#2 people in the group know the issues and i just sent the gc a “sorry in advance i can't walk very fast” so like what else is there to do

[cemeterym]

i'm begging my uni to stop making every fucking student social activity something where you have to walk around a bunch if you are a slow walker who cannot help it they literally want you dead

[dongminz]

my reality . . ᝰ.ᐟ (han taesan)

pairing: nonidol!taesan x fem!reader; genre: fluff, highschool au, opposites attract; warnings: cursing ; featuring: mentions of tws dohoon, nwjns hanni, zb1 ricky, riize anton, kissoflife belle, and all bnd members!

ᯓᡣ𐭩 what happens when han taesan, a quiet boy with a cold demeanor, falls for a girl working part-time at his favorite record shop?

𐙚 cart • wc: 1,305 | please ignore grammatical errors!

chapter 2: feelings that are new previous ✦ chapter list ✦ character desc ✦ next

it's been 3 days since taesan had visited the record shop. 3 days. for others that might not seem like a long time, but for taesan? it felt like an eternity had passed. he wanted to see her again, but what if he visited so frequently that she'd get weirded out? what if she'd thought he was some weirdo stalking her? he didn't want that, not at all. i mean, he didn't even know her name for goodness sake.

then, he got a notif.

woonhak + hyungs (new messages) riririwoo: did you guys hear? we're gonna have a collaborative project with the fashion n film dep, sir is gonna talk abt it more next class myungjae: what?? that sounds interesting sungho: I wonder what kind of project it'll be leehan: the bell js rang, ig we'll find out

heading to his next class, taesan had wondered what kind of project it was. like, film, fashion and music?? he barely knew anyone from these departments, he was kinda nervous about the idea that he had to get to know new people for this.

ᯓᡣ𐭩

"hello class, i know some of you have heard that we will be having a collaborative project with the fashion and film department. so I will be announcing the project details. firstly, you will be divided into a group that consists of 6-7 people. next, you might be wondering 'why the fashion and film department?'. well, that is because you will be creating a music video! your team has to create its own original song, spectacular outfits, and an interesting music video that depicts the story behind the song. i will send out an email with more details & a list of your groupmates after class. I hope you're excited for this! now, let's get on with our class."

ᯓᡣ𐭩

woonhak + hyungs (new messages) myungjae: dude this project sounds so cool?? like a music video?? URHUFDHR IM SO EXCITED riririwoo: bro fr like?? i hope I get paired up with good groupmates tho sungho: if I get bad groupmates I'm actually cooked myungjae: LMFAOOO woonhakie: whatsup what r you guys talking abt leehan: our teacher announced that we're gonna have a collaborative prj with the film n fashion dep woonhakie: WHAT?? WHAT KIND OF PROJECT R YOU DOING taesan: we're gonna make a music video woonhakie: WHAT. how come you guys get all the cool projects ughh g10 is SO boring. all they do is give us boring hws 😕 myungjae: imagine being g10 LMAOO could not relate woonhakie: you were literally g10 2 years ago sungho: keyword = 'were' woonhakie: i'm literally gonna leave if you don't stop riririwoo: being in g10 is such a skill issue woonhakie left the gc sungho: DUDE myungjae: LMFAOOO riririwoo: LMAOO leehan: LMFAO taesan: you guys r so cooked ㅋㅋㅋ

"i literally hate you guys" a boy with an annoyed expression says, while the older boys sit beside him. "sorry woonhakie :(( we were just joking" jaehyun replies in hopes of cheering up the younger boy, "we'll treat you to ice cream after school if that makes you feel better" a boy with longer hair adds on. "this is why you guys are the best" woonhak replied as if he didn't just hate them 5 seconds ago.

suddenly, they all get an email.

from: Sir Zico hello students! here's the list for your groupings! 🔗 click attached file

"oh my god. they sent out the groupings, everyone go check it" sungho says in excitement. "why am I so cooked I literally know no one in my group" jaehyun says worriedly, "at least you don't have ___ LIKE HE DOESN'T DO ANYTHING AT ALL" riwoo complains.

while everyone was talking about their groupmates, taesan had suddenly gotten a notif from a gc he wasn't originally in.

mv prj groupmates!! (new messages) yn: hello everybody!! are you excited about this project ^^ are you guys free to meetup tdyy? js so we can get 2 know each other before we officially start working on the prj hehe hanni: omg hi yn !!! yeah i think im free after school 2day :)) yn: hanni hellooo!! yayy!! thankk youuu 💗 anton: hi im also free today dohoon: me 2 yn: yayy!! okii ricky: hi i have a club meeting after school but i'll try to come after yn: ooo alright!! i hope you get to join ^^ taesan: hello im free after school yn: yayayay!! let's meet at the cafe nearby at 5! see you guys there 💗

taesan was planning to visit the record shop today but I guess not. even though he wanted to visit her visit the record shop, he thought that maybe it would be a good idea to at least see how your groupmates are since you will be working with them on this for the next 4 months. he looked up at the clock.

2:57pm

Just one more hour till school ends, wait. school ends at 4, and the meetup is at 5. that means he has 1 hour of free time, it takes 8 minutes to reach the record shop from the school = he can see her again. oh my god. he was so excited. god, if he wasn't in the middle of class he would've died from happiness. even though these feelings that are new for him made him feel nervous and anxious at times, it also made him feel excited every day because the thought of you her just made him such a fool.

it's 4pm and the bell rings, he quickly gets his stuff and heads for the record shop. 'wait' a thought suddenly forms, 'i can't make it look like I rushed on the way there, i have to walk there at a normal speed' taesan tones down his speed a little bit.

ᯓᡣ𐭩

it's 4:10 and there he was, in front of the record shop. he soon enters after fixing up his uniform and hair, 'i hope she's here'.

when he steps inside the shop he can hear what song is playing. '(they long to be) close to you by the carpenters)' the title itself describes exactly what taesan wanted, to be close to you her.

suddenly he sees the familiar girl, he wants to smile so bad but he'd look like a weirdo smiling while looking at you. he soon notices that she's in his school's uniform. wait, what? his school's uniform, you guys go to the same school?? this has to be fate. well, at least thats what taesan thinks. suddenly, the girl turns around finally meeting with his eyes. he reads her nametag, choi yn. what? choi yn, as in his groupmate?? he's going crazy. he has got to be.

"hello!! it's you again ^^" you say in excitement, "feel free to look around!". you wanted to know his name as he was wearing the same uniform as you the other day, but unfortunately, you couldn't read his nametag due to your poor eyesight...

the 3 idiots (new messages) yn: OH MY GKRFOFKCFOD belle: GIRL WHAT HAPPENED yn: HDHSEHSS HERREE anton: dawg aint nobody here knows what youre saying yn: RECORD SHOP GUY IS HERE. belle: GIRL WHAT anton: WHAT belle: OMG TALK TO HIM?? FIND OUT HIS NAME ATLEAST yn: HES LIKE LOOKING AROJND RN but dude i swear when i saw him i felt like i was about to faint i mean like??? hello??? HE LOOKS SO GOOD PLEASEE anton: DUDE FIND OUT HIS NAME yn: OKAY I WILL WAIT JUST HOLD ON belle: i wonder who it is like he literally goes to our school anton: what if its someone we know actually yn: oh my god. belle: what happened?? anton: are you okay

you see his nametag, han taesan. oh my god. he's your groupmate for the project. this has got to be a fantasy, there's no way. it has got to be fate.

author’s note: rahhh chap 2 is here guys 👊 what do you think?? i bet you didn't see that coming !! (it was so obvious I fear) LMFAO anywayssss char descriptions r coming soon!! hope you guys enjoyed it!!

taglist: @tkooooop, @blumisiu, @cococunchy, @dimplewonie if you want to be a part of the taglist, feel free to comment or send in an ask !! enjoy 💞

© dongminz 2024 ; all rights reserved

[tainted-liquor]

racism and 'hiimayee'/'mayearies'

hi! so, I know Im not posting as frequently as I should be n I kinda fell off, BUT! theres a reason for that that I will be discussing today.

so, around maybe a month or so ago I was added to an insta gc with a handful of writers. Some being ash, maye, Dalia, a mutual friend named Ash, who we refer to as Lash, and a few others. Keep in mind, just so there is no misconception, the dominant population of this groupchat was both black and queer. I am not going to define who as its not relevant, and I would like to respect everyones privacy.

So, one day in the groupchat, we were all joking around when maye decided to call Dalia, aka @primaviva, a b--der h**per.

Now, for some who are confused lets go over the term 'b--der h**per' and its history.

This is a racial slur that aims to offend the Latino community, specifically Mexican immigrants. it is a callback to the border laws that prevent non-U.S. citizens from entering the United States without legal documentation, otherwise known as a passport or a 'green card' that will recognize you as a U.S. citizen. Throughout history, the government has made it harder and harder to apply for U.S. citizenship. Especially if the person attempting to migrate doesn't have the appropriate funds to finance this kind of migration. This is a form of systemic oppression to further segregate POC from White America, and this system has been critized in the past due to its nature and America even being stolen land.

As stated above, this slur is aimed at Mexican Immigrants. However, anyone of any culture can be an immigrant. When Maye knowingly said this to Dalia, not only was she using a derogatory term used to berate those who spent years trying to find a way towards a better life against her, but she was also grouping her in a category that is not her own. Dalia is NOT Mexican-American. She is puerto rican and dominican. So not only does this term not apply to her, it groups the entire Latino community in a giant umbrella of ignorance that erases her culture, and throws it under one title that is not her own.

To put this into perspective, lets use a hypothetical example.

Jen is Mexican-American. Her culture has deep roots that contributed to everyday history. While some components of her history may be similar to other Latino heritage, they are not the same and differ in many ways.

Gabriella is Puerto-Rican. She too has some similarites to other Latino/spanish speaking cultures, but there is an entirely different story to how her people came to be.

Grouping Jen and Gabriella together is ignorant. Doing this overlooks and dismisses their difference in history and boils their culture down to one small similarity; Spanish. You wouldn't call Gabriella a deragotory term that doesn't apply to her, because not only is it racist, but it also takes a massive eraser to her culture and roots. To put these two under the same roof and unite them under one thing is essentially telling them "you're all the same."

Cultural erasure is already a big problem in non-white communities. Anything that differs from European american history is already not talked about, but to do this is just a slap in the face.

And to put the icing on the cake, this was her apology. Which took her 3 tries...

#1, which was already an issue in itself...an emoji for racism is crazy.

#2, which still wasn't sufficient for racism...

And #3, in which she attempt to deflect the situation by saying we use "problematic language". Which, is only the n-word amongst each other. Because we're all black!

She even got defensive when Dalia assumed she was Latino due to how quickly the word was sent like it was normal. This was not a PROPER apology, regardless of how lengthy it was.

And to make matters worse, this isn't the first time she's been caught saying some racist/problematic shit.

This post is lengthy, and for that, I apologize. But I would like to address one last component of this post before I sign things off.

As you can see in one image, Maye cracked a joke about 'curry' when talking about Pakistani women's education activist Malala.

Let's take a moment to explain why this is problematic, and how cracking jokes about curry when on the topic of Pakistan is an issue.

Pakistan is a country in South Asia that neighbors India. This country has a beautiful and unique history of its own that very rarely is taught in classroom settings, just like I said earlier with any sort of history that is not European. One of the racial stereotypes of its South Asia is their 'abundance of curry', and all of their meals being some type of 'curry'

This is again an ignorant and narrow-minded ideology regarding the topic of race and its similarities to other countries that are similar in certain aspects. It pushes people into a marginalized box, and labels them as 'all the same'.

I ask that you do research before spreading a harmful narrative about peoples culture, and don't be ignorant. Thank you for taking time to read this post.

[thestarchaptersanctuary]

so today afternoon, one of my fav moas (lishie<3) shared a post saying she wants to open a moa student group chat,, for all the student moas who's struggling, a safe place for us, a place that we can share our experiences//encourage each other. i immediately jumped lol. at first there wasn’t many people like 30? now it’s ssoo many 휴ㅠㅠ anyways so i didn’t really expected much but i wanted to make moa friends since FOREVER plus it's a moa student gc?! so i joined.

the age gap was so wide lol and the majors were so various too, like there were engineering students, art, medical, nursing, law, teaching, literature, science, psych students/graduates........ and more. so many cool moas my jaw dropped. and every one of them was SSSUUUPER nice. there were people constantly chatting (even now still some people talking) and i stayed there like a couple hours (i don't know exactly how many hours but at LEAST it’s 2 hours and it didn’t even feel like 2 mins... that’s how you get a conversation is so good and flows.....) and the moas i met were SO nice and SOOO cool🥺 like we talked about so many things from existential crisis to never-too-late-for-anything; from tips for specific majors to do-not-give-f-about-what-people says-do-your-own-thang. there were moas (me included, a lil bit) sharing their every day or student life related worries/issues and everyone had a heartwarming, soft things to tell them🥺 i normally would not easily share infos about me online, like yk, afraid of being jugded kinda vibe. but i did told them a bit and all of them were so nice, so from-heart and encouraging about itㅠㅠ it gave me such comfort and motivation:’) not just that but, there’s really SSSOO many cool moas there and being together with cool and successful people also motivates me you knowㅠㅠ and that gc suddenly became a so-nice-and-comforting place.

and then, the topic ofc lead its way to tubatu. i mean a lot of people we definetly have one common point; tubatu fangirling/boying xD IT'S SO MUCH BETTER TO BE ABLE TO GET CRAZY OVER TUBATU WITH SOMEONE THAN TO GET CRAZY ALONE. we talked about yeonjun, music, concerts. and everyone who went to tours shared their full hd videos and photos with the chat. IT WAS SOOOOOOO FUN😭

it was such healing sessions.

i wouldn't expect that all of them would be THIIISSS nice. i’m so glad i joined and i hope it goes like this🥺🤞🏼

i love moas so muccchhh<3

i love tubatu even more, but that’s a secret

OH ALLLSSOOO lishie followed me back😭😭😭 i was fangirling over her too and she saw that and said “consider us friends from now on”😭😭😭 she’s one of the kindest, purest, nicest, softest moas out there i really love her so much and the fact that we’re mutuals now is so😭😭😭😭😭😭 i hope we can get closer tho hehehhh

wAIt one more thing that made today so fun is that i talked with red beauty after a really long time ㅠㅠㅠㅠ she went to jjunie-gayo ?!?!?@?#&$& and she told me all about it ㅠㅠㅠ and it was like i went there myself, it’s because i love her so much too and she does deserve alllll the moments with the boys~♡ i’m so happy for her and it was fun to hear about her crazy day!!! except the fact that i got too caught up in the conversation and i almost burned my meal in the ovenㅠㅠ *i didn’t tho, i saved* it was funnyㅠㅠ i was reacting a photo of yj she sent me with saying “aaahh look at this cutie patootiie” and then i suddenly remembered i had potatoes in the oven😭😭 i was like, patootiee? potato... WAIT.. NNO.. SHHITTSHITSHITTFFF POTATOESㅠㅠ

omg i have so much to tell today was fun😭 im gonna comeback here but first i need to do few things🤞🏼

[mvdipetsch]

This is so ridiculous, I can’t even believe I’m writing it. Everyone please be aware of Liv/Olivia (@/vexinspo & @/vexwrote & liv#7729) when interacting with one-on-one or in a group setting.(Please note that this is only my direct story with Liv. I know for a fact there were multiple other issues, but I won’t speak on someone else’s behalf.) 

 When I joined Seance in March, I was immediately welcomed with open arms. However, shortly after opening, Liv began to incessantly message me. At the time, I was having some personal difficulties, and expressed in the main chat that this was the case - I would be in the gc, but not in DMs. Eventually, I believe Liv wracked up somewhere north of 10+ messages over the course of two weeks, each one effectively being like “hi, hello” or “do you want to plot?” or some other variation. (Remember - this is after I had said I would not be replying to DMs publicly, which Liv had seen.) 

And then came the deletion. Liv began to delete messages that they had sent me privately so that all is currently left is a small handful of seemingly innocuous messages (that are date stamped five days apart). I would see the push notifications on my phone, and then 2-3 hours later they would be gone. Eventually, I spoke to the admins about it, where they dealt with the issue as best expected. Honestly I thought I was being paranoid, and that Liv was being friendly and I was just being awkward. However, I was/am not the only person that Liv has done that exact same thing to. Liv also then proceeded to @ me publicly in the group chat, after being asked by the admins to stay away from me, and received a timeout for that. 

After that, I sent Liv a message asking why she was so obsessed with me, and compared them to Joe Goldberg. I received no response. Through the admins, I received a half-assed response/apology from Liv that was effectively “I messaged Luna so much because I was anxious about what happened with [redacted] before, and I wanted to be welcoming.” 

Eventually, Liv left the group. And now, seven weeks on from the final message that I sent Liv, she has decided to pop back up and begin to follow me here. Liv gaslit me, violated my boundaries and is now continuing to do so on a blog that I did not even know existed, with a blog that she had no right to discover. Liv is also known to use VPNs, so an IP block may not work. 

Liv has made me uncomfortable, my friends uncomfortable, and members of this community that I adore uncomfortable. This is not a way to send hate towards Liv, but I wanted people to know that someone like that is out there and she will make you wildly uncomfortable and almost ruin a group if you give her the chance. 

[fairywithgremlintendencies]

rambling below (tw: mentions of depression, stalking,cyberbullying, su*cide, m*rder, self h*rm)

no fr this will be me venting quite a bit on heavy issues so if any of this triggers you, keep scrolling!!!!

my old friend just messaged me again asking for a ball ticket because she goes to another school and needs to get in through someone from my school. I said i couldn't get her the ticket partly because we haven't spoken in years properly up until now and it doesn't sit right with me, especially because when i was in a really dark place in year 8 (12-13 yrs) she was no help when i was trying to use my phone as a coping mechanism. she called me antisocial and annoying among other things. at the same time i was being cyberbullied kind of in secret by her then best friend and the whole group of us were being cyberbullied by an anonymous stalker who would make gcs and harass us on there and individually. my friends thought it was just funny. that is until the stalker brought up my friend's (who messaged me) dad who died from suicide. they also sent us very inappropriate pictures. the stalker got all up in my business from the start. they knew my home address, mum's first name and brother's, where i was at any given time, and my usual hangout spots and gave me physical descriptions of my close friends. she blackmailed us by saying things to us such as "i'll tell you my real name if you tell your friend to k*ll herself". she said this to my friend and two of my friends had s fake argument but the stalker found out not long after. then she threatened my friend with rape and murder. the stalker told me to tell the friend that messaged me to make sure she is ready because she will "f*ck her and kill her". the stalker told me to make sure my mum looked behind her on the way to work. told me i was a coward, that i should just k*ll myself. my friends wondered why i didn't find anything fun anymore even though the stalker messaged most of them too. but i guess i was a main target. "you can't be depressed" one friend said. "you're jumping and smiling". i knew i would never really cut. so i scratched because it helped me to feel real again. i developed a dissociative disorder along with serious depression and su*cidal thoughts. the stalker contacted us for all of term 2, vanished, then came back in term three. i became jumpy whenever i got a new message. cried my self to sleep. was teased by another friend. skip to the year after. my depression only comes in waves now but they sure hit hard. stalker said goodbye and never went back online. her first message to me a year back from then was "hi *name*. i'm coming for you". i'll remember this as terrifying for the rest of my life. the depression may have lifted a bit over the holidays, but my anxiety symptoms were larger than ever after all that happened. i finally got therapy after a year of being too scared to. the friend that teased me and i had a heated argument over instagram. worst app ever why do i still use it. caused me to lash out at my family. like i used to when it was really bad. my insecurities grew. i had to throw out certain pair of clothing because of the bad memories and teasing attached to them. I had new friends now. they were more like me. quieter. i had one friend back when it was really bad who believed me when no one else would. she was one of the reasons i didn't die at 13. we're still close. i won't forgive the others and i don't think i have to. we never found out the stalker's identity, although i have suspicions. i'm currently friends again with one of the people who used to cyberbully me. i never forgave her but i know that we were young and stupid and i think she gets a second chance. luckily for me she is much nicer now. i though my confusions were over until i started questioning my sexuality. luckily in the end i was able to overcome my internalized homophobia towards myself. if anyone read the whole thing and related to any of this i want u to know that i'm happy to support any of y'all if anyone wants to talk or vent. if you just keep going somehow there is always a positive side to it, even if it's just the taste of cookies or cuddling a dog <33 you're always better off alive in the long run

as for rn i'm scared to check insta in case my friend texts me back and i get insecure about how to respond again fvnfjvnd

[hyunggurph]

STARDEW ADMIN

here i’m going to talk about what happened and everything in between because there are some narratives out there that i don’t like and i didn’t have a chance to speak for myself because i was in class and had hw. take it as you will. but, i will not be disclosing any personal names!

me and my friend decided to make stardew back in october, but it ended up being a lot more than what my friend, and i, could handle so i brought in some people i thought were my friends to help me run it. we had our issues, we didn’t do everything that we should’ve and we had a SHIT reputation that we 100% deserved. it made me wary of adminning, so i kind of spaced a little bit (which was easy to do being back home without decent internet to even run tumblr)

fast forward a few months and we bring on a new admin, B. (this happen about two weeks ago, i believe). everything was fine and chill and we were just vibing while my other two admins, C and B1, needed the extra help because i was slacking in the admin department. which, i don’t blame them for. B1 decided to bring in B as an admin while i was asleep, without asking me or C about it. at that point, the logins had been shared and it was too late for me to voice my concern or unwant for it because she was already acting as admin. 

i was already in a pretty bad mental space with other stuff that had been going on and i was sick, so i was very on the fence with staying or leaving, but i inevitably stayed because they wanted me to be there.. and they were my friends, so i did! 

now, a few days ago, my ex admin ,that helped me create the group, was talking about wanting to join again with our mutual friend (who they had a ship with in a previous rp). it was all jokes at first, but once sharing that want in the admin group chat that we had, B1 and B were quick to judge it off with nasty comments and not even taking it as a joke. i was continuing on as it was, even throwing in things back. here’s some screenshots with MY input as well so y’all can see where even I went wrong: 

the above screenshots are when it was initially brought up, even i was going along saying that i agreed she shouldn’t be in the rp, but that was because i didn’t think my friend was serious. the second i found out she was i quickly changed up my story. i got into a call with her and my friend who had helped me make the rp originally and she expressed how upset she was because these people loved her character “isabella” from a past group we were in with her. it got to the point where she was talking about never playing this character again, and stepping down from rp entirely because she felt BAD that people hated her character this much to the point where she was being denied in a group that was run by her FRIENDS. 

fast forward a couple hours after the phone call ends and i say my apologies to her myself, i message the discord and ask them to apologize (unfortunately i’m not in the discord anymore, but i sent it to our imessage gc too bc it was ignored for a hot minute in the discord): 

now, i’ll admit how i said it was very pointed, but it’s not how i meant it originally. i was mad and upset that i was 1. being put in a weird, uncomfortable position, and 2. my friend was hurt. it was met with backlash and them basically trying to make it seem like they weren’t in the wrong for what they were saying, and saying that they were going to delete/ignore her app entirely, and because i was “agreeing with them”. when, i was joking      they were serious. a simple apology really isn’t that hard, right? evidently it was! they were pretty much refusing to apologize because they didn’t feel that they had to because it was their opinion. it’s two little words: some i had already spoken to the individual myself. once i realized the harsh messages back and the way everything was handled, i decided to step down, as an admin and member. which, i said in the group chat myself. i even had a closing message on my character about how i loved the group for 5 months and that the admins would do right and keep it alive just fine. 

i had no harsh feelings (except the fact that my ‘friends’, minus C, hadn’t even tried to check up on me to see how i was feeling after everything, but that’s not important, really). i had made my amends, but when you’re with something for that long, you develop and attachment to the group. 

after about 5 days, i messaged C talking about how i wanted to come back (this happened last night), and she met me with a weird feeling of basically being like ‘oh.... but there’s other rps in the tags!’, so that was already red flag number 1. 

which, i STILL feel that i have every right to return to a group i MADE. not as admin, but simply as a member. and i didn’t feel like me wanting them to apologize for upsetting someone and putting me in a weird position was really ALL that deep to warrant discomfort by ME. i was wrong!

i woke up this morning and saw that they accepted SIX apps, but mine wasn’t there. C said it wasn’t intentional and that they were just waiting to discuss it because they didn’t know how B would feel! turns out, they were already on the fence of me joining and it was intentional! as a quote from B1, “part of me says no, but part of me says yes i’m conflicted and waiting for B”. 

i was also met with harsh assumptions towards my intentions and sincerity saying i was joining “out of spite” when i had told C last night that i was bored and wanted to rp... i checked the tl daily while i was gone because i missed it. 

in no way did i say they STOLE my group because they did not, NOR did i have any knowledge about one of them being “racist”, everything that was thrown out today was my first time hearing it, too. what my friend posted is not what I’M saying. all i was saying was that i was unfairly denied a spot back into my group for reasons that are petty and unfair, nor do i think it should’ve been taken to the tags in such a manner. but i will not shame my friend for trying to stick up for me when they knew i was hurt, even if it was done the wrong way. 

[nightwingxy]

Weird Problems I have/am Having with Tumblr.

Anyone Else Find it weird how You Can’t Link a 2nd Pre existing Tumblr account on the app? I have a Doll Side Blog where I talk about my doll collecting hobby (mostly barbies and similar fashion dolls) and reblog tons of doll stuff. At the Time of Making said Side Blog Hadn’t really come out about my Hobby yet, Hence why I made a side blog to post and talk about that kinda stuff without people knowing because I was kinda self conscious about it and worried that people might think it was a weird hobby to have, given how my folks reacted to it the one or 2 times they found out about it. I did eventually come out about it with some close friends and eventually the world (at least on twitter). So by now I have no problems talking about it openly, and i’m on this side blog much more often then I used to be. So why can’t I just link a pre existing 2nd account to The app so I can freely switch between my main and my side blog with out having to log out of one and log into the other? The Twitter App lets you do this no Problem, Like I have my Main, my Backup account (my old account I re found and use incase my main gets shadow banned or something), and my 3rd account for Doll Hobby Stuff. On the Tumblr App you can make a new 2nd account but not add a pre existing one? That just seems hella weird but that’s just me. If anyone knows a fix or workaround please hit me up.

Also Group Chats Recently became a thing. While stuff like being recommended Random GC’s that probably have nothing to do with what you post about or are interested in, or the fact that you can view inside These GC’s beofre Joining are weird choices/Issues, My Problem is That GC’s are only on the App. Like Why? Why Can’t I just Look at Group Chats on Desktop? Going back to the issue of linking a pre existing 2nd account, If I wanna check up on the GC’s i’m in on my side blog I have to log out of my main and log in to my side blog, and that’s gonna get VERY tedious VERY fast. at least on desktop I can open an incognito window to log into my sideblog and have both it and my main open at once. Again comparing it to Twitter, They have GC’s on Desktop no problem, on top of doing them correctly where you have to get added to one by a mutual first before you get to see it, and you don’t see any messages sent prior to joining. Tumblr just did it kinda ass backwards, but that’s just me. If anyone (somehow) has a fix or work around for this Please hit me up

[marvelbuilt]

hi okay so i’m going to make this post because i dont have too many rp friends that i can even talk to about this. 

so im like really upset right now because two of my best rp friends havent like spoken to me in months. so basically we’d all been friends for a very long time via MANY different fandoms. we had our own discord gc and servers and stuff and talked nearly every day. they were really there for me when my ex dumped me unexpectedly and i was an utter mess and they were there for me as i got better. i’ve also been there for them for insecurities, among other things. we were all really good friends. 

so two of us watch drag race, nothing new there, and while i assumed the other was watching live, with me, i sent in a group chat “MONET WAS ROBBED” to which she was understandably upset that i spoiled that singular episode on who went home for her. but the way she went about it really put me off. that coupled with my worry that i was just annoying them both at this point, had me overreacting and leaving the gc. i thought things would just cool down; whatever. well no one ever messaged me, not that i expected them to, so i eventually messaged them and apologized and explained why i felt insecure about things and that i loved them a lot like literally sisters to my gay ass. then we talked about like one thing? and then they completely stopped responding to my messages.

that was fine; i just figured they had left the rpc, as all their blogs went onto hiatus and maybe they’d abandoned their discords as well, idk. so then we still have each other on snapchat and insta/twitter. she tweets something about waiting for incredibles 2, i tweet back something just semi-sarcastic with edna mode handing out tissues. it was a joke but apparently we weren’t there yet lmao. so never got a response. like a month or two passes and i realize that our snap chat group is now empty (we like used it very rarely), meaning both of them had left. mind you; i’m only talking about one of them currently.

that was like a week or two ago and i realized; wow maybe they’re like done with rp for good and don’t want anything to do with me. i dont reminders of friends who aren’t coming back so i removed them from my discord (they hadn’t responded in months anyway) and unfollowed via twitter and like removed them from snapchat. it’s not that deep, especially for people who didn’t seem to want to talk anymore.

anyways; after the yj trailer was released during comic con last week, i decided to make dcbuilt finally and really buckle down. i started following people and found a blog that looked remarkably similar to that one friend. i followed and liked posts, until i finally realized that it was in fact her. i then realized she was never going to follow back and again tried to make amends, explaining why i removed them from things, because i figured they weren’t coming back / didn’t want to talk anymore; whatever. i wasn’t sure how to contact her, so i resorted to an ask on our blogs yesterdays. i said i didn’t want to go back into yj without having her to talk about it with among wanting to be friends again.

this morning i woke up, half-expecting to not hear back, only to see i’m no longer following the blog, meaning she softblocked me. i couldn’t even get an answer to whether or not we could be friends again; just a softblock so she doesn’t have to deal with me.

i literally lost TWO of my best friends because i spoiled an episode of drag race and put a gif of edna mode handing tissues on twitter. like, they are some of the sweetest girls i have ever met and i adore them dearly, still to this day. the issues i caused were mistakes; no doubt. but i never thought of them as issues that would result in a softblock. i dont even know what my other friend thinks of me?? like i can only just imagine she’s going along with her.

anyway, the yj fandom is small right now and i’m worried that things are going to be awkward and im like just kinda floored that all of this has happened. like i never meant to harm in anyway. i dont even know why she’s upset with me. i spoiled an episode of who went home on drag race, apologized and was forgiven. then, thinking we’re good, i sent a sarcastic tweet of edna mode handing tissues for waiting to see incredibles 2 and never got anything in return. then i was never responded to again; figured they were just done with rpc and didn’t want to talk anymore, so i removed them from things. then i find out that’s not the case and attempt to explain my, if you ask me, minuscule actions, and she won’t even talk to me and just softblocks me instead.

i cant stand to have people mad at me; but especially people i was so close to for so long and the fact that i don’t even know the reason why. like is it still the drag race thing? the edna gif? i never blocked them or insulted them or talked bad about them? i literally adore and love them. like i just can’t believe i’m losing some of my best friends over something that i don’t even know. like is it because i removed them? because they left the snap group first; i didn’t do that.

ugh i know no one is going to read this full thing through but im just like??? what is going on? im literally shaking i cant stand not knowing

[cutecutebibaforever]

July 2, 2021

Central Europe Time

5:45pm

"Nag suicide si Dian"

So, okay, at the back of my mind says,

she will survive, she is strong, she will make it.

Apparently, when I was settled on the assigned seat, few of our close friends and schoolmates at SMAD messaged me and ask and sent screenshots about the incident.

Because I really had a rough day battling the Spanish bureacracy today, I did not mind it. I have always been a victim of pranks and "what nots" in real life, so yeah, I didn't mind actually.

Then again, opening messages in facebook messenger every now and then is my thing now and completely settled in with my seat number, I opened them up. My cousin Felni confirmed it with mama Jeb, Walter and Kurt in the GC. I literally felt my heart stopped and think about the last time Dian and I talked and exchanged banters and reminiscing the old us comparing to the new generation.

I fondly call her "Tot" because it is my secret pet name to my original sister who has the same name, Dyantot. "Tot" became my endearment for her and she called me C2 (meaning CuteCute, Cute squared. LOL) HAHAHA!

Dian and I had been through a lot and only a few people knew that. She became the sister I have always wanted, near or far.

I got to know her my sixth grade and continued the friendship in high school where we created so much memories together. Memories about annoying the RVM sisters, competing with batches, intramurals, JS proms when she would be challenged to wear a gown and makeup and CAT training with Sir Pat and former CAT officers which we considered really close.

The CAT training for me was the most memorable in our high school together. We had so much fun annoying the elders with our endless banters, being serious with the task at hand, collaborating with the group, bringing out strategies to win, alas, if I could only go back to that moment, nothing compares. My batchmates can really relate. That moment became the defining moment of our sisterhood when we were 14. It was such a lovely memory that when we got to talk about it, it seems like it was just last year.

I am writing this with so much pain because she has nothing more than the real friend I had. One of the very few who totally understood my choices of men, bizarre plans, impossible dreams coming true and so on. We literally grew up together.

Our twenty years of friendship consisted surely of fights, sharing happiness and sadness, life's milestone and dreaming about what is to come. We bullied each other and had unsimilar discussions because of our differences yet we got past through it in surfing adulthood with responsibilities, dreams being set aside because of bigger priorities, goals yet to be achieved and so much more.

I am particularly sure that you would agree (to those who really got to know her and our circle) that she was the life of the party.

She was the person who would let you stay at a party and going home won't even matter because discussing with her is an endless mixture of jokes, sarcasm, satires and real life learning and experiences.

I remember she had a great respect for my father that we always get to keep our shenanigans privately in college because I had to pretend to my father that I am not drinking, partying and dating.

I am writing this because Dian opened up to me her most vulnerable state all throughout this pandemic. I listened to her about her frustrations of not being able to practice her license that forced her to make a different path because she wanted to help her family even in little ways. This to me, is very heroic. I haven't really been in a situation where I really have to support a family member 100% so I admire her for this. She was everyone's hero and she played it really well not minder her own pain, frustrations and incapabilities.

One time in April, she called me crying because somebody hurt her and she was in pain, she was emotional that I cried with her too. That video call actully ended with our usual gloating laughter. HAHAHA! She would always be there for you, one call, and she's there. I kid you not.

All througout May and June, we were endlessly chatting in instagram and confessing that she took her long-time partner back even if she had trust issues on her own. I was mad and told her to cut connections but she said, she loved her to much. So, I, the supportive friend encouraged her to always prioritized herself first (this is with screen shots). I told her adamantly that she needs to see the bigger picture of things in different perspectives because we are not getting any younger. That catch-up ended me saying "fine, I will be supportive only if you take care of yourself first.."

Furthermore, on her state of vulnerability, she opened up to so many of her expectations not being met by the people she expected along the way. She was confused, felt judged and neglected by these people she thought the shoulders she can cry on. I only told her to let go and cut connections of these people, but she ended up doing the opposite. That's what she was, stubborn yet respectful to my advices. This was so frustrating for me because I was so busy in 2019 that we never really got to hang out the way we were in college, drinking our hearts out, partying like we were invincible. Clubbing just because we had good grades in midterms and finals, odd summer getaways of staying at beach looking at the stars and shouting our hearts out to the ocean.

We only had chats, video calls since I moved to Spain.

Recently, (March-April 2021) she was bothered because she felt like a lot of people is expecting too much from her. She felt like she needs to explain her side of the story so that she won't be judged as the bad guy. I found this saddening. Most of the people she valued wanted her to be the person that she is not and she talked about it as if it was just nothing, like ordinary. I for once told her that it is mean and condescending of these people to expect you that way. Why would you keep these people who expected you to be not yourself? She just shrugged it off and we went back to the usual saying of "I love yous'" and "please take care" "see you soon".

I am still on the plane two more hours for Istanbul and I am crying nonstop 😭

I will be home without her, this is reality and it is piercing me. The supposed homecoming would be a saddening one because I lost a friend and a sister for hiding so well her mental health issues, her angst, her hurt and I felt at fault because I was not the constant listener.

Tot, I don't know what to say but I am sorry for not being there all the time. you were hiding it so well that nobody knew you are suffering. I was hoping to celebrate my life's winning moment with you because you were not just supportive but the tolerating friend no one could ever replace. I was excited to let you wear a white dress for the next chapter of my life real soon and this all the more makes me cry 😭

I could only wish to see you one more time but these circumstances that we are having now makes it so impossible (since I am in quarantine).

I owe so many things from you and I don't know how to accept your unfateful demise. I am heart broken and it will take a lot of time for me to move on but I will get there in time. God has His reasons we cannot possibly know why at this time of grief but I am faithful that God will restore you and take away your sufferings that you have been enduring for so long.

I love you is an understatement.

[thedeadflag]

I've been thinking about something - would love your thoughts on it. Is it transphobic for cis women to walk around with "pussy power" signs? I have, and I don't claim to speak for all women when I do. I know not all women have vaginas. But for me, my personal brand of womanhood has a lot to do with the fact that I do, and what that means. Do you have to speak for all women when protesting as a feminist? I want to be inclusive and also speak out about my subjective experience of womanhood 1/2

2/2 I also get that only ever preaching about your own issues and experiences is not intersectional, and not cool. I definitely will and do show up for my trans sisters as well. I’m just wondering where the line is drawn. When I’m speaking from my unique experience of being a woman (a white, cis, lesbian woman, in my case) and when I’m being excluding. I want to know so that I can do better, if I need to. If you feel you have the time, as I said, would love to hear your thoughts!

I mean, the big issue with things like protests, marches, etc. is that there’s no actually detailed dialogue happening, no nuance. And depending on demographics, it can be easy for a themed march to take on a certain message if enough people present it in their one-liners, slogans, etc. they have on their signs and clothes.

That doesn’t have to be a bad thing, of course, but it can pretty easily erase the more marginalized who are made less visible or invisible by the others, or whatnot.

So is it transphobic for cis women to attend Women’s protests/marches with “Pussy Power” signs? A few? Probably not. A majority? Yeah, probably.

That can, of course, be potentially moderated by also carrying or wearing things that visibly (as in, not a tiny pin or some shit) fight the cissexist reaction to equate vulvas/vaginas/etc. to womanhood. 

Like, you could have a sign that says “Pussy Power” on a backdrop of the trans flag colours. Or display the trans symbol somewhere visibly. Anything to complicate the general cissexist message that would otherwise be sent loud and clear.

Like, again, you asked:

“Do you have to speak for all women when protesting as a feminist?” 

That’s how protests work. A group of people gather under a unified banner and present a message (or a few messages). If one of those messages, due to volume alone, equates vaginas and co. to womanhood, then yes, that is the message that the group and all of the participants will be sending, regardless of individual intent or beliefs. 

Outside of the context of protests, it’s a lot easier to be clear and nuanced about your views, and when you’re speaking as an individual, and the ways your body has shaped your experiences of womanhood, etc.

In protests, you’re just a statistic, no one cares about any of that, and chances are, no one will see/hear any of that nuance. They’ll see the result of the whole. 

Like, take, for instance, back in the 00s, when ENDA was trying to be passed, and Barney Frank insisted that he had to drop trans people’s protections from the bill so that cis LGB folks could get protections. Communities country wide would talk about this, and many would end up taking a certain stance on it. And a lot took the stance that yes, Barney Frank was right, rights for some is better than rights for none.

That, of course, sent a message that trans people were expendable, and were an acceptable sacrifice. Maybe some individuals who supported dropping the T did understand us, and love us, and want to fight for us and thought this was the best way. Didn’t matter. In the end, we got silenced and thrown under the bus, and apologies or individual clarifications yelled down at us from inside of the bus, while we’re stuck under the wheel well? Not really going to fly.

It’s a common issue that we were very critical of across the years, because… despite promises and pleas for forgiveness, that “we’ll come back for you! Support us getting our protections, and we’ll have so much energy and more power to help get you yours!”, that literally never happened. Ever.

Like, Canada won Same Gender Marriage in 2005, and we’d heard all of those promises leading up to its legalization. That our cis allies would make a hard push for trans rights across the country right after, to use that momentum we helped fight for to get us our protections and freedoms.

That never came. Since mid 2005, the only rights and protections gained by trans folks were purely due to trans people fighting for our rights. LGBT-wide support for trans folks collapsed whenever our issues were raised, so we had to do it ourselves.

Same in the states. Same Gender marriage passes, and then suddenly the HRC and GLAAD and all the major LGBT+ orgs are incapable of effectively fighting for (and raising awareness of) trans rights issues unless cis LGBT rights are also at risk (in which case, a huge deal is made, and all the major orgs pull out all the stops, and there’s the usual backlash of “drop the T” in blaming us for their rights being attacked).

SO when we hear the same sort of angle from cis women regarding women’s rights and women’s protests, that it’s okay for us to be silenced and erased by the volumes of cis women focusing on “cis women things” (which are rarely cis women things, but things that many many people experience), we are usually rightfully wary. Especially given how pervasive and unchallenged cissexism is in society, and in most feminist and women’s spaces. 

Like, I’ve met a hell of a lot of cis women who don’t think trans women’s reproductive rights are attacked. I’ve met less, but still a significant amount, that believe trans women aren’t sexually assaulted due to our bodies or misogyny. I’ve met a significant amount that think trans men are justifiably more welcome than trans women because they feel that trans men are female and trans women are male, if not fully, then at least when it comes to bodies (which is still wrong). I’ve heard a lot of cis women assert that trans women don’t face a widespread issue of healthcare access like, say, the issue of obtaining accessible and affordable birth control (when, like, our access to puberty blockers and HRT and GAS/GCS is still intensely gatekept via sexist and misogynistic controls and policy, which in turn often keeps us from being able to be recognized as real and legitimate by our governments due to them requiring we go through these steps to be seen as valid/real, etc. etc.). Among a plethora of other cissexist misunderstandings.

I’ve met a tremendous amount of cis women who make this ideological separation between “is” and “identifies as”, that distances trans women from womanhood, as if we’re not full women in body and mind, as if cis women experience the whole range of womanhood, and trans women only experience what overlap we have with cis women, with all other experiences simply being “trans-related”. And that’s just false. Just like the notion that, deep down, trans men are really just women playing as men, or that NB folks are really what they were assigned at birth, etc.

A trans man’s genitals are male genitals. Doesn’t matter what they are. A trans woman’s genitals are female genitals. Doesn’t mater what they are. Non-binary folks’ genitals are their genitals, regardless. Most folks haven’t come around to that truth yet.

Like, by default, trans and NB and intersex folks get erased and invalidated and misgendered. That’s the default status quo, and even if you as an individual are aware that trans folks exist and whatnot, and understand us, that does not mean the majority of people do in any meaningful, accurate way. And so it’s important to challenge cissexism when provided the opportunity, to not let trans, NB, and intersex folks be acceptable sacrifices for cis women’s convenience during events.

But also that outside of major events, that you challenge cissexism, and educate people about cissexism, because people generally have no clue what it is, so they won’t be able to recognize it, and if they can’t recognize or understand it, they can’t fight it. And if they can’t fight it, things will always be shit for us.

tl;dr: If you’re part of a larger group, you’re not speaking for yourself, you’re just one cog, and together as a whole, you produce certain dialogues. Some of these might not fit with your individual views or experiences, but it is what it is.If you’re in a one-on-one, or in a group speaking as an individual, or online within the context of personal experience, etc. then yeah, that’s you.

[fireflythecinnamonjollyrancher]

Here are my points of contention:

1. You have only participated in one (ONE!!!) skit night. You have no idea what all it takes to put together? We asked for choreo a week ago, two weeks ago, you cant blame this on the music. NOTHING IN THE MEATY PART OF THE SONG CHANGED. There needs to be more communication.

2. You didn't listen to a WORD that your sound designer gave you on their concept. If you had, this wouldnt have been as much of an issue.

3. Collaboration? Concept? Out the window.

4. THE CHOREOGRAPHY ITSELF IS HORRIBLE its unclean you're not on beat at fucking all you can tell you didnt know it

5. Neither of you showed up to either practice, which made it impossible for anyone to understand anything. I got so many people asking me questions that, yeah, I decided what it should look like.

6. NO I actually (fun fact) didn't want to choreograph this year, nor any year. It was just so bad???? Listen, granted we're control freaks, and competitive, but for fucks sake what you sent along with no explanation and no planning was unacceptable.

7. YOU COULD HAVE SENT IT IN THE GC BEFORE HAND or even in the officer's chat to ask for how it looks. Because I'm telling you right now it looks so bad.

8. Even if your concept was "each group do its own choreography", you needed to choreograph all of it. Having some groups choreograph some of their own stuff was dumb, I'll say it. There should have been a scooby gang dance, a monster's dance, a hex girls dance, that was choreographed by you. It was lazy choreography. If you didnt have the time just say so?

[alexdgreen86]

Episode 91: [Finding Deals] Landing Your First Flip Deals with Mike Newby

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Mike is brand new in the investing world but brings a construction engineering degree, and 10+ years of construction background, knowledge and business sense. Alongside him is his beautiful wife, Sarah, and loving father, Jim, who have helped get their real estate investing company, Newbyginnings, off the ground and now full steam ahead. They have big dreams for the company and hope to help thousands of families create their new beginning. Mike is also currently a full time construction consultant and his wife is a full time cardiac ICU nurse at a local Children’s hospital.

When Mike started studying real estate investing, it only took him about 6 – 8 months for him to make the decision to jump into the industry. Mike found a wholesaler and got his first deal done. With a good foundation and knowledge base, he was confident in working his first deal for his real estate investing business. Where so many people give up before they hit this point, Mike kept going and is working everyday at making his business a success.

As soon as he decided to get into real estate investing, Mike found a wholesaler posting houses on Instagram. He sent a message, got into communication with someone on this wholesaler’s team, and started communication. This group has a wide range of buyers, so they were eager to talk to Mike. They walked through a few houses, and on the third property Mike made a bid and got it. It took 2 or 3 weeks staying in communication with this wholesaler before the property was Mike’s. What a great first deal!

For more connections, Mike has been networking in the Flip Pilot group on FaceBook. Finding other wholesalers is the key to starting up a successful real estate investing business. With both Mike and his wife still working full time jobs, and being full time parents, wholesaling felt like an easy way into real estate investing. As long as the numbers make sense, there’s no reason not to jump into it.

There’s a perception that wholesale deals don’t have much meat on their bones, but that’s just not true. Mike’s rule is 70% is the golden number. In his market, that’s tough to get, but you can expect to be around 80% – 85% ARV minus repairs. BiggerPockets has an ARV calculator, but Mike made his own in a spreadsheet to keep track of his numbers. With his spreadsheet, he determines if the numbers work for his marketing and business. This is the spreadsheet Mike uses, so if you decide to use this method, be aware that your numbers need to reflect your market.

For Mike’s first deal, Mike went through 2 wholesalers. Despite them both taking their cuts, there was still meat left on the deal. The property was a little rough, though. The property was supposed to be vacant, but it wasn’t. The sellers were there for 3 or 4 days after Mike closed on the house, which they weren’t supposed to be. Mike was still working on the plan for the property, but everything went well in the end. When the sellers eventually left, they left behind much more stuff than Mike was expecting.

Despite the unforeseen difficulties with this first property, Mike’s ultimate concern in with helping people like the sellers of this property. That’s where the name of his business, Newbyginnings comes from (in addition to it being a play on his last name). “You never know where your next deal is going to come from,” Mike said.

The sister of the seller had been waiting for someone like Mike to buy her sister’s house. After seeing the amazing success with her sister’s property, she mentioned that she’s going to be selling her house next year and wants to go through Mike. She even offered to make a testimonial, and took a picture with Mike, and wrote an awesome review for him. Her property will, hopefully, be Mike’s 5th deal for his business.

When it comes to actually rehabbing your property, communication is always key. Mike’s GC had brought in someone from other projects to help with the rehab, but staying in communication was a bit of an issue. Mike would talk with his GC, and thought that word was getting passed down to the other contractors, but with the mix up it didn’t. The plan in the future is to sit down over dinner with their GC and other contractors to get to know each other better, and keep the communication channels open. Making sure you know who’s responsible for what is important for keeping a real estate investing business organized.

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Episode 91: [Finding Deals] Landing Your First Flip Deals with Mike Newby

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Mike is brand new in the investing world but brings a construction engineering degree, and 10+ years of construction background, knowledge and business sense. Alongside him is his beautiful wife, Sarah, and loving father, Jim, who have helped get their real estate investing company, Newbyginnings, off the ground and now full steam ahead. They have big dreams for the company and hope to help thousands of families create their new beginning. Mike is also currently a full time construction consultant and his wife is a full time cardiac ICU nurse at a local Children’s hospital.

When Mike started studying real estate investing, it only took him about 6 – 8 months for him to make the decision to jump into the industry. Mike found a wholesaler and got his first deal done. With a good foundation and knowledge base, he was confident in working his first deal for his real estate investing business. Where so many people give up before they hit this point, Mike kept going and is working everyday at making his business a success.

As soon as he decided to get into real estate investing, Mike found a wholesaler posting houses on Instagram. He sent a message, got into communication with someone on this wholesaler’s team, and started communication. This group has a wide range of buyers, so they were eager to talk to Mike. They walked through a few houses, and on the third property Mike made a bid and got it. It took 2 or 3 weeks staying in communication with this wholesaler before the property was Mike’s. What a great first deal!

For more connections, Mike has been networking in the Flip Pilot group on FaceBook. Finding other wholesalers is the key to starting up a successful real estate investing business. With both Mike and his wife still working full time jobs, and being full time parents, wholesaling felt like an easy way into real estate investing. As long as the numbers make sense, there’s no reason not to jump into it.

There’s a perception that wholesale deals don’t have much meat on their bones, but that’s just not true. Mike’s rule is 70% is the golden number. In his market, that’s tough to get, but you can expect to be around 80% – 85% ARV minus repairs. BiggerPockets has an ARV calculator, but Mike made his own in a spreadsheet to keep track of his numbers. With his spreadsheet, he determines if the numbers work for his marketing and business. This is the spreadsheet Mike uses, so if you decide to use this method, be aware that your numbers need to reflect your market.

For Mike’s first deal, Mike went through 2 wholesalers. Despite them both taking their cuts, there was still meat left on the deal. The property was a little rough, though. The property was supposed to be vacant, but it wasn’t. The sellers were there for 3 or 4 days after Mike closed on the house, which they weren’t supposed to be. Mike was still working on the plan for the property, but everything went well in the end. When the sellers eventually left, they left behind much more stuff than Mike was expecting.

Despite the unforeseen difficulties with this first property, Mike’s ultimate concern in with helping people like the sellers of this property. That’s where the name of his business, Newbyginnings comes from (in addition to it being a play on his last name). “You never know where your next deal is going to come from,” Mike said.

The sister of the seller had been waiting for someone like Mike to buy her sister’s house. After seeing the amazing success with her sister’s property, she mentioned that she’s going to be selling her house next year and wants to go through Mike. She even offered to make a testimonial, and took a picture with Mike, and wrote an awesome review for him. Her property will, hopefully, be Mike’s 5th deal for his business.

When it comes to actually rehabbing your property, communication is always key. Mike’s GC had brought in someone from other projects to help with the rehab, but staying in communication was a bit of an issue. Mike would talk with his GC, and thought that word was getting passed down to the other contractors, but with the mix up it didn’t. The plan in the future is to sit down over dinner with their GC and other contractors to get to know each other better, and keep the communication channels open. Making sure you know who’s responsible for what is important for keeping a real estate investing business organized.

Bonus: Click Here to Download Mike’s Deal Analyzer Spreadsheet.

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LeadPropeller.com/adwords

Newbyginnings.com

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Episode 91: [Finding Deals] Landing Your First Flip Deals with Mike Newby

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Mike is brand new in the investing world but brings a construction engineering degree, and 10+ years of construction background, knowledge and business sense. Alongside him is his beautiful wife, Sarah, and loving father, Jim, who have helped get their real estate investing company, Newbyginnings, off the ground and now full steam ahead. They have big dreams for the company and hope to help thousands of families create their new beginning. Mike is also currently a full time construction consultant and his wife is a full time cardiac ICU nurse at a local Children’s hospital.

When Mike started studying real estate investing, it only took him about 6 – 8 months for him to make the decision to jump into the industry. Mike found a wholesaler and got his first deal done. With a good foundation and knowledge base, he was confident in working his first deal for his real estate investing business. Where so many people give up before they hit this point, Mike kept going and is working everyday at making his business a success.

As soon as he decided to get into real estate investing, Mike found a wholesaler posting houses on Instagram. He sent a message, got into communication with someone on this wholesaler’s team, and started communication. This group has a wide range of buyers, so they were eager to talk to Mike. They walked through a few houses, and on the third property Mike made a bid and got it. It took 2 or 3 weeks staying in communication with this wholesaler before the property was Mike’s. What a great first deal!

For more connections, Mike has been networking in the Flip Pilot group on FaceBook. Finding other wholesalers is the key to starting up a successful real estate investing business. With both Mike and his wife still working full time jobs, and being full time parents, wholesaling felt like an easy way into real estate investing. As long as the numbers make sense, there’s no reason not to jump into it.

There’s a perception that wholesale deals don’t have much meat on their bones, but that’s just not true. Mike’s rule is 70% is the golden number. In his market, that’s tough to get, but you can expect to be around 80% – 85% ARV minus repairs. BiggerPockets has an ARV calculator, but Mike made his own in a spreadsheet to keep track of his numbers. With his spreadsheet, he determines if the numbers work for his marketing and business. This is the spreadsheet Mike uses, so if you decide to use this method, be aware that your numbers need to reflect your market.

For Mike’s first deal, Mike went through 2 wholesalers. Despite them both taking their cuts, there was still meat left on the deal. The property was a little rough, though. The property was supposed to be vacant, but it wasn’t. The sellers were there for 3 or 4 days after Mike closed on the house, which they weren’t supposed to be. Mike was still working on the plan for the property, but everything went well in the end. When the sellers eventually left, they left behind much more stuff than Mike was expecting.

Despite the unforeseen difficulties with this first property, Mike’s ultimate concern in with helping people like the sellers of this property. That’s where the name of his business, Newbyginnings comes from (in addition to it being a play on his last name). “You never know where your next deal is going to come from,” Mike said.

The sister of the seller had been waiting for someone like Mike to buy her sister’s house. After seeing the amazing success with her sister’s property, she mentioned that she’s going to be selling her house next year and wants to go through Mike. She even offered to make a testimonial, and took a picture with Mike, and wrote an awesome review for him. Her property will, hopefully, be Mike’s 5th deal for his business.

When it comes to actually rehabbing your property, communication is always key. Mike’s GC had brought in someone from other projects to help with the rehab, but staying in communication was a bit of an issue. Mike would talk with his GC, and thought that word was getting passed down to the other contractors, but with the mix up it didn’t. The plan in the future is to sit down over dinner with their GC and other contractors to get to know each other better, and keep the communication channels open. Making sure you know who’s responsible for what is important for keeping a real estate investing business organized.

Bonus: Click Here to Download Mike’s Deal Analyzer Spreadsheet.

Links

YouTube.com/FlippingJunkie

FlipPilot.com

LeadPropeller.com/adwords

Newbyginnings.com

Please Rate and Review

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