#“’I blocked you for being annoying’ to an off anon ask publicly

[astrum-aureus]

Tumblr would be in peace if people would just ignore asks that they think are stupid if they’re made in good faith

Idk it always just feels mean spirited like. I know they’re usually anons so they’re not being publicly embarrassed but I’d still feel bad if I sent in an ask and got put on blast for “um you stupid idiot didn’t read the post that said not to ask me this question” or whatever like people miss things just ignore them just ignore them just ignore them you don’t have to answerrrrr goddddd

[renren-006]

Y'all did know? - Daryl x fem reader

Anon: i absolutely fucking love your fics, i read so many fanfics i don’t always remember authors but i for sure remember and recognize you and your work partially bc i reread it often❤️ after reading your last daryl fic at 4 am bc i couldn’t sleep i had an idea for a fic for him. what if it was slightly the opposite thing, like daryl and reader got together early on, maybe the knew each other before hand like reader was a bartender at merle’s favorite bar bc we all know daryl takes time to warm up to be ppl, and the cdc happens, while drinking they make their confession and get together officially, but readers like daryl with the fact they’re kinda shy and take a while to warm up to ppl so they don’t do pda and stuff publicly, not really intending to hide it but also not wanting the attention, and maybe they assume their ppl from their group know (this is where the set up for that last fic got me bc i can see this being a long timeline)......

original ask: Ask

a/n: hey anon!! i decided to copy some of what you wrote here but it was a massive request and I absolutely enjoyed reading it and writing it!!! thank you for the kind words!! you guys are why i love writing and helping make your stories become reality! hope you all enjoy reading it! word count: 3107

taglist: @rosecentury

Before World Ended:

You met the Dixon brothers a few years before the world ended. You were a bartender at a small driver's roadside bar off Atlanta I-85. You started working there after you graduated from college, hoping to make some money to put away to get out of Atlanta. 

Merle was always a loud drunk and a loud customer throughout the day. Daryl, however, was a kinder soul, apologizing for his brother before seating himself directly in the center of the bar area. The two of you chatted through your shift, mostly about who comes in, how his day was, and what the weather for the week would be like. It was small talk, but with the other rednecks checking you out, you felt comforted by him. Daryl never made any plans to put any moves on you in the three years he knew you, but when the world ended, and you almost got killed, he knew he had to.

"I like ya," he said aloud. You looked over at him. He was gazing up at the sky, a beer between his knees. You just sat there watching the man. 

“What the hell does that mean?” you asked, slightly annoyed. You not only had almost died by an undead customer, but also it was an undead customer. The idea that people could die and come back to life as something unlike themselves was utterly unbelievable. You watched blow you as that undead walked around without noticing you and Daryl on the bar's roof. Merle was blocking the rest of the bar to keep everyone out. All three of you knew you would have to leave soon, but it didn't matter; the summer breeze was still blowing, and the beer was still cold for now. 

“It means…ya almost died and the shit of the world, so… I like ya.”

“You are a master with your words,” you told him sarcastically. You've known Daryl for years now; the two of you spoke the same language with people. You were always shy, and Daryl just took a while to open up to people. You both were a lot alike, and that's what kept you together and attracted you to one another. “I like you too.”

GEORGIA:

The two of you never addressed your relationship with each other, not that anyone really needed to know. Nor did the two of you showcase it. Since both of you were shy and had a bit of a more rigid exterior about letting people in, you just figured when you were alone with each other was the time to be closer, but out in the world hand, holding, loving looks, and conversation were the way to go about it. 

Merle knew, of course; he figured it out quickly. He was the only one learning about the two of you and not caring. Daryl acted the same as he had, except he didn't dare flirt with you. Daryl had given him one look on the road when you walked ahead, and he was staring at your ass that he never tried again. Merle may be mean to Daryl, but he never would cross-touch what were his brothers. Everyone thought it was a word.

“He doesn't flirt with you, does he?” Andrea asked you a few months into living together. You shook her your head. “Weird, he never stopped with me.”

“Maybe you're just his type, Andrea.”

“And you're not? Anything with tits and an ass and Merles all over it,” she said to you, not noticing the slight touch of hands with Daryl as he walked by and the smile you gave. She kept running on about Merle's annoyance, not noticing anything else around her. 

FARM:

“You crazy bitch” you yelled towards Andrea. She had run over far behind your form and Ricks. The two of you dashed towards the fallen man without a second thought in your mind. You ran towards your man, who was lying in the grass, groaning in pain. Daryl was barely speaking in Rick's arms as they carried him off. 

“Don't worry, your man will be fine,” Shane said, keeping you from absolutely bashing Andreas' face in. She took one look at your anger and held her hands up, walking backward towards Dale. “Don't bite her head off for this.”

“Whatever,” you said, shoving him off and walking up towards the house, where Daryl was now being brought inside. You didn't even consider Shanes's words that day, “your man.” it never crossed your mind that he was teasing you. Shane was a dick; everyone knew it more recently. You could see Shane's vacant eyes glancing at everyone in a way that made your skin crawl. You thought the only reason he was acting like that towards you was this asshole was flirting. He knew you were taken, right? You were mistaken. 

ROAD AGAIN:

You handed over a can of soda to Daryl. You had only found two in the house you searched.  Surprisingly, the can was left in a cabinet, meaning you could drink it if you wanted to. Daryl and Rick approached you once they entered the house. They both came to help you in the bigger house. You placed the soda in Daryl's hand.

“It's not beer, but I know you'll enjoy it anyway,” you said to him before heading up the stairs. 

“She's sweet on you,” Rick said with a smile, teasing the man beside him about you as you skipped the last few steps. 

“I know,” Daryl said as he went to look for other things inside the house. Rick looked back and forth between the stars and where Daryl had gone off, too. He laughed slightly.

“Those idiots,” Rick said, thinking they both had no clue about the other's feelings when everyone else was oblivious to their known feelings. 

PRISON:

You stood on the watchtower, scouting the land ahead. Daryl and a few others had gone on another trip to look for supplies. You had your rifle on the railing as you watched, and then you set up their gear and trucks. Maggie slid in next to you. She watched you watch Daryl move around in the ground, setting up his motorcycle. He looked good down there; the way his body moved, his mussels, and even the way his hair was falling was driving you wild. Maggie caught a glimpse of you checking him out.

“You're so obvious,” she told you. You laughed slightly.

“Sorry,” you apologized; you knew you were obsessed with watching him, but how could you not? You’ve known Daryl for so many years now it was impossible not to watch or admire the man before you. You loved him, and he knew that. Daryl was also quite aware of your joys of watching him, sometimes he would put on more of a show of stretching or giving you those lustful eyes you knew would mean the two of you wouldn't get any sleep that night. It was his favorite thing to do to get you worked up throughout the day. 

PRISON:

Daryl knew he was forgetting something before he even shut the truck's door. He heard her voice before she even reached the hill in the Prison. 

“Wait.” Daryl glanced out the window of the truck, putting his arm out and waving. He knew she was smiling from that before her face popped up in his vision. “You forgot your water bottle!” Smiling up at him was you, his girl—Rick snickers from the seat beside Daryl. 

“Thanks,” He said, grabbing the water bottle from your hand, “saving my ass.”

“Always am,” you responded, giving him a wink. Have a safe trip out.” As you said it, you turned with a wave and walked back up the hill. Swaying our hips bit as you did, you gave Daryl a show that you knew would make him come back to you tonight with a mission. 

Daryl and Rick headed off on their scout to a new town they had spotted on the map, a few miles away from the other town they had picked clean. As the two looked around the houses, Daryl went through many jewelry cases for anything that might seem like something you would wear. Rick came in on him, picking through when he had found the perfect thing.

“She would love this,” Daryl said. Rick came up next to him, observing the (silver/gold) necklace with a bird on the end of the chain swinging in the air. 

“Do you think about anything but her?” Rick asked, laughing as he exited the room to look in the one next to it. Daryl chuckled and shook his head. No, you were always on his mind. 

Little did he know, Rick assumed Daryl had a massive crush on you, not that he had any suspicions you two were already together.

When they returned and Daryl was back sitting next to you on that mattress on the floor, he pulled out the necklace. 

“I found it,” he told you, handing it over to you so you could see it. “I know how much ya miss these types of things.”

“Haha, did you know I missed jewelry?” You asked him, shocked he somehow knew how much you missed having something to wear around your neck. He nodded his head.

“I knew, ya mentioned it a while ago. Been looking for something for ya”

“Daryl,” you said with admiration. He put it around your neck; the man who you had met in a bar all those years ago was now putting a necklace on your neck in a run-down prison at the end of the world. 

AFTER PRISON FALL:

“Daryl?” You said, besides Carol, who had just completed her job of destroying a massive facility of cannibal people. You had been with her, the girls, and Tyreese since the fall and had been so scared that Daryl didn't make it out of the prison. You had run out of the hut and left Tyrese once you heard the explosion. You had found Carol and walked over to the others and saw him. 

Daryl didn't hesitate to run straight for you. You hugged me so tight you felt the air in your lungs stop for a moment, but you didn't care.

“I miss ta. I thought ya died,” Daryl said as he clung to your body. He had gone through hell to fight and find you, and here you were, not a scratch on you and in his arms again. That necklace still hung around your neck, a form of commitment to the both of you about who you were with.

“I'm alive. I'm alive,” you said as you held the man in your arms. The others stood and watched your reunion, no one thinking anything- “Wow, they must care for each other a lot.”

Once he broke off the hug, it was like looking into the eyes of the world again. You could see color, purpose, and meaning. He was everything to you.

 

AFTER TERMINUS:

After the terminus, Daryl stuck to your side. The two of you walked together, ate together, slept near each other, and went on runs together. When Carol and Daryl went to Atlanta, so did you. 

“How long have you two been together?” she asked as you walked through another building in Atlanta. Daryl casually answered as he passed an office door with a walker trying to get out.

“Since Atlanta fell,” he answered. Carol stopped, turning back to the two of you.

“You've been together for more than three years?” She asked the two of you. “How did no one pick up on it?”

“Wait, what?” you asked, shocked, “How does no one know Daryl and me are together?”

“You two have never been very…affectionate,” she told the two of you. Darly glanced your way. The two of you laughed a little at that.

“Yea, that makes sense,” Daryl said. This was the moment the two of you started looking towards the others for any answers if they knew you were together. For the last few months on the road, getting to Alexandria yielded you the response that no one knew a thing. It caused a bit of agitation for the two of you about how maybe your attitudes about being affectionate were causing more harm than good. 

ALEXANDRIA:

Once you all had gotten settled in and jobs were assigned, you all started to try and live a normal life again.Since moving into the two houses, you shared a space with Miccone, Rick, Carol, Daryl, and the kids. You and Darly took a room downstairs along with Carol down the hall, and the rest were split in the rooms upstairs. No one questioned you staying with Daryl or even looked at the fact that there was only one king bed in that room with the two of you. 

While Darly was assigned to go on runs to look for people, you were assigned daycare and teacher duty at the house designated for the school. It kept you busy while Darly was away, and on the days you had off or no one showed, you hung around with Crol or took watch. Many days, you walked around the complex, taking in the signs and the ability to walk in peace. That was until one day.

“Hey, you're one of the women from the new group, right?” a man asked as you walked back to your shared house. You could see Daryl on the porch talking with Carol, but he had not seen you yet. 

“Uh yeah,” you said, continuing to walk back; the man pulled your arm to face him.

“You know it's rude to keep walking when someone is talking to you. Or did you forget that after living in the wild for so long?”

“I didn't forget anything; I just don't want to talk to you,” you told the man, shaking your arm out of his grasp and walking faster towards the house. Finally, you made eye contact with Daryl. The way his face looked, you knew it was because he had heard. The man didn't stop trying. 

“Hey, don't walk away from me,” he said, running back up to you, grabbing your arm so hard and pulling and making you stumble back. “What if I'm not good enough for you? Can’t a man ask a girl for some action or what?” he said, pulling you closer to him. 

“Stop it,” you yelled back, but you didn't have to fight hard. Daryl was a flash before being by your side, and the man's face was flush against his fist.

“Touch me woman again, and that's the least I'll do to ya,” he said. The man froze as he looked up at you from the ground. That was the day you realized the longer people didn't know either of you was together, the more people would try and come up to you, assuming you were not. 

Daryl went to bed that night, angry. You knew it wasn't towards you, but the coldness in the room made you feel like the world was ending if you and him couldn't be more open. 

ALEXANDRIA:

‘What if you two just got married?” Carol asked as she was cooking in the kitchen. You paused your reading from the chair in the living room to look into the kitchen at Carol. 

“What?’ You asked, shocked by her expression. She turned away from what she was cooking on the stove to talk to you. 

“Well, since the people in Alexandria won't take the hint you've taken, and Daryl's upset, and also the issue of our own family not knowing…maybe you should just go out, find some rings, and get married.”

“I…hadn't thought of that,” you told her. “You think Daryl would be okay with that?”

“I think Daryl is more on board with that idea than you think, y/n,” Carol told you. She knew about the distance that had been caused by the repetitive men hitting on you. The guy whose nose was broken never once tried to come up to you and denied anything happening with you when others asked. No one knew what Darly had said that day apart from those there. The decision was made, at least on your part. You stomped your way over to Aaron's house. When he answered the door, you stomped in. 

“Need Daryl,” was all you said before heading to the back of his house to the garage. There, Daryl's bike sat as he tinkered with it. You slammed the door open, causing Daryl's head to look towards the door. A shutter went through the house.

“The hell, woman..” Darly almost got out. 

“Marry me,” you said when he was almost done speaking. Daryl's mouth closed, looking at you. “Do you need me to repeat myself? Daryl Dixion, marry me.”

“Ya no, I heard ya y/n,” he said, standing up, “why?’

“Why? Because I love you, and no one can even tell I do or that we have been together for more than four years,” you told him, frustrated by the string of events of the past year. 

“You want to marry me?” Daryl asked, taking your face in his grease-covered hands.

“Yes,” you told him, smiling.

EVERYONE'S REACTIONS:

Rick was holding a dinner for the family that night. Carol completed a large spread, and everyone showed up. You and Daryl were late. When you showed up, the two of you were holding hands. Michone was the first to welcome the new development.

“You guys waited long enough,” she joked, causing other heads to turn. Daryl looked down at his feet, and you just let out a sigh.

“We didn't, though,” you told them. Everyone looked twords you two in confusion. 

“Didn't what?” Michone asked, clearly confused by what was happening. 

“We've been together for four years,” Darly said, “And we just got married to prove it.” He lifted his hand to show the gold band on his finger, and yours lifted as well, showing the (silver/gold) band with a few small diamonds on it. The two of you had found a jewelry store and had fun picking out your ring, while Darly wanted something simple. 

“Holy shit,” Abraham said. 

“Wait, what? '' Carl shouted, clearly confused about how his uncle had been together with you for so long, and he didn't know.

“Congratulations,” Carol answered. Everyone else was shocked. “Oh, I've known about them for a while.”

“Tonight's dinner story is how the two of you got together,” Rick said as he motioned for the others to sit, “And no one is leaving out any details.”

[phoenix-is-the-hottest-thing]

heyo a little psa

I don't normally do this but this is a case that's as unambiguous as it can get. @2goldensnitches's stalker is back harassing folks again and sending nsfw harassment to people at random.

If you have gotten weird fetishy messages or replies lately, this is why. To avoid being harassed, block the following blogs and report the replies/asks. You're not the main target. There might be more blogs, so turn off anon if you're concerned you might get more. Don't try to talk to these blogs, this has been happening for years, this is a known stalker, she just comes back every once in a while.

Her main tactics are completely ineffective spam tactics and image edit revenge porn, she's mostly just annoying, so report her and don't open any image she sends.

Here are the blogs to block:

22goldensnitches (used for replies, so it's a main blog of the stalker), it's similar to the victim's name in hopes of people misdirecting their anger, obviously

nickvilebtch (seems to be another main blog), was used to send an nsfw edit of someone's face so if you wanna dodge risks of revenge porn, avoid sharing selfies/tiktoks of you/etc publicly.

2goldensnitchesfilthylaundry

This is a """"receipts"""" blog as if it could justify the harassment shenanigans. If you want to do your due diligence, you can check it out.

If you have better stuff to do, the tldr is: she pretends she gets harassed with "hundreds of messages" and consistently fails to show solid proof, pretends her victim is the one sending all the harassment messages although the victim also GETS them, and also seemingly admits to sending out antisemitic spam as revenge and intentions of bullying her victim until she deletes her blog, super innocent behavior. This was just me scrolling through rapidly I probably missed a bunch of stuff.

Basically don't fall for it, don't feed the troll, just block report and move on and don't get further involved.

In general, if you get an anon claiming someone is an abuser, just delete it, they're just trying to use you as a platform.

Some details under the cut

By scrolling for two seconds you can see she has Hot Takes like this:

(source)

For some reason she also reblogged people who were telling her how ridiculous she was being so there might be some bots involved??

(source)

So uh. Yeah.

Here's example harassment replies/asks the victim got, didn't save mine, they were very similar, calling me "mistress" and weird shit like that. idk.

[cleverthylacine]

Okay. Wow. (also feel free to circulate this post to people even if they don't like me)

I didn't want to make a post like this but things have gone too far. I am still not mentioning names. If you know you know, if you don't know, ignore this post and be happy that you don't know.

Yesterday I went on a blitz of blocking people I was told had been sharing my private DMs and talking shit about me behind my back with an artist who is freaked out that I told them I wouldn't take down a reblog, and then explained that they are popular with RavWave shippers, and that I didn't know who they were until other shippers sent me their stuff, because their art does look shippy to us.

It seems that a lot of the people who are really mad about this (and you're welcome to share this one post of mine with those people, though I do not appreciate that their friends have been stalking my blog in general) think that I was trying to ARGUE with that person.

Much as their motivation in drawing the art was not to depict my OTP, my motivation in telling them that they accidentally did was not to argue with them about how they should view the relationship. It was information about why people get what is apparently the wrong idea about their art.

If I were writing or drawing something that was being misinterpreted all over creation, I would want to know why.

Then I would be armed with the knowledge to decide whether or not I wanted to do things differently in the future.

"I don't care what those people think" is a valid decision. So is "hmm, maybe she has a point." Whichever decision I made, I'd want to make it as an informed decision.

I feel a little sorry about this giant misunderstanding, but I'm absolutely disinclined to apologise because:

Their first message to me was insulting. Many people believe that it was a "polite request". But polite words can be used in a thoroughly rude and nasty way. There is no nice way to tell someone that you think they're so nasty you don't want your public posts appearing on their blog.

Saying no to requests is a thing that people are allowed to do.

Their second message to me, which evaded my block because it was sent to another account, was blatantly offensive and went into the quality of my family and relationships. I didn't respond to that because I'd have gone off.

They have their friends stalking my blog and have admitted to doing so, and have responded to venting on my part by vagueblogging in my own blogs by telling everyone that they're the person I am annoyed with and here are the receipts. Seriously, wtf?

I only know this because I'm trying to block all the assholes who are reposting my personal conversations with them, a thing i only know because a friend of mine told me so after receiving a demand they unfriend me.

This person and their friends are sending anon asks to my friends, or in one case, publicly demanding in an RP community, that people who want to interact with them unfollow me, because they will not interact with anyone who interacts with me. Go the fuck back to high school, Regina.

Don't put icing and sprinkles on a pile of shit and tell yourself you gave someone a chocolate cake. This person has never been "nice" to me.

Under the cut: why IDW Ravage would never allow herself to be handled like a pet cat, and why RavWave shippers feel the same way about the Earthspark deleted scenes, even though we know that's probably not what the showrunners meant us to think.

I have come to the conclusion that's it's just another case of antis thinking that if you can see two people in a non-platonic relationship that they think of as family, you're just nasty. Especially if the feline shaped character is being handled like a pet cat.

But the person who said "I look disrespectfully on anyone who ships this, that's just a goof and his cat" has missed the entire point of these characters' relationship. Soundwave would never treat or handle Ravage like she was a pet cat.

Anyone else who says RavWave shippers are nasty because "it's NoRMaL to handle your cat that way" is fundamentally not getting who Ravage is and how she feels about being touched.

Ravage is a sapient adult mech with a full range of sapient adult feelings, and touching her like she's an animal is a microaggression or a macroaggression, depending upon where and how you touch her. The oppression of beastformers is a big fucking thing in IDW 2005. Other beastformers also complain about constantly having to deal with unwanted and disrespectful touching. (Fortress Maximus is a known offender.)

IDW Ravage is sleeping in Megatron's bed throughout MTMTE (when she's under it, she's guarding him). She only allows him to touch her neck in front of others...because behaving like a pet cat increases the chances that people will treat her like one.

(She almost cut Nautica several times. That's another character I ship her with, because what would be funnier than her realising that this actually is a whole ass person and if she can't stop touching her, she might actually be attracted to her?)

(Note: Canonically, Ravage in IDW uses he/him, and I do know that. However, about half the fandom writes Ravage as female. I'm in that half.)

BTW, I feel exactly the same way about the Earthspark deleted scenes. Every RavWave shipper on the planet does. We've talked about it. We realise that the artists and showrunners probably intended it to be innocent on the grounds that she is a cat. But we are also people who like to write her as an adult Decepticon officer with agency and self-respect who wouldn't behave like that in front of other people unless they knew he has privileges they don't.

I am aware that half the fandom draws Ravage art that's basically cat memes. (I hate that so much. But as a proshipper, I recognise people have the right to depict characters any way they want. That doesn't mean I haven't had to vent to people like @bitegore and @miner16 to keep myself from saying something.)

Also, I strongly suggest that people who get this worked up about misinterpretations of their art or writing do not become professional creators. As a member of fandom since the 1970s, I'm kind of super extremely aware that most of what fandom does is counter to what the creator intended, and frequently that's the point.

I'm also kind of super extremely aware that if you don't have loads of people reinterpreting and remixing your work and your characters, that actually means nobody cares about your work enough to have blorbo feels about your characters.

(The side poll, which came from another blog and mentioned no names, was an irritated attempt to find out whether people really do think it's normal to cuddle your mom that way, because the second message insinuated that my mother and I must have a terrible relationship because we don't touch each other like that. I kinda wanted to know what people who were not predisposed to take my side and did not know what was going on would think of that idea, because I really do not think most people touch their mothers like that; their mothers aren't nonsapient animals and would thus consider it weird and inappropriate.)

[transpecter]

Please Read!

-im G, i'm queer (heavily prefer mascs/men, but ladies and lady-adjacents are welcome to try and flirt) and trans, pronouns are he/him, i'm a vers switch x

my cashapp is $GTranspecter in case anyone wants to donate, completely optional though. if you have any audio or writing requests that's where you'd put em x

🚫DNI: detrans/misgendering, ddlg/ageplay, raceplay, incest, ED/thinspo, terfs/swerfs, CISHET MEN AND WLW ONLY/MEN DNI BLOGS! If you follow me and all you post is straight porn and have no description or anything, i may block without warning.

RELATIVE AGE IN BIO OR GET BLOCKED

✨YES PLEASE:

-pleaaase send dirty asks, submissions, dms, anon or not, please don't be shy! i fucking love hearing how much i turn you on xxx

-please send me your fantasies, about me or in general.

✨KINKS (big ones are bolded):

-cum/breeding (receiving, no preg!) -consensual somnophilia (receiving/giving) -bondage (receiving) -CNC (receiving/rarely giving) (i will not post about it as it may be triggering to people but you can send me asks (that i will not post publicly but will find hot) or dms involving cnc content.) -light intox play (weed only, no forced intox) -overstim (giving/receiving) -monsterfucking (receiving) -praise (giving/receiving) -orgasm denial (giving) -light petplay (puppy) -spanking (giving/receiving) (If you want to send me something not on this list shoot me an ask or dm first asking!)

✨TERMS:

For me, please use: boy, good boy (!!!), pretty boy, puppy/puppyboy sweetheart, love, baby/babe, whore, fag/faggot, slut, sir (for you or me), pretty, handsome, cute, sexy

For my body: (boy)cunt, hole, (t)dick/(t)cock, (boy)tits, chest, (boy)pussy

🚫DON'T:

-call me a woman despite knowing I am a trans man. i get that my posts dont always communicate my identity but i can tell when youre being disrespectful.

-send me fetishes im not into without asking.

🚫TURN OFFS:

-misgendering/detrans -scat/piss -extreme painplay -feet -gore/trauma -pregnancy -i won't block you, but bad grammar while sexting. i don't know why, but it annoys me. this is like a legitimate turn off, not a hard limit. if we're just chatting then you can do whatever. -do not ever send me fauxcest content. i have personal experience with it and it's incredibly triggering. if you do it i'll block you immediately.

🚫TERMS: For me: daddy (ill use it for you if you ask, dont call me that), any other feminine terms

For my body: extra hole, clit, vagina, penis (does anyone actually use these last 2 during sex?) (I may use clit for myself rarely. do not use it for me.)

Thank you, and please enjoy! xxx

[ramonathinks]

Last postttt honestly and seriously but i feel like this needs to be said because this is just pure mean girl behavior! Only posting this because of the unnecessary comment that she posted and the shady posts from her mutual as well. As stated in this post, i never accused her of stealing anything… read the post: “i don’t want to be accused of copying… i should’ve wrote it in 2022�� now explain how that sound like any implications. even in the screenshot that i showed on my account, it was in a draft and not posted. the day before i posted this i literally asked a mutual about writing something if someone else was doing it and while they said yeah, EYE just didn’t want anyone to accuse me of copying, since i have to keep repeating that fact, which was why i made the post just expressing how i felt.

But regardless of the situation I mainly felt like I need to clear my name because while i never said anything bad about dej this is what im being met with…

Not to mention the goon squad of several people who aren’t in the conversation yet inserting themselves and wondering why im not replying or getting annoyed by the dms they’re sending me or just overall annoyed by the conversation. everyone wants me to hear her out and everyone wanna take her side rather than when i said that wasn’t the case? and trying to force an apology out of me or whatever in an attempt to make me ‘admit’ where i was wrong when the post wasn’t worded in any way that gave malicious intentions.

Then I messaged her like everyone begging me to do because now instead of talking about the situation she’s talking about me and now im blocked (even though i admit i was rude but i don’t like it when people try to come for my character), messaged her mutual as well and got no response even though since i sent the message it has shown she was active lol. But either way if it was a problem just as she said i could’ve dm’ed her about it (which i never felt the need to because it wasn’t shady or messy, or anything against her so it wasn’t no reason for that.), but the same applies to me if not more so because i didn’t have no intentions on her getting hate but it seems as that’s what she wanted to do to me lmao like if she told me in private about how she felt about the post or the hate she was getting then that would’ve been one thing because i never said i was feeling some type of way about the concept just that i wanted to do it a while ago and didn’t want to be accused of copying HER never once was what i said “shady” “messy” or “tacky” but her responses are ! if anyone is victimizing themselves in this conversation it’s her because if you are feeling some type of way about someone it’s your choice to confront that person but making a public statement when all i said was i didn’t want to be accused of copying you is messy in what sense?? like how do you read that as shady at all?? & how am i victimizing myself for defending myself against you and several people? and even when i said that wasn’t my intention, it was crickets! no deletion of the post, no anything because it’s not like im asking for an apology. i said it wasn’t my intention and that was it after that the conversation should’ve been over yet you and your mutual are posting shady stuff or bashing me like girl??

Plus I don’t have anyone publicly defending me besides the two mutuals who reblogged my post and im basically getting jumped like hello! I had to turn my mailbox completely off, when at first it was turned off just for anons. I had to turn my DMs off so that only people i follow can message me because your weirdo supporters are harassing me. If you’re against someone being harassed why would you in turn allow this to happen to me like make it make sense!

[jellybeanium124]

Hi, Australian Jew here.

Sending this anonymously because I'm not openly Jewish on Tumblr, however I am considering doing so in the short-term.

I'm sorry to bother you but I wanted to ask you a few questions, if you're open to it (feel free to ignore this if so). Just so you know, I'm asking the same questions of the Jewish bloggers I follow who post regularly - both those who blog about the current Israel/Palestine situation, and those who identify as Jewish but post mainly fandom/other content.

Do you or have you receive/d abuse for being Jewish, or for your stance on the war? If so, how often? How do you respond to any hateful messages? Do you post them publicly or answer them privately? How much would you say your mental health is/has been affected by any messages, or by the content you see on your feed? Have you developed any strategies for handling social media during this time?

Thank you for reading. :-)

I've received maybe half a dozen antisemitic hate anons since 10/7. I wanna say maybe 2 or 3 between june 7, 2020 (when I created this blog) and oct 7, 2023. I think I've posted the hate anons publicly once or twice, but after that I just screenshotted, blocked them, and sent them to one of my jewish friends for mocking. honestly they didn't bother me that much. a lot of them were low effort. nobody even threatened to kill me. the terfs put more effort into harassing me and I'm not even trans. frankly the antisemites need to step up their game.

while the messages haven't hurt me... yeah... the war in general has affected me. I've lost a lot of faith in the strength of my relationships with goyim. several of them have left me. every time I post about the war I'm certain I'm going to lose another friend, and that hurts. it's been a little nerve-wracking discussing it with my irl goyische friends, but to my massive relief all of them are normal about the situation. however, about a month ago, me and a friend of 15 years got into a small tiff about it, and when they went radio silent all day, visions of them hating me filled my head and I had to send a super annoying socially anxious text to make sure they don't hate me now. thank gd they do not. I love them deeply and want them to be in my life for as long as we live. we still have to come up with a gender-neutral alternative to aunt/uncle for my kids to call them someday. if they decided to cut me off that would've been the last straw for a mental breakdown, actually.

sometimes it gets really tough to see this stuff on my dash. I've gotten better at just filtering out all the blocked posts that pass me by. to be perfectly, 100% honest with you, if tumblr didn't allow me to block content so thoroughly and I had to see every single post about the war put onto my dash... I would've left tumblr months ago. or just unfollowed 95% of the people I follow. I could not handle that. I'm sorry. this war did upset me enough to the point where I decided to take a two-day break from tumblr (I... have a problem... you all know how much time I spend here...). I've lost a close friend on tumblr of several years that made me cry. as for other social media? I only look at two people's instagram stories these days. one of my friends, who posts her outfits daily and basically nothing else, and con o'neill. I don't trust anyone else not to put stuff that will upset me in front of my eyes. I've unfollowed a couple of people on instagram because I can't block stuff as thoroughly there. I'm also just... not on ig that much.

the past several months have also made me deeply disillusioned with the state of the left. why should I care about unrelated leftist movements when I know all of my comrades there would turn on me in a millisecond if they knew that I thought israel should keep existing even though it's done horrible things? it's turned me off of activism... seeing these "pro-palestine" protests quickly turn into "harass jews" protests and the way these college students discuss these issues, fetishizing palestinian pain and not knowing a single thing about it, is just... it makes it all feel so fake and hollow. these privileged college kids are comparing themselves to gazans and I'm supposed to believe they actually care about gazans and don't just want to feel like righteous heroes? these people verbally and physically harass jews and I'm supposed to believe they're the good guys? I don't like feeling this way. I wish I didn't feel this way. but right now the only political action I give a shit about is voting. I'm gonna vote. I'm always gonna vote. but why on earth would I get involved with people who say "punch nazis" until nazis are on their side and increase their numbers then suddenly it's all "uwu nazis are hard to get rid of 🥺?"

I understand why you're hiding your jewishness. I've started hiding it too. I stopped wearing my magen david on october 13th. I recently had my first paid film gig (yay for that at least), and whenever I was telling a story that involved my jewishness in some way, I bent the truth to go around that tidbit and told no one. someone asked if I was irish. I answered I was eastern european. a year ago I would've said I was jewish without a second thought.

I'm tired. I want the war to end. I want there to be a peace deal. I want innocent civilians to stop dying and be safe.

I don't think I'm brave, or anything. I'm a safe lil american thousands of miles away. I don't know what palestinians and israelis are living through right now. my pain is a single molecule of sand compared to the pain people actually affected by this war have gone through. all I want is for people to listen to us. I don't speak up to be brave, I speak up because knowing a jew is the only inoculation against the hatred spreading through the pro-palestine movement. because if you know me, then jews aren't foreign. noa's a jew. noa's my friend. noa likes billy joel. noa writes silly incorrect quote posts. noa's a person. she's not some scary unknown. she's my friend.

I wish people still wanted to be my friend.

[lindszeppelin]

right, im just gonna say this and leave it at that. i don't post things like this on my blog. but due to the discourse from last night and recent developments i feel like i can't hold my tongue back anymore.

first of all, i highly respect and appreciate every one of those anons that came through to me and voiced their opinion about mollie last night. im so sorry that you guys all clearly feel like you have to walk around on eggshells for her in fear of being attacked by her or her friends that actively harass and bully others online for differing beliefs

just a reminder that this ALL STEMMED FROM the fact that she was UNWILLING to simply put her gossip posts in a different tag. that was it. i had no other issue with mollie besides that. how absolutely crazy is it that it's come to this. are we not adults or what? i don't understand this. it truly is not complicated at all to create a new tag for your gossip so people who are annoyed or triggered don't have to look at it.

when everybody comes through with similar stories of what your true personality is then it ceases to become a minor issue.

it's come to my attention that clearly mollie enjoys the attention because this is how she responds to it.

this goes out to mollie and her friends that clearly keep an eye on the things that are being spoken about. it's not just me that has taken issue with your gossip. there are so many people that don't appreciate it, and instead of being a grown adult and hearing them out you instead take it in stride and give off an air of "whatever, its not my problem, deal with it" attitude. myself and others publicly tried to be civil and speak with you about these issues weeks ago and you blatantly ignore us. i ask you, what more are we to really do about it? i unfortunately had to block you and move on, but telling others to simply block you is not the solution to the problem.

you also seem to think that gossip isn't harmless. i would like to 1000% beg to differ on that. lets think about how many innocent people are harmed mentally by the affects of spreading gossip and online bullying. it's an epidemic. as a victim of bullying in my past, i am mortified to see that a 22 year old can be this spiteful. i stand up for those that get harassed, and im speaking on the behalf of everyone that has taken issue with you as well.

and importantly i also stand up for Austin on his behalf. he's a wonderful, lovely person and he doesn't deserve these kind of fans in his fanbase that perpetuate the gossip around his life when he wants to keep private.

i just can hope that one day she sees the error of her ways and really looks in the mirror to grow up.

anyone that wants to talk to me more about this if they want can do so in a reply to this post or in my asks.

[kyra45]

Disclaimer: This post is not related to scam information or scam posts. This will be my only post and last post regarding the situation that occurred here and the other thing that’s been going on. I will not be naming anyone directly, and will simply explain two important things. I will even put it under a read more so you can completely ignore it if needed. That is all. If you do read it, thank you for understanding.

1. I have an annoying stalker who won’t leave my blog alone and has admitted to using a VPN to get around my blocks. They do not care if their presence makes me uncomfortable and rejects boundaries set regarding romantic intentions. They will delete their blogs if found and refuse to publicly show themselves because they know their behavior is not acceptable. When I sparsely banter with them, the anonymous tag can be filtered to not see any anonymous asks I receive even if their normal anons.

2. It is not my fault my stalker acts like they do. It is not fair to entirely put blame on me for how someone acts if I make it clear I do not like them and have no real way to deal with them besides turning off anonymous asks. Blaming me for their behavior is entirely wrong as they are aware of their actions and are determined to stay here no matter how long they are ignored. I do not have to rethink my life just because someone’s being a creep.

[twstedpometea]

Rules-Memo for this blog!

Considering the situation that happened with Crowstales, I’m going to be setting some ground rules. Including about messaging me. I will ask people to please read this post if you plan to interact with this blog! Blog Rules: 1. Please remember my posts (and their topics) are for just educating the fandom and not meant to be used as an excuse to harass someone!  

Yes, Ugi has traced stuff and done other stuff, but it is better to just protect ourselves from her. I can only suggest is that people don’t support her or Block her. By doing so we disable her range in the fandom space. We also need to alert people she’s traced from so they can handle stuff (as a lot of social media limits who can report about tracing.)

I do not want people Doxxing anyone within the Twst-Fandom! I do not support Doxxing. That is against the law!

You can also educate people if you want about the situation but please do not harass, message bomb or spread misinformation! There is a way to educate and make others aware of the tracing issue without annoying others.

You should also respect that people don’t want to deal with drama and that's fine. Everyone has their boundaries. This is why I also made tags so if people want they can blacklist stuff out. Block and move on if need be!

2. No Anon messages! Anon is disabled for this blog!

Again; I will not be supporting any Doxxing and as such if you want to share something your going to have to message or ask me normally.

Despite Anon being off though; I can promise if people do find any traced images and their sources I will keep all messages/asks private between myself and whoever sends the message if your so concerned about privacy.  

If people want me to answer their asks publicly, then please also let me know when you send a message to me.

3.This blog is only going to focus on tracing/plagiarism issues.

As an artist myself, this is where my main focus will be about all this.

All I would like to do is help source things to the original fan-artists/creators because they deserve credit for their artwork and because I don’t support blatant tracing/plagiarism.

Yes, there is a difference in tracing/copying/referencing. I will go over this in a later post to help educate people.

4.  4. Do not copy pasting and altering any of my posts

I do not appreciate anyone taking my posts and copy pasting them and altering anything from them to be used for whatever reason.

5. I will respond when I can!

I have a life outside this Twsty-dramaland. So just be patient. I might not reply quickly given apparently how many messages/people are currently pinging me so please bare with me.

6. Please be civil when interacting with this blog!

I am just a human myself and I have my boundaries as well. Keep that in mind! Thank you!

(Rules will be added if I see fit to edit stuff) -TwstedPomeTea

[jimines]

Whats actually happened between you and taemaknae? I read about it on the tea blog and still confused

This is an insanely long story so I'm going to put it below the cut so for anyone interested in this absolute shit show, continue on.

Essentially, I posted these headers about a month ago:

It was a set of like 8 colours and it was the first time I had ever posted any headers or anything. The issue nic had with these, was the ripped paper bottom. Because apparently you can trademark that. I had asked a (now ex) “friend” of mine if she knew where I could find the ripped paper effect because I had seen the effect on the header of her network blog and I had been trying to find a similar thing for months and google images never gave me anything good. She ended up referring me to google images anyways and after like an hour of dedicated searching, I found this ripped paper effect and used it. This ex “friend” went on to tell another friend of mine that I had "asked where nicole gets her resources for her headers" and then screenshotted my dm as "proof", which still confuses me because I never mentioned nicole there lmao. I've seen the screenshot.

Tell me where I said nicole. It was literally just a question born from seeing the header they had on their network lmao. I feel it’s important to mention I didn’t know this person ran said network at that time, which is why i said “these people”.

This other friend then came to me and just said my headers "may be seen as similar to nic's” and said she noticed it on her own and never mentioned my other “friend” approaching her. I was confused because other than that ripped paper effect that I know many people on tumblr use, I saw no similarities. Nic's headers are usually more complex and more than just a coloured background with a little effect in it. I just wanted to make some simple headers for fun because I was bored. But, regardless, I messaged nic about it to make sure she didn't feel the same way. I told her a friend of mine was worried nic might think my headers are similar to her's and I assured her that if she found them similar I would take them down, no questions asked. Nic told me she was surprised this friend brought it up and told me that it was entirely up to me if I found the headers similar. She never once told me she felt they were the same, never mentioned anything about them, she insisted it was up to me to do as I pleased. So, since I genuinely found no similarities, I left them up.

About a week went by and things between nic and I were fine, or so I thought, based off the fact that she was interacting with my posts, sending me cute asks and replying to a lot of my comments and stuff being kind and whatnot. Then, I decided to post a small list of my creations and the series I had running at the time. 

After that, all of a sudden I got an influx of rude hate anons:

To anyone I mentioned the anons to, they agreed with me, you cannot trademark circular icons. This anon also accused me saying “just the fact that you had an anxiety attack about it proves you copied them” Like no sweetie, it’s called three strangers walked into my house and I got anxious.

Despite me not seeing the issue, I messaged nic, assuming she wouldn't care about the icons (it wasn't like I was taking her exact work and copying and pasting them as my own) and that made her very upset. When she responded to me, she was incredibly heated and gave off the vibe she was waiting for me to message her about it. 

She said things like "this has actually been bothering me for a while", "i expected you to be able to read between the lines and delete the headers", "i don't know who that anon was but clearly they recognize my style". For starters, she never told me that she was annoyed with me, she was being very kind to me publicly. And I have no idea how I was meant to “read between the lines” of what she said especially considering how kind she was to me the following days. I also never accused her of knowing this anon, she just insisted it wasn't her and she didn't know them right off the bat. She also insinuated that I copied my gifs from others as well, which ticked me off because I made my 100+ layer psd myself thank you very much. But I kept my cool, and I told her I had no idea she felt the way she did, and I told her I would delete the headers (which i did as the conversation was going on), and that I would stop posting my icons and bringing attention to them because no one ever paid it any mind before that point. And I asked her “please tell me straight up the next time you have an issue with me because I am generally pretty dumb with social cues”, I have my adhd to thank for that. And instead of replying, she just blocked me. And conveniently, the hate anons stopped dead right after we blocked each other and I haven't received any since.

Also, these are the kinds of icons I posted:

Looks pretty generic and idk, universal, right?

Then, as I've recently found out today, she was in an "anti-loverjimin" groupchat with at least 2 other bloggers. 

Which explains why this all went and fell into place. I know who the two other bloggers are because of what happened two days later but I won't name them just yet, but these two people had been "friends" with me for several months. So, a day or two after nic blocked me, all of a sudden some good friends of mine were blocking me and not talking to me when I asked what was going on. I found out soon after it was because nicole and those two now ex “friends” of mine had taken old dms I sent them and were showing them to people. And I will go into detail about them but I won't name the people they are about for privacy reasons.

Before I move on, to clarify some lies nic has been spreading about me, I never once shit talked nicole to my friends. One of these ex friends also said I was trying to get people on my side. I would have reacted to this all very very differently if that were the case. I would be dragging everyone through the fucking dirt but I don't get off on drama or micromanaging what my mutuals do. My issues are with these people, if you're still friends with them that's your decision i could not care less. So, back to it, the only thing I said about nic was that she and I had a stupid small fight over icons and that she was spreading lies about me, based off of what nic said to jordan.

That exact message, or slight variations of it, was sent to anyone I interacted with because I didn't know if nic was going to stop at jordan or try and get to everyone I fucking knew lmao. Some of the people I messaged this to told ME nic had done this kind of thing before, that she has sent hate anons, launched hate campaigns, cancelled people, etc. Over stupid shit like icons lmao.

Here are some responses I received after I mentioned nicole:

And nic or one of her friends also took it upon themselves to send anons to that tea blog to blow shit up and named everyone and made it an even bigger mess when they saw no one was actively trying to fight me after the dms got out. 

I also love that in this following ask, they named my two “friends” that were behind the whole dm drama and backstabbed me, as well as two other people I never badmouthed, that story was twisted. But we’ll get into those details shortly.

And she also told people I clout chased big blogs and only cared about notes. At one point, yes, I did care a lot about my statistics. However, never once did I think clout chasing was worth my fucking time or energy, Nic is the biggest clout chaser on this damn site and there are receipts of that, ask jordan lmao. And I couldn’t give two shits about my statistics anymore lmao, much less anxiety that way. Do I still crave validation sometimes? Sure. But it's not a driving force of my tumblr experience like it used to be.

But, moving on to the dms, the first one was sent when I first came back to tumblr full-time and didn't understand why people self reblogged things, I found the pretence of self reblogging annoying and greedy and I complained about it and it was a comment fuelled by two bloggers that i would see sr a lot on my dash. But I never thought THEY were annoying, as these people are saying I did, it was self reblogging I found annoying and as you can see I have come to understand why people sr and I do it myself too. I didn't even know these two bloggers at this time either. That dm was cropped to hide the fact that this "friend" agreed with me and hid the date as well so it seemed recent, and was sent to one of the bloggers I mentioned as an example, someone I had since become good friends with. 

I didn’t befriend one of the people I mentioned there until mid to late June. That friendship is now over thanks to this drama and all the lies. The second friend of mine they went after was never spoken about in dms, they went and turned her against me through lies and manipulation so that friendship has ended too. And while those two were doing that, nic went off to try and turn jordan against me.

There was a particular user on here that I did say some nasty things about but we weren't friends, as many people have been made to believe. I was particularly mad at this person in those dms and was hurtful, I admit, and I have since apologized and owned up to all of it to these people. I did call them fake and/or two-faced. 

And what in the gassing me up bullshit was their response though lmao. I also sent this following dm before I even talked about the issue with this person. They urged me to continue and to name drop the person, and I stupidly thought they were trustworthy.

My reasoning for what I said wasn't unwarranted though, I don't make a habit of going around shit-talking people, unless they do something to me first. I vent when I am upset and this person had sent me a passive aggressive ask and then denied sending it when I asked and I thought that was just very fake, especially since she was so kind to me in dms before the ask came in. But all of these dms were cropped too to hide timestamps and responses, and in most cases, like those screenshots prove, these "friends" either gassed me up or egged me on to continue ranting or to name the people i was mad at and they had agreed with me on several, several occasions. Turns out they were trying to get dirt on me to use in their cancel campaign. But the point is, nic has made me out to be this horrible person that befriends "big blogs" (an overrated statement) and then shit talks them behind their back without remorse. Yet it was one person I said rude things about and I, again, owned up to it all and apologized to them the first day. I would've done it sooner had I a) remembered feeling the way I did all those months ago or remembered the dms themselves or b) felt that way still after meeting them. But neither is the case.

I find it really amusing though that these people wanted things to be kept quiet and didn’t want anyone they spoke to to talk to me about it because I was going to “out them on my blog” and “make a big scene”, then they three went and made it a big fucking scene and ruined my friendships. I’m familiar with this pattern of manipulation as it has happened to me in real life before and it’s the most childish bullshit to witness.

Before this callout day for nic, I had never once been directly rude to or about her, same goes for those ex “friends” that betrayed my trust and friendship. The fact that they plotted against me in a group chat while still actively talking to me and being all buddy buddy is just disgusting. Both of them were talking to me that day at the same time they were sharing the dms and shit-talking me to my friends. But yeah, that's my side, the untwisted side, of the whole story. I tried to be mature and talk to nic and when I didn't do what she wanted me to do, she blocked me and launched the hate campaign with dms and the power of photoshop. I’ve been hesitant to make any of this public because it was meant to be a silent ordeal but I’ve grown tired of her constantly publicizing everything without consequence while I remain silent like I promised.

[fixyourwritinghabits]

On Internet Harassment

Requested Anon Question:

Hi so I know the private&anon request is annoying but this is important. I read the replies of some of the teens who did it they believe it is a joke, that death threats and planning to break in are positive things. This is terrifying. I honestly don’t think I want to publish anything anymore.

(DISCLAIMER: This is not a critique or commentary on what Tess Sharpe should or should not have done. The only context of the situation I have are of her recent tweets, and I am in no way judging how she choose to handle her situation. This is a generalized list of advice.)

Hi Anon, I understand. I do, but the truth is, we’ve no way of knowing what the future holds. Just existing on the internet is a risk we’ve all accepted without thinking hard about why it’s so risky. You cannot cut yourself off from the world, and you cannot let things out of control keep you from writing. Don’t let people who don’t even exist yet scare you away from something you love.

However, there are steps you can take if you’re being harassed on the internet, such as:

Block people. Do it early, and often, and for whatever reason you choose. Someone is irritating to you? Block them. Someone asks too many personal questions? Block them. Feel uncomfortable that a minor is following you if you post adult-themed content? Block them. You do not owe anyone an explanation for why you’ve blocked them. You don’t need to tolerate anyone who makes you feel uncomfortable online out of politeness.

Report harassment and document abuse. Yes, this is often ineffective on Twitter, but it is an action you can take in addition to blocking people. In addition, you want to document what’s happening - and if you’re having trouble facing it, ask friends to help. If you need to take legal action, documentation will help immensely.

Please talk to your agent, your publisher, and your writing buddies. You may not have the right tools to deal with this, but your agent and publisher are supposed to be on your side. They can help advice and take steps to deal with this sort of situation. You also need people who can advocate you. It’s essential to have allies.

Speak publicly. With caveats of being careful about it -  you don’t want speaking out about harassment spur on harassment of others - talking about what’s happening to you early is far better than letting it go on.

Limit your social media. You don’t need a twitter account to be a good writer. You don’t need a public Instagram. Lock your accounts as often and as long as you deem necessary.

Remember, what happened to Tess Sharpe is not common and it should not hold you back from becoming a writer. These assholes don’t deserve taking that from you.

More Resources:

You’re Not Powerless in the Face of Internet Harassment

Expert Advice on How to Deal With Internet Harassment

Online Harassment Field Manual

[crushpdf]

Tumblr Etiquette Masterpost

Hi! Because I have (1) anxiety (2) been on tumblr for more than a decade, I have assumed the incredibly narcissistic position of making a post about how to interact with people on tumblr, since I think I’ve mastered the basic rules.

UPDATE: I started drafting this post a while ago. I'm not calling anyone out. I mostly made this because I realized I had a shocking number of followers who are new to tumblr.

In this post I’m covering Asks + Anons, Reblogging + Liking, Following, Tags, and ~Making Friends~.

TL;DR: tumblr etiquette is about social norms. These are the norms I have observed in my time here. You’re free to blog as you choose, but tumblr is a happier place when everybody is following the same guidelines.

Yes I use the words like “have to” or “rule” in this post. No, none of these are actual rules. Do what you want, but be prepared to face disgruntled users.

Let’s get started!

All About Following 

Rule #1: You do not have to follow anybody you don’t want to. You do not need to let someone follow you if you don’t want to.

Tumblr is technically a social media site. If you want to grow your social circle, follow your mutuals’ mutuals. The internet is like real life. You do a Group Hang, and then eventually you get to the one-on-one friendship. (Please refer back to Rule #1)

Some of your mutual-in-laws might feel slighted if you follow everyone except them. That’s okay. (Please refer back to Rule #1) You might feel slighted if you’re the one not being followed. That’s okay. (Please refer back to Rule #1)

Tumblr is technically a social media site, but it’s also a place to see the content you like, not just the people you like. You can be friendly with people you don’t follow, or who don’t follow you. Some users are amazing people who just post the wrong content. That’s okay.

If someone posts content you don’t like, unfollow them. If you don’t like someone’s personality, unfollow them. Don’t be an asshole, don’t hate-follow, and don’t stress yourself out.

Asks, Anons, Messages

I tried to organize my thoughts into paragraphs. I really did. But talking to people on tumblr is messy if you do it wrong, and I’m just going to bullet-point some etiquette guidelines.

Rule #1: You do not have to answer any messages you don’t want to.

Your 500 word message should not be the first time a user sees your name

.....Before you get Venting Privileges, a user should recognize you from the tags you leave on their posts, or the comments you leave on their fic, or the other shorter messages you’ve sent them, or from being mutual-in-laws, literally whatever. But it’s Not Cool to dump things on people who don’t even know you.

The anon button should be used in two scenarios only:

.....1, to send a positive message. Not neutral! Positive message, the kind of message you send with heart emojis.

.....2, if you don’t want to admit personal information about yourself. The Venting Privileges Rule still applies even if you’re on anon (ie: you can’t vent! Because they don’t recognize your username!) and “personal information” does not include unpopular opinions. I’m talking messages like “Saw your post about living in Houston, and I agree!”

.....(Okay, three scenarios: if someone specifically asks for anons for an ask game or something!)

If you don’t want it posted publicly, don’t send it over an ask. Send it as a DM. You can always kindly request that the recipient doesn’t publish it, but typical tumblr etiquette is that asks get published by default.

Personally, if I follow someone back I like to introduce myself! Many of these conversations end after the “hi” stage, and I never force friendship upon someone. But many of these conversations also work as ice breakers, and make it easier to send the second message, and the third. Don’t worry that you’re being rude if you don’t do this—it’s also totally normal to just keep blogging as usual!—but it’s helpful in making friends.

If you reblog an ask game from someone, it’s just common courtesy to send them an ask of your own.

Tags, Blacklists

Rule #1: You do not need to use any tags you don’t want to.

(Are you sensing a theme? But this one gets a...)

But, be prepared to face disgruntled followers over this.

Tags are useful in so many ways. They’re a great place to organize posts so you can find them more easily later on! They’re a great place to show off your personality! They’re a great (and quiet! More on this later) place to show appreciation for content creators.

They’re also so incredibly helpful for your followers to avoid content they don’t want to see. If you’re delving into a new fandom and are about to reblog twenty posts in a row, tag it. If you’re liveblogging a movie, tag it. If your post (especially your photo posts) contains any common phobias or unpleasant things (gore, spiders, etc) tag it. And if one of your followers asks you to tag certain content, even if you don’t really understand why? Tag it, or else expect to lose that follower.*

*This isn’t about your follower count, btw. This is about being a decent person.

On the other hand, use blacklists and filtering liberally! If a user does tag their content, you have no right to complain about their posting it. Just filter it.

Reblogs, Likes, Comments

Tumblr is a blogging site. It functions on reblogged posts. That’s just how it works. This is not one of those sites where you scroll for hours clicking the like button.

Here are what likes are for:

Showing support for someone’s personal posts

Showing appreciation for someone’s tags

Admiring content that doesn’t exactly align with your blog (different fandom, inappropriate, whatever.)

Saving a post to find later

Showing double the love!

Here is where likes are most disappointing:

The original fic, artwork, or edits of your fellow tumblr users, especially in your fandom

(If you’re someone who regularly reblogs things, I’m not talking to you. You’re allowed to simply “like” posts. I’m talking to those users in my notifications that, day after day, like 35 of my posts and reblog exactly 1 of them.

Just reblog shit.)

Also, remember how I said you can quietly show appreciation in the tags? Only comment directly on a post if you are sure you’re adding something worthy to the post. If you’re just saying “haha me too!” or “I remember this!” just leave it in the tags. (Reminder! You can do what you want! It’s your blog and I’m not the police! I’m just teaching you etiquette! And the polite thing to do is to leave personal commentary in the tags!)

Let’s recap:

Aaaaand: Making Friends

Start small. Introduce yourself after you have mutually followed each other.

Leave nice things in people’s tags. They notice.

Send ask game messages.

Show off more of your personality. This isn’t a one way street!

.....You can do this by, well, reblogging things. Also by tagging things. Also by just making original posts.

Do not go zero to one hundred. You wouldn’t sit next to someone in class and start talking about your trauma (even if you heard that they share your own!). So don’t do it online.

Like people’s vent posts, and their asks, and their tag games. Reply to them, too.

Honestly? Do more tag games! If someone says “anyone can do this and say I tagged you” take them up on the offer! Tag other people you want to get to know more.

Last but not least, you do not owe anyone anything on tumblr, and no one owes you anything. Ignore the rude message. Block the annoying tag. Follow the users you like even if they don’t follow you back. Do not tell people to post more of X. Do not tell them to post less of Y. Do not ask them why they don’t follow you.

It’s so much easier to press the unfollow button than to be a dick.

[onegoldenglance]

RANT*RANT*RANT

WOW, you go to bed early and miss out on all the drama …

I’ve kept quiet for a long time but now I’m just so fed up with this sh*t!

Please, if any of you crazy Freddie “fans” follow me just leave now!!! Unfollow me, block me - just don’t come near me or my blog (though why would you since this is a Roger blog and he’s such a booooring person)!

Leave @quirkysubject and @a-froger-epic (and everyone else whose stories you don’t like) alone for gods sake!!!!!! I really don’t understand what your obsession with these two is (do you go to comment on fem!Queen stories and complain that Freddie is a girl?)? They don’t owe you or anyone else anything!

Everyone is free to write what they want and everyone is free to read what they want. What is your problem? Do you need me to show you the back button? Explain how tags work? Oh, I know – I think I need to explain the concept of fanFICTION to you because that’s what it is: F I C T I O N

Do you remember this quote: “You can do whatever you like with my image, my music, remix it, re-release it, whatever. Just never make me boring.”

You are not Freddie’s protectors. All you do is moan and groan and annoy people and I’m sick of it!

As for Roger being uninteresting. I’m not sure we are talking about the same person. Have you ever heard him talk or read an interview he did? No, don’t think so … do you think every Roger fan is so shallow to just like him for his looks?

And he’s not soft? Dear god, this man has a heart of gold and you dare criticize people for writing him like an actual human being with feelings and emotions? Have you watched his interview with Brian one week after Freddie’s death? No, I take that back – have you watched him talk about Freddie at all after 1991 … how dare you say he’s a guy’s guy! Being soft doesn’t mean being girly!!!

Yes, Freddie was the most recognizable out of the four BUT he would be the first to say he was only 25% of Queen. I don’t care who your favourite is but not one of the four Queen members is uninteresting.

Oh, and only last thing that made me lol: isn’t a ship story supposed to be about two people??? Why would you even read a ship story if you’re only interested in 50% of the ship?

Ok, rant over for now!

Don’t even bother coming to my ask box … anon is not turned off but I will just delete your messages. Not because I’m a coward (as you can see I posted this rant very publicly on my own blog) but because I want to get back to my regular Roger blogging.

xox

[bummie]

18+ | people under the age of 18, do not interact!

not only will there be not suitable for work content on my page, but i am also an adult, and i do not feel comfortable interacting with anyone but adults on my page, or in general. ageless accounts will be blocked if caught interacting. i will automatically assume you are a minor.

i am not responsible for people lying about their age, so if you tell me your age and we interact publicly and/or privately, i will take your word for it. however, i may ask for ID if you are suspicious.

if you interact with me anonymously, please be sure to include your age.

again, if you are under the age of 18, do NOT interact with me, or my account. there are plenty of minor-friendly accounts to interact with. i am not one of them. thank you.

bullying / harassment is not permitted.

i’m sure by now, as an adult, you know not to send hate to people when it is not justified. if i catch you being discriminatory toward me, or anyone at all, you will be reported and blocked immediately.

discrimination, bigotry, and ignorance.

do not interact if; you are racist, homophobic, transphobic, xenophobic, ableist, a bigot of any sort, pro-life (pro-birth) for anyone but yourself, a tr*mp supporter, cannot distinguish between fiction and reality, a p*dophile, do not believe the victim first, argue just to argue, a troll, or if you’re generally just an asshole.

i will only write dominant reader.

i am not sub-friendly. if you come onto my blog with a bitchy-sub attitude, i will tear you apart.

(unless you’re an anon/role-player, of course. i just mean hate/criticism asks, or submissive reader requests.)

i will also not write any switch content. i write dominant reader only.

things that piss me off (off-limits):

claiming characters i like as your own.

when on my account, do not come on here and refer to them as yours. i will block you. i know that they are fictional characters, but when on my account, please refrain from doing so. i do not care when outside of it.

you can request stuff for them n talk about doing stuff with thrm, just don’t say annoying shit like “so-n-so is my husband”, or “my so-n-so is so perfect!”. shit like that. if you don’t like this rule, block me. don’t care to hear complaints.

no-no’s:

character x character.

this is a pretty universal rule among tumblr writers, but i will not write about your ships, especially because i’m not a big ‘shipper’ myself. this blog is strictly character x reader only.

teacher/student relations.

while i do not judge people who do, i, myself, will not be writing about this. i do not feel comfortable writing about something that almost seems like fetishizing students and teachers. it feels wrong.

specific appearances for reader.

please do not request the reader to be a specific gender, especially when it is unnecessary (such as suitable for work content). i will decide that on my own based on the request.

i will only write about g.neutral reader, or fem reader.

triggering topics.

i will not write about triggering topics such as; sexual assault, p*dophilia, s*mnophilia, inc*st, self-h*rm, s*icide, ED’s, kidnapping, etc.

waste kinks.

the only fluids i will write about are sexual fluids. nothing within the range of feces, urine, or vomit.

there may be some instances where blood will be written about, but i will include the proper warnings if so.

other kinks.

i will not write about kinks such as; large age-gaps, foot fetishes (not including stepping), d*ddy kinks, fisting, furry play, omegaverse, etc.

mis-characterization.

my headcanons are canon. point-blank-period. /hj lmao.

no, but fr. please don’t come on here and tell me that a certain person would or wouldn’t do a certain thing, because more than likely, you can’t change my mind. (unless you have proof. then challenge me if ya want.)

i will absolutely not write for fanon characters. my headcanons are based on what i perceive as probable while watching or reading about a character.

no, i am not being biased when i’m writing for a character. if i don’t think they’d do or enjoy a certain thing, i simply won’t write it. i also will not write for characters i perceive as dominant.

rushing.

i have horrible adhd, so i tend to procrastinate a lot. my brain just cannot regulate the ability to focus, and it’s incredibly frustrating. please don’t rush me for an update. i’ll probably cry /j. please be patient with me.

+ i really enjoy answering questions and requests! whether they’re about myself, characters, character relationships, etc., i love them! so, by all means, ask away!

anyway, i think that’s about it. so, enjoy your time !

updated: 5/31/22

[glassprism]

What are your favorite, or better yet LEAST favorite, All I Ask of You Reprises? (I can’t stop laughing at Gerard Butler’s)

Okay, so story time with Glass Prism!

Once upon a time, when I was still young and chipper, I started up a YouTube channel to post Phantom videos. Sometimes it was clips, sometimes it was full videos, and for the latter reason, it was a pretty short-lived channel, RUG was not going to let that slide. But I was determined and would make more channels, and got smarter about posting, eventually culminating in the channel I have now that has lasted me a good seven years or so.

Now, when I was posting on all these channels, I was getting comments. Most of them were normal comments remarking on the actors or the scene, occasionally some regular subscribers but mainly people who would watch a video, comment, and head off. Pretty normal for YouTube. But I started noticing one guy, one certain guy who was almost always the first to post, and who would almost always post the same thing:

“can u post the all i ask of u reprise”

“more plz with the all i ask of u reprise”

“can u post his all i ask of u reprise”

“where is the all i ask of u reprise”

Okay, this guy has a favorite song, that’s fine. I can tolerate it. It’s not, you know, annoying at all that his comments consist solely of one sentence asking, or sometimes demanding, me to post this one scene. I went along with it. My channel went down, and I brought it back, went down again, brought it back. And each time, each time, I would see this:

“all i ask of u reprise plz”

“could u post all i ask of u reprise”

“more of the all i ask of u reprise”

Yeah, wow, this was getting annoying. This guy was literally posting that on every video I posted. Not only that, he was posting similar comments on other Phantom videos. I couldn’t escape from him (I never will...)! In frustration, I blocked the guy from my channel and breathed a sigh of relief.

And then he found my Tumblr.

Keep in mind, the above four links are only what I publicly posted. I was not going to subject my dash and my followers to a constant litany of “can u post the all i ask of u reprise” asks, so I deleted his asks almost as soon as I got them, also hoping that my lack of response would discourage him. I shall simply say that it did not, and that I would get an ask every two weeks or a month, for years, begging me to post that scene. I suppose I could have blocked him on Tumblr; I didn’t partially because I don’t think I knew about that ability, partially because I just hate blocking anons.

Anyway, what I hope this helps you to understand is this: I hate the ‘All I Ask of You Reprise’, with every fiber of my soul, because all I associate it with is a comment going, “can u post more all i ask of u reprise plz”. This is why I cannot answer your question, because that scene, that scene, is indelibly associated with that user and even seeing its name sends a shiver through my entire being. Reading your ask almost gave me a flashback to the guy. So no. I’m so sorry, but no, I have no favorites, no least favorites.

And that is the end of story time with Glass Prism.