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*finally notices the painting in the background* yes

*lute playing intensifies*🧵🍂

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You pull this look OFF like dammm b all birth of Venus up in here

*lute playing intensifies*🧵🍂

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Cutting off a long-term abuser is the wildest thing because some days you don’t want anything to do with them and you wish you had never met them and other days you miss them in the way you miss an old best friend and you hope they’re doing well. Plus the whole time deep down you know you just hope they’re becoming a better person so that they never treat another person the way they treated you.

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My dad did this when I was in high school. Called Benedict Cumberbatch Becky. No last name. Just Becky.

Dorky family members are adorable #EthicalMemes

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Never change your boundaries just because someone got angry because of them. You should not make yourself uncomfortable at somebody else's expense. You are right to protect yourself and your feelings.

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TW: Animal death, cruelty

Sometimes I have to draw comics to cope with things. I read about this a while ago and it still breaks my heart. They smashed her eggs with a brick and she died of grief. The only message I have here is don’t be cruel.

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Learning that BPD could have roots in physical brain abnormalities makes me feel funny. I don't know a lot about psychology or personality disorders but it seems weird to call something a personality disorder when it could be more of a problem with brain development. I'm trying so hard to understand my diagnosis because it's finally something that I feel fits me but I feel like it just has me confused.

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What Native people say about the use of sage: you can use sage, but you cannot smudge as nothing you are doing (waving sage around) is actually smudging. Smudging is a ceremony and you are, we promise, not smudging. Please buy sage from either us, or someone who sources the sage from us. White sage may not be considered endangered by the US government but corperate sourcing is making it difficult for us to source sage for our own religious purposes. Let alone to sell it.

What white people hear: never use sage ever, don’t ever buy it, don’t own it, don’t even look at it.

Look, y’all. There’s a couple of facets to my talk today.

1) Yes! You can buy sage! You really, truly can! Buy it from either native sellers (go to a powwow! Eat our food, buy our stuff, watch some dancing!) Or buy it from a seller who sources the sage from native people. Pick one. And no, buying it from 5 Below doesn’t count.

2) you CANNOT smudge. This isn’t just you “shouldn’t”— this is a YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF SMUDGING. Waving a sage stick around your doorways IS NOT SMUDGING. It is smoke clensing. Smudging, depending on the tradition and tribe, could easily have dancing and drums involved. You, as a white person, do not have the cultural BACKGROUND to even know how it works. At all. Period.

3) please, for FUCKS SAKE, stop making posts here on tumblr where you tell other white people about cultural appropriation and what they can and cannot do. Please stop, your license has been revoked because none of you bother to get the facts right. We native people are FULLY CAPABLE OF DOING IT OURSELVES. Consider instead: a) reblogging our posts where we talk about it! We’re here! We have made posts!! b) Making a post that states what we said and then LINKS BACK TO US. Screenshot with a link if you must. Stop centering your own voices in these conversations. You are already centered in everything, stop centering yourselves in a native space.

I’m tired of this nonsense, y’all.

Thanks for coming to my TedTalk ™

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Today I'll start counting calories with MyFitnessPal and keep track of all exercises I do. Soon I will start posting booty gains and hopefully I can become healthier physically and eventually healthier mentally and emotionally as well. Later on today I'll do some upper body workouts, as I tend to focus on my legs.

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Still preparing myself to move back in with J. It'd only be temporary, but it is still going to be a challenge. I love him even though he hurt me mentally, emotionally, and physically. I wish at times that I didn't love him, as it would make healing from the abuse easier. My recent diagnosis of borderline personality disorder helps me realize my own actions in the relationship as well. I hope we both heal.

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Getting help for your mental illness can be discouraging when you hear that you will still have bad days, but learning those coping skills and getting a good support system is so important.

Yes, it will rain again, but the next time it does, you’ll have an umbrella.

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Be a bad bitch with a warm heart. It's not cute to be rude and disrespectful. You can be confident, have no tolerance for insults and still be gentle and kind to people who deserve it. This is the dream combination that needs to be mastered.