#-explain myself and apologise profusely. so far people have been ok with it.

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*gets nervous over nothing even though my (nor)adrenaline levels should be brought to a normal level medically* *gets n

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My thoughts on yesterday’s Mobby drama on my blog as I think it’s important for those anons who still don’t understand my point to understand how I got there and why.

1. Anon calls a relationship “creepy” and is uncomfortable and weirded out by it in my inbox.

2. I (quickly in a short reponse) point out that this relationship is in fact completely lacking imo in any problematic element at all eg. toxicity, dependency, brainwashing etc. and the fact that they find it creepy and weird is likely a result of long standing judgmental preconceptions and assumptions that it must have these elements involved when it doesn’t and is perfectly healthy, just different from the norm. Much as this knee jerk reaction has been in the past thrown at queer people as an example for comparison on how times change and people can get over these preconceptions with a little thought process, so I don’t like this negativity and framing of being problematic about something that’s not problematic just “different” and actually seems to be very lovely and healthy so far in my inbox thanks.

3. A few other people with the same longstanding preconceptions and assumptions come into my inbox accusing me of calling everything problematic, they think it’s valid to have an opinion on someone else’s perfectly healthy relationship and call it creepy because of no real reason whatsoever, they can’t give any, they just don’t like it and have missed my point about thinking about the reason why they think it’s creepy and problematic by a country mile.

Okay. Onto my thought process.

My knee jerk reaction to a queer couple kissing on tv 10 years ago was “oh weird!”, my knee jerk reaction to a possible big age difference here when I read the ask literally moments before I answered was “oh weird!” and you know what I did? I educated myself about life and people in general over the last 10 years and yesterday re this ask I just sat down and thought about it for a minute before responding.

I asked myself: Why do I think it’s weird? On what basis? Is it actually rooted in something genuinely problematic for society and the people involved or is it just a knee jerk reaction due to my upbringing and environment telling me that something different is bad and thinking it’s ok to have an opinion on other people’s lives? Is there any actual valid reason at all that this is actually genuinely problematic and therefore creepy? Are there non-con elements involved etc as per the above?

Conclusion: No. It’s two consenting and fully capable adults with no problematic elements that I can see involved at all. Sure it’s different and not something I’m hugely used to seeing but there’s no reason I should call it creepy or weird. I shall write that as a response.

That’s all it takes. I’ll always admit when I’m wrong but the floods of people agreeing here show me that this is a healthy way to look at things you don’t understand or just aren’t used to seeing. Just breathe and think for a second before having an opinion on others. I’ve had both sides in one day, I’ve apologised profusely for one thing I said in a knee jerk reaction and later realised was not what I really think and I’ve also sat down and thought about something else and come to a logical, positive conclusion. It really doesn’t take much to see that pausing for thought and really thinking about why we think things helps us grow into better people with a wider understanding of the world. We all have hang ups from our past, we can all make mistakes, we can however pause and think and attempt to do a little better each time.

I am by no means perfect, this post is to explain that I am obviously not and make mistakes too, I just hope that explaining the “pause and think” option helps those who don’t to understand why I came to this conclusion and who knows perhaps it’ll be a reminder to someone else one day to do the same and they can grow too.

I know it’s my exposure to others here on tumblr discussing things in this way that meant it took less than a minute for me to pause and think yesterday and realise that in my knee jerk reaction I was being ageist and had negative preconceptions on something I rarely think about and don’t have a lot of exposure to, it took less than a minute to realise my error and turn it around and I’m very happy to share that to hopefully encourage others to do the same on any topic.

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superhero!sicheng

background: in this alternate universe, the members of nct will have various superpowers and abilities. this bulleted series will describe them in school situations - a school of superheroes/ villains - and also outside of school, in non-magical settings, for instance, describing a non-magical job they may have. it’s kind of like harry potter in the sense that only people with powers can access this magical world (where the school is) but magic users can easily travel in between both worlds. enjoy!

super speed & flexibility;

ok so sicheng here is like a mix of elastigirl and dash

dont ask me how that works out it just does ok

a bit weird maybe

but still super (hah puns) badass

he is really ! heckin' !! flexible !!!

like, he's out there doing flips and somersaults and it looks so cool damn

he can even do the acrobatics in super speed it's awesome

the guys took a video of him doing that once and when they hooked it up to a laptop to slo mo it, the laptop couldn’t handle processing it because they had to slow it reaaaaaaaaal down

so it just crashed lmao

he's really humble about his powers though

he never tries to show them off or gloat or anything

but if - when - people ask him to show them something

he just can't say no because he doesn't want to let them down or anything

he has this move that always makes him and the guys laugh

where he does the bridge, but then he elongates his arms and legs

((it’s the best thing ever))

donghyuck always jumps on top of sicheng when he does that

so hyuck is basically overlooking everyone

it makes him feel superior af #longlivekingdonghyuck

and whenever sicheng is in a minutely awkward or embarrassing situation

you bet your butt hes just gonna super speed away the heck outta there

people tend to think he’s always red because he’s always running really fast

but n o p e

he’s a shy bean that’s blushing because people are constantly complimenting him

ok so imagine there was a school vs school competition

but this time with magic !!!

you bet your butt (again) yuta signed him up for all the running races

yuta also has The Best™ signs and posters with sicheng’s face on it

and he coined the nickname Winwin bc sicheng’s always winning

even against the other super speed runners because this boy is always practicing so he doesn’t disappoint anyone during the race

his smile after winning each race is so precious-

ok so he’s great !!! at phys ed (esp. gymnastics and running for obvious reasons) but he’s also amazing at the no magic sports like swimming. he likes the rush he gets because he’s not as fast in water, so he’s trying to improve his personal best

ofc hyuck and yuta have made him try to run on water

after like 7 unsuccessful attempts (mainly bc hyuck kept pushing yuta into the water as sicheng was running) he finally managed to do it without them two interfering

it was legendary

kinda like dash’s run on water, minus the villains behind him trying to kill him

outside of school!!!!

he also has a job outside of being totally badass in school

of course he’s a cute lil’ barista boy at a cafe close-by

hes winwinning hearts there everyday too give him a break ppl

he tries making lots of different designs on the drink, he mainly bases them on different powers like drawing flames or a snowflake

they may not be super detailed but they’re really cute and he always serves them with a smile

so he gets a lot of tips :)))

he also really likes this job because he gets to see different kinds of people all the time

he usually has late shifts after school, so he gets to see how humans cope with their abundance of school work

and when he has really late shifts, how people are really quiet, mainly listening to music, barely awake

on the weekends, he’s there up and early, and he finds it funny how 50% of the customers are in a rush to get to places like shopping or work

but then the rest are coming in happy groups and they’re just chilling, having a good time

he just really likes watching humans do their thing,, makes him think that there really isn’t much of a difference between their kind and his

but there’s still this separation which he has never really liked, but has had to put up with

so he always try to be as happy as possible around them

because even if they don’t know that hes not 100% human he’s still going to be as nice as possible

bc he’s just a really nice guy like that

my beautiful sicheng, the speedy stretcher <3 

so, as cliches go, you guys met in the cafe he works at

and you quickly became a regular there because of a school project that you had

you would always have a hot chocolate with whipped cream but then ask the barista for what they’d recommend as a side dessert

and he sort of just found that cute and you super cute over the days

but he’s a shy lil’ thang so he would just hand you your stuff quickly & quietly when he was serving you

but then he was always cleaning around the table you were at when his role changed

the guys would catch on pretty quickly because he’d be rushing to leave after school and kept ditching their hang-out sessions for extra shifts

they thought he was doing something dodgy and not telling them 

so they followed him and were rlly confused when he did just get on with his actual job

UNTIIIIIL doyoung realised that sicheng kept staring at one particular customer in the far booth

and then the whole gang knew about this crush

yuta geared up and not so subtly used his powers [will be revealed in his one ;^)] to give sicheng a push in the right direction

a.k.a sicheng tripped over and fell right into you

a.k.a some teen nudged you just as you had picked up your now-lukewarm hot chocolate so it spilled onto you

panic ensued (with yuta and co. cackling in the background) and sicheng frantically trying to hand you tissues

he apologised profusely and you were kind enough to brush it off (but it was obvious you were kind of  annoyed)

and he felt so so so bad because there goes any chance he had with having a good first impression

you still came back the next day though and sicheng gave himself a quick pep talk and walked to you before he could change his mind

he started off the conversation saying sorry again and somehow he managed to string along “i’d really love to make it up to you this saturday...”

free food and time with a cute boy? you couldnt have said yes to his offer quicker

saturday came quickly and the date had gone amazingly - by now, sicheng knew the gang knew and they were all being the best WinWinWingMen [thats literally what they called themselves]

yuta & hyuck taught him Flirting 101

jaehyun picked out his outfit after johnny had had his fashion evaluation on it & then taeyong ironed the clothes out

doyoung tried starting a talk show to ease sicheng’s nerves until the dreamies shoved and locked him out

anyways, the date went amazingly and led to more until you guys started dating

it was cute and all but after being together for two years sicheng realised he hadn’t told you that he wasn’t... exactly... human

and he was really scared about how you would react

mainly because he’d seen people confess things in the cafe and usually it went well

but there were times that it didn’t and he remembers them better and so he’s scared

he doesn’t think you’d react in an over-the-top way but he’s still scared you’d leave him because he’s different

he’s never really spoken to you about Supers, fearing you’d realise he is one and leave him

but one day he decides that you should know because the relationship is serious now and he trusts you

when he sat you down to talk to you

first you thought he was going to break up with you because of how serious he was, and he kept saying “i’m so sorry about this, please don’t take this badly”

and you just held his face and stroked your thumb over his cheeks, telling him to breathe slowly

and after he had calmed down, he mumbled out so quietly, “i’m not... normal”

and at first you thought he was talking about his insecurities until he carried on

“i can do things other people can’t... like i can run and stretch myself”

and, to be completely honest, you were lost, and that obviously showed on your face because sicheng smiled a lil’ and decided to show you instead

so he stood up, and dashed to the door and you were like

whoa

how-

and then it finally clicked: he was superhuman

sicheng decided it would be better to stay away from you in case you reacted explosively

but he wished he was closer because your eyes were sparkling in awe

and he wishes he could’ve seen that up close instead

you were so in awe, and that night you got him to explain more about his powers and magic in general

and he’s so happy you’re still with him, that day was filled with non-stop affection 

after that he mixes up the dates by also taking you around the magic world, but he’s always careful to watch out for authority figures

because they might react badly to a non-magic person

but so far so good

and sicheng’s never been happier

highkey felt bad that i hadn’t posted anything in a while so here we go :)) hope you enjoyed!!