#.....of course around 13/14 they discover the world of drugs and alcohol & take up that coping mechanism too
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byanyan · 1 year ago
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content warning: self harm. no explicit descriptions or anything, but definite discussion of the habit
byan has self harm scars. they're a bit difficult to differentiate from the myriad of other scars scattered across the skin of their arms and legs from things like knife fights, but you can pick them out if you know what you're looking for.
self harming is a coping mechanism they picked up in their preteen years, a time where they were struggling a great deal with a lack of stability in their life, a difficult time in school, less than stellar foster homes (which occasionally ended with them in the street), bullying, and all assortment of challenges in figuring out and expressing their gender identity. they were miserable - depressed, angry, and deep in their self-worth issues. self harming was a way to release all their pent up emotions, a way to do something with them and make them less overwhelming, however briefly. there was also something about the self care that came afterward in treating the injuries that they found... not comforting, exactly, but maybe soothing, in a way.
eventually, as they got older and began to turn their anger more outward than inward, byan would start taking their emotions out on others and slowly dropped the habit for the most part. every now and then the urge to self harm resurfaces, but 99% of the time they'll use that urge to go out to get into fights and inflict harm on others rather than themself. in a way, their habit of picking fights is still a method of self harm - there's more to their penchant for fighting than that, of course, but it fills that same void and still results in the process of taking care of themself afterward.
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inevitably-johnlocked · 4 years ago
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hi, i am looking for a very specific johnlock case fic on ao3 with an au where they are in america and on the oregon trail, possibly traveling to wyoming, or probably just western america!lock in generally. thanks! :)
Hey Nonny!
Ahh, I don’t know which fic this is, but I have a few American AUs in my MFL list, maybe one of them is it? If anyone knows which one it is for sure, let us know!!
AMERICAN AUs (TO READ)
Gone and Changed by cwb (E, 4,617 w., 1 Ch. || Farm/Ranch American AU || Teenlock, Friends to Lovers, Angst, High School, Summer Vacation, Swimming, Hot Weather, Oral Sex, Car Sex, Blow Jobs, First Kiss/Time, Falling in Love, Mutual Pining) – John and Sherlock are best friends, until John goes and changes. Part 1 of the Just Like That series
At All Material Time by dizzylittlesunflowers (T, 7,029 w., 1 Ch. || 1930′s Farm/Ranch AU || One Shot) – When John Watson first met Sherlock Holmes, the dark-haired stranger had told him he'd never make the mistake of falling in love. Set in 1930's Southern America, the mysterious Holmes family move into the deserted house opposite John Watson's farm. Intrigued with the strange newcomers, the young farmer lets his priorities slip. But not without consequence.
How to Sleep with Your Enemy in One Semester by 221b_careful_what_you_wish_for (M, 9,699 w., 6 Ch. || College / Uni Professors AU || Professor John/Sherlock, Enemies to Lovers, Rivalry, Bickering, Office Sex, Blow Jobs, Fluff, Domestics, John’s Beard, Idiots in Love, Humour) – Visiting professors John Watson and Sherlock Holmes are longtime academic rivals — and now unwilling office mates — at a prestigious American university. When their tense arguments give way to an undercurrent of mutual attraction, their war of wits turns into something more personal — until it goes off course. A party, a phone number, and deserted office at night might just bring them back together.
The Rainbow Connection by honeybee_motorcyles (M, 13,161 w., 7 Ch. || Post-TRF, Autistic Sherlock, American Road Trip, Understanding, Communication, PTSD Sherlock, Regression, Aspergers, Angst and Fluff) – A Road Trip is the best cure for Sherlock and John's relationship.
Wild Skies by darkestbliss (E, 13,339+ w., 9/? Ch. || WiP || American Farm/Ranch AU || Age Difference, Fluff, Implied/Referenced Drug Use, Bottom Sherlock, Virgin Sherlock, Teen Sherlock, Summer Camp, Older John) – Sherlock Holmes, show jumping champion turned druggie, is sent to a small, remote ranch in Wyoming for the summer as part of his rehabilitation process. There, he meets John Watson, a beautiful and good-natured ranch hand who was raised by the West.
The Reawakening of John Watson by 221b_careful_what_you_wish_for (E, 20,463 w., 14 Ch. || Historical 1800s American/Victorian AU || Artist Sherlock, Writer John, Angst with Happy Ending, Bisexual John, Period Typical Homophobia, Sensuality, Experienced Sherlock, Pining, Past Drug Use, Slow Burn, Love Confessions, Flirty Sherlock, Frottage, Outdoor Sex, Trust Issues, Minor Character Death, Sexual Tension, Colorado / London, Rimming, Anal Sex, Blow Jobs,  POV John) – Trying to escape his troubled past in England, John Watson has started a new life in the American West. When he meets the handsome artist Sherlock Holmes, a smoldering attraction is sparked, complicating his quiet, carefully guarded existence. Maybe taking a risk with Sherlock is exactly what John needs to feel alive again...
Learning Curve by thpontiacbandit (M, 41,422 w., 22 Ch. || Teacher / Parent AU || America, Fluff and Smut, Parentlock, Frottage) – John is a Kindergarten teacher. One of his students, a boy named Henry Holmes, refuses to speak in school. John is determined to get to the bottom of it, and that is how he meets Sherlock Holmes.
The Bone Fiddle by htebazytook & Vulgarweed (E, 61,167 w., 13 Ch. || American Historical 1970′s AU || Appalachia, West Virginia, Vietnam War, Watergate, Murder Mystery, Case Fic, Drama, Humour, Romance) – In November 1973, Vietnam vet John Watson returns to his family's old home in Arthel County, West Virginia, deep in coal country. His low expectations include recuperation and boredom. Instead he finds a ruined landscape, a series of grisly murders, and one of the world's weirdest neighbors. Part 1 of the The Bone Fiddle series
Next Right: Welcome to Westbound Rest Area 818 by elwinglyre (E, 73,618 w., 16 Ch. || American Unilock AU || Bunk Beds, Anonymous Sex, Homophobia, Closeted John, Roommates, Angst with Happy Ending, Idiots in Love, Music, Rape/Non-Con, Hurt John, BAMF John) – Sherlock Holmes dreams of escape from his smothering family and space to breathe. Studying chemistry at the University of Michigan, he's almost far enough away to fill his lungs. Almost. While John Watson dreams of being a doctor, he also dreams of being with another man. John knows that with hard work and study, he can make the first a reality, but he's certain the second can never be. Until a secret encounter in the dark at Rest Area 818 changes everything. When Sherlock meets his new roommate, John Watson, he sees a man in the closet. Sherlock hides from no one. Except from his own family, a detective inspector who wants his evidence returned, and his secret encounter at Rest Area 818. Setting late 1970s, Michigan, USA. POV third person alternates between John Watson and Sherlock Holmes.
Sherlock, P.I. by Callie4180 (E, 83,264 w., 11 Ch. || Magnum P.I. Fusion || Past Relationships, Implied/Referenced Drug Use, Canon-Typical Violence, Stalking, Creepy Moriarty) – For the Fall TV Sherlock fusion project. Sherlock, P.I. is an American television show that follows the exciting adventures of genius private investigator Sherlock Homes and his friends as they live their lives on the beautiful island of Oahu in Hawaii. Sherlock solves crimes as he wrestles with the ghosts and demons of his past.
Boyfriend Material by PoppyAlexander (E, 151,282 w., 58 Ch. || American Hockey AU || Enemies to Friends to Lovers, Closeted John, POV John, Pining, Casual Sex / Hook Ups, Rom-Com) – Boston Brawlers' team captain John Watson longs for two things: a championship before he retires, and a boyfriend. Assigned to room with goaltender Sherlock Holmes--known around the league as both a genius and a "weird dude"– on Brawlers' roadtrips, John discovers the things they have in common that lead to an easy friendship and a convenient arrangement.
Nine and a Half Weeks by CumberCurlyGirl and Kameo (E, 175,094+ w., 35/? Ch. || WiP || American AU || Different First Meeting, Daddy Kink, Bottomlock, Anal Plug, Riding Crops, Spanking, Light Bondage, Anal/Oral, Aftercare, Posh John, Virgin Sherlock, Homophobia, Sugar Daddy John, Rimming, Coming in Pants, Light Dom/Sub, Past Sherlock / Victor, Light BDSM, Public Sex, John in a Kilt, Vibrators, Happy Ending) – Sherlock Holmes is about to graduate from high school in midwestern America. Despite his intelligence, his prospects are bleak due to poverty, an indifferent, alcoholic father and poor choices. One day, at work, he sells a riding crop to a handsome blonde Brit and his life is changed. He doesn't know what hit him - until he does. This is a story of a journey to love and self-acceptance and explores many themes along the way: drug abuse, grief, coming out, age difference, consent. Lots of sex but so much more.
Just Like That Series by cwb (E, 201,462+ w. across 4 works || Series WiP || American Teenager / Farmer AU || Best Friends, Friends to Lovers, Angst, High School, Summer Vacation, Swimming, Friends to Lovers, Car Sex, Mutual Pining, Falling in Love, Kissing) – John and Sherlock are best friends, until John goes and changes.
The Devil's Blaze by DulcimerGecko (E, 296,121+ w., 25/? Ch. || WiP || American Cowboy / Rodeo AU || Vet John, Case Fic, Texas, Slow Build, Manipulative Sherlock, Masturbation, Developing Relationship, Dancing Lessons, Drunk Sherlock, Safe Sex, Blow Jobs, Horny John, Cowboy Sherlock, Cowboy John) – Sherlock Holmes, the world’s only Consulting Equestrian Expert, is the individual called when horse owners are out of their depth. At the behest of his elder brother, Sherlock travels to Amarillo, Texas, to investigate why a valuable bucking stallion has seemingly gone berserk for no reason and killed his trainer. The local authorities suspect the owner of fraud and possible animal abuse, but Mycroft sees parallels to an unsolved case from the 1980s wherein a racehorse killed a groom. Complicating the situation is John Watson: bronco rider, rodeo veterinarian and one of case’s primary suspects... Part 1 of the The Devil's Blaze series
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multiverseforger · 4 years ago
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Early life and back-storyEdit
Bullseye grew up in The Bronx, where he lived with his brother and their abusive father. His brother's main form of recreation was playing with rifles, leading him to become an expert shot. When he was 10 years old, his brother started a fire in their home in an unsuccessful attempt to kill their father. Shortly thereafter, Bullseye was placed in a foster home, and became a baseball player in high school. He was an extremely talented pitcher, and was offered a scholarship, but instead opted to enter the minor leagues. After three games, he was called up to play a sold-out Major League game. He had surrendered no hits the entire game, and in the bottom of the ninth with two outs, he became bored and requested the coach pull him from the game. The coach refused, and insisted that he finish the game. The opposing team's batter mocked him, accusing him of cowardice. Bullseye threw the ball at his head, killing him. As the ball struck, he said only one word: "Bullseye". He was barred from professional baseball and convicted of manslaughter.
This is a retcon of a previous origin story, which depicts Bullseye growing up as a below average student in a trailer park with an alcoholic, physically abusive father. In this version of events, Bullseye fakes his father's suicide using a handgun set off by a toy arrow.[volume & issue needed] It is unclear how many elements of this version are actually true.
His cold demeanor and unique skills, however, meant subsequent recruitment by the National Security Agency as an assassin was inevitable, and he was soon assigned to train Contras in Nicaragua. By the time he arrived, however, he claimed to have already been planning to leave the NSA. He had planned on robbing the Contras blind and fleeing, but soon discovered they were desperately poor. Bullseye made the best of the situation: within seven hours of being informed of their poverty, he had led the Contras in seizing a landing strip that the Colombian cocaine smugglers were using as a staging area before moving on to the United States. Without use of the airfield, the smugglers were unable to send new shipments. Bullseye set up his hapless Nicaraguan translator Paolo as the leader of the new force controlling the airfield, and let the word spread around, however, Paolo was nothing but a patsy. Bullseye planned to invite several organized crime heads to the airfield to broker a new deal with him as Paolo's supposed "right hand man". He would take their money and disappear, presumably leaving Paolo to suffer the wrath of the Mafia, Russian Mafia, Yakuza, and various other criminal elements. However, before the deal could be finalized, the Punisher (Frank Castle) arrived.
Castle killed all the organized crime leaders in a fiery explosion from which Bullseye barely escaped. The two engaged in a fierce battle in which Bullseye was able to wound the Punisher and evade or disable several of his weapons. Bullseye then used some blood-reddened mud to paint a bull's-eye on his forehead, mocking Castle's inability to hit him. The fight concluded when Drug Enforcement Administration agents arrived, and the Punisher fled. Bullseye turned himself in to the D.E.A. agents and soon was assigned to infiltrate the Kingpin's criminal empire. He obtained a costume, fled yet again, and became one of the most dangerous hitmen in the world.
All of the above information is given by Bullseye during a subsequent interrogation by US intelligence. Just prior to escaping from custody, Bullseye confesses he made up some or all of his story to amuse himself; for example, he claims that he was really the one who started the fire which burned down his childhood home. The whole capture was a plan by the assassin to gain access to the prison where his father is being held. Bullseye finally gets revenge on his father, leaving him to burn as the prison's security systems torch everything inside.
Costumed criminal careerEdit
Bullseye battles (and defeats) Daredevil at a circus in order to establish his reputation as an extortionist.[10] Shortly after, Daredevil by chance overhears him in the midst of an extortion attempt and captures him.[11] Bullseye is later hired by Maxwell Glenn to kill Matt Murdock and Foggy Nelson, and Daredevil interferes. Although Bullseye wins again, Daredevil escapes death,[12] and Bullseye's professional reputation is damaged as a result. Seeking to regain his credibility, he challenges Daredevil on live television, but is soundly defeated.[13]
Smarting from this even harsher blow to his reputation, Bullseye hires Eric Slaughter's gang and kidnaps the Black Widow (Natasha Romanoff) to bait Daredevil into a revenge bout.[14] Daredevil defeats him again, and the despair of this repeated humiliation drives him to a mental breakdown.[15] It is later revealed that this breakdown was in part caused by a brain tumor, which begins causing migraines, paranoia and hallucinations that everyone he meets is Daredevil.[16] He escapes from prison, but is recaptured by Daredevil, and the tumor is successfully removed.[16] The tumor's symptoms quickly disappear, and defense lawyers are able to have him freed on the argument that his criminal behavior was caused solely by the brain tumor. He is hired to assassinate the Kingpin, but meets with repeated failure.[17] Inexplicably, this convinces the Kingpin to employ him as a chief assassin, but he is fired the same day he witnesses the Kingpin's humiliating defeat at Daredevil's hands.[18] Bullseye's repeated failed attempts to regain this briefly-held position became a running joke of the Daredevil series.
While in prison, he learns that the Kingpin has employed Elektra (Daredevil's former lover) as a new chief assassin. After escaping prison, Bullseye attacks and impales Elektra on her own sai. This fails to convince the Kingpin, says he'll only be rehired if he kills Daredevil.[19] Bullseye attempts to ambush Daredevil, but their battle ends with his arch-foe dropping him from atop a telephone wire. The multi-story fall breaks Bullseye's back, paralyzing him.[19]
During Bullseye's extended hospital stay following the fall, Daredevil breaks into his hospital room and forces him to participate in a two-man variation on Russian roulette. The revolver used in the game is secretly unloaded, but Daredevil has Bullseye take the even-numbered turns so that he would feel sure that the last shot is going to kill him.[20] Bullseye has repeatedly cited this incident as his greatest grudge against Daredevil.[21][22]
Japanese scientist Lord Dark Wind liberates Bullseye and has him brought to Japan, lacing his bones with adamantium and thus restoring his mobility. Lord Dark Wind did this so that Bullseye would work as an assassin in return, but in spite of this favor being done for him, Bullseye refuses to work for free.[23] He instead makes another play to regain the position of the Kingpin's chief assassin once again if he kills Daredevil, knowing he would fail.[21] Bullseye is imprisoned for several years.
Bullseye eventually escapes prison,[24] and then battles Captain America.[25] He battles Crossbones in an attempt to assassinate the Red Skull to regain his old position with the Kingpin.[26]
After encountering the amnesiac Daredevil,[27] he takes advantage of this by impersonating Daredevil and committing robberies in an attempt to destroy his nemesis's image.[28] In one of his early heists, he is caught by his mark's disillusioned trophy wife. He becomes enamored of the wife who pleads with him to be taken away by him, but he keeps the wife in his derelict hideout as his lover, attempting to flatter her by showering her with stolen money and jewelry. However, the woman comes to realize that he is mentally weak and, frightened by one of his psychotic outbursts, leaves him.[29] Gradually, Bullseye becomes so immersed in his Daredevil impersonation that he believes himself to truly be Daredevil, a confusion which the real hero takes advantage of in order to defeat him.[30]
Bullseye later has another run-in with the Punisher when he is part of Frank's frame-up scheme that ends with Bullseye getting both of his hands shot and losing a finger to the Punisher's brutality. Bullseye encounters Deadpool[31] and Gambit[32] during another long interval in which the character was seldom used.
Bullseye is hired by the villain Mysterio to attack and confuse Daredevil. In the course of their battle, Bullseye kills Karen Page (Daredevil's longtime love interest) with one of Daredevil's own billy clubs.[33]
Bullseye is recruited to steal the Identity Disc, purported to be in possession of A.I.M. and have vital information on the world's superheroes, along with Deadpool, Sabretooth, Vulture, and Juggernaut.[34]
Bullseye offers to kill Daredevil for Kingpin, later entering Daredevil's apartment and attempting to kill Milla Donovan (Daredevil's new girlfriend). Enraged and already near the breaking point, Daredevil attacks Bullseye and throws him out the window. During the fight, the hero reveals to Bullseye that he knows his real name Lester, his mother was a prostitute, and that he never knew his father.[35] He mocks the assassin's new 'Bullseye' tattoo and carves a new one over it with a rock.[36]
Bullseye seeks purported documents confirming Daredevil's secret identity. After a brutal fight with Daredevil and Elektra, Bullseye flees into open traffic where he is hit by a truck, sustaining severe injuries.[37]
ThunderboltsEdit
Main articles: Thunderbolts (comics) and Secret Invasion
Bullseye, along with many other villains, is recruited into the Thunderbolts by Iron Man and Mister Fantastic to hunt down anti-registration superheroes in the Civil War storyline.[38] Afterwards, he is recruited by Norman Osborn into the reformed team led by Moonstone. He operates invisibly and is not seen by the public. He is used as a last resort and has a nano-chain fed into his system, so if he disobeys orders, he will receive an electrical shock.[22]
Bullseye fights American Eagle after having been deceived by Songbird and told that his nano-chain is disabled. During the fight, he simultaneously receives an electrical shock from the nano-chain in his system on order of Moonstone and is attacked by American Eagle. American Eagle beats him severely, mocking him throughout for purposely avoiding fights with superpowered foes, and finally breaks Bullseye's neck. As a result of the damage sustained from both being attacked by a man with superhuman strength and being shocked by the nano-chain, Bullseye is paralyzed, is unable to speak, and has incurred severe brain injuries.[39] Bullseye is later shown walking due to nanomechanical surgery, then goes on a killing spree using scalpels to "get some target practice in".[40] Later, he joins the Thunderbolts in their efforts to assassinate Moon Knight.[41]
Bullseye was with the Thunderbolts when they fought the Skrulls in Washington DC.[42] He took advantage of the clone of Andrea von Strucker being distracted by Moonstone to kill Andrea, and nearly killed Moonstone in the process.[43] Bullseye travels along with the other Thunderbolts to Central Park and joins the final battle against the main Skrull force. Obtaining a missile launcher from the Zeus, he fires a rocket through the Skrull Yellowjacket's right eye, thus disabling the Skrull from engaging with other heroes.[44] Osborn orders Bullseye to kill Songbird, finally giving Bullseye the chance for revenge.[45] Bullseye nearly succeeds, but is incapacitated by the Swordsman helping Songbird escape.[46]
Dark AvengersEdit
Main article: Dark Reign (comics)
As a reward for his role during the Skrull invasion, Bullseye is placed on the Dark Avengers and given the costume and codename of Hawkeye.[47]
Osborn hires Bullseye to eliminate Deadpool, from whom Norman stole data about "how to kill a Skrull queen" but Bullseye is unsuccessful.[48]
On the Dark Avengers' first mission, he kills Morgana le Fey only for the woman to return yet again with an army of demons.[49]
When the Dark Avengers fight a rogue Hulkbuster robot, "Hawkeye" disables the robot after killing its pilot. When the robot falls and killing thirty-six civilians, Osborn reprimands Bullseye for his part in the deaths, to which Bullseye demands credit for his kills. "Hawkeye" then goes out and saves a woman from being attacked by three men. He kills the men, and the woman inadvertently infuriates him by referring to Osborn as "his boss". After he kills the woman, he notices a news crew in a helicopter filming the action.[50] He silences the news crew by blowing the helicopter up.[51]
Bullseye is used to take out his old partner Deadpool. Deadpool eventually gains the upper hand and stabs Bullseye through the chest with a meathook, who later wakes up in a hospital and goes after Deadpool again. Deadpool easily avoids Bullseye's attacks, then runs Bullseye down, stopping with one of the vehicle's tires on Bullseye's leg. Bullseye pays off Deadpool (under the pretense that Osborn told him to do so) to save himself.[52]
Elektra stabs Bullseye with his own arrow.[53]
Bullseye is later given the order by Osborn to eliminate Daredevil who has been discovered leading the Hand.[54] Daredevil (who is going through the trials needed to join the Hand) and Bullseye clash. Bullseye booby-traps a building with one hundred people in it. Daredevil continues to battle Bullseye unaware that the building is rigged and that Bullseye has the detonator. When the building explodes, Bullseye escapes and leaves Daredevil to his grief, mocking that if Daredevil had chosen to kill him the people in the building might have been saved.[55]
Molecule Man turns Bullseye into a pool of water to subdue him; however as a liquid he still tries to attack Molecule Man.[56] He is restored by the Sentry.[57] He is also part of the team when they go to Manhattan to look for Noh-Varr. The Sentry finds him first but is distracted and leaves the battle later to find Noh-Varr gone.[58]
Osborn later assigns Bullseye with the duty to kill Lindy Reynolds (Sentry's wife).[59] He takes Lindy for a helicopter ride, and strangles and dumps Lindy's body in the ocean. When the Sentry questions him about Lindy's whereabouts, Bullseye claims Lindy committed suicide over the countryside by jumping out of the copter, and the Sentry flies off to find Lindy.[60]
ShadowlandEdit
In the aftermath of Siege, Bullseye is incarcerated and sent to the Raft. But in the process of being transferred there, he manages to kill his captors and escapes. He makes his way back to Hell's Kitchen and arrives at Shadowland, Daredevil's fortress, and is confronted by Daredevil and a legion of Hand ninjas. Bullseye is unprepared for his enemy's newfound ruthlessness as Daredevil dislocates both his shoulders and then stabs him through the heart with his own sai, in much the same way Bullseye had killed Elektra years before.[61] Later, a group of Hells Bikers put together an unauthorized funeral service (as J. Jonah Jameson had expressly forbade) for Bullseye; Ben Urich is dragged along, as well as Danny Deaver. However, Deaver continually sees visions of Bullseye; it is not clear whether or not it is Bullseye's spirit or simply part of Deaver's psychosis. Bullseye's funeral service is interrupted by Daredevil and the Hand and a massive brawl breaks out, almost killing Urich.[62] Daredevil later exhumes Bullseye's corpse, intending to resurrect him as a soldier loyal to the Hand.[63] The heroes interrupt the ceremony, preventing Bullseye's resurrection.[64]
ReturnEdit
It was later revealed that Bullseye was still barely alive as his body disappeared after the battle, but he has become an invalid due to his injuries who has to rely on a metal lung in order to survive. To get revenge, he is revealed to be the mastermind behind Klaw, Coyote, and Ikari's actions against Daredevil.[65] He is later found by the hero who defeated Ikari and Lady Bullseye. The warehouse where they were is subsequently destroyed, and Bullseye is nearly drowned in radioactive waste, leaving him scarred and blind.[66]
Bullseye would go on to have his body fully repaired by the Hand in an encounter with Elektra.[67]
During the "Secret Wars" storyline, Bullseye is among the villains attending the Kingpin's viewing party of the incursion between Earth-616 and Earth-1610.[68]
During the "Infinity Wars" storyline, Bullseye is among the villains that accompany Turk Barrett to his meeting with the Infinity Watch at Central Park.[69]
When Daredevil’s protege Blindspot was left blinded by the villain Muse, Matt Murdock put out a bounty on himself out of guilt, attracting the attention of Bullseye and several other supervillains. Daredevil beat Bullseye and then revealed that he had put the contract out in hopes of luring Bullseye, as Blindspot’s condition reminded Daredevil of the murder of Karen Page.
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mrsrcbinscn · 4 years ago
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Franny’s 30 Day Cover Challenge
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Franny’s 30 Day Cover Song Challenge: (categories are mostly from here, and here, with some from here, and a couple I made) in September 2020 one of her musician friends challenged her to do the thing and she was like “It seems like a fun way to show everyone what kind of music has influenced me as a musician, singer, songwriter, and just like, person. So I’m going to do it.”
In reality, she recorded most of them in 1-2 days to distract her from how sad she is because Wilbur hates her and he’s sad lmao
It helped a little.
(If you want me to drop the playlist she mentions in #24 let me know, I have it started I can finish it)
TW: mentions of Franny’s political beliefs so tw: politics, an allusion to suicide though the word isn’t directly used, mention of 9/11 and the subsequent invasions...nothing graphic with any of these triggers but worth a forewarning
Day 01 - A song that makes you happy
Honey Spiders by The Parlotones
“The Parlotones are this fantastic indie rock band out of South Africa. And I actually thought about doing their song, uh, Stars Fall Down for day sixteen, but I’m going with Honey Spiders for day 1. There were lots of Parlotones songs, I mean. Push Me to The Floor, We Call This Dancing, Should We Fight Back...but ah, Honey Spiders always puts me in a good mood.”
Day 02 - A song that helps you clear your head
Light of a Clear Blue Morning by Dolly Parton
“I grew up on Dolly, and it’s funny because for the longest time this song wasn’t really on my radar as much as it is now. But when I was twenty-two I was going through something really difficult, and my then-fiance now husband was abroad for work, so I was alone in our apartment and just. Really, profoundly sad and lonely. So I put on a Dolly Parton record and just laid on the bed and Light Of A Clear Blue Morning played and I had a good long cry and felt so much better after that. When I need to think about how to solve a difficult problem, or I feel overwhelmed, I just listen to that song.”
Day 03 - Song you love from a band/artist you hate
Should’ve Been A Cowboy by Toby Keith
“Honestly, he’s called me a nasty lady to my face and I’ve called him a facist enabling pig to his, so I have no qualms openly saying I hate Toby Keith. That being said, Should’ve Been A Cowboy is one of the best country songs of the 90s, undeniably. I loved that song when it came out when I was thirteen, and I still love it.”
Day 04 - A song about drugs or alcohol
Whiskey Lullaby by Brad Paisley and Alison Krauss
“This is probably cheating, because my lovely best friend Daniel and I cover this a lot at Dara & Danny shows. But today look who I have! My friend Max from Seoul Hanoi’d! Max the Korean Scot who can’t hide his accent to save his life, so let’s see how it sounds in a Scottish accent.”
Day 05 - A protest song
Talking Vietnam Blues by Phil Ochs /// and Here’s to The State of Mississippi by Phil Ochs
“This one was hard because I. Fucking. Love. Protest music. I could have done a whole 30 days of protest music - wow, let me know if I should do that and give my husband a heart attack with all the twitter threats I’ll invite. Huh. Right, so I was going to do Your Flag Decal Won’t Get You Into Heaven by John Prine. But I decided to do two Phil Ochs songs because I don’t think Phil Ochs is talked about enough. It’s a shame we lost him so young. Ochs’ sardonic humor and honesty in his writing has influenced me as a songwriter deeply. When I write political songs, I don’t hold back, and it’s because of Phil Ochs’ writing that I have that courage. I’ve been singing Love Me, I’m A Liberal since I was in college with constantly updating lyrics. It was so hard to even choose which songs of his to do because for his fairly short career his songbook is lengthy and full of gems. I’m Going to Say It Now, Draft Dodger Rag, Spanish Civil War Song, I Ain’t Marching Anymore...I couldn’t pick one so I’m cheating and recording two.”
Day 06 - A song you wish you wrote
When I Think About Cheatin’ by Gretchen Wilson
“I will forever be pissed off that I didn’t write this song. I’m absolute trash for my husband, so it’s never -- I’ve never had to be in a situation to ever consider -- but this song gets me every time. It feels like I could have written it. Because we do spend a lot of time apart travelling for our work. And the sentiment expressed in the song is a little too real.”
Day 07 - A song in a language you don’t speak
Khattar by Khine Htoo
“This will either be a charming attempt to sing in Burmese or I’m about to offend a lot of people. Which, being a politically outspoken woman on the internet, I’m used to anyway. So. 1, 2, 3, okay here goes.”
Day 08 - A song by an artist no longer living
Phop Samnang by Sinn Sisamouth (inspiration)
“Haha, you thought I’d see the name of this category and not do a Sinn Sisamouth song? You were wrong.”
Day 09 - A song you want to dance to at your wedding
Devoted To You by The Everly Brothers
“I’m already married, so this was actually our first dance song at our wedding. Day three of our wedding, like the more Westernized wedding ceremony day. We had a three day long traditional Cambodian wedding and I felt like a princess. An-y-way!”
Day 10 - A song that makes you cry
Borrowed Rooms and Old Wood Floor by Emily Scott Robinson
“Unfortunately, Emily Scott Robinson and I aren’t related. Sad, I know, because she’s so talented. Almost her entire album Traveling Mercies is...sad as hell. The record reminded me of early Dolly Parton, and my second solo album. You know, all those sad-ass songs. The Dress is honestly the song that makes me the saddest but I can’t even listen to it without crying so.”
Day 11 - A song that you love hearing live
Prove My Love  by Violent Femmes
“There is nobody I have seen in concert more than Dolly Parton, but Violent Femmes and George Strait come incredibly close. The Cranberries, the amount of times I saw them in the 90s and early 2000s...close fourth. Probably. The very first concert I dragged my husband to was a Violent Femmes concert, he was not prepared for how hard college me went.”
Day 12 - A song from before 1960 
There Ain’t No Sweet Man That’s Worth The Salt of My Tears by Libby Holman
“This song is from 1928. I came across it when I was in grad school and it’s, as the kids say, a bop.”
Day 13 - A song you think everybody should listen to
White Man’s World by Jason Isbell
“I think perspectives of people of color should of course take precedence in these conversations. But I find this song to be a good faith attempt of a white man coming to terms with the institutional racism and sexism in the world around him. And I think this song can be a useful tool to explain certain concepts of racial justice to ignorant but well-meaning folks. As a woman of color I think Jason Isbell did a great job not centering himself even though it was from his perspective. This song is great musically and necessary socially.”
Day 14 - A song from the 1970s
You’re No Good by Linda Ronstadt
“Linda Ronstadt is grossly underrated, that’s all I have to say here.”
 Day 15 - A song people wouldn’t expect you to like
Racists by Anti-flag
“I mean, I’ve talked about how much I like punk in the past, and I remember a video of Seoul Hanoi’d doing Spanish Bombs at a San Antonio show made the rounds, but I don’t think I’ve talked about how much I like Anti-flag. People don’t expect me to like punk for some reason. But I agree with...everything punk music is all about.”
Day 16 - A song that holds a lot of meaning to you
Blue by LeAnn Rimes
“It’s silly, but I won a county fair singing competition with this song in high school and it really fueled my passion for music, that win. It’s also the first song Cornelius heard me go full Georgia on, with the yodels and all, at the little bar in my hometown on his first trip meeting my parents. The song doesn’t cut to my very soul ot anythin’, but it’s special to me.”
Day 17 - A song attached to a memory
Supernova by Liz Phair
“I remember buying Liz Phair’s Whip-smart album when I was eleven. And in college, when I was getting ready for dates with Cornelius in my dorm room, I would dance around to a CD I burned and wrote on it with a sharpie, ‘Pre-date Movie Scene Music.’ God, what was even on there? I’m about to expose myself as the most basic 1999-2001 bitch. I remember Head Over Feet, I mean, Alanis Morisette? I was a young woman in 2000, obviously I loved her. Mm, Dreams by The Cranberries...oh, Kiss Me, Sixpence None The Richer...yeah, anyway, Supernova was on there.”
Day 18 - A song from the year you were born
Call Me by Blondie
“...I can’t believe Call Me is as old as I am.”
Day 19 - A song that reminds you of someone you miss
Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing (yes, of course she does a cover with banjo)
“This was my late best friend Molly’s favorite hymn. And I sang it at her funeral at her husband’s request. Molly and I grew up together in the small town of Payne Lake, Georgia and Molly was the most devout Christian...but she was also the first person I came out to as bisexual when I was a teenager, and she said that Jesus taught her that love was the greatest commandment and that meant I was automatically twice as good at it as her. Her faith guided her every action but she never talked down on her two best friends - Dan(iel Maitland) and I for not sharing it. Molly was doing the whole emulate Jesus thing beautifully. I miss her every day and it’s been seven years. If you ever think that people won’t miss you...you’re wrong. All right, let’s see if I can get through this without crying.”
Day 20 - A song by an artist you discovered this year
Hello, Anxiety by Phum Viphurit
“I just discovered this quirky Thai-Kiwi singer and not to be dramatic, but he’s my favorite thing in the world right now.”
Day 21 - A song with a city or country in the title
Oh! Phnom Penh (track 20)
“This song was written after the fall of the Khmer Rouge, and after people began to make their way to what was left of their homes, alone, or with what was left of their families. If you want to learn more about what that was like to actually live it, my cousin Reena Boran has a video interviewing her parents and paternal grandfather and uncle about it. Reena is a journalism student currently studying in London but she lives in Cambodia. Her mother is my aunt Malisruot, my mother’s youngest sister. The video is English subtitled on her channel, I’ll link it in the description box below.”
Day 22 - A song from the 1960s
To Sir, With Love by Lulu
“I didn’t actually discover this song until I heard it covered at a 10,000 Maniacs concert in the 90s. My friend Allison was standing next to me and I just started crying and she’s like ‘are you okay?’ and all I just blubbered out ‘My dad!’ For the uninitiated, my dad married my mom, who’d raised me alone until then, when I was six and he adopted me when I was eight. My dad didn’t have to adopt me, he didn’t have to call me his daughter, he could have just been like half of my friends’ stepdads and give me a place to live and nothing else. But my dad was my biggest supporter from day one. He convinced my mom to let me join the dance team and show choir instead of science club, he was the one that talked my mom down from probably killing me when they found out I was only studying music and not music and political science at NYU. I am who I am today because he is my dad. And this song just says everything I’ve always thought about him.”
Day 23 - A song from your childhood
Una Lacrima Sul Viso by Bobby Solo
“But Franny, aren’t you a Cambodian raised in the US? Yes, but you were fooled. My very white father is also an immigrant. He is from Switzerland and while he didn’t teach me to speak Italian and German growing up, he played German, Italian, and French records all the time. My parents often spoke to each other in French and I picked up some French but properly studied it starting in high school, and I didn’t study Italian until college -- and my German is still …. [points to a spot on the screen where she later inserted a card linking to a video on her cousin Köbi Framagucci’s YouTube channel titled ‘Can My American Cousin Speak German?’ where he tests her Standard and Swiss German speaking and comprehension]. But hell if I couldn’t sing every one of the songs from my father’s French, German, and Italian record before I knew what the words even meant.”
Day 24 - A song that gives you chill vibes
Glorify by Ivan & Alyosha
“Dan(iel Maitland) and I actually have an entire playlist on my Spotify accounts of songs to listen to to get us out of writers’ block. And one that I often will put on repeat and just absorb through my headphones with my eyes closed is a song called Glorify by Ivan & Alyosha. I think it touches on a lot of the themes I include in my songwriting. Christian mythology, the darker side of humanity, it often reminds me of what I love about songwriting. If you say please I might drop a link to that playlist.”
Day 25 - A song that’s your signature song
Long Gone Lonesome Blues by Hank Williams“Right, so I chose this instead of a Kitty Wells song or I Get A Kick Out of You (her being
featured on a 2005
recording propelled her career majorly) because if you’re familiar with me you might have seen a video that went around in like….2017? 2016? of Dan(iel Maitland) and I doin’ the song at our hometown bar in 2014. I posted it in response to some tweets because hoes mad when a WOC calls out racism and sexism in the Nashville music industry. ‘Bet she don’t even know Hank’, really? You think I wouldn’t know the history of one of the two music industries I work in? Please. Anyway, she knows Hank and nails the incredibly technical yodel -- the
most difficult
one in Hank’s songbook - in Long Gone Lonesome Blues. Mm...Lovesick Blues though, that also strikes fear into my heart. Anyway stay mad I guess?”
Day 26 - A song by your favorite band
Gun Shy by 10,000 Maniacs
“10,000 Maniacs was one of my favorite bands when I was in like 5th grade through 10th. I listened to them for a little while after Natalie Merchant left for a solo career, but the Natalie Merchant era was really what resonated with me the most. Gun Shy was a bit too advanced for my little 5th, 7th grade ears to really appreciate when I first discovered the album In My Tribe. Merchant’s voice -- because like, I don’t have a very conventional voice either, so her and Dolores O’Riordan really changed my entire perspective on what a woman’s voice can sound like in rock music. Um, yeah, so her voice more than the lyrics just wowed me. And as I got closer to graduating high school and especially in college I actually understood what What’s The Matter Here, Hey Jack Kerouac, and Gun Shy were talking about. Gun Shy...really became a significant song to me because...being born in 1980 I grew up in a relatively peaceful time. The Cold War was all but thawed by my tenth birthday. But I was getting ready to leave my then-boyfriend-now-husband’s apartment for class at NYU on the morning of 9/11. We stood in line for hours to donate blood. And then my government invaded two completely unrelated countries and jingoism and terrifying, fervent nationalism, and xenophobia just smacked me in the face. And friends of mine from high school were convicted to drop out of college and join the Army, and died, for an unjust, imperialist war, and suddenly Phil Ochs, John Prine, and Bob Dylan lyrics hit a lot different, and I understood what Gun Shy was really about.”
Day 27 - A song you hate by an artist you love
Mrs.Robinson by Simon & Garfunkel 
“Paul Simon is one of my favorite songwriters ever, um, and I actually used to like Mrs. Robinson….until I got married and everyone sang it at me. It’s kind of my fault, I did choose to take my husband’s last name. And I leaned into it by making my social media handles all Mrs. Robinson...but still. Only play the song around me if you want to die.”
Day 28 - A song that a younger you would have loved
Mean by Taylor Swift
“I’m so genuinely glad that I am older than Taylor Swift. Middle school Franny did not need Taylor Swift to enable me and fuel my ego. Some of her singles, while not really 35 and 40 year old Franny’s cup of tea, young me would have played until my mother hid the record or cassette from me. Although - fuck if Tim McGraw didn’t immediately give my happily married ass flashbacks to my first love and make me bawl like a baby? Right, so when Speak Now came out and I listened to it, Mean, while not a song that adult me has listened to maybe more like ten times, I immediately thought ‘wow, I needed this song when I was in middle and high school.’ I could literally picture 7th grade me with my little guitar and my little cowboy boots my dad bought for me singing this at the talent show making eye contact with the kids who bullied me as if it was some kind of own when it’s not. I could still, almost thirty years later, name them if I really wanted. So, for 7th grade me, Mean by Taylor Swift.”
Day  29- A song that reminds you of your partner/spouse
ផាត់ជាយបណ្តូលចិត្ / Phat Cheay Bon'dol Chet by Sinn Sisamuth (translation) (female singer covering it) (modern, studio recording of a male and female singer dueting it) (a cool violin cover) (another female singer) (cool guitar cover)
Feat. some members of Seoul Hanoi’d. Andy Chaiyaporn (violin), Max Cho (piano), Jodie Batbayar (cello), Aisulu Niyazova-Li (percussion) and Franny has her guitar
“The song, lyrically, only reminds me of my husband a little bit. But Phat Cheay Bondol Chet has several memories with my husband attached to it. The first time he heard me sing in Khmer was at my mother’s house in Atlanta when I had him visit the first time to meet my parents. My mom had a little dinner party at our house to show him off, like Asian moms do when they think their daughter snags a good one, and I was hand washing the dishes while my mom and the other Cambodian parents were listening to Sinn Sisamuth records. I’ve always loved the song I’ll be showing y’all today, like I’ve always just stopped what I was doing and -- so it came on and I just started singing along without really being aware of it. And then at a different diaspora get together that summer, that song came on and I just kinda. Pulled him aside to the side yard of that person’s house to look at the stars with him and translated the song. It’s one of the Khmer songs he instantly recognizes now, so it’s special.”
Franny did NOT say in the video that college her 100% had him sit in the grass with her outside that person’s house, where nobody could see, so she could makeout with him 
 Day 30- A song by one of your favorite songwriters
Reincarnation by Roger Miller
Feat. Seoul Hanoi’d, done more in the style of the Cake cover 
Also instead of singing the lyric “you’re a girl, I’m a boy” she goes “you’re a girl, so am I” because she doesn’t ever change pronouns, she just makes it gay because she is a bi-con
“Roger Miller, to me, is as important as Dolly Parton, Paul Simon, Bob Dylan, in the American songbook. He’s not as talked about which is a shame because his discography is iconic. Getting to be a part of King of The Road was one of the highlights of my career.”
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yootaesowlwrites · 5 years ago
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Give Me Strength Chapter 9;
Alex could feel her head pounding as she slow regains consciousness, her throat felt dry and her neck stiff and sore, she opens her eyes and blinks a few times to adjust to the light before looking around the room, she pushes herself into a sitting position on the unfamiliar bed and the memories from the previous night hits her like a train, her hand moves to her neck and feels a band-aid on her neck.
She slowly stood up from the comfortable bed and makes her way towards the bedroom door, she slowly pulls it open and sticks her head out of the room and looks around, once she was sure nobody was around she took a step out of the bedroom and begins searching for the stairs, she needed to leave, she couldn't stay in this house after what had happened last night, as she neared the staircase she heard voices in the distance.
"Someone has gone missing and I have reason to believe you know where they are," Elijah says, Alex recognized his voice but wasn't sure if she should find comfort in it.
"A bunch of people go missing every day, you'll need to be a bit more specific," Damon says, Now Alex was sure that she needed to stay at the top of the stairs, she couldn't take that chance and be attacked by Damon again. "Do you have a name or even a description of this person?"
"I doubt that you are in any position to use that tone with me," Elijah says. "If it were not for Elena, you would be dead by now."
"What do you want with little Ms Zastrod anyway?" Damon asks, defeated, The Original Vampire did save his life, why gamble with his life now?
"I want her to be human, she has absolutely nothing to do with any of this, so why include her?" Elijah states. "But I simply wish to help her."
"And why? You realize that human is a lost cause and you should just let her die." Damon states, Alex visibly shakes as she eavesdrops in on their conversation, she knew she shouldn't.
"You might not give a damn about her, but I wish to help her," Elijah says. "In all of my years as a vampire, I have yet to discover why human's put so much effort into saving one..." Alex tunes him out as she hears footsteps approaching the steps. "Consider it an experiment."
"You're a vampire for damn's sake, can't you smell how much she reeks of drugs and booze?" Damon questions. "She's upstairs, Stefan the hero vampire saved her before I could do the world a favour and kill her," Damon says, Alex takes a step back planning on running back to the room she was in, her back collides with something or someone stopping her in her tracks, she lets out a gasp and turns around to see Elijah standing behind her.
"I am not here to hurt you." Elijah softly says. "I give you my word."
"Ho—how do I—I know yo—you're telling the tr—uth?" Alex stutters out, she was scared and Elijah could hear her heart beating in fear.
"If I wished to have hurt you, I would have done so when we first met," Elijah states, his eyes land on the bandaid on her neck and takes a step towards her, Alex lets out a shaky breath knowing if she takes a step back she would fall down the stairs, Elijah carefully moves her hair out of the way so he could inspect her neck. "You're hurt." Alex slowly nods her head.
"Yeah, well, your friend downstairs did that," Alex whispers.
"I can assure you that he is no friend," Elijah says. "Allow me to take you home," Elijah says, she couldn't quite figure out why she felt more save with Elijah, he was the same creature Damon and Stefan are, so why did she feel like she could trust him.
"Okay," Alex whispers.
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"I guess I should properly thank you for rescuing me," Alex says, walking down the stairs in clean clothes, Elijah stood by the bottom of the stairs waiting for her.
"I did not mind playing the hero for once," Elijah says, Alex smiles faintly at him. "I think perhaps it is time that we should get to know each other a bit more, no?"
"I mean... I guess." Alex says. "Uh, sorry about the mess, I haven't had much time to clean." She says, making her way towards the living room with Elijah behind her, he examines the number of bottles lying on the floor and ashtrays filled with cigarette buds.
"It is quite all right, I understand," Elijah says. "You were occupied," Elijah states, He sits down on the couch while Alex picks up a few bottles. "Ms Jenna called you Alex, is it short for Alexandria, Alexa or Alexandra?" Elijah asks.
"It's Alexandra but I prefer Alex," Alex says going into the kitchen with the empty bottles, she couldn't believe how much she and Jayden drank yesterday. "Alexandra is too formal for a person like me."
"As yourself?" Elijah questions, Alex exits the kitchen after tossing the bottles.
"Yeah... drug addict and an alcoholic," Alex states, she picks up the ash tray's and takes them to the kitchen as well.
"What is your last name?" Elijah asks, Alex stands in the kitchen door.
"Zastrod, Alexandra Zastrod," Alex says. "And yours?"
"Elijah Mikaelson at your service," Elijah says, Alex nods her head.
"That sounds like a family with a lot of money," Alex says. "Centuries worth." She had no idea.
"We are quite wealthy," Elijah states, his eyes fall to her neck and saw a bloodstain growing on the band-aid. "Would you allow me to help you with that?" Elijah says, Alex looks at him confused not knowing what he was talking about. "Your neck, it is bleeding again."
"Again? Do I have to go to the hospital?" Alex asks, becoming worried, if she were to go to a hospital they would surely send her to rehab.
"No, goodness, no," Elijah says. "It might sound mad but my blood will heal you."
"That does sound insane," Alex says, Elijah stood up from the couch and makes his way towards her.
"Do you trust me?" Elijah asks, Alex slowly nods her head looking up at him. "Good," Elijah says, he walks past her and goes into her kitchen, Alex turns around to watch what he was doing. "Where do you keep your knives? and your glasses?"
"I uh, in that cabinet, whiskey glass and in that drawer are the knives and forks," Alex says, she watches as he takes out a whiskey glass and makes his way towards the drawer. "You're not going to murder me, right?" Elijah chuckles.
"I am not," Elijah says, he opens the drawer and takes out a knife. "I'm just going to give you some of my blood." Alex slowly nods her head.
"Yeah, uh that really just sounds insane, dude," Alex says, Elijah places the whiskey glass on the countertop and slices his palm open, Alex gasps not thinking her was serious. "Shit, I don't own band-aids, Elijah." Alex quickly walks towards him.
"You should consider stocking them up," Elijah says, his blood falls into the whiskey glass but soon stops as the wound on his hand heals, Alex watches at the wound heals itself and looks up at him in shock.
"Are you... what?" Alex mumbles, Elijah walks towards the kitchen sink and opens the water to rinse his hand. "I get you're a vampire and all, but is that part of the package deal? Quick healing?"
"Quick healing, enhanced strength, hearing," Elijah says. "My blood can heal humans."
"Are you telling me that this." Alex picks up the whiskey glass with his blood in it. "Will heal me, just like your hand just did?"
"Indeed," Elijah says, drying his hands.
"Do I drink it or pour it out on my neck?" Alex asks, not sure how this thing worked.
"Drink," Elijah says.
"Oh, Of course, it's never something simple like just putting on the wound," Alex says, Elijah chuckles as he watches her look at the glass in disgust. "Okay, well, bottoms up, I guess." Alex brings the glass closer to her mouth and tilts her head backwards, drinking the blood as she would normally drink a shot, she almost slams the glass down on the countertop as she pulls a face. "Oh, that was disgusting, ah ew." Causing Elijah to chuckle, he walks towards her and peels the band-aid off from her neck.
"There, no scar or wound," Elijah says, Alex places her hand on her neck feeling the skin and smearing some of her own blood on her neck.
"Okay, wow, I am amazed," Alex says. "You're my new doctor."
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le-chateau-de-mystique · 5 years ago
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Here is a list of some of the less discussed behaviors of the Empath.
1. Possesses Emotional Intelligence
Empaths encompass incredible emotional intelligence, which they use to make careful decisions they hope will bring balance into their life and the lives of others. But as emotional intelligence is a rare gift, in a world ran by logic and rules, it can leave the Empath hurt and vulnerable by those who do not function or think in the same way.
2. Excellent Judge of Character
Sensing all they do about people and life makes the Empath an excellent judge of character. Their first impressions are always correct.
3. Senses Deep Emotional Energy
An Empath senses emotions intensely, both their own and others. But this ability can weaken them, especially when it is emotional pain they feel. This is the opposite of who they know they are. Deep within they recognize they are here to do something special, but are often held back from finding their purpose by the confusion of what they experience emotionally.
4. Endures Empath Overwhelm
It is easy for an Empath to become overwhelmed without necessarily understanding the reason for it. They often look for ways to shelter from this overwhelm in vices such as alcohol or drugs. It may take time for the Empath to discover these substances have the opposite effect and make their pain more intense.
5. Has a Face to Fit the Mood
Empaths can show multiple faces to the world. Dependent on how they feel will determine which face they wear. When happy, they are an absolute joy to be around. When unhappy or overloaded they may appear sulky or dull. If it is not possible for them to withdraw to their private sanctuaries they may become aloof. An Empath needs to disconnect from others to recharge. If they don’t get the respite they need the strain will show on their face.
6. Always Willing to Listen
They are known as life’s listeners, because nothing makes an Empath happier than to listen to other people’s life stories. For most of the time they prefer to listen than to share their own tales; although they can boast of several amazing experiences. They like to be heard, but only share their problems with those who they trust. Most times they won’t relay their emotional woes with friends so as not to burden them.
7. Will Protect their Space
Empaths are open and welcoming to those who emit positive, warm and loving energy and become adept at blocking out those who cause them pain or steal their joy. They come to learn how precious their space is and avoid filling it with anything of a low vibration.
8. Likes to Dream Walk
When in balance, an Empath will recall vivid and mystically moving dreams. They can differentiate between dreams which have meaning and those which are the subconscious’ way of de-cluttering. Empaths like to anyalyse and find hidden messages or meanings within their dreams. It is common, when they are open to it, for them to receive spiritual visitations in their dreams from loved ones.
9. Avoids Conflict
Empaths are kind, peaceful people who dislike confrontation. It is only when they are defending themselves that a frosty side may be seen. If cross words are expressed in anger it will trouble the Empath for long after they have been said. They would rather avoid conflict and walk away from situations that may cause it.
10. Empaths Don’t Forget
Although forgiving, Empaths do not forget. Any emotional pain caused by others will leave a deep wound that can be reopened by any similar course of action. To protect themselves they may cut people out of their life who have hurt them.
11. Sickened by Cruelty or Violence
Witnessing acts of cruelty to others, whether human or animal, is unbearable for the Empath. Seeing all the atrocities and violence in the world may stop them from watching the news or reading papers.
12. Synchronicity Surfer
Synchronicities become part of an Empath’s life, although they are often passed off as coincidence. When they learn to identify with them, these occurrences unfold more and more. Differentiating synchronistic events can become a fun pastime and the more open to them one becomes, the more they are recognized.
13. A Product of Childhood
As young children, Empaths are often open and loving. They do not understand cruel behavior, even within other children. But with age, if after suffering vicious treatment or being on the receiving end of angry outbursts, the unaware Empath may find they adopt this same behavior. This is to keep others from hurting them. If an Empath hardens inside, because of pain they have experienced, it will cause great unhappiness.
14. Unwittingly Receives Mental Projections
Knowing whose emotions belong to whom may take time for the Empath to discern, but it can take longer for them to realize whose thoughts belong to whom. They often unknowingly thought-bomb other people’s mental projections and pick up on their ideas. It takes awareness for them not to jump on board with another’s thoughts or emotions and take them on as their own.
15. Projects Their Thoughts and Feelings on to Others
As well as picking thoughts up, Empaths can project what they think or feel on to others without realizing. They also project thoughts and emotions not belonging to them. Once an Empath notices this trait, they can prevent it from happening.
16. Lack of Confrontation Causes Weakness
Confrontation of their own truth is essential for the Empath’s healing and growth. They understand only too well it is pointless talking to others about their problems unless they speak the truth. If they fear their truths will cause rejection or be used against them, they may suppress them. Not facing their truth, however, causes problems in all areas of life. If they cannot express it verbally, writing it down works equally well. Truth will set the Empath free!
17. Has an Intense Fear of Rejection
Rejection, for an Empath, is not something they can easily brush aside. It wounds them deeply. Rejection is one of the biggest causes of insecurities. It is an inherent trait for them to be protective and faithful to all who they let into their life. To be pushed away by those they trusted, can lead to pain and distrust. The fear of it happening again may lead them to reject others.
18. Empaths Take Things Personally
When hurt they hurt much deeper. Because they have such empathy, often putting the needs of others before their own, they find it difficult to understand those who don’t. In time, the Empath learns that when someone repeatedly hurts them they are only causing themselves pain by keeping the other in their life.
19. Always Find Their Answers
Empaths find the answers to anything they choose in life, if they focus their awareness on the question they want answered. It may not be in an instant but it will come within a matter of hours, days or weeks. The answer is not always direct and may be given through a series of life experiences. Whether they accept the answer they receive is another story.
*  This information comes from the book ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive’. A guide written specifically for the Empath to understand who they are and how to harness their hidden power.
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thisisheffner · 5 years ago
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The light has gone out – it’s time we stopped giving Morrissey attention
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On a shelve at the back of my wardrobe rests an early, askew Shirts that hasn’& rsquo; t been worn in years. It births black-and-white photos of Oscar Wilde, Shelagh Delaney as well as James Dean, with The Smiths emblazoned all over the top. It’& rsquo; s not the best elegant of band Shirts, but thirty years ago it was all I might find in non-urban Devon to promote my loyalty to a band that implied every little thing to me. I have actually never been able to throw it out.
The tracks of The Smiths still pump by means of my veins, an effective pointer of the agonies of my formative years and also the capacity of popular music to unlock unfamiliar brand-new emotions and switch your world completely. Yet listening closely to them right now makes me believe sad with hoping at what they were actually, and distress at what their performer has actually ended up being. Morrissey’& rsquo; s succinct turns of phrase as well as his parochial obsessions have previously seen him matched up to Alan Bennett, at whose front door he the moment appeared in Greater london gripping publications of poems. However while the second is a national treasure, the previous has actually become a national embarrassment.
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modern Britain you are actually telling them
that you have actually operated out of words. You are closing the dispute down and managing off. The phrase is actually” pointless currently. Everybody inevitably prefers their very own race & hellip; does this make every person racist? & rdquo; NBCU/Getty 2/29 On Female Gaga In a meeting with Billboard, Morrissey refers to as Lady Gaga & ldquo; nothing at all
brand-new & rdquo; and also states her
style is actually & ldquo; deceitful, and the
"precise contrary of sexual. & rdquo; He additionally pertains to Madonna as & ldquo; McDonna & rdquo
; and also states Michael Bublé is & ldquo; well-known and also useless & rdquo;. Getty Images 3/29
"On dancing popular music:"It is actually the haven for the mentally deficient. It is actually made by dull people for — plain individuals."Getty Images 4/29 On London mayor Sadiq Khan "London is devalued. The Mayor of Greater london tells our team regarding' Area policin'
“-- what is' policin & rsquo;? He tells our company Greater london is an'amazin' metropolitan area. What is 'amazin '? This is the Mayor of Greater london! And he can not talk properly
!"& ldquo; Madonna enhances every little thing unreasonable and also
objectionable. Determined womanhood
". Madonna is actually nearer towards organised prostitution than anything else. & rdquo; Photograph through Michael Campanella/Getty Images 6/29 On Beyonce:"The rhinocerous is actually now basically extinct
, and also it's certainly not due to global warming orshrinking habitations. It's due to Beyoncé's bags"Buda Mendes/Getty Images 7/29 On animal rudeness in China & ldquo; You can & rsquo;
t aid but experience that
the Mandarin folks are a subspecies
". & rdquo; Getty Images 8/29 On royal loved ones:"The arrogance of the English royals"
is astonishing, definitely startling
"9/29 On creative thinking: “On being artistic: & ldquo; I would certainly rather create craft than end up being craft. & rdquo; Getty Images
10/29 On Prince Charles:
"" I wish that Prince Charles had been actually fired. I believe it will possess created the world a more intriguing place."
"11/29 On sexuality:
""However, I am certainly not homosexual ... In technological simple fact, I am actually humasexual. I am attracted to people. Of course, certainly not a lot of."
" 12/29 On Bob Geldof:
""Bob Geldof is actually an abominable character. Quick fix was one of the most sanctimonious system ever before in the past history of music."
"13/29 On increasing old:
“& ldquo; Era shouldn & rsquo; t affect you’. You & rsquo; re either wonderful or even you & rsquo
; re boring, irrespective
of your age. & rdquo; Getty Images 14/29 On being actually alcoholic: & ldquo; Life would be therefore brilliantly colored so I had a cocktail complication.”
& rdquo; GETTY
IMAGES 15/29 On being attractive:
“& ldquo; I assume I have to be, completely, a total sexual activity item. In every feeling of the”
word. & rdquo; 16/29 On music sector:
“& ldquo; I lost on my own to popular music at a really early age, as well as I stayed certainly there. & rdquo; 17/29
On Taylor Swift:
The max edgings [at the Brits] divert your attention coming from the reality that Taylor Swift possesses absolutely nothing to carry out with Coventry or even Wrexham. To manage rank fraudulence in tellyland is not a tough endeavor, especially if you possess the whole entire populace of Peru dancing around you as you ape your track."
"Offered by Coast Fire Media
18/29 On grooming:
"" I do keep that if your hair is actually wrong, your whole lifestyle is wrong.”
& rdquo; Rex Includes
19/29 On Elton John:
“& ldquo; He is actually pushing his face with all the amount of time and also informing us regarding his personal life. No person's fascinated."
He ought to just disappear."AFP/Getty Images 20/29 On charisma:
“& ldquo; I am actually certainly not excellent at being actually dull."21/29 On musicians: & ldquo; Performers aren't actually folks. I'm in fact 40 every
“cent papier mache. & rdquo; Getty Images 22/29 On affection: On romance: & ldquo; I
do believe it's achievable
to go by means of lifestyle as well as certainly never drop
in love, or discover an individual that likes you. & rdquo; 23/29 On neglected killing attempt on Head of state Margaret Thatcher:"The sorrow of the
IRA Brighton battle is that Thatcher left in one piece."Getty Images 24/29 On the popular music dependency
": & ldquo; Songs is like a drug, but there are no recovery facilities."
& rdquo; 25/29
On narcissism:
“On narcissism: & ldquo; Well, I am a remarkably attractive individual.”
& rdquo; Rex Includes 26/29
On fatality: “"I possess an unswayable fixation along with death. If there was
an enchanting supplement
that people can take that would resign you from the globe, I would take it."27/29 On Kate Middleton Morrissey connects the suicide of a Greater london nurse to the Duchess Kate Middleton. & ldquo; There & rsquo; s no blame put at Kate Middleton, who resided in the healthcare facility for, as much as I can easily view, definitely
no cause ... She feels no pity concerning the fatality of this woman. The arrogance of the English royals is actually incredible, absolutely paralyzing. & rdquo; 28/29 On his heritage: & ldquo; When they hide me in a church as well as chuck earth on my tomb, I & rsquo;d like the words & lsquo; Well, at the very least he attempted & rsquo; engraved on my tombstone. & rdquo; 29/29 & ldquo;
If you call someone racialist in
“modern-day Britain you are actually telling them that you have lacked expressions. You are shutting the controversy ‘down and bolting. Words is worthless now.”
Everyone inevitably
“prefers their very own nationality & hellip; performs this make everyone racialist? & rdquo; NBCU/Getty 2/29 On Lady Gaga In a job interview with Signboard, Morrissey names Girl Gaga & ldquo; nothing new & rdquo; and also mentions her type is & ldquo; deceptive, and the particular contrast of sensual. & rdquo; He also describes Madonna”
as & ldquo; McDonna
& rdquo; and also claims Michael Bublé is & ldquo; popular and also worthless & rdquo;. Getty Images 3/29 On dance music:"It is actually the sanctuary for the mentally deficient. It is actually created through ordinary individuals “for boring folks." Getty Images 4/29 On London mayor Sadiq Khan "Greater london is actually devalued. The Mayor of “Greater london informs us regarding 'Area policin'-- what is “'policin & rsquo;?
He informs our company London is an 'amazin'city. What is actually'amazin '? This is actually the Mayor of London! And he may not talk adequately!"& ldquo; Madonna bolsters every little thing absurd and outrageous. Determined femininity."
Madonna is deeper to set up hooking than just about anything else. & rdquo; Photo by Michael Campanella/Getty Images 6/29 On Beyonce:""The rhino is now essentially vanished, and it's certainly not due to international warming — or even diminishing habitats. It is actually due to the fact that of Beyoncé's bags "Buda Mendes/Getty Images 7/29 On animal cruelty in China & ldquo; You can & rsquo
“; t help yet really feel that the Chinese individuals are actually a subspecies. & rdquo; Getty Images 8/29 On royal family members:"The arrogance of the English royals is spectacular, positively
startling"9/29 On ingenuity: On being innovative: & ldquo; I'd somewhat produce craft than come to be
"fine art. & rdquo; Getty Images 10/29 On Prince Charles: "I want that Prince Charles had been fired. I assume it would possess created the realm an extra interesting location."
11/29 On sexuality: "Unfortunately
, I am actually certainly not gay ... In specialized fact
“, I am actually humasexual. I am drawn in to humans. However, of program, certainly not many.”
" 12/29 On Bob Geldof:
"Bob Geldof is actually an abominable
"personality. Band Help was the absolute most self-righteous platform ever in the past history of preferredsongs."13/29 On aging:
& ldquo; Age shouldn & rsquo; t impact you. You & rsquo; re either extraordinary
or you & rsquo
; re boring, no matter your grow older.
"& rdquo; Getty Images 14/29 On being actually alcoholic: & ldquo; Lifestyle would certainly be actually therefore brilliantly colored if simply I possessed an alcoholic beverage trouble."
& rdquo; GETTY IMAGES 15/29 On
"being seductive: & ldquo; I assume I need to be actually, positively, a total sex object. In every sense of words."
& rdquo; & ldquo; I lost on my own to music
"at a really early grow older, and I continued to be there certainly. & rdquo; 17/29 On Taylor Swift: The max edgings [
at the Brits]
“. divert your’attention coming from the fact that Taylor Swift’has nothing at all to perform with Coventry or even Wrexham. To carry out
overgrown fraudulence in tellyland
is certainly not a difficult
“venture, specifically if you possess the whole populace”
of Peru hemming and haw
you as you ape your track."Given through Shore Fire Media 18/29 On cleaning:"I carry out preserve that if your hair is inappropriate, your entire lifestyle is actually inappropriate.”
“& rdquo; Rex Includes 19/29 On Elton John: & ldquo; He is driving his skin in”
continuously as well as informing our team about his exclusive lifestyle. No person's intrigued. He ought to only disappear. "AFP/Getty Images 20/29 On charisma: & ldquo; I am actually not excellent at being actually plain."21/29 On musicians: & ldquo; Artists may not be truly people. I'm actually 40 per-cent papier mache. & rdquo; Getty Images 22/29 On love: On passion: & ldquo; I perform believe it is actually achievable to experience life and never drop in affection, or even locate someone that likes you. &
rdquo; 23/29 On fallen short assassination efforton Head Of State Margaret Thatcher
": "The distress of the IRA Brighton bombing is actually that Thatcher ran away untouched.”
"Getty Images
24/29 On the popular music dependency
“: & ldquo; Popular music resembles a drug, however there are no rehab centers. & rdquo; 25/29 On narcissism: On narcissism: & ldquo
; Well, I am actually an exceptionally
lovely person. & rdquo; Rex Includes 26/29 On death:"I have an unswayable obsession with fatality. If there
was a wonderful supplement that one might
“take that will resign you from the globe, I would certainly take it."27/29 On Kate Middleton Morrissey
links the suicide of
a London registered nurse
to the Lady Kate Middleton. & ldquo; There & rsquo; s no blame placed at Kate Middleton, who remained in the medical facility for, regarding I can observe, positivelyno main reason ... She experiences no shame about the death of this particular girl. The pompousness of the English royals
"is actually spectacular, completely surprising. & rdquo; 28/29 On his legacy: & ldquo
; When they hide me in
a religion as well as chuck earth on my grave
“, I & rsquo;d like the words & lsquo; Well, a minimum of he attempted”
& rsquo; inscribed on my marker
. & rdquo; 29/29 It has actually become a dispiriting routine on social media sites that, every few months, Morrissey & rsquo; s name starts to style, causing swathes of music supporters
"to sigh wearily and also ponder what the crazy jerk has stated or done now. Current triggers have actually included his functionality on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, where he"
showed off a For Britain badge in assistance
of a political group that leans up until now to the right that also Nigel Farage “has outdoed themself coming from all of them. through which, explaining accusations of sex-related abuse associated with Kevin Spacey as well as Harvey Weinstein, Morrissey said there were actually opportunities & ldquo; when the individual who is gotten in touch with the prey is actually merely let down & rdquo;.”
There was actually in 2014 & rsquo; s comically mad meeting on his personal site where he buffooned shade house assistant, Diane Abbott, as well as mayor of Greater london Sadiq Khan, and declared Hitler was leftist. Morrissey carries out song while
using For Britain
gathering symbol Complaints of racial discrimination have shadowed Morrissey for many years, of training course, from his toyings with fascist visuals in the Nineties(he once sang & ldquo; National Front Nightclub & rdquo; at a Finsbury Park festival while draped in a Union Port banner), to his severe pronouncements on music through black artists-- consisting of thereport in a Melody Producer interview that & ldquo; a black stand out conspiracy & rdquo; was protecting against The Smiths from meeting their possibility. As the years have actually passed, he has actually come to be ever before even more brazen in his anti-immigration position, telling NME in 2007 that England had been & ldquo; gotten rid of “& rdquo;, that & ldquo; the entrances were flooded & rdquo; as well as complaining that in Greater london & rsquo; s Knightsbridge & ldquo; you & rsquo; ll hear every accent under the sunshine in addition to the British accent & rdquo;.(Morrissey later on filed a claim against the journal and gained an apology after he professed the short article charged him of racial discrimination.)This, it should be actually taken note
, from a male that is actually the child of Irish migrants and a deportee that has actually variously taken up property in Italy and also the United States. Morrissey & rsquo; s support observing each craze usually hinges on his misrepresentation by an aggressive push, however one more symptom” of the oppression facility that has actually been actually a feature of his lifestyle and also occupation. A lot of Morrissey & rsquo; s reputation as an artist has rested on his outsider standing, which harmonized adolescent enthusiasts who felt likewise dislocated and alone. It & rsquo; s this, combined with the stylish appeal of The Smiths & rsquo; popular music( which could be credited to Morrissey & rsquo; s bandmate, the guitar player Johnny Marr), that led several-- myself included-- to give him the perk of “the doubt. Remembering, nonetheless, the evidence indicating” a pop star who was a terrible human being with objectionable perspectives on ethnicity as well as migration is actually undeniable. Yet still the faithful group. Morrissey keeps a big target market in The United States, a hardcore of supporters who are either uninformed or unfazed by his dreadful bigotry. The English press, at the same time, stays fascinated along with this once-revered number, consistently disclosing his every articulation no issue how barmy. Yes, I am adding more pillar ins through agonizing over my fallen idolizer, yet possibly it & rsquo; s time our team ceased providing him our opportunity and attention. The Smiths were actually wonderful however the Morrissey our team once draped along with passion and also blooms is actually no extra.
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hayleybaaaby-blog · 8 years ago
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im so boreddd
1. If you’ve ever tried drugs or alcohol, what was your reason for first trying it? i was always around someone else when i was trying or doing something, but that was sooo long ago..
2. Do you think you could ever have an abortion if you unexpectedly turned up pregnant right this second? absolutely. i'm not have any more babydaddys. next man i get pregnant by is the guy i wanna end u p with.
3. If you were far from home and needed to sleep for the night, would you choose to rent a crappy motel room for $60 or sleep in your car for free? trust me, as someone who lived in a motel for around exactly a year with my abusive babydaddy, daughter, & baby in my belly .... too much drama, nastiness, & lowlives.
4. Is there a color shirt you’d NEVER wear? i guess i wouldn't wear like neon orange or green lol. actually, probably wouldn't wear anything neon.
5. Is there a situation where you caved into peer pressure and regretted it? all the times i drank underage. it wasn't many, but yeah. miserable.
6. What is your favorite video game console? Why? used to be xbox 360. haven't had one of those in YEARS.
7. Do you like vanilla candles?
sure, i guess.
8. Have you ever been in a relationship that was going great, and then suddenly something weird happened and you just KNEW it was going to be over soon? i dunno?
9. Would you ever bleach your hair platinum blonde? i have bleached my hair plenty of times 😂
10. What are your plans for tomorrow? well, since it's already 2:20 am, tomorrow will be Monday .. I get paid. ✨
11. What did you have for breakfast? didn't eat breakfast.
12. Have you had sex in 2017 yet? consensual & nonconsensual ....
13. Who last slept in your bed besides you? my children lol. 💖
14. What time did you wake up today? couldn't even fall asleep..
15. How long until your next birthday? i'll be 23 on July 12th! 🎈🎉✨
16. What was the last movie you watched? shit idek 😂😂 i only watch shows on Netflix & our DVR. i can't even sit through a movie now loool. think the last one i watched was Stepbrothers.
17. If you could see any musician live, front row, who would you choose? Fetty Wap 😍😍 whateverrr, he's fineee. 18. When did you last consume something that had peanut butter? few days ago. peanut butter and crackers lol.
19. What’s the last song you heard? the hills - the weeknd
20. When you say you love someone, do you mean it? that's the only time i'll say it lol. i only tell my kids and family that i love them, and then a select few friends.
21. Do you plan on sleeping in tomorrow? yasss, if i can ever get some rest. 😭😫 toooo much on my mind.
22. Do you still talk to any of your ex’s? yeah, a few. now that Luis doesn't control my every move, I can talk to whoeverrrr.
23. As of this minute, what is going through your mind? Luis....
24. Where’s the last place you went? Prospect Mart. shit i don't get out much.
25. Have you held hands with anyone lately? my babygirl 😇
26. Has anyone let you down recently? actually, yeah 😂😂 dude approached ME, and then just wanted to dip when he realized that my life IS as difficult as i've said it is..
27. Does it bother you when people try to make you jealous? uh, yeah???
28. Whats the next movie you want to see in theaters? i don't even have a way to go see a movie.
29. Do you have more than $50 in your room? nope.
30. Are both of your blood parents still in your life? yeah, they're still married, too.
31. Were you tired when you woke up this morning? im tired 24/7.
32. Who is probably talking a load of crap about you right now? LUIS  HERRERA.
33. When was the last time you went apple picking? omg, i was soooo young!
34. Do you sometimes wake up in the morning, lay in bed and think about life? not anymore, i shove that shit so deep down. i hate thinking about all of this bs.
35. Are you happy summer is coming soon? of course! Paradise Lake and Holliday Lake, here we come! wish it could be the beach, but it's okay. 😊
36. Do you have drama in your life? so fucking much. thank you, luis. court is coming up this month.
Is there a person in your life that can always make you smile? there are 2, in fact - my children 💜💙
Is there someone who meant a lot to you at one point, and isn’t around now? yeah, POS tried to kill me and did other very personal and graphic shit to me. so, now he's rotting in jail..
Are you a jealous person? maybe i should've been 😂😂 then possibly i would've gotten cheated on less?
Would you cry if you found out you were pregnant? i would lose my shit.
When is the next time you’re traveling out of state? yeah right lol. i don't have the money for that.
Can you write your name in a foreign language? it'd be the same regardless, lol.
When you’re getting ready for something, do you listen to music? yessss.
Do you leave the curtains/blinds closed or open while you sleep? Closed..
What is your favorite day of the week? I'm a stay-at-home Mom. all the days are the same/
Do you generally do the same thing every day of the week? yes, taking care of my kids, cooking, cleaning, going outdoors w the babies.
What is something you did yesterday and wish you could’ve done today? didn't do anything in particular, except taking the kiddos outside to swim in the kiddie pool.
If you woke up tomorrow and knew/spoke a different language, which language would you want it to be? Spanish. my kids are half Mexican!
What did you last order online? Mama Bear, Sister Bear, & Baby Bear shirts 😍😍😍
Do you have any specific hobbies? taking pics of my kids lmao
What’s a song you recently discovered that you want to tell everyone about? Alone by Marshmello, but honestly that was a while ago. im just still obsessed.
Favorite fall or winter accessory? uhhhh.. a warm jacket?
Do you like to swim? LOVE to swim!
How many books are in your room? a lot, i guess. but i don't even read anymore.
What did you last eat? shiii, i honestly don't know. i feed my kids & don't eat lmao.
Name one of your goals for this year. FORGET LUIS.
What does your 9th message on your phone say? my phone isn't set up that way.
Look to your left. What’s there? wall.
How long does it take you to fall asleep? hours.
Are you scared about the end of the world? yes.
Is there a TV in the room you are in? yeah, a tiny little tv from like when i was a kid 😂 that's why i never hang out in my room.
What are you looking forward to? going summer clothes shopping for my kiddos. Leonardo is outgrowing clothes so fast. he's fitting 6 month snuggly.
What comes to your mind when I say red? the gum big red./
What other language do you want to be fluent in? Spanish.
Do you crack your neck often? no lmao.
Worst feeling in the world? having the man you love devastate you in every way, from cheating to ALL forms of abuse to lies to stealing to trying to kill you. but the worst? is giving my kids a shit father..
Name something you think is pointless? relationships. they're dumb asf.
Favorite fast food restaurant? locally, Taco Bell or Wendy's. we don't have many options lol.
Have you ever been in a fist fight? yes, a few./
Did you have a weird dream last night? i have the worst nightmares .
Do you wish at 11:11? heh not anymore.
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gethealthy18-blog · 5 years ago
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25 Ways To Forget Your Ex
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25 Ways To Forget Your Ex
Arshiya Syeda Hyderabd040-395603080 August 2, 2019
Breakups hurt. But what hurts even more is trying to recall all the promises you made to each other that now remain scattered like broken pieces around you. You are probably mad at yourself for being so naïve and feel like you are the only person in the world experiencing this sadness. But, guess what? We have all been there, done that.
Dealing with a breakup is not easy. It takes a lot of magic glue to heal a broken heart, forget your ex, and make it easier to deal with the pain. Here are 25 ways to move on from your ex and go back to being the happy person you used to be!
1. Give Yourself Some Time To Heal
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The biggest mistake people make when trying to move on is indulging in self-destructive activities like aggressive partying, uncontrolled drinking, and crazy makeovers. Though there is no point sulking over what is already done, sometimes, it is good to open up and cry over it.
Give yourself time to heal. Start working out and eating healthy. The positive impact it has on your mental health is almost magical. Also, go back to the hobbies that you stopped indulging in because all your time was split between your work schedule and relationship.
2. Do Not Stalk Him
After a breakup, you may probably keep wondering what your ex is doing at any given time of the day. It is always at the back of your mind.
With the help of social media, it is extremely easy to find out about their whereabouts. But, stalking him will only make you sadder and make you anxious. The best way to deal with a breakup is to steer clear of their social media accounts until you are ready.
3. Do Not Spend Time Re-living Those Memories
What you had was wonderful. It is good – even healthy – to cherish the good memories. However, that is not a good idea when you have just gotten out of a relationship.
When it comes to a toxic relationship, remembering the good bits will only keep you trapped in the past and inhibit your growth.
4. Try To See The Reality
While the dark gray clouds cover your head with sadness, try to find the silver lining. What seems like the end of the world is just a person exiting your life.
Things may look like they are at their worst, but now that you see the reality, know that you can do better. A bad phase creates the opportunity for you to build a better, happier future.
5. Learn Your Lesson From The Ending
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Everyone makes mistakes, and it is very important to learn from them and prevent them from reoccurring.
People come in your life to teach you a lesson, and a person who wants to leave will leave no matter what you do to hold them back. You may give a hundred percent of yourself to someone, but never lose yourself completely to them.
6. Do Not Find Excuses To Meet Them Again
Resisting the urge to “accidentally” bump into your ex can be challenging. You may think that a single meeting can get you both back together. However, darling, it’s time you realize what could not be mended in the full course of a relationship can never be settled in just one meeting.
A relationship is all about effort from both sides, and after it has died a painful death, there is no point trying to resuscitate it.
7. Do Not Be Harsh On Yourself
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Stop blaming the whole world for your breakup. Face the fact that the person you are the most furious with is yourself. You hate yourself for trusting them so much, for being stupid enough not to understand their intentions.
You may want to find ways to punish yourself by indulging in self-destructive behaviors (like excessive drinking). However, you need to remember that everyone makes mistakes. All you need to do is wipe your tears and prevent your tiara from falling off, princess. You are more powerful than you know.
8. Do Not Try To Be Friends If You Still Have Feelings For Them
It is said that if you are friends with your ex after a breakup, you were never really in love then.
If you are trying to be friends with them just to keep seeing them after the breakup, it will hurt you more than you think. After a ship has sailed, it is pointless trying to turn it around. Friendship is a very special relationship and should not be used for ulterior motives.
9. Know What You Are Capable Of
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You realize what you are actually made of only when you get the opportunity to prove yourself. Let the breakup help you grow, discover your inner self, and explore your potential. You will be surprised to know what you are capable of when you start living life to the fullest.
10. Try To Stay Positive And Indulge In A Healthy Activity
A situation like a breakup can make you weak at heart and unstable in mind, making you think of self-destruction. However, realizing that whatever happens, happens for the best can help you start a new beginning. Try to stay away from any negative thoughts that creep into your head. Practice yoga, exercise regularly, and eat healthy to keep your mind fresh for a new beginning.
11. Shopping!
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Being alone at home may cause stress and anxiety. How about doing something you like? Shopping is the way to go! Make a list of all the things you have always wanted to buy and pamper yourself. It could act as a reward for staying strong after the breakup.
12. Re-Decorate Your Space
An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. All that time you spend thinking of all the memories you shared with your ex Put it to good use. Re-decorate your room/home to create a new environment that you do not associate with them.
13. Go Out And See The World
Now is the perfect time to plan that solo trip you have always longed for. Traveling alone to new destinations can be the change of scenery your mind needs. It will make you realize that you don’t need anyone to make you happy except yourself.
14. Get Rid Of The Things That Remind You Of Him
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Maybe you’ve saved the bus ticket from the first time you both traveled together, or his shirt that you snuggled with when you missed him. Well, now is the time to let go of not only his belongings but also the memories that you keep revisiting.
15. Cut All Communication Lines
If you think messaging him once in a while or drunk dialing him will do no harm, you are mistaken. Staying in touch with him will keep you trapped in the past and never let you move on. It is also a good idea to block his number, delete all his mails/texts, and burn his letters.
16. Avoid Asking About Them From Friends
Once you cut off all contact with your ex, you may try to get information about him from your mutual friends. Resist that urge. The idea is to stay away from him – physically, emotionally, and mentally.
17. Realize That Reel Life And Real Life Are Very Different
The entertainment industry makes us build castles in the air. Reel life and real life are often confused, and we expect things in our life to function as efficiently as in the books and movies.
When your life and – and more importantly, your relationship – does not work out that way, you tend to get depressed. It is important, especially after a breakup, to keep a realistic perspective and accept that sometimes things just don’t work out, and that’s okay! Because the ending of a bad relationship creates the space for new and better things to grow.
18. Spend Time With Your Family And Friends
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Being alone after a breakup can lead to depression. In times like these, you stop trusting people. However, this is the perfect time to reconnect with the people in your life who will actually stick around no matter what. Spending time with your family and close friends can help you clear your mind and push the dark clouds away.
19. Take Time Out For Your Hobbies
Now is the ideal time to do all the things you did not have time for earlier because you were busy with your significant other. Be it pottery, softball, or coding – it will do you a whole lot of good to finally take time out for yourself and execute the projects that you have always had on your mind.
20. Accept It As A Part Of Your Life
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This may feel like the end of the world, but know that you will rise again. A breakup makes you lose hope and retreat into your shell, never wanting to move on. However, it’s time to accept that heartbreak is a part of life. No matter how bad a situation feels today, nothing lasts forever. Eventually, everything goes back to normal. You just need to stay strong and withstand the storm.
21. Enjoy Your Own Company
Just because you love spending time with someone does not mean that you stop spending quality-time doing the things that you love. It is very important to pamper yourself and respect your free time. Charity begins at home, and loving yourself creates the foundation for loving others.
22. Do Not Hurt Yourself In Any Way
The easiest way to express your anger is to hurt yourself. Most people do so by cutting themselves or consuming copious amounts of alcohol or drugs. But, no pain seems to match the pain of your heartbreak. However, hurting yourself can make damage your self-esteem.
In times like these, you need to remember that you are an independent spirit who does not need to depend on anyone except yourself to survive. Being in a toxic relationship does not change who you are or diminish your worth. Believe in yourself and gather the strength to start afresh.
23. Forgive Yourself And Forget Your Ex
It is easy to say forgive and forget, especially when it comes to the person who broke your trust and dreams. However, forgiving your ex might be the key to letting go completely and being happy on your own. It may hurt you to see him with someone else. But, if you just focus on your life and creating a better future for yourself, you will end up wishing only happiness for your ex. It won’t even bother you if your paths cross again!
24. Do Not Date Until You Are Ready
Trying to move on forcefully may result in dating the wrong person again. Love is special, and a rebound should not be mistaken for love. The day you are able to love yourself for the person you are and forgive your ex is the day that you can open up your heart to love again and start dating.
25. Fall In Love With Yourself
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You are more special than anyone can ever make you feel. Make up for all the time that you ignored yourself to pay attention to your ex and pamper yourself to the fullest. A healthy relationship with yourself will make it easier to move forward in life.
A very crucial part of being human is making mistakes and learning from them. You stumbled. Now get up, dust off, get on track, and start moving again. You are worth every happiness, and if someone is unable to make you feel loved, do it yourself. Be your own queen. Hope you fall in love with yourself all over again.
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How To Maintain Recovery With Spirituality: Meet TJ Woodward
Please introduce yourself to those that don’t know you. What made you decide to work in the addiction field? 
Thank you, Cathy. I am in recovery myself. I ended up getting sober pretty young, 54 days before my 21st birthday ironically. That took me on a path of my awakening, my journey toward reconnecting with myself.
I’ve been working in the addiction treatment field for a decade, offering spiritual care. For me, it is a perfect blending of the spiritual path that I’ve experienced. I also use those principles and methods to help people break their addictive cycle. The answer is at some point I knew it was my calling to help other people because of my transformation.
I love your line, “For me, drugs and alcohol were a brilliant strategy that worked well–until they stopped serving me.” Can you share what drove you to use drugs and alcohol and what motivated you to seek recovery?
You’re touching on the fundamental part of conscious recovery. That is I look at drug or alcohol use not as a problem, but as a solution or a strategy to something that feels broken within. In my own life that was what I was experiencing so much disconnection.
I remember when I was a young child and being so open-hearted, so in awe of the world, so connected with myself and others. Then around the age of seven, I remember a sense of closing off, shutting down, like I was building a wall around my heart.
I walked around that way from seven until 13 or 14 when I discovered drugs and alcohol. It helped me at the time. It helped bring some relief that helped allow me to feel kind of comfortable in my own skin.
The issue, of course, is that it’s not a long-term solution. It was a very short-term solution. Then it started causing problems in my life. So that’s the reason that I view addiction through the lens of a solution.
For one thing, it’s much more empowering if someone can get to the place where they recognize, wow, alcohol or drugs is something that did work for a period of time, but now it isn’t serving me so well. That is more empowering. We can start to ask the question if it’s not working so well, what are some of our other options?
You state in Conscious Recovery, “You want to shift your addictive behavior, but you don’t believe you are powerless over it; you don’t want to call yourself an addict, and you don’t understand the need to.”
Please explain your philosophy on how a spiritual approach can help a person to break free from addictive behavior. How can people find recovery through other options?
There’s a lot of focus in the addiction treatment and recovery world on looking for what’s broken. I come in with a slightly different approach. That is the spiritual approach. Rather than looking at what’s broken, can we find that spiritual wholeness that’s underneath?
A lot of times what’s driving addictive behavior is unresolved trauma. There is a sense of spiritual disconnection, and shame. Some of the modalities of treatment end up adding more shame because we’re looking at the person as broken in some way.
I don’t intend conscious recovery to be a stand on its own method. It is something that can help people add to whatever they’re already doing. I recognize there is a physical aspect of addiction and recovery, as well as a mental and emotional.
I’m offering this other possibility here. The reason that I wrote that in the book is because I have worked with so many people, especially younger people that don’t want to identify. They don’t want to label themselves as an addict and alcoholic. They feel labeling themselves brings more shame. We can look at it more through the lens of, it was a strategy that’s no longer working.
This allows the person to have more power. It’s a different approach of not viewing ourselves as powerless. What happens when we start to embrace our power? What happens when we look at the addiction as kind of a low-level search for connection or love?
We can recognize that alcohol and drugs are not serving the person. If they can get to that for themselves, then we can start to look at what it would take to break free from looking outside of ourselves for a solution.
Can you explain how trauma and the fight or flight response play a role in addiction? What message do you have for those using substances to help them cope with trauma in a better way?
Absolutely. It helps to look at a broader definition of trauma. We tend to think of it as something like the loss of a parent or being in a car accident or physical or sexual abuse. And that, of course, that is trauma.
There’s also a broader definition. Do we come into this world as what I call a spiritual being? Young, young children are still very in touch with their emotions. They’re very present. They still can feel very deeply and allow that to pass through them.
We get taught things that are counter to our spiritual wholeness.  This could include competition, scarcity, or not feeling good enough. Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book, The Four Agreements called those events the domestication of the human. I love that because when we domesticate a horse, we call it breaking them or breaking their spirit.
What we know about trauma is that it gets locked in the body. For young people especially, they don’t always have the tools or the support to be able to have an authentic place to share how their experience impacted them. What ends up happening, is there’s a fight or flight response. There’s also a freeze response.
I find that one actually to be so common, especially in younger people, not knowing what to do with the trauma. It ends up getting buried and internalized. As a young person, they end up taking on an identity that there must be something wrong with them.
Often a young person will blame themselves for the trauma. We hear over and over again that there are children and young people who believe it’s their fault their parents got divorced. They might then bring about a sense of brokenness or shame.
Those who are walking around with that kind of shame, that kind of disconnection, ultimately are going to try to find something to bring relief. As we work through the trauma, we create a safe space for authentic sharing. We can begin to dislodge that and then not need some external experience to bring relief.
If a parent walked up to ask for your advice to help their child and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?
What happens so often is what’s driving the addictive behavior is the disconnection, the trauma, and the shame. What we know about shame is that it thrives in silence and secrecy. A lot of times parents may not want to re-experience those feelings themselves. There’s an idea, well, you know, she seems better.
He seems like he’s worked through it. Why would I bring it up? Why would I re-traumatize? The number one thing is a safe container, a place for your child to be able to be authentic. If it’s a counselor, if it’s a support group, ultimately the way we work with shame is we create a safe space to begin to talk about what the person who has an addiction is experiencing.
That may or may not be the parent. Sometimes it’s about recognizing that as a parent. Maybe you’re not the person that’s going to be able to reach your young person at this point.
Bring in support. Bring in a counselor that the young person can trust. I remember in my own life; when I was in my addiction from age 13 to 20, I wasn’t very open to talking with my parents.
I did have some people in my life that I trusted. I was able to open up to them. One helpful tip would be to bring in some support for the young person. Bring in someone they can relate to. The key here is for them to have a safe place to open up and be able to process what’s happened.
TJ Woodward is a revolutionary recovery specialist, bestselling author, inspirational speaker, and awakening coach who has helped countless people through his simple, yet powerful teachings. He has offered spiritual care at top-tier, high-end treatment programs for over a decade and has created full-scale spiritual care programs at several treatment facilities. 
TJ is the creator of The Conscious Recovery MethodTM, which is a groundbreaking and effective approach to viewing and treating addiction. He also serves as the senior minister and spiritual director of Agape Bay Area in Oakland, which is the first satellite community of The Agape International Spiritual Center in LA.  
TJ published his first book, Conscious BEING: Awakening to Your True Nature in 2015, and his second book, Conscious Recovery: A Fresh Perspective on Addiction was released in December of 2017. Additionally, he is the creator and host of the Awakened Living TV and Awakened Living Radio shows. Learn more about TJ at www.tjwoodward.com.
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from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/how-to-maintain-recovery-with-spirituality/
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darrellafrytx · 7 years ago
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How To Maintain Recovery With Spirituality: Meet TJ Woodward
Please introduce yourself to those that don’t know you. What made you decide to work in the addiction field? 
Thank you, Cathy. I am in recovery myself. I ended up getting sober pretty young, 54 days before my 21st birthday ironically. That took me on a path of my awakening, my journey toward reconnecting with myself.
I’ve been working in the addiction treatment field for a decade, offering spiritual care. For me, it is a perfect blending of the spiritual path that I’ve experienced. I also use those principles and methods to help people break their addictive cycle. The answer is at some point I knew it was my calling to help other people because of my transformation.
I love your line, “For me, drugs and alcohol were a brilliant strategy that worked well–until they stopped serving me.” Can you share what drove you to use drugs and alcohol and what motivated you to seek recovery?
You’re touching on the fundamental part of conscious recovery. That is I look at drug or alcohol use not as a problem, but as a solution or a strategy to something that feels broken within. In my own life that was what I was experiencing so much disconnection.
I remember when I was a young child and being so open-hearted, so in awe of the world, so connected with myself and others. Then around the age of seven, I remember a sense of closing off, shutting down, like I was building a wall around my heart.
I walked around that way from seven until 13 or 14 when I discovered drugs and alcohol. It helped me at the time. It helped bring some relief that helped allow me to feel kind of comfortable in my own skin.
The issue, of course, is that it’s not a long-term solution. It was a very short-term solution. Then it started causing problems in my life. So that’s the reason that I view addiction through the lens of a solution.
For one thing, it’s much more empowering if someone can get to the place where they recognize, wow, alcohol or drugs is something that did work for a period of time, but now it isn’t serving me so well. That is more empowering. We can start to ask the question if it’s not working so well, what are some of our other options?
You state in Conscious Recovery, “You want to shift your addictive behavior, but you don’t believe you are powerless over it; you don’t want to call yourself an addict, and you don’t understand the need to.”
Please explain your philosophy on how a spiritual approach can help a person to break free from addictive behavior. How can people find recovery through other options?
There’s a lot of focus in the addiction treatment and recovery world on looking for what’s broken. I come in with a slightly different approach. That is the spiritual approach. Rather than looking at what’s broken, can we find that spiritual wholeness that’s underneath?
A lot of times what’s driving addictive behavior is unresolved trauma. There is a sense of spiritual disconnection, and shame. Some of the modalities of treatment end up adding more shame because we’re looking at the person as broken in some way.
I don’t intend conscious recovery to be a stand on its own method. It is something that can help people add to whatever they’re already doing. I recognize there is a physical aspect of addiction and recovery, as well as a mental and emotional.
I’m offering this other possibility here. The reason that I wrote that in the book is because I have worked with so many people, especially younger people that don’t want to identify. They don’t want to label themselves as an addict and alcoholic. They feel labeling themselves brings more shame. We can look at it more through the lens of, it was a strategy that’s no longer working.
This allows the person to have more power. It’s a different approach of not viewing ourselves as powerless. What happens when we start to embrace our power? What happens when we look at the addiction as kind of a low-level search for connection or love?
We can recognize that alcohol and drugs are not serving the person. If they can get to that for themselves, then we can start to look at what it would take to break free from looking outside of ourselves for a solution.
Can you explain how trauma and the fight or flight response play a role in addiction? What message do you have for those using substances to help them cope with trauma in a better way?
Absolutely. It helps to look at a broader definition of trauma. We tend to think of it as something like the loss of a parent or being in a car accident or physical or sexual abuse. And that, of course, that is trauma.
There’s also a broader definition. Do we come into this world as what I call a spiritual being? Young, young children are still very in touch with their emotions. They’re very present. They still can feel very deeply and allow that to pass through them.
We get taught things that are counter to our spiritual wholeness.  This could include competition, scarcity, or not feeling good enough. Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book, The Four Agreements called those events the domestication of the human. I love that because when we domesticate a horse, we call it breaking them or breaking their spirit.
What we know about trauma is that it gets locked in the body. For young people especially, they don’t always have the tools or the support to be able to have an authentic place to share how their experience impacted them. What ends up happening, is there’s a fight or flight response. There’s also a freeze response.
I find that one actually to be so common, especially in younger people, not knowing what to do with the trauma. It ends up getting buried and internalized. As a young person, they end up taking on an identity that there must be something wrong with them.
Often a young person will blame themselves for the trauma. We hear over and over again that there are children and young people who believe it’s their fault their parents got divorced. They might then bring about a sense of brokenness or shame.
Those who are walking around with that kind of shame, that kind of disconnection, ultimately are going to try to find something to bring relief. As we work through the trauma, we create a safe space for authentic sharing. We can begin to dislodge that and then not need some external experience to bring relief.
If a parent walked up to ask for your advice to help their child and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?
What happens so often is what’s driving the addictive behavior is the disconnection, the trauma, and the shame. What we know about shame is that it thrives in silence and secrecy. A lot of times parents may not want to re-experience those feelings themselves. There’s an idea, well, you know, she seems better.
He seems like he’s worked through it. Why would I bring it up? Why would I re-traumatize? The number one thing is a safe container, a place for your child to be able to be authentic. If it’s a counselor, if it’s a support group, ultimately the way we work with shame is we create a safe space to begin to talk about what the person who has an addiction is experiencing.
That may or may not be the parent. Sometimes it’s about recognizing that as a parent. Maybe you’re not the person that’s going to be able to reach your young person at this point.
Bring in support. Bring in a counselor that the young person can trust. I remember in my own life; when I was in my addiction from age 13 to 20, I wasn’t very open to talking with my parents.
I did have some people in my life that I trusted. I was able to open up to them. One helpful tip would be to bring in some support for the young person. Bring in someone they can relate to. The key here is for them to have a safe place to open up and be able to process what’s happened.
TJ Woodward is a revolutionary recovery specialist, bestselling author, inspirational speaker, and awakening coach who has helped countless people through his simple, yet powerful teachings. He has offered spiritual care at top-tier, high-end treatment programs for over a decade and has created full-scale spiritual care programs at several treatment facilities. 
TJ is the creator of The Conscious Recovery MethodTM, which is a groundbreaking and effective approach to viewing and treating addiction. He also serves as the senior minister and spiritual director of Agape Bay Area in Oakland, which is the first satellite community of The Agape International Spiritual Center in LA.  
TJ published his first book, Conscious BEING: Awakening to Your True Nature in 2015, and his second book, Conscious Recovery: A Fresh Perspective on Addiction was released in December of 2017. Additionally, he is the creator and host of the Awakened Living TV and Awakened Living Radio shows. Learn more about TJ at www.tjwoodward.com.
Image by John Westrock
from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/how-to-maintain-recovery-with-spirituality/ from Addiction Treatment News https://addictiontreatmentnews.tumblr.com/post/174498530057
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inevitably-johnlocked · 4 years ago
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Hello Steph! First, thank you for everything you do for this fandom!! I don’t know what we would do without you!! ♥️ I am looking to start my first novel length Johnlock fic. I found your list, and was wondering if you had a specific one to recommend to start off with? I’m looking for something that won’t make me too sad (the world does that on its own), and of course, lots of Johnlock!! Any recommendations would be appreciated, thank you!! Sending love!! *hugs*
HI NONNY!
Hmm, this is tough, because Novel Length is anything over 50K words, but some people don’t want to read “novels that short”. So I get a lot of requests for Epic novels over 100K, so like WOOO HOO LOL.
Hmm. How about I give you a few recs varying lengths, based on your requirements, and you can decide how long you want to go, since I list all my word counts on my recs?
First off, for when you become obsessed with the lengthy fics like I am now LOL:
Novel Length Fics: 50 to 100K (Nov. 2018)
Novel Length Fics: 50 to 100K Pt 2 (May 2020)
Novel Length Fics: 100K+ w. (May 2019)
Novel Length Fics: 100K+ w. Pt 2 (Aug 2020)
Novel Length Fics: 100K+ w. Pt 3 [MFL’s] (Dec 2020)
Next, here’s something for each range between 50 and 100K+ <3
BUT BEFORE I BEGIN: honourable mention because it IS my fave fic ever, and it fits your criteria minus the length so SORRY but please check it out:
A Promise Made to Be Broken by PlantsAreNeat (E, 37,018 w., 7 Ch. || Fake Relationship, Pining, Slow Burn, RST, Eventual Relationship, POV Sherlock) – A young John makes an ‘if we’re still single at 40, we’ll get together’ pledge to a woman who ends up all wrong for him. She keeps reminding him of the promise, and won’t let go of it. John asks Sherlock to pose as his boyfriend at a family wedding, so as to dash her hopes permanently. Sherlock, who has at last acknowledged his feelings for John, reluctantly agrees despite knowing how painful it will be to ‘have’ John, but not keep him.
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Okay, now the main event, of more-fluff-than-angst:
NOVEL LENGTH NOT-SO-ANGSTY FICS FOR NEWBIES
Spare Change by Ermerness (E, 51,966 w., 14 Ch. || Rich Holmeses AU || First Kiss / Time, Holmes Family, Virgin Sherlock, Anal, First Meetings, Bossy Bottomlock) – The Holmes family is one of the richest and most powerful in England. Sherlock spends his time flying around the world on the family's private jet drinking a lot and shopping at expensive boutiques as a way of trying to alleviate his endless boredom. His mother decides it's time he settles down with someone powerful, wealthy and well connected. John Watson happens to be none of those things.
Guilty Secrets by Ellipsical (E, 55,086 w., 16 Ch. || Post-TRF, Drumsticks, First Kiss/Time, Love Confession, Self-Sexual-Discovery, Anal, Rimming, Orgasm Denial, Butt Plugs, Cooking, Furniture Sex, Bath Sex, Rimming, Double Penetration, Prostate Massage, Anal Beads, Dancing, Romance, Tantric Edging, Internalized Homophobia, Case as Foreplay, Anal Beads, Tickling, Dancing, Dry Coming, Romance) – John has a prostate exam and discovers something surprising about himself. Experimentation follows. Sherlock wants to help. They're in love. You know the drill.
Bridging the Ravine by SilentAuror (E, 58,887 w., 3 Ch. || Post S4, Couple For a Case, Bed-Sharing, First Times, Confessions, Awkwardness, Sex Trafficking, Massages, Wet T-Shirt Contest, Group Therapy, Past Loss of Child) – Sherlock and John go undercover at Ravine Valley, a therapy centre for same-sex male couples in an investigation into a possible human trafficking ring. As they pose as a couple and fake their way through the therapy sessions for the sake of the case, it quickly becomes difficult to avoid discussing their very real issues. Set roughly six nine months after series 4.
Perdition's Flames by i_ship_an_armada (E, 63,435 w., 21 Ch. || Treklock AU, Est. Rel, Genetic Engineering, Angst & Fluff, BAMF!John) – Sherlock would do anything to save him. Risk anything. Give anything. His money, his life. His soul. What he does, though, is change both of their destinies forever. Genetic re-engineering is the only option left. It turns out researchers underestimated the life expectancy and potential abilities of genetically re-engineered subjects. The British government and what would eventually become the United Federation of Planets, however, had not. Part 1 of PF Universe
A Cure For Boredom by emmagrant01 (E, 81,665 w., 8 Ch. || Dirty Talk, Threesomes, Light Dom/Sub, Sex Club, Experiments, Anal, Mildly Dubious Consent, Rimming, Cheeking, Double Penetration, Mild Kink, Porn Watching, Voyeurism, Masturbation) – They’d never talked about sex in the year they’d known each other. Well, that wasn’t quite correct: Sherlock had never said a word about sex; John had bemoaned his personal dearth of it on many occasions.
Uphill by scullyseviltwin (E, 84,945 w., 18 Ch. || Olympics AU || Sherlock POV, Skier!Sherlock / Medic!John, Rivalry, 2014 Olympics, Happy Ending) – Sherlock Holmes is striving for gold in this, his fourth and final Olympics as a downhill Alpine racer.
A Study in Winning by Jupiter_Ash (E, 106,658 w., 11 Ch. || Tennis AU || John POV, Dirty Talk, Mutual Pining, Misunderstandings, Happy Ending, Sherlock Speaks French, Switchlock, Wimbledon) – John and Sherlock are professional tennis players and it’s Wimbledon. One is a broken almost was at the end of his career, the other an arrogant rising star tipped for greatness. It should have been a straightforward tournament. It really should have been. How were they to know that a chance encounter would change everything? Part 1 of Tennis
A Further Sea by i_ship_an_armada & ShinySherlock (E, 125,492 w., 23 Ch. || Historical Pirates AU || Enemies to Friends to Lovers, Doctor John / Pirate Captain Sherlock, Sailing, UST / RST, Masturbation, Action / Adventure, Mild Angst & Peril, Romance, Shaving, Molly/Janine, Bottomlock, Hand / Blow Jobs, Past Drug Use, Slow Burn, Mild Violence, Facial Shaving, Happy Ending) – Here be a tale of adventure for both body and soul, but beware if ye be not of stout heart, for this be piratelock, ya savvy? Luckless ship's surgeon John Watson takes a chance, and finds himself eye to eye with The Ghost, the scourge of the seven seas and a definite thorn in the side of the blaggard, James Moriarty. But when John finds there's more to this most cunning pirate than be meetin' the eye, he has to choose... is it a pirate's life for him?
The Horse and his Doctor by khorazir (T, 129,003 w., 13 Ch. || Horse / Vet AU || Magical Realism, Horses, Vet John, Horse Sherlock, Implied Alcoholism) – Invalided after a run in with a poacher in Siberia, veterinary surgeon John Watson finds it difficult to acclimatise to the mundanity of London life. Things change when a friend invites him along to a local animal shelter and he meets their latest acquisition, a trouble-making Frisian with the strangest eyes and even stranger quirks John has ever encountered in a horse.
The Bang and the Clatter by earlgreytea68 (M, 137,049 w., 37 Ch. || PODFIC AVAILABLE || Baseball AU || Slow Burn / Dev. Rel., Possessive/Obsessive Sherlock, Jealous Sherlock, Mutual Pining, Body Appreciation, Depression, Closeted Sexuality, Family, Sherlock’s Mind Palace, Ogling Each Other, Anxious Sherlock, Panic Attack, Drunkenness, Talk of Forever, Big Feelings™) – Sherlock Holmes is a pitcher and John Watson is a catcher. No, no, no, it's a baseball AU. Part 1 of Baseball
Midnight Blue Serenity by BeautifulFiction (E, 151,907 w., 19 Ch. || Friends to Lovers, Gay Bar / For a Case, Drugs, Pining, Case Fic, UST) – When Sherlock infiltrates a club in order to track down a serial killer, his altered appearance is enough to make John question his assumption that Sherlock is beyond his reach. However, is he the only one who appreciates his flatmate's charms, or is Sherlock at risk of becoming the next victim?
Gimme Shelter by SinceWhenDoYouCallMe_John (E, 159,368 w., 21 Ch. || PODFIC AVAILABLE || 70′s Surfer AU || Period Typical Homophobia, Hawaii, Enemies to Friends to Lovers, Professional Surfers, Gay John / Sherlock, Angst with Happy Ending, John was a Sailor, Misunderstandings, Mutual Pining) – All John Watson wants is the feeling of a freshly waxed surfboard under his feet and the hot California sun baking down onto his back. To finally go pro in the newly formed world of professional surfing and leave the dark memories of his past behind him as he rips across the face of a towering blue barrel. To lounge beside the beach bonfire every evening with an ice cold beer tucked into the cool sand beside him and listen to Pink Floyd and the Doors while the saltwater dries in his sun bleached hair. That's all he wants, that is, until the hot young phenom taking Oahu and the Hawaiian shores by storm steps up next to him in the sand in the second round of the 1976 International Surf Competition. (PUBLISHED AS ‘The Sea Ain’t Mine Alone’)
Mise en Place by azriona (M, 161,004 w., 28 Ch. || Restaurant (Kitchen Nightmares) AU || Sherlock is Gordon Ramsay / Celebrity Sherlock, Restauranteur John, Harry Plays Prominent Role, Alternating POV, Mutual Pining, Cranky Sherlock, Bed Sharing, Slow Burn) – John Watson had no intentions of taking over the family business, but when he returns from Afghanistan, battered and bruised, and discovers that his sister Harry has run their restaurant into the ground, he doesn't have much choice. There's only one thing that can save the Empire from closing for good – the celebrity star of the BBC series Restaurant Reconstructed, Chef Sherlock Holmes. Part 1 of Mise en Place
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Hope you enjoy those!!! <3 PLEASE read them all, though, and THEN READ ALL THE ONES ON THOSE LISTS. Because once you start long fics, you get REALLY INTO THEM. Hah hah <3
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drugrehabtrends · 7 years ago
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How To Maintain Recovery With Spirituality: Meet TJ Woodward
Please introduce yourself to those that don’t know you. What made you decide to work in the addiction field? 
Thank you, Cathy. I am in recovery myself. I ended up getting sober pretty young, 54 days before my 21st birthday ironically. That took me on a path of my awakening, my journey toward reconnecting with myself.
I’ve been working in the addiction treatment field for a decade, offering spiritual care. For me, it is a perfect blending of the spiritual path that I’ve experienced. I also use those principles and methods to help people break their addictive cycle. The answer is at some point I knew it was my calling to help other people because of my transformation.
I love your line, “For me, drugs and alcohol were a brilliant strategy that worked well–until they stopped serving me.” Can you share what drove you to use drugs and alcohol and what motivated you to seek recovery?
You’re touching on the fundamental part of conscious recovery. That is I look at drug or alcohol use not as a problem, but as a solution or a strategy to something that feels broken within. In my own life that was what I was experiencing so much disconnection.
I remember when I was a young child and being so open-hearted, so in awe of the world, so connected with myself and others. Then around the age of seven, I remember a sense of closing off, shutting down, like I was building a wall around my heart.
I walked around that way from seven until 13 or 14 when I discovered drugs and alcohol. It helped me at the time. It helped bring some relief that helped allow me to feel kind of comfortable in my own skin.
The issue, of course, is that it’s not a long-term solution. It was a very short-term solution. Then it started causing problems in my life. So that’s the reason that I view addiction through the lens of a solution.
For one thing, it’s much more empowering if someone can get to the place where they recognize, wow, alcohol or drugs is something that did work for a period of time, but now it isn’t serving me so well. That is more empowering. We can start to ask the question if it’s not working so well, what are some of our other options?
You state in Conscious Recovery, “You want to shift your addictive behavior, but you don’t believe you are powerless over it; you don’t want to call yourself an addict, and you don’t understand the need to.”
Please explain your philosophy on how a spiritual approach can help a person to break free from addictive behavior. How can people find recovery through other options?
There’s a lot of focus in the addiction treatment and recovery world on looking for what’s broken. I come in with a slightly different approach. That is the spiritual approach. Rather than looking at what’s broken, can we find that spiritual wholeness that’s underneath?
A lot of times what’s driving addictive behavior is unresolved trauma. There is a sense of spiritual disconnection, and shame. Some of the modalities of treatment end up adding more shame because we’re looking at the person as broken in some way.
I don’t intend conscious recovery to be a stand on its own method. It is something that can help people add to whatever they’re already doing. I recognize there is a physical aspect of addiction and recovery, as well as a mental and emotional.
I’m offering this other possibility here. The reason that I wrote that in the book is because I have worked with so many people, especially younger people that don’t want to identify. They don’t want to label themselves as an addict and alcoholic. They feel labeling themselves brings more shame. We can look at it more through the lens of, it was a strategy that’s no longer working.
This allows the person to have more power. It’s a different approach of not viewing ourselves as powerless. What happens when we start to embrace our power? What happens when we look at the addiction as kind of a low-level search for connection or love?
We can recognize that alcohol and drugs are not serving the person. If they can get to that for themselves, then we can start to look at what it would take to break free from looking outside of ourselves for a solution.
Can you explain how trauma and the fight or flight response play a role in addiction? What message do you have for those using substances to help them cope with trauma in a better way?
Absolutely. It helps to look at a broader definition of trauma. We tend to think of it as something like the loss of a parent or being in a car accident or physical or sexual abuse. And that, of course, that is trauma.
There’s also a broader definition. Do we come into this world as what I call a spiritual being? Young, young children are still very in touch with their emotions. They’re very present. They still can feel very deeply and allow that to pass through them.
We get taught things that are counter to our spiritual wholeness.  This could include competition, scarcity, or not feeling good enough. Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book, The Four Agreements called those events the domestication of the human. I love that because when we domesticate a horse, we call it breaking them or breaking their spirit.
What we know about trauma is that it gets locked in the body. For young people especially, they don’t always have the tools or the support to be able to have an authentic place to share how their experience impacted them. What ends up happening, is there’s a fight or flight response. There’s also a freeze response.
I find that one actually to be so common, especially in younger people, not knowing what to do with the trauma. It ends up getting buried and internalized. As a young person, they end up taking on an identity that there must be something wrong with them.
Often a young person will blame themselves for the trauma. We hear over and over again that there are children and young people who believe it’s their fault their parents got divorced. They might then bring about a sense of brokenness or shame.
Those who are walking around with that kind of shame, that kind of disconnection, ultimately are going to try to find something to bring relief. As we work through the trauma, we create a safe space for authentic sharing. We can begin to dislodge that and then not need some external experience to bring relief.
If a parent walked up to ask for your advice to help their child and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?
What happens so often is what’s driving the addictive behavior is the disconnection, the trauma, and the shame. What we know about shame is that it thrives in silence and secrecy. A lot of times parents may not want to re-experience those feelings themselves. There’s an idea, well, you know, she seems better.
He seems like he’s worked through it. Why would I bring it up? Why would I re-traumatize? The number one thing is a safe container, a place for your child to be able to be authentic. If it’s a counselor, if it’s a support group, ultimately the way we work with shame is we create a safe space to begin to talk about what the person who has an addiction is experiencing.
That may or may not be the parent. Sometimes it’s about recognizing that as a parent. Maybe you’re not the person that’s going to be able to reach your young person at this point.
Bring in support. Bring in a counselor that the young person can trust. I remember in my own life; when I was in my addiction from age 13 to 20, I wasn’t very open to talking with my parents.
I did have some people in my life that I trusted. I was able to open up to them. One helpful tip would be to bring in some support for the young person. Bring in someone they can relate to. The key here is for them to have a safe place to open up and be able to process what’s happened.
TJ Woodward is a revolutionary recovery specialist, bestselling author, inspirational speaker, and awakening coach who has helped countless people through his simple, yet powerful teachings. He has offered spiritual care at top-tier, high-end treatment programs for over a decade and has created full-scale spiritual care programs at several treatment facilities. 
TJ is the creator of The Conscious Recovery MethodTM, which is a groundbreaking and effective approach to viewing and treating addiction. He also serves as the senior minister and spiritual director of Agape Bay Area in Oakland, which is the first satellite community of The Agape International Spiritual Center in LA.  
TJ published his first book, Conscious BEING: Awakening to Your True Nature in 2015, and his second book, Conscious Recovery: A Fresh Perspective on Addiction was released in December of 2017. Additionally, he is the creator and host of the Awakened Living TV and Awakened Living Radio shows. Learn more about TJ at www.tjwoodward.com.
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source https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/how-to-maintain-recovery-with-spirituality/ from Addiction Treatment News https://addictiontreatmentnews1.blogspot.com/2018/06/how-to-maintain-recovery-with.html
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Cosmic Weather Horoscope -June 2017
Source by Jane Lyle
Thought for June
‘Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the blue sky, is by no means a waste of time.’
– John Lubbock, “Recreation”, The Use of Life, 1894
Thursday 1st June – Monday 31st July:
Pearls and Pitfalls – Jupiter, Neptune, and the art of compromise
The sometimes-uneasy connection between Jupiter and Neptune continues to flavour summer 2017. Jupiter travels through airy Libra, a dynamic sign that rules partnerships, diplomacy, and co-operation. Neptune is powerfully placed in its home of watery Pisces, a sign that can be compassionate, intuitive, and creative.
Of course, all the signs and planets have a dark side too – Libra can be indecisive, manipulative, and cold. Pisces can also be cold, chaotic, and adept at misleading others. We’ve got a link between intellectual air and emotional water. Somehow, between now and the end of July, these two must find a way to work together by compromising and making the adjustments signified by their aspect, the quincunx.
In some ways Jupiter and Neptune are very sympathetic to one another. They both rule Pisces, both are concerned with ideals, and both have a spiritual or religious domain too. In Greek and Roman myth, they were brothers – Jupiter (Zeus) as king of the gods, ruling the realms of the sky while Neptune (Poseidon) ruled the oceans.
This summer’s challenging trick is to learn how to blend emotion, intuition, and compassion (Neptune in Pisces) with reason, strategy, and useful, even lucky, alliances (Jupiter in Libra). Bear in mind that Jupiter expands and inflates, while Neptune dissolves boundaries of any and every kind – into those salty oceans they go.
A string of planetary contacts with the Sun, Mercury, Venus and Mars shine a light on Jupiter and Neptune’s alchemical laboratory throughout June. I suspect we’ll be hearing about many peculiar experiments and mysterious experiences during June, and July.
Everyone with planets and points at 13-14 degrees of any sign can find their natal chart is energised in subtle ways by this odd couple.
Some luminous pearls to look for are:
*Spiritual development
*Idealistic visions for a better future
*Ways to care for those who are sick, or desperately in need
*Learning how to sympathise with, and understand, others –interesting new friendships can begin now
*Creative discoveries
*Love and imagination
*Powerful phase for intuitive and psychic development
Some pitfalls to watch out for include:
*Confusion about others’ beliefs or values – fake news, social media rumours, and conspiracy theories multiply at this time…..
*Huge, over-inflated optimism leading to disastrous investments, gambles, or decisions
*Deception and scandals in health care practices, religious institutions, prisons, large organisations, educational establishments, travel organisations…Neptune really loves a juicy scandal
*Disappointing or delusional unions and partnerships in love, friendship, business and politics – who’s fooling who?
*Issues and upsets caused by addiction, drugs both legal and illegal, and drugs or alcohol legislation, including medical marijuana.
Out in the world
Jupiter and Neptune are activating many national horoscopes.
The USA’s founding horoscope, for instance, has its Sun (leadership and leaders) at 13 degrees of self-protective Cancer, and Saturn (government, law, justice) at 14 degrees of Libra. Neptune flows with the Cancer Sun – potentially a glamorous and idealistic, if confusing, vibe. Jupiter aligns with the US Saturn, expanding ideas and discussions around justice, diplomacy, and the law.
All the positive potential of Jupiter and Neptune is available to channel, if adjustments and compromises are made. And, of course, all the pitfalls have the potential to manifest before our very eyes as well. It looks like yet another very tense and eventful month in the USA – adjustments, checks and balances will be needed, but will they be made?
It’s intriguing, I think, that Russian President Vladimir Putin’s Sun in Libra is at 13 degrees (7th October 1952). Assuming his date of birth is correct, he’ll have Jupiter boosting his confidence this summer, and Neptune swirling around signifying some hidden or concealed thoughts and motivations. Religious, spiritual, or drugs and alcohol related concerns could preoccupy him from time to time as well.
When warrior Mars appears in homeland security Cancer, great care should be taken, for the temptation to over-react and make mistakes could be strong. Mars is vitalising this link between expansive Jupiter and slippery Neptune between the Solstice (21st) and the end of June. It’s a tricky, dynamic phase when individuals, organisations, and nations would benefit from exercising calm caution.
There’s a darker intensity looming at the end of June and beginning of July. At this time Mercury and Mars go on to challenge Pluto – so striving for balance before this dramatic moment would be wise. We can always hope.
Here are some bubbling Jupiter-Neptune dates to be aware of this month:
Sun in Gemini trine Jupiter in Libra 1st – 4th June Sun in Gemini square Neptune in Pisces 1st – 5th June
Mercury in Gemini trine Jupiter in Libra 12th – 14th June Mercury in Gemini square Neptune in Pisces 13th – 15th June
Venus in Taurus quincunx Jupiter in Libra 17th – 20th June Venus in Taurus sextile Neptune in Pisces 17th June – 21st June
Mars in Cancer square Jupiter in Libra 22nd June – 25th June Mars in Cancer trine Neptune in Pisces 22nd June – 27th June
And for anyone who’s curious about the fixed stars, as I am, Jupiter is currently aligned with Algorab, in the agitated and tricksterish constellation of Corvus, the Crow. The crow or raven is a strange, magical bird with links to many myths around the world. It’s another symbolic warning to tread lightly and be cautious and wary in all our dealings around the end of June and beginning of July.
Friday 2nd June:
Flaming June
Our astrological atmosphere is complex for sure. Yet it offers some fabulous glowing fires during the whole of June. This comes courtesy of the positive and potentially uplifting flow between Saturn in Sagittarius and Uranus in Aries, boosted by the portal that is represented by the Moon’s nodes in Leo. It can be a pivotal time for space travel and research, science in general, and legal or political reforms.
All three fire signs working together can warm our hearts, our imaginations, and our ability to bring all manner of creative, inventive projects into practical reality. At its best, this trine says ‘express yourself’. Edgy new ways meet tried-and-tested old ways, and attract others who want to join us in exploring sparky, innovative projects.
Keep an open mind, and we can make changes that have a solid base in reality. Practical magic indeed.
Fiery degrees to look out for range between 23 – 27 of Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius:
Moon’s North node: 27 Leo – 25 Leo by the end of June Saturn: 27 Sagittarius – 23 Sagittarius by the end of June Uranus: 25 Aries – 26 Aries by the end of June
And here are a few diary dates that might just light your fire:
Sun in Gemini opposite Saturn in Sagittarius 13th June – 15th June Sun in Gemini sextile Uranus in Aries 16th – 19th June
Mercury in Gemini opposition Saturn in Sagittarius 18th – 19th June Mercury in Gemini sextile Uranus in Aries 20th - 21st June
This really is a special time. Although Saturn trines Uranus exactly once more, in November, the Moon’s nodes won’t be joining them then.
Sunday 4th June – Tuesday 6th June:
A Little Change in the Weather
Mars, Mercury and Venus change signs over the next two days. We can look forward to a shift in our social, romantic, and day-to-day personal lives. Hopefully, this offers some sort of counter-balance to what’s going on in the world around us.
Venus is gorgeous, indulgent, fertile and artistic in her home sign of earthy Taurus. Venus is finally released from her long stay in impulsive Aries (since February), where the gentler and sexier side of Venus tends to have a hard time. Venus in Taurus smiles, stretches out on the grass, and eats another ice cream.
Mercury, meanwhile, is uber-chatty in his home sign of gregarious, versatile Gemini. Mars in Cancer is more self-protective, emotional and less direct – moving sideways towards goals. Yet it’s more dynamic than Mars in Gemini, and tends to get things done slowly but surely.
Overall, this line-up looks good for our five senses, for romance, and taking real pleasure in food and nature. Mercury in Gemini until 21st June signals lively times, and is good for socialising, networking, and publicity ventures.
The combination of Mars in maternal Cancer and Venus in foodie Taurus sends a gentle symbolic message about the essential role of food and nurturing in life too. Food waste is happening all around us, with perfectly edible fresh produce binned because it’s the wrong shape or close to its ‘sell-by’ date. Some charities are aiming to do something creative and positive about this depressing, soulless state of affairs. If you’re interested, please do find out more here:
http://www.thefelixproject.org/
Or discover chef Massimo Bottura’s inspiring Food for Soul project here:
http://www.foodforsoul.it/
The astrology dates are:
Sunday 4th June - Mars enters Cancer. Mars travels through Cancer until 20th July. Tuesday 6th June - Mercury enters Gemini; Venus enters Taurus
Friday 9th June:
Full Moon rises at 18 degrees of Sagittarius, the Centaur
A rather unstable full Moon rises in restless, excitable Sagittarius. Jupiter, ruler of Sagittarius, is turning forwards again today too. All in all, expect culminations and turnarounds – but nothing is yet fixed, and much will fluctuate over the next two weeks. Beware illusions and delusions, and reserve judgment for now.
There’s more in the Moon Diary.
Jupiter turns direct at 13 degrees of Libra today too.
Jupiter now has a clear run through Libra until 10th October, when the gas giant enters Scorpio and a very different, and more intense, Jupiter phase begins.
Jupiter’s work in the area of relationships, diplomacy, and balance becomes clearer as the weeks pass. Partnership and open enemy issues we’d shelved or sidelined since March – or even last winter - will catch our attention in August when Jupiter squares Pluto. More opportunities to deal with our connections crop up as Jupiter sextiles Saturn, and opposes disruptive Uranus for the last time this year, in September.
Friday 16th June:
Neptune turns retrograde at 14 degrees Pisces today.
Neptune turns direct again on 22nd November. Mostly, I don’t think we really notice Neptune retrograde. When we do realise we’re walking through fog, we may glimpse a phase of slippery, seductive confusion.
Wednesday 21st June:
It’s the Summer Solstice here in the Northern hemisphere, and Winter Solstice down in the South.
The Sun enters Cancer the Crab, a dynamic Cardinal water sign, on the longest day of the year in the Northern hemisphere.
The Solstice moment is a vital point in our solar year, and has been observed and celebrated for millennia in numerous regions here on Earth. If you want to find out much more about the many incredibly ancient places where the Solstice was celebrated:
http://www.archaeoastronomy.com/
There are more turning points for us as Mercury enters Cancer today as well.
Mercury in Cancer thinks intuitively, and is defensive, possessive, and strategic. Also, Mercury in Cancer can be very funny, if just a little bit crabby from time to time.
Today’s beautiful summer dance between lovely Venus and mystical Neptune adds to the magical, musical, and romantic possibilities of the season.
Saturday 24th June:
The Feast of St. John the Baptist, Old Midsummer Day
New Moon rises at 2 degrees of Cancer
‘Anyone who doesn’t believe in fairies had better shut these pages here and now and throw them into the wastepaper basket, or cut them up to line his bookshelves, and very expensive that will be. Not only will he be rejecting the world, but, in his antiquated Victorian scepticism…he will miss some extremely interesting things, and I am sorry for him. Of the many ways of being poor in spirit, and dismissing the earth as a dull sort of place, perhaps the stupidest is to say no to the hidden relish that gives this life its touch of magic.’
- Manuel Mujica Lainez, ‘The Wandering Unicorn’(1965)
Yes, now’s the time for bonfires on the beach, naked swimming, fortune-telling and a heady cocktail of both earthly, and unearthly, delights.
Venus in pleasure-loving Taurus trines intense Pluto, signifying earthy passion in all things. Mars in Cancer dives into Neptune’s boundless oceans, bringing some fantasy, imagination, music and mystery to the atmosphere.
Our new Moon in Cancer aligns with messenger Mercury, bringing high tides of emotional news, and encouraging us to talk about our feelings and intuitive visions. There’s more in the Moon Diary.
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Jane Lyle
The Astronomy Room
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hi! do you know of any fics that are like spare change by emerness with posh/rich Sherlock? thank you :))
Hi Nonny!!
AHHH Spare Change is legit one of my top fave fics ever, and I can think of a few other fics, but none beyond what I got for you :) … So I’ll share them with you below, along with the list Alexx has!
Here’s my sad list of Rich Sherlock fics, sorry I don’t have many!! And, as always, this is also a call out for anyone who has some fics they would like to add!!
RICH SHERLOCK
See also: Alexx’s List
Spare Change by Ermerness (E, 51,966 w., 14 Ch. || Rich Holmeses AU || First Kiss / Time, Holmes Family, Virgin Sherlock, Anal, First Meetings, Bossy Bottomlock) – The Holmes family is one of the richest and most powerful in England. Sherlock spends his time flying around the world on the family’s private jet drinking a lot and shopping at expensive boutiques as a way of trying to alleviate his endless boredom. His mother decides it’s time he settles down with someone powerful, wealthy and well connected. John Watson happens to be none of those things.
floating through a dark blue sky by Lediona (M, 58,966 w., 15 Ch. || Notting Hill AU || POV John, Celebrity Sherlock, First Date / Time / Kiss, Past Drug Addiction, Angst with a Happy Ending) – Of course, I’d seen his films and always thought he was, well, brilliant – but, you know, a million miles from the world I live in. Or, when John is the owner of a travel book shop and the famous Sherlock Holmes stops in one day.
This Thing All Things Devours by cypress_tree (E, 63,844 w., 15 Ch. || In Time AU || Science Fiction, Dystopian Universe, First Meetings, Action / Adventure, Romance) – In 2169, time is money—literally. Humans are genetically engineered to stop aging at 25, when the numbers on their arm start counting down from one year. When that time is up, they die. The only way to get more time is to earn it, borrow it, or steal it.John Watson lives day-to-day in the crowded slums of Zone 13. He never imagined living any differently—until he meets the practically-immortal Sherlock, and helps him on a case to track a local time-thief…
Performance In a Leading Role by Mad_Lori (E, 156,714 w., 21 Ch. || PODFIC AVAILABLE || Hollywood / Actor AU, Secret Relationship, Falling in Love, Slow Burn, Romance, Coming Out, Fluff and Angst, Pining) – Sherlock Holmes is an Oscar winner in the midst of a career slump. John Watson is an Everyman actor trapped in the rom-com ghetto. When they are cast as a gay couple in a new independent drama, will they surprise each other? Will their on-screen romance make its way into the real world? Part 1 of Performance in a Leading Role
Mise en Place by azriona (M, 161,004 w., 28 Ch. || Restaurant (Kitchen Nightmares) AU || Sherlock is Gordon Ramsay / Celebrity Sherlock, Restauranteur John, Harry Plays Prominent Role, Alternating POV, Mutual Pining, Cranky Sherlock, Bed Sharing, Slow Burn) – John Watson had no intentions of taking over the family business, but when he returns from Afghanistan, battered and bruised, and discovers that his sister Harry has run their restaurant into the ground, he doesn’t have much choice. There’s only one thing that can save the Empire from closing for good – the celebrity star of the BBC series Restaurant Reconstructed, Chef Sherlock Holmes. Part 1 of Mise en Place
WEALTH IS IMPLIED
Winter’s Delights by Kate_Lear (E, 21,173 w., 1 Ch. || Holmes Family, Christmas, Fake Relationship, Friends to Lovers, Bed Sharing, Domestics) – Sherlock takes John home for Christmas to meet the extended Holmes family. Part 1 of Winter’s Delights (his family is wealthy)
Classified(s) by blueink3 (E, 36,153 w., 4 Ch. || Wedding Date AU || Fake Relationship, Jealous, PIning, H/C, Idiots in Love, Happy Ending, Mary is not Nice, Escort Service) – Clara’s American father is the ambassador to some such territory that Great Britain probably used to own, but she (and Harry’s undying love for her) is the reason John is getting on a flight at 12:30pm, flying across the second largest ocean in the world, and pretending to be in a perfectly happy, healthy relationship with an undoubtedly perfectly coiffed stranger. See, Clara is not only American (and wealthy to boot), she’s also best friends with John’s ex-fiancée. Whom she’s placed in the wedding party. As Maid of Honor. And John just happens to be Best Man. Bloody brilliant. (implied he makes lots of money being essentially an escort)
Summit Fever by J_Baillier (M, 78,802 w., 18 Ch. || Mountain Climber AU || POV John, Angst, Tragedy, Suicidal Ideation, The Himalayas, Mountain Guide / Doctor John, Mount Climber Sherlock, Loneliness, Drama, Suspense, Slow Burn, Injured Sherlock / Sherlock Whump, Pining John) – After graduating from medical school, John Watson followed his heart to the Himalayas. Ten years later, he’s a haunted cynic working for his ex-lover’s trekking and mountaineering company. Will leading an expedition to Annapurna I—the most lethal of all the world’s highest mountains—shake John out of his reverie, and who is the mystery client added to the group at the last minute? (implied by his expensive equipment and celebrity status)
Thermocline by J_Baillier (M, 83,557 w., 14 Ch. || Scuba Diving AU || Adventure, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Marine Archaeology, Asexual Sherlock, Horny John, Relationship Drama, Technical/Scuba/Wreck Diving, Slow Burn, Underwater /  Medical Peril, Doctor John, Hurt Sherlock, Anxious Sherlock, John POV, Protective John, Body Appreciation) – John “Five Oceans” Watson — technical dive instructor, dive accident analyst and weapon of mass seduction — meets recluse professor of maritime archaeology Holmes. As they head out to a remote archipelago off the coast of Guatemala to study and film its shipwrecks for a documentary, will sparks fly or fizzle out? (implied by his expensive equipment)
Proving A Point by elldotsee & J_Baillier (E, 186,270 w., 28 Ch. || PODFIC AVAILABLE ||  Me Before You Fusion || Medical Realism, Insecure John, Depression, Romance, Angst, POV John, Sherlock Whump, Serious Illness, Doctor John, Injury Recovery, Assisted Suicide, Sherlock’s Violin, Awkward Sexual Situations, Alcoholism, Drugs, Idiots in Love, Slow Burn, Body Image, Friends to Lovers, Hurt / Comfort, Pain, Big Brother Mycroft, Intimacy, Anxiety, PTSD, Family Issues, Psychological Trauma, John Whump, Case Fics, Loneliness, Pain) – Invalided home from Afghanistan, running out of funds and convinced that his surgical career is over, John Watson accepts a mysterious job offer to provide care and companionship for a disabled person. Little does he know how much hangs in the balance of his performance as he settles into his new life at Musgrave Court. (implied by the care and aides he has)
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How To Maintain Recovery With Spirituality: Meet TJ Woodward
Please introduce yourself to those that don’t know you. What made you decide to work in the addiction field? 
Thank you, Cathy. I am in recovery myself. I ended up getting sober pretty young, 54 days before my 21st birthday ironically. That took me on a path of my awakening, my journey toward reconnecting with myself.
I’ve been working in the addiction treatment field for a decade, offering spiritual care. For me, it is a perfect blending of the spiritual path that I’ve experienced. I also use those principles and methods to help people break their addictive cycle. The answer is at some point I knew it was my calling to help other people because of my transformation.
I love your line, “For me, drugs and alcohol were a brilliant strategy that worked well–until they stopped serving me.” Can you share what drove you to use drugs and alcohol and what motivated you to seek recovery?
You’re touching on the fundamental part of conscious recovery. That is I look at drug or alcohol use not as a problem, but as a solution or a strategy to something that feels broken within. In my own life that was what I was experiencing so much disconnection.
I remember when I was a young child and being so open-hearted, so in awe of the world, so connected with myself and others. Then around the age of seven, I remember a sense of closing off, shutting down, like I was building a wall around my heart.
I walked around that way from seven until 13 or 14 when I discovered drugs and alcohol. It helped me at the time. It helped bring some relief that helped allow me to feel kind of comfortable in my own skin.
The issue, of course, is that it’s not a long-term solution. It was a very short-term solution. Then it started causing problems in my life. So that’s the reason that I view addiction through the lens of a solution.
For one thing, it’s much more empowering if someone can get to the place where they recognize, wow, alcohol or drugs is something that did work for a period of time, but now it isn’t serving me so well. That is more empowering. We can start to ask the question if it’s not working so well, what are some of our other options?
You state in Conscious Recovery, “You want to shift your addictive behavior, but you don’t believe you are powerless over it; you don’t want to call yourself an addict, and you don’t understand the need to.”
Please explain your philosophy on how a spiritual approach can help a person to break free from addictive behavior. How can people find recovery through other options?
There’s a lot of focus in the addiction treatment and recovery world on looking for what’s broken. I come in with a slightly different approach. That is the spiritual approach. Rather than looking at what’s broken, can we find that spiritual wholeness that’s underneath?
A lot of times what’s driving addictive behavior is unresolved trauma. There is a sense of spiritual disconnection, and shame. Some of the modalities of treatment end up adding more shame because we’re looking at the person as broken in some way.
I don’t intend conscious recovery to be a stand on its own method. It is something that can help people add to whatever they’re already doing. I recognize there is a physical aspect of addiction and recovery, as well as a mental and emotional.
I’m offering this other possibility here. The reason that I wrote that in the book is because I have worked with so many people, especially younger people that don’t want to identify. They don’t want to label themselves as an addict and alcoholic. They feel labeling themselves brings more shame. We can look at it more through the lens of, it was a strategy that’s no longer working.
This allows the person to have more power. It’s a different approach of not viewing ourselves as powerless. What happens when we start to embrace our power? What happens when we look at the addiction as kind of a low-level search for connection or love?
We can recognize that alcohol and drugs are not serving the person. If they can get to that for themselves, then we can start to look at what it would take to break free from looking outside of ourselves for a solution.
Can you explain how trauma and the fight or flight response play a role in addiction? What message do you have for those using substances to help them cope with trauma in a better way?
Absolutely. It helps to look at a broader definition of trauma. We tend to think of it as something like the loss of a parent or being in a car accident or physical or sexual abuse. And that, of course, that is trauma.
There’s also a broader definition. Do we come into this world as what I call a spiritual being? Young, young children are still very in touch with their emotions. They’re very present. They still can feel very deeply and allow that to pass through them.
We get taught things that are counter to our spiritual wholeness.  This could include competition, scarcity, or not feeling good enough. Don Miguel Ruiz, in his book, The Four Agreements called those events the domestication of the human. I love that because when we domesticate a horse, we call it breaking them or breaking their spirit.
What we know about trauma is that it gets locked in the body. For young people especially, they don’t always have the tools or the support to be able to have an authentic place to share how their experience impacted them. What ends up happening, is there’s a fight or flight response. There’s also a freeze response.
I find that one actually to be so common, especially in younger people, not knowing what to do with the trauma. It ends up getting buried and internalized. As a young person, they end up taking on an identity that there must be something wrong with them.
Often a young person will blame themselves for the trauma. We hear over and over again that there are children and young people who believe it’s their fault their parents got divorced. They might then bring about a sense of brokenness or shame.
Those who are walking around with that kind of shame, that kind of disconnection, ultimately are going to try to find something to bring relief. As we work through the trauma, we create a safe space for authentic sharing. We can begin to dislodge that and then not need some external experience to bring relief.
If a parent walked up to ask for your advice to help their child and you only had a few minutes to give them your best tip, what would it be?
What happens so often is what’s driving the addictive behavior is the disconnection, the trauma, and the shame. What we know about shame is that it thrives in silence and secrecy. A lot of times parents may not want to re-experience those feelings themselves. There’s an idea, well, you know, she seems better.
He seems like he’s worked through it. Why would I bring it up? Why would I re-traumatize? The number one thing is a safe container, a place for your child to be able to be authentic. If it’s a counselor, if it’s a support group, ultimately the way we work with shame is we create a safe space to begin to talk about what the person who has an addiction is experiencing.
That may or may not be the parent. Sometimes it’s about recognizing that as a parent. Maybe you’re not the person that’s going to be able to reach your young person at this point.
Bring in support. Bring in a counselor that the young person can trust. I remember in my own life; when I was in my addiction from age 13 to 20, I wasn’t very open to talking with my parents.
I did have some people in my life that I trusted. I was able to open up to them. One helpful tip would be to bring in some support for the young person. Bring in someone they can relate to. The key here is for them to have a safe place to open up and be able to process what’s happened.
TJ Woodward is a revolutionary recovery specialist, bestselling author, inspirational speaker, and awakening coach who has helped countless people through his simple, yet powerful teachings. He has offered spiritual care at top-tier, high-end treatment programs for over a decade and has created full-scale spiritual care programs at several treatment facilities. 
TJ is the creator of The Conscious Recovery MethodTM, which is a groundbreaking and effective approach to viewing and treating addiction. He also serves as the senior minister and spiritual director of Agape Bay Area in Oakland, which is the first satellite community of The Agape International Spiritual Center in LA.  
TJ published his first book, Conscious BEING: Awakening to Your True Nature in 2015, and his second book, Conscious Recovery: A Fresh Perspective on Addiction was released in December of 2017. Additionally, he is the creator and host of the Awakened Living TV and Awakened Living Radio shows. Learn more about TJ at www.tjwoodward.com.
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