#ALSO. Also why the fuck do so many therians hate you if you wish you had nonhuman genitals

[cosmiccyndaquil]

im like. In that weird space where im too nonhuman for the furry and therian communities but not enough for anything more

[genderqueerdykes]

okay.

I’ve never seen your blog before now, and I don’t follow you.

but oh my fucking god thank you so much

as an it/its user (not my primary but I still wish people would use them) thank you so much. I’ve seen your posts on people disregarding it/its pronouns users because they just don’t want to use them and I just

thank you thank you thank you for talking about it

sorry if this makes no sense, it’s 9pm where I am and I spent all day at marching band practice so I’m extremely tired

thank you for your kind words! i really appreciate it!

i appreciate knowing how many other it/its users needed that to be said and how it has positively affected a lot of people. it's never okay for someone to put their personal discomfort over a set of pronouns over someone else being referred to correctly. this is misgendering. this is transphobia

it doesn't matter if the pronouns are "weird" or "uncommon"

i've gotten a lot of really fucked up asks about this and i'm going to keep talking about it because peoples' excuses for why they proudly and gladly misgender other people and refuse to use their pronouns are so petty and never that person's fault. it's never that person harming them, it's always that person projecting their trauma on to the it/its users. it's exhausting to read because nobody does this for he/him or she/her. it's specifically an issue with it/its beceause people overscrutinize it to hell and back and act like because they participated in the mental olympics over this one set of pronouns that they're right about it. they're not. they're rude, and anal.

people get stuck on the "it's dehumanizing" thing. this is such a divided argument, because for many people, they enjoy the dehumanization aspect of it, because they are nonhuman on some level. enough people are aware of otherkin, therians, and so on that i want people to understand that for some people this is a good thing and it is a desired effect. if you are uncomfortable with that, it's up to you to get past that, or learn to understand that you are not under attack because you are referring to someone else in a way that makes them happy and comfortable

other people just do not find it dehumanizing at all and that's fine. people often refer to babies and children with it/its, why can't we do this for adults? it's not inherently dehumanizing. it's not inherently an attack to use these pronouns for someone. some people love the ambiguity in the gendering. it really is totally devoid of gender and it is a very freeing set of pronouns to use, especially if you just refuse to see it as. not inherently dehumanizing

i am also very tired of people using trauma as a shield to enable them to misgender people. i am traumatized. i have diagnosed PTSD that i've been working on in therapy for 10 years as of this year. i have a lot of issues with being called she/her. i hate it most of the time. only select alters in my system use she/her. i do NOT refuse to use she/her for people who use only that pronoun set, or use it primarily. i would be viewed as transphobic if i said i avoid people who use she/her in order to avoid "traumatic memories from coming up." the thing is, that's going to happen sometimes and it's the trauma bearer's responsibility to deal with it accordingly.

just because you got triggered doesn't mean the other person meant to trigger you. you can't hold a trauma trigger AGAINST someone else who is not attempting to misgender you. when referring to someone with the correct pronouns, it is not YOU being called that set of pronouns. you are not being misgendered by correctly using another person's pronouns.

trauma is up to the individual to accept and overcome. hiding from a trigger perpetually for life will not enable you to accept it, cope, and move on. positive exposure to a trigger helps loosen that trauma's grip on you. you have to expose yourself to it in order to grow. hiding will keep you trapped in the situation you are currently in. you have to step into discomfort in order to learn how to overcome it.

thank you for sending this ask, you are very welcome and i'm really happy to hear you feel the same way. i'm glad you felt seen and heard, i am tired of people getting caught up on the pettiest things humanly possible. we ahve to stop reaching for every excuse to be transphobic to "weird" trans people we don't understand.

stop saying "WE NEED MORE WEIRD QUEERS LOL!!!!!!!!" if you can't even handle IT/ITS USERS !

[dysfunctionaldogdude]

I really wish my ex didn't affect me as much as they did.

I feel so fucking insecure, why can't I reach out without being afraid of rejection? It feels like my fault for not saying something

I know I wasn't being ignored by my best friend but I can't help but feel like I was cause of my ex... I know they probably just lost track and forgot to call me back.. But, fuck....

Why do I have to be this insecure over such a little thing? I'm so fucking sick of myself. I haven't been talking to my ex at all... Even if I miss R&R I can't talk to my ex since it's the only way to talk to R&R... I just feel so sick and insecure about them [my ex].

Not to mention, one of R&R hates me, I'm a bad dad, I'm not suited for it. I wish they never had to form, I wish my ex just tried to prevent them from existing- It would've saved so much pain...

Fuck I mean what if the whole my ex having DID and R&R being alters a ruse? What if it was a form of manipulation? I don't fucking know I'm so tired so exhausted I just want to cry, I just want to talk to someone... But Idk who hence why I'm rambling here.

My best friend is asleep and I don't know who would be awake at this time, not to mention I don't have many friends who'd hop on a call with me

Fucking hell I'm pathetic. I wish I could die. I can't, though, that'd hurt the people I care about the most, not to mention I won't see my little sister grow up... Fuck, I feel so sick and pathetic.

Fuck, fuck, fuck- I fucking hate teenage hormones, I hate feelings, I hate genitalia...

I really wish I had no genitalia, no sexual organs, it'd make me feel much better and less gross sometimes.

I wish my neurons and my body matched, something that makes more sense would feel better. If my male neurons came with a male body.

I fucking wish I could feel comfortable in my body otherwise. I wish I wasn’t therian sometimes... I mean it can be cool but my legs and arms don't move right my body is missing part, parts in the wrong place, wrong length, wrong skin, wrong hairs, lack of fur, please let me take testosterone... I just want to hide in my hair, it'd feel better, I'd be more comfortable...

I sometimes wish I wasn’t physical. Why am I not holographic? Why am I not a self-aware program? I sometimes feel so intensely not there that I'm in whatever device I'm using, I hate it when that's broken.

My body isn't right why isn't my body right? Nothing about it is right. Why was I born in a body where everything is WRONG

Why is everything wrong with my body, it's so tiring so have to hurt myself to make me feel a bit better, I can't find a good binder, that's in stock, that ACTUALLY binds (not compression), that's not unhealthy, that's not a whole process, ACTUALLY has my size

The only binder I have is a compression bandage for the legs and it hurts after a while and it takes a lot to breathe in it. I fucking hate that I can't wear my therian gear (i.e. ears and tail) without being bullied or talked about - People comment about my tails saying gross shit like "is that a butt plug?" THIS HAPPENS A LOT

SO MANY THINGS I AM THAT I CANNOT CONTROL IS FETISHIZED AND IT'S SO FUCKING GROSS

ARO SPECS, THERIANS, ALTERHUMANS IN GENERAL, AGERE, TRANS PEOPLE, ETC

I feel so FUCKING gross. Not only the fact I've been groomed and was conditioned when I was younger, I thought certain gross things were okay - IM ALSO ON THE ASEXUAL SPECTRUM, I'm strictly GRAYSEXUAL I have little TO NO sexual attraction to people I also have series where I feel disgusted at sexual actions usually directed towards me. I FUCKING HATE everything about WHO I AM being fetishized

Proshippers and darkshippers fucking disgust me for this reason- TO SO MANY PEOPLE I am a walking fetish. I HATE this, people usually say to me "well you're white so it can't be that bad" "well you're white so you don't count" "you have white privileges so it can't be that bad" "well it's just fiction I'm not actually hurting anyone" "it's only fiction it's not real"

It's cause I'm white I get called a Nazi, it's cause I'm white people freak out when I speak Spanish

If I'm so privileged would I have been homeless when I was little? If I'm so privileged would I be eating free meals my school provides me? If I'm so privileged would I be going to a school where I've been sexually assaulted, beat up, bullied, threatened and I've witnessed fights and police walk down my halls with GUNS attached to their belts?

Was it just fiction when I was groomed? When I got sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend? Was it fiction when I cried for them to stop for anyone else around to help me and no one did?

I fucking hate being alive sometimes.

This is probably why I'm a fictokin of so many fucked up characters

Haha fuck.

[draconicarsonist]

💚🌀🗣🐯🌈

thank you for the ask anon! i appreciate the attention, thank you for tossing enrichment into my enclosure/j

💚: What’s your favorite thing about your kintype? (The species, creature, etc)

I'm quite fond of dragons for more reasons than just because I am one. If we're talking dragons in general, I love how versatile their designs can be, you can find thousands of unique depictions of dragons from human civilizations and as an artist I love that you can take the basic draconic idea and make such interesting and different species, types, and looks that all fit under the term dragon. Its a really fun exercise in creativity to draw different kinds of dragons, and as a shapeshifter its fun to take on different draconic forms with different appearance features. Dragons are also just fucking badass and beautiful creatures whatever form or environment we live in. -[cl]

As for wolf theriotype, I love how caring and complex and thoughtful wolves can be. In human history we are painted as vicious monsters of trickery and violent desires who only wish to kill and feed themselves, but once you take your head out of pure stereotypes by humans who were only salty for the cow they lost to a wolf pack one time, you see that we have complex societies, relationships, emotions, and are a meaningful part of the ecosystems that different wolf species inhabit. Wolves are more than just themselves, they are intrinsically woven into nature and each other, can grow to care for certain humans and let them into their packs, aside from hunting and small mishaps wolves are very gentle creatures who care for each other deeply. -[gr]

🌀: Do you think kins are spiritual or psychological in nature?

I believe that both spiritual and psychological kin exist, and for us personally we experience both. We are very much spiritually drawn to nature and the sky and the experiences of being nonhuman, but feel that our shifts and phantom limbs and even the feeling of being in a memory tend to have more of a psychological source. Both are valid and genuine nonhuman/kin experiences.

🗣: Does anyone know you are otherkin? Friends, family, etc? If so, how did you tell them?

Aside from online, one person in our life knows about our identity as nonhuman and otherkin. A few months ago after "therian" was referenced in a conversation our partner and us talked about our kin identities and we/I came out as nonhuman and helped him look at and reconnect with his own nonhumanity, it was really nice and I'm very glad we can be ourselves with each other. Other than him, weve briefly mentioned small aspects of nonhumanity to a small handful of people but never elaborated any further than "i dont see myself as human." or "some people do identify as something nonhuman" (the second was while explaining the use of it/its pronouns)

🐯: Do you wish you were your kintype? Why or why not?

I very much do. There are things in this life I love, but it just isnt me. I can have deep relationships like we have here as a dragon, I miss just the experience of going through the world as a dragon, whatever form I took. So much of this life feels wrong, our body, home, family, so many people and none of them can see me. it can be hard sometimes but with our boyfriend getting to be ourselves around each other and feeling seen with him is... really nice. Having a form and an environment in our system's headspace also helps with dysphoria, but to answer the question, yes i do wish I were a physical dragon. -[cl]

It's a similar sentiment as a wolf. I miss the life of a wolf, the family of my pack, being wild in the wild and being connected with and a part of nature. I miss having a wolf body, my strength, my claws and strong jaws and tireless muscles for running hours on end. My ears that could hear sounds from far away and identify them, my nose that could smell what walked by and how long ago, could smell that a deer had passed by a bush by smelling the leaves. Paws with claws that I could dig with, bristling my fur as a warning, chewing on things. I could go on, but again, to answer the question, I wish I were a wolf, with my wolf life back. -[gr]

🌈: Talk about any other kin thing!

tldr; i go on a rant about how stigmatized alterhumanity is and how much i hate it and wish ppl would just let us be ourselves, putting it under the read more cause i dont want to just put this on ppls dash on an otherwise non-discoursey post

I hate how stigmatized being an animal in a human body is to the general population here. people who like to wear ears or be treated like a dog doing normal things in their house are put on cringe compilations and wearing ears and a tail at home is seen as sexual intrinsically and I just hate that. Too many humans are too afraid of what is different from them, they like to peg us as insane or stupid or something to be "kept in the bedroom" or otherwise private and that really irritates me because suddenly doing anything deemed a little bit too far from normal "human" behavior is something to be laughed at and shunned and this hurts not only the alterhuman community but the disabled community at large (not intended to claim alterhumanity as a disability, it is an identity not a condition, but i'm comparing the way "society" views us) when people's body moves in a way that strays from the usual way "normal" humans carry themselves its viewed with fear or unease or disgust and this is just something that I feel is one of those things in human society that hopefully will get worked on over time so people get more accepting and accepted but right now its just causing a lot of shame and frustration. sorry for going on this rant but i do think about this. Forgot to mention the furry community in this too, it should be ok for people who do identify as human to also wear ears or a tail or a fursuit and have fun playing as animals in a nonsexual manner (not shaming ppl who do like kink pet play and stuff but im talking more out in the general world) and be allowed to do so without fear of being shamed and viewed with disgust or fear of literal actual violence because of expressing something they want to do.

[mountain-lion-gremlin]

At this point its like what can I do? I can give videos (which will always be fake no matter what) I can sift through everyone coming into my amino and make sure a healthy enviornment is being presented and upheld (Even then toxic shit gets through, including cult-like ideas that I might miss) and so much more, but it wont ever be good enough for people. I can cut and dice and hack away my own beliefs until they are watered down enough until they are acceptable, but it will never be good enough for anyone.

Many of us have grown up now from our attention-seeking days. Ive been seeing new ideas of acceptance and creating your own journey flourishing. Shapeshifting isnt just about physically shifting - but thats all thats really seen to outsiders. The old days of shifting are starting to fade honestly, and Im fucking glad about it. Our ideas of shifting are starting to come back to earth, finally.

I honestly wish we knew why, we knew more, that there was real science here, but we have next to nothing about it. (like what real science team would be able to run tests and experiments about this - anyone would laugh them right off the stage) We aren't seen as real. Therians and Otherkin, in the general eye, also arent real.

"idk man. use like, basic understanding and deduction skills here. it's not that difficult to ensure that we both stop infighting over shit neither side can prove 100% that applies to all nonhumans, while also keeping people who are lying for that nonexistant shifter clout out of the community."

thank you, ily

(Im not here to start an argument, just putting in my piece about this post. Im sorry if i came off as agressive, its just really aggrevating that we are always, constantly repeating ourselves and trying to outlive our past.)

We arent aligned with roleplay-esque ideas anymore - we are real and present here too. Im proud I am who I am, even if its hated or frowned upon.

I am a cougar, I am who I am.

the physical nonhuman community is genuinely in a bad state and i don't think it will ever be fixed until people learn to stop being losers over semantics and accept people as they come (provided they're not the uwu im an alpha werewolf demigod type we all despise) or until actual scientific research gets put into our existances... which will likely never happen. (hey remember how in 2012 there was supposed to be a big reveal of nonhumans to humans? what happened to that lol)

like. genetics only get us so far. they do not explain mythic shifters like mermaids, dragons, etc, or even prey shifters (how would prey shifter lines survive?)

but yet. nonhumans unexplained by genetics exist. you can jump thru as many hoops as possible - there is no genetic explanation for *some* nonhumans. or, you can go the worst route (shecuntmode) of "no shifters except wolves and some other predatory mammals exist" which is also fucking bullshit because if they don't exist.... why do they. why do they exist. no really, explain to me how nonhumans i can verify as real exist when they are supposed to not exist. u can't. congratz. you have seen the flaws in your argument.

genetic only explanations are palatable because it's what makes sense, yeah? it gives some credibility, yeah? but it is unsustainable and only causes infighting and genuinely harmful beliefs and cults to form.

yes. your "genetic only" belief is just as harmful and prone to cults as the "anything is possible" / "anyone can shift" belief is.

bad people exist and champion both sets of beliefs. one belief as for why or how we exist is not superior - i have met people on both sides who are nonhuman thru and thru. I've also met fakes and wannabes on both sides.

idk man. use like, basic understanding and deduction skills here. it's not that difficult to ensure that we both stop infighting over shit neither side can prove 100% that applies to all nonhumans, while also keeping people who are lying for that nonexistant shifter clout out of the community.