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castielfucks · 1 year

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i love that we are discovering our boundaries and saying No, but there comes a point where you can't cancel on your friends anymore. you have to say yes eventually and actually be there. if you like being invited you have to show up at least once. like listen to your body and energy, obviously. but there will come a time where your friends will start hurting and think you're avoiding them or don't like them or don't want to hang out, because every single time you had the opportunity you said no or you canceled last minute.

#this post is brought to you by My Friend Invited Out 6 People Including Me and I was Literally the ONLY Person that Didnt Cancel #his heart was broken #like 3 of then straight up waited until the very last minute to cancel #youre not fooling your friends when you do that. it does hurt their feelings. and they can only take it so many times before giving up #and when they do it wont be their fault because they reached out already multiple times #when does Haha Canceling on My Friend go from protecting your energy to isolation #for both of you #it just hurt to see my friend hurt #because they all initially said yes too #5 people pulling out we had a whole gamenight planned that turned into a 2 person dinner #smdh wake up out of main character syndrome babe we're learning how to be A Good Friend again #being a friend comes with responsibilities btw like there are things you have to do to maintain your friendship #im not talking out of my ass on this one either #do you have any idea the dbt and workbooking ive done to relearn how to connect with people #and notice the damage my isolation and agoraphobia was having on my deteriorating friendships

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