#//it's just more convenient for people to believe they're cis

[troublcmakcrs]

you'll learn right now , i don't play nice / and if you hurt me once , 𝙄'𝙇𝙇 𝙆𝙄𝙇𝙇 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙏𝙒𝙄𝘾𝙀 ! / and i won't go first ( 𝓭𝓻𝓮𝔀 𝓫𝓪𝓻𝓻𝔂𝓶𝓸𝓻𝓮 ) / 'cause i'm the last bitch up , ＴＨＥ ＦＩＮＡＬ ＧＩＲＬ ！

finalgirl!tweek to go with @feldspar-thethief's ghostface!craig au lol

[cardentist]

people don't like to think about how isolating it is to be a victim as a man because it's not Simple or palatable or convenient

I think, on some level, people want to believe that suffering isn't random. that it may never be Fair, but that there's some observable pattern and reason behind it. the fact that people can just be victimized at any time by anyone is scary and hard to reconcile.

I Also think people don't want complex ideas like sexism or oppression or victimhood to Be complex. it's so much easier to say "this is the type of person who is harmed by this oppression and this is the type of person who causes harm with this oppression."

and people will hold on to this belief to the point that they're saying crazy shit, like calling victims at fault for their own social ostracization and ridicule because being a man means they're responsible for the sexism at play behind it. or the first response is "well Obviously only Men mock male victims" when that categorically is not true (terfs have to spend their time doing Something when they're not busy sending trans women death threats).

and it's all the more complicated when you're in my position. I wasn't a man when I was raped, but I'm a man now. am I allowed to feel scared? am I allowed to have been hurt? it's so isolating and Strange to see people call this formative piece of my life a Feminine experience. to say that men don't Understand it. would never be a part of it.

people love to look at trans men asking these questions and call them stupid. of Course we should assume that we're the exceptions, and we're being hysterical or misogynistic by making it about Us. because of course nobody would ever be transphobic on purpose, how could I ever assume that.

but there Are people who specifically and intentionally target trans men. who insist that trans men Aren't victimized, who seek out and mock trans men who come out about Being victims.

I've seen it said before that trans men lose a community with cis women that they don't gain back with cis men, and then we're torn down for trying to find community with each other, or with other trans people.

and it's such a Lonely experience

[ace-of-clubs]

Where have I been?

So. I made a post declaring my intention to speak out and seek change, to get involved in politics and activism. Was that all bluster? I fell silent fairly quickly thereafter. In short: I kept to my word, I got involved. It just wasn't online, I got involved in my community. For the sake of my privacy and safety I shall not reveal any specifics, but I took action. Then I watched to see if that action bore any fruit. Further details below.

Like many of you, I was in shock on election night. I took time to mourn, to grieve, then got back up and to work. I've spent time arranging to get friends out of deep red states, at least one of them has plans to leave the country. While I lack the resources to do more than organize logistics, I have spent every waking moment I have to spare doing so. I've also kept an ear to the ground to listen for any further rumblings, and rumblings I have heard. I know there are theories about election tampering flying around, spurred on by statistical irregularities and calls from security experts to investigate potential breeches of voting machines and fraudulent ballots. The only hard evidence shared, that I have seen so far, has been Pennsylvania's investigation into fraudulent ballot applications. Pending any further inquiry, I cannot in good faith join the chorus questioning the integrity of our election. I have to trust that the current administration will fulfill their oaths to protect the Constitution and investigate as far as the law will allow. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

Continuing with the assumption that the election was secure, and this country has welcomed the autocrat with open arms, we must talk next steps. With all of the news coming out concerning potential cabinet picks, it seems likely to me key nominees will have a hard time making it through confirmation hearings with the election of John Thune as the GOP leader in the Senate. Thune is notable in that he stands opposed to many of Trump's stated policies, and while it is probable that he will allow some of the less controversial (in conservative circles) measures to pass it is equally probable that he will resist the passage of the worst of the proposed legislation. Additionally, Republican control of the House will be by the slimmest of margins. Trump's picks for his cabinet could further deplete this already anemic majority and has already spurred on the resignation of one representative (in combination with a House Ethics Committee report).

While this news is heartening, we must not forget that control is still in the hands of a party that wholeheartedly embraced a populist demagogue when it was convenient for them. We must temper our expectations between slightly optimistic and crushingly despairing. The first steps any people can take in opposing the rise of an authoritarian regime is to not obey in advance. Do not start to model your behavior off of what you believe they're going to want. Resist, and do it loudly. Call your representatives at every level and advocate for yourselves, find your local community and organize. Form voting blocs, share research about proposed legislation and candidates, advocate en mass for your rights and your beliefs.

It is far, far too easy to hunker down and just try and survive. For the many of you who have no other option to ensure your safety, or have already begun your advocacy, my next words are not for you. I thank you for any and everything you have done in the name of protecting yourself and others who are vulnerable. Please be safe.

For those of you who, like me, come from a place of privilege due to your skin color, sexuality, gender, socioeconomic class, or any other factor, it is time to listen. I am white and still present as a cis man, my identity as being asexual and agender are not visible, and I am guilty of remaining quiet while others suffered. My family is lower-middle class, and while we may have relied on bargains at the grocery store and thrifting for clothes we never truly struggled. I allowed my family's fear to keep me away from the BLM protests, to keep me away from the protests against the Palestinian genocide, to keep me from speaking up and being active in order to use my privilege for something positive. I won't pretend I'm up-to-date on the language to be used, or pretend I'm completely informed of the hardships faced by members of other marginalized communities, but I do know that my staying quiet made me complicit in the injustices. I do not wish to engage in performative activism, and I know that my advocacy now does not absolve me of my inaction in the past, but I fervently wish to make real tangible change. There are two years until the midterms, and a very favorable map for flipping seats in the Senate as well as many gubernatorial races and the entire House. Get loud. Stand up and shout from the rooftops to advocate for a truly free nation, an equal nation, an equitable nation. Progressive policies are popular with the people, it is only the political divide that forces vocal opposition to them.

Do not obey in advance. When your oppressors despise your existence, the very act of being alive is a protest. All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is for good people to stand back and do nothing. We shall not go gently into that good night; we shall rage, rage against the dying of the light.

Should I go silent again, know that this is what I am doing. I am organizing and advocating. I am holding elected officials accountable, I am sharing resources with my community, I am doing everything I should have done from the beginning.

To any of you who have made it this far, I am in the process of writing an open letter to the Democratic National Committee outlining my thoughts and feelings on next steps for the Democratic Party. While I have no love of partisan politics, and agree with George Washington that all political parties shall inevitably produce tyrants, without comprehensive reform to our electoral systems third parties will never be viable at the federal level. To that end, I am necessarily made to align with the Democratic Party as the clear lesser of two evils. I will be sending a physical copy of this letter to the DNC headquarters in Washington DC and invite any who are able to copy the letter and affix your own name to do the same. While the letter will not contain the whole of my personal political philosophies, I hope the ideas contained within will resonate enough with others to see it spread and pressure the DNC to return to the left instead of running to the right as they have been for every race after Reagan took office. I shall post the letter before the meeting of the Electoral College on December 17th.

Thank you to anyone who has read my words and taken them to heart. Know they have all been said in good faith. Those who can afford to, or can't afford not to, be loud. Those who cannot, be safe.

[theradicalace]

htf gender, pronoun, and sexuality headcanons? (for pride month)

i think i've listed them before buuuut i can never turn down a pride month request Or a chance to ramble about the little guys + my hcs have changed slightly Again bc i'm indecisive so i'll do it again >:3

courtesy readmore for length

cuddles- he/him, the coolest cis man you'll ever meet, bisexual

giggles- she/her, cis woman, bi with a strong preference for women

toothy- he/him, trans guy, gay

flaky- mirror pronouns, nonbinary/genderfluid, demisexual bi

mime- he/they/she or other pronouns if they're funny, whatever gender is most convenient/funniest for the situation, bi

nutty- he/any neopronouns, trans guy, pansexual

disco bear- he/him, cis guy, bisexual in theory, pulls nobody in practice

lifty- he/him, trans guy, asexual (who's projecting? not me), bi

shifty+ he/him, cis guy ("what do you mean you only hc one of the twins as trans" shh i work in mysterious ways), bi with a strong preference for men

handy- he/him, trans man, bi

petunia- she/her, trans woman, bi

mole- he/they, if you asked he'd say "i just work here" but he's guy adjacent at least, bi in the loosest sense of the word but more accurately it's that he likes men and A woman (read: petunia)

(handy/petunia/mole polycule. it's canon in my heart)

sniffles- he/it/bot, transmasc nonbinary, demiromantic asexual

splendid- she/her, trans woman, aroace, shhh she's still figuring all that out give her a minute

splendont- he/him, trans man, gay

pop- he/him, cis man, he honestly believes he's straight just because he's never bothered to think about it but if he would stop to self reflect for literally five minutes he'd realize he also likes men

flippy- he/him, cishet somehow but he's cool about it

russell- he/him, cis man, aromantic gay but he'd never actually say that. if you ask hin he'll just say he's "married to the sea" and then disappear to hook up with a guy

lammy- she/her, cis woman but she's such a ride or die trans ally after she gets the 45 minute "transgender 101" lecture she'd need to understand what trans people are, a lesbian but she hasn't figured it out yet and she insists she's bi. sit her down with a glass of wine and that chappell roan song and she'll figure it out though

cro marmot- cro marmot

in short, i STILL have the disease that makes me hc nearly every character as trans and bi. it's called cool awesome epic swag disease and it's incurable

[divine-elixir]

For the ask 🌙 and 🌈

🌙 - What is/are your copinglink/s, heartedtype/s, or other alterhuman identities?

•All my other identities are just things/concepts/beings I relate to or believe best expresses how I see and experience parts of myself.

Qilin and Long, I only relate to because they're the other kinds of beings that existed in my home realm. So they're like cousins to me, not an identity.

Other beings like unicorns, Xian, nymphs, baku, celestials etc. is mostly just me seeing parts of myself in them, or similarities. Adepti are basically Xian anyway, and me being adepti adjacent....uhh, it just checks out.

I have a whole list of concepts, tropes, and character archetypes that either speak to me or describe me but I'm not listing all those things out. I love lists, lol.

Huli jing and kitsune I used to identify as many years ago when I was still trying to figure things out. They're still special to me, just not me.

Lastly, I have a whole bunch of creatures in the misc pile. Cats and some birds were just some of the few forms I was comfortable taking when exploring Tey/vat, so they get a little spot in my pocket. And for characters/fictional species, I'm just fond of dreamweaver dragons from the OG Spy/ro series. They're just a mood. Magical girls and the Little twin stars I vibe with. And a special mention to manakete from the fire emb/lem series. They're the main reason why I figured out being some kind of pointy eared little guy who is actually some kind of weird dragon.

There are other creatures and things I feel a closeness too, but I think this answer has gotten long enough.

🌈 - Does your alterhumanity influence your other identities? (eg, gender/pronouns)

•Yeah. I just don't go about gender in a human way, since I wasn't technically born or assigned anything at birth. My kind doesn't recognize the words trans or cis, so uhhhhhh.

My approach to LGBTQ+ terms is the same to my approach with otherkin and alterhuman terms, I might use them for convenience and to make communication easier. But otherwise I don't identify with them myself. I know I have he/they listed in my intro, but if I'm honest I don't actually care much about what people call me. Call me 'it' or 'thing' if you like. Little miss or boy is fine too. Just don't insist I have to be a certain something, I'm "everything" yet nothing at all.

Now, I know there are people out there who would crucify me over this but I am pretty fond of the term femboy for myself....but I think I just see it as more of a "style" or vibe I like to partake in and perform. I'm just overall fond of feminine things. Pastel colours, cute things, and looking soft and delicate even if stereotypical it's just my comfort zone. Childish things, I also vibe with because I refuse to grow up. 😊

As for sexuality, hmmm. I don't know how to describe myself. I just know I don't feel attracted to humans, simply because I know that they perish in less than a hundred years or so. If I gotta be attracted to somebody they have to at least be able to make it a good few thousand years.

Besides that.....hmm, I find some woman attractive but the thought of being with one never crossed my mind and I don't think it ever will. I'm sorry woman. 😔 *gets crucified*

But, I think coming to understand myself as being some kind of soulbond it has become easier to separate what my feelings are vs the person's whose shoulder I'm riding on like a pikachu. Let's call this person Lu. He recognizes himself as a he/him nonbinary and aroace, and for the longest time I thought I was that too. Simply because I was metaphorically asleep for so long, so it was hard recognizing I was a separate being to him. It makes all the other contradictory moments in the past make more sense to us, but that's a topic for another time.

[kohakuhibiki]

Wrong to assume that every terfs and transphobes are inherently disgusted by trans people and couldn't be attracted by us under any circumstances. Also considering the idea as such is counter productive to any cis person who think they're in a place to absolve themselves from their own transphobia. Terfs and chasers overlap more frequently than what people seems to imagine, even and especially the people who are vulnerable to them. It's nothing that uncommon to see terfs get into gnc and trans people individually with the intend of "save" them from transition, but it's trickier than it seems and usually if they're charismatic enough (which happen less often) it will be figured rather late in game. On gnc people they'll just do anything to dissuade you from transition (with strong convincing points like "why can't you just be a slur (lol) instead, isn't that enough") and if you already transitioned they'll do everything to make you backpedal (apparently it's no longer irreversible when it's convenient, fun) and it's a mess we can't get the upper hand on unless we leave. Or get kicked out (but that's hardly ever convenient).

In other words, sometimes that kind of person come with a messiah complex instead of disgust and it's far more predatory than I've ever seen any trans person ever been. And. Yet. Outside of people who've been subjected to that kind of shit no one really believe it can happen from experience🙃

[sometimesiammybpd]

i feel bad for not posting all the time. i just like. don't know what to say when it's not a longform post. i still don't reeeeeally know who i am, so yeah. anyways hi.

to put this bluntly, i quit my job a week ago. after trump won the election, i spiraled. because i was one of the mistaken leftists (i don't consider myself a leftist at ALL but it's the most fitting term here.) who believed kamala had such a fighting chance that there was no way in hell he would win . . . and then he did. when i went to bed on the 5th, i went high as shit because i knew i wouldn't be able to handle any of this. i was and still am right about that. but when i woke up on the 6th and saw he won the election (yes, i saw the outlets that were calling it for him before even 2 am that night.), i couldn't process it at first. and then it hit me about an hour after i woke up and i still couldn't process any of it. except the thought to quit my job.

and i'll be real, i don't know if it was more self-destructive or what i'm about to say. cause in the moment, i said i wasn't going to work under my boss anymore because he's a massive trump supporter and i was losing it. i know that's true but it's moreso the question of if it's a scapegoat-type excuse or a genuine excuse. that i don't know. but i quit. i no-called, no-showed and then didn't show the next day and was fired. and that was that. yeah, he blew me up. i fucked over people that i didn't want to fuck over. but it meant more to me than just "he's a trump supporter." i am trans. i am a woman. and he voted to take away my rights, cis women rights, immigrant rights, the right to criticize the government, the separation of church and state, and so much more. and while i do believe it's partially me trying to just ruin my life because of where i was mentally, i just. even hearing his voice makes me angry. because how can you be "supportive" of anything you say you are and then vote for him? you can't be supportive just when it's convenient for you. you can't take away someone's right to choose, vote for themselves, get divorced, etc., and then still pretend like you're the good guy. and that's my issue with this entire fucking situation.

yes, i am angry with the right. i will always be angry with the right. but i'm so much angrier with the left. because for starters, kamala wasn't a fucking democrat. she ran under the guise of being a democrat, but she isn't one. she's an old-school republican and it showed based on her policies and the way she handled her campaign. and yes, she's better than biden in a lot of areas (they're both fucking awful in terms of the stance on israel / palestine and don't get me started on that). but it's been proven that "i'm not biden" is not good enough. that "i might ask for a ceasefire as president" is not good enough. that camo hats, threatening to close the border like MAGA has been for decades, not addressing ANYTHING regarding the working class to actually help us like fucking proper student loan payment, raising the minimum wage, supporting getting rid of the electorial college (i love tim walz for that stance but i hate the harris campaign for making him back down), literally anything. i voted for kamala and it felt like a wasted vote. i was excited in the moment because it was my first presidental election i could vote in, but it felt wrong and felt like a wasted vote. i wasn't going to not vote or vote third-party. and i'll be honest, i'm afraid of what's to come. i'm afraid i'm going to get arrested for not being supportive of trump. i'm afraid if they find out i'm trans, i'll be arrested for that (i still do not pass at all. i actually look insanely masculine which i HATE). i'm afraid of my friends losing their rights and of the thought that we will never have another free election in this country as long as i am alive because of this election.

they're just fears, i keep telling myself. even though there most definitely will be a mass deportation attempt on day one. even though they've already started attempting to pass bills to give trump more freedom to do whatever he wants, including taking down who he considers to be political enemies. they're just fears. except i don't believe that and i have no hope left to be able to use to undo that. i don't want to be a pessimist in this. i know people will still fight. i know it's not over unless we give up. but the democrats don't seem to give a flying fuck as they're blaming fucking transgender people for THEIR LOSS. FOR THE MISTAKES THEY FUCKING MADE.

i'm gonna be real. i felt so hopeless on november 6th that i was ready to take my life. i didn't want to abandon my friends, but i didn't want to be here anymore. because how was january 6th not enough? i was 17 and watched that happen in REAL TIME. i was physically shaking and that was most genuine fear and anger i felt until now. i cannot fucking believe i have to live in a country where a convicted felon has more supporters than any other politician. where he IS GETTING TO BE PRESIDENT TWICE. i can only begin to imagine what it must feel like for anyone who trump SA'd.

i don't know. maybe in four years, democrats will finally LEARN and something good will happen. but even if we are able to get it back, who's to say we'll have a country in 4 years worth taking back? who's to say we'll have a world that's still worth fighting for? and i don't think anyone right now realizes how long it'll be before anything he puts in place over the next 4 years gets undone. keep in mind that losing RvW was his fault, but it happened AFTER he got out of office. that's how much he's already fucked up this country. we have collectively voted to give the 2-year old who can't stop shitting their pants to form a coherent sentence the keys to the car and letting them drive cross-country for almost half a decade.

i don't know. i don't want to talk about this anymore.

[cometconmain]

Or... you could just not use AI generators AND pay artists actual fair pay for the work they do. There are people who don't like art theft or those exploiting AI who also aren't hypocrites and believe in avoiding stealing other people's tens of thousands of hours of training and instead just... pay them. Properly. For their skills.

Then again, that would be having a conversation about the ethical problems around AI art generators AND people exploiting artists on fiverr, but you're more interested in wrapping that second problem around a cudgel to whack people talking about the first one over the head and thinking you yourself have the moral high ground because of it.

How about instead of going to bat for AI while pretending to give a shit about "the systems we've created in which people are constantly sending emails so worthless that getting an idiot robot to both read and write them seems like a sensible value proposition", you just... talk about these systems and how they're unhealthy and unreasonable, then get together with some people to figure out how to tackle these expectations in work places on a small scale, then on a macro-societal level with tackling those things at its core, not just as a convenient shield/cudgel to shut down anyone who has issues with AI as a whole then dropped the second you don't have anyone to bash with it?

I would love to chat about and tackle that. But I'm not getting the feeling you do. :)

Hey. Speaking as a disabled person who had to be lucky enough to know people who could advocate like hell for me and probably still wouldn't have passed my bachelor degree without Covid finally forcing and then normalising online classes, removing most in-person exams and replacing them with assignments to hand in:

Again, if you could kindly stop using me as a cudgel to bludgeon the anti-AI crowd with and talk about this problem without sucking AI company dick, that'd be fucking amazing.

I've been talking about and trying to bring attention to this issue for YEARS and even based an entire assignment on it where I barely scratched the surface of just how foundational gatekeeping education is at universities and how it's a holdover from when they were exclusive to cis, white, het, rich men and entire structures are dedicated to making it as difficult as possible for anyone with less privileged backgrounds make it while pretending it's about effective learning, followed by showing people like me passing their system and acting like my existence is proof they're inclusive and approachable for disabled people, despite the fact apparently only 5% of us ever make it through an entire degree.

Guess what I never felt the need to mention?

If you said ChatGPT/whatever other AI people are using instead of getting the help they need, you'd be correct.

Ok, so let's talk about people being left behind by the system. How exactly does getting a machine to cheat for you teach you anything more than the gatekeeping-system-pretending-to-be-about-education?

Mate. If you want to fight for disabled people to get through school, using us a cudgel to shut down everyone talking about the unethical development and use of machines ain't reconstructing the system for us to actually learn.

AI didn't reveal jackshit anyone who experiences systemic discrimination in these places didn't already know and have been screaming about LONG before AI joined the scene.

Stop pretending the shitty unethical copy-mulch-paste device is about making our lives better and actually join us in our NUMEROUS battles we have been fighting for DECADES to help make our lives better.

Sincerely, a disabled person who is fucking sick of being used as a tool to shut down people who are rightfully pissed at having their work taken or understandably concerned about people not learning anything anymore. (No, I'm not talking about the people grandstanding opposite you either who actually are just used to feeling superior and feel threatened by AI).

[saturnianspaceghost]

vent post incoming feel free to skip lol

Guys gals and nonbinary pals... We realize that oppression is not a competition, yes???? That everyone from trans women to trans men to every queer person in between gets punished for not performing gender/sexuality according to patriarchal standards, right??????? Like it doesn't MATTER how you identify or what your AGAB is, if a bigot clocks you as queer and wants to make an issue of it THEY WILL DO SO!!! If you're a butch cis woman who gets targeted because some bigot thought you were a trans woman... That's still bad??? That's still harmful bigotry??? It doesn't matter that you aren't actually a trans woman, you can still get hurt (or worse!!!) because some asshole decided you weren't performing gender correctly.

Screaming crying throwing up over the queer discourse on this hellsite

And don't even get me fucking STARTED on how the majority of this transfemme vs transmasc false dichotomy ALSO conveniently ignores how race and racism play into queer oppression as well. As if all queer experiences are universal regardless of race (they're not!!!!!) and if you disagree well then YOU must be the one who's wrong! I'm starting to see more people acknowledge the racial element but I've still mostly seen it from POC themselves. Yet another reminder that the queer community has a whiteness problem and that just having a marginalized identity does not stop you from perpetuating harm!

I genuinely believe we can move past this as a community and work together to make life better for all of us, but jesus CHRIST I just wanna go to sleep and wake up when everyone finally gets that we should be going after PEOPLE IN POWER and not each other. Boy fuckin howdy

[noxiatoxia]

For real though, and even if people have difficulty and generally dislike a group of people because the civilians and/or country did horrible things to theirs, supported it, turned a blind eye to it, it's their responsibility to block them. That's why instead of putting russians dni, it's their responsibility to block them and anyone who may make them feel uncomfortable. Some people aren't gonna notice dnis and they're not always doing it on purpose.

On another hand I think people have such a black and white view of people, mainly POCs because they perceive civilians as easier to bully or something like that. It's also awfully convenient for them to be like "Oh I can NEVER be like those MONSTERS, I'm a Good Person!! Tm" when everyone is capable of cruelty. Nobody's an exception, that's what makes history and infamous war criminals terrifying because they're human and they're capable of feeling human emotions just like us, even remorse. Beinf sadistic is also part of beinf human and it's our responsibility to be nothing like our ancestors.

tbh my hot take is extremist "progressiveism" has rotted peoples brains into believing it's OK to be racist/mean/violent to a group so long as they are the majority and therefore justifiable. Like it's okay to be racist to white people because they're white. As if it's still not racist lmfao. I don't think these people understand the difference between racism and systemic oppression though. I also just dont understand why they feel the need to justify "I can be mean to white/cis/straight bc xyz" when its less effort to not be a jerk to somebody for their immutable characteristics. it's that kind of hypocrisy that annoys me. if someone is upfront about it it's one thing, like acknowledging you are racist for example. still an ass but at least youre self-aware you suck. i truly cannot stand the people who are like that but delude themselves into thinking its "not as bad" or "justifiable" or even "good". just own up to it.

plus, i genuinely dont think these people are smart at all. because youre just adding fuel to the fire? by being genuinely hostile towards a group who already hates you or is on the fence about it, you give them an intensive to hate you more. like you are actively perpetuating more danger to yourself and your community by acting like a fool. butttt its none of my business in the end. people will always do whatever they want however they want. especially on the internet where they think what they say wont hold a real effect.

[raviosrupees]

Super Specific Linked Universe Headcanons Pt 1.

All of the Links are autistic but they all have wildly different ways of presenting it. Ask me about their special interests, please. Please.

Warriors is in his 20s. He is an Aquarius. I'm right.

Sky is the ultimate straight cis ally, but he has bi wife energy. He is best friends with Legend, and they're kind of inseparable.

Twilight is a taurus, he's cis and bisexual, but leans towards women and fem ppl (and too hung up to think about anyone but one woman)

Wild is taller than yall think, 17 or 117 whatever is more convenient for him, zelda told him his birthday is november 7th (scorpio, ofc) and he just accepts that.

Hyrule is pansexual (mostly cis but might be genderfluid, he likes to wear feminine clothes and makeup)

Four is like? 3'8, and he's 20 yo but most people don't believe him. He's a trans boy, and most of the colors are too besides vio, who I think is either genderfluid or pangender, uses all pronouns. Four is bisexual but leans towards guys, though he loves his Zelda.

Legend is 4'10, 17 yo, born december 14th at midnight. he is trans, any pronouns, and bisexual.

Ravio is same height and age as Legend, and they're both born on the same day but ravio was born at noon. This really bothers Legend, he wants his own birthday. Ravi loves it.

also ravio is gay, asian/latino, chubby and has the best smile <3

war is cis and bisexual but he leans towards women, I think he's aromantic but probably could be romantically involved with someone.

Times eyes are more gray than blue

Sky 9 times out of 10 has no clue whats going on. Stupid and confused, and its perfect.

Twilight always knows where all of them are, and I don't even know if it's just smell. He has mom instincts "where are my kids, what are they doing"

Wild got mad anger issues pls calm down babe. Kind of scary. He lets hyrule braid his hair sometimes.

Hyrules eyes are more green than blue, and he has freckles all over his face and body (jokes he ought to get a kiss for every freckle)

Whenever Wind gets mail from his little sister, he reads it to the group. He's very proud of her, and she's very proud of him. She has a bunch of big brothers now.

Four + the colors are white-asian mixed (or looks like it yk, bc he's hylian) his eyes are dark brown.

Legend goes non verbal a lot, esp when they're stressed, but when she talks, she talks. I mean, hand gestures, ranting, cussing, pointing, "and you a bitch, and you a bitch." favorite curse word is cunt.

warriors ruffle everyone's hair, and they all hate it (esp four and legend, who claims he's going to choke him with his own scarf)

Sky likes to sing and dance, and wishes more of them would dance with him.

Twilight has slept as a wolf so often that it's practically natural for him, he really prefers it. Also, he takes all of his nightwatch shifts as a wolf.

Wild will teach literally anyone about edible flora and mushrooms and such, and foraging around hyrule, if only they would listen. Sometimes talks random animals ears off about his favorite flavor combos. Sky loves to listen and ask questions.

Hyrule will hand his favorite people random stuff as "gifts" like feathers, flowers, rocks, dead bugs (he's obsessed with bugs, he loves them so so much and they're all his friends) his favorite animal is a bumblebee

i know we all agree wind swears likek a bloody sailor, bc thats what he is, but how about him using random shit for swears like, "crabs cankles," "bilge-sucking" or calling the others landlubbers. also feel like he'd be the type to say "bite me" when someone disagrees with him.

Four keeps a bunch of books in his bag, and if their reading is disturbed they all have different reactions. Blue pinches or glares, Vio ignores you unless she deems what youre saying important, red gets physically distressed, and green will actually tell you to be quiet. (blue pinches a lot actually)

Legend is a very picky eater, especially with textures, this pisses wild off (wdym you dont like it YOU HAVENT EVEN TRIED IT)

Sky's Zelda is a bisexual virgo, and she knows everything.

Malon makes very good bread. I want to shove that shit in my face ong. Also she insists on giving each of the boys big hugs when shes sees them.

[daebelly]

i have a theory as to Why this sort of thing happens. it's a long post and i don't want to make out like this post is addressed to me, so it'll be under the cut.

shaun (the skull guy on youtube) made an excellent point in his video "The Fate of the Frog Men" where white men in the us, especially cis, straight, christian white men, sort of lack a 'narrative' for lack of a better word. oppression has a sort of "allure" to them because it casts them as the righteous underdog fighting the system, where they are the system more often than not, in reality. so they seek out a group to give themselves a narrative.

in the video, shaun uses this as a segue into gamergate, but i think this "search for a narrative," i'll call it, applies outside of that.

(and if you'd like to watch the video, it's here. it's a good watch)

my parents tried to raise me to be a straight, cis, white, chistian man (the only thing that ends up applying out of that is 'white' btw), and my family is of Irish, Scottish, and Welsh descent, so i have a bit of insight into this phenomenon(i do not speak for Irish, Scottish, or Welsh people). my family has almost no cultural practices beyond the most bare-bones holidays, going to church on rare occasions (usually when it was least convenient for me), and a tradition of an annual week-long vacation, so there wasn't a whole lot for me to feel attached to or much to base my self-perception off of(so, basically, i've lived the 'lack of a narrative' that shaun proposed). this is, i suspect, because generally, us american whiteness tries its best to be a monolith, so to speak--to erase anything different within itself to become homogeneous. and, because so much has to be removed to make everyone the same, you end up with the bare minimum(and, asking my grandmother, her grandmother actively went out of her way to not discuss the family's history. the culture vacuum runs deep in the us).

i know for a fact that i was not the only person in the entire united states to be in that same situation, and that many people in that situation were not so fortunate to have met incredibly kind, patient and willing-to-educate friends like i was. i was extraordinarily lucky. so you have a rather large population of people of Irish descent in a highly conservative and white environment without a "narrative" or really much of anything to anchor themselves to.

and in come republicans and, especially, nazis.

one thing that unites people of Irish descent in the us is, of course, being of Irish descent. and nazis are all about being 'racially superior,' co-opting imagery and cultural symbols, and emphasizing that the person they're trying to recruit is, has been, or could become a victim. introduce a vaguely conservative cishet straight white christian man to the idea that, because he is of Irish descent, he is superior, and he might just latch onto it as a facet of his identity. without having any connection to the culture, politics or history of Ireland besides that his great-great-great-grandmother that he never met had parents from Ireland. hell, if his recruiter is particularly savvy, he might walk away believing himself truly disenfranchised because of his race. in the us. while being white.

his idea of Irishness might even be entirely founded in stereotype, especially English anti-Irish propaganda that wormed its way into the states("Irish people get drunk all the time and they're all alcoholics" is not an uncommon sentiment, unfortunately). he's probably never even met an Irish person, or even really considered Irish people to be... yknow, real people, who are more than just stereotypes and cultural symbols divorced from their original context and meaning. and he won't care, either, because why should he? it fulfills a base need to feel a sense of belonging to an ingroup, especially one populated with victims rather than oppressors.

so you get shirts like this. they're a wearable monuments to the desolation and apathy of white culture with another country's flag crudely painted on.

Irish people, I NEED to know: What do you think of these weird shirts that rednecks in my home town wear?

[silvershoe]

re: your last rb about bi women, i’ve recently come to terms that i’m bi after thinking i was a lesbian for the longest time simply because of all the internalized hatred/disgust at myself for liking men and at men in general to an extent (until i realized that lesbianism isn’t defined by hatred/disgust towards men but attraction towards women) but it’s still so hard for me to come to terms with it?? especially because whenever i tell someone i’m bi or make a comment about a guy i find attractive it’s always assumed that like. my attraction to women comes second to that of men’s and that men will always be my first choice, that women are just a convenient option if i’m ever “bored” or something like that. and while i do see myself more readily with a man (that may just be internalized homophobia, unfortunately, that i still have to relearn), the idea of being with a straight man who can’t understand the complicated relationship i have with my sexuality is enough to scare me away from any relationships. like it took me so long to get to this point so to have that all invalidated in the event of dating a guy… idk. sorry for basically venting in your inbox, i’m just glad someone understands how i feel ;;;

don't apologize!! i really do want to open up the floor for people going through similar shit to feel like they can talk about it on my little blog <3

i guess i went through a kind of similar thing, thought i was a lesbian for a while before coming to terms with my attraction to men. part of it was realizing the label felt constricting, and even though i couldn't really picture myself with a man at the time i was questioning myself (definitely a result of a similar feeling of disgust/hatred aimed at myself; it felt obvious to like women and afab people but less safe to like cis men), i knew i wasn't solely interested in women. part of what helped me in the questioning period was dropping labels as a whole. all i knew was that i was queer on some level but i didn't feel the need to specify what "kind" of queer. i was comfortable with this lack of labelling for most of high school, and even now i don't really feel the need to stick with one label. my identifying as bi feels very fluid and i'm not exactly attached to it, it feels more like an easy explanation when it comes up in certain contexts if that makes sense. i'm a firm believer in sexuality as an ever changing, fluid part of living, at least for myself. once i started thinking of my sexuality in this way i really think it alleviated a lot of the stress i associated with "choosing" a label, which feels very much like an external pressure to me.

unfortunately the assumption that men will always be the preferred choice isn't going to change. the best advice i can give you is to learn how to not give a shit and know yourself, understand that it's okay to be more attracted to men; that doesn't and will never invalidate your attraction to women. the people in your life who really want to understand you and care for your wellbeing won't put pressure on you to explain yourself.

i'm dating a cis guy right now as someone who identifies as both bisexual and genderqueer (tentatively, i feel similarly about labelling in application to gender). i've had to accept that he won't ever fully understand my relationship with my sexuality or my gender, and there are things i won't understand about his experiences either. that's just something that comes with relationships in general. you have to be comfortable knowing you won't understand things you don't have experience with, but you can be empathetic, and you can listen to them if they're willing to talk about it, and vice versa. i promise you there are men out there who are emotionally mature enough to understand this balance, which i really think is essential to maintaining a healthy relationship.

to respond to your fear of feeling invalidated by being with a cis guy - i get it. and i won't lie and say i haven't felt this way, because i have. and it's difficult because it's not because of anything my bf has said or done, it's purely a result of him existing as a cis man, and he can't change that lol. what's really helped me is realizing that my attraction to men as a bi person is a different experience than, for example, a straight woman's attraction to men. that differentiation is really comforting and validating for me, because it reminds me that i am queer, which is something to be proud of. and of course i am aware that i'm reaping the societal benefits of being in a straight-passing relationship, something that i try to keep in mind, and something that i think all straight-passing couples should be aware of. seriously, as someone who's only been in visibly queer relationships before this, it's a whole new world to exist in public spaces with you're s/o when he's a dude.

anyway, this was a lot longer than intended, but i hope i maybe spoke to some of what you mentioned. and i mean this in the kindest way possible; don't worry so much. take a breath. things will come with time, and you'll be okay. xoxo

[epickiya722]

BNHA OC PROMPT

😁 BNHA OC #1 😁

Thanks to @izukachu I finally got the courage to actually put my OC out there. That and I'm in that phase that I have so many story ideas for so many ships right now, so yeah, I needed a distraction!

I don't really have a lot of OCs when it comes to fanfictions since I'm more focused on writing the canon characters and that, let's be honest, some people are cruel and feel like it's their obligation to criticize, criticize, criticize. Anyways, I'm not going to dwell into that.

Note, any OCs I have really aren't the focus to any fic I write. Goes for BNHA and other fandoms I write for. They're usually just background characters and 'convenient for the plot'. However! I do have OCs!

I have three that I take to and so far, only one of them has appeared in any of my fics. So boom! Here we are!

😁 EXPLORATION 😁

Name: Sakagami Hayate

Hiragana: さかがみ はやて

Kanji: 坂上 颯

Age: 17

Occupation: A second-year in General Studies attending Yuuei

Gender & Pronouns: Male, He/Him

Birthday: July 11

Physical Description: In the fic, he's stated to be a princely kind of cute. He has dark aqua blue somewhat 'messy' hair that fades in a lighter tone that he keeps short and 'intimidating' eyes of the same color. Usually has a friendly smile, the kind that puts you at ease. He's tall, standing at 5'10"/177.8 cm. His skin leans more on the tanner scale since he's also an outside person. He likes to dress in lose, comfort clothes. Hoodies, sweats, cuffed jeans, beanies, and graphic tees.

There's nothing much about Sakagami here. He comes from a simple household of two moms with a younger adoptive sister. In the story he's featured in, DON'T ENCOURAGE HIM, he starts off as a second-year with a crush on Kirishima who he later befriends. As of now in the story, he's an ally of 1A and 1B and occasionally shows up.

He's Japanese, identifies as a cis-male and still exploring his sexuality a bit, but he knows he's attracted to guys. He's 17 and a second-year at Yuuei in the General Studies class.

Sakagami is usually a collected individual. He has a handle on his physical and mental health, but it's a gamble when it comes to his emotional since he goes to school with other teenagers and their hormones. Anybody who knows him would say he's a genuine nice guy and a ray of sunshine.

His quirk, Emotions, allows him to emit his own emotions onto others at his own will. The stronger his mood, the stronger it effects his target. He tends to keep himself calm and happy, allowing others to feel comfortable around him. Another part of his quirk allows him to feel the emotions of others and can effect him just as much. Again, stronger the mood, stronger the effect. A perk of his quirk is the change of his voice. Let's say he's angry. His voice will lend on a more deeper side. Happy, his voice sounds melodic.

His relationships with others are the result of his quirk. Being that he can detect emotions, he will keep boundaries with people who needs the space. He's considerate of how others feels. He also tends to go out his way to aid and comfort people. Sometimes needs to be reminded to put his own needs first. With 1A and 1B, he had solidified a spot as a friend and ally. At one point in the story, he played a part in getting Shoda back into 1B and exposing another OC who serves as the antagonist. With his own friends and family, he has a good relationship.

He really doesn't have enemies, but he keeps his distance from people he doesn't believe to be good for him or others. He has had little to no interactions with villains, so his opinions are still pending. He just knows that not all villains had a choice and just need some affection in their life, but others seriously need the prison time.

😁 SCENARIOS 😁

Okay, okay. I like the scenarios listed and I'm amused that some of them he has been involved with some of these. So! I'm going to do a quick summary of his appearances in the story using said scenarios.

Hobbies: Sakagami indulges himself in writing (WOULDN'T YOU KNOW IT?) and art. It's a way to out his emotions when he needs to so he doesn't have to rant to others.

Sports Festival: Since that arc has already passed in the fic, I didn't write a scene for it. However, I like to imagine that Sakagami was there like the other classes to watch the first-years and that's when he developed a small crush on Kirishima, which he admits to in the fic.

Cultural Festival: This arc is an 'off-screen' moment in my fic, mentioned in passing. Like the other students, Sakagami was involved. His class did their own cafe stand. He was the star barista.

Chaos with Class A/B/LOV: He has yet (and probably won't) to encounter the LOV. Classes A and B, on the other hand, he has! To put it short and sweetly, Sakagami has over time became a friend to both classes. He likes to visit them in their dorms and sometimes engages in chatting with Kirishima over text. Both of them update the other about what's going on with their classes. He's one of the few upper classmen to look at 1A and B as kids who need guidance and support. They're still kids at the end of the day and the incidents were just random bad luck. He mentions that it's worrisome because they're only first-years.

😁 AU WEEK 😁

Again, I like these ideas and I have to use them in a later date. For now, I'm choosing one of them!

Villain/Hero AU: Had Sakagami be in the Hero Course, I see as one training to be hero like Thirteen, a Search and Rescue Hero. He can use his emotions detection to find people while also keeping others calm. I can see him also be a sidekick to Ms. Joke. He can be hands-on like her and use his emotional influence to calm villains down enough to get the drop on them.

😁 SHIPPING 😁

I don't have a clear plan for Sakagami's love life, since I'm a 'go with the flow' kind of writer. So far, he had a temporary one-sided attraction for Kirishima and later becomes friends with him. Note, he actually didn't intend to start a romance with Kirishima, just felt he should confess his feelings and respected that it wasn't mutual.

Sakagami also have a bit of a liking for romance and may once in a while try a hand at matchmaking when he knows the parties involved are mutually attracted to each other. So far, he's been successful.

😁 EXTRA!! 😁

When developing Sakagami, I didn't put any thought into him really. I had basic information in my head like age, gender and what class he's in. However, as time went on, I added a few more about him.

His quirk came first before his birthday. Seeing that I'm a Cancerian, I thought it would be amusing that he would be one, too, since Cancers are known to be the most emotional of the Zodiacs. I choose July 11 for the fact that I have a thing for doubles and that my birthday lies on the 22, which is also Tensei Iida's birthday.

Again, since I don't tend to use OCs a lot and sometimes don't care to, Sakagami doesn't have a lot of scenes in my fic. However, I do have a favorite scene for him and that's his first in person introduction with Bakugo. He's just so chill here. [LINK TO CHAPTER HERE]

Also, anytime he does uses a font, it's going to be Comic Sans. It's the only thing about him that some of his friends really despise. Like, "Sakagami, dude, there are other fonts!" And he's just like, "But I like this one”.

His interests also include memes and puns. He also has a habit of leaving his art supplies around and his classmates picks up after him and remind him to not do that. He has a set of stickers and buttons he's made himself and all his classmates have at least three of each. He's working on making more for Classes 1A and B. He plans to attend college for literature and art. He always sings along to musicals and can somehow sit through horror films.

His favorite foods include a lot of savory foods and desserts. He will not drink coffee and tea without sugar. It is a must to have sugar.

I, sadly, can't draw to save my life. However, that doesn't mean I would make this for my baby!

[gayerthanthee]

'get to know me' tag game

Rules: answer the questions and tag people you'd like to get to know better.

Tagged by: my recent friend @heyheysey who shocked me in the notifs when i saw her actually tag me-- i really need to get used to having mutuals :O

Tagging: @raineyclouds @screaming-garbagemouth @mizuraisu @yourlocalmusicalprostitute and this is a desperate one but also @bohemian-napsodyy pls come back bby, i hope you're safe. i miss you so bad <33

also, there are some parts where i mention and talked about gender dysphoria & crisis, and death of a loved one. if it's triggering pls go on and don't read.

What do you prefer to be called name-wise?

Cas or Xan (like sah-n)

When is your birthday?

january 9

Where do you live?

the Philippines

Three things you are doing right now:

watching videos about genderfluid people

contemplating about the places I'll be in the future

downing 3 cups of water before bed (hydrating is sexc. do it pls.)

Four fandoms that have piqued your interest?

marvel - my childhood sweetheart, but i've only become really immersed during 2016! not as active anymore about it though.

queen - i always heard my parents play songs before year '90 when i was young, and what really stuck with me was listening to this band and their many songs and concerts. i joined the hype when the movie about them dropped at 2018. not much active anymore on that too.

bnha - i always saw this around but?? i only got in sometime last year or mid 2018 and religiously went binge-reading the manga during the highs of pandemic because distracting yourself from self-deteriorating thoughts is sexy. take it from me.

haikyuu - this was a random one. i knew this longer than bnha because it's popular but it wasn't as interesting to me before. but then i saw that many of the blogs i follow like hq too and then they make content and then the rest is history. i started maybe last month, haven't read the manga yet but i weirdly know things already.

How has the pandemic been treating you?

everything is constantly crazy thank you for asking. wouldn't have it any other way though.

A song you can't stop listening to right now?

Forget You by CeeLo Green

How old are you?

(UPDATE: yeah i now feel uncomfy sharing this info but yeet it's gone now srry)

School, university, occupation, other?

hope i was extra enough to excel the first semester in senior high. self-learning is difficult when you have all the time in the house to ✨succumb to vulnerable thoughts✨

Do you prefer heat or cold?

i prefer the heat. although a cold environment is really convenient especially in our country, i prefer the warmth because of the comfort it brings, along with keeping me grounded.

Name one fact others may not know about you:

I haven't exactly coped over my uncle's passing and I don't know if i did anything about it. i remember the times he was healthy and feel regret each time because i was such an ass of a kid to him back then that i think i made his life harder than what he actually deserved. he messaged me a along time ago and because i was constantly mad at him, i just left it on read, no more after that. everytime i see the conversation, it makes ny chest gape even more. i was so much angry back then that i didn't treat him as i should because yeah there were times were i was nice or neutral and helped him a lot and made him laugh a bit but still. wow im shaking just typing this. i now message him every once in a while even though he's gone. like a delusional way to connect with him even though it's too late.

Are you shy?

not much, no. I may worry about what someone significant to me may think about me though. but otherwise i'm chill and tired 25/8

Pronouns

she/he/they. my sex is female and it feels so right being genderfluid but i feel like i'm just too influenced by my country's homophobic tradition and society norm for me to accept myself? it's really tight here, I haven't even come out yet. being an Asian is hard.

biggest pet-peeves?

people commenting on my 'femininity'. pls drop it, i'm not comfortable being told i look better in a dress and i should act more womanly-like. i will manspread while also maintain good hygiene thank you very much. it's not because i may identify as male, but because gender roles is a big joke, okay? like sure this is my sex but i can also be a good boy or look sleek in a suit. it's confusing but it's not that hard. dresses are nice but they're not for me to wear just because i'm 'a girl'. is it obvious I have gender dysphoria??

What is your favorite "dere" type?

don't actually have one. they're all equally cool, i just don't have a preference. tsundere's are more above for me though.

Rate your life from 1-10, 1 being crappy and 10 being the best it could be.

it fluctuates from 4 to 7 like my gender. life is a wheel. you're on the low and it all goes up from here, but then you'll also be grounded and the cycle goes again.

What's your main blog?

this, @gayerthanthee , I have sideblogs but they aren't really relevant? i don't even remember why i made them?

List your side blogs and what they are used for:

homemade-genius - oh i did this because i tried to be funny and make some jokes. apparently i do not even have the ENERGY and MEMORY to post in it, so what made me think I even have humor too??

cas-xx - ick did this when i used to simp for some guy back in junior year. i still cringe to this day—not because i made a sideblog, but because i actually?? had the guts to simp for a straight cis-male who was also materialistic and firmly believed and follows gender-roles? it always makes me bleaurgh.

Is there something people need to know about you before becoming friends?

please consider that while i'm not picky with my gender, i still do not like being considered a female only, and because of society norms. we the gays are OUTSIDE the society norms. i would always rather being called handsome over beautiful. also pls consider i have gender dysphoria and crisis. it's crazy.

p.s. it's long overdue and i'm real sorry. i had to shut off from the world to finish my tasks and projects. and now i'm finally done!! thank you sey 🥺 this is my first time being tagged in a get to know me!!

[doberbutts]

It can't be transphobic violence because I was not presenting as, clocked as, or pursing transition as a trans man at any of those points in time. I was identical to any other cis black girl (+/- intersex traits) at the time. These people were treating me like a black woman because that's what they thought I was- or a Mexican woman in the case of the one customer. So it was misogynoir, not transphobia, not homophobia, that inspired their actions. They saw a black girl existing in a space they felt she shouldn't, and punished her for it. It doesn't matter that that black girl is actually a black trans man.

I don't need statistics to prove whether it's misogyny or not. The literal legal definition of hate crimes hinges not just on your actual identity but also on what you are perceived as.

It is the perpetrator's bias, not your identity, that determines the "category" of the crime. You don't have to believe me. This comes directly from the government of the USA, and from multiple other governments around the world.

It is not anti-Sikh bigotry that inspires the uptick of attacks during 9/11 when they are mistaken for Muslims. It's Islamophobia. It doesn't matter that they're not Muslims. It matters that the bigots who attack them think they are.

Likewise it doesn't matter that I'm not a woman. I lived and was attacked as one for two decades. YOU do not get to silence ME when I tell you these things have happened to me. YOU do not get to define MY experience to make it fit conveniently into your understanding. Like it or not, those who harmed me in these and other situations did it because they wanted to hurt a black girl existing somewhere they didn't want to see her. My experiences match my sisters', and they match black women's all across the world. Of course I find solidarity with them. It's all misogyny. It doesn't magically stop being misogyny just because you don't like admitting that sometimes men do actually experience what women do.

If people were to do it *now*, now that I am very blatantly transgender, now that I pass more often than I don't, *now* it would be a mixture of transphobia and misogyny and homophobia. But back then? They weren't attacking me because they didn't like transgender people. They were attacking me because they didn't like BLACK WOMEN.

“trans men don’t experience misogyny because they’re men thus cannot experience women’s oppression”

I hate to tell you this but even cis men experience misogyny if they step a toe over the line of what our incredibly sexist society sees as “proper” for a man. You really don’t think that a man with interests or expression the world sees as “female” aren’t treated with violence?