#‘I wish I was a boy’ obviously has trans implications even if you don’t like what comes after it lol. but like honestly. I would imagine

[poppyseed799]

I think one of the weirdest signs that I was trans was that I was fine with being called a woman but NOT a cis woman. I felt awful cuz I was like “do I have a problem with people calling me cis even tho I am???” cuz I am NOT someone who minds being called accurate descriptors such as cis. I felt like I just wanted to be special or something even tho that wasn’t it and felt so bad. Something just felt really wrong about being called a CIS woman. Definitely one of the more thought provoking signs I was trans lol

[bronanlynch]

hamlet, much ado, CORIOLANUS, henry the fifth (guess which one I had to c&p)

tbh I assumed u were just really really excited abt coriolanus which like. valid and mood

HAMLET: Do you have any specific/creative ideas on staging a production of Hamlet?

oh boy do I........ ok first of all I would def borrow some of the set/lighting stuff from the production that I saw a few months ago (the one with ruth negga as hamlet) bc there was a lot of really really cool stuff w doors and silhouettes that I thought was super effective. also extremely a fan of having hamlet played by a woman or a transmasc actor bc like. ok. I don’t think trans!hamlet was necessarily what that production was going for but that’s how it came across to me, a transmasc person like. I’ve seen hamlet played by women in a way that felt like hamlet’s a woman in that version, regardless of how much or little they change the script/pronouns. the ruth negga version was like. oh. hamlet is trans and also even if that wasn’t what they were going for it’s still the only portrayal of a transmasc character that’s ever resonated with me personally. not to get into gender stuff but I very rarely feel like I recognize myself in fictional depictions of trans people but something abt this specific hamlet just. really vibed w me y’know? something about the mannerisms and the costuming and the way his depression isn’t specifically abt his gender stuff but that sure doesn’t help (all the layers of being referred to/referring to himself as unmanly, talking abt hating femininity contrasted w how much this version of hamlet clearly cared abt ophelia+gertrude, another reason for everyone to disapprove of his relationship, etc)

anyway tl;dr my ideal production would make hamlet trans, also I’ve been kinda vaguely considering what the costuming might look like if u set it further back in history like. more like the time that the sources shakespeare was working on were from bc then I could use the stuff I learned for my dissertation abt early medieval clothing for something

also I hate how every single production I’ve ever seen has done ophelia’s ~madness so I wanna do a version where she’s playing the same game hamlet is of like. pretending to ~go mad~ so that ppl won’t see her as a threat except it doesn’t work bc there’s a moment when she’s like. giving out the flowers and too much of her anger comes through at claudius. when she leaves the stage for the last time claudius gestures for one of his guards to follow her out with the implication that he’s having her killed (later, when gertrude comes back to say that she’s dead, so does that guard and claudius nods like. yeah good job u did the thing). also laertes tries to follow ophelia when she leaves but claudius stops him, I don’t understand why you wouldn’t play it like that he can’t just let her go like that

also also if hamlet doesn’t die in horatio’s arms what’s even the point, from a narrative perspective as well as a homoeroticism perspective. also in general horatio needs to be present throughout and like. important? bc too many production neglect horatio but like. he’s the one who makes ppl care abt hamlet anyway I’m gonna stop now before I go into an entire essay

wait no that reminds me of the actual academic essay I did write abt generational conflict in hamlet and why u gotta cast the parent generation as like. obviously older than hamlet’s generation in order to get that across. also bc lots of productions cast hamlet & gertrude closer in age than hamlet & ophelia which. hmmmm. don’t love that

MUCH ADO ABOUT NOTHING: Go off about the best female character.

beatrice muchado is a strong contender but also everyone already loves her so I have less to say that hasn’t already been said, I would be tempted to say viola twelfthnight if I weren’t so firmly on team viola/cesario is trans, I love ophelia a lot but I hate the ~madness scenes, most of my favorite women in shakespeare productions I’ve seen have been women playing male roles like please I would love to talk abt the all-female julius caesar where brutus was a butch lesbian, or like. gwendoline christie as titania in midsummer except titania and oberon’s roles were swapped (which I have mixed feelings about bc the oberon/nick bottom stuff is played as a joke which like. to be fair that’s how titania/bottom is usually done and I know the joke isn’t actually just ‘haha they’re gay’ it’s abt the weird magic shit and the fact that puck and titania are messing with them but. y’know. the experience of being in an audience laughing at two dudes kissing did not make me personally feel great. however I fucking loved pretty much everything else about the production so it balances out to still being the best midsummer I’ve ever seen and also one of the best plays I’ve ever seen full stop)

also best is such a vague and subjective thing like. Idk I love a lot of them for different reasons, y’know? I do think beatrice and maybe juliet are the ones I would say are the best written, gertrude is a close third bc it really depends on how she’s played in any given production but one of my favorite parts of hamlet is in the last scene when she drinks the poison if it’s framed as her knowing exactly what’s going on and daring claudius to stop her and admit his own guilt

CORIOLANUS: Which gay pairing has the most evidence? (Conversely, which pairing do you wish had evidence?)

cesario/viola+orsino is canon send tweet. but really like. usually the cross-dressing heroine changes back into women’s clothing at the end to restore heteronormativity or whatever and I know that viola does say “hey I’m gonna go change” but never actually does and orsino still calls them cesario after that in one of his very last lines so like. I’m just sayin

 brutus and cassius’s deaths are basically the same as romeo and juliet’s, and are therefore also a pyramus and thisbe retelling, in this essay I will

HENRY V: What is the best monologue/soliloquy? in general I’m not that into king lear but edmund’s “now gods, stand up for bastards” monologue is extremely good and sexy, somewhere there’s a recording of riz ahmed doing it that’s just. chef’s kiss

as a hamlet stan my favorite hamlet soliloquy is his first one, the one that starts with “oh that this too too sullied flesh would melt,” and ends with “but break my heart for I must hold my tongue” which not to be a basic bitch but that’s one of my favorite lines in anything ever

also antony’s funeral speech for caesar gets me (almost) every goddamn time. the one singular exception to this was the shakespeare in the park production a few years ago where they were trying to do shallow modern political commentary that really didn’t work and actively undermined the themes of the play

[shinra-makonoid]

1. I know you meant it in a sarcastic way but do you think TRAs are the reason so many ftms feel more welcome in radfem spaces? Because many of them if they 'came out' as a radfem usually had the experience of being repressed homosexuals that clearly have no connection to GD by the way the tell from their perspective. (such as being obviously urged by the environment to transition, whereas most transsexuals (in my experience) try to convince themselves of the opposite/ find excuses).

2. In many bios I notice the description 'former-dysphoric female' or 'victim of the gender cult' like they realize they were obviously only exposed to the 'tucute' side and never met real transsexuals (which to be fair is kinda rare but still). I'm just wondering what makes someone switch to radical feminism when they had so opposite views. Because I did hold radfem beliefs as a teen but had no opportunity to share them. I kinda grew out of it.

3.But why? I know you don't know me but I always wondered how someone came up with these beliefs like Dworking, Simone de Beauvoir. Cause I reached the same conclusion as them despite never reading anything from them. And that's scary. You said you were a tucute. How did you came to this? And how did you get away? Do you think some people will always stay in these cult-like groups and why do some have the ability to get out and some don't? Is it biological or social that some can('t) do that?

There’s many thoughts with this so it’ll be long and potentially messy.

I know you meant it in a sarcastic way but do you think TRAs are the reason so many ftms feel more welcome in radfem spaces?

I’m not sure TRA are the reason so many FtM feel more welcomed by radfem spaces. But I’m pretty sure that mainstream feminism in itself has a hand in this. GNC females (trans or not) usually feel out of place regarding their own place in society, and feminism is right there to pick them up. From there, they have a community in which they can rely on, with a specific set of beliefs to follow. You have basically two major communities of feminism, the libfem and the radfem.

Radfems are like the special club of the “enlightened ones”, while libfem are the lazy ones who just follow the trend of feminism. So, I suppose, depending on how implicated you are in feminism and gender, you get to be close to one or the other. There is also the fact that homosexuality/bisexuality in itself will come with a set of experience as a young woman who will surely push you more on the more radical side.

I long time ago now, when I was still a TRA, I’ve known someone who didn’t know if they identified as a lesbian or a FtM, and was heavily in the radfem discourse. We discoursed a lot together, and despite our very different views, we managed to bond. They brought me to nuance my views and reach that kind of “peak” where you actually realize that biological sex DOES exist in fact (crazy right). And I helped them realizing that the radfem discourse wasn’t always godspell. Idk what happened to them since, it’s been a long time. But anyway, it really made me tend to the other side of the balance, even though I’ve never subscribed to it, because I couldn’t, with my own existence, you know? At least there’s something in me that wouldn’t.

I think a lot of FtM comes through that path at some point, and violently shift to the other side as a reaction from when they were a TRA. Finally they are “enlightened to the truth of the world”, and therefore become radical feminists, because they HAVE to be a type of feminism (because otherwise they say that it means you don’t support women’s equality, and you are not appreciated). I personally stayed a long time with a feminist label, before understanding how crappy it was, by wondering about the male side.

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Which brings me to the other point. As girls of our generation, we all were raised with feminism in mind. It’s an ideology that was thrown at our throat. Every time that we did something that wasn’t “typically feminine”, it was feminism. Playing with the boys was feminism. Playing video games was feminism. Going to STEM was feminism. Not wearing dresses was feminism. Our normal behavior (GNC behavior) became feminist. We became, despite ourselves, some kind of representant of the powerful female that we “needed” to be, to bring back some balance in the world. It’s very dehumanizing when you think about it. We are warriors for the feminist belief, and our simple behavior is suddenly perceived as something courageous when it is simply how we exist. So, even if you don’t read the feminist books and all that shit, you are still bound to feel like a flavor of feminism, by the simple fact that you exist. Add to that, that it’s very socially good to be seen as a feminist. I think that’s how most of us get trapped in that.

We are social creatures. Finding our peers is a necessary step for us to stay alive. And if it comes with a set of beliefs that need to adopt, then so be it. That’s how we get in.

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I know you don't know me but I always wondered how someone came up with these beliefs like Dworking, Simone de Beauvoir. Cause I reached the same conclusion as them despite never reading anything from them.

Why did you come to the same conclusion as people who supposedly did sociological thesis and were eminent respected people in my country? Because it’s what felt right, it’s your intuition, your set of beliefs based on your biased experience that showed you that. It’s the same reason as to why all culture have a religion. We love to believe, we need to believe, and we love wishing for things to be the way we think they are. It’s the reason why those people were fake. They based all of their observation on their personal life and wishful thinking. They created a world that they had in their head, and projected it on reality.

It was very easy for me to think that males were abusers on the basis of my experience. I was already mindful of men, because that’s what I was taught from my family, but my bad experiences reinforced it, and feminism magnified it to a phobia. It’s this endless circle of people validating your biases, an echo chamber but on a life-scale. People who believe or behave a certain way will stick with the other people who believe and behave a certain way, as we’re a tribal creature.

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TRA/Radfem, any cult-like thing, will have that. They will discourage you from considering the opinion and the view of the other side, because it will be deemed as being false/wrong/sin, and will also continue to validate the things that you already believe over and over again. They ARE the enlightened ones. They are the ones who discovered the truth among the falsehood. They are sure, persuaded of what they think, that it is the Truth. 

They also spew a very anxiety-driving feeling. Radfems are persuaded that all females who transition are brainwashed by the cult. Do you want your fellow females to end up in a cult and hurting themselves? Obviously not! So you help them, you try to convert them, because you feel the urgency of the situation. “She needs to be saved”. It’s a bit like the Christian persuaded they need to save you from hell.

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Do you think some people will always stay in these cult-like groups and why do some have the ability to get out and some don't? Is it biological or social that some can('t) do that?

With time, and seeing all of these groups, I became sure of one thing. Certainty is poison, in my opinion. The world is made of nuances, and a lot of them we can’t yet grasp accurately. I am certain of nothing. I try to doubt at every step, and for everything, because in the end, even if it’s very uncomfortable, it is also the best way I found to be able to navigate without getting too stuck somewhere. I have beliefs that are still tied to my values, I will probably always have those, because we aren’t machines. But I am aware of that, and it allows me to take a step back, and think “Why is that so important for me to believe in?” “Why do I believe what I believe?”

Those two questions are the fundamental ones that need to be asked, in order for someone to rationally think. Along with that, you have to understand what constitute a fact, and how to differenciate it from an opinion. The people who get stuck in cult-like mentality are the ones who do that. But it’s not something that you just do. It’s really something to live by. Skepticism. I am lucky because in France, there are a lot of content for people to understand better science and skepticism in general. It really helped me.

Some people won’t ask themselves those questions because they never thought about it. Some people won’t ask themselves those questions because the feeling coming from it is very bad. When I shifted away from the TRA belief, it was a nightmare. When I looked into the HSTS part and how they didn’t believe in any “gender identity” the way we conceive it, I was also crushed. It’s a bad feeling, to feel the way you view the world getting destroyed by other views. It leaves us with uncertainty, fear, vulnerability, that we have to handle. We are left with more questions, less answers. It’s not easy. I would go as far as saying it’s physically painful.

It is easier to just repeat the same mantra, and get stuck with that feeling of certainty that is comforting. It is safe, and you have people thinking the same way you do, you are never alone anymore, you don’t doubt anymore. You know the truth, after all! It’s a very pleasant feeling, to know the truth. But is it an accurate depiction of reality? We are all guilty in that. You, me, the most rational person in this world is guilty of it.

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What matters to you? Having the most accurate reality you can grasp, or your comfort and sensation of having the truth in your hand? The answer to that might be obvious, but it is actually a very difficult one, that one has to ask themselve often.

[sevenlockets]

Grell is a woman.

Part One.  

Okay, originally “part one” and “part two” were going to be part of the same post, but this was getting so obnoxiously long that no one was going to read it.  

So why not break it into two? 

In this post (Part One of two), I am going to address the two “real-world” arguments against Grell’s trans identity that I see the most often when people are discussing her.

Part Two (I will insert it’s link here once it’s up), will be posted in a few days (today being 12/12/17).  Part Two will be what I originally had wanted to talk about (before I realized I should probably clarify my view on those “real-world” issues I mentioned first), and will be entirely story and character based, nothing real-world about it.  

Part Two will be about why, as I see it, the only way to read Grell that makes any sense in the context of Kuroshitsuji as a whole is to read her as a trans woman.

Now, onward and upward.

One of the primary arguments I hear against Grell being a trans woman is  “Grell is okama, not transgender.”  

For anyone who doesn’t know, okama is a Japanese subculture in which (predominantly) homosexual men — who identify wholly as male — dress, act, and speak femininely.  The term ‘drag queen’ is often used as a loose translation.  It is an expression of who they are, and while I obviously can’t speak for individuals within it, I can safely assert that the okama subculture in and of itself encompasses no implications of gender dysphoria.  Grell, on the other hand, exhibits gender dysphoria on multiple occasions (1, 2, 3).  These moments will be discussed in greater detail in the Part Two post.  

There is literally never a time we see Grell where she does not go out of her way in some form or another to try to tell the others that she is a woman.  It is clearly extremely pervasive in her psyche.  You would think that if it were not a necessity to her, a part of her, she would get tired of the act at some point, especially since no one around her seems to understand, let alone care.  It’s even the first thing out of her mouth after Undertaker literally slices her face open on the Campania.  It is on her mind at all times and she cannot help it; even in a fight she prioritizes voicing her womanhood alongside literal survival.  Okama is something one could “switch on and off”, while a transgender person obviously does not have that luxury.

A shining example of a truly okama character — who I believe most of us reading this likely have some familiarity with — is Ryoji (aka Ranka) Fujioka from Ouran High School Host Club.  Ryoji is the protagonist’s father (and yes, he goes by male pronouns and repeatedly calls himself her ‘father’, ‘daddy’, etc.), all while speaking in feminine formats, and acting and dressing as a woman.  As far as I’m aware, he never once requested, or even implied that he wished, to be referred to as anything other than a man.  He is not trans.  He happy as a male, as a father.  He is okama.  See how different that is from Grell?  

That being said, is it possible that trans women seek shelter in lifestyles such as okama, if they do not feel safe or comfortable enough to be their full selves?  Absolutely!  When Yana called Grell ‘okama’, it’s because that is the closest thing Yana can compare it to within the context of the time period Grell exists in.  There was simply no word for a transgender person in Victorian England, much less a refuge or any real avenue for them to express themselves.  Grell would appear as a effeminate man because she has no other choice; and through Yana’s cultural lens, obviously this type of person would qualify as okama.  Grell tries constantly to express her femininity with the tools available to her.  Yet, most of her Victorian contemporaries — having no idea of what a transgender person was, or of the possibility someone like this could even exist — would see her as something akin to how someone in current-day Japan might view an okama person; as a man ‘playing’ a woman.

This is further convoluted by Grell’s interest in the theatre, leaving people even more prone to believing that all of Grell’s feminine tendencies were wrapped up in her ‘stage persona’, when in fact, nothing could be further from the truth.  I will get into this in greater depth in that Part Two post, but remember, English theatre has a long-standing history of males acting in the roles of women- especially in Shakespearian theatre, which we can all tell Grell has a particular fondness for.  However I bring this up now believe it underscores my point about Grell’s wish to seek asylum in a subculture that allots her even an ounce of herself.  

The other primary argument I hear when people try to deny that Grell is trans is “But the author of Black Butler uses male pronouns when speaking of Grell.”

As for Yana Toboso herself referring to Grell as a “he”, I believe this is simply her way of speaking.  Many, many people believe that referring to a person, or character, by their outwardly displayed sex characteristics is the ‘proper’ way to refer to them.  Naturally in response, many, many people within the transgender community have come out and stated that this practice as a whole is extremely harmful to them, but that does not change the fact that it occurs all the time- and sometimes without even cruel intentions.  I don’t believe for one second that Yana is transphobic — she clearly writes Grell with a lot of love, and about as blatantly trans as any creator could write a side character — but I do believe there are practices all of us have been raised with that do some amount of completely unintentional harm, and that this is one of hers.  

Here is the English translation of a blog post Yana made way back in 2010.  The post is explaining Grell’s feeling’s for Sebastian vs. William, but includes the line, “That’s the way girls are, isn’t it?  Grell is a boy, but he has a heart of a girl.”  I wholeheartedly believe this is Yana describing Grell’s physical versus psychological characteristics; so there we have it.  A male with the “heart” of a woman.  I don’t know how much clearer it can get.  Just to compare, the dictionary definition of ‘transgender’ is “a person whose sense of personal identity or gender does not correspond with their birth sex.”  I don’t know about you, but I think “a boy [with] the heart of a girl” sounds about as close to the absolute definition of ‘transgender’ as you can get.

Listen, at the end of the day, I really don’t care what you call Grell.  It’s not my problem, it’s not my business, and I don’t believe you’re going to Hell for seeing something different in this fictional character than I do.  I just wanted to put these arguments out there toward what I see as the truth regarding a character I love.  

Stay tuned for Part Two, filled with character and story analysis.  

Thanks for reading!

[wishfulife-moved]

lemme talk about season 0 and the FOP we have come to know. More specifically, the differences between how the OddFamily interacts then and now; a basic breakdown of how it’s come from that to this.

Alright, so if peeps don’t know what season 0 is, it’s pretty much the Oh Yeah! Cartoon versions of the original F.airly OddParents. There were like less than ten episodes before N.ickelodeon realized they had a hit and thus, we got our full length FOP we grew up with. And if you watch an episode from season 0 and any episode from the show now (...before season 8/late season 7 completely butchered the show into an unrecognizable, disgusting mess uwu), you’ll definitely notice how differently Cosmo, Wanda, and Timmy interact with each other. 

The three are more like school friends you hung out with after class in the original cartoons, and in the very early season of FOP. This was back when the main plot of the show was a BIT cheerier and less depressing when you realize the implications (not to mention the drastic changes made to the series after season 2/after the Oh Yeah! cartoons). The Fairies really WERE just there to grant some wishes to entertain a child from their “misery”. 

Fairies don’t necessarily understand the concept of depression in children. They’re just there to make wishes, and nothing else. This was simply a job, and to be honest, it’s technically ALWAYS only a job. Fairies aren’t necessarily meant to love their God Children like their own, even though they’re also there to fill the void for some Fairies who WANT children but can’t because of Da Rules. For Cosmo and Wanda, Timmy was just another job until he either blew the secret or was deemed ‘happy enough’. 

Season 0 is Timmy still getting USED to the idea of Fairies being real, and the fact that they’ll go away forever if anyway finds out about them being his Fairies. It’s kinda weird to have strangers just LIVING in your room as fish right next to your bed, and it’s not surprising that he’d say ‘ I’m calling the cops ‘ the minute they just burst out of his magic eight ball. To be honest, he’s just so annoyed at the fact someone’s trying to meddle into his life like this.

He’s pretty bitter at his parents for just abandoning him with Vicky, and not trusting him to stay home alone WITHOUT her ruining his life. And while he’s just repressed the fact they lied to him about leaving him alone when he was eight, the feelings of resentment are still there but on a more sub-conscious level until he’s reminded in Abracatastrophe. So he tends to get annoyed with them (and it’s ALMOST enough to make me feel bad for them until I remember his parents are literal scum so-) when things don’t go his way, or they TRY to meddle back into his life by inviting him along their daycation someplace that’s clearly not where you bring a nine-year-old who’s gonna be bored as all hell there. 

However, the wish granting at first was good for both revenge on Vicky as a means to release pent up rage, and also a way to distract himself from loneliness (as season 0 didn’t really introduce him having ANY friends aside from KIND OF knowing Tootie) by wishing for things his parents couldn’t buy him (as at the time, they were more of a struggling-to-maintain-stability middle class). And it was nice to have someone to PLAY with, so even though he wasn’t the biggest fan of them just being around, being OVERTLY cheery, it was an okay set up.

Actually, it’s funny to think that Timmy WAS at a point almost as bitter as Remy. He was more passive aggressive, and was definitely not a fan of Cosmo and Wanda’s over eagerness for literally everything, and their whole lovey dovey stuff. It reminded him a lot of his parents, and well, he wasn’t really up for that. He still thought they were decent people, but he was struggling between figuring out if it was just HIS fault (as he hadn’t really come to accept he was to be a disappointment) or their fault for always being so busy. It’s a lot of mixed feelings for them from him until his more grounded conclusion at the age of ten (more season 2 and beyond) that he’s just a burden and it’ll be easier to accept and assume he deserves this misery, rather than wallow in it and be bitter about it all. 

Season 0 Cosmo and Wanda were too much like Timmy’s parents, so he was more open to being saltier to them whenever they did something he didn’t like, made a joke about him, and were overtly romantic with each other. The similarities between his parents was too much, and while he did play with them, he was also wondering just HOW long he could keep this up before willingly blowing his secret.

Cue in season 1 and things are getting more normal. Now his parents are getting worse, and his Fairies are calming down a lot more with the romance, as well as their overly happy disposition. He might consider them friends, but is more inclined to acquaintances. However, he’s definitely gotten used to them being around, and no longer WANTS the secret to be discovered, hence why he cries in the first episode when he’s about to lose them after wishing he was a grown up. There isn’t a whole lot else in season 1 to REALLY go off of when it comes to their bond, but it’s a nice tid bit knowing Timmy WANTS them around (mainly to stave off loneliness and protection- sort of- from Vicky and other bullies). 

Season 2 starts with them starting to open up, more off screen than anything else. Cosmo and Wanda aren’t REALLY aware of the fact Timmy is a DFAB trans boy since, to be honest, Fairies don’t know human biology ALL that well aside from basics. So after The Boy Who would be Queen, when Timmy was poking fun at being a girl (and kinda wished to be one), it’s kind of an awkward conversation afterwards as Timmy pointed out he’d really RATHER they never do something like that again. Cosmo figured it out pretty quickly as Timmy “literally looked the same aside from a pony tail and skirt” and Timmy just told them he only WISHED they would swap genders was BECAUSE he wanted them to know how uncomfortable he felt. 

There’s a bunch of apologizing thrown around, but it’s their first BIG time they really sat down and talked about why Timmy was so cold after Wanda poofed him into a girl, rather than just making a rude comment as he left for the mall. 

It’s also nice that earlier on in the season, the Fairies are VERY nervous when he makes ‘super’ wishes. Obviously you can just brush it off as them not wanting to get hurt, but Fairies ARE kind of immortal, and while yeah they can feel pain, it’s not like these things are gonna kill them. They might kill Timmy though, and now that’s become something they DON’T want happening. Again, could just be because they can’t let a God Kid die on the job as that PROBABLY would reflect pretty badly on the resume. Still, during Super Bike, it’s nice to see how defensive they get around Timmy when Super Bike starts manipulating him from being with his friends or family.

Wanda’s the one to get snippy about it. Whether she knows what a toxic relationship can look like or not is up to debate, though considering how old she is, she can’t be oblivious to that either. Cosmo might’ve been more defensive if not for his own fears of Super Toilet being mentioned, but really, Wanda has gotten more motherly rather than just a God Mother with both sides of being a standard mother (for lack of a better phrase). She’ll do what she can to keep her child safe, make suggestions on some ideas he might have and look for safer alternatives, but can also be condescending to a degree and maybe say or do something that’ll make her child angry. However, like a good mother, she’ll realize her mistakes if it WAS her fault, and the mother and child CAN come to an agreement and stay on good terms. Obviously this isn’t the case for EVERY mom, but just go with it for this case.

Everyone can pretty much tell Cosmo is fun dad. Him and Timmy are the quickest to REALLY start getting close, and he’s all for Timmy’s weirder wishes. He’s also not ready to let ANYONE try and come between his wife and his God Child, as seen in Fairy Fairy Quite Contrary where it’s clear he’s ready to fight Juandissimo, but is consistently thwarted by him throughout the episode since Cosmo is, well, Cosmo.

However, he still manages to defend his family in his own little Cosmo-y ways as he DID try to think of an idea to get Timmy away from the giant ape in the Magical Duel, but needed ‘thinking food’ to try and process a plan to stop the ape. Aside from the fact that the ape just took the bananas instead, Cosmo REALLY did wanna think up a plan on his own, and took some extra steps to figure out a smart solution to help his God Child. He knows he’s not smart, and figures maybe he can give himself a boost to help out.

There’s also the third part of the Wishology trilogy where he just LOSES IT and is sick of the Destructonator messing with his family, and turns into a giant monster to fight it. Granted he messes up, but his heart is ALWAYS in the right place for his family. 

This isn’t to say that there were SOME hints of it in season 0 with the Odd Family getting close, but The Zappy’s speech he makes about why he loves his Fairies seems just a TEENSY bit forced, if only because you have to depend on off screen interactions for their closeness. A speech like that I expect to occur during the later seasons, though obviously I won’t hold season 0 against it since it IS a series of pilots, so no one knew at that time they’d be getting a full on show. 

But in general, the growth of love between the family from the early/pilot seasons to around season 6 (which is about the last season they’re a wholesome family and not flanderized beyond belief) is really cute, and I love this family so much.