#<- the acc is real but as ive said YALL GOTTA WORK FOR IT

[unamusedyams]

wait you have an 18+ twitter account...? 👉👈...

uh yes, but you know what? maybe the real account was the friends we made along the way.... or something along those lines

[girldraki]

ngl, ase discourdse is how we learned to curate our dash the hard way. we joined tumblr right before its peak began, and had were actually considering the label at the time. Then its started showing up, at first we did nothing because we were severely uneducated on most lgbt stuff, and later because we thought we were supposed to have multiple opininons on it and respect people even if we disagree.

As you can imagine, big mistake, not only was there frequent invalidation, but straight up hatred, which negative affected us. It actually began a spiral of psychological self harm where we would go to the tag to see what they said, even after realizing I was ace and didnt agree with them

eventually i decided to unfollow the most violent and upsetting ones, but it still hurt to see what the others reblogged so eventually i unfollowwed them too. I slowly purged them from my dash and learned to frequently searcg their blog before following.

the anti-mspc stuff has been really similar, so its caused a lot of those memories to resurface, as ive had to begin purging again, although im not that myself.

i gotta thank ya for being positive about it frequently, your blog has remained throught the years because of that, love yall(/parasocial)

(thank you for the search censors btw ^_^;)

honestly we had very similar experiences to you and it’s … basically why we stopped talking about ace disco?

like mod ided as ace by the time they started their first acc so we came down as inclus immediately but YEAH the whole… deeply unhealthy spiral of emotional self harm thing was a real issue, especially because ace disco was so fucking inescapable if you placed any importance on your aspec identity at all — like you put it in your bio or you tried to look in aspec related tags and you Would see it (we didn’t know about discord servers at the time.) , and also block didnt really work at that point and we constantly had Funnyman Squad on our dash

and. yeah we learned to block and unfollow and /search-ace /search-asexual and we also blocked j*hnny (lol) and our self harm tapered off now that we weren’t constantly stressed and… concurrent to this (1) the block started hiding people’s posts on your dash (2) people mostly shut up about asexuality? but anyway when the emspec stuff kicked in and we evaluated with a normal base stress level we were able to go ok yeah this is bad we’re not going to directly engage. so we haven’t lol and we have mostly been fine