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portrait of god

(highly inspired by the short horror film of the same title by dylan clark on youtube)

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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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I feel like many people have a fundamental misconception of what unreliable narrator means. It's simply a narrative vehicle not a character flaw, a sign that the character is a bad person. There are also many different types of unreliable narrators in fiction. Being an unreliable narrator doesn't necessarily mean that the character is 'wrong', it definitely doesn't mean that they're wrong about everything even if some aspects in their story are inaccurate, and only some unreliable narrators actively and consciously lie. Stories that have unreliable narrators also tend to deal with perception and memory and they often don't even have one objective truth, just different versions. It reflects real life where we know human memory is highly unreliable and vague and people can interpret same events very differently

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“every time i see this celebrity they look younger!” cool, it’s plastic surgery

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If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

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Suddenly having weird heart stuff outta nowhere. Do we actually do a checkup or can we just assume it's the constant anxiety stress or crushing loneliness

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This post reminded me of the design solution I have due in a bit. Color studies my beloathed

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it’s 2028. trump is dead. elon is dead. zuckerberg is dead bezos is dead they’re all dead

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hnnngggg I need a burger...oughh I need the burger dearly.......someone please.. I'm american I require at least one borgit every month or else I start getting the Burger Shakes

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i think women should leave their husbands

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today is march 16th which is the start of homura’s month and a half timeloop. on april 30th when she fails to defeat walpurgisnacht and save madoka she will return to this day to start over.