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Am I the only person who thinks the smallest little argument will ruin my relationship and that my boyfriend will break up with me because of it?

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Reblog if you're bisexual and sleepy

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When you’re really upset and angry and you think everything is just going really bad but no it’s just your period…

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This definitely happened one time or another

Maddy: Is there a word that’s a mix between angry and sad?

Shannon: Malcontended, disgruntled, miserable, desolated...

Tom: Smad

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My mind is alive with thoughts, thought so jumbled that sorting through them seems nearly impossible. I have so many things to say but my mouth won’t move to form a sentence... I can’t tell you what I’m thinking, I can say these things to you. I’m sorry but I can’t handle being told that I’m wrong, not when i know I’m right. If you won’t listen, then I won’t speak.

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Seriously, Wolfblood is absolutely amazing. If you haven’t seen it, check it out!

Reasons why you should watch WolfBlood

Not only does it have wolves

But wolves that can have fun with it and act like puppies

It has…

Fierce girls

And shy girls

Girls that do well in school

And girls that don’t do well in school

Sporty boys

And artistic boys

Boys with tempers

And supportive boys

Girl friendships

And boy friendships

And girls and boys being friends with each other

Girls being protective of boys

And girls being protective of girls

Boys being protective of girls

And boys being protective of boys

Girls being emotionally vulnerable with boys

And boys being emotionally vulnerable with girls

Girls being emotionally vulnerable with girls

And boys being emotionally vulnerable with boys

Girls talking about their problems with other girls

And girls talking about their problems with boys

Boys talking about their problems with other boys

And boys talking about their problems with girls

A lot of physical affection

Boys having female friends, despite their crush’s jealousy, without it interfering with their relationship with their crush

Girls that can be friends with their rivals

Girls that are not responsible for the feelings of their guy friends

Teenagers that act like teenagers regardless of how mature they are otherwise

Teachers that care about the emotional and physical well-being of their students

… And that actually do things to support that duty of care

It has great relationships and an awesome ensemble. I absolutely adore the canon romances. It is very worth checking out.

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I love my parents, I really do. Many kids do. They care for us, raise us, pay for our education and our food and our things. They do a lot for us. And I understand that there are also a lot of kids who can’t say that their parents do that, I understand that some kids have different childhoods. 

I also understand that at some point or another, all kids (well, at least most kids) will hate their parents. Whether it’s because they couldn’t go to the party or they get punished for the most stupid things, at some point, a child will hate their parents (or parent/guardian). 

Hating your parents for not getting that one thing that you wanted or for being made to eat your peas is normal, just another part of childhood. You know what’s not normal (or at least, shouldn’t be normal)? Hating your parents because you don’t feel that you can express yourself or simply be human around them is not normal, nor should it be considered normal.

Firstly, if a child forgets to do that chore (like unpack the dishwasher or vacuum or put out their washing), it shouldn’t be the end of the world to the parent. It’s not like unpacking the dishwasher is so important that a child should be yelled at or made to feel guilty. Because guess what, forgetting things is human. Parents forget things all the time and they would never expect that they be punished for that because they understand that when they forget, it was an accident, something that wasn’t meant to happen but did, something that just needs to be moved on from.

So why don’t children get that luxury?

Why is it OK for an adult to yell at children but not OK for children to defend themselves or speak back? Isn’t that how debates and basic conversations work?

Why is it that children are made to feel bad or ashamed about things that make them human? Is that what good parenting really looks like?

Secondly, why do parents feel the need to shut down any critics against their parenting made by their children. I can understand other parties looking in from the outside as being rude because they don’t know the story, but when it’s the child that is saying that this thing you do hurts me and you shut them down for it, that is being rude and inconsiderate to your child’s feelings and opinions. 

And let’s say that your child develops a mental illness. You’ve already shut them down before, so why would they even want to come to you about their illness? And if they do, let’s day you ask what you can do to help. The last time they tried to ask you to stop doing something that was damaging, you shut them down for it. So that just won’t be happening again.

Thirdly, I can also safely say that some parents don’t respect their children’s privacy or wishes. Keep that door open or simply not even knocking. A child’s room is their space. If a parent is barging in, then of course the child won’t feel safe. If a parent won’t respect the safe place that children create for themselves, then the children won’t want to spend time with their parents because they are invasive and judgemental and don’t encourage their children to open up and share their thoughts, feelings and opinions. 

Finally, it’s frustrating to see children’s feelings and fears blatantly disregarded by parents. If a child is scared of doing something (and I can’t believe this has to be said) don’t make them do it. Speaking from personal experience, being forced to do something that you really don’t want to do is discouraging and can teach that your no doesn’t actually mean no. 

I’m not trying to say that all parents do this or that parents who do any of these things are bad parents. I understand that there are so many things happening in the background and as someone who isn’t a parent, I’m not the most qualified person to talk about parenting styles and methods. But I am a teenager who has experienced all of the above to some degree or extent and I can say with absolute certainly that children are easily influenced by their parents and that they are easily put off from their parents and having good and real relationships with them. Personally, my relationship with my own parents feels broken and I know for a fact that there are a multitude of things that they will never know about me that they probably should. It doesn’t mean that my parents are bad people or parents, only that there is broken communication that needs to be worked on.

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LGBTQI+ and the basic right to marry who you love

For some reason, LGBTQI+ people getting married still ticks people off. But why should it? Like, really, why should it? Being able to marry who you love is considered a basic human right, yet for some reason when it comes to GBTQI+ people getting married, it’s suddenly too controversial (disclaimer: I don’t mean that it’s controversial to everyone, just some people who clearly like to get overly involved in the lives and apparently the rights of other people, particularly minority groups). But rights are meant to be universal, as in, they apply to everyone, not just who you thinks deserves them. Some key points on rights is that they should be universal, inherent, and inalienable, meaning that you can’t give them up or have them taken away. So, it should be a persons right to get married, no matter who they are, how they identify or the people they love. 

And that’s where we get to the Bible and people using that to defend their homophobic views. For those wondering, the Bible was written around 1200 and 165 BC, meaning it’s not really up-to-date. But no, keep using that passage that says men shall not lie with men as they will with women to excuse your outdated beliefs and to push your own agenda. And just in case you were wondering, no, you do not follow the Bible and all it’s verses, because if you did, you wouldn’t only be fighting gay people, you would also be fighting people who wear mixed fabrics (which I’m guessing you also do). You would also advocate for women who are raped to marry their rapist, because guess what, that’s something the Bible tells you to do. But, and I might be wrong (but I high doubt it) you don’t do that, primarily because that doesn’t suit you agenda. Furthermore, that verse supposedly about gay people being sentenced to hell might not even be able gay people. That’s because the verse might actually translate to say the men shall not lie with boys as they would with women as pedophilia is believed to be a common occurrence in the time the Bible was written.

But aside from that, there are some principles that should be upheld in politics, such as politics and religion being seperate. This means that religions should influence how politics works, and that politics should only be influenced by the wills of the people. Which means any argument to stop gay marriage that involves the Bible saying it’s a sin shouldn’t be accepted. 

So, for anyone still wondering, marriage should be a basic right in which all people are entitled to. But no, please, keep getting involved in other peoples lives because clearly, you won’t listen to me.

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Feminism, A History

Australia

In the late 19th century, women began to fight for their right to vote. Known as the Women’s Suffrage, this movement is often thought of as the beginning of modern day feminism. It was in 1882 that Rose Scott began to hold weekly meeting in her home where she soon became well known by politicians, judges, philanthropists, writers and poets. Ste helped to found the Women's Literary Society in 1889 which would later become the Womanhood Suffrage League in 1891.

It was after Federation that Australia became the second country to give women the vote in federal elections

Rose Scott: Australian Women’s Rights activists.

1847 - 1925 (Commonwealth Franchise Act 1902) and state elections were soon to follow (New South Wales 1902, Tasmania 1903, Queensland 1905 and Victoria 1908) and by 1911, all states had given women over the age of 21 the vote.

An Australian-Irish woman, Mary Lee was involved in raising the age of consent of girls in Australian from 13 to 16 since 1883 and helped to found The Working Women's Trades Union and co-founded the South Australian Women's Suffragette League.

Edith Cowan was the fist women to be elected into an Australian Parliament in 1920 and this was followed by Enid Lyons and Dorothy Tangney in 1943.

During WW||, Australia began to encourage women into the workforce to replace the men who had left to fight in the war, which led to the formation of Australian Women's Land Army. However, after the war had ended, there was a push for the return of normal life.

The second wave of feminism in Australia began in the 1960s which confronted discrimination and sexual harassment in the workplace. Women also began to fight for sexual freedom. It was also during this period that Aboriginal women’s rights became more prominent.

The feminist movement began moving towards oppressive social conditions and feminist authors are credited with stimulating the movement at the time. There were two sides of the feminist movement at this time, one which stated that men had no role in women’s liberation and the other (which was considered more mainstream) sought to encourage change within the existing structures.

Marital rape was criminalised in New South Wales in 1981, followed by other states from 1985 to 1992.

From 2008 to 2014, Quentin Bryce was the first woman to hold the position of Governer- General and in 2010 to 2013 Julia Gillard became the first female Prime Minister. In 2012 she famously directed a speech at opposition leader Tony Abbott. The speech is named The Misogyny Speech (and is linked here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SOPsxpMzYw4).

And while women now have the vote in Australia, many argue that there is still far to go with reoccurring sexism, sexual harassment and gender based violence still prominent in society.

“This is the first occasion on which a woman has addressed this House. For that reason, it’s an occasion which for every woman in the commonwealth marks in some degree a turning point in history.”

- Enid Lyons, First woman elected to the House of Representatives (1897-1981)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women%27s_suffrage_in_Australia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminism_in_Australia#1800_to_1920