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just innocently polishing my dagger for no particular reason at all. so bloody excited!

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truly some people have no genre savviness whatsoever. A girl came back from the dead the other day and fresh out of the grave she laughed and laughed and lay down on the grass nearby to watch the sky, dirt still under her nails. I asked her if she’s sad about anything and she asked me why she should be. I asked her if she’s perhaps worried she’s a shadow of who she used to be and she said that if she is a shadow she is a joyous one, and anyway whoever she was she is her, now, and that’s enough. I inquired about revenge, about unfinished business, about what had filled her with the incessant need to claw her way out from beneath but she just said she’s here to live. I told her about ghosts, about zombies, tried to explain to her how her options lie between horror and tragedy but she just said if those are the stories meant for her then she’ll make another one. I said “isn’t it terribly lonely how in your triumph over death nobody was here to greet you?” and she just looked at me funny and said “what do you mean? The whole world was here, waiting”. Some people, I tell you.

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Reblog to make him lose another 200 billion, like to make him lose 1 billion

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Put your fucking knight on a leash it keeps trying to duel mine

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Why do you know so much about Nazism and their symbols? Really suspicious of you to know so much about Nazi symbols around the world

I have a few honors degrees in the following fields:

1. Criminology with a focus on hate crimes against trans individuals, and religious extremism

2. Political Science with a focus on far-right ideology

3. Biblical studies (the aim of this was to get a more grounded understanding of the Bible so I can attach what I learn to my other degrees, to hyper-focus on Christian far-right movements and better combat their rhetoric)

So, yeah. That's why I know so much about far-right symbols and their history, I've studied it and talked to people who are members of some of these groups.

But sure "suspicious", gonna start accusing me of being far-right now? Already got the "cis gay man", "actually a trans man", "not really trans", "pedo for being ok with dating/intimacy with an agereg" accusations against me, might as well add another!

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LIKE TO CHARGE REBLOG TO CAST LET'S GET THIS FUCKER EXPLODEDED

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Everyone's all "i'll fuck your dad" until they realize that means they'd have to fuck someone over 40. and those people are weak.

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MAGA misogyny is the cornerstone of every other MAGA policy.

Normalizing abuse towards girls and making girls always unsafe is the design, not the flaw.

#paternalism #patriarchy

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like/reblog if u are:

a bitch

a bastard

an all around fool

an omnipresent all-powerful being

a sparrow

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capable of moving at immense, incomprehensible speeds

an eldritch being

no one will know which one u chose! :D

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Hello spurgie, i was wondering if you have any thought on love as a concept that you would like to share? As an exvangelical and a queer woman in particular. Are there parts of the evangelical view of love that you have decided to keep etc.?

I’m asking because I feel like there are so incredibly valuable observations to be made - I am a queer woman myself but I just hyperfocused on evangelicals for a while so I don’t have any first hand experience. But between wider society‘s notion of love, the evangelical view and what I learn from my queer polyamorous friends love as a concept sure is fascinating. I am particularly thinking about commitment being maybe the most integral part of a romantic relationship - a notion I feel is kind of the overlapping part in both the evangelical and polyamorous view but not wider society‘s.

Hmmmm that's an interesting question. I'm going to try not to overthink it lol.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like your main question is this: are there any things, like the idea of commitment/fidelity being very important in committed relationships, that I've brought over into my secular life from my evangelical upbringing (with a focus on the evangelical idea of what love is)? And my short answer is, no. I'm a monogamous person and I do value commitment, and the monogamous part may be related to my upbringing somehow (personally I think I've just always known I don't have the energy for anything else lol) but I don't necessarily think I *wouldn't* value commitment if I hadn't been raised in an evangelical church. I don't think Christianity owns the concept of fidelity and in my experience, it seems like a lot of people come to the conclusion without the influence of any religious authority. As far as the overlap between that and communities like the polyamorous community, I think commitment is important in that community specifically for way different reasons than it is in evangelicism. The latter mostly cares about it as a control tactic, particularly for women.

When I think of how I view love now vs. back when I was in church, I'd compared the former to like, a beautiful crystal vase and the latter to a pile of tiny glass shards on the floor. Back then I could look at the pile and guess that all the pieces were related to each other, and maybe they fit together somehow, but I had no idea how to even begin assembling them lol. I see love now as one thing, like one positive force, whereas back then there was the kind of love you feel for god, vs. the kind of love you feel romantically, vs. the kind of love you feel for your fellow human beings and I was getting *very* mixed messages about all of them, all the time. We were told they were all the same (and that is their message to secular folks as well) but that was contradicted at almost every turn.

Being a bisexual person in an evangelical community didn't help the confusion (at the time evangelicism focused most of its homophobia on gay men and didn't even entertain the idea of bisexuality) but there was a lot of complicated messaging as well. Like you mentioned, "commitment" was something that my church would say they thought was an important thing for marriages specfically, but that message came with a million caveats. It was more than just "it's good to not cheat on your partner!", it was like "if you're a woman in a room alone with a man who isn't your husband, you're being unfaithful to your husband" and just a million little rules like that, primarily for women but also for men to some degree. Women were expected to adhere to those rules perfectly, while men were given unlimited amounts of forgiveness when it came to being unfaithful, or breaking any of the arbitrary rules, and the kind of environment really makes it difficult to understand what true commitment really is. That kind of thinking was applied to every aspect of romantic relationships, not just fidelity, and as a woman it made the idea of romantic love feel more like a lifelong challenge, or a chore.

Anything I can think of related to love that I believe is specific to Evangelicism, I've left behind. I didn't grow up around many marriages I'd want to emulate, my own parents included, and when I think of evangelical relationships I think of a lot of judgment and control and micromanaging. I actually actively try to *not* be like the adults I knew as a kid in my own marriage. I think anything positive related to love, whether romantically or otherwise, is something that can be learned and understood on a universal level.

tl;dr: Evangelicals are extremely hypocritical when it comes to love and don't practice what they preach to secular people. I actually believe being raised in that kind of environment did more harm than good when it came to romantic relationships, and I've developed a much healthier idea of "love" since leaving my church. I haven't intentionally brought any of their teachings into my own relationships, and I would not look to them when it comes to advice on the topic.

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Republicans deliberately use coded language to trick people to vote for them and radicalize their group. Many don't even realize they're radicalized or what they're saying is even racist. This is why they think the Left is "over reacting" because the either know they're using coded language and don't care, or they don't know anything at all.

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The Day Book, Chicago, January 6, 1912

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Woman confronts anti-choice protestors near a family planning clinic.

Love to see it, behind her 100%. They shouldn’t get a moment’s peace.