#Also the 1000 years old comments really made me sad cause I was so amused

[markmybirds]

I try to live in a world where I don't yuck people's yums even if I don't care for a show. Also I find that if I am going to talk about something in the drama space, it usually has to do with singular actors and proven controversies that show their true colours.

For example on dramas: Not the biggest fan of DFF. And it's not because of petty things it has to do with how the show itself went. I liked maybe 2 episodes in the entire show. Ok more like 1.5 episodes in the entire show. But really even if someone doesn't like something, doesn't mean it's not someone else's gold. There are themes I can say that DFF covers that should be covered in media. I know what it feels like to be on MDL (especially via Thai BL) and read negative comments. I was deterred from some dramas I actually thought I'd vibe with until I came to Tumblr and enjoyed the gifsets and went from there to watch them. Shows like: Manner of Death, A Tale of a Thousand Stars, Ai Long Nhai and LITA. I think people should buffer in their tags when something is a critique. But the algorithm would still share them. I like seeing hot takes and critiques though! Like what went wrong, how it could have worked better in such a ways and such but as long as it doesn't take up the main sphere of the fandom. But yeah negative hate comments get hefty. I know some of the Two Worlds negative comments really infuriated me. Like putting down Nat for being young when he's acted longer than some of the older (in actor's age not in duration of partnerships) couples. Also people being blind to MaxNat's natural chemistry. (Who have consistently made me, a married demisexual woman, blush). Or like the comments on 1000 Years Old in general, I found Tumblr was a safer place than Youtube or MDL for that specific drama. (I LOVE 1000 Years Old). I realized the same thing you did, and I loved Love Sea's first episode! A lot in fact. But I know so many people hate on GMMTV and MMY dramas. And it's because people don't care for grey-to-black morals generally or they don't like dramas that are too laid back. I think, personally, it's a case-by-case if I wish to ignore/block/remove someone commenting negatively. If I feel that I can't stand any of their points of views or that their POVs are dramatically consistently more negative than positive. I ignore and don't dedicate interests in their opinions. IDK why people hate-watch things and talk about it outloud? I will let the fans enjoy it and I will be quiet or I just won't watch the thing I don't like. But I know I personally have worded a thing or two about DFF on my tumblr/a public forum. I know most of them had to do with the controversial characters in the drama but.... They were made to be controversial so people could talk. And it wasn't out of malice. Though.. I did.. uhm.. Rip some comments a part that were trying to muddy Barcode's personal reputation for things Non did in the series. Must protect the Sunflower Boy. I think like when it comes to specific comments. If they are commenting and are being very uneducated or just hating out of spite. I will tell someone to check themselves. But otherwise if I think it's just for clout. I weigh the pros and cons. I have blocked some users because of their consistent shit-posting. In a way though, it was comments that were overwhelmingly negative that took me out of the major QL scope. And also because I didn't find many of the happy fans, I wasn't looking in the right spaces, and I felt lonely. I silently watched QL dramas to myself, and quietly liked and gushed over gifsets on Tumblr. It wasn't until Wardog came back to the Asian Drama Realm (I got her into a Chinese Xianxia drama--- Love Between Fairy and Demon) and then she fell into the Thai BL scene with KP, LITA, Not Me and Cutie Pie, that I returned to watch what I missed. (Minus the few BLs I watched on my own like Manner of Death etc).

Trash-watches and what do you do with your negative opinions?

As Love Sea has started airing I've seen a couple of people posting about it from a very negative point of view. It seems like they already dislike MAME so I'm confused as to why they're even watching it and engaging with the content. It's made me think a lot about negative opinions in fandom spaces and I have a lot of questions.

Firstly, people are of course allowed to feel however they want about shows they're watching and post about them however they want. The truth of people in general is that we have very different experiences in life and that colours the way we perceive media. So when MAME writes about trauma and consent I'm not surprised that some people struggle with finding parts they like in her shows.

It has, however, put me in a dilemma, because I like MeMindY and I'm pretty sure I'm going to like Love Sea as well.

As such I'm not very interested in reading posts about the show that are almost entirely negative, especially when the person who's writing the post is clearly watching a completely different show than me.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for critiquing a show and thinking about the content critically and examining why a show is making you feel bad or angry. The point where I struggle with negative posts is when the poster is seeing bad intentions in places where I very much don't or have hangups with things that to me seem harmless in the specific situation. This is not me saying I'm right and they're wrong. We're really just approaching shows from very different perspectives and coming to very different conclusions.

I've been trying to figure out what to do about those posts and blogs and I'd love to hear any and all thoughts you have on this matter or comments on what you usually do when this happens.

Do you just live with seeing the negative posts on your dash and scroll past them without reading? Do you unfollow people? Do you block people?

This has also made me think a lot about posting negative comments and content in fandom spaces. Like why do you watch these shows when you know you aren't going to like the show from the beginning? And then why do you post about it extensively when you have almost entirely negative things to say about it? Do you guys enjoy making/reading hate-/trash-watches? And if you do, why do you enjoy it? I am honestly curious and won't judge.

Where's the line between useful critique and hateful comments? Are there situations where negative comments in fandom should just be kept to yourself? Should you stay out of the official tags if you only have negative things to say about a show? What do you guys do when you dislike a show?

I'm just so very curious about how people feel about this kind of content. Content like hate-/trash-watches or other ways of engaging with media in a negative way.