#ABOUT UR OTHER ASK.. DW I DONT TAKE THIS AS AN ATTACK. I UNDERSTAND COMPLETELY WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM!!!

[edlucavalden]

https://www.tumblr.com/edlucavalden/760433802080370688/tw-for-sa-for-the-nature-of-the-writing-and?source=share I am sending this as some one that an s/a survivor, please at least hear me out. Implying that manipulated complacency is not force is really dangerous. That mentality is how people get away with hurting others like this. That very mentality made me sympathize with my abusers for a long time.... there was a time where I even defended them.

Manipulated "consent" is not consent at all. Please consider this. I know this may seem silly, but some one may see this essay and find it enables them to harm someone in the aforementioned fashion (s/a), and may even believe it is okay for them to do so because of the above concept.

I am dearly asking you to reconsider your points, or at least the language used. I know you said in your tags that you yourself experienced this, and I understand how hard that is. I am sorry you went through that. I also found solace through Thistle for the same reason, so I do get it.

OMG!!! IM SO SORRY IF ANYONE INTERPRETED IT THAT WAY 😰😰😨

The whole point of the essay was to point out how sexual cohesion and manipulated complacany are not. proper consent not the contrary. And also how those forms of manipulation provide the illusion of choice and autonomy on the victim.

I think the reason for how it was interpreted that way was bc of the section where i said it "wasn't. Forced"— That part was meant to point out that it wasn't forced in the sterotypical way of resisting, i followed it up by saying that it is still violating despite that. it is ment to empathise the passive yet transgressive nature of cohesion. I did NOT mean to say that thistles complacency is a sign of concent nor sexual cohesion is not an act of force (it is a way of force but its alot more subtle.)... However i can understand why it makes you think that im deevaluating the noncon that comes with sexual cohesion, and i SINCERELY apologize if that is the message that was interpreted from that part, I did not intend it to mean that way. im so serious.

Never have i intended to say that persuaded "consent" is consent at all. It is not consent. I have never thought that it was in any way makibg thay essay

It is very much not stilly anon.. i understand how harmful it can be because i too, have sympathized with my assulter through that mentality, that is why i wrote that in the first place.