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Taking active steps to get over people pleasing is so difficult and the craziest part is everytime you take a small step towards being yourself and not trying to please someone, it feels like you are doing something wrong. Changing your thought pattern, feeling safe in making decisions that make YOU happy are surprisingly not easy. At the end, all of this hardwork also has no reward if you don't prioritize your inner happiness. Over the last couple months I've lost a lot of friendships. Two friends who I was especially very close to and cared about a lot despite knowing that they a) took me for granted or b) kept expecting so much from me that nothing was ever enough. When I chose to consciously step away from these friendships rather than reflecting on what they might have done wrong I was blamed for not speaking up about my discomforts sooner. When things are coming to an end and extreme decisions are being made, people will question you why you haven't taken the preventative measures earlier, why did you not confront, is it really worth to lose a friendship, aren't you being too harsh, where is this coming from, nothing really happened so why now suddenly? And all I can say is that it took me a while to realize that my mere feelings of discontent are enough to step away from people and it doesn't have to make sense to anyone else as long as it makes sense to me. Time is precious but so is my energy. After realizing that life isn't supposed to be so hard and friendships don't have to be so demanding and just being yourself is enough, you will realize how much low quality shit you are putting up with because you called yourself "dramatic" instead of honoring your emotions. Society tells us to adapt and be positive, stop dwelling on the negative so much. But the real truth is, negativity is as important as positivity. I'm grateful for these people that have come into my life and showed me that my self-worth was so low that I couldn't step away from people that didn't support me. So now I've decided to start over, build trust with myself, stopped dismissing my emotions and start creating those boundaries. At the end of the day, YOU are the prize and the value of it will remain high when you start valuing yourself and keep those around that also value you. No one outside of yourself will determine who you are except for your behaviors. So what & who are you willing to put up with?

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hello i've made a come back! it's been a while and I'm in my first year of post grad. Life has taken interesting turns and so much has changed in the last few months. I've lost a lot of friendships, dealt with a lot of loneliness, and the real life has hit me like a truck. But at the same time, I've reached a lot of life milestones, have a stable income and have started taking the steps to just focus on myself. I feel like I'm in a sort of transition period where everything feels lonely but I don't have enough energy to reach out to new people. I don't know where I'm headed or what my next goals should be. I feel on track but also extremely behind at the same time. So welcome to adulthood I guess!

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life after you realize your worth is quite peaceful huh

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Important question: no matter how embarrassing the answer is, tag or comment with the first song you can remember really liking as a little kid. The one you tried to listen to as much as possible and thought was really profound. Bonus points if you say how old you were.

i’ll start. the song “i talk to the wind” by king crimson was my favourite song when i was 7 years old … I thought it was so Moving. and it still slaps

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this is so insanely funny exo is like. that scene in the simpsons where homer gets air lifted out of a cliff and he gets hit every possible way on his way out. this group lost three members in spectacular fashion one after the other.. literally suing their way out of a contract in the middle of a fucking tour. they truly got the shit beat out of them and yet they keep somehow defying expectations and coming back? people were crying and screaming outside of sm bc one of them had a wife and a baby and guess what he did? he went out and had a second baby. no one has seen more than half the group in the same room in years. at one point there was only three members and then it was literally just kai. we don't know what jongdae looks like now. yixing just announced he's out on their 10th anniversary. you think another blow before the bell rings and they'll be done for but no they just spit another tooth out and get back up again out of pure fucking spite

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some things I did this summer:

- made new friends and put effort into reaching out to people back home

- went on first dates and met cool people and putting myself out there unapologetically

- confessed to a boy and got rejected (in front of his friends LOL) [it’s not as dramatic as it sounds, a great learning experience tho]

- moved across the country alone and spent about a month by myself

- went out a lot and made a lot of memories

- working for my first big girl job and actually getting paid and being a corporate worker

- improved my relationship with my parents and constantly stay in touch

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lmao over a year ago I made an excel sheet with all the qualities I want in a guy. And now i’m friends with a guy who literally matches like 90% of the criteria??? what is going on??? 

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hiiii i hope you remember me otherwise this will be awkward lol i just wanted to check in on ya! how are you doing??

Hi b!! I do remember you!! Thank you for checking on me! I'm doing well! How have you been doing? I have stopped listening to kpop entirely and have been out of the loop recently so i haven't been on here that often

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an alumni from my school told me something that really stuck with me so i thought i would share it with any of my followers who are also students. she said “try to get good grades, but make it the least impressive thing about you.” soft skills are just as important! practice empathy, leadership, and communication! have hobbies and find new things that you’re good at!! know what your values are and how you act on them!! these things are so important 🌱

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lmao over a year ago I made an excel sheet with all the qualities I want in a guy. And now i’m friends with a guy who literally matches like 90% of the criteria??? what is going on??? 

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i be like “i don’t really use social media” and then still have tumblr….it’s not even a social media it’s just screaming into the void with a bunch of pretty strangers

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lmao over a year ago I made an excel sheet with all the qualities I want in a guy. And now i’m friends with a guy who literally matches like 90% of the criteria??? what is going on??? 

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Dear body, I'm sorry for all the harm I've put you through. I'm sorry for not caring for you as I should have and for taking for granted how you carry me through life.

I'm sorry I never thought you were good enough.

Dear body, you are good. You are enough.

I (will learn to) love you.

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Jane Austen - "Sense and Sensibility"

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last final of 2021 ahhhh the stress is real

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why play a sport when you can play yourself

ya girl in trenches