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5 movies about bullying

Here you can find a list of 5 bullying movies which integrate bullying in their storyline. You might be able to find some of these movies about bullying on Netflix, Hulu or Amazon Prime.

1. The Class (2007)

This Estonian film, originally named “Klass” focuses on school violence and abuse by putting teenager Joosep in the centre of aggressive and repetitive bullying by the entirety of his class. Victim of horrendous acts of beating and humiliation, his sufferings are prolonged throughout the film, only to be revolted against by one classmate named Kaspar who decides to stand aside him and face the brutality of his aggressors. Raw and brutal, it undeniably conveys anger and frustration against these unforgivable adolescent acts that seem to have no ending. Truly shocking, it’ll leave its audience shaken and touched.

2. Bully (2011)

Bullying is an ongoing problem that changes, affects and puts the lives of millions of children in danger. It is a problem for all kinds of individuals but especially kids as these are still at a stage of development and emotional interferences like these will highly influence their feelings of self-worth and identity. This 2011 documentary focuses exactly on these issues that are often given too little importance and which in some cases lead to heartbreaking suicides, as was the case of 11-year-old Ty Smalley and 17-year-old Tyler Long. It follows the lives of 5 students victims of bullying and attempts to shed light onto this matter, which it successfully does as an emotionally grabbing, powerful and sincere documentary.

3. Carrie (1976)

This iconic film of horror and supernatural is based on a Stephen King novel and is the first adaptation to the screen of the many books of his who have come to visual life. It centres around a young teenage girl with telekinetic powers who’s struggle in school comes from the heavy bullying from her classmates, who make fun of her strange and awkward persona. At home things aren’t better either as her mother is a religiously fanatic woman who sabotages the normal education Carrie should receive. Things escalate and come to a gruesome and grisly end for her and the others around her. With great performances and a heavy and impactful storyline, “Carrie” is a classic for the cruel bullying of characters in film.

4. Lord of The Flies (1990)

Based on the classic novel of the same name by William Golding, this story truly represents the cruelty and barbarism of youth and the influence group pressure can have on individuals. When 24 young students from a military school land on a deserted island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean, due to a plane crash, they are left all alone with only one delirious and injured adult by their sides. As they try and organise themselves in order to help each other survive, we notice the birth of a clan with a decisive leader which leads to rivalry and intense bullying between the young teens. A true depiction of what a monster the human being can turn into when norms and values fail to exist within a society containing aggressiveness and power-hunger, and when under the influence of tyrannical and oppressive order.

5. The Mighty (1998)

This film stars Sharon Stone as the mother of a 13-year old, a highly intelligent boy who nevertheless suffers from Morquio syndrome and must therefore walk in crutches. However he soon befriends Max, an oversized but kind-hearted boy and they both form a bond and protect each other from bullies. Although the end is still far the events leading to it reveal important aspects to the characters and as the time advances, so will the audience’s attachment and sympathy. A beautiful story of friendship and impartiality towards the differences of others that encourages the pure and good-natured hearts to overcome the difficulties of life and join together in order to make it as beautiful while it lasts.

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Op-Ed: Only adults can stop bullying in schools

Most probably, you are familiar with the following situation: a group of children stands and tosses a hat to each other, and a boy runs from one to another and tries to grab it. Adults, including teachers, often think children have so much fun and their games are just like that. But it's one thing when they threw my hat today, tomorrow - yours, and the day after tomorrow – someone else’s. Yes, in that case, you might think that this is a game. But if this is done every day in relation to only one child, it is already bullying.

Often, parents and teachers think that bullying is just childish naughtiness. They close their eyes to this problem and try to stay away from arguments. But this position held by adults is wrong.

Nowadays, there is a lot of information about this phenomenon in mass media. Children persecute each other, parents argue with offenders and teachers, and some of the students even bring cold steel to their school. Why does it happen?

There has always been the problem of bullying in schools. The fact is that not all cases became public. According to the UNESCO Institute of Statistics, one third of the globe’s youth is bullied; this ranges from as low as 7% in Tajikistan to 74% in Samoa and is pervasive across all regions and countries of different income levels. For example, 44% of adolescents in Afghanistan experience bullying, as do 35% of adolescents in Canada, 26% in Tanzania and 24% in Argentina.

Often, adults - both teachers and parents - do not know what to do when a child is being bullied. They are lost. And some mums and dads do not even know what is happening to their son or daughter at school. If you are a parent and begin to notice that your son or daughter suddenly starts to be rude to you, stops doing homework, and generally announces that he or she no longer wants to go to school, keep in mind that bullying may be the reason for this behavior. It is possible that your child is being bullied by a classmate and, from this, the child is under constant stress. In this case, your child's behavior is understandable. When children abruptly lose educational motivation, they do not want to develop and they stop being interested in what they liked before - all of these are the consequences of bullying. And it should alert parents in the first place.

Bullying is the repetitive aggressive behavior of one person or group of people and is a very cruel form of treatment. By inflicting physical harm or causing moral suffering to someone, the offenders enjoy it in a way.

There are three main forms of bullying: physical abuse, verbal abuse, and social isolation. Physical abuse is when a child is beaten, kicked, locked up in a room, or when his things are damaged. Verbal abuse is verbal humiliation, insults, or giving offensive nicknames. Social isolation is when children do not want to sit at the same desk with you, stand next to you at a physical education class, or even talk to you.

Some parents believe that, when their child is being teased, he should deal with this problem on his own. From parents, you can often hear, “Why are you sneaking? You must decide everything yourself! I do not want to raise a sissy out of you and every time interfere on every occasion.” Or, “Try to earn the sympathy of the offender, win his favor, negotiate with him.” Also, parents can give this piece of advice: “Well, ignore him, do not pay attention, then he will let you alone.” And fathers generally like to advise the following: “Give a rebuff to him. Be stronger, be braver.” Parents simply do not understand that their child, who is the object of bullying, no longer has the strength to resist this pressure. Indeed, as a rule, not one type of bullying is used against him but several at once.

The fact is that bullying affects not only the child being bullied but also the children watching the situation, or bystanders. They think, “if no one stops the bullying, then this is normal and it should be so.” This does not pass without a trace for the bully, too; reality is distorted in his mind, which makes it more difficult for him later to build relationships in a team or family. Having once felt the power over others, he gets pleasure from it.

Adults must be able to distinguish bullying from conflict. So, in a conflict, both parties bear the same responsibility for what happens in their relationship and can evenly influence the situation - this is a one-time action. Bullying, on the other hand, is a purposeful, repetitive action committed for the purpose of causing pain and receiving a pleasure in return. Conflict has a reason, bullying doesn't.

Sometimes, we hear from the parents, “So what, children shouldn't be in conflict at all?” But if conflict is the normal dynamic of the group's development, then bullying is a pathology of its development. If the conflict can be resolved, then bullying can only be stopped. And adults must definitely interfere; the children themselves will not improve the situation. It is important to get the bullied child a chance to talk. Yes, it's not easy. They may be afraid of bringing up the topic or seeing the indifference of adults. It is also difficult for teachers in this regard. Sometimes, even very good teachers shrug their shoulders: “We do not know what to do with this ...”;

A child who has found himself in a bullying situation should, first of all, be told, “You must not be silent!” At this moment, it is important for him to trust someone, to speak out, because bullying is not a shame, not a disgrace, and in general the child is not guilty of anything, which means that he no longer needs to endure. When working with a child who has suffered from bullying, you should try to help him raise his self-esteem, such as by saying that he is good and clever. It is important for him to hear these words from his parents. Surely, it is necessary to explain that the situation in which he finds himself does not make him better and stronger, it only hinders his development.

Sometimes, parents transfer their child to another school. But first you need to try to resolve the issue with the teachers. If necessary, involve the school administration. You can deal with bullying. But it's a long journey and sometimes a difficult one. And here it is important to consider that, at a younger age, this process is easier. However, if adults do not intervene in the situation and remain indifferent, the consequences can be quite serious.

Most often, children with some peculiarities become the object of bullying. For example, they have colored hair, protruding ears, or some kind of physical disabilities. A child with mental disabilities from a dysfunctional family can also become a victim. In turn, a bully can be a child who really wants to achieve leadership positions in a team and to be in the top roles. And, unfortunately, they do not know how to achieve this in socially acceptable ways - for example, by means of success in sports, studies, or social activities. Very often, children who are abused by their parents become aggressors. Thus, the child relieves his stress by acting out on his peers.

It is important to remember that bullying is not a two-person problem between a bully and victim. This is a problem for the entire team, for the entire system. If we are talking about a school class, then this situation needs to be addressed at the level of adults, not children. By standing together and preventing tossing someone’s hat, the number of depressed and suicidal children can drop along with those who fear for their life while attending school.

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How they deal with bullying abroad (Canada and Russia)

Canada Canadians have founded the Promoting Relationships and Eliminating Violence Network (PREVNet) to create a national strategy to reduce bullying in the country. It consists of 62 scientists from 27 Canadian universities and 52 national groups. In Canada, the main measures for dealing with bullying are directed at parents, as their involvement in the bullying problem is not high enough. Canadians believe that parents and school staff must learn how to recognize and “treat” abusers - a key prevention step. In addition, parents are advised to learn to control themselves and not show aggression so that children have a healthy example of relationships with people. Canada has also taken the Finnish bullying program Kiva as a basis, which has performed well in Finland. The point of this program is to share responsibility for cases of bullying: not only the victim and the bully are to blame, but the general culture of the school, peer pressure, the dynamics of family relationships, and much more are also important. This approach helps to create an environment of respect, sympathy and security in all areas. Russia Russian bullying measures are mainly aimed at resolving situations that have already occurred. Parents create a safe environment for conversations with their children and use conciliatory measures in schools. There is no law on bullying in Russia. In hard cases, parents consult a psychologist, government agencies or public organizations. For example, the Bullying Prevention Center provides advice on how to deal with cyberbullying. The “Travli.net” and “Together Against Bullying” projects inform children and their parents about bullying and train instructors to work in schools. The organizers conduct classroom hours for children and adults, create classroom mood questionnaires to prevent bullying. In addition, an Estonian project “Be brave” is working in Russia, too. On the website you can get information support for children, parents and school.

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How they deal with bullying abroad (Great Britain and the USA)

Great Britain

In Great Britain, prevention against bullying begins as early as possible, because they are convinced that bullying participants do not study well and cannot build good relationships in the future. Teachers take special training where they are taught specific bullying prevention techniques. Some of them are:

Buddy Benches. They are special benches for elementary school students. Children can sit on them when they are sad and want to find a friend. Teachers keep an eye on these benches and help those who sit on them to join other children.

Personal and Social Education - weekly classes in which problems are discussed in a team. As a rule, students try together to solve the problem of a particular student. This creates a sense of cohesion and team spirit and reduces the risk of bullying. Moreover, there are special lessons on countering cyberbullying.

Anti-bullying programs. Schools have special programs that maintain a peaceful environment outside of a school. For example, an online map was created for children, on which you can mark where they were bullied. As the map updates, teachers check for new dangerous spots. Schools often organize self-help classes, where older students who have experienced bullying tell younger students how to overcome it.

Method of Shared Concern is used when bullying has occurred. The purpose of the approach is to establish a dialogue between the victim and the bully. Sometimes bullies do not understand what they are exposing other people to, so being face to face with them in open conversation and understanding their feelings is a powerful impression that produces results.

Bills. In 2016, the UK passed the first anti-bullying in schools law, but so far it only works in Northern Ireland. Moreover, the Education and Inspection Act has given schools a duty to take measures to encourage good behavior and prevent all forms of bullying among students.

USA

In the USA, bullying is carried out at the legislative level. Georgia passed the first law in 1999, followed by other states, each with their own rules for dealing with bullying.

For example, in Georgia, you cannot use gadgets for bullying purposes. Nevada has criminalized verbal or written threats and intimidation of schoolchildren. There is even a special public organization - Bully Police USA - that assesses the quality of bullying laws and supports students who have been bullied. In addition, the police and the court are actively involved in the fight against bullying on school campuses.

There is no federal bullying law in the United States. But if bullying is associated with any discrimination - state educational institutions are obliged to consider the issue as a violation of civil rights. All American bullying laws can be found on the government website. https://www.stopbullying.gov/

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10 FAQs about Bullying at Schools

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Glossary on Bullying

A: Anti-social behaviours

Anti-social behaviours include getting into fights, bullying, physical assault, truanting, stealing, vandalism, persistently lying, using illegal drugs and misusing alcohol.

B: ​Bullying  

Bullying  is an ongoing misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal,  physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical,  social and/or psychological harm. 

C: Climate (school)   

School  climate is the milieu created by interactions among and between adults and  students, as well as individuals' beliefs and attitudes about the school and about students.

D: Dignity production   

Dignity  production is the process of expressing positive regard for a student or students which results in greater inclusion and positive emotions.

E: Empathy   

Empathy  is the ability to identify and share the feeling of another.

F: Fidelity of implementation   

Fidelity  of implementation (sometimes called program fidelity) is how closely a school  adheres to the way an approach was designed to be implemented. It refers to  all aspects of the approach including content, number and frequency of sessions, the delivery and the participants.

H: Harm

Harm is physical or psychological damage or injury; something that causes someone or something to be hurt, broken, made less valuable, reputable or successful, etc.

I: Inclusion/inclusive education  

Inclusion, when  referring to inclusive education, means that all students attend and engage  in age-appropriate, regular classes and are supported to learn, contribute  and participate in all aspects of the life of the school.

L: ​LGBTIQA+  

LGBTIQA+  stands for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans/transgender, Intersex, Queer/questioning, and Asexual – and is one of many acronyms that represent common sexual and gender identities in the community. The + symbol is used to  show that there are many more ways to identify as gender and/or sexually diverse. There are many variations of this acronym.

M: Moral disengagement

Moral disengagement is a set of social and cognitive processes through which people can disengage from actions which are inhumane or hurtful toward other people.

O: Online hate sites

Online hate sites are those that have been established specifically for insulting and contemptuous remarks or images of a nominated person.

P: Psychological bullying

Psychological bullying is an out of date term which originally referred to non-physical and usually covert behaviours in bullying aimed at creating fear. It is more appropriate to talk about psychological harm than psychological bullying.

R: ​Relational bullying  

Relational  bullying, also called social bullying, is repeatedly ostracising others or  convincing peers to reject another person, as well as sharing rumours or private information.

S: School community

The school community is the students, school staff (teachers, administrators, other staff and volunteers), parents and carers, and others with an interest in the school.

T: Tolerance

Tolerance is the willingness to accept the existence of opinions, behaviour and practices that conflict or differ from one's own.

U​: Upstander

An  Upstander is someone who takes action against bullying behaviour. When an  Upstander sees someone being bullied, they do something about it. They help  to stop the bullying from happening, or they support the person who’s being  bullied.

V: ​Violence

Violence  is the intentional use of physical force or power, threatened or actual, against another person(s) that results in psychological harm, injury or in  some cases death.

W: Whole-school approach   

A whole-​school approach is one which focuses on positive partnerships and assumes that all members of the school community have a significant role to play. 

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Anti-Bullying Week 2020: United Against Bullying

September 18, 2020  Anti-Bullying Week 2020: United Against Bullying UK, England - Anti-Bullying Week happens in schools across England each November, which is from Monday 16th to Friday 20th November this year. This nationwide event is organised by the Anti-Bullying Alliance (ABA) and is intended to raise awareness of the issue of bullying among children, especially in schools. Parents and children of all ages are encouraged to get involved in the event and take part in activities that will help to shine a light on the problem of bullying and ways to help resolve the issue.

The theme for Anti-Bullying Week 2020 is: United Against Bullying. Anti-bullying Alliance has worked with over 300 young people and 100 members of school staff to develop the theme for this year's Anti-Bullying Week. Anti-Bullying Week 2020 manifesto for change:

”Anti-Bullying Week is no different. Bullying has a long lasting effect on those who experience and witness it. But by channelling our collective power, through shared efforts and shared ambitions, we can reduce bullying together. From parents and carers, to teachers and politicians, to children and young people, we all have a part to play in coming together to make a difference.” “This year, more than ever, we’ve witnessed the positive power that society can have when we come together to tackle a common challenge.”

Numerous resources will be provided over the coming months: School tools including films and cross curricular activity ideas - these will be tailored to ensure they can be delivered both face to face and online. School Staff Award: where pupils can nominate their favourite anti-bullying member of school staff - nominations open until Friday 25th September. Odd Socks Day: wear odd socks to school or work to highlight that we are all unique on the first day of Anti-Bullying Week. We have created a school and workplace pack with support of children's TV star Andy Day and his band Andy and the Odd Socks. Sign up as a supporter of Anti-Bullying Week and download a certificate to display. Get involved online - with resources and ideas about how to play your part on social media. A toolkit for parents and carers - to help them bring Anti-Bullying Week to life at home. Merchandise: we have purchased a limited amount of official Anti-Bullying Week 2020 specially designed merchandise. Don't miss out and pre order today! 

The Anti-Bullying Alliance is a leading organization dealing with bullying. It conducts outreach at the local and national levels to prevent bullying and achieve lasting change. Alliance members, both individuals and organizations, continually share information and good practices.

“We’re all a piece in the puzzle and, together, we’re united against bullying.” (ABA)

We look forward to you joining us this November for Anti-Bullying Week. For more information and a full schedule of events for Anti-Bullying Week 2020: United Against Bullying, please visit anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk

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THIS MUST NOT BE REPEATED!

Open letter

To the Prime Minister of the Federal Republic of Germany, Angela Merkel.  

Dear Angela Merkel,

My name is Margarita Kornilova. I recently became interested in the topic of bullying. Bullying is the use of force, coercion, or threats to abuse, aggressively dominate, or intimidate. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. Children of several categories often turn out to be the victims - children from dysfunctional families, low-income families, physically disabled, shy, or even with bright talents. Violence takes many forms. These are extortion (money and things), psychological bullying (blackmail or insults), and physical violence (slaps, blows).

I was especially interested in Russian schoolchildren abroad being bullied in schools, and I started reading stories of Russian parents living abroad who talked about how they deal with the bullying of their children. I was very impressed by the story of a Russian boy who lives in Germany. In Germany, bullying of Russian children has become a constant practice and that’s because of television propaganda. And I ask you for to pay attention to this and stop the persecution of Russian children in this country.

There is an example. Russian boy, Daniel Tuvier, is 11 years old. He is forced to endure constant attacks from other students who are aggressive towards him because of the material they see on TV about Russia.

Usually, children from school are greeted with the words "What are your grades?"; but, in the Tuvier family, the first question is completely different: "Were you not bullied today?" 11-year-old Daniel is a 6th grade student in the city of Schönevide. The boy got used to the attacks from German children, but the boys quarrel not because of football or girls but because of Russia. Tuvier says, "I have had cases when I was called 'stupid Russian.' I was kicked. I was held by two boys, and another boy tried to pee on me. Other children did not want to sit next to me on the school bus."

At the age of 11, the boy learned to be brave; he knows how to stand up for himself and to avoid fights. His father Denis says that teenage quarrels build character, but what is happening has begun to cross the line. The man assures that the family tried to struggle. They complained to the director, met with the parents of the boys’ parents. Tuvier’s parents even went to court, but this did not help solve the problem. It turned out that the reason why German children openly say that they hate their Russian peers originated from the ProSieben TV channel, Daniel's father explained. In particular, the ProSieben TV channel released a report in which the journalist states that children in Russia are taught about war from childhood. Offensive, explicit and violent content impacts young minds. This content can shape their minds in the wrong manner, or cause them to become mentally disturbed and more aggressive.

The father wrote complaints to all German media, but there was no response. Denis says that, for the sake of his child's peace of mind, he is ready to give up everything and start a new life - to return to Russia and to obtain citizenship again. He is confident that, in a Russian school, his child will think about how to gain good knowledge but not how to defend himself against attacks from his peers.

I, Margarita Kornilova, want the chancellor, Angela Merkel and the German state to stand up for the Russian people and their children and also pay more attention to the problems of families from abroad. Many parents are afraid to send their children to German schools, and sometimes they do not even know where to go if the child is offended or experiences psychological terror.

The school system is obliged to resist bullying in the toughest possible way, but the German system has a huge gap in this regard. I agree that a system for countering bullying in schools is currently being created but, unfortunately, it does not sufficiently take into account the multicultural aspect, which leads to dire consequences. In addition, sometimes teachers become witnesses to verbal and physical bullying by their charges of children from multicultural families, but they choose not to pay attention to it or pretend that nothing special was happening. Such indifference is tantamount to tacit approval, which only fuels the persecution. It is not uncommon for teachers themselves to have a negative attitude towards a child from a foreign family. Both from a moral and a professional point of view, this is an unacceptable, irresponsible position! School administrators often prefer not to disclose these kind of facts because incidents with elements of bullying damage the image of the institution. Until school bullying becomes a tragedy, they prefer to ignore it. Only later, the price of such an attitude may turn out to be too high.

The case of my compatriot, Daniel, is an example of such indifferent, insufficient prevention of bullying in schools. In this regard, I, as representatives of the Russian-speaking community and as a caring person, earnestly ask you to hold the following urgent measures in Russia.

The work of the relevant departments:

1. To organize in all schools of the Federal Republic of Germany lessons on tolerance in all classes.

2. Organize meetings and group discussions with all parents about bullying.

3. Conduct courses of lectures and seminars for school teaching staff on the prevention of school violence.

4. Provide all schools with professional psychologists specializing in the prevention of bullying in educational institutions.

5. Create a series of social videos for teenagers on the rules of protection in various situations of school violence (in all languages).

6. Develop and distribute booklets to parents that include information about the inadmissibility of school violence as well as specific instructions for schoolchildren who are the victims of bullying.

In conclusion, I want to say that I am addressing not only the chancellor, but also the Federal Republic of Germany and entire German society. I'm sure Daniel and his family truly love Germany. They live and work here and want to live in peace and harmony. Parents should not be afraid while their children are at school. They don't have to worry about the psychological state of children every day. After all, it cannot be that smart and strong adults cannot protect weak and defenseless children. It shouldn't be so! This must not happen again!

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Letter to The Washington Post Editor

Despite the fact that my blog is about bullying at school, I want to tell a personal story which also can be called a story about bullying.

Recently, I read an article called, "Some VOA journalists forced to leave U.S. soon as visas expire."  It was a good article, but there is one more problem--Fulbright scholars are not allowed to enter the USA.

I am a Fulbright Scholar from Russia for the 2020-21 academic year, but I am not able to go to the USA as a cultural ambassador. Recently, US president has issued a proclamation suspending the issuance of certain types of visas (including J1) and limiting entry of non-residents to protect American workers. This proclamation will remain in effect until December 31, 2020, but may be extended.

J1 visa is very popular in the United States as it allows them to attract talents from overseas, including talented teachers, research scholars, and government visitors like me. Improving the quality of teaching the Russian language in American colleges and universities and sharing my experience with American students is my mission as a native speaker. By this, we do not take jobs away from Americans; our jobs are created by the universities themselves. Thus, the decree of the American president is a direct threat to the development of quality education.

Ceasing J1 visas will have dire consequences to the U.S. in light of the pandemic. The suspension will hurt American education and derail America’s progress in giving the best education in the world. And I hope US president will reconsider his decision and realize the importance of foreigners in the educational system of the United States.

Margarita Kornilova, Russia 

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Bullying at school - 7 tips for parents:

1. In any case, do not look for the reasons for bullying in the child themselves.

This is an example of how parents can inflict additional trauma on children in a difficult situation.

2. Do not make direct contact with the abuser of the child in order to resolve the conflict.

With such a reaction, you can achieve the opposite result - you will not convince the bully by persuasion, even if he is only 10 years old. This will only make him angry or provoke him, so he may intensify the persecution in revenge for the slandering.

3. Do not force the child to admit that he has problems with classmates, if he is not ready or does not want to have a heart-to-heart talk.

4. Do not panic or show weakness to your child if you find out that he is being bullied by his classmates.

Excessive pressure will lead to additional problems - the child may keep to himself. If he wants to share his experiences with you, he will tell you everything himself.

5. To support the child, find the right words that can heal the child's soul, and soften the pain of defeat from the experience of humiliation.

Tell him that he is not alone, that you are together, and that you are a team, because you are his support. And even if the problem is solved only by moving to another school or moving to another area of the city, these words will always be medicine for him.

6. If the school does not respond to a problem situation, does not support you and your child, or ignores the facts of the bullying, take matters into your own hands. 

Go to the local education authorities and write a complaint (application) addressed to the management of the institution where your child is studying.

7. Do not be angry with the abuser of the child. Control the anger and forgive the bully because he is just a child whose parents, for whatever reason, did not cope with their main task at a certain stage.

Perhaps they gave him little love, education, attention and empathy, or did not love him at all. This is not your problem, but the problem of someone else's family. Forgive the bully, and help your child forgive him.

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Stars who experienced bullying at school

Tom Cruise

At first sight, it seems impossible not to admire this handsome man, but that was exactly how it was at school --they hated Tom Cruise.

The actor who starred in the film, ”Interview with the Vampire,” was going through not-the-most-successful school years. The fact is that he was considered retarded. He was bullied by his classmates because of dyslexia. Therefore, he changed schools 15 times, but he always experienced psychological and physical bullying.

Once, already being an adolescent, he realized that it was time to defend himself. He was the first to attack his classmates, and they quickly became quiet. 

Leonardo DiCaprio

It's hard to even imagine that the star of the most iconic films was teased at school.The actor, who recently starred in “Once Upon a Time in Hollywood,” was a D student. But, probably the rest of his classmates were A students because Leo was bullied precisely for his poor grades.

Once, in an interview, the actor admitted that he just did not like studying. But the young talent didn’t pay much attention to his peers. After all, while in his school years, Leo already actively starred in commercials and films.

 Julia Roberts

Julia Roberts also experienced bullying. At school, the girl was nicknamed “the frog.” And this is because of her big mouth, which today is called “the best smile in Hollywood.”

Moreover, the young schoolgirl was skinny, and that was a reason to be teased too. Therefore, she dreamed of gaining some weight, quietly hating her appearance. But, despite everything, Julia Roberts became one of the most successful actresses in Hollywood.

 Jessica Alba

The girl was a very delicate child. She often missed school for valid reasons and, because of this, she fell behind. As a result, she was nicknamed “dumbass.” Jessica Alba was also clumsy, ugly, and not stylish.

Now, Jessica is one of the richest businesswomen but, in her childhood, there was no money for good clothes. The schoolgirl suffered and, to avoid bullying, she hid during breaks in the school nurse's office. There, she also ate her lunch, which her mother prepared for her.

 Kevin-Jonas Brothers

The Jonas Brothers is a pop group, which won the 2019 MTV Video Music Awards for Best Pop Video of the Year. But few people know that the eldest of the group, Kevin, experienced bullying at school.

He was bullied because of his strange hairstyle. As a result, Kevin began to hate himself and his hair. But an audition helped him to cope with the problem because he became a member of a popular trio.

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Bullying at school - who gets bullied and why

So what is bullying? According to the definition from Wikipedia “Bullying is the use of force, coercion, or threat, to abuse, aggressively dominate or intimidate. The behavior is often repeated and habitual.” And school bullying is a type of bullying, that occurs in any educational setting. During bullying, the victim is unable to defend himself from attacks, and this is how bullying differs from a conflict, where the forces of the parties are approximately equal. And while conflict is a one-off incident that can also be quite violent, bullying is long-term and deliberate violence that the victim cannot stop without assistance.

There are two main forms of bullying: psychological and physical.

The psychological form of bullying is threats, ridicules, defamation, etc.

The physical form is usually pushes, beatings, other violent actions, breakages, etc.

The most common victims of bullying at school are:

D students

straight A students

teacher's pets

physically weak pupils

children overprotected by parents

sneaks

teachers’ children

wonder children

But in fact, anyone can become a victim. It does not depend on the social status of the family, nationality, religious preferences, appearance or health problems.

[stopbullyingatschools]

Welcome to my blog!

Hello (or «Privet» in Russian)! My name is Margarita Kornilova. This page was created as a project to demand social change and here I am going to advocate for “Stop Bullying at Schools” project.

Why have I decided to choose this topic and bring awareness to this problem?

Bullying is a relatively new term. When I went to school, there was no such thing, although bullying itself was. There were different pupils in my class at school: rich and poor, strong and weak, tall and short. Everyone was different. And some of them were bullied by classmates or by older pupils. According to statistics, 52% of Russians experienced bullying in schools.

So this blog is devoted to the social problem of bullying at schools and here I will give some useful information about dealing with bullying, prevention and more.

Stay safe!