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7 Ways To Save My Marriage Fascinating Unique Ideas

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deborahdeshoftim5779 · 3 years ago

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BBC Merlin 4x05: His Father’s Son

Here's a round-up of my main observations from BBC Merlin's "His Father's Son" (4x05).

1- MERLIN AS A KNIGHT

I have to admit that Merlin as a sorcerer and trusted adviser appeals to me the most, but I did write a lengthy post analysing how Arthur had turned Merlin into an excellent fighter. This refutes claims that Merlin gave more to Arthur than he received in return.

At the beginning of 4x05, we see Merlin selected to play a new role: that of knight. How did this come about? Arthur Pendragon is best known for his skills as a warrior, but he deserves more credit for his military tactics. These destroy the popular yet false idea that he is unintelligent. More on the latter in a forthcoming post.

One of Arthur’s favourite tactics is using decoys. Previous examples of him using decoys include: The Castle of Fyrien (3x07), when Arthur used Merlin as a decoy to entrap Cenred’s soldiers; Aithusa (4x04), when Arthur used himself as a decoy to get Sir Percival to safety; Arthur’s Bane Part 2 (5x02), when Arthur uses Merlin as a decoy to enrage the slave traders before they escape-- by far my favourite example.

All things considered, I don’t think it takes long for Arthur to choose Merlin. Furthermore, this decision may have taken place before they reached their selected location, as Agravaine later mentions a previous attack by Caerleon on the border. This choice demonstrates that Arthur has higher confidence in Merlin's abilities than he does of in his knights-- else he would have chosen them. We must conclude that Merlin is Arthur's best fighter, though at first glance, we wonder why an unarmed man follows trained knights into battle.

Merlin is sharp, fast, has high stamina, and is incredibly resourceful. Most of all, however, he is incredibly brave. In fact, when rewatching 1x02, I was surprised to see Arthur acknowledge that Merlin was "braver than you look." This despite Arthur’s frustration that Merlin did not try hard enough during practice ("Come on, Merlin: I've got a tournament to win!").

What’s more, in that same episode, Merlin complains about his first day, but later on, we see his fascination wth the ongoing tournament. Then he admitted to Gaius that working for Arthur (in the context of said tournament) "isn't totally horrible all the time." It took one day for him to change his opinion!

Sure, Merlin would continue to treat the fighting as pointless violence, and Arthur as having nothing more in his head than a desire to knock "the seven bells" out of other people (3x04). However, even in 1x02, when he applauds Arthur's fighting, his actions tell a different story. We associate this habit of liking something whilst pretending otherwise to Arthur, yet Merlin has it as well.

As I have said before, Merlin and Arthur have profound differences, yet are profoundly alike.

2- MERLIN AS A SERVANT

It comes as no surprise that Merlin would return to serving after the beginning of 4x05. However, what that change represents sets the tone for this entire episode: Arthur dismissing Merlin's counsel repeatedly in favour of listening to his uncle.

When Arthur says, "so please, stick to what you do know," you have to wonder whether Merlin remembered being entrusted with the role of knight. Now, Arthur puts him back in his place.

Here's another example: "My conscience is clean, which is more than I can say for my room, so just... do your job, will you?" Yet just yesterday, that job involved Merlin risking his life against enemy forces by dressing as a knight.

By the way, you can tell that Arthur doesn’t believe his own excuses, because he keeps using the passive voice to justify killing Caerleon: “...a show of strength was necessary… an example had to be made… My conscience is clean…”

Merlin’s face after Arthur claims he doesn’t need anyone is self-explanatory.

3- NEW THOUGHTS ON ANNIS

Is Queen Annis a good person? Actually, no.

First of all, she knows and approves of her husband invading foreign kingdoms to plunder their wealth. Such invasions naturally cost not only the lives of Arthur's men, but her own, too.

Furthermore, despite accepting Arthur's offer of a fight by single combat, she is prepared to cheat by enlisting Morgana's power. Perhaps if Arthur had died, too, she would have felt some remorse. Yet she still takes a monumental risk with Arthur's life in blatant violation of the knight's code. One has to wonder about her reaction had Camelot plotted against her armies in the same way.

Then we have Annis calmly ordering Merlin’s execution without giving him a chance to explain himself. The lack of emotion in her voice suggests she has done this before.

Speaking of cruelty, Annis’ champion seems to enjoy inflicting pain on his enemies, yet the Queen claims that he “served my husband well.” I dread to think what she means by “served”.

I will also note that Queen Annis disdains magic, referring to Morgana as “witch”. As I have said before, Uther did not begin prejudice against magic; sorcerers were disliked and feared elsewhere, too, including by those who disliked Uther. Many sorcerers caused this prejudice by engaging in manipulative, violent, and wicked deeds.

Examples include High Priestesses using Fomorrohs to enslave people’s minds (4x06); Cornelius Sigan using his power to change day into night and acquire vast wealth (2x01); sorcerers using special blades to murder people (3x04), and so on.

None of this takes away from Annis’ complexity, nor does it undermine her immense humility when she accepts defeat and withdraws from Camelot. After all, much of Annis' rage and desire for vengeance stems from intense grief over Caerleon's death, so we can assume her marriage was a happy one.

Forgiving the man who destroyed her domestic happiness (as well as leaving her people without a king) shows tremendous nobility on Annis’ part. I think Arthur sees that, for he is always humble and respectful before her.

4- LONG LIVE THE KING

Few people respect Arthur more than Merlin. So when he doesn’t join in with cries of “Long live the king!”, you know something is wrong.

5- CONTROL YOUR FEAR

Episode 4x03 has a hilarious scene where a drunk Arthur claims he isn’t even a little bit scared, because, “I’m a warrior. You learn to control your fear.” Then Arthur walks smack bang into a pillar. Never fails to make me laugh. Minus the drunkenness, Arthur was telling the truth about controlling his fear.

You can see this at least twice in this episode: first, when he sees how many men Annis has brought against Camelot, and secondly, when he sees the size of Annis’ giant. In both cases, Arthur harnesses his fear into determination, which is another sign of a great warrior.

Next up, we have a fascinating scene where Arthur watches his men joking by the fire. It's a great way of showing Arthur’s care for these men, as well as his guilt that impending war will end their lives. In a sense, Arthur has to control his fear yet again.

6- TRUST IN MERLIN

After the above scene, Gwaine asks Merlin if Arthur is all right, and the fact that Merlin can describe Arthur's feelings without even questioning the King once again shows the unique nature of their friendship. Merlin sees Arthur's expression, and he just knows. And Gwaine knows that, hence why he does not question the King himself.

Listen to the silence after Merlin's response. Nobody questions Merlin's judgement: they just reflect. Given the way Arthur has repeatedly dismissed Merlin's advance in favour of his uncle, I think he could have learned something from his own knights.

I wonder whether the knights would ask Merlin something about Arthur in this way, whenever the king was absent. In ancient kingdoms, kings had advisers, and in order to earn the monarch's favour, you spoke to the latter first. Did Merlin ever play that role for the knights?

7- MERLIN’S IDIOCY

Now, I have a problem with Merlin telling Arthur that 1)- he would have taken any other option but to face war with Annis, and 2)- his decision to kill Caerleon “was made in the best interests of Camelot.”

Sorry, but it wasn’t. Merlin knows that. I understand that he has to rally Arthur’s spirits so that they can win against Annis, but I am glad that Arthur knows full well he has done wrong. Both Merlin and many fans do not give Arthur enough credit for recognising his own errors.

However, even these foolishly optimistic statements pale in comparison to Merlin's reckless and self-righteous interference when Arthur negotiates with Queen Annis. I burst out laughing when he trips and falls headlong into the tent, a metaphor for his impetuousness.

Merlin eavesdrops outside Annis’ tent, gets caught (so he didn't conceal himself), and then has the audacity to say, “Sorry about this!” to Arthur! Not only that, he got angry over being called a “simple-minded fool”, when he couldn’t even walk in a straight line to follow the king, got himself caught and almost killed by enemy soldiers, and made Arthur look as though he were double-crossing Annis!

I completely agree with Arthur’s anger: “Oh, I was being kind, believe me: you almost got me killed in there!” Correct. Merlin simply could not trust that Arthur knew what he was doing, and decided to interfere. Instead of apologising for getting Arthur into trouble, Merlin remains on the defensive, claiming without evidence that Arthur was “doing a pretty good job of that yourself!”

This is untrue. Arthur surrendered himself to Annis’ men. The most injury he received was a slap. He asked a favour. That isn’t risking your life. In fact, Arthur was trying to save lives, and if Merlin had been listening properly (or just stayed in bed), he would have seen that. Only after Merlin’s sudden entrance did Arthur face serious danger from Annis.

Now, Merlin’s explanation for this is, “I’m your friend! I was looking out for you.” I don’t doubt it. But once again, Arthur is right: “I appreciate that in your very confused way, you’re only trying to help, but please: don’t do it again.”

Condescending? Of course. But this time it was Merlin who provoked him into this anger.

8- MORGANA

Despite all her power, Morgana still has to defer to non-magical kings and queens. After all, she requires their military assistance to take over Camelot.

You can also see how Queen Annis detects Morgana’s hatred, greed, self-righteousness, hypocrisy, and bloodlust. In one glance, Queen Annis begins questioning the wisdom of working with a sorceress she does not trust, not least on account of Morgana being a sorceress.

In fact, Arthur’s prowess as a warrior impresses her more: “You have as much to lose as I if Arthur wins…” Fascinating scene.

9- THANK YOU, OLD FRIEND

It’s ironic that arguably the best scene in 4x05 begins by showcasing Arthur’s cynicism. No guesses why Arthur did not tell Merlin about breaking off his relationship with Gwen earlier. That speaks volumes. If he had told Merlin, I think they would have had an argument similar to that of 4x11.

Only when Arthur realises that he may die does he ask Merlin to pass his ring onto Gwen with an apology. You can see the guilt etched onto his face as he refuses to make eye contact. Interestingly, Merlin does not ask any further questions.

Arthur’s entrusting Merlin to look after Gwen in the event of his death says a lot. For example, that ring is technically royal property, yet Arthur gives it to a servant for safe-keeping, rather than his next-of-kin, Agravaine. Despite claiming to need his uncle’s advice, Arthur will not trust Agravaine with such duties. Has Arthur made a medieval will or testament? Obviously, I have no idea, however, this episode already shows Arthur’s reliance on Merlin to deal with family matters.

Another interesting aspect to this scene is Merlin’s silence after Arthur makes an indisputable point. This dispels any idea that Merlin’s advice was always correct. On several occasions, Merlin had to defer to Arthur’s judgement, because he saw the truth and wisdom behind it. “I don’t know what will happen. But for the first time since I became king, I know in my heart I’ve made the right decision.”

Got to love Arthur’s half-amused, “You’re not about to start crying on me, are you?” He expects Merlin to be either in good spirits or confident, because that is how he, too, remains confident. Arthur is an optimist, yet Merlin becomes a pessimist, so the king must pull Merlin together with light and yet serious teasing.

Needless to say, Arthur calling Merlin “old friend” implies that they have been friends for a long time. So why do some fans still think that Arthur had trouble admitting that Merlin was his friend? Also, the word “old” in this context can imply reliability, constancy. Arthur chose that word to describe Merlin’s value, as well as the length of their friendship.

The great thing about Arthur is that while he makes some serious errors, when he does repent, he does so well. Not only does Arthur graciously thank Merlin for his concern, but he makes it clear to Agravaine that he relies on Merlin’s judgement prior to entering battle. This supports my earlier statement that Merlin is Arthur’s best fighter, as well as right-hand man; Arthur does not leave for the fight until Merlin has confirmed his readiness.

On top of this, Arthur later admits that he might be a cabbage head. “I should have listened to you, Merlin. Just this once, I think you were right-- even if you are the worst servant in the five kingdoms!”

By implication, Agravaine is wrong. Arthur won’t say that, of course, but we saw Merlin’s sound advice competing with Agravaine’s lies for this entire episode. We can only conclude that regardless of what he says, Arthur trusts Merlin more than members of his own family.

And this is a theme which will continue and grow for the remainder of Season 4.

FURTHER POINTS:

Merlin’s fighting skills

Paradoxes of Arthur and Merlin’s friendship

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Can I be polyamorous and serve in ministry?

This question has been on my mind, in part, due to a parallel fear drawn from my experiences as a queer person. (And a very idle daydream of going into ministry myself, but I am choosing not to examine that too closely right now.) Something LGBTQ folks hear a lot from churches is that while they’re welcome to attend, they are not welcome to serve. This, among other issues, sets up a toxic and false distinction between ‘normal people’ and SOGI minorities—clean and unclean, worthy and unworthy. For surely all that is required to serve the Lord is a penitent and willing heart, and by gatekeeping in this way you’re not-so-subtly sending a message about who is ‘really’ saved and worthy of entering God’s kingdom.

Here in the Anglican Church (of Canada), I seriously doubt anyone would try to stop me from, say, joining the choir or serving on an altar gilding team, but there does seem to be a distinction in the standards lay servants are held to compared to those of the clergy, which is presumably meant for the greater unity and strength of the church.

The most obvious passage to examine in consideration of this question is 1 Timothy 3:2-13, which details requirements for those aspiring to the priesthood, and in the popular consciousness (drawn from the King James Version) declares that bishops and deacons should be ‘the husband of one wife’. In the NRSV, the translation generally used by the Anglican and Episcopalian Churches, it reads as follows:

2 Now a bishop must be above reproach, married only once, temperate, sensible, respectable, hospitable, an apt teacher, 3 not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, and not a lover of money. 4 He must manage his own household well, keeping his children submissive and respectful in every way— 5 for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how can he take care of God’s church? 6 He must not be a recent convert, or he may be puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. 7 Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace and the snare of the devil.

8 Deacons likewise must be serious, not double-tongued, not indulging in much wine, not greedy for money; 9 they must hold fast to the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. 10 And let them first be tested; then, if they prove themselves blameless, let them serve as deacons. 11 Women likewise must be serious, not slanderers, but temperate, faithful in all things. 12 Let deacons be married only once, and let them manage their children and their households well; 13 for those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and great boldness in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.

‘Married only once’? Interesting. In the New International Version, however, the bishop is specifically charged to be ‘faithful to his wife’, as is the deacon. WELL. Each of these seems, at least on the surface, to emphasise a similar yet distinct point: the NIV charges clergy against cheating; the NRSV, against remarriage; and the KJV, against plural marriage.

This is fascinating, and telling. We Christians do not want to imagine ourselves to be guided by the social mores of our time, yet as culture shifts, so does our theology, to various extents. Tricky or confusing injunctions ought always to be checked against different translations and an understanding of the law rooted in the love of Christ. It happens from time to time that a pastor is exposed for cheating on his wife, and we hear calls from other evangelicals for grace and forgiveness, often without regard for the healing process—and that’s apart from the question of whether forgiveness and reconciliation ought to be on the table at all.

Socially, polyamory is far less understood and accepted than even cheating. Serial monogamy—the string of monogamous relationships that is most people’s dating and marriage history—is all we have achieved under the ideal of ‘till death do we part’. Everyone recognises that faithfulness in monogamy is hard, perhaps nearly impossible, and cheating is generally considered a normal failing, a mistake that doesn’t necessarily define a person. In secular circles, cheating usually results in the de facto dissolution of the primary relationship, but in many religious communities the marriage vows are prioritised above the health and even safety of the couple, so that cheating and sometimes abuse are not definite grounds for divorce.

[As an aside: Even if we make it clear that polyamory, by virtue of being consensual and open, is not cheating—which is, by definition, the breaking of a relationship agreement—it is often thought that polyamorous people take relationships and commitment less seriously. That is untrue. A polyamory proverb (which I draw directly from the seminal work of Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux, More Than Two) is that people are more important than relationships. If a relationship is not serving the participants, it is their right and duty to make a change; to transition the relationship to something different or, if necessary, end it. This is why, although I am deeply romantic and desire some form of marriage myself one day, I will not make a promise of till death do we part.]

The context, as always, is important to a complex and nuanced understanding of this injunction. What else does this passage say about requirements for our clergy and how might a practice of polyamory complicate or empower a faithful and conscious fulfilment of these commands?

A leader who is ‘temperate, sensible, respectable, hospitable, an apt teacher, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, and not a lover of money … serious, not double-tongued, not indulging in much wine', would be so whether married to one person or three. Yet any relationship requires work, and a lot of it. That’s magnified when you add more partners to the mix, so as with the decision to have any number of children, new relationships must be undertaken with consideration to time, energy, potential growth of the relationship and any other ways it may impact your life and that of your family. One must ‘manage their household well’, as the passage states. Part of being a good leader in any sphere of life is knowing how much to take on and how to assert healthy boundaries. This is a call for moderation and self-control.

It is argued with surprising frequency that polyamory encourages immoderation and a lack of self-control. Indeed, our society at large (thanks to capitalism and its children, instant gratification and excessive consumption) is surely responsible for any lack of discipline particular to the modern population, and it is generally understood in polyamorous spheres that ‘relationship broke, add more people’ is a surefire way of running your relationships into the ground. Anyone experienced with ethical polyamory understands that you can’t simply date everyone you’re attracted to; for the health of yourself, your partners and your family, you’ve got to nurture and strengthen existing relationships, and understand the limits on your time and energy, before forming new connections.

Leaders in the Anglo/Protestant church are generally expected, where they are married, to provide an upstanding model of Christian marriage, but it has always been prescribed by authoritarian powers, rather than the hearts of the individuals involved, who may feel called to take a path less travelled. This marriage is a relatively modern vision which most often takes the form of a consensually romantic and sexual, lifelong, monogamous contract—a far cry from the Biblical standard of marriage as a political and social function, and which was often polygamous. (Still, contemporary North American purity culture often refers to the woman in a conventional marriage as the ‘helpmeet’ of the man, which is an idea still essentially meant for the social and political benefit of the man and, importantly, the survival of the woman.)

I will write further about the potential for a Christian model of polyamorous relationships, but for now I merely wish to make the point that the gold standard of the day for marriage and relationships has almost never been based in principles of true Christian love. Rather, it is by tradition sexist, economically coercive and prone to enabling all kinds of self-serving vices—further, almost no one is able to get it right. Heartache, repression, frustration and abuse are all too common in the standard, with the possibility of alternatives custom-tailored to the people of God—who are, by virtue of their creation, highly unique individuals with vastly different needs—denied in favour of prescriptive conformity to a one-size-fits-all structure.

I don’t know about you, but that sounds more like Empire than Kingdom, and I want no part of it.

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ddcjas · 7 years ago

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trey and jai for the lil couples meme

[folds hands] ALRIGHT KIDS BUCKLE UP, HERE WE GO!

1. Who's the one who's reckless and always getting into trouble while the other gotta pull em out

honestly?? jaira’s the reckless one, but she can pull herself out. meanwhile, if trey got into trouble, jai’s there in .000001 seconds.

2. Who's the one to send the other "I love my gf/bf" memes

trey. and jaira just responds with something vaguely mean or threatens to cancel his service provider.

3. Who's the one who listens to a music genre the other doesn't like and how does the other react

jaira doesn’t like anything. so it’s probably something that’s actually decent and jaira’s just standing there with an attitude the entire time for no absolute reason at all

4. Which one spoils the other more and do they ever get competitive to show the other more love

trey absolutely adores having someone to spoil, especially when he knows jai doesn’t like it :> but jaira shows her affection/spoils in different ways so it can get a little bit competitive from time to time

5. How many years did it take to get married or was it just not for them

marriage is not for jaira. marriage refuses to marry another human. but she’ll probably still give him the satisfaction of a “ceremony” even if it’s just a domestic partnership or something.

6. What was their wedding like

lame and cheesy.

7. Is their friends/family supportive

well.....jaira’s entire family is dead at this point lol. all she has as “family” are her best friends selena and adina (YES: ADINA MORALES, AKA WONDERWOMAN, AKA CAMDEN’S GIRLFRIEND???? IS JAIRA’S BEST FRIEND LMAO) and her cousin nadia turay-williams. as for trey, aside from the whole “my girlfriend is a real life vampire see look!” thing, they probably support it.

8. How does one comfort the other when the other is in distress/having a panic attack/crying

when trey is having a “moment”, at first jaira didn’t know how to handle it and it annoyed/confused her. but now, she’s learned to give him some room to breathe and if its that necessary, she knows how his anxiety makes him irritable so she’d literally make him take off his clothes and sit in ice to wake him the fuck up. as for jaira, she’s violent when in distress, soooooo....as badly as he’d want to help, he’s gonna need to give her space unless he wants her to severely injure him lol!!!

9. Which one dissociates

jaira dissociates a lot, actually. she’s had practice so she can hide it better, but they both prbly dissociate when they’re alone rather than in front of the other.

10. Which one stares at the other's booty like "damn" and how does the other react when catching them

LOL TREY. at this point, jaira no longer has the energy to say anything anymore.

11. When they live together what kinda place do they live in? What does their home look like?

i mean, they do live together lol they’re downstairs neighbors. jaira’s apartment is really like...scarce? but still messy? and lots of shit is broken lol. meanwhile, trey’s apartment is neater and more organized. and full of books and plants and posters of the black panthers and shi.t

12. What do their dates look like

cute shit like going to the movies and to dinner

13. How does each act when getting drunk

jaira doesn’t exactly get drunk lol but trey gets super talkative and more willing to admit things that he probably wouldn’t if he were sober.

14. Which one rolls over in the morning to wake up the other one just to give kiss them

trey, because jaira’s already up looking at him anyway.

15. Have they saved each other's lives before

yeah, she probably has. i mean, she killed a guy in his bathroom.

16. Does one have an interest the other think is weird but wants to listen to it regardless

jaira is........so fucking weird. she picked up a lot of habits so he’s still getting used to them all, but he thinks her fascination with numbers is probably the weirdest one.

17. Which one uses cropped hentai as reaction images

jaira. don’t ask why.

18. Does one of them kinkshame the other

jaira generation-shames.

19. Is one of them self conscious about their body? If so how does the other comfort them

it’s not really self conscious i guess? she doesn’t like talking about her “death scar” that covers the left side of her ribcage, and she doesn’t like how she doesn’t take a human-like appearance. he reassures her often that it’s what makes her unique, but she still will take extra precautions to look “normal” if they go out.

20. Say they were cuddling on the bed while listening to record player playing the background. Which song is playing?

all the way down. shut up.

21. What is their song? Like the song that gives them overwhelming feelings?

insecure or scales. :~)

22. What song do they listen to while going on a joyride

jaira prefers instrumentals.

23. What kinda joyrides do they go on? Relaxing ones or wild ones?

relaxing ones. unless jaira decides she wants to get #Wild, then guess what? they gettin wild.

24. Where would they vacation for a honeymoon

jaira’s already been every damn where, so she’d just take him to all her favorite places.

25. Do people ever get annoyed of their pda

yes. namely, jaira.

26. Would they live in the city or the country

jaira prefers the city as a blending method, but trey likes the quietness so she’ll settle.

27. Which ones the red which ones the blue

it depends. normally jaira’s red and he’s blue due to their circumstances, but jaira can be very blue and his “liveliness” is the red.

28. Are either of them mentally ill, if so how do they help one another cope

jaira’s very depressed. and has been depressed for years. its something i wanna expand on more for the sake of developing, but jaira’s depression can be so bad that her still being alive is painful, because she knows she can’t do anything about it. before trey, she either didn’t sleep at all or slept for days at a time. (ofc now her sleeping is bc of dat BABY) also, because of the things she’s seen and endured in a past life, she may have PTSD as well.

29. Does one have a spot on them where they would melt when the other kisses them there

neck kisses

30. Do they dance together

whenever trey makes her, yeah.

31. Do they sing together

whenever trey MAKES her, yeah. bc he knows now that she had a whole career out of it, so he takes whatever he can get

32. Which one is better at cooking than the other and makes most the dinners

jaira, hands down.

34. Are they a reckless couple or safe

surprisingly, they are soooo safe.

35. What be they kinks and do they try each other's kinks

yoooo, they are probably so fucking spontaneous. he probably uses her powers as an advantage to do shit like CEILING SEX

36. What would their valentines gifts be to each other

trey’s would be something super heartfelt that would last a long time so she understands how he felt about her. jaira would like...cook something. or a buy a book. or something completely dumb that only she understands.

37. Do they get into fights often? If so what do they fight over and how do they make up?

their fights are probably over things super passive that could easily be fixed, but because they’re so “different”, they have different points and view and have no idea how to handle it. they separate for a little while but eventually find an excuse to see the other and talk it out. or...they get drunk and talk it out. or, jaira has to kill someone.

38. Which ones top, bottom, verse

no offense, but jaira tops.

39. What kinda sex they be having (gentle rough whatever)

it depends on the mood. i feel like they have rough ‘quickies’ where they end up breaking shit, but it’s probably gentle most of the time.

40. Who would fight in honor for the other if someone would insult them

trey. he knows that jaira is fully capable of defending herself from deadass anything, but he’ll still fight for her.

41. Which one has a favorite movie that they have the other watch with them again and again

trey probably bought jaira a TV so they can watch movies, tf.

42. How would one react if the other was to die

WE ARENT TALKING ABOUT THIS but she’d probably find a way to die. that’s her 10, man.

43. Who dies first

OR THIS but we all know unless jaira turns him, it’s trey.

44. Do they want kids

it was never a discussion, bc yknow, she’s dead so he prolly assumed she couldn’t have any/jaira doesnt talk about the fact she has kids around the world. but now it doesnt have to be :-)

45. How would they spend their last moments together

NO but listen. jaira would probably hold him like a baby because she knows how much he hates it but she wouldn’t care, and she’d talk about the moments they had before they started talking to each other regularly like when they’d run into each other in the laundromat or in the hallway when she’s yelling at people and then she’d probably talk about the wife she had that died and why she never wanted to turn him (if she never turns him)

#ship — jaira x trevaunn #WHEW #barrymcre

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The Tehuana are a fascinating matriarchal society based in small town of Santa Domingo Tehuantepec, Oaxaca State, Mexico. The name Tehuantepec, the corridor of land on which the people reside, was given to the area by the Aztecs. It means ‘wild animal hill’ and it is a testament to the ferocity of the Zapotec warriors who lived there. Today, the descendants of the Zapotec have continued to make their presence felt across Mexico and the world thanks to the huge influence and popularity of Tehuana traje (traditional dress) and it’s embroidery. The region is famous for its wild velas; traditional fiestas where women proudly parade through the streets in their most flamboyant regalia; most notably their huge starched white lace headdresses known as the Huipil Grande, and their beautifully embroidered floral dresses.

As the Isthmus of Tehuantepec is a slim strip of land separating the Gulf of Mexico from the Pacific ocean, for decades, treasures from the Far East and the Philippines passed through the region on the way to Europe. Because of this unique geographical blessing, the people of the Isthmus were exposed to all kinds of marvels never before seen in Mexico or anywhere else in the Americas. The embroidered silk shawls from Manilla which travelled through in huge quantities were undoubtedly a huge influence on their textiles and fashion. Such garments are what inspired the women of Tehuantepec to create their own elaborate embroidery techniques, which are as influential today as they were then.

A lady at local Vela wears a traditional gala Tehuana dress.

Strong Sisters

The widespread popularity of Tehuana traje is a prominent contributor to what enables the region to operate as a largely matriarchal society. Women from the Isthmus of Tehuantepec, unlike many other women in Mexico, are typically the purse bearers as they are able to make good money selling their traditional textiles. As the breadwinners, they are financially independent so marriage is not a necessity and divorce is a very achievable reality. The respect afforded to women by men is therefore high and has resulted in a much fairer society than in most of the rest of modern Mexico. There is even a much celebrated third gender, muxe, who are largely speaking biological men who identify as female or feminine, dressing in the same flamboyant traditional dress as the other women. There is a three-day vela dedicated to muxe, the Vela de las Intrépidas party, held in Juchitan every November.

Frida’s First Choice

Another factor contributing to the worldwide status of the Tehuana traje as the quintessential Mexican dress was the fact that the intricately embroidered huipils and skirts of Tehuana women were adopted by Frida Kahlo as her signature look. Frida resonated and identified easily with the dress for two reasons, firstly her mother Matilde was from Oaxaca and had been photographed as a child wearing the Tehuana dress alongside the rest of her family, and secondly because the traditional dress of the Tehuanas was known nationwide to be the trademark of the most independent and proud indigenous women in all of Mexico. For those reasons Frida painted many portraits of herself wearing the Tehuana traje, including; Self Portrait as a Tehuana 1943, Self Portrait 1948, My Dress Hangs There, Self Portrait with Loose Hair 1947, and Las Dos Fridas 1939, to name a few.

Two ladies stop and pose for a photo outside a local shop on their way to a local vela in Tehuantepec.

The Traditional Tehuana Dress and Accessories

The Tehuana gala dress which is normally worn for Vela’s consists of a huipil (a straight rectangular top) made from either satin or velvet that is embroidered with ornate floral or geometric borders which frame the neckline and chest. A huge A-line skirt which is gathered at the waist and traditional trimmed with starched and pleated white lace. Skirts for the most important occasions are also embroidered to match the design of the huipil. Fabric flowers and ribbons in complementary colours are clipped and braided into the hair, and copious amounts of gold jewellery replicating Spanish coins are worn to complete the sensational look.

A local woman at a vela wearing her gala traje.

Traditional Tehuana woman wearing ribbons in hair.

Traditional Tehuana gold jewellry replicating Spanish coins.

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Tehuana Embroidery

There are three different referenced Mexican embroidery techniques that are distinctive of, and popular in the Isthmus of Tehuantepec. The Bordado, Gancho & Cadenilla. You can read about them in greater detail in our other article MEXICAN EMBROIDERY FROM THE ISTMO OF TEHUANTEPEC.

Cadenilla Embroidery

Bordado Embroidery

Gancho Embroidery

Whether your interest in Tehuantepec is ignited through a fascination for Mexican embroidery, Frida Kahlo’s fashion, the extravagant velas or the uniqueness of muxe culture, the region is fascinating and you should get there yourself to experience first hand all that it has to offer.

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