#; family

[asushunamir2051]

this makes me think of my cousin’s partner’s dad who had a lot of trouble keeping his house clean after his wife died, so my cousin’s partner and his sister hired a cleaner for him,

and it seemed to be going well, the house always seemed to be clean, but their dad kept talking about doing various bits of cleaning himself, and about how much time he and his cleaner spent talking and drinking tea

so they’d ask him if he’d mind if they hung around while his cleaner was there, and he’d always be kind of evasive, but eventually my cousin’s partner did stick around one day when the cleaner came

and he watched his dad clean almost the whole house himself, and then when the cleaner came watched them sit and drink tea and chat for about half the time she was there and then like dust the last couple rooms before she left

so he confronts his dad when she’s gone like, “why are you doing all the cleaning? we hired you a cleaner so you wouldn’t have to do any of that?”

and his dad just says “well I can’t invite her into a dirty house!”

and years later they’re still paying the same lady to go over and chat with him and give him a little bit of a hand, so he has a reason to clean the house and a friend to talk to; everyone’s happy!

[drdarine]

I sincerely apologize to everyone for using AI in my post never did before, but I didn't have the luxury of waiting a few more days for my friend to complete the drawing for me. I hope you can understand my situation and accept my apology until that day comes. Thank you.

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[incognitopolls]

If your parents had very different numbers of friends, answer for the parent who interacted with those friends more frequently.

The friends in question didn't have to visit your home/you don't have to know them at all– just any friends that your parents interacted with.

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[365filmsbyauroranocte]

Family Viewing (Atom Egoyan, 1987)

[zowylander]

[destroyingangelneveragod]

Samah and her family need ongoing help!

Hi everyone! My friend Samah @samah-2 and I met because of @bilal-salah0 . Samah is an absolute sweetheart who I am so gratefully to know. Samah lives in Gaza, Palestine, and has endured this genocide for far, far, far too long with not near enough support. She and her family need help with a variety of costs. Day to day things like food, but also money for long term things like eventually evacuating and covering health related costs. Many of us take our safety for granted. Lets use our safety and security, if we have it, to help Samah and her family to get all that they need. I know times are tight for many, but even just 5 dollars goes a long way.

[adambinali]

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[ssasjj]

When the walls of social gender stuff at the family gathering rise, their is one who will always be their for me.

The family pet

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[tmasc-confessions]

I hate that in order to keep me and my two kiddos safe and away from my ex-wife I have to misgender myself. When asked if there is resources for men they say sure, but it might mean I can't take my kids with me, besides wouldn't I be comfortable around "other " women". I feel like I'm stealing resources from actual women just trying to survive as a domestic abuse victim. The only people who call me dad or by my name is my kids lately and it hurts. I'm trying to find where my privilege is in all this especially since the person I'm running from is a trans woman.

She took away my home, she stripped me of my family, she stole ten years of my life and now I'm having to degrade myself and basically go back into the closet in hopes of survival for me and my kids. I know my ex wife is an outlier in the trans fem community and most of my trans sisters are actually wonderful people, but it feels like a punch in the gut to see "trans men have power over trans woman".

When my dad, god rest his soul, took me and my brother to run he had a lot of sway. He admittedly did and said some shitty things to the courts to keep us safe, but the power he had as a cis man was obvious. The influence was clear. He was able to get full custody and a restraining against my bio mom pretty quick.

I can't employ those same tactics against my ex, but she has threatened to do those to me. She is currently threatening to use my mental history as a way to take the kids saying they need their mom. They are scared, they were the ones that made me realize I had to run and this whole experience has made me feel so small and like the scared little girl I once was. Nothing has been quick about this process and I will acknowledge that if she was a cis man I'd have even less ground to hold, but I've got my lawyer telling me that I might have to concede some custody despite me saying that I don't want that as it puts me and the kids in danger.

(of course the thing that pisses me off the most is seeing people say feminism excludes men. No it doesn't it's always included everyone because misogyny affects everyone in a big and small ways. Feminism has always been and should always be an attack on the system and on gender roles.)

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[cowboyjen68]

hello, I am bisexual and into butch/masc lesbians but people don't understand why I would like a girl who looks more tomboy when I can get real guy. I don't know how to explain this my family friends

This is similar to my last post but being that you are bi it can mean an extra layer of confusion.

The short answer is you don't owe it to ANY one to explain your sexuality or your relationship/dating life. You like what you like. Period.

Lets be honest. We can all get "a real guy", that is no challenge. ;) but that is not always what are looking for in life or love.

Just like I advised the last anon. Humor, patience and setting boundaries around how they ask questions/get clarification plus time is about the only answer.

Cargo pants and a baseball hat do not a man or woman make. We are physical beings and aesthetics are a part of our attraction.

You can say things like "if you don't get it, you don't get it and that is a you issue". Or "have you met women?" Confusion and curiosity is fine, even expected but hold them accountable to keeping those questions respectable.

I suspect they damn well know why you want a butch and not a man but some people want the argument or things this false logic is some kind of "gotcha" in this world that punishes same sex attraction with degrading language and false myths.

Any friend or even family who continually pushes you can be pushed away and you need to feel no guilt. Tell them to cool it or loose you. You don't even have to cut all contact, just make it clear you don't want to hear their opinions about your attraction or you will step away. There is no reason that your friendships or family relationships should give you more stress than joy

[incognitopolls]

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[sorrel-the-kabbage]

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Help Mohiy and his family

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[genderqueerdykes]

My parents, or at least my mom anyway, keep misgendering and deadnaming, (I don't even really consider it a deadname a part from them using it, in fact I've made it a part of my middle name but I don't want them to see that as an excuse to keep calling me it).

Anyway, she says she's "accepting", and that, if I'm not misreading her text I'm still trans regardless of whether she gets my name and pronouns right which like... yeah??? I don't know I'm conflicted, on the one hand I really don't want to be around people who don't respect me, on the other hand I feel like I should cut her slack? I get that it can be difficult to make that switch, she'd been kinda trying before, at least face-to-face, but now it just feels like she's regressing or doesn't want to make the effort anymore. Maybe I need to tell her that I appreciate her trying again? I've already told her that it's going to be difficult for me to want to be around if she can't respect me, I've been pretty low contact already and I've been thinking of maybe giving the relationship another shot but with her texting about how she's gonna keep deadnaming me..... idk I kinda feel like an asshole honestly but I also don't really want to spare her feelings anymore.

parents can be really iffy when it comes to this kind of thing.

sometimes they catch on after a while, sometimes they're never fully on board. best you can do in most situations is to tell her in the moment (or as soon as possible, while it's still fresh) that she misgendered you, used the wrong pronouns, etc. i had to confront my sister on it before she realized it was bothering me. she still deadnames me and uses the wrong pronouns, but best we can do is tell that person how it makes us feel

if she continues to do it or says that she's "trying" but never seems to make progress, then you have your answer. sometimes family pulls the the "i've known you as (deadname) for so many years!" and refuse to change. hopefully that's not the case for you. i wish you the best of luck

[365filmsbyauroranocte]

Tacones lejanos (Pedro Almodóvar, 1991)