identity.

However, there are some characters that I've always imagined as having genuinely more flexible relationships to their primary gender, for sure. I don't know how much vocabulary there would be in Konoha for these omegas to articulate their feelings, or how much open discussion there is. So how much they each know about themselves consciously is up for debate.

It's also difficult to think about how much more complicated gender identity is in an a/b/o world with two intersecting categories. But, here are the ways I sometimes approach some of the Naruto omegas in my head.

I've always imagined Neji deciding to use he/they or maybe they/them if he lived a slightly different life, or perhaps once he gets older and understands himself better.

I think Haku prefers he/him for his pronouns (although I don't think he cares to correct people if they get it wrong), but prefers a lot of other gendered language to be feminine for him. His dress style is also decidedly feminine, at least by the standards I'd consider in my real life. A lot of what he'd wear might be standard for a male omega too.

Naruto has an interesting relationship with his primary gender in my opinion. I don't think he's ever considered that not everyone thinks about themselves in the way that he does. Gender fluid doesn't quite feel right for him, maybe bigender?

There are a few others, but to answer your question, yes! There are absolutely omegas who don't accept their primary gender exactly as it was given to them.

[nyxtickled]

You said your partner is disabled like is it okay if you wanna tell what happened to her cause in the videos she seems fine ?

Ohh and don't respond if it makes you uncomfortable I will understand.

Thankyou 😊

hi anon. i know there are two possibilities here: 1) you truly don’t mean any harm and you are just confused and curious, or 2) you’re well aware that this question and the way it was worded is a bit short-sighted, ignorant and potentially even rude so that’s why you asked anonymously.

i tend to always give the benefit of the doubt when i receive questions like this because my goal in kink is to educate rather than to shame, so i want that goal to carry over into all of my answered asks, whether about kink or not, even if they have the potential to be written with the utmost audacity. as such, i’ll respond to you as though you’re representing option 1.

there are a plethora of disabilities that are considered “invisible” or otherwise unnoticeable to many from an outsider looking in. my gf (and myself as well, if you’d like to get super technical but this is about her so we won’t talk about me here) has quite a few of these, including hypermobile joints as a result of a connective tissue disorder (hence how bendy and flexible she is when she restrains me in crazy surprising ways in our videos), postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome which causes spikes in heart rate and drops in blood pressure almost every time she stands up and causes her to get dizzy and have to hold onto something (i actually have this too but not quite as severely), and chronic fatigue syndrome which causes an unending sensation of debilitating and intense exhaustion even with little to no exertion (i have this severely and the best way i can describe is to tell you to imagine how exhausted you feel when you stay up all night and then have to go to work or school the next day, except imagine feeling like that every time you wake up no matter how much sleep you get).

these are only the top 3 of many that she deals with daily, but they are the best examples of disabilities that cause a major impact on one’s daily life that aren’t necessarily visible to the naked eye. she hasn’t been able to work since 2022 due to fainting and busting her chin open on the job. being disabled is so much more than having to use mobility aids, or missing limbs, or having an injury that makes it easy for total strangers to think someone’s disability is valid.

what i show everyone here on my blog consists of our best tickle moments together. what you don’t see is the buildup that led to us being able to film, like pep talks, excessive planning, taking medication to alleviate pain, etc. what you also don’t see is the recovery time, exhaustion, soreness/inflammation my gf might experience from rolling around with me and using her hypermobile joints and flexibility to wrap around me and pin me in crazy ways, the flare-ups that can last days as a result of us having a particularly rowdy session with each other, etc. this is why i have to ask everyone who discusses custom commissions with me to be patient, so if you’re reading this and you’ve ordered a custom but you’re still waiting, i appreciate you very much. and i’m sure i have probably already told you this, but it will be made, no doubt about that, we simply can’t rush it and we can’t predict our limitations.

in the future, anon, i would encourage you to leave out the part where you say “in the video she seems fine” when you ask someone what their disabilities are. many disabled people “look fine” and once you realize that, you may be able to understand more about the spectrum of disability as a whole. it’s like autism, or adhd, or gender, or literally anything else on a spectrum. it’s not defined by what you see at first glance, and there are many different ways to identify. and that identity has nothing to do with how you appear on the surface.

exene & i are hugely open to talking about/advocating for anyone with chronic illness/disabilities in public spaces, so it’s not the question itself that was problematic. it’s just the presumptions that came along with it. i hope this helps 💓

[yourfuckingmomdotcom]

Yandere Goth x GN! Reader Drabble

As someone who is goth, I wanted a goth yandere that reflected the subculture a lot better than I’ve seen some do. Not that others do a bad job, I like a lot of them, but they focus on the look more than the subculture itself and I wanted to reflect my experience a smidge. Word Count: 840

TW: Yandere stuff, stalking, teeth outside of the human body, anxiety mention

🖤 Yandere Goth, living just outside of a major city ends up drifting across the lamp-lit streets whenever he finds himself bored. In a sense, he likes the barren streets with the absence of loud noise and diesel in the air. It doesn’t help that his apartment is quite overstuffed with dark-inclined paraphernalia, or that he struggles to sleep most nights because he prefers to sleep from dawn to the afternoon.

🖤 Yandere Goth, who runs and manages an invite only goth club. It’s slightly elitist and snobby, but he can be very flexible when it comes to guests and the music is always killer. Luckily for him, he has the final say so in who can get in, and more importantly who he can kick out. He will eventually kick out anyone that even attempts to look at you in any way other than a slight glance. 🖤 Yandere Goth, who presents as mostly functional as far as yanderes go, but actually is just hiding all that he does for you. That guy who tried to get flirty in the club? He was “kicked out”, but so were his teeth in the back alley after he dragged him out. Heaven forbid someone attempt anything worse, it won’t end well. Though you did get gifted highly realistic tooth earrings a week later, you thought it was charming assuming the teeth were resin fakes. 🖤 Yandere Goth, sews his own attire due to the fact that there’s not many masculine goth brands that don’t cost a lot of money. Eventually he’ll offer to make you matching clothes just to touch and measure your body. He’s just obsessed with wrapping around the tape measure around all of your sensual areas, or when he rubs his hand down the unfinished muslin seams on your sides to ‘see how it fits’ or ‘if it’s too tight, which will lead to the thread to stretch and rip’. 🖤 Yandere Goth, who would genuinely explode if you allowed him to make you custom lingerie. It doesn’t matter what your gender identity is, you’re gonna be in the most intricately designed lingerie that anyone could offer… (He also definitely has made some behind your back, he keeps it on a mannequin that he got in your size in his room. When you come over he rips it off and hides it underneath his bed.) 🖤 Yandere Goth, believes heavily in the ‘DIY or die’ mentality. Makes more than just clothes including jewelry, faux-leather items, haircare, makeup, and anything he could possibly do on his own. His love language is also gift-giving, so expect to have mountains of custom gear to your tastes.

🖤 Yandere Goth, he won’t kidnap you exactly. He prefers to be more covert in isolating you. He loves you in his club, so he’ll bring you there for every event at his side. But he tries to keep you from wandering too far, irrationally nervous about what others will do or say to you. Sometimes when you sleep over, he’ll leave and lock the door from the outside. When he returns he’ll claim it was a mistake, and offer to stay longer since you’re already here. Eventually he’d try and convince you to move in. If his means of entrapment didn’t work he might try to kidnap you for real, but that would take a relationship he wasn’t confident in and a worrying amount of anxiety from him to even consider. 🖤 Yandere Goth, doesn’t like to admit this, but he really likes to stalk you in the dead of night. He never does it during the day, but he just likes to watch you sleep when he can’t. It’s almost like a dark reminder that the world around him is asleep, and that he should be getting tired. His dark clothes mask him in the night, so even if you wake up you most likely won’t see him. After he goes home, he gets the best sleep of his life, which ends up reaffirming and justifying this behavior in his mind. It’s a toxic cycle he’s gotten himself into, but if you were in an actual relationship the frequency of stalking would dramatically decrease as sleeping next to you basically knocks him out.

🖤 Yandere Goth, he prefers his desolation but he wants to share his self-induced state of loneliness with you. He pleads with whatever might be out there for you to embrace him in his coldest nights, to dance with him to the monotone bass of his favorite artists, or maybe to just have someone who seems to love him back. He promises that what you provide him, he’ll provide tenfold. Just let him love you forever, and he’ll make sure you won’t regret it… But if you reject him, expect some intense stalking followed by him taking you away where he’s sure nobody could interfere ever again.

[sadlittleratboy]

I once said Tomura vaguely had she/they vibes to me on tiktok, back when I had one, and people ate me alive bc I listed his hair as a reason (and also bc I continued forward with using he/him pronouns throughout the video and I'm like...but that's the canon and I'm talking about something theoretical that I don't necessarily have a hard hc of, they/them Dabi is a different story lol) and people were like "thinking femininity is tied to long hair is transphobic and misogynist and blah blah" and it's like no you completely missed my point.

Firstly, I know that, because back when I was a girl and embracing my femininity in ways that I won't now that I identify as more masculine, I had short hair. I always had short hair. Androgynous girls with short hair lead me to the conclusion of being nonbinary.

Secondly it's not about the hair length, it's about the hair STYLE. Every transfem I've ever met started with that style or similar when it grew out. It's cute, it's fun, they're playing with long hair for the first time or even just in a new context.

It's also just about the general vibe. I listed elegance as a reason too, just the way he moves, but nobody considered how he's also so NOT elegant sometimes. It's the type of elegance he has, because there are so many different types. It's also int he way his so expressive. He shows so much on his face, which men tend to do in manga but it just feels different with Shigaraki. Again, I'm going on vibes.

Also being a nonbinary girl suits him because he'd be a total girlfailure, a loser girl, and I love that. Every transfem I knew was also a massive nerd. Most importantly I don't see him performing femininity in a traditional way. He is performing femininity by identifying as feminine and performing. He wouldn't change how he dresses or talks, he would simply realize that his identity isn't quite what he thought and run with it, because that's the kind of person he is. All those masculine codes brash actions like putting his feet up on overhaul's table to show dominance, and using ore, none of those things NEED to change because gender is so complex and that's FUN.

Again. This is mostly off vibes. I know a lot of people that think it/it's or other neopronouns suit him, and I can see that, especially with the way he dehumanizes himself (and with his stinky rat behavior, something a lot of nonbinary people, myself included, identify with), but that element actually makes me personally stray from that hc. Shigaraki dehumanizes himself in a negative way, and I think that's not good for him. Of course an argument can be made for that being the call all trans people have to be vaguely inhuman and monstrous in ways that only we really understand, so I don't think it's a bad hc at all.

I mean honestly he reads trans masc just as much. A lot of the league reads kind of trans because we tend to see ourselves in weird little outcasts. It's just a vibe a get from him. A lot of the she/theys I've met just also kind of have this "fuck gender and expectations, I'm doing my own thing over here".

Also there is of course the constant of Shigaraki chosing how he identifies himself and defying the expectations other people have placed on those identities. He's Shigaraki because he is, not because of AFO. That's his villain name because he connects to it. Despite all that he constantly gets deadnamed too. It's just...the vibes, the ability for anyone to read into anything what they want because their own experiences and it will fit because fiction is flexible (and even when it doesn't, does it matter?).

Anyway, his vibes, his masculine features and mannerisms along with the feminine ones and the feeling of being feminine even without having to conform to it (much like Magne did, and lots of people read her design as transphobic but tiger was literally there performing as a full transitioned man still comfortable with his feminine side, and it's like...all the trans women I know don't bother to shave and wear masculine clothes either occasionally or always even after starting hrt). It's finding a home within yourself as you slot the missing pieces into place and realize you find joy in different pronouns because they better describe you. Every trans person has their own wild ass journey and uses different ways to describe themselves with different things that bother them or don't and I think trans hc are fun for that very reason.

[mamamittens]

Super rough sketch design of my String Bean OC lol, details still in the works I'm just trying to figure out vibes ngl

Gave em a fun pose to start the process.

I like the idea of crazy ass hair and there's just these random ass spools secured with braids. Couldn't quite get across the idea but the current plan is eyes that weirdly reflect the light that's around them? Like, during the day it's the same color as the sunlight and night the moonlight. I suppose during new moons they'd be black? Lol?

Naruto eyeball bullshit basically but idk how much I'll stick with it. Did want the pupils to reflect literal light though.

Not totally dedicated to the purple honestly, but maybe I'll like it more if I added a secondary color? Or maybe that's a bit much??? There are some interesting hair colors but it's usually pretty standard and toned down for anime hair, gravity defying antics aside.

Gender still undecided and who knows, they may remain gender fluid/neutral. Something something constantly manipulating near raw yin and yang chakra with coils so flexible they can handle most chakras with practice makes them, at their core, very flexible identity wise.

Did decide I wanted their personality to be deliberately a little weird. Like, they enjoy contorting and walking like a toon character cause they don't have a lot of friends if any. So it makes them laugh if nothing else. And they're honest but the shit they say sounds so wack no one takes it seriously most of the time.

Shit like

"Okay, what kind of clothes are you wanting made?"

"What kind of clothes?"

"Well, yeah. If you want pajamas, making it so you can fling fireballs with a wave would probably not be advised."

"Ugh, just normal clothes, thanks"

"...alright! Normal it is!"

They can, in fact, do that with sun threads and some mild seals. Not permanent work, but pretty long lasting.

Hyuga hate looking at them cause they mend their own clothes with raw thread and it's like looking at a lazer show for them. Professional clothes they use regular thread, maybe soaked in a particular light for, since the raw stuff tends to dissipate over time.

Originally wanted a colorful wardrobe but I think I'll leave the color for their cute little caplet lined with pockets and needles. They're very handy, having taken up a lot of hobbies in their spare time.

The weirdness chills out by A LOT when they are around an actually friend. Otherwise it's Space Cadet Central in here.

Had the small idea of Danzo trying genetic bullshit but eventually ruling out their family for even base stock for his special little soldiers cause they're all so fucking spacey and can't seem to focus the minute they're outside. It's cause of the whole 'seeing light as malleable form" thing but he never quite managed to get that part from them before killing them off. The fun part about having someone so morally deprived is that, technically, an OC like this one could be related to ANYONE lmfao, cause some of these science bitches didn't give a FUCK about robbin graves.

If they're a civilian it would be hilarious if they were "home schooled ninja" because of how useful basic ninja training is out in the field. Mainly strength bullshit and endurance honestly still very on the fence about the ninja bit.

All I really know for sure is that they're Super Weird A Lot and Very Unfairly Pretty for Max Confusion. And Tol. Very slender and Tol.

[notjeffthompson]

Full Name: Jeffrey 'Jeff' Thompson Jackson Harris Name Origin: He got the name Jeff because it sounded similar to his actual name and his handlers thought it would be easier for him to keep as much of his real backstory as possible so it would lessen the chance of a slip up. Nicknames: Jeff, Thompson Age: 30 Birthday: August 25th Gender & Pronouns: male & he/him Sexuality: heterosexual Relationship Status: single Patronus: Wolf Boggart: Clowns Wand Type: pine with a dragon heartstring core, quite flexible Occupation: Shop clerk at Borgin & Burkes MACUSA Auror Affiliation: Death Eaters Order Face Claim: Rege Jean Page

Key Information/Bio Jackson Harris was born to two muggle parents, both of them shocked when he started displaying magical abilities at the age of two. They had no idea what was going on with their son until they had encountered a witch who had explained everything to them. Once they knew what they were dealing with it became easier for them to wrap their head around it. While they were scared at first, they came around to it, always loving and supporting their son despite having no knowledge of the magical world. Jackson attended the Ilvermorny School of Witchcraft and Wizardry, graduating with top marks and going into Auror training immediately after graduating. Despite the fact that most of his classmates were accepting of him and didn't make a fuss about his muggle upbringing he always felt the need to prove himself, only satisfied when he reached top marks. He had heard whispers about the war in England and the situation getting worse, so when the time had come for someone in their department to go to England and infiltrate the Death Eaters he'd been the first one to raise his hand. The job was dangerous and technically the MACUSA had no jurisdiction in the UK, but he knew that once he had enough information he could approach the Ministry's Auror department and had over all the intel he had gathered. He had been given an entirely new identity and background, adapting the story of one of his pureblood friends and former roommates. He had begun working at Borgin & Burke's shortly after his arrival in England until with time he had been invited to join the death eaters. He wore the dark mark on his arm, concealed to the naked eye. He hid it even when he was home alone, disgusted with the symbol of prejudice. He had never planned to stay in England for this long but there were more and more death eaters spawning by the minute and if he could gather information to ensure they would spend their lives in Prison, it was a sacrifice he had to make. For the good of everyone.

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Hi! I love your blog and your posts make me so happy. Anyway, I was wondering if you had some advice.

I know I'm bigender, and one of my genders is male, but I can't figure out what the other gender is. I'm split between neutrois and maverique (or maybe I'm trigender with all three?)

Anyway, I was hoping you could maybe tell me how you figured out your genders were male and neutrois, and/or have some advice on how to narrow my other gender down. Thanks! :)

There was a long stretch of time after coming out as a demiboy where I would pick apart my gender and try to figure out exactly how it all came together. I figured since I'm part male, there must be another part there.

I made a list of things I knew that other part wasn't - it wasn't female, genderless, fluid, flux, or xenic. It wasn't an alignment and it wasn't just nonexistent. I knew it had to be something, so I would look up terms unrelated to being male or female or genderless to see what I could find (I was looking into aporine terms, which I didn't know the name of until much later.)

I sort of fell into the term neutrois after looking into what "neutral" meant. I didn't know neutrois encompassed neutral identities and assumed it was a similar term to agender (because of the black, green, and white colors of the flag), so I avoided even looking at it. It felt like it fit me after researching some different neutrois experiences and seeing how people would use the term for themselves.

Honestly, I feel like there are a number of other terms that can fit in place of neutrois. At the time, a couple years ago, that's the label that worked for me the most. But right now, I'm starting to question it again after discovering the term outherine (which is such a beautiful term and a beautiful flag!) I'm not quite ready to take on a new label, but I do know at some point I may just do that.

Find your "for now" term. It could be neutrois or maverique, or even both. Maybe you are trigender. Maybe it's bigender. That part is up to you. But it helps to know that it could change at any point and that you can consider your identity to be flexible. That's a normal part of the experience. - 💙💚

[breathetender]

luther maynard && gender.

when luther was born as the son of sebastian and allison grant, their parents were delighted. it wasn't long before sebastian became concerned about the masculinity of their child, though. luther was always soft in a way that sebastian resented, considering he'd wanted a rough and tumble boy to teach baseball. luther was far more interested in playing chef than sports, asking to learn how to sew from their mother, getting the "girls'" toys in kid's meals at fast food joints, etc.

once grown enough to start considering their gender, luther initially chalked up these differences to just not wanting to be like sebastian. they do experience some version of masculinity, after all, and so their aversion to traditionally masculine activities must have been borne of their resentment for their father! but in high school, after sebastian has died and luther is free to breathe easier, they begin experimenting. zoe, their first girlfriend lets them borrow her pink clothes, puts lip gloss on them, calls them pretty, and it begins a slow, dawning realization.

for a long time, they keep their femininity close to their chest, hoping to keep it quiet, reserved for only those closest in their life. they're still soft in all the ways that sebastian hated. they gift their friends freshly baked loaves of bread, they're much more likely to buy something if it's pink, and they're sensitive and considerate in a way that sebastian would've trained out of his boy, if he'd had his way.

but in becoming more familiar with the queer community, no longer seeing it as just a potential outlet for sexual repression, they LEARN. they're able to observe the swings in their feelings, note the way their presentation and impulses vary, and begin exploring what identities feel right to them.

luther's presentation hasn't changed much since coming out as genderfluid in their late 20s. their general attire includes suits, sweaters, and t-shirts with jeans or slacks. they've grown more comfortable wearing jewelry and prefer gold jewelry over anything else, and they'll paint their nails on occasion. they're also prone to wearing more feminine underwear than a stranger may expect, favoring pink and lace and silk.

in terms of their physical transition: since recognizing their dysphoria, they've begun staying more clean shaven to manage it. they've also considered bottom surgery, but they're not at a point where their physical dysphoria outweighs the thought of undergoing such an intensive surgery. their primary source of bodily dysphoria comes from 1) their hair, 2) the sharp angles of their body, which has been mitigated somewhat with a change of workout routine, and 3) topping during sex. what started as a suspicion of being a SELFISH LOVER was recognized as a discomfort with using body parts that don't feel quite right most of the time. that being said, luther is genderfluid and there's times when they'll happily top but it's QUITE a rare occurrence.

(as an aside, as well— the above may change. to be frank, i would really like to write a luther who does not have to deal with that ever-present, quiet itch of dysphoria in the back of their mind. they deserve that much. but like i said, i don't think they're the type to trade their familiar, manageable discomfort for a daunting major surgery, which may have results that are beyond their control, potential complications, etc. it's a precious thing to me, to portray trans bodies realistically, contextually, and with complexities that don't fit so neatly into the established boxes that most media lays out for us. so i'll appreciate my writing partners' flexibility as the fine details of luther's transition may shift depending on verse. for example, in any verse set in the future or where magic exists, luther will have some semblance of bottom surgery since it can be assumed recovery is easier and results are more predictable.)

in terms of their social transition: if it's a verse where they're a correctional officer, they are NOT out at work since it would not feel safe for them to do so. but they're out in every other aspect of their life, including family and friends. luther's mother was accepting. she was baffled by the terminology at first, but then said "well... that makes sense." and henri was privy to the whole process of their gender realization so it came as no surprise to her.

luther is content with they/them, he/him, or she/her pronouns. they're most familiar with the first two sets of pronouns, and typically have a slight preference for those since she/her is INCREDIBLY affirming for them on feminine days, but on their more masculine days, it can be jarring. in terms of name, they're fine with luther, they like "luth", and folks get extra brownie points if they call them "lulu" on a femme day.

[captain-crackship]

Hi. I made this subtle change to my bio recently but I felt the need to address it here.

The first thing I should start with is that when I first joined Tumblr I identified as "androgyne" but that label never quite sat right with me as my gender identity was more of a middle ground between femboy and tomboy. I now identify as "themboy", which is the commonly used label according to Reddit.

My pronouns are she/they. I don't feel comfortable just using one or the other, it has to be both.

The second thing I should address is that I am a homoflexible lesbian. What this means is that I am primarily attracted to women and femspec genders, but there is a very marginally slim off-chance that I will experience attraction to someone on the other end of the gender spectrum. Some consider this as part of the multisexual spectrum or the abrosexual spectrum. I don't consider myself either of those things but that doesn't invalidate others who do.

I've seen some takes online claiming flexibility to be bi erasure when it really is not. Bisexuality is generalized attraction to two or more genders at all times. Flexibility is very context-specific.

That is all I felt the need to say here.

[treesandwords]

One thing I've realized about Jamos that is super important to his character is how much of a hypocrite he really is.

His whole ~thing~ is wanting to retain what little remains of the Dviric Empire in the face of other newer powers. Which makes some sense - he's seen firsthand the decline of the old ways of living and the downfall of his own family's power, and sees it as his duty to bring it back. But his concept of what the old empire was actually like is quite skewed.

This comes out especially in his concept of gender roles. The Dviric Empire actually was pretty flexible surrounding gender and sexual identity; yet Jamos isn't. His ideas around those things are way more in line with the more rigid values of the Gamilar culture that conquered the Dviric and has been in a slow yet steady rise to power over the past few centuries. But he clings to it, because it's what benefits him. His vision of the empire he longs to bring back isn't accurate - it's all based around elements of that system that would benefit him specifically, even if they aren't true Dviric traditions. His facade is that he cares about his family's history and culture and mourns the loss of it, and while that pain is genuine, his true goal is more about using that pain in others to help build a pyramid that he is on top of.

[gleefulhq]

character name. blaine anderson

age & date of birth. 29, january 31st

gender identity & pronouns. cis man, he/him

occupation. music teacher/musician/writer

personality traits. loyal, artistic, genuine, influential, caring, articulate, flexible, dramatic, anxious, insecure, impetuous, idiosyncratic, self-destructive

here’s what you missed on… 

after graduation he headed to New York City with his fiance and friends.  however, things didn't go exactly to plan and nothing was quite how he imagined it would be.  his insecurities from the year before reared again- even though he was sharing a living space with his fiance and they tried not living together for a bit which made things worse for him.  it wasn't long until they called off the engagement and ended their relationship.  blaine also had a bit of a late bloomer growth spurt between graduating from McKinley, and his second year at Berklee.

things didn't improve for blaine at this time.  he struggled and ended up leaving school and returning to Ohio.  there, he offered to work with the warblers (attempting to fix what he saw as a karmic wrong) and gained back a bit more of his spark.  the next year blaine returned to school, this time at Berklee in Boston.  

things began to click again for blaine, at least academically, professionally.  over the next almost a decade blaine completed a bachelor of music education and began teaching at a prestigious private school in Lowell, MASS.  in the summer, and on weekends, blaine even began performing again himself at open mics, festivals, and busking in the subway.  he credits to helping him bring a show choir to nationals for the last three years, placing at least top five all three years- winning the competition the last two years.

this past summer, blaine returned to Berklee to get his masters in music composition and is continuing in the program part time while teaching part-time this year as well.  secretly, blaine has this idea of writing his own musical.  his modest nature says in likelihood it will be just for his school to perhaps put on, but sometimes he likes to daydream about taking it to broadway; or off-off broadway. this part time teaching is what has allowed him to return to Ohio for the holidays.  teaching, and his students, helps to fill the void of a family he thought he'd have by now. 

 romantically, blaine has not been so successful.  he's had a series of really not nice boyfriends who have taken advantage of his genuine, generous nature, among other things.  even when he managed to date a couple of good men, his insecurities returned in full force and he self-sabotaged relationships with potential.  ever the romantic, baine isn't ready to give up on love, but with his 30th birthday approaching after the holidays, blaine can't help but wonder what is says about him as a man that his most serious relationship was in high school.  maybe he's running away from facing that, and returning to where his one real relationship started and all the good of it transpired.     

the role of blaine anderson is portrayed by tommy martinez, and will be written by bee.

[matrotas-muse-hub]

Zephyr

Zephyr is a rogue from a family with a shady history, a dagger for hire with a little bit of magic mixed in. While his intentions are obscure, anyone that gets in his way is prone to wind up with a knife in their back.

CHARACTER BIO

Name: Velarus Umbram / Xun-Zhu Aurumeum

Aliases: His primary alias is Zephyr, using the alias of “Crow” for certain assassination jobs, and “Adrien” when he is on an infiltration mission into noble territory.

Age: 160

Languages: Common, elven, undercommon, goblin, orcish, demon-tongue

Birthday: Unknown

Species: Ash elf

Gender: Male, very androgynous presenting

Pronouns: Prefers he/him, doesn’t particularly mind if he’s referred to by any pronouns.

Sexual Orientation: Aroace

Profession: Infiltrator, assassin

Physical Details:

Hair: Gray

Eyes: Gray

Skin: Pale with a slight gray undertone

Height: 5'0"

Weight: 100 lbs

Tattoos / Scars: None, due to his family’s physician

Special Items: A magical gauntlet that conjures daggers at-will. These daggers vanish shortly after leaving Zephyr’s grip. Zephyr also possesses a charmed pendant that can change his appearance so that he appears human instead of elven.

Physical Capabilities:

Strength: Slightly above average

Dexterity: Best of the best. Zephyr is incredibly deft, light on his feet, good with his hands, and flexible enough to be considered a contortionist

Hardiness: Above average, especially in regards to his resistance againt poisons

Weapons: Daggers and poisons

Mental Capabilities:

Intelligence: Zephyr is quite intelligent, having studied various subjects in his upbringing. He is naturally adept.

Wisdom: Average to below average. He learns whatever he needs for most jobs, but his worldview is almost exclusively based on his upbringing with little input from others.

Charisma: Most of the time, Zephyr is quiet and somewhat stiff, but when the time calls for it, he can don the mask of a socialite. He’s learned how to act like someone else, and deception is practically his first language.

Supernatural Capabilities:

Shadow-touched: Zephyr has been marked by shadow magic, allowing him to not only wrap the shadows around himself to obscure his presence, but it also allows him to move through shadows. He uses this to infiltrate high security locations by moving right under the shadow of the door.

Zephyr’s Backstory

Zephyr, born as Xun-Zhu Aurumeum, was a child promised to a dark power in an exchange for safety. His birth parents, once parts of the criminal underworld, were trying to put it all behind them and move on. In exchange for erasing their identities, they went to one of the more notorious and secretive factions they knew of; the Umbram family.

The Umbrams are a family of assassins, spies, and all sorts of other “talent” that is popular within the underside of society. Infamous for their skill and their strange organizational structure as a family and not a normal organization, their name is well known among those who dwell in dark circles. The Umbrams agreed to erase the Aurumeum’s identities on the condition that they forfeit their firstborn, Xun-Zhu, who was only a few weeks old at the time. Perhaps one of the umbrams saw something in the infant ash elf, or perhaps they were just cruel.

Zephyr never learned quite how that deal went through, only that it did. He was raised in this adoptive family to be one of their own, and he had an unnatural talent for stealth. While anyone could be trained to use a blade, not just anyone was able to entirely erase their presence. This ended up with Zephyr, once fully-grown, becoming on of the Umbram’s key infiltrators for various missions that required infiltration. If Zephyr did not want to be found, even his own family would have trouble tracking him down.

He lives as a freelancer at the moment, taking various jobs to earn money, reporting back to the family whenever required. He is loyal to the Umbrams, and has mostly surpressed any desire to meet his birth parents. He has, however, in recent years began to yearn for simplicity. The lives that many others live, that he could never have. There is no precedent for an Umbram to leave the family and their line of work, but sometimes Zephyr wonders what could have been.

Various Details:

The Umbram estate is rumored to exist somewhere outside of the normal world, though only its members and closest of associates know how to get there.

Zephyr is respected as a full fledged member of the family, but he has a great fear of some of his siblings, perhaps caused by his ruthless training growing up.

Zephyr is innately tied to shadows, even magically. Being in direct sunlight for too long can cause him physical discomfort and even pain.

Very few people outside of the Umbram family know that Zephyr’s name is Velarus, and even fewer know his birth name Xun-Zhu

[shinra-makonoid]

@count-incel actually thinking thoughts, even gory ones, even violent ones, is ok. Thoughts don't hurt people, only actions do. You don't deserve feeling guilty over things you cannot control, it is not your fault. We don't control our thoughts, only our actions. Do not listen to the Christians wanna be "evil thoughts are bad uwu" they don't wish you good, they only wish to control your thoughts. I'm a fellow "I have violent thoughts" and nothing helps except decrease anxiety and accepting this doesn't mean anything. Thoughts are electric impulses in the brain, and our brains are a bit weird, so they produce these. If you wanna talk about it without judgement don't hesitate to say hi in my DMs.

There is absolutely nothing detransitioners do that is evidence based in regards to "dealing with their dysphoria", it's just a cope with probably some placebo effects and pretending. Some probably are truly dysphoric but they got trapped into an ideology the same way ex-gays do. I like to put the thread of a former big detrans name in regards to that:

It's really informative.

Some bits:

I learned to reframe and interpret my life story and feelings according to radical feminist ideology. I learned to see any sense of being a gender other than woman as something that originated from outside of me, not as part of who I was. People in the radical feminist detransitioned women’s community are encouraged to see themselves as women struggling with gender dysphoria and to see any sense of being a gender other than woman as a symptom to be managed, not an identity to express. While some flexibility is allowed in the name of “harm reduction”, the preferred solution to dealing with gender dysphoria is accepting one’s body and learning to see oneself as a woman. Feeling different from women was seen as a delusion to be overcome. Since people in that community believe that people transition and identify as trans because of social influences, there is a lot of pressure on members to live up to certain standards so as not to be a bad influence on others.

Something that really helped me figure things out was hearing about the experiences of gay people who’d survived conversion therapy. I happened to go to a book reading by Peter Gajdics, where he read from The Inheritance of Shame, his memoir about surviving conversion therapy, and some of what he described resonated with me. He talked about how he became convinced by his therapist that trauma he’d experienced as a child had made him gay and that he needed to stop being gay in order to heal from his trauma and stop suffering. Listening to him, I felt a uncomfortable flash of recognition.

Hearing his story made it possible for me to consider that I’d been fed a lie about how my transness was some kind of traumatic wound I needed to heal from. Something I wanted to believe because I was in pain and desperate and that story seemed to offer me a way out. I started reading more about conversion therapy and noticing more similarities between what I’d read and what I’d gone through but kept this all to myself at the time and didn’t quite let myself accept what I was figuring out. It was like part of me was realizing what was going on and another part wasn’t ready to see what had happened and tried to carry on as if everything was working just fine. It would be years after that book reading before I actually gave myself permission to take my perceptions seriously and get out but it planted a seed and I’m very thankful that I attended.

While I see similarities between my experiences and those of people who’ve undergone conversion therapy and/or participated in ex-gay ministries, I recognize many differences as well. Most of the experiences I came across were those of gay people trying to change their sexuality, while I was trying to dismantle my gender identity. They were also trying to become straight or assimilate into a homophobic Christian subculture that has a lot of power in the larger culture while I was attempting to live as a lesbian in a radical feminist lesbian subculture that has far less power and access to resources. There was also less structure than formal conversion therapy or established ex-gay ministries. The radical feminist detrans women’s community was largely inspired by the consciousness raising groups of second wave feminism, so there was a strong emphasis on detrans women coming together to offer support to each other and figure things out on our own, rather than turning to any kind of professional.

Another differences is that much of my engagement with the detrans women’s community happened online. I became radicalized through consuming gender critical/radical feminist media and began interpreting my experiences through those ideologies. I participated in online spaces where these interpretations were supported and reinforced. In many ways, my experience resembles how people are recruited online into other political ideologies and hate groups. In addition to researching conversion therapy, I’ve also studied online radicalization and how people are recruited into hate groups in order to understand what I went through.

Count incel you are literally insane. I am worried for you and for the women around you. Rape and murder fantasies are weird, sister