#And most bi ppl I know are nonbinary

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cant sleep. yapped for an hour and a half about the Scene,

[mitski-solos]

gay rep in gaming and in kcd2: A Rant

Ok, I'll try to make this as cohesive as possible, but remember that this is a rant after all, so excuse any possible mistakes or typos.

The gay representation in KCD2 is genuinely the most well-done, realistic representation that I've seen in gaming so far. There are multiple types of representation that I see in games, so let's break down what they are, why they do or don't suck and how exactly the KCD2 Hansry romance is superior.

Type N1) forced mechanical bisexuality.

In most RPGs, or really any games where you choose your own romantic interest, there is no gender-based limit on who can romance who, to allow a fully immersive experiance, tho I feel inclined to point out that this mechanic was introduces to gaming quite accidentally during the early era of gaming, when everything was still pixilated to all hell, they js didn't think to add a code prohibiting same-sex relationships cz developers didn't take their existanse into accaount at all, but then some players discovered it was a possibility and that's how mechanical-bisexuality became an almost industry standard, scince it opens up a wider market for the game without feeling "threatning" to the true consumers which everything was marketed towards(str8 white men).

Now, why do I call it "mechanical" bisexuality, u may ask? Well, bc it truly is just that. Mechanical. No character in that game i truly bi, it's solely a mechanic that's easier for developers and more convenient for gamers.

A good example of that would be Stardew Valley. I don't remember which bachelorette it is exactly, but as you romance them, you meet their ex, and the sex of the ex is the same as that of the player. So if you're male, the ex will also be male, if ur female, the ex will also be female. So no bisexuality for you. But ig you could still count it as "gay" rep, even tho for me even that feels very technical and mechanical, as none of it feels actually gay, there is no discussion or reference to sexuality and the weight of being in a gay reletionship is never brought up even if the setting of the game is on earth and not some fantasy world where being gay is considered totally ok and gay ppl arent treated any differently from str8s.

And well, since I brought up fantasy worlds, let's talk abt type N2) gay rep in fantasy.

This can be very well done or absolutely terrible, depending on the writing and premise, and I feel like we can use Dragon Age as the perfect example for both ends of the spectrum.

So I actually haven't played Dragon Age, so my wording or explanations may not be perfect, but bear with me. 

So from what I've heard and know abt the game, the gay rep in old games is great and the way they treat gender is very tasteful and generally well done, at least I've never heard anybody complain. Tho is the newest game, it's... well, let's just say it's not the best. You get this nonbinary character and they spend a lot of time bitching and moaning abt coming out to their mom even tho nothing up to that point has made them feel like their mom wouldn't support them or anything. and look, you may call this good rep cuz oh hey its a real life struggle that they are going thru right? But NO! bc it's the very fantasy setting where being gay is totes cool and ok that i mentioned a second ago and it's not treated the same way as on earth, so taking this character from a utopian fantasy world where even the lable "nonbinary" shouldn't exist bc there is no binary in the first place and projecting this earthly struggle onto them as a sorry excuse for representation feels forced and increadibly boring. Also, some other conversations in the game abt gender were incredibly cringe and also felt very forced, but maybe they were out of context or smth idk but whatever the case may be, it's a separate issue, so let's move on.

type N3) canon gays

So, most of the time, I love all the canon gays in gaming and any media in general.

In gaming, canon gays r mostly in big story games. Like, the first most obvious ones coming to mind would be Ellie and Dina from The Last of Us, or Mileena and Tanya in MK1. Tho those are the only straight up gay gay all up in ur face gay couples that I can think of from AAA games that I've played, so there isn't enough of this type of rep out there. Tho I feel it is the best and most "true" rep in gaming that is the most enjoyable for players AND could be more eye-opening and redeeming for any homophobes playing the game.

So now that all of that is out of the way, you may say, well, aren't Henry and Hans just another case of the so-called mechanical bisexuality? And to that I'll say a very confident no. 

Let's tackle Henry's sexuality first. In both the first and second game, he can get with various women, not even mentioning all the trips to bathhouses, and the only men Henry can get with are Black Bartosch and Hans. The sole existence of the Black Bartosch option is, I feel like, an argument enough to Henry's true bisexuality, but if you choose to turn him down, you need to choose an option saying "I prefer women", so some may argue that there! He said it himself! But there is a second piece of evidence in the game that confirms his sexuality to be canonically bi. When you get to Kutttenberg, one of the first side quests you can do is "A Good Scrub" in which you help the new bathhouse owner Betty safely transport her bathhouse wenches from some inn to the bathhouse. While on the road, you can talk to them and at some point they'll ask you if you prefer tits or ass(game of the year type convos am i right?) and u could either staight up answer ass or tits or you could try to evade answering the question, and if you choose the last option, the girl will joking ask henry "are you sure your don't prefer boys?" and that gets Henry INCREADIBLY flustered, he starts stuttering and can't fully deny it and just mutters a quiet, frustrated "fuck" at the end. Yall that's not a reaction of a str8 person, it's a reaction of a queer man that's just been clocked. Don't even try to deny it.

Now onto Hans. We do see terribly little of him and his interactions with other ppl, but there is still very strong evidence for his bisexuality, which is a book that you find under his bed in the Devil's Den, titled "A Collection of Somewhat Bawdy Poems". It's literally just a book with a bunch of homoerotic poems in it, I'm not ever kidding. Here are all of em so you get the full picture:

"My love for you is heartfelt.

You can tell from my unbuckled belt.

My mind is troubled badly

by one question above all:

When will my lover fondly

caress my left ball?

"Love thy neighbour", saith Our Lord.

And I took it to heart.

I started to fulfil His word,

at least in their southern part.

My heart is mourning dejectedly.

Even my hand rejected me!

By day and night I think of you,

I shall love you always.

My heart is faithful, loyal and true,

Though my body sometimes strays.

A knight in battle attire

got into bed with his squire.

Instead of conquering forts,

They played with each other's swords."

That last part I highlighted is literally them ARE YOU SERIOUSSSSS. Now I did see someone on Reddit saying that the book appears in the room before Hans ever moves in, but let's be so honest for a second, in a game as detailed as KCD2, that book being specifically under HANS'S bed is no coincidence, even if it appeared earlier than Hans himself. The devs knew what they were doing. and that book is still there whether you romance Hans or not, so call me delusional if you want, but for me, that's evidence enough.

Now, onto the most important part: why is Hansry so good?

In my purely subjective opinion, I think that if KCD2 was a story game instead of an RPG, it would be a type N3 representation, and Hansry would be the canon couple. Henry undeniably has the most connection and chemistry with Hans. He doesn't interact with Katherine much and it does feel like they're more good friends-at-arms than anything, and at the end of the game, Henry himself jokes that she's too old for him, and ugh don't even get me started on Rosa. Henry literally barely interacts with her, her romance option is so weird to me fr.

I also think that Hansry was planned, or at least thought of and acknowledged by the devs from the very beginning of the franchise. The way they interact in the first game can VERY easily be interpreted as flirting and they're literally your textbook example of the enemies-to-friends-to-lovers troupe. So with the foundation that the first game gives us, their eventual romance is very believable and realistic, it doesn't feel like one of those gay relationships that was never meant to be but was basically "pushed" into canon by fans, ykwim?

So for me what makes their couple such great rep is how even without the gay relationship, they remain queer men, their sexuality isn't purely mechanical. Their relationship doesn't feel flat or forced, like it often happens with optional gay romances. And even without ever acknowledging the weight of their relationship, it feels natural and not like the devs didn't wanna discuss gay stuff yk? Like in early game Henry can literally fuck some girl (i dont remember her name srry:3) out in the open - in a forest, but he specifically locks the door before kissing Hans. After the kiss, Hans looks worried and scared and apologises bc he knows that he, as a man, literally just kissed his dear friend, another man, and he doesn't know how Henry will react to it, and that's why he's so worried. And through these little details, the game acknowledges the weight of their relationship without them ever having to sit down and talk abt it, or the game having to address it, and that's what good writing is! It's refreshingly realistic.

[felix-01000101]

Need to yap about honeybee transfems and coffeebean transmascs again give me a sec

Personally, I am transfem because I have (nonbinary) fem genders and I am transmasc because I have (nonbinary) masc genders. Both of these catrgories of genders are wildly different from the gender imposed at me at birth, and none of my genders have any connection whatsoever to what got written on my birth certificate.

Despite this, I keep getting told that I am co-opting labels for whatever bizarre reason. Whether it's because I'm "not transitioning" or (as I'm heard today) I'm defining transfem and transmasc by their relationship to masculinity and femininity respectively (I'm not), and I just need to debunk all of those.

"You're not transitioning to femininity/masculinity"

I thought we left behind the "you need to transition to be trans" truscum rhetoric? In any case I am intending to take both T and E and explore gender presentation as soon as I stop living with my transphobic parents, so actually YES I AM TRANSITIONING.

"But your transition is aligned to your birth gender."

I don't know what my birth gender would be considered, but "nonbinary" is certainly not any of them. Believe it or not, nonbinary women =/= binary women (and vice versa for nonbinary men). You cannot make this argument without either outright denying the fact that I'm nonbinary, or insinuating that I cannot be trans because I am nonbinary (and cis nonbinary ppl do exist, but I am not one of them and my genders will always be trans at their core). Also do you guys think nonbinary people who present as their "birth" gender are actually just cis? Because when you say things like that it reminds me of that, and I shouldn't have to tell you how exorsexist that is.

"But your AGAB is-"

Defining transness by AGAB will always be intersexist. Why? Because AGAB =/= sex characteristics. And I'm not saying this because I want to, I am giving you the words of what literal intersex people are trying to tell you.

You can be AFAB and be what people would consider "biologically male". And vice versa.

There is no good reason to exclude intersex AFAB people who went through male puberty from being transfem just because they were assigned female at birth. And personally, I think barring people from labels based on what genitals they had or what puberty they went through is kinda weird. Why are we, the "queers", the weird people ostracised by binaries created by cishetnormatice society, creating yet another binary to force people into? Makes no sense to me.

Honorary mention:

"No-one talks about AMAB transmascs"

Because people have always cared more about the fem-aligned communities. Why are people more vocal about their hate of bi lesbians compared to bi vincians? Why are people more vocal about their hate of lesboys compared to turigirls?

That doesn't mean that those groups of people don't exist, or "aren't valid". They're simply invisible, which is a bad thing actually. As much as I'm glad to have one aspect of my identity not be so fiercely debated about, it sucks knowing that most people have no idea I even exist.

Note that at no point in this post have I stated my AGAB. If you continue to give me one anyway, you are part of the problem.

[yellowjackingit]

Omegaverse yellowjackets personal headcanons and parings✨ nsfw

(don't like don't read, you know who you are ;)

Shauna -alpha she's my bi messy failgirl icon <3 she just has alpha energy to me (but idk I'm sure in some fics I'll have her beta) , and Jeff has omega energy to me idk why, vibes man. I feel like in an omegaverse society alpha women traditionally are expected to have big families and accomplish a lot, so when Jackie dies I'd imagine her mother's slights have to do with how Shauna is such a rare breed, an alpha female, only 5% of the population contains alpha females and yet she was somehow never as special as her lil jack jack

Jackie- omega Jackie just needs an alpha to hold her and tell her everything's gonna be ok, too bad they eat her lol. Also i wanna see Shauna pin her down what of it. She's totally a lesbian

Lottie- alpha The total it girl, she's got it all, she embodies the traditional femalpha standard, think barbie, but tbh most of that was learning at a young age she was different (gay) and got really good at hiding it. it was a no brainer when she became the first head alpha of the group as people usually do they fall under her leadership and guidance. Shes the kind of alpha that would have led rome or egypt. And yet. When she loses her omega she loses her way. Her power crumbles and so she hands the torch to the alpha she trusts most

Natalie- alpha as the runt of her litter of one and every class or group she's been apart of she was never the first picked alpha but when the group assigned her the leader everything changed for her. She was finally where she was born to be. Out in the woods she became the best version of her alpha. Also I just wanna see her go thru a rut and Lottie offer to help a bro out with it 👀 who said that

Laura lee- omega voted cutest omega of her year, always had a crush on Lottie and now that they're lost in the wilderness maybe she can show her some her holy moves? Idk I'm not Catholic anymore

Taissa - beta

Van - butch nonbinary beta

Taissa van beta4beta my beloved<3 taissa being resentful of her beta gender (transmasc taissa goes hard) and trying her hardest to become a beta representative "betas are 45% of the population and yet only have 4 seats on the Senate? What's that bull" but I can also see taissa being an alpha and van be an omega

Misty- omega also a runt, she looks up to Natalie a lot being a runt as well who actually earned the respect of the pack. So her and nat bond over it and eventually more 👀 imagine Misty's heat hitting round the spring, and in order to avoid pregnancies nat being the ever so gracious pack leader helps her through it with her massive dick

Travis- beta him and Shauna beta solidarity has good potential, I hope they talk about girls together, like imagine them coming out to each other? Grieving javi together, both being ppl who lost their own blood to these woods... Y'all pls understand my vision

Mari- beta when no immediate role is assigned to her she struggles and takes it out on jackie, it's ok babygirl thats not how u get the pretty omegas attention but u will learn

Coach ben- alpha his death is their first meal, and the death of the traditional alpha male patriarchy i guess lol

Crystal- omega to mirrors misty

Anyone feel free to add on! I wanted to headcanons the other girls too but I cant Google it rn, so if anyone wanna drop the background girls names I'll love u forever <3

[edsheerankinnie]

random (mostly applejack) mlp hcs to keep the Thoughts away

trixie is transfem. need i say more?

Applejack's hair (and by extension, apple bloom's) is naturally curly like her mom's, but she doesnt care for it properly so it just looks like That (THANKS @FISHHANDSANDFEET 🤬‼️)

lesbian applejack. and rainbowdash

nonbinary vinyl scratch

Applejack actually had the Core Lesbian Experience of an intense homoromantic friendship with Rara in their youth that ultimately amounted to nothing. Hence their undeniable chemistry when they reunited. It was also probably that point when she realized she liked girls

pinkie pie pansexual. sorry but shes literally the flag

Aj and rarity definitely had an unspoken back and forth thing going on, particularly on applejack's end, and rarity more or less misses her advances until AFTER she moves on from her. At which point rarity finally stops chasing unavailable dudes and just. kind of misses out on Applejack. No im not inserting BTS scenarios, im going off of onscreen depictions (like this exchange)

speaking of rarity, shes bisexual

So is fluttershy

And her and rainbow dash def had smth going on in the first 2 seasons. maybe one of those childhood friendship that inexplicably turned homoromantic down the line before fizzling out, idk. sapphic canon event and all that

Trixie and starlight were definitely a thing by the last episode. it was only a matter of time

APPLEJACK HAT THEORY SOLVED: Applejack has multiple identical hats for adventures and exploits, bc signature statement piece. otherwise she wears her dad's hat, which shes obviously more protective of (remember that one teacher of the month short?)

Appledash canon

Disaster bi starlight glimmer

Sunburst is GAY

(also hes either transmasc or an egg. def not cis tho)

PRINCESS TWILIGHT IS STRAIGHT (i do not like her)

Scitwi is bi tho !

speaking of equestria girls, Applejack is bi in that universe

eqg rarijack canon (yes Rarity, in another universe you COULD'VE been💔)

Starlight glimmer has bpd. i promise im not saying this to be quirky, her parents literally weren't present for most of her childhood plus the whole trying to end the world bc her best friend moved away when she was a kid. the magic of friendship probably helped with that tho

APPLEJACK'S PARENTS DEATH SOLVED: Applejack is ODDLY prepared to encounter a chimera. Plus for some reason they HAVE to make those pie deliveries. My guess is her parents were killed by one making that same delivery, likely a contractual obligation. In that same episode there's also an emphasis on aj's protectiveness over apple bloom for seemingly no reason. Who also almost dies at the hands of a chimera.

Applejack tried living in the city as a sort of grief response to her parents' death. i think ill try doing a whole character analysis on her another day.

Applejack "cries on the inside" among other things as part of being suddenly forced to grow up after her parents' deaths, especially with apple bloom now in the picture

Big macintosh bisexual + polyamorous + genderfluid combo (that last one was a new development from 5 mins ago)

Hey remember Lullaby for a Princess? Now remember the season 4 premiere, when we got to see princess luna's banishment? Yeah no that didnt happen. that was the kid-friendly version. The REAL version was the Lullaby for a Princess sequence

Starlight sooo had something going on with Double diamond at some point. they might have dated. they might have fucked. who knows!

Rainbow dash is Literally a 🌈Rainbow Baby🌈. ill see myself out (no but srsly think about it) (also im not poking fun at ppl who struggle w infertility, my heart goes out to yall)

Discord might just be demisexual. shout out ace community !!

Aroace Princess Luna. Shoutout aroace community 2x

Genderqueer Scootaloo

Braeburn is GAY

Soarin is GAY

And finally: g5 isnt real it cant hurt you

[filenameghost]

MY STREET HEADCANONS; part 1

hi im hyperfixating just a little and there's so many characters to have thoughts abt so here are some of my thoughts :)

also i dont really consider s4-s6 when making these bc i mainly like s1-s3 & pdh.. and i refer to Kawaii-Chan/Nana as KC a lot bc i mainly know her by kawaii-chan (i never finished s6) and KC is shorter to type out

starting off with a not specific character related hc but like yknow how there's magic & witches and such? i hc that there's ppl born with like. an innate talent for magic and those ppl have pointier ears than other humans (if they're human)..

^ this being said, Lucinda has pointy ears & Travis has slightly pointy ears..

also saying this right up front everyone is queer and neurodivergent in some way i dont make the rules i just uphold them /hj /lh

ok im gonna split these into specific characters now <3

Kawaii-Chan

transfem!! also she uses neopronouns such as nya/nyas, love/loves, and sweet/sweets (feel free to suggest any others you think she'd use i would love to hear...)

she sews :) she & cadenza help make everyone costumes for the convention they go to every year

she's aroace, aegoromantic specifically (like meeee) which means she loves the idea of romance but doesn't actually want to partake in it herself.. this takes her awhile to figure out and she has a mini-crisis about it when she does bc a huge part of her personality is loving romance and wanting romance herself (like meeeee)

i am and have been since 2016 a zane-chan shipper so they're in a queer-platonic relationship <3

she's a project sekai fan! her favorite group is WxS and her favorite character is Emu.. she also really likes MMJ! and her favorite from that group is Shizuku but everyone always assumes it's Airi because Pink. Rin & Len are her favorite Virtual Singers

trying her best to convince Katelyn to cosplay Shizuku with her at the next con bc she's cosplaying Airi... Katelyn has never played Project Sekai and has no idea what she's talking about

got into Once Upon a Time with Katelyn and Aphmau.. her favorite characters are Henry and Snow

Katelyn

she uses anger as a mask for most emotions (pretty sure this is just canon honestly lol)

whenever she has a crush on someone she just acts really angry with them.. again, uses anger as a mask for other emotions

she's really conventionally attractive and she kinda hates it bc of the attention she gets

cisgender she/her bisexual (bi part is canon im pretty sure? or at least her being mspec is canon..)

she & lucinda had some weird sapphic thing going on in late middle school/early high school where they were basically dating but not official... this ended bc lucinda was in deep denial abt her sexuality and also bc of their competitive nature with each other and led to the rivalry they have later

favorite once upon a time character is Emma (she has a massive crush on her)

Aphmau

they/she demigirl & nonbinary + also uses neopronouns after KC introduced them to her

she can roller skate!

they could use glasses but her vision isn't bad enough to need them

she & zane are also in a qpr but more of a "really close best friends" way while he & KC are like bf & gf qpr if that makes sense

they're omnisexual!

also a project sekai fan. her favorite group is Leo/Need! her favorite characters are Saki and Tsukasa. Kaito is her favorite virtual singer... they had a huuuuge crush on him in middle school (and now)

she longed for an older brother growing up

favorite once upon a time character is Killian

Lucinda

she's wiccan!

mentioned earlier but she has pointy ears :)

she wears contacts bc she's blind as hell but hates how they look (idea came from her upside down stories self having glasses)

she's a lesbian but has major comphet going on.. she doesn't figure this out until after MS s1 sometime. she identifies as straight up until like her senior high school year and then identifies as bi until she finally realizes she's a lesbian

in middle school, she convinced herself she had a crush on zenix but she ACTUALLY had a crush on sasha. it's just that zenix & sasha were always together

aforementioned weird sapphic thing she had going on with katelyn.. she hardcore denied she was attarcted to girls during this time and this was part of why they drifted apart. katelyn could very clearly tell they had something going on but eventually gave up trying to push lucinda and realized it was something she needed to realize on her own. both of them had lingering feelings for awhile (lucinda much longer) but both eventually moved on.

she was the one who introduced katelyn to once upon a time actually.. but she never saw s7 bc she heard it was bad (it is). her favorite character is regina

actually regina mills was her queer awakening. she was the character that made lucinda be like Oh. maybe... i do like women.

major swanqueen shipper. actually both she and katelyn are and have been since day one. shipping their faves together... does this mean anything...? maybe...

OKAY that was a lot... and that's only 4 characters... i will be back with more another day....

[inkyarcturus]

For my contribution for pride month I’d like to share my personal head canons for Harry Potter characters!!!

Harry Potter: I’m gonna be honest I project on this man far too unhealthily to NOT be biased (I’ve been going by the name Harry in IRLfor 3 and a half years now I think? Bc of this man /srs) but that man’s bi with a capital B 💕💜💙 personally I enjoy seeing trans man Harry as well but unfortunately I don’t see as many fanfics of him as such :,) shoutout to all the fanfic creators I see making Harry a trans woman tho!!! I’d also love to see a genderfluid/nonbinary Harry or two!!!

Hermione Granger: trans woman!!! 🏳️‍⚧️ *crowd cheers* as for sexuality wise? I’ve seen her depicted as straight, bisexual and lesbian- and honestly I think I can see her fitting all of these!!!

Ronald Weasley: I always struggle to pinpoint what I headcanon Ron to be. I have seen a couple of people headcannoning him as a trans man 🏳️‍⚧️- referencing Molly continuing to have children until she had a girl creates perfect levels of angst for this- but I wouldn’t say it’s a permanent aspect of him inside my head. Now that I think about him a little more- I think I might headcanon him as unlabeled more than anything sexuality wise. I think he’s into women but he wouldn’t be opposed or too surprised if he developed a crush on a guy.

Luna Lovegood: She’s a lesbian 🏳️‍🌈💕 (I will occasionally accept fanfics where she is pan and is with Neville but her being a lesbian is the main headcanon) also a little gender queer in whichever way you choose 🏳️‍⚧️ sometimes I see her as genderfluid, bigender and just generally nonbinary

Ginny Weasley: bi- so so bi 💕💜💙

Draco Malfoy: Gayest motherfucker in town I’m sorry- Mr. Tells his father literally everything about Harry 💚🤍💙

Remus Lupin: bi 💕💜💙 there’s no question about that in my mind, I think he has a small preference for men but that’s it!!!

Sirius Black: He switches between using the labels queer and gay but you know that man kisses other men!!! 💚🤍💙 I know a lot of people tend to headcanon him as genderfluid which I enjoy seeing but it’s never been a main stay headcanon for me :,)

Tonks: (She/they) Lesbian and Intersex 🏳️‍🌈💕💛🟣. I’m sorry but the age gap between Remus and her in the original books make me uncomfortable- as for being intersex, I think most ppl believe being a metamorphmagus means she is automatically genderfluid, while I like seeing genderfluid representation, I think ppl often fail to acknowledge the difference between sex and gender. As a metamorphmagus, she transforms her body, her gender doesn’t seem to change w it in the books. While I like the headcanons of them being genderfluid I wish more people explored that specific idea.

Severus Snape: queer? Queer. In every sense of the word. I think most people view him as bi 💕🟣💙 which I agree with (Lily and Mulciber, also absolutely headcanon him having a crush on both Lucius AND Narcissa) but also I think he’s a little bit gender funky- I mean just look at him- no one who stands like that isn’t just cis /ref. Sev absolutely painted his nails and did eyeliner, he absolutely wore a floor length black skirt and absolutely had days where mister hit wrong in all the right places and everyone in her group helped by doing tiny things like braiding her hair and putting bat clips in it for fun 🏳️‍⚧️

Anyways speed run round 🏃

💕🟣💙: Cedric Diggory, Cho Chang (has the fandom chosen a new name for her yet?) Bill Weasley

🧡💛🤍🩵💙: Charlie Weasley, Neville? (Didn’t think of this until just now but it’s growing on me?-)

🏳️‍🌈💚🤍💙: Dean thomas, Seamus Finnegan, Dumbledore (I may not like him that much but he is gay)

🏳️‍🌈💕: Minerva Mcgonagall, Poppy Pomfrey

If I missed anyone I’m sorry :,)

Anyways!!! Join if you’d like with your own headcanons!!!

@pottistic @marriso1 (If you guys don’t wanna join w ur own headcanons that’s okay! I thought this would just be fun :P)

[forgottenspring]

Mild rant on Alastor bc I'm tired.

*takes deep breath*

I was going to stay out of this so rip to my inbox.

Does anybody remember the whole ace doxing list on here? The whole discussion of not shipping gay characters with the opposite gender? The rep for pan/bi representation and the steps to do it right? Does anybody remember when ppl on here discussed how aros and aces aren't a part of the queer community bc they're not 'gay enough' in a way? Bc I do. That was about a decade ago. And I remember when Alastor was first introduced in the pilot and ppl not accepting he was aroace back then.

It doesn't matter if Alastor is entirely aroace and if he's capable of dating or not.

What matters is we still have so little ace representation and acceptance, especially aroace rep, that a few years ago when a real person Jaiden Animations came out as aroace, ppl tried to destroy her, bc even with a perfect valid explanation of her just saying aroaces are their own thing and she just doesn't want to date, ppl treated it like she was lying or was trying to sneak into the queer community and was straight or all the other horrible things yall might remember "fans" did to her.

Alastor being aroace isn't about being the rep of "Aroaces can feel attraction!!!" bc be real honest.

How many aroace popular characters can ppl list that a regular person on the street is going to know? Bc I've heard all their arguments to invalidate their representation.

Jughead? Oh you mean Cole Sprouse who made out and got it on with Lili Reinhart playing Betty bc he found her sexy? Oh but in the old comics he's a gay character whose in denial. Yelena Boleva? Who? Oh that woman? She's hot she's just traumatized and needs to find the right person. Charlie Weasley? Oh he was only in the books? He was confirmed as aroace through a passive comment most ppl didn't know about from the author that never used the term? Luffy? You mean one of the most shipped characters in One Piece? No he's just an idiot/childish so he doesn't understand girls are pretty. Caduceus Clay? Sorry I didn't watch Critical Role whose that? Are you sure he's aroace? He feels gay to me.

I can list more ppl, but I'm sure most ppl couldn't.

I remember the whole discussion of the pan/bi representation argument of "Yes! We know pan/bi ppl can date the opposite gender. But straight ppl don't know about pan/bi nearly at all or don't accept it," so showing it as gay, who know the term more, until it's shown clearly the character is queer and not "confused straights" they then can have opposite gender attraction. Bc sooooo many pan/bi characters end up "straight" at the end of their show/book. Bc I remember when ppl refused to accept that Deadpool is pan bc of his wife and started freaking out when he dated a nonbinary person in the comics or helped that one genderqueer person he knew.

Representation is about showing to ppl what they're not understanding about the identity in the plainest sense of the words of the identity, then when there's enough rep to show they're not all the same, then you can have the ones that break the rules.

Alastor whether or not he wants to date doesn't matter. What matters is this whole situation blew out of proportion bc ppl refused to accept that some ppl don't feel comfy shipping him. Bc they see themselves in him and don't want that. BUT! Also ppl under the aro and ace umbrella also have no rep and wanted to see him breaking the stereotype they probs have yelled at them of "You can't have a partner you're aroace I forbid it" and wanted to see thru their own experiences how that would be done.

Here's the problem.... As someone who has read a lot of aroace headcanon fanfics as an aroace....... A lot of ppl who are allo don't realize aroace "crushes" are missing emotions... That's why they're aroace. And they'll write them like they're the same just "muted" or "needs to warm up" kinda thing. Or make the character's love "childish" to explain the lack of romance/sex. Which is messed up. And that's the problem here.

Alastor didn't need to be this blown out of proportion of a situation. The problem is ppl found him sexy and the classic "But aroace hot, they can't be aroace bc why hot?" discussion got brought back up without the gentle post format discussions and instead it was a lot of shippers on tiktok with tiny word counts arguing a complex issue.

Ppl should be allowed to ship whatever (except problematic I know yall too well), especially if they see themselves in the characters and especially if they have the same identity and want to explore that!!

The truth of the matter is this is such a huge issue that just keeps happening bc ppl are too used to fandom queer spheres where ppl already know aroace means "off the table" and so they want to play with qprs or grayromantics/sexuals not knowing what that entails bc there's sooooo lil aroace rep that actually explores being aroace and a lot of ppl don't know the basics, and even how very different aroace "off the table" is when you aren't the classic "uwu I'm just innocent and have no friends or importance to the plot so just ignore me and have me be adopted by one of the main couples as a 'kid' figure."

Not to mention that a lot of ppl still think ace means aroace. That aces can't date bc there's ppl who don't know that romantic and sexual attraction are different!

I'm just.... So tired. So very tired of having ppl shout at me what it means to be aroace and being unable to look up the lil aroace rep we have bc of this issue I've seen a million times is all.

[theoldlesbianwithcats]

do you have advice on how to stop being bitter over not having a gf? I’ve tried dating apps but they’re really bad. Especially with the queer shit lately, it’s all been a mess. I’ve become very frustrated and bitter over being single. I had a “situationship” fail, she didn’t want to do online dating and frankly she ended up being borderline toxic anyway but I still wish things could’ve worked out for us. Especially since finding a gf has been really difficult for me. Ppl my age mid 20s are super immature and nonbinary or yk other stuff. I know I’m going to be single for a while (realistically speaking, none of this “you could meet your soulmate tomorrow” b.s.) I come from a homophobic af family so I had a lot of internalized homophobia I’ve struggled w and honestly staying single w no other gay ppl in general to talk this out with has been making me go back into those dark days.

Hi anon :D

I've been single for a long time as well, so we're in the same boat! I feel like finding a woman to date in your early 20s was also difficult before all the queer/nb nonsense, for most of college my only prospects were bicurious women who wanted to hookup with me to experiment. I was happy to finally enter my 30s so most of these women would be married and stop annoying me, but with the return of political lesbianism they're in all age groups now 🙃 Then in your 40s, 50s and beyond, you have to avoid the "late bloomer lesbians" (= confused bi women with a midlife crisis)! Is there even a time when it's fun for us to date?? I'm not sure.

It's important to remember that being single for a long time doesn't say anything about us, that doesn't mean that we're unlovable or failures. Plenty of good people (even among straight people!) struggle to date and hate dating apps. It's normal to be bitter about all the things you're missing because you're single (hanging out with another lesbian everyday, sharing good moments, support, physical affection, sex) but instead you could try gratitude exercises like listing advantages of being single (more free time, more time for friends and hobbies, you can decorate and organize your place the way you want it...) Beyond internalized lesbophobia, you can use that time to solve any insecurities, emotional baggage or trauma you might have that could cause problems in a future relationship.

Also I've said this already but I really want to insist: when society (and now the lgbtqiabcxyz+++) wants us to be miserable, lonely, and ashamed, we need to go out of our way to be self-indulgent and spend our time doing things that make us happy and fulfilled. You have a lot of free time, so instead of wallowing and doomscrolling, ask yourself: what can I do to make today a great day? Is it working out, calling/meeting with a friend, doing something creative, learning a new skill, finally finishing a video game, cooking a recipe you've always wanted to try? Even relaxing at the park for an hour or two without your phone so you're not sollicited at all can make you feel better! Don't wait until you have a girlfriend to live a happy life! :)

(... Also, if that's not done already, buy yourself a vibrator. You'll feel less miserable about being single if you can give yourself really good orgasms whenever you want haha)

[t4tdreamer]

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[3m0n3rd]

Atuff abt my turtlez that I wrote on a discord sever once but changed sum stuff

Tw for rap3 and abus3

okay so Lee/Leo goes by she/him- shes REALLY masculine physically but like he wants to dress up and act pretty a lot of the time. Leo is (and I'm debating this) bisexual or saphic! Lee has Anorexia and PTSD. She really tries to be an older sibling like RISE! Lee tries be there and present, trying to make his siblings forget about their childhood so that everyone is just happy! which doesn't really work... But again he is just trying her best. -- Lee's love life is wonky, before Usagi came, he was in LOVE with karai and soon started dating her. But when Usagi came, Leo started to feel some stuff but not strong enough for him to leave Karai. So he's always felt shitty about hurting yuichi because he's a dear friend to her. I feel like his VA would be like Pearl from steven universe or something like that.

donnie is like the one who I heavily based off of my but still gave them their own personality uh they/them (and sometimes He/him) Bro is t4t and bisexual and nonbinary. So Don boy is rlly emo.. But like most of the other four, they don't really dress up since no one is there to see them. BUT many ppl don't know this abt donnie but the spike choker he wears, they only wear it around Arrow, if they wear their googles that means their in their lab. But if they aren't wearing those accessories their just hanging with their bros. Donnie has AFRID, OCD, and schizophrenia. Which this causes a lot of difficulties in his life. Arrow in his mind Is their savior, basically their nothing without them. So Donnie tries to change everything about them to make Arrow like them more. ex. He says their fave artist is ICP, Arrow's fave duo. But in truth his fave band is MCR. I think Don's VA would be 2012 Donnie in some sorts of dib from Invader zim.

Mikey is so kawai-chan from aphmau, yes call me cringe idc. any but mostly he/him. Mike in the earlier seasons would be straight, until he realizes he's asexual!! But other then that, HES SCENE!!!! but again like everyone else he doesn't rlly dress up. Unless he wants to. Mikey loves april! their like BFF's for life! Fun silly fact, Mike was originally was suppose to HATE April, but later I got into the 'moon and sun' duo more. Oh mike has adhd, autism and dyslexia. Mikey is really the glue to their family much like in RISE!. So he tries to keep everyone happy like Lee. Mikey has never really told ANYONE this but while splinter never hurt Mike when he was younger, he treated him as the favorite child because occasionally he would ||Rape him.|| Which didn't effect Mike that much because he just blocked it out of his memeory. Mike's VA would DEFFINATLY be something like honey senpai dub from Ouran High school host club or like Beast Boy from Teen Titans Go!

I hate raph/hj. I really just don't know how to feel abt him because he reminds me of me a the most, in the worst ways too. okay he/him and ally! but later become poly and bi with Casey and Mona Lisa. (this was because I REALLY couldn't decide who he should end up with lol) Raph is basically a dick half the time and not in the way people like. He's easily irritated, makes fun of others for no reason, and will just hurt someone cuz he wants to. But deep down he tries his best, he just hates that everyone can act okay with what happened while they were kids. - Raph has PTSD, anger issues and autism - Lee was the one who got hurt most of the time, Raph was the one who was hurt the worst once. Splinter straight up put BOILING water on him because he wouldn't stop picking on Mkey. (this also leads to Raph being very distant from Mikey) So a way to relieve his PTSD is to just either hit shit really hard or just sleep with the million stuffed animals around him. Idk wut his VA would be, maybe Damon Salvatore from the vampire diaries or smth like that

[mogai-sunflowers]

seeing exclus divide nonbinary into binaries is so funny yet so just .. hm!! sometimes honestly. like, libramasc people can be lesbians but demiboys can’t? demimasc people can? and then when you bring up genderfluid/multigender etc people they start spewing literal nonsense trying to justify how these lines that they’ve set in place work

in a similar vein, the whole “saying trans men can be lesbians means you think they’re women!” argument that exclus love but then the second a trans man says they identify as a lesbian all of a sudden that’s not okay? what about if they have a deep connection with womanhood? what if they consider themselves a woman, too? nonbinary trans men? multigender trans men? genderqueer people in general??????? 😭 it gives me a headache is what I’m getting at. like please let people exist in PEACE im an autistic aroace person with a confusing af gender and even more confusing relationship with attraction. who cares if I identify as a butch trans boy, or as a femme bi gaybian. or as a queer girlboy who gets so much joy from identifying as what I do. so much comfort knowing that these are the terms I feel most comfortable with aggg

(not to mention being a syshost, but that’s a whole different story)

yeah :33 /nau (sorry for the. long, random rant o just needed to get it out and you’re one of the coolest ppl I know so!! silly) c:

^^^^^

it boils my blood everytime i log onto pinterest because that place is basically like a pilgrimage for exclusionist baby queers. i log on and beneath every mogai post there's ten different people saying "how does this work tho? i thought x meant x and y meant y" or "well x can be y because x isn't z" and it's so infuriating like people are not a 7-tiered cake where you can perfectly define every part into separate categories. "well if ur less than 50% a boy u can be lesbian but more than that and ur just Too Boy" literally what???? who is going to enforce that. who. and who CARES???? who made that definition like. who defined that. where are they getting this from. what. /nay

[chilewithcarnage]

The definitions I’ve seen are: 1. bi/pan ppl who are “reclaiming” the older definition of lesbian as a catchall term, generally in the same way we use wlw or sapphic today

2. bi/pan ppl that have a preference for women

3. a person attracted to women and nonbinary ppl <- definition that pisses me off the most as a nonbinary lesbian

like how did we go from “nonbinary people can be any sexuality and people of any sexuality could be potentially attracted to them” to “I call myself a bi lesbian because I see nonbinary people as a third gender/separate category of attraction”

yeah I feel like gay/lesbian are rigid (not using this in a negative way!) in that regardless of how you want to classify the genders of 'man' and 'woman' and what they look like, gays are unequivocally not attracted to women and lesbians are unequivocally not attracted to men. I know people like to bring up that story of the gay man and butch lesbian mistaking each other for being the same thing and kissing in the club as a gotcha for the people who understandably buck back against the 'sexuality is fluid™' talking point. they also always leave out the part about how when they discovered that they weren't what they thought they were they didn't go any further than that.

And putting attraction to enbies as its own separate thing feels ridiculous I'm ngl. like literally anybody of any sexuality (including straight people!) can be attracted to nonbinary people. 'nonbinary' isn't a set third gender outside of man and woman, it can be so many things or nothing at all.

like I'm not the cops and I'm not nobody's parent so I can't tell y'all what do with yourselves but I just think on a base level the label of 'bi lesbian' is unnecessary. i think classifying oneself as that because you're attracted to 'multiple' genders but you prefer women is disrespecting lesbianism because lesbian sexuality is not a 'preference' its who they are. so either you're a lesbian that doesn't want to id as that because you feel weird about the label or you don't understand it or you're bisexual but you don't want to id as that because you feel weird about the label or you don't understand it.

[queer-advice-hotline]

Hi! Not rlly used to talking about this type of stuff - but I figured I should maybe see if anyone had ever been in a similar situation or anything.

long story btw...

TW for mentions of homophobia ig

Okay so, for many years I was under the impression that my mother was actually completely and utterly fine with the queer community and I found out not that long ago that that was apparently not true.

For some background info to how I thought that ig - my mum often worked for very long hours and I adored all the time I could spend with her when she wasn't working. To me she was a role model and due to most likely being 'too young' I didn't get to hear a lot of her opinions about certain things (such as the queer community, but also other things) and built up an image of my mother in my mind who would always support me and constantly told myself how lucky I was bc there were so many ppl out there who didn't have the same fortune and probably never felt like they could connect with their mothers.

I however found out when I was in my first yr of highschool (yr 7 where i am) that she actually wasn't as open minded as I'd hoped.

I started hearing her talk about how she didn't believe a trans man could ever be a man/how a trans woman could never be a woman. Making comments on how ppl who were nonbinary didn't make sense/couldn't exist and how they/them pronouns were dumb and how anyone who didn't identify with either gay, straight or bi was weird. She also made comments about how she was willing to use a trans person's pronouns in front of them if they made sense (she/her or he/him only) and didn't bother when they weren't around bc she thought it didn't matter.

She also was always talking about how she didn't want people talking about this stuff all the time and how she was so annoyed by ppl constantly making children's media queer - to a point where last year she started feeling like there was a possibility that I was being exposed to too much queer media (I was trying to borrow books that had queer characters cause I grew up not all that knowing of the Lgbtqai community) and started banning me from buying/borrowing books that she thought were 'too gay' or 'too queer' and not even letting me touch the ones with trans characters - which was odd bc we'd watched movies with queer ppl in it before and she'd been fine with it! (mostly with them as background characters or not the MC e.g. Mitch and Cam + their friends in Modern Family). She then started going through my books I borrowed to make sure they weren't queer.

She seemed okay with other people being bi or gay irl but when she talked to me she often said things like 'you can be anything u want except gay or trans' and 'no bringing home a boy until ur 18 and no bringing home any girlfriends every - and nothing other either (derogative)' as well as often talking about how she wants to find me a church boy with similar ideals to my family's ones.

This has been rlly upsetting - I figured out I was aro early on, however with my mother's reactions I fear she would most likely invalidate me/try and get me a bf anyway. Also I realised that I wasn't cis (nonbinary or agender) and now I'm scared that if I ever transition too much (bc I want to get a binder and possibly one day have top surgery and I want to get masc haircuts and all that) or actually start going by a diff name in public + diff pronouns that she might just through me out or send me back to my home country to 'set me straight' bc where I'm from being queer is not common (even though we have managed to make gay marriage legal).

This is also bad not just bc of me but bc I have friends who r queer who have been huge helps and I always wanted them to feel safe around me and my family however now I'm scared to ever so much as introduce some of them to my parents in fear of them being misgendered/disrespected or her banning me from seeing them.

I always hear ppl talking about cutting off their families or learning to live without them when they're older but I'm the eldest and expected to look after my parents when they get older. Not to mention - I have a brother who is 13 yrs younger then me and though sometimes I feel as if I don't quite feel the emotional connection I should (won't be getting into that) I also don't want him to grow up without some sort of other older guidance as I feel like he is very different to me and also when I was younger my parents worked a lot with allowed me to have more perspective on the world other then theirs were-as my brother will most likely have their opinions shoved down his throat and I can't stand the thought of him growing up to be some weird 'alpha-male' type who pushes down his feelings, is homophobic/transphobic and decides that he doesn't like anyone different. This would mean that I most likely wouldn't be able to leave him until he was around 18 too and I have so much family that I genuinely don't think that I'd be able to leave them all behind + I don't want to have to be scared to enjoy my own culture (bc I am from a small island and my family has a lot of ties + is rlly big and I wouldn't be able to go far without someone mentioning my father, mother, cousins, or grandparents).

I genuinely habe no idea what to do or if there is a solution to my problems or if i'd have to one day simply come out and be prepared for my family to hate me or if i'd just have to keep a huge part of me secret until I died but I thought it'd be better to share then to bottle all this up

I seems like a pretty complicated situation, so knowing what exactly to do is tricky.

I definitely don't think you should come out to your family now. The chances of you being disowned, thrown out, or something else seems pretty high. If you decide you want to come out, I think waiting until you are living on your own or at least are independent from your family is the best and safest option.

Anyone with other advice feel free to share.

[1892]

hello tis i the bitchy anon back again but i feel like we need to take the word representation away from people until they know how to use it. people act like this huge overarching term that means that because Thing is included in media (often on its most basic level i.e. not being demonized), Media Inherently Above Criticism, which i think is a really iffy view to hold, and could even become dangerous. i'm probably just a tranny with too much time on my hands, but i find a lot more of myself represented in stories that are more complicated or visceral, or deal with heavier themes, even if they don't have overt queerness. a lot of these modern shows that bill themselves as having "lgbtq representation" feel like they're going down a laundry list of addressing queer issues in their most basic level (say the word "bisexual" out loud so people can know Bi Erasure Bad, show that a trans person can have a relationship with a cis person, have someone spell out that it's wrong to out someone or what nonbinary is) instead of having any interesting conflicts surrounding them. they don't want to potentially do anything interesting with queer identities because they want to appeal to as broad an audience as possible. anyway. this is why i'm so tired of people constantly seeking out validation to queer identities in the mainstream like babes retreat into a subculture you'll find a lot more interesting shit there.

i don't even have much to say in response to this i think you pretty much hit the mark on this one! like. yeah! it's upsetting. i just truly wish ppl were more media literate. tbh.

[trannydykes]

New Pinned Post!

Hello! Not everyone checks abouts anymore so I decided to make a new pinned post, for ease.

About me:

My name isn't Aven, but if you need to call me something call me that

I'm a young adult, in my early 20's

I'm a Butch Lesbian

I'm Genderqueer/Nonbinary and identify with an unspecified Xenogender

Note to the above, I am TME so I wont speak over trans women/transfems so please correct me if I say something incorrect or harmful and I will fix it

I use She/They pronouns on this blog but know I use Neopronouns in my day-to-day life

I'm Autistic and have Dissociative Amnesia

Any information omitted is just to be safe, because I frequently engage in discourse last thing I want is to get hate sent to my main blog or other sideblogs. Or hate that is very specific to my identity.

To the above note, do not harass anyone I reblog from. They do not know me and are not affiliated with my messages. I can promise you trying to shake down Tumblr users into blocking some rando that follows them or giving out their information is not going to work out in your favour.

The purpose of this blog is for spreading awareness of issues within the queer community, and when not doing that, spreading positivity. (I also reblog posts relating to queerness in general, mostly about being a lesbian or butch)

I mostly cover Lesbian and Transgender topics, but do occasionally talk about ableism in the queer community when it comes up. Because I am white, I do not make posts about racism in the queer community (I will reblog them, I don't ignore them). Instead I try to keep myself educated and spread awareness on topics using this blog.

Now I can get a little discoursey, so below the cut is things that have been, and probably will be again, brought up. If you have a problem with this, I try not to debate as I'm not too articulate, so just block me if it bothers you.

Frequent Topics of Discourse Below::

Men can't be Lesbians, doesn't matter if they're trans men. This actually comes from Radical Feminist circles who believe sexuality is based on your genitals, instead of gender

Lesbians can't like men, it's an exclusive identity

On the above 2, just because your sexuality is fluid doesn't mean all sexualities are, do not project your experiences onto everyone else. It's not restricting, it's how I live

Bi-Lesbians cannot exist, lesbians are exclusive identities. And most Bi-Lesbians identify with the label to say "I like women and nonbinary people". Congrats you're a dyke, nonbinary isn't a 3rd gender

The Vincian/MLM/Blue Gay Flag is a cheap rip off of the Lesbian flag and has no substance to itself

Radical Feminism isn't radical, nor feminism (we've heard this one b4)

Androphobia/Misandry, and by extent Transandrophobia/Transmisandry, cannot exist

Arohet/Acehet Cis people are inherently queer

Pronouns =/= Gender

To the above: Presentation =/= Gender. Butches/Studs are not trying to look like men

Not every trans person has Gender Dysphoria, but every trans person has Gender Euphoria. Being a Transmed is bullshit and bootlicking behavior

I also try to spread positivity for Xenogenders and Neopronouns

And like I said, along with fighting for my ideals and beliefs, I spread positivity. I'll spread posts with cute girls in them because it makes me proud to be a lesbian. Or art of trans people being happy. And I also reblog every queer donation post I see onto this blog, because in the end we help each other out.

And to wrap this up, I am a human, I make errors, and I learn from those errors. If you disagree with me, and want me to change my view, don't tell me to kill myself or send me hate, that doesn't do your cause justice. I may not be down to debate, but I'm always down to hear people out. I don't always agree in the end, and if I do I don't always agree 100%. But I try to hear everyone out, especially because I am someone who is easily confused. If you wish to send hate, send hate, be yourself idc. But you can win ppl over by being nice more often than being a bag of dicks. <3