#((i won't do it bc i can't afford to get sued but it's still not a joke)

[gon-and-killuas-mother]

EMERGENCY FUNDS NEEDED FOR DISABLED QUEER

my ONE source of income, my generous grandmother, has fallen ill and failed to tell me that she wouldn't be able to cover my rent this month. i've been operating under the assumption that i'd get my usual check today, but was informed yesterday by my father that no, she doesn't actually have the money and she's too sick to help me.

this is the worst possible timing bc i'm already a month late on rent, as a vet bill had set me back almost $400 last month. my landlady has lost her patience with me and told me if I didn't pay by tomorrow, they would be starting the legal process of eviction AND suing me for whatever pennies i have

i'm asking friends and family for donations and a few are able to help, but i'm terrified it won't be enough.

my disabilities prevent me from working any regular job, and there aren't a lot of places that will hire someone who moves as slow as i do, no matter how good my customer service is. i'm still applying for remote jobs and looking for other solutions. and my second disability application is still pending.

times are hard so i understand completely that most of y'all can't afford to donate every time you see one of these posts, but any support or advice helps!!

[atypicalstrong]

vent incoming

So two of my friends moved to South Korea and weren't able to take their cats with them immediately, so I agreed to foster them for 6 months until their first vacation so they could come collect them.

Little did I know that 3 years later I would still have these cats, because it turns out that importing pets more than 6 months after you immigrate is incredibly difficult, and the owners didn't do any proper research beforehand, and also didn't save any money to get it done. And STILL aren't saving money to get it done, and are instead begging all their associates for money (by taking commissions they aren't actually doing - a mutual friend has literally 30 works they still haven't received) every step of the way when we have to get health tests and certificates and lab reports done.

And it turns out everything we've done so far has been for nothing because its all been in my name, and they're gonna have to redo all the expensive and time consuming tests in their name. Which means finding a vet that will do all this legal paperwork in someone else's name who isn't in the country to verify anything at all and is just taking my word for it. Which is uhhhhhhh an issue to say the least.

I found all this out today first thing in the morning when my friend was like "the pet relocation company says none of this will work so can you and your vet fix it?" And when I was like "I'll ask but I'm pretty sure we have to start over bc anything else would legally be fraud since technically I own your cats right now" (because its been 3 fucking years) they had the fucking GALL to break down crying and say it hurts so much to hear their pets aren't legally theirs, and I have to make my vet fix it because they've been doing a "trash job" (they haven't, they've actually been very helpful and the only fuck up that happened before this was a lab's fault, not my vet's), and they can't afford to do it all again, and that they "need me to be in their corner right now".

And then they just shut down when I tried to offer any solutions that DON'T involve legal fraud. Like coming back and doing it themselves instead of using a company, which is "just not possible" (no reason given when asked why not, literally just silence), or doing it as a "sale" so it makes sense that its all in my name ("that won't work because the regulations are probably different").

Like, I'm sorry you waited until the last minute to check if we were doing everything correctly! But that's not my fault, or my responsibility! I never wanted it to take this long, and I certainly don't want to keep your fucking cats! They keep destroying all my stuff, which you've offered to replace but noticeably haven't! Even if I wanted to, I CAN'T keep your fucking cats because I'm moving next year!

Nevermind I've got a bunch of my own shit going on that y'all don't seem to care about at all, like fighting for disability benefits, and being sued for medical debt (my court date is LITERALLY tomorrow and they haven't asked about it once since I told them last month), and affording rent and food! They're over in South Korea spending all their money on take out and "retail therapy" (and to be fair some genuine unforseen costs, but that just makes the other stuff more infuriating) not saving anything for the cats, while I'm over here going to food banks and hygiene pantries just to stay afloat!

I don't even want to be friends with them anymore at this point! And that really hurts, because there was a time when they were the best friends I'd ever had. But now? After all this? How can they expect me to trust or rely on them, for anything? After everything I've done for them THIS is the thanks I get?

I don't even know what else to say. If they don't SINCERELY apologize for this, and also accept they fucked up by not doing the research or saving any money, and ALSO come to terms with the fact that we have to start over, I don't know what I'm gonna do. Stop being friends with them and rehome the cats, I guess. I don't WANT to do that but I don't think I'll have any other choice.

I've put up with so much and for what. For fucking what. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhh...

[tabithagracealterman]

Dear People Who Email,

I understand you feel you must. It's ok. Evernote's incredibly beautiful and thoughtful architecture incorporates this. It was clunky a few years ago (every email was easily and seamlessly forwarded elsewhere but saved appropriately with tags, which yielded in ungodly tumbilweaves under the bed inside the computer. Anyway, if you mustemail: And this is just a timesaving and maybe moneysaving tip for you: Under no circumstances will I open an email with the subject line "Grow Your."

Increase your audience. Reach more people. Develop your audience. Find your people. Expand your influence.

Like, ugh, like you don't get me. And the unfortunate side effect of you just not getting me (benign) is I then think you're supergross (malignant). I'm sorry. It's not judgment, I think. It's an overwhelming mission driven by NotMe that compels me to try to solve everything. The fact that I don't get hopeless and worn out is that I file the concepts away, knowing that better persons will finish them. And thus: FreeIdeas. I need to make FreeIdeas work. But I still feel made fun of, judged, harassed, ridiculed, sported/shatted upon.

Y'all I just want a hot bath. If you want it all to end here, I grant you permission to use what you stole in tactile form but ABSOLUTELY no audio, video or photo files. None whatsoever. Just take the scribbles and do what you want. That would make me happy. The rest, you're getting sued. As I've said a billion times.

SUCH

EASY

ANSWERS

HERE.

I also can't believe it is so hard to make a basic website that can then be scaled UP into a more complex, but still simple, concept. We have been to the MOON! How is this hard? (Note: Did this with designbuildarchitect. Worked together. Was awesome. Couldn't afford to build it bc you don't care why and whatever. But I still have the designs. Expandable build, three phases (or more as needed), but designed to incorporate "wings," so to speak, to be built contained; and then "added on to" but in the actual intentional design. U shape. It's real cool. You can have the designs for free on FreeIdeas! If architect agrees. Which he won't. I don't think. He's more like that than I am like this. But I could ask. Might as well if I don't get to build it. It is super cool.

Well, look at me rambling like a mofo. Maybe because Conan and Stephen didn't answer their phones. I wouldn't expect them to. Bravo all round.

(Note: I would embrace all the AI in the world. I'm not scared of AI. I am scared of people. Specifically: YOU PEOPLE.)